Rupert's Nursery Tour // Jessie & Claud [AD] [CC]

[@impishDullahan]

Little dude has more clothes than I do and he's only been on this earth since 2 laundry cycles ago.

[@mcwjes]

I really like the idea of measuring time by laundry cycles! Brilliant!

[@anjakeller6612]

Mine had that too because they puked everywhere every 5 seconds, their laindry cycles lasted 3 days 😂

[@ms_ch]

HAUAHUAHAHAHA THE TIME COUNT Laundry cycles for babies are like 2~3 days tops. The relativity of time!

[@denisecunha7326]

Same lol but it's Jessica's kid. I just wouldn't expect it to be different

[@Luubelaar]

@@anjakeller6612 - I remember this stage well. My kid was a puker. Every piece of his clothing and most of mine, had been puked (or pooped) on by the time he was a few weeks old.

[@myahodson8742]

“I was aiming for straight but it got gayer and gayer” - Jessica, but also me throughout my teenage years

[@justk4929]

I read all of that in Jessica’s voice!

[@VintageRose_05]

Me too.... Still getting gayer

[@carameldare]

My life story as a bisexual who didn't realize it until 22. When i was like OH.

[@austenmidland7034]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@augustviolin]

lmaooo so true ... just @ me next time 🤦‍♀️

[@TheItGirlQ]

I feel like those bamboo diapers not being called “bumboo” was a missed opportunity 😂

[@whyamigae9666]

Okay, I’m a business student and I love making funny puns with products, especially when my lecturer asks us to make a business up so we can use it for a lesson or two. Is there a market for pun products like “bumboo”? If there is I will continuously find marketing things and make puns out of them. Plus I’m curious. A recent one is about juice and it said “say goodbye to juice” on the way home I turned to my mam and said “and say hello to diarrhoea” but yeh, I’m a dirty minded tramp, I’m proud, thank you.

[@scofieldvictoria]

@@whyamigae9666 There’s always room for more puns in business

[@hamilcross]

@@whyamigae9666 …. okay granny time for your nap

[@jackriver8385]

@@whyamigae9666 I usually use cloth diapers and a lot of those have puns in them, it's great!

[@lxlamayw]

bumboo is a bamboo toilet paper roll

[@annaannarasumanara4444]

Honestly, I'm so happy just to see a gay couple that doesn't have to hide their relationships and can have a baby together, this is such a beautiful thing that all couples in the world should be able to do. I really hope that someday my gay friends and all gay people in my country will have this right.

[@elianna_ecc]

[@hamilcross]

anna said gay rights!!!! lol but you’re right it’s very refreshing to see

[@damnthatscrazy4426]

I didn’t even know she was gay

[@elianna_ecc]

@@damnthatscrazy4426 the video is her and her wife...

[@damnthatscrazy4426]

@@elianna_ecc no shit Sherlock. I was just saying I didn’t know since I usually come and go with her content

[@andie83]

I love the floor mattress! A friend of mine didn't bother with a toddler bed, just got a full single mattress and went from cot to mattress on the floor, it was genius! Kiddo didn't hurt himself if he rolled out and it was low enough for him to get in and out himself without any struggle, plus enough room for an adult to lay with him and read at night without the adult being squished in. It was perfect!

[@TheCowbiscuit]

I'd never thought of it before but it makes so much sense, especially as the mattress can be used for when they grow up and need a bed

[@andie83]

@@TheCowbiscuit That was their thinking, not to bother with a toddler bed for a year or so and go straight to full single. He has a frame now he's older. It was a great kid party trampoline for a while though 🤣

[@Sparrow-lh9qk]

We were planning on being moved out of our 2 bedroom by now back when I got pregnant. Then Covid hit and jobs were lost, so that's reset by a couple years. So we got a bunk bed for our daughter's room. Baby's a year old now. He's sleeping in our room with us until he climbs out of the crib, then he's moving into the lower bunk (totally legal in my state for opposite sex siblings to share a room) with those protector things so he doesn't roll out. Not ideal, but best we can do until we have a savings and job history again.

[@Becbullaney]

@@Sparrow-lh9qk are there states where thats not legal???

[@Sparrow-lh9qk]

@@Becbullaney yup. It's WEIRD to me. As long as everyone has their own bed, it shouldn't matter. But in a mom group I was a part of a few years ago, if CPS was involved (say the angry ex reported them for something they KNEW was untrue just to mess with them, even), they'd make the parent(s) either get a bigger apartment that they couldn't afford because they were experiencing financial hardship, or give up their room and move their bed to the living room so each opposite sex siblings would have their own room. And these were little kids, too, not teenagers. It's reportable, too, so if the teachers at school found out the kids share a room and are of opposite sexes, they're apparently supposed to report the family. In my state, so long as each kid has their own bed and everyone is comfortable with the arrangement, there's no issue, even if you have four kids sharing a room with two bunk beds. We understand things happen and the ideal situation isn't always possible.

[@ArtemisScribe]

7:07 Yes Jessica you *do* have baby hormones! Recent studies have show that parents who don't experience pregnancy do still experience significant changes to their hormones and brain pattern activity if they are heavily involved with baby's care! This is found consistently regardless of gender or genetic relation to the child! The only thing that matters is that they are involved with baby!

[@rosalielangmod6244]

I definitely had baby hormones whenever I held a baby, both before and after I had my own bubs.

[@carelsby]

Thats one of the things I love about human biology! I also like how a lot of hospitals are allowing skin-to-skin contact with the non-birthing parent right after the birth as well as the birthing parent. I think its just amazing how connected we can be to our babies!

[@rosalielangmod6244]

@@carelsby Yeah, we had our third in a birthing center and hubby was shocked to be advised to do skin to skin with the baby. He was like, "Wait, I thought that was just for mamas." lol

[@ArtemisScribe]

@@rosalielangmod6244 I know three dads who've actually got to do skin to skin before mum this year. They're getting real hot on making sure the non-carrying parent is as involved as possible.

[@SteviiLove]

Wow! Human bodies are so remarkable!

[@kaylynnsadler8783]

Like the room is cool and all, but can we talk about how absolutely thrilled Jess is? This is so cute.

[@perpetuallyconfused6608]

Right? Her excitement was infectious and adorable

[@andrea_kate_]

like she's usually cheery and bubbly but this is next level. I'm so happy for her and Claudia. And jealous of Rupert for having two such amazing parents.

