Narcissist's Psychosexuality: Deviant Pervert or Just Kinky Fun?

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Is the narcissist a deviant pervert, dangerous sexual predator, or just a fun-loving adventurous kink-oriented kind of guy or gal?
Compilation courtesy of Dorcas (her Instagram: @teasingkafka)

[@supaudas8782]

All u have explained is So true. my exhusband was Self sufficient on sex, heartlessly move on ,doesn't care his wife is still remaining virgin for all these 4 years. His answer for why was "because u did not follow my principles and rules". that principle and rule was so stupid odd and abnormal. he confused me .I was dead inside and psycologically shattered . narcissist exist this is true.

[@Langolin1998]

Ditto. Sounds like my ex. They’re yuck

[@dlifetime746]

So can you answer something for me? My narcissist has 2 Facebooks. And if i read the messages in the one where he has nothing but female friends, before he met me, he is begging girls to come hang out with him. Promising them anything. On his other oage all the messages are from gay men to him. Telling him how hot he is and him replying that while he appreciates the compliment, he isnt gay. Yet he allows them to keep pushing, saying vulgar things and even sending pictures. Now when we first got together all we did was have sex. Now he gets mad and yells at me that all i think about is sex!! Im so confused. Is he gay or straight or both?

[@ijmimi9186]

This is good to know. A narc just told a friend that he can only have sex as bdsm. This video came on time.

[@ijmimi9186]

@@jenniferbrower strange to me as well. But it's clear that they don't understand the boundaries of bdsm and who really has the power. They will choose to be the dominant thinking it's a way to assert more control and dominance and violence. Even after setting boundaries and limits, they would exceed them with their sense of entitlement.

[@guitarentries8180]

@@ijmimi9186 They do not understand ANY boundaries at all, in any field. Its only that they probably see BDSM as the most appropriate area in which they can express their preferences, seeing bdsm as a sign of openness. A girl i had a romance with, after the first stage in which she used to tell me she wanted to be a good girl, and kicked out of her life some wrong people who she experienced "wrong things", (she confessed me she was kidnaped and raped, and her first sex was bdsm. She did not know anything else at the time, she said) She was kinda aware of being extreme, but "i can't control my body if that excite me" Slowly it turned out she was into masochistic sex, (caning, slapping, choking, etc), and she was lately attracted from Shibari I am quite sure her experiences pushed her toward that behavior . One day we were talking about her family's pressure in forming a family and finishing University, and she wrote me; " Sometimes i think i want to not control my life anymore, and find myself a crazy bdsm guy who torture and humiliate me till i die" Or again; I am a toy. I always was and always will be. And while saying these thngs she wasn't excited at all. Just sad Just to give you a glimpse on how they can perceive limits; I found myself discussing with her, and arguing to let her understand that "fucking your old boss (she's 25, and she was speaking of a 60 something), to advance career, its not something any boyfriend would like to her. Or even worst when we discussed about her curiosity in fucking a dog. Of course she said she never did that, but she didn't find anything at least strange in these things.

[@jackiemolinar871]

Thank you for your intelligence.

[@joanieks3945]

Thank you Sam. Interesting video. My husband who’s 60 likes to look and stare at young females. He likes to look at their faces etc. Of course he denies it if I say anything. I’m interested in knowing why. He will say that in his culture it’s ok to look and not touch. However, I don’t believe him. Can you suggest any further reading that you might have?

[@samvaknin]

I can suggest the playlist on sexuality in this channel.

[@joanieks3945]

Sam Vaknin Thank you Sam. I will have a look x

[@joanieks3945]

Cracked Edge The key word is ‘sneak’ then. When it’s done overtly in front of you it’s different. When they deny it also, it becomes gaslighting..

[@kimberlyyetta2332]

People like to admire beauty..this is normal for any man, even women. Babies are even attracted to a beautiful face. God gave us Eyes to look. Perhaps you are the narcissist here? , because it seems like your selfish Ego is trying to control what another human looks at.

[@oldfartsgaming3480]

I hope you know across the pond sexuality if viewed differently than in America.

[@richardhill8786]

Great compilation. Thanks Dorcas. Thanks Sam. Just one question. I've been trying to find information about the force of death (Thanatos) that you mention from time to time, especially associated with "Dead Mother". I found one reference to a "Mortana" but have not been able to find anything on what I think you might be saying, "Distroodal". Please don't laugh too hard at my interpretation of what I think I am hearing you say. I have tried to find information for several weeks now or I wouldn't ask. Thanks in advance for your help.

[@samvaknin]

Blame my accent. Destrudo.

[@richardhill8786]

Thanks Sam. Still very little out there. Looks like Freud didn't want to promote "energy duality" and only mentioned Destrudo a few times. I take it you agree with the latter revival of the belief?

[@samvaknin]

@@richardhill8786 It is inconceivable, IMO, that there is only libido. How would one account for these? samvak.tripod.com/faq69.html

[@shannonrobinson8743]

I have a female covert malignant narc in my life who has completely objectified her two sons. What do i do?

[@samvaknin]

You seek an answer in a KZbin comment? Are you for real?

[@jankowalski3786]

Its more complicated,when youre narcist dont like be call unmoral so it can prevent from pervertion but it depends from person.but probably yes theyre have dirty fantasions but it dont come out sometimes it can become very dirty but its short and dont repeat(that type of fantasion)

[@lisamvalenti64]

Thank you, very informative

[@barrysmith1202]

Bizets' Carmen! Olay! biddie essem? Oh: B.D.S.M. bondage, dominance, sado, masoch... I thought ALL THAT was WAY whacked-out. Interesting planet, here