Being a Gentleman in 2024

Does behaving like a gentleman still mean something in 2024? Is this vision of life still relevant in a western society where self-centredness reign supreme? What is the relationship between elegance and gentlemanliness?
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[@lukemiller_6]

Being a gentleman, I waited for others to post their comments, before posting mine 😉

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

😂🤣. Thanks Luke! Hugo

[@peaceonearth8693]

A gentleman does not necessarily have to wait for others to go first. But the point is to be generous and fair. However, a man is also to be forceful, a leading man at least.

[@lukemiller_6]

@@SARTORIALTALKS you're welcome 😂😊 have a amazing weekend!

[@joshuaesposito5409]

lol

[@querennunes1176]

😂

[@ShinJoey84]

One thing is certain, being a gentleman never goes out of style.

[@CJR_GentArtist]

A gracious gentleman and a delightful lady.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you friend! Hugo & Sonya

[@hazzyhugh8729]

Agreed my brother.

[@AmyAnnetteHenion]

Well said! Etiquette and character will take a person where money and education cannot.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Absolutely! Best, Hugo & Sonya

[@briang530]

I'd suggest that etiquette is a code that varies according to culture. It can probably be taught and can definitely be used as a means of gatekeeping by an in-group. I do prefer the term and context that Hugo used of "effortless manners". Character, empathy, and awareness of others are acquired over a lifetime and cannot really be taught or bought.

[@apocalypse487]

I believe the problem is that people were pushing individualism so much that they forgot about others.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Absolutely my friend! Cheers, Hugo

[@Olyfrun]

Here in the UK out new government is very keen to impress the ideals of unity, renewal, and service. Here's to a wonderful future.

[@daniell2217]

I know we’re not doing ‘tips’, but to me the #1 gentlemanly improvement is - put away your cell phone in public. I think many of the conceptual suggestions here would be addressed by making this one, small, concrete change.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

That's a good tip Daniel 😄! Hugo

[@briang530]

Bravo! There is a larger context of 'being present', and realizing that there's others around you, and putting those around you at ease, and making those around you feel like they have your attention and matter. If we are doing tips or steps, however, then putting down the damn phone is a very huge and easy first step.

[@ianflem3717]

A deep mature conversation. Thank you for both of you. Being a gentelmen is a life journey and never end until you died.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You're very welcome sir. Cheers, Hugo

[@ForTheLoveOfSuits]

Love these conversations. Please keep them coming.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We shall keep them coming for sure! Best, Hugo

[@dobrosavmilutinovic7052]

If I may add to this excellent list, being a gentleman is also about having clear principles, beliefs, and moral values that one stands behind. A gentleman is someone willing to stand up against injustice, even if it means sacrificing his own life. Throughout history, especially in my country, Serbia, gentlemen were the first to suffer under both Nazism and Communism. Due to their refusal to compromise out of fear of reprisal, gentlemen emerged as the greatest adversaries to any form of tyranny. A gentleman is someone whose word and promise are worth more than any signed document. These are the lessons passed down from my grandfather, a true gentleman himself.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you my friend for your powerful words. Your grandfather is a wise gentleman. Hugo

[@mikehoare6093]

@@SARTORIALTALKS Being a Serbian myself, I can assure you that this gentleman is telling the truth, especially the latter part, we have have a loathing for documents and government interference in our everyday lives. If I give you my word, I´ve given you my word, I´ll stay true to it even if it means I´ll be in severe discomfort ! What Mr. Milutinovic maybe forgot to say is, that tito-style "communism" destroyed traditional values, manners and etiquette got labelled as reactonary and on the contrary saw the introduction of social savagery. So we have to go quite a long way to reconstitute certain things in life and society, maybe this is why we like to watch you. And please let me point out that you are the flashiest couple on all of youtube !!!