[@albuszx]

This video is 20 minutes of Jess being "guys my dreams came true!!!!!" so lovely and uplifting

[@daniellepaquin1527]

Yes, I noticed too. She's positivity glowing and it's making my day for real! Aww I'm so happy for you both. Y'all are such great mommies already. ❤️❤️❤️

[@rachaelnicholson1811]

yesss she was like a kid in a candy shop bless her it's so cute

[@emilybarclay8831]

I love when parents with a young baby make vids with the baby in it because they choose the most random points to interject with their baby opinions and I adore it

[@livsterlove5681]

Please post some of these famous Rupert facial expressions. And maybe a video about the developmental Montessori playtime. I’m really curious.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

@@livsterlove5681 I’m fairly sure they’ve decided not to put Rupert’s face on the internet. The back of his head is fine, but they’re keeping his face out of all videos and pictures.

[@kathleenlajeunesse1694]

@@katherinemorelle7115 not that they don’t want to show the world their beautiful child, but because they chose to wait until he’s old enough to actually consent to show his face

[@sarakrauss2407]

Rupert's well timed commentary is the sweetest thing I've heard. Thank you for sharing your adorable little boy with us!!

[@Brittanni]

"He's not in the room and I miss him" is the cutest thing

[@livevikarisly]

Nothing in my entire life has ever been as organized as that cupboard.

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

I feel that, painfully so

[@logo9470]

Oh my gosh…Yes!

[@missserenity1090]

I was like “Can I have her organization skills and her motivation to actually do it?”

[@conlon4332]

Yes! Exactly the same for me! I want a cupboard like that!

[@abib6532]

Ruperts little baby sounds filled me with pure joy, it’s the best sound ever

[@nonniperkl6273]

Same and I hate kids. Or maybe they are cool ones I get my drives licence and don’t use the bus anymore

[@HOHNancy]

Same 🙂

[@seekingabsolution1907]

Mmmmmh very good sounds, they tell me there is still learning to be done and life to be lived.

[@TheRenwmn]

After watching the video I had to go back and find when he was really vocal again. For those also searching it is 1:36 - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYCZY3R6iq2nnrc

[@fish-fingers_and_custard7685]

Sign songs!!! I'm a Speech Therapy student and recently found out that when babies learn sign from birth, they babble in sign language!! So cute :)

[@junkmalme]

My husband and I are both hearing, but made the choice to teach our children signs from birth in hopes they could communicate before speech developed. It helped so much, and decreased some of the frustration of being a small one without language! It was especially useful with our autistic son whose speech was delayed. Also, it's the cutest to see baby babble signs.

[@fish-fingers_and_custard7685]

@@junkmalme that's so interesting! Wishing you and your family the best :)

[@catdragon2584]

@@junkmalme my brother’s family and my best friend’s family did the same thing when they had their babies! It’s both adorable and incredibly helpful for communication!

[@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531]

My step brother’s daughter learned to sign before she started talking for a short time they were worried because she refused to speak or vocalize and preferred to sign. But she just didn’t like noise and was a quiet baby / kid.

[@junkmalme]

@@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531 I have a friend with a toddler in a similar situation. His ST has determined he will start talking when it suits him. :)

[@04a-q19]

I want to let you know that you three are such an inspiration and as a young lesbian you really give me hope for my future and make me feel so accepted

[@saragarofano6471]

!

[@iloveusomuchitsnotevenfunn8438]

Same!!

[@ufoesferico1050]

Same💕

[@teganholden9678]

Same

[@sarahmorley1031]

❤

[@noush3892]

Petition for Jessica to make a full video about how much she likes the changing table

[@denisecunha7326]

Yess. I would definitely watch it!

[@SYH653]

£400 off?! Good gravy, how much was it to begin with?!

[@FarAway5319]

Claudia “Jessica can’t move her eyebrows because they’re not real and she has Botox in her face.” Me: 😂😂😂😭😭

[@bibliophilecb]

It’s the same energy as that time Claudia did Jessica’s makeup and kept roasting her bone structure. I love their good-natured teasing so much 🥰😂

[@erinhowett3630]

As an American, can confirm nursery means the same thing here. It's also a place you can buy plants!

[@itme999]

Am also American and would understand that use of "nursery" for a daycare/nursery school but would probably just say "daycare"

[@Emily_J]

Yeah same, I'm in the upper midwest and up here nursery means either your baby's room or a place to buy plants and trees. A childcare place would be a daycare.

[@KikyoNiwa7]

Yes! But I think nursery is what we call it before baby is sleeping overnight in it? I'm Latina and my husband is white. My daughter's paternal grandmother called it a nursery until we switched her to sleeping in the room. Then it was the baby's room. Someone tell me if they experienced/did this too!

[@beatm6948]

@@itme999 I'd interpret nursery as like newborns till 2 years old, and daycare as Pre-K children

[@toadflaxflower]

Confirmed here, from the midwest

[@HeyRowanEllis]

the cupboard is ICONIC 😭

[@graceygal2664]

Of course rowan is here

[@derkarlotto]

KZbin is a village...

[@Jess-3]

Totally agree! It’s Jessica written all over in there🥺 I love it😍😍

[@mailyak442]

ROWAN?! 😍

[@katherinemorelle7115]

It’s most definitely what I would call “organisation porn”. So satisfying!

[@lisabscreativeworld9238]

Is it even possible that Claud is more beautiful than ever?? Motherhood suits you both!

[@OftenEllinor]

I've noticed how lovely my friends and such look after having their babies. Like, motherhood just can make someone looks so beautiful! Even if they don't feel beautiful and even if they're not all made up, they're just glowing.

[@_hunnybe]

Someone named Pandora gave you a box?! Couldn't be more perfect

[@maeikaa4427]

Especially with Jessica obviously being a Disney Princess, whatever curse Pandora's box had would be instantly cancelled :)

[@undercoverfangirl5491]

It’s be even more perfect if Pandora had given them a jar.

[@MollyWAnne]

I love that you mentioned how noisy newborns are when they sleep. No one told me that, and I was up all the time checking on my daughter to make sure her noises were "normal." Will remember that for next time around.

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Not to the same level as human parenting because I'm too young and unprepared to be one, but I felt that thing with my family's first ever kitten in a decade+ long of just dogs. I wasn't sure about the meaning of his response so I embarrassingly stress-sleep myself and would bug about my parents to go to the vet or something.

