How To Flirt - LS101 ep 12 - ft. Amber's Closet

[@katharinag3283]

my way of flirting is looking at a girl hoping she'll approach me due to her mind reading abilities

[@l.m.8339]

Katharina G 😂😂😂😂 same

[@rerehodge1805]

Meeee tooo

[@autumnmeadow3664]

Same ugh

[@haleypulsipher3033]

Tbh I do this too, and almost 90% of the time id doesn't work lmao

[@DavidLopez-dh4vu]

If (s)he ain't got mind reading powers then I don't wanna be with them anyway

[@WattsTheSafeword]

Me flirting: Do you like bread? Them: Yes, why. Me: I like the way you roll!

[@lazyperfectionist1]

Say! That's actually pretty good! 👍

[@yeat7264]

Thanks i hate it

[@AmbersCloset]

This is GOLD👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽(stealing)

[@theotherbrief]

Puns are the best way to flirt. This has been my TED talk

[@shaylastaniland2169]

Omg this is to much poor Ali hills lol

[@BbyPigeon]

If someone said “can I flirt with you?”, I’d die on the spot

[@UtopianPhantom]

IncipientBeauty I would actually spontaneously combust omfg

[@aaronmarquez5596]

That alone would be far too much to handle

[@IglooDweller]

In a good way or bad way?

[@jessicay8207]

I’d pretend I didn’t hear it. How awkward

[@StillLostInWonderland]

I actually think it would be funny

[@AmbersCloset]

All this practice & I still suck at flirting😔🤣Love you Stevie!

[@rosemarywanjiku8165]

Ur sure you are bad..... u must be kidding

[@FreshAir79]

@AmbersCloset Love flirting, but I hate pick up lines, I think its cheesy. To me flirting is having a light conversation with a lil touch of swag to it and its not force but fluid you feel me... and Amber you are full of swag bruh. I bet just the way you look 👀 at someone that sparks your interest, thats all it takes, and let the rest set itself in order, You ain't nothing but a smooth #DFG You got it bruh, you feel me 💯❤🔥 Much love Stay lit

[@ericcxxxx]

Women don't have to flirt

[@Sacred_Heart333]

Ambers Closet Purdy sure YOU don’t need to flirt😉

[@ShinNorimaro]

Where is the line between flirty and friendly (being present)?

[@iamsorryicantthinkofacoolu4931]

When you are a lesbian with no flirting skills and this happens to be a god sent video for you.

[@josermtz]

Look up Real Social Dynamics and simple pickup

[@iamsorryicantthinkofacoolu4931]

@@josermtz I think I am not blessed with any lesbians around me. So when I do flirt with straight girls, it gets pretty... awkward.

[@josermtz]

@@iamsorryicantthinkofacoolu4931 They don't have to be lesbians. Most girls are bisexual or at the very least bicurious.

[@themoabird]

I feel you girl

[@iamsorryicantthinkofacoolu4931]

@@josermtz well, I wish there were bisexuals/bicurious girls.

[@ashleytomkinson9211]

"Yeah I'm gay, Aren't you!?" Lmfao

[@theotherbrief]

+

[@alexandrafrench]

this is sO useful like not only are u like “yaya let’s flirt!” it’s also “Yes LETS LOVE AND RESPECT HUMAN BEINGS AS WHAT THEY ARE AND BE KIND AND FRIENDLY” and that’s needed in almost every social situation so ahhh i’m glad this exists

[@theotherbrief]

sooooo goooooooood

[@artemislarue5010]

That hoodie looks like the comfiest thing on the planet

[@kerielwatson3197]

I want one

[@lauracraft5746]

Now this is what I need, cause I am soooo bad at flirting. My version of flirting is showing how dorky I can be and seeing if they can handle it.

[@emilyscloset2648]

Basically join the club

[@lesbethtacioni1733]

If dorky is your way of flirting, then you my sweets are fucking awesome.

[@lauracraft5746]

@@lesbethtacioni1733 aweee thanks :)

[@marshalinehamismother]

Ugh just date already

[@breahnasommers1649]

Omg same!!! Except I throw a little (okay A LOT) of awkwardness in there too 😂😂🤷‍♀️

[@lilboybloo]

*AMBER IS TOO FINE FOR THIS WORLD*

[@azdgariarada]

You need a complimentary