[@edwardnawotka2708]

Bravo and well said.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks Edward! Hugo & Sonya

[@TheCaedi]

It is really refreshing to see how even now in 2024, there are people like you talking about important yet subtle details such as manners can relax our everyday routine. As a scientist who works also as a professor, there is an impact whenever we follow a code for garments, that can be quite positive or negative. Even in a practical sense, considering differences in weather, clothing helps you ease or relax. As always, it is important to dress and/or treat others as you do it for yourself.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you sir for your message. Very much appreciated! Hugo & Sonya

[@ricardorgomez]

This video should be pinned at the top of your KZbin channel! Every time I thought I would be able to add something, you covered it. And more. Sonya responded to a statement I made about myself feeling like a fraud because of the way I dress. Because I dress better than my financial situation (but within my budget) and felt I was giving the wrong impression. Sonya, in short, told me that dressing the way I do could help elevate others. I agree with her. But you mentioned a point that I think better reflects what is more at the core. "Merging the inner with the outer". I thought about this a lot as I wrote a blog article about it. I had to think back when I was twelve years old. When I started my sartorial journey. I dress because that's how I feel about myself on the inside and in return, how I dress on the outside makes my inner feel better. I specifically remember thinking that when I was 12: I dress for me. And maybe because of that, I may inspire others to do the same. AND, if someone is attracted to that, I hope it's because "There is just something about him". After all, that's what I think about a woman who I would date if I think her style is a reflection of her soul. "There is something about her....". Like kings, a gentleman is made. It takes practice and years of work. You can be a good and nice man very early on. But elevating yourself to where others know that you are, can take quite a bit of time. But it's worth it.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Beautiful, sincere and wise words Ricardo. Thank you very much, Hugo & Sonya

[@ricardorgomez]

@@SARTORIALTALKS Thank you!

[@jimvari1909]

Recommend "Gentleman' book series by John Bridges. 15 books on various topics: at table, toasts and tributes, dress up, etc

[@nyla3979]

We've got some brilliant conversation here! Thank You so much !!!!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you for your kind words. Hugo

[@pietvanvliet1987]

Leave it to Hugo to pinpoint differences between cultures, locations and era's. On one side: Quick tips, hacks and immediate satisfaction. On the other side: a life of study, patience and doing the work. Also Hugo, no verdict on which is 'better', just pointing out his preference. Quite refreshing.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks Piet for your kind words. Best, Hugo

[@RamSkirata]

This needs to be discussed more often!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We will! Hugo & Sonya

[@kxmode]

I was laid off from my job, and I've spent the remaining days staying positive, friendly, and professional. When my last day comes in a few days, I want to leave gracefully with a smile on my face. I believe that’s a great example of being a gentleman.

[@dalefriesen8676]

Agreed. It was heartwarming to listen the both of you today. Bless your hearts.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much! God bless, Hugo & Sonya

[@kxmode]

30:12 I love that you form a heart shape gesture with your hands when communicating "be a blessing to others." 🙂

[@canadafree2087]

Sonya and Hugo, I wish to thank you for taking time out of your busy lives to offer me this time of self-reflection without judgement. It allowed me to look into your standards of being a gentleman, compare them to mine, to see which ones I'd like to incorporate into my life and also to see where I can improve. All the best.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You are very welcome sir. Best wishes, Hugo & Sonya

[@hazzyhugh8729]

Hugo is a lucky lucky gentleman. Sonia is an ace..she's absolutely dope. Being a gentleman it is inner belief about yourself and by extending your kindness and respect to other people. Authentic good manner to everyone regardless of their social status.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Wise words and I agree, I'm a lucky man!! Hugo

[@hazzyhugh8729]

@SARTORIALTALKS My inspirational friend . Respect .

[@jlarrify]

Thank you for posting this! Having lived in Japan, being a student of the French language, and being an introvert, this was very welcome. I live in Silicon Valley, and people can be very transactional at times. But I will not be like this out of principle. Also, having been to wine tastings where the producers were polite and dressed up to show respect to me, it opened my eyes that I am worth the time for them to dress nicely. This is not snobbery; it is respect. And I kept my glass clean and used good table manners so others would not lose their appetite. (Je suis désolé. Je ne parle pas encore couramment le français.)

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Merci pour votre message ! Et tous mes voeux de réussite pour votre apprentissage du français. Amicalement, Hugo

[@KomradeKrusher]

Whoever "pressured" the two of you to make more content together, I agree with them. I appreciate both of your individual inputs and topics, but together it is a completely different and very engaging dynamic, all the more since you both are incredibly vell informed as well as passionate about your subjects. Your shared content is by far my favorite on this channel and always a guarenteed view. I also want to add that "Lady Jacomet's" country attire is marvelous, especially that tattersall waistcoat.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much for your kind words. This kind of encouraging message means a lot to us. Kindly, Hugo & Sonya

[@teekue]

​@@SARTORIALTALKSI would like to add that I love how Sonya "holds you accountable" so to speak. She will always ask for examples of what you mean which emphasizes that it's not just empty platitudes but real things one can change.