[@alton791]

& when they start moving around in the bed while sleeping with others (adults), it’s foot in the eye, fist in the mouth, sleeping sideways, kicking or punching the kidneys. Once they start moving in their sleep, it seems like they don’t stop.

[@Dreymasmith]

Everyone has advice, all the time. Go with your instincts, he's your baby and it's your lives. You will know him best, if you have concerns don't let anyone brush them off, if you think he's fine don't let anyone panic you. Congratulations to you both.

[@mklaebel]

This. I always just say to trust your gut. You know yourself and your baby best.

[@5Seed]

My doctor always said that 'you' (mum or dad) spend 24 hours a day with your baby and you know your baby way more than anyone else. Trust yourself.

[@xxxxblackorcidxxxx]

This!!! As a mum the only thing i can offer advice wise is, don't listen to all the advice and suggestions of other parents. Every baby is different and you know your baby best. Go with your guts and don't let anyone brush your worries off or tell you something is off, wrong or odd about your baby if you know its not the case. Have confidence in your instincts they will always steer you true. Congratulations on your beautiful bundle of joy! 🥰

[@bridgetthewench]

For my mom, it started with the nurses in the hospital. They got impatient when she waited until I was sleeping so she could eat slowly, and they told her "you'll have to learn to eat faster than that!" She had it figured out pretty well and did not, in fact, need to learn how to eat faster.

[@Nick-dx2pt]

Heya! I read this article a long time ago and I find it really awesome and informative so if anyone here wants to know if maternal instinct is only for mother's then please read this article :) ♥️ www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/mothers-day-2018-maternal-instinct-oxytocin-babies-science?cmpid=int_org=ngp::int_mc=website::int_src=ngp::int_cmp=amp::int_add=amp_readtherest

[@rae6390]

My parents neglected/abused me so I grew up with the "understanding" that children are nothing more than a burden, and not at all a source of joy. Seeing you put so much care, thought, and attention into your baby has been so healing ❤️

[@mcgonagallerys]

Same but in my case I get more depressed or jealous lol Or I think that I will never be able to have kids and take care of them well enough because of how my parents fucked me up

[@kaitlynkotter1111]

I’m so sorry you were not treated the way you deserved to be, you were never a burden children are a beautiful gift. Every child needs parents but not every parent deserves a child. I wish you much love on your journey to healing!❤️❤️

[@MissBee13]

oh god that’s awful. I’m a stranger, but you are loved.

[@gingersal8052]

Big virtual hug coming your way

[@theloneghost02]

Same but the thought of having kids fills me with so much anxiety 😅

[@birddogcroissant]

omg, Claudia's little rant about being overwhelmed by the number of toys made me feel SO SEEN.

[@A1exBOfficial]

Yes! I have the exact same thing with soft toys as her. Now nearly all mine are in a box because they didn't have a place in my new home :( and I don't want my baby's toys to get out of hand and then discarded.

[@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531]

I would feel bad when I had to make my bed I always felt bad for the two that would end up on the end of the line. I always debated who was emotionally the strongest and wouldn’t feel sad about being on the end but no matter how I thought about it I would feel bad for the two who were on the ends. Because in my mind they were going to get cold and think I didn’t like them.

[@nutkja]

SAME! I think this is a common phenomena for people our age who grew up in middle/upper-middle class families. Our parents grew up in lower class families and had very few toys as kids so getting their kids more toys was a bit of childhood wish fulfillment for them. And then the mass consumerism of the 80's-00's meant that we got lots and lots of relatively cheap toys. But we still loved all our toys and had a difficult time letting them go so we ended up hoarding them. My dad always calls us the "Toy Story Generation" because the movie made us feel guilty about getting rid of our toys.

[@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531]

@@nutkja hehe I didn’t see those movies until I was much older and didn’t have an attachment to my toys. But I did feel bad about all the toys that had gotten destroyed by my dogs I was really glad they weren’t alive. I was really only sentimental about my stuffed animals so I put my other toys through hell.

[@ankherin4360]

I know right ! Still today as an adult I have a BIG weakness with soft toys. I feel bad that I don't have room for all of them, and so afraid that they could get sad not having as many cuddles as the others ^^' I'd wish for my child to have a few but not too many, so that they're all very special without any guilt :D And maybe once he's an adult he'll complain that he was sad because he didn't have as many as he wishes XD

[@paradisefound3536]

I love that Rupert can watch this when he's all grown up and see how much his beautiful mums loved him from day 1.

[@nekkidnora]

Oh gooood, the unsolicited 'help'- my sister was breastfeeding at a bus stop, years ago, and some stranger swooped in, grabbed the baby blanket from the stroller and covered them- literally just placed it over my sister and the baby like this was a normal thing to do? My sister lost her temper pretty bad. Madness. I mean, cover if you want, but don't just... touch another woman's things/body/baby! Rupert having his own little puppy- my niece had a stuffed ferret, and I had a little pet rat finger puppet for my girls, and both were incredibly useful in teaching the kids to be gentle.

[@clareevans4229]

I would be so interested to hear about how you are managing your chronic fatigue with a newborn! I am terrified that I will just be useless with a newborn and sleepless nights!

[@phyllojoe5346]

Seconded! I know you have planned to do a response to your disabled parenting fears a year out, but a smaller video on what it was like to have a newborn with chronic fatigue would also be cool! Especially since I have heard that the first 3 months is its own beast with fatigue because baby doesn't have a circadian rhythm or a bigger stomach. On that note, you're already halfway through the hardest part of having an infant, so keep it up! You got this!

[@Rocklicker1991]

Thirded! This is the thing that terrifies me the most.

[@rosalyngummer6587]

I had newborn twins with chronic fatigue (it was miserable despite my efforts) and my favorite items that helped me the most were the Snoo (senses when they’re fussy or stirring and helps them return to sleep), the Baby Brezza (it brews formula on a set timer like a coffee pot), a mini fridge for extra bottles in the bedroom so I didn’t have to get out of bed, and also the Owlet monitor for peace of mind because I kept feeling scared they weren’t okay. Also meal prepping and buying ready made meals so I didn’t have to spend time cooking was a huge plus and probably the biggest thing is not being afraid to ask for help!

[@brendasnow8255]

@@rosalyngummer6587 And you can rent a Snoo.

[@rosalyngummer6587]

@@brendasnow8255 yes that’s what we did! We rented it for 6 months and it was very clean and in great condition, which we were worried about at first because my immune system is terrible.

[@b2h316]

To be fair to Jessica, if there were any Quaker parenting philosophy is they would basically be Montessori. It makes sense that it resonates with her so much because it treats children like whole humans not as inferior or incomplete

[@greatmarloes]

Preach! It always bothered me so much when adults didnt take anything I said seriously just because I was a child. No wonder I struggle with self expression

[@hjmclark]

Yes!

[@Lillith.]

I really liked Montessori because it's not as much an adult instructing a child on what to do as it is a child's experience with an adult guiding them to becoming adults. Dalton is another way to look at it, that's more of a problem solving approach and structure. I think both have their strengths and depending on the child one may be better than the other. Both are big on treating a child as a person instead of something less.

[@OddlyElly]

So good for growing little humans exploring the world to know they are just as much a person as an adult. I was homeschooled till I was 10yo and my family NEVER called children "children", if that makes sense?? We were always "small people" or "little humans." We were included in discussions about politics and world issues and encouraged to voice our opinions, too. Being taken seriously as a child and having my opinion valued no matter how much exposure to a topic I had was brilliant. We weren't taught to blindly listen to and believe "authority figures" like teachers without proof - which often led to my parents having to call or come into school to back us up when we called a teacher out for being wrong about something 🤣 critical thinking skills are essential life skills, not university level education

[@Lisa_Flowers]

Imagine getting a religious upbringing that values your agency and ability to critically think and sees you as a whole person instead of inferior and incomplete and wrong from birth. Cannot relate lmao. I'm glad this baby has these parents, and people raise their kids this way!

[@gayliljaehyun]

me: i don’t want children me when other lesbians have children: this is everything i’ve ever wanted

[@XSemperIdem5]

Yup. I have always known I never wanted children. I'm not even a kids type of person in general. But when I watched there journey to becoming pregnant, I literally cried when Jess did. And I'm so here for all the baby content. (Never thought I'd say that.)

[@navyblue9355]

I always thought I didn't want to get married and have kids, now I realize I just don't want to be physically pregnant or have a husband!

[@GreenGiant96]

@@navyblue9355 Same!

[@gingersal8052]

Same! I'm bi, and know for sure I wouldn't want to be pregnant. But I would absolutely consider having children in a relationship with a woman, if she'd want to carry them.

[@fallwitch]

We have three (lesbian couple) and it's been a dream. They are all off to Uni now. Just seems like yesterday they were in nappies.

[@CowTowniGirl]

My goodness, to everyone who is opposed to same sex adoption ecc. I recommend this video of obviously wonderful mothers whose baby is absolutely lucky. Heartfelt congratulations and all the best for you!!

[@ahhh4117]

People always have debates about the ethics of adopting vs surrogacy, when in reality its just cool people want to have kids at all edit: just realized you may mean something different. . . Do you mean LGBT folk as parents?

[@CowTowniGirl]

@@ahhh4117 ah yes! I was unaware there is a debate, I mean LGTBQ parenthood.

[@andreil1313]

@@ahhh4117 I’m not against surrogacy per se, but I can understand the issues that comes with it on an ethical level for example. About gay parents, there’s plenty of studies that states that they perfectly suited to be parents. So I don’t really understand how people can still have a problem with it.

[@alton791]

Because it’s not a “traditional couple” of a man & a woman or husband & wife. I don’t have to agree with another person’s lifestyle or life choices to know they’re either an adult or someone else’s child. Just like a nose (word choice intended), everyone has an opinion. I’m not in a position of authority, such as judge or politician, who am I to judge others?

[@xxxashx0]

@@andreil1313 homophobia

[@recoveringcatholic554]

As a disabled woman who wants to be a mom someday, I was hoping to see what you might do for accommodations in places like the nursery and I am not disappointed! This looks like it would be really helpful for me too, so thank you for showing us. Also, again, congratulations on having your little one and I'm glad all seem to be recovering/adjusting well!

[@Thelmageddon]

I would add that setting up a changing area on the floor or low to the floor can be useful. I'm not disabled, but still found handling wriggly babies during nappy changing high up from the floor was sometimes alarming! My first born managed to roll off the table aged 4m while I was trying to put her nappy in the bin. Had to visit hospital to get her head checked! (She was fine.)

[@recoveringcatholic554]

@@Thelmageddon oooooo nice! Thank you!

[@tarinacj03]

Talking about how how the floor model is more accessible to you is so important. A lot of people think Montessori is something that is expensive and only for a certain type of family but in reality it was a parenting style developed to be accessible to low income and disabled parents!

[@livemoller792]

Yes!! Maria Montessori’s ideas came from her experience educating disabled children! It really isn’t more economically inaccessible than other ways. At is core Montessori is about not underestimating children, and making their surroundings safe and calm!

[@MELLMAO]

As soon as my parents moved everything on the floor, it was so much easier for them and for me

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Yeah, in my country Montessori name drop has the reputation of being a rich kid/rich parent thing, and therefore most don't even bother to research them past their reputation because private schools basically claimed the term in their name even! We're actually barely maintaining middle class even though my sisters and I grew up in Catholic private schools from various cities (we moved a lot), my parents just was adamant about not going public. But I wish they discovered the Montessori concept, now it's too awkward to bring up discussion about my issues pertaining lack of structure or guide in life.

[@tarinacj03]

@@livemoller792 exactly! Allowing children to develop independence in a safe environment from an early age has no price tag! In fact most children in low income families or who have parents with disabilities are already learning a lot of these skills they just don't always have the ideal set up or language around it.

[@tarinacj03]

@@cheesecakelasagna Right! I'm in the US and the social double standard is wild too. If you attach the name Montessori to something not only does it increase the price but it also makes it seem more socially exceptional. Saying "We use a Montessori floor bed" is viewed way differently than "Its easier for us to just let the baby sleep on a mattress on the floor". I think Montessori methods need to be made so much more available to the people who could really benefit from it

[@DawnBurn]

I love Claudia's straight forward "BE NICE ABOUT THE NURSERY" and caretaking Jess through unsolicited advice.