[@jhj6636]

What a delightful - and very welcome - conversation. Your enthusiasm is a pleasure to observe. When you spoke about people responding with suspicion, too, I found this reassuring; it is something that is often encountered. Might I suggest that in this day and age revisiting tradition seems to be the basis for gentlemanly conduct and behaviour. Our society and culture is becoming increasingly self-centred. Redressing this - individually, at least - can be achieved by building upon the foundation of charity. Merci beaucoup.

[@EddyWoon]

Thank you very much for sharing your stories here. Some decades ago I had started to always carry 2 handkerchiefs with me. One for my personal use the other is for any situation that may require it. There was an incident (at a different country and culture) a few decades ago where an acquaintance had missed her long distance train to return to her work and had broken down in tears; I gave her my spare handkerchief and worked together to help buy the next ticket. My friend told me that she had made it back safely and that it all that mattered.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Beautiful story Eddy. And I'm sure this person still remember this. Best, Hugo

[@naderelshafei]

Absolutely one of the best episodes ever ,,,,totally agree about all what have been said, this is very genuine & honest discussion,,from a true gentleman & his true lady ,,i really enjoyed every second of this ,your inner beauty is genuine and true ,,,thank you my dear friends ,,,Love to you both from Cairo,

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Nader. We are seriously thinking of visiting Egypt in the coming years. I believe we'll need a guide! Cheers, Hugo & Sonya

[@naderelshafei]

@SARTORIALTALKS You are most welcome, but you will not have just a guide!,,,you will have a true friend, a brother in Egypt😀☺️,I will do my best for you,cheers.

[@VyCanisMajorisCSA]

I'm very happy about your conversion, brother! You are an inspiration for me and many others. May Jesus Christ Our Lord guard you and your family.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much. Peace, Hugo

[@kxmode]

I think the word that best sums up your proposals is "principles." I believe "principles" is a great word to use because the things you describe are fundamental truths about how people respond to kindness and love from others. "Principles" suggest something that requires a person to actively put into practice. It’s also a great word to describe someone’s character, especially when others can say a person is guided by their principles. 🙂

[@fredericlarre1640]

Hello Sonya And Hugo, You are a classy couple and the message you are sending is very refreshing. Being a gentleman is a lifestyle and not something you buy at the grocery store 😊

[@ravipeiris7602]

Love your content. Very helpful with my satorial journey. A few suggestions from my end. For me being a gentleman is to be a "gentle" "man". In the sense being a masculine but being gentle at the same time. Gentleness comes from taking the time to observe, paying attention to details and caring. Also, treating people the way you want to be treated is an effortless way to be a gentleman. Thanks again for your time and energy. Love your work. 🤗❤️

[@nickbreedt7762]

Great show guys, it's always lovely when the two of you do a video together! Such true words you're speaking- indeed gentlemen is a disappearing species, it's a shame?

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

It's a shame, but we still have hope. Some kids of the next generation are great kids! Best, Hugo & Sonya

[@lifesbeautiful3024]

Love your channel, and in this video, the message of being a gentleman is great. Also, the statue of the Sacred Heart behind the two of you is quite beautiful, and maybe one of the most beautiful I’ve seen.

[@jimmybroomfield1453]

Really great nuggets of advice here. Something I'd like to share: I heard an interview from a daughter of a former ambassador (on NPR), where she mentioned how different her perspective was compared to others because she always assumes that other people have something special to tell from their life experience. This fundamental assumption has lead to her learning aspects about other folks that wouldn't be easily known without her approach and outlook. It is easy to pass other people off as mundane and unimportant, but I think that if you try this, your eyes will be opened in ways you don't expect.