[@omiai]

you know what, i'm not a child person. i've never been interested in kids, never wanted kids, but because Jess and Claud are just the most delightful, lovely couple, i've been really enjoying their journey and hearing about their little family

[@xzonia1]

Same. I'm very happy for them and appreciate them sharing their joy. :)

[@sarahfjohnson542]

Same same same! Kids are not for me, sometimes even my lil nephews stress me, but this lil fam is just sooo precious

[@Nick-dx2pt]

Heya! I read this article a long time ago and I find it really awesome and informative so if anyone here wants to know if maternal instinct is only for mother's then please read this article :) ♥️ www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/mothers-day-2018-maternal-instinct-oxytocin-babies-science?cmpid=int_org=ngp::int_mc=website::int_src=ngp::int_cmp=amp::int_add=amp_readtherest

[@MelinEvie]

Same for me

[@hannahkozlovic1715]

Depending on the context, “nursery” can mean a baby’s room, a daycare type thing, or a place where you can go buy plants. English is just.... wonderful

[@morgandiaz6822]

I love how soft Jessica's voice is vs her Laugh 😂

[@Struudeli]

Fun fact! Both parents do get a ton of good hormones when getting a baby, not just the pregnant person. So yep, Jessica is full on baby hormones!

[@amemelia]

@@hi-ve1cw i assume from sounds (in and out womb) and familiarity like smells and touch. Human body is fascinating

[@Struudeli]

@@hi-ve1cw You _know_ you are a parent. It's the amazing thing with sentient brains, knowing something is enough for it to affect you physically. Also touch, smell, noises and interaction. Hugging anyone releases hormones that make you feel good, but being close to your own child is very important for the development of the baby so our bodies have evolved to love the babies as the outcome for babies with a lot of interaction is the best one. It's amazingly interesting and involves biology, psychology and evolution. There's a great documentary series in Netflix (at least in Finland) called "Babies" that talks about research done about this.

[@nittygritty7034]

@@hi-ve1cw men have been known to lactate when their wives are pregnant. It's rare, though.

[@misscaptain5598]

@@Nick-dx2pt i mean... For father's it's paternal instinct, not maternal

[@Nakita_Jade]

@@hi-ve1cw it’s similar to how women sync their periods! Much like when a female animal has a baby the group will rush and even produce milk (obviously no where near mom) to help the mother. There’s a reason they say “it takes a village” hormones and brains can do some really cool things.

[@novelninja1843]

Winnie the Pooh has a friend that’s called Roo right? Kinda sounds like a short version of Rupert’s name. Maybe you can get him a kangaroo toy? That would be soo cute.

[@stacysimons1323]

Kanga the Kangaroo and her child was named Roo

[@novelninja1843]

@@stacysimons1323 yeah but Roo’s a kangaroo too right?

[@mydogeatspuke]

@@novelninja1843 yes the child of the kangaroo is also a kangaroo.

[@sonyafair2411]

Well.... a baby kangaroo is actually a joey... burr they are still kangaroos. 🙂

[@mydogeatspuke]

@@sonyafair2411 a joey isn't a different kind of animal though, it's just the kangaroo equivalent of "child." Presumably you wouldn't also attempt to correct someone for referring to a human infant simply as a human with "actually, that's a child."

[@bricksloth6920]

I'm not a baby person and don't usually dig on infant fashion and decor. I make an exception for your channel because your family is just so happy and wholesome it overcomes my curmudgeonly tendencies.

[@janeosun]

fellow person with curmudgeonly tendencies (i love that and i wanna steal that😂) and i agreeeeee

[@beckyevans889]

Thank you for teaching me a new word!!!

[@Nick-dx2pt]

Heya! I read this article a long time ago and I find it really awesome and informative so if anyone here wants to know if maternal instinct is only for mother's then please read this article :) ♥️ www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/mothers-day-2018-maternal-instinct-oxytocin-babies-science?cmpid=int_org=ngp::int_mc=website::int_src=ngp::int_cmp=amp::int_add=amp_readtherest

[@taylordawn4492]

So the chemistry between you two (J & C) is so different from what we have witness as viewers so far! And psychologically speaking, it’s AMAZING. you ladies are THRIVING as new mums and interacting in such an amazing way, I can’t wait to see more of your lives in this new venture 🖤🖤🖤

[@Carol-Bell]

The nursery has a very calm, peaceful feeling about it. The tree is gorgeous. And that the changing table can become a dresser, is wonderful and actually genius.I love those drawers in the closet too. I know you have things planned out for activities and to help his development- just don’t be surprised if you need to change things as you go, and don’t feel like a failure if something you planned turns out not to work at all. We all learn as we go. The end goal is to raise him up to be a good, responsible adult with a good moral compass, is ethical, respectful of others, a good citizen, and can and does take care of himself when he grows up. But it’s one little step at a time over many years, a lot of it involving getting to know him and his needs and talents. About unsolicited advice: it happens. I was 22 and looked 17 when I had my first child, and I had SO many old ladies give me funny looks or tell me I needed to put shoes on him in summer (in Southern California). One lady was giving a very disdainful look, until I told her “I’m 22 and married”. Most of the time it’s best to just give a patronizing smile and say thank you. 😊

[@jeroylenkins1745]

It seemed a bit empty to me. Or maybe my kids were just really busy.

[@TheSuzberry]

All the child rearing advice I have for new parents: Your family will be unique. Rupert will not conform to anyone else’s expectations, he’s born with his personality. Your job as parents is not to mess him up.

[@samanthab3292]

Least amount of trauma possible 😅

[@Canny-Octopus]

A parent's job is to protect and delight in their child as as they reveal themself, and to slowly back off as they grow more independent.

[@applepeachbirdduckmaster801]

The goal is a functioning adult who can work with people, understands boundaries, and can do basic things. Like cook, do laundry, and pull their weight in future parts of life, whether at work or in a relationship.

[@Reicha]

I'd settle for just happy, enjoying life and preferably never considering not sticking around anymore. Selfishly, that would be my main goal. Even if for society they'd end up a menace or "net loss". Even if hopefully loving parenting would counteract the former of the two

[@katherinemorelle7115]

I think it’s impossible to avoid messing your kids up n some way. The goal is to mess them up as little as possible, and in ways that don’t interfere with their functioning as adults. That’s my goal, at least.

[@lilianaguerrero8033]

Me: single, 24 years old, not planning on having children anytime soon. *Please keep coming with parenting content!* I’m so glad you are all doing ok. It’s amazing all the love and care you both put in every single detail of the nursery. And I couldn’t thank you enough for sharing. It feels so special being a part of your family journey. Baby Rupert is the cutest. Saludos desde México 🇲🇽

[@JD257able]

Same actually! 😄😇

[@Ann3Ric3]

as a teenage lesbian i feel so happy watching your family videos :") i live in poland and it's so nice to see how lgbt people in different parts of the world are able to live such normal and good lives, it makes me more hopeful for my own future

[@livemoller792]

It’s also important to note, that it’s not necessarily based on country! They live in Brighton, the lgbt capital of England. I love the reminder that happy pocket communities are everywhere!

[@yanaguadalupecarabajal6841]

Jessica laughing hysterically like a psycho about her precious vintage finds is such a mood. I feel very represented!

[@whitney3258]

My husband says our daughter has "advanced baby moves," literally anytime she does anything lol. It's sweet 🥰

[@maddinar6727]

I love how unapologetically enthusiatic you are about everything regarding Rupert. It is amazing to watch. Please don't hold back with your joy.

[@maike__-]

Right? I love seeing them be so excited 🙈 they have been waiting for this for so long 💜🌈

[@erinkay7080]

I love the wallpaper tree mural, I can't believe it's not painted. Also, the entire nursery is lovely.

[@maryanntownsend2889]

💙

[@kinhahazevedoh]

I wish every child had such loving, attentive and engaged parents as you. Roo is a lucky little bunny

[@kadeisstuck8802]

I can imagine jessica panicking when Rupert gets hurts and Claudia being like *"he just bumped his elbow, he's ok."* lol Rupert has amazing mothers

[@Jadyn_Sage]

In Canada, "nursery" could mean one, some or all of the following things: -the room where a baby/young child sleeps and/or is cared for -a place a young child goes to be cared for by adults other than their parents (to be fair, this is generally called nursery school) -a place to buy young plants/seeds (and often other gardening accessories) Only some disposable diapers have a scent, you can get one that are unscented (I worked in a daycare for 8 years with infants & toddlers, lots of diapers lol)

[@yourinnerlawyer4035]

Yes, just like the rest of the English speaking parts of the world lol.

[@Jadyn_Sage]

@@yourinnerlawyer4035 Not necessarily. Alot of places don't use the term nursery for a place where plants are grown, that's often called a garden centre

[@hannahk1306]

In the UK, the plant nursery is typically where the plants are grown, but you buy them from the garden centre (which may have its own nursery).

[@maeahem]

I’m from Nigeria, (UK English) and I’ve always understood nursery to mean all three 🤷🏾‍♀️ that is, room/place for young lifeforms (animal & plant) to be taken care of. And yes nursery (school) is synonymous with all preprimary education for us as well 😅

[@adavid2548]

Where I live nursey is mostly for plants. the 2nd definition is a daycare or preschool. And the first definition sounds old timey, we would just say "the baby's room" We would understand the word nursery - but we dont use it ever.

[@manifestationsofasort]

Oh god the unsolicited advice. My mom has so many stories of random people giving her unsolicited advice. My favorite was when a random lady my mom didn't know got mad at my mom for feeding me formula because I wouldn't latch, so this woman grabbed me and tried to show my mom, on herself, how to make me latch. That didn't go over well.

[@marymac3572]

It starts as soon as people know you're pregnant and it never ends.

[@mockingjay478]

I used to wrap my youngest on my back as she got older, using a similar wrap to Claudia's (but not a stretchy one as stretchy wraps are not safe to be worn on the back) and people who'd never seen a wrap before would come running up to try to help and actually make it harder and more dangerous because they messed with my routine and would grab the wrap and move it and just AAAAA. People suck - ask before offering a parent advice or support and it's almost always better to just *not*

[@maelooper9487]

ahh i remember this one youtuber i used to watch being told off for swaddling her baby and the commenter saying that it crushed the babies bones. like??????

[@marymac3572]

@@maelooper9487 in the hospital the nurses told me that swaddling improperly (too tight, especially around the hips) can cause problems, but a proper swaddle can keep them from scratching their faces.

[@logo9470]

@Satan’s Butthole 🤣😂🤣

[@skylarjohnson7779]

"it got gayer and gayer" that's just Jessie's whole life. You two are literally radiating happiness and he is so cute, I want to reach through the screen and snuggle him.

[@potat_ohs]

"Having a newborn in your room is like having a farm animal with you." Omg that is an amazing quote.

[@lalalouroux]

trying not to cry tears of happiness because of rupert's little closet with his little clothes

[@phantombcat3243]

Your entire world feels like a Beatrix Potter story for me so the tree only feels fitting 🥰✨

[@missasissa]

His little sounds make me miss when my baby girl was that little! She's 10 months now. It goes so fast, enjoy every moment! 😭

[@lindseystein9676]

Aw I love your totoro profile pic

[@leahsodyssey123]

I miss them too. My babies are 29, 21, and 18. I also have a 9 year old grandson.

[@BrownAutumnSeal]

Is it normal to be incredibly jelous of a baby’s room……….. it’s beautiful I want it to be mine

[@dankmorgano]

In Canada the baby's room is a Nursery, child care is daycare.

[@gh0stsyndr0me40]

yup!

[@samanthab3292]

Same in the US!

[@marissakoller6548]

Daycare and nursery mean that in America too. Nursery is also used when referring to an area where young children are watched within a place (like a church) but not commonly used to describe a business that is a child care service.

[@aline8576]

@@marissakoller6548 and we also use nursery for a place where you can get plants in america well idk if that’s the case everywhere but where I live it is

[@marissakoller6548]

@@aline8576 yes, that too!

[@danielsykes7558]

Jessie, you do have baby hormones. There's good research that heterosexual fathers' (cis & trans) brains change after a new baby and that there's a hormone cascade triggering that transformation. Interestingly in most traditionally heteronormative heterosexual couples, new mothers and new fathers have their brains diverge as they adapt to life with a baby, but with homosexual couples and non-traditional parenting arrangements, both transformations actually happen to both parents' brains. This means that yes, both of your brains are rewiring, because both of you have new mother hormones.