[@SIX622]

Thank you again for your insights on this most important topic. These podcast episodes with the two of you together are my favourite as they encapsulate the essence of this channel in a manner that no other type of video can. It is a testament the effortlessness that you have cultivated that your personalities alone can carry such presence as to keep me engrossed throughout the whole episode. I agree with every point you raised and I do also think with many of them there is a fine line that one must walk between what you describe and coming across as forced. I take too your point about non-transactional exchanges and I have been able to reflect on a couple of situations where I was non-transactional recently, which made me feel good. If I may add one point, a gentleman would never describe himself as such, he understands that adjective should only be employed by others when describing his personality. That Toyota CEO story is one I remember you discussing before so I knew the outcome, but it serves as a great reminder about how to put people at ease and I try to apply the same principle. Finally - and most importantly in my view - time is something we should value greatly and this forms part of my personal philosophy of life, so thank you for your time.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement and for your nice message. Yours, Hugo & Sonya

[@nebojsaveljanovski6335]

Every single time I see one of your videos, I enjoy and learn something. Every time. Thank you both!! Keep up the great work.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you my friend! Hugo

[@alexxfreedom]

Another brilliant episode. It's interesting some of the qualities you mention I do instinctively. Not even realising it really, the giving up time is a prime one, I am actually collecting a work colleague for the airport on Monday. Still have to work on others, but it is all about trying to create a more elegant world. Cheers

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Excellent Alex! Cheers, Hugo

[@UncleHoCM]

Although I was born in France but left as a child it was still impressed on me to take interests in others' interests when in conversation or a social setting. That is what comes to my mind when Hugo says to put others first.

[@Kleopatrae]

It’s so refreshing to see such influential figures use their platform in order to encourage people to be kind one to another! Monsieur Jacomet, you summed it up beautifully with the proposal of being blessings. We can feel that you practice what you preach. 👏🏻 On a side note, Sonya’s smile lights up the room 🥹🫶🏻

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you for your kind words. You sound like a blessing too. Yours, Hugo & Sonya

[@donovanroberts8607]

God I've been waiting on this video for about 6 years since the "What is a Gentleman?" and the "Being a Gentleman - a Woman's Perspective" episodes more than 6 years ago. So I'm happy to get a 2024 update but I would love more. I would like a full multipart course on being a gentleman please!!! I would love the history of gentlemen, where the tradition comes from, great gentlemen of the past. The commonalities between French, Italian, British gentlemen etc The history of manners, why they came about, what the world was like before the practice. Demonstrations of good manners/etiquette in different situations. Proper: an extensive list of general acts of manners, table manners self presentation of a gentleman character traits - (I believe we covered in this video) how to treat a partner, be a protector, how we should approach gender roles, all of it. The world needs a road map and I would appreciate the opinions of both of you on these issues.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

That's a big menu my friend! Thanks for all the suggestions though. Truly yours, Hugo

[@SimonChambers]

Thank you for this very interesting video! I think many men who are on sartorial journeys are also looking to improve themselves and be better gentlemen. I unfortunately run across some who are very self-centred, not caring about others around them, or who look at being a Real Man as about power and dominance, and it saddens me. I really like. your focus on self-awareness, on manners and kindness, and on working on the insides as well as the exterior of your person. The final point of being a blessing to others is such an eloquent way of saying it. It's a good encapsulation of why I have chosen the career path I have taken. A great conversation, both of you!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks Simon for your kind words and your great spirit. Cheers, Hugo & Sonya.

[@SimonChambers]

@@SARTORIALTALKS Thank you! I've just been visiting with your friend and mine Justin Fitzpatrick today as I'm in New York for a week at the UN working on gender justice issues at the Commission on the Status of Women. :)

[@ryanmead3939]

Good afternoon Hugo and Sonya, may i firstly just say this episode was truly amazing to help us all to re enforce and to try and practice our own dedication to becoming better human beings; so may I thank you both for the polite reminder to do so; thank you so much your friend Ryan.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you dear Ryan! Hugo

[@carolequesnel9783]

Such an enlightening segment, cultivating a mindful attitude, how one carries themselves, being respectful, kindess goes a very long way, but what you said Hugo, be a blessing for others brought tears to my eyes, such a wise and comforting way to live ones life, bravo !!!!!!

[@briang530]

What an important topic and insightful conversation! A great video as always, and you've re-inspired me to tobtry and spread this message. For better or worse, in the name of inclusivity the terms "gentleman" and "lady" might be under question these days. Ignoring the actual terms, it is greatly to all of our detriment that the concepts behind the terms (such as civility, manners, generosity, kindness building up those around you etc.) are also under question and in decline.