[@mockingjay478]

Something about your wording of fathers in this feels off to me. I doubt that trans men were included in the study, so it would actually be research that shows cis men in a relationship with cis women. That's important. If trans folks aren't being included in the study, don't add us in when referencing it, as it adds to false information. Keep in mind that trans men can and often do carry the baby, even in a relationship with a cis woman. Your comment is worded as if they don't and it's not the greatest feeling as a trans man myself, tbh. (I'm gay.) It also totally excludes every father who is not heterosexual and still is raising a new baby. It excludes couples where two men have adopted a newborn or had a surrogate carry their baby.

[@mockingjay478]

I'd probably word it like this: Research shows that cis men in a relationship with cis women experience hormonal changes. This also happens in adoptive couples and where a surrogate has been used. (Including MLM* couples.) In general, non-birthing parents have been shown to experience hormonal changes and it's quite normal. *MLM here meaning men who love men. (MLM is much more inclusive than "gay couples" since bi/pan/poly men are erased in this assumption. Similar issues apply to assuming all relationships between women are "lesbian couples" and here WLW can be used.)

[@ahhh4117]

@@mockingjay478 I understand where you're coming from, but I'd like to see the study, because daniel might be quoting it directly, at which point its the study that needs criticism and not someone referencing it

[@wisteria6656]

I would like the study

[@mockingjay478]

@@ahhh4117 I did allow for the possibility that the study does say that in my comment. "If trans folks aren't being included in the study, don't add us in when referencing it, as it adds to false information." Please note the key word of "if" which allows for the possibility that the study does include trans men. Before then I also used careful wording. "I doubt" rather than "There's no way trans men were included" is an example of that. Even if it does include trans men, the wording of the comment is still exclusionary and could be improved.

[@Rainbopagn]

You can tell that you two are well researched in baby development. You’re such lovely parents!! Little Rupert is going to be such a spoiled little boy.

[@anarchyvixyn]

Claudia, you should check out Mumsie. They have overalls that are rated baby carriers that will hold Rupert from now until he's like 2. I saw them and thought of you but was waiting until you guys came back. 💖

[@Crowcifixx]

YES!!!

[@Rose-jz6sx]

Omg those sound amazing! I'd nearly get them just for carrying friends babies haha

[@pastelslash4608]

Why yes I did get misty eye’d at the idea of him wearing Claudia’s little sweater 🥺

[@Cmallon81]

Jessica, if you know you like that style of furniture and that is what you really want don’t feel bad about buying the bed early. You never know if they might discontinue it in the future if you wait.

[@maike__-]

My parents bought a "changing table", matching dresser and wardrobe, all with the excuse that the changing table was adaptable, so you could theoretically turn it into a desk. Not that any of their three kids ever used this "desk" as a desk 😂

[@caressalayne3104]

Seeing your family is an absolute joy. Little Rupert’s noises were the cutest little “farm animal noises” I’ve ever heard. Congratulations, you two. Beautiful baby and beautiful mothers. ❤️

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

A lot of people didn’t understand why I had everything within her reach and baby proofed as an older mom with EDS. I see you get it. When it’s like that, you can just stay on the floor and not have to get up and down. As they get older, you also don’t have to chase them around because everything they have access to is a “yes space”. We just keep expanding the yes space as she gets older.

[@KiraNightshade]

Honestly I think it's a marvelous idea in general.

[@MuseofIago]

I literally found out I'm pregnant yesterday, so this video is perfectly timed. 💖

[@sarahrosen4985]

Congratulations!

[@samanthab3292]

Congrats! I'm 9 weeks so here's to 2022 babies 💖

[@morganw2492]

Congrats!

[@Readera]

Congrats!

[@emmajwilkins]

When I was a kid my Uncle's girlfriend was an artist and she painted my whole bedroom in a forest theme and I had an OWL OVER MY DOOR and I swear it looks *exactly* like this one!

[@TheWavePixie]

Jessica gushing over getting the changing table on sale is big mom energy

[@emilyforeman2646]

You're enthusiasm for little Rupert is so contagious. Love watching you guys smile while you talk about him!

[@dollsNcats]

Ok so the sleeping in his room for naps and getting used to the room is AMAZING. My daughter is now 4 and she’s always loved her room . We moved her to her own room at 4 months because it was inches from our room (small apartment/flat) she was sleeping 12 hours at night so we felt comfortable and she did AMAZING

[@gigidodson]

How you raise your child is your business. People love to give advice. Take the pieces you find valuable. Leave the rest. Oh! Welcome back. We missed you. Welcome to the world Rupert!

[@Philosopanda]

Claudia's idea about the owl and the bird is sooooo cute! I think it'll be one of those things he'll think about when he's older and feel the love. Also you two are just so adorable in this video I can't stand it, so happy to see all three of you doing well! 💗

[@anna_banana7019]

4:47 The cloud is so cute! How thoughtful of Jamie and Shabaa, Iove them!

[@chrismoss9060]

I love how happy and giggly Jessica is

[@M00s3r]

Can I be your kid? A magical, thoughtful childhood is in store for Rupert!

[@zooh8017]

I never thought about the floor nursery being a more accessible option I love to sit on the floor I’ll have to tuck this idea away

[@CLEVERstageNAMES]

Yeah I have to keep that in mind as well I hate standing and sitting in chairs

[@alisonjane7068]

my diapers are still in a landfill somewhere. what a sobering realization.

[@reyskywalker3125]

to think that they'll still be there 400yrs after we die

[@gaylordsupreme8824]

"same shit, different century" is what went through my head when I read that

[@mariahartisch9514]

I dont get this landfill thing. Arn't waste incineration plants a thing around the world? Our waste being burned gives us warm water in return and the exhaust air is being filtered. The ecological balance for diapers is not so clear here in Germany. Especially if you buy new ones and wash them in a hot setting... Where in the world are your experiences from?

[@098bren]

@Lee TV well that is not always the best of options either, i mean maybe ambientally but not for the babies, i was the last one on my family to use those type of diapers and it went horrible since it deformed my hip /: apparently that's a commun thing to happend with those 😞

[@daylightbright7675]

So are mine 😔

[@MDev1997]

When Jessica was showing the closet, she sounded like a woman acting in advertisements in the like 1950's 🤣👏🏻

[@RaineyLatte]

This child is going to have the most wonderful loving life. You two are great mothers 💜💜💜

[@sophiaschult]

We (people in the US) use nursery as a room for a baby, and a garden store. The place where you send a child for childcare is usually called a daycare.