[@AndyPanayiotou27]

Well said. I would add - to remember that everyone you meet, or interact with - in any way - has lived an entire life up until that point and will live an entire life after that. However long that was and will be. Also. Help, or courtesy given tends to be smaller then that help or courtesy received.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Beautiful and wise words Andy! Many thanks, Hugo & Sonya

[@dinsel9691]

Don't know much about history Don't know much biology Don't know much about a science book Don't know much about the French I took. But I do know one and one is two. And Hugo is a gentleman for sure.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

A good old Sam Cooke! Thank you my friend, Hugo

[@stylishoversixty9459]

First of all excited to see you along with your stunningly gorgeous wife once again together doing another KZbin video...in addition this subject you are presenting is indeed a fantastic one and very timely, to say the least important, for me personally I can say it reinforces my own virtues as to why I feel being a gentleman is a necessary part of my journey through life I applaud you both for highlighting being a gentleman or even a gentle woman only helps us to be more attuned to being the best person we can be so thanks so very much for sharing!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for your impeccable spirit! All our best, Hugo & Sonya

[@andymansfield6221]

Many thanks to you both for this open discussion. I was taught that to be a Gentleman is to live a life, without thanks, minimising the chance that others might be embarrassed. Simple, yet profound.

[@philippehoch2181]

Thank you so much for this beautiful and stimulating conversation.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You're very welcome Philippe! Hugo

[@AnthonyBeharry]

I enjoyed this video. And definitely walked away with a couple of correlations that I never made before. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[@garrettclements62]

Thank you so much for sharing your insights and beautiful experiences!

[@tonydeltablues]

Greeting Hugo and Sonya, It is a powerful thing to put people at ease; it's really about putting yourself aside. It does take emotional intelligence. I always enjoy your videos and get something out of them - satorially or otherwise. Best to you, Tony

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Tony for your loyalty. Best, Hugo

[@eem19584]

Good to see you both. I love listening to you. Best of health.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you very much! Hugo & Sonya

[@Dappertrucker]

Being a Gentleman comes with great manners not only in private when no one is watching but also in public places

[@andvasc]

Perfect. Thank you for sharing.

[@christianebert8086]

Recently I went in Darmstadt, Germany, in a departement store shop to look for some shirts and then I saw the book "The Italian Gentleman" on the table with the ties. Actually this is your book! So great - I studied it for one hour and forgot the shopping :) Thanks for sharing your wonderful conversations. God bless you.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you very much and God bless you too! Hugo

[@will-wf6sb]

Hello to you both from wales in the UK, at 56 I'm just starting my journey into dressing up instead of down 😉 soi am a late starter, and I'm very glad I discovered your channel, take care both and all the viewers of course.😊by the way yours both charming.

[@TedWesterfield]

Agree with Soya. The best tip is to give without expectation of anything in return. The giver almost universally gets more pleasure out of doing so than receiving anything in return.

[@manny22111]

I admire your admirable traits. Bless you

[@user-sk6xs4lz6k]

Exceptional conversation, and very timely. Although I am not a gentleman, I do strive to be a lady. Thank you, Hugo and Sonya, for always bringing common sense and civility to the world. You are both blessings.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Oh that's very kind of you. Thank you so much. Hugo & Sonya

[@webvideofan]

This was a really great video and solid list of attributes. 👍🏻

[@henrywest7217]

I don't know why I didn't notice this lovely polemic for three full days. Yes, polemics can be lovely. And also a lovely reminder. Thank you so much!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You're very welcome Henry! Hugo

[@djangopat]

Thank you for this very interesting discussion. I really appreciated the opportunity to listen you together.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks for your kind words! Hugo & Sonya

[@blockavelli]

I love that color suit Hugo!

[@felipeballadares8205]

this post deserves a higher volume.. greetings Hugo, from Ecuador.. you have a beautiful wife..

[@sjoyceboyer4719]

Thank you!

[@GoldenThreads1]

Vraiment formidable comme conseil en tant que petit pratiquant d'élégance moi même ici à Paris... Merci pour ceci. Le problème c'est que c'est absolument impossible d'oublier le fait que y'en a tellement de gens qui font exprès d'embêter les autres, de se moquer des autres et de discriminer contre les autres. (en micro agresssion ou pire) De vivre dans une grande ville où littéralement y'a des gens qui n'ont absolument aucun concept d'élégance, de gentillesse ou de galanterie qui tournent dans leurs pensées... mais de qui on se retrouve parfois dépendant... Hugo, je dois le dire, c'est quand même très frustrant. C'est quand même un bon raisonnement pour l'individualisme de beaucoup il me semble.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

C'est frustrant en effet, mais il ne faut pas baisser les bras ! Bien sincèrement, Hugo

[@thisveterancan7666]

Taking the time to remember the name and something interesting about any new people you meet 🙂

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

That's a great idea I think! Hugo

[@jacobbielanski9692]

I greatly appreciate Sonya as it shows that classical style does not belong simply as "Classical Men's Style" as some areas of this channel present.

[@davidlittle6621]

This was a great episode. Being a gentleman is a choice. Thank you for making this.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You're very welcome David! Hugo

[@jillfriendship1054]

Thank you for this timely reminder. it's often interesting and useful to reflect on how well or otherwise the day's social contact went with a view to improving things tomorrow If you know me please be patient, work in progress ! Martin

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We trust you Martin! Cheers, Hugo & Sonya

[@simonsoo124]

You are both very good people. God bless.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Simon. You're very kind. Hugo @ Sonya

[@Indiskret1]

Great and very important discussion which is valid wherever you may live.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks! Hugo & Sonya

[@thom-bennett-tailoring]

It doesn't cost to be a gentleman. Lovely chat from you both.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Thom! Cheers, Hugo & Sonya

[@polawattantiransee3410]

Hello Hugo, glad to see your new video. I would like to ask you a favour if you can give us guidance about how to dress in the summer (especially tropical area) as a sartorial enthusiast. It's really hot and humid out here in Thailand so it's pretty hard to pull off a full suit like in Europe. Thank you!

[@billyriedel6449]

You can wear a linen or seersucker suit

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Yes sir. Linen, seersucker coton and tropical wool or blends (under 210gr) are your best friends. Cheers, Hugo

[@polawattantiransee3410]

​@@billyriedel6449 I've just looked up the seersucker suit as I've never heard of them before but it looks really comfortable with very interesting textuee. I'm not too fond of linen as it wrinkles pretty easily, but will definitely do more research on seersucker. Really appreciate your recommendation :)

[@polawattantiransee3410]

​@@SARTORIALTALKSThank you for your recommendations! I've been watching your videos for several months and you are the one that made me want to walk on a sartorial path as a new graduated. Definitely looking up for seersucker, but I didn't expect wool to be one of the options as well.

[@polawattantiransee3410]

​@@billyriedel6449 I just went to look up for seersucker suit and it looks really comfortable with interesting pattern as I am really fond of cotton. Really appreciate your recommendation!

[@hikintrailsndrinkinales]

Love the sartorial talks. Keep it up!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We will. Thank you very much! Hugo

[@Dimitris_1987]

Hello Hugo and Sonya! Have a nice sartorial weekend!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You too Dimitris! Cheers, Hugo

[@jimvari1909]

You've got to be a man first before you can be a gentleman. John Wayne in McLintock!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

That's right! Hugo

[@azuresea8086]

Brilliant and impactful conversation. Even a Carl Jung reference included!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much. All our best, Hugo & Sonya

[@jonhope1204]

Thoroughly enjoyed your conversational points which I feel 'should' come naturally from everyone to make the world like a family :- )

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you John! Hugo

[@Bernard2065]

love this moment, i've learned a lot in english

[@charlesp5419]

I am a young 19yo man, I don't have a lot of money as a student, but I realised that peoples around me won't remember the cost of what I could have given them, but if I had to disappear, they would remember the way I was with them. That's why acting as much as possible genlemanly is really important to me, and I try to improve every day.

[@romanessen]

Greetings form Tallinn, Estonia.