[@marynadias4391]

Might be international fans getting confused, I learned “nursery” as the word for “place babies stay at in the hospital” much earlier than “the baby’s room” so I see how it could be confusing

[@franny5156]

Yep, i didn't know the word nursery so I just assumed it was his room

[@mashab.234]

I think the main issue is the word “nurse” as “medical worker” (for me at least that was it:)

[@sillygoosegoose]

there isn't a name for 'place babies stay at the hospital' in the UK, as babies don't really stay away from their parents. whatever room the mother is in, the baby is just in a little hospital bassinet thing next to them. i was always very confused watching US programmes where there's a big room with lots of babies in it, as i've never seen anything like that here aside from special units for babies who need extra support.

[@sillygoosegoose]

@@mashab.234 'nurse' used to also mean like a kind of nanny, common among upper classes in the UK pre-twentieth century. you hear that kind of language quite a lot if you read older books. i would imagine that's where the link is there.

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

I'm a confused bilingual with having English learned in school and from media and nursery to me is the room the baby sleeps in, then don't forget the plant nursery where you can buy new plants and as another word for daycare. Don't really know about the hospital thing that to me is just the maternity ward and I know I knew the specific name of the room for babies but as babies are usually in the same room as their parents now my brain just deleted that word.

[@LadyAhro]

Me, extremely childfree: 'damn that’s a pretty room'

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Relatable, have a nice day.

[@dandylionsloth446]

Same, don't plan on having kids of my own but content like this gives me all the happy brain chemicals.

[@mariabrigati2150]

I normally hate to see parents sharing their babies life, but these woman are so lovely 😭 I think part of it is because of how much they respect little Rupert

[@weewooweewoo906]

it makes me so happy to see a couple who really prepared immensely to give their baby the most loving, healthy upbringing possible. i’m childfree myself too, but gosh it brings me such joy to see a healthy happy little family ❤️ just knowing that child will be in good hands is so nice ❤️

[@frostyskeletons8950]

Them and Rosie&Rose are the only parents I have enjoyed family content from ever as a very child free person. They’re just so kind and refreshing!

[@Eco_Hiko]

The attention to detail in this nursery is amazing. I would 100% let Jessica and Claudia decorate my house.

[@walks_with_me]

The nursery feature wall is gorgeous, very whimsical.

[@paxardens3505]

Yay Montessori! I went to a Montessori school from age 2 through 13 (I'm in the states, so that was pre-k through 8th grade) and I came out of it with a firm belief in that educational philosophy, so I'm always happy when I see new parents going that direction!

[@in3zb1u3]

As an american, I understood what you meant by nursery tour perfectly.

[@dbeiler5525]

FACT: Babies do actually bring out baby hormones in BOTH parents, regardless of sex or gender.

[@we.genuinely.think2882]

Can I just say how good Jessica's hair matches the green of the wall? 😍 (Maybe matching is the wrong word, the contrast of red and green just looks really good)

[@AK-jt9gx]

The word you are looking for is “complement” 🙂 and I totally agree

[@we.genuinely.think2882]

@@AK-jt9gx ah thanks 😊 (English is not my first language so sometimes I don't know which fits best)

[@alexanderpumpkin3423]

@@we.genuinely.think2882 your point got across just fine! Completely understood it

[@tylerphuoc2653]

@@we.genuinely.think2882 Yeah, generally among the pigment color wheel, red is complementary to/complements green, yellow complements purple, and blue complements orange. Complementing works in the opposite direction, too; jamming complementary pigments together tends to create a sort of brown/muddy/grey sludge.

[@jocelynprier9115]

Your kid is so lucky. He's so loved and taken care of, you two are just amazing parents

[@stellangios]

Rupert is a very lucky baby to have such amazing moms! Not to mention that wonderful room--I would have loved to grow up in such a space. And I really appreciate Claudia's comment about having too many special soft toys from a young age causing stress; so relatable. You guys are such thoughtful, loving parents and nothing could be more perfect, honestly

[@debra333]

I grew up with a beautiful mural in our living room. I spent countless childhood hours staring at it; living in it. Alas, the family home was sold and razed in the early 2000s. I'd give anything to have a bit of that lovely mural today.

[@crazyjoy7]

If you remember specific details, you could commission an artist to recreate either the whole thing as a mural, or pieces of it as paintings that you can take with you wherever you go. I know it's not the same, but it could be comforting.

[@catsnorth]

The tree wallpaper, that’s the style I immediately thought of was Beatrix Potter-esq, Winnie the Pooh. The Minnie Tillie is adorable! Rupert’s little sounds completed the tour ❤️ love the Mum snug wrap for him.

[@angeliquejoy1]

I thought I was the only person distressed by my stuffed animals being in any order except where I put them. I cried on a regular basis when my brother’s dog jumped on my bed or stole my stuffed duck.

[@random23287]

I'm sure you two will be great parents! Rupert is adorable, and so is the nursery.

[@mommylovespink]

Jessica taste and style deserves her own tv show she is so good at lifestyle,fashion & decor, maybe a book 📖 in your future, the nursery is absolutely gorgeous who wouldn’t want her to decorate one I would.every detail is perfection. She is glowing in beauty of baby hormones so lovely .

[@YeahThisIsLife]

Jessica being so excited and Claudia just interjecting every now and again with her wry humour is so cute - I love these two I'm so happy for y'all!

[@ainacamiramonet9301]

Okay but Claudia glowed throughout the pregnancy (and still does), but can we talk about how wonderfully motherhood agrees with Jessica? In this video and the instagram photos, she looks absolutely beautiful!

[@tranthanhtrucle7942]

Wow I did not realize how much I miss all of you. I’ve been watching since you both have just married. Watching your journey make me believe in love and happiness, especially for myself as a lesbian. Your voice and attitude lighten up my world and draw me to important matters in the world with a different perspective, e.g. banning plastic straw. I think Rupert is absolutely lucky to have both of you as his moms. Thank you for releasing the video during such a busy time of your life.

[@jasminesaxvik7300]

The way Jessica gets so excited talking about all of this is just so wholesome and sweet. Makes me excited to become a parent myself when my little boy arrives 🥺💙

[@ms_ch]

The best approach to taking care of your baby is a combination of what you can do and what the baby accepts. Anything beyond that is not as important/urgent. You two are the most loving and caring mothers