[@davidbiagini9048]

I think you have captured the essence of being a gentleman.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks David! Hugo & Sonya

[@richardberthiaume9319]

Incroyable conversation de vous deux Hugo et Sonya. Vous êtes formidables. Tellement pertinent comme discussion. Je vais me servir de cette vidéo pour propager ses propos si importants et enrichissants. Toutes mes félicitations 🙏👌

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Merci beaucoup Richard! Amicalement, Hugo

[@Krakow725]

Fantastic video 🙏

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks! Hugo & Sonya

[@chaca500]

All good things take time and being a gentleman/ lady will take a lifetime.

[@goldman2188]

Being a gentleman in our very modern time is requesting to be smart, mentally stability (while balancing), being a problem solver for others and of course keep fashion as cultural, leisure and to be a proper therapeutic tool.

[@Spotfashion.pokhara]

Love from Nepal 🇳🇵 Hugo 😊

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Wow Nepal! Greetings from France! Hugo & Sonya

[@regisbarou4922]

Congratulations for this new and interesting episode. Sharing your point of view at the same time about the same subject is for sure an added value. May I mention an other point ? Why do we never talk about Gentlewomen ?

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We do Regis, very often. Cheers, Hugo

[@HatovimLeTayis]

I love what your wife says about remembering. Whenever we are waiting in a cue, rather than thinking about our stalled objective, we can utilize this time to remember and reflect. This way, an initially annoying delay can become a treat to the soul. And we will stand out from this cue of irritated and frustrated people without even moving our lips. It will both puzzle and attract others waiting in line. Brilliant!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Many thanks sir. I agree, this is a most brilliant intuition. Best, Hugo

[@stedmays2768]

THE DIFFICULT ISSUE OF BEING A GENTLEMAN IN AN ADVERSARIAL SITUATION --- thanks for youtube, enjoyed it.....would be interesting to do a followup youtube on "being a gentleman in difficult situations," for example when one sees mistreatment, small mindedness, bigotry, rudeness, etc. This is an interesting issue that goes to the core of speaking one's truth in the face of injustice or bad behavior. Just a thought.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Nice suggestion. We'll consider this. Thank you! Hugo & Sonya

[@jekabsd]

Thank you so much for the wisdom and philosophy of gentleman manners! It is a pleasure to listen to both of you. Does the gentleman rules apply to women as well? What we discussed seems pretty universal. I would be curious to know what you say

[@ankurbamne7155]

You are a male by birth, man with age and gentlemen by your virtues. Dear Hugo and Sonya, I am a huge fan of your content. Keep the good work going. 🙏

[@veneficarius]

great talk ! thank you

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You are very welcome! Hugo & Sonya

[@nudaveritas6322]

Always perfect explanation........................--------------------------

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks! Hugo

[@domi7171]

Love video’s like this, and believe that one as this can teach next generations about humanity in general. I have always did my best and will keep on doing. So as we all can…can’t we? 🙏 Than live is good, even is you live poor, because than one can rely on one another . That’s wat matters, people around you, not yours or there bank account, does it?

[@HardyBunster]

Being a gentleman you also have to learn to say no. Putting others before yourself leads to many people demanding your time and they won’t stop until you have nothing left.

[@mawrmcmahan]

I was raised to be a gentleman as I had a very dignified grandmother who emphasized a Victorian style of etiquette. As a young man, I was ridiculed. In my twenties, women found it to be a suspicious behavior. Nevertheless, I persisted and now that I am much older, it tends to work for me... especially with females. I have been told (many times) that I am approachable, kind and an adequate conversationalist... which I am told are rare qualities (?). The only real change that I have consciously made is; "Be nice, but don't be too accommodating".

[@jefffarrow7318]

Great example from this couple.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you very much Jeff! Hugo

[@swissgator6312]

I really enjoyed the discussion. A few comments. Jordan Peterson was asked why he dressed so well during his presentations. He replied "out of respect for my audience" (I may be paraphrasing but that was it essentially). I think that is a very gentleman characteristic and a perfect example given the satorial theme. Moreover, Hugo, I couldn't help notice your nice Mont Blanc pen and when you all mention taking time, for me, writing a handwritten note (usually a thank you) with my Mont Blanc my wife gave me, demonstrates to the receiver that they are truly valued. Finally, to answer your question about why be a gentleman, I feel it is because it helps make the world a little better. Thank you for the opportunity to comment and for you all to take the time for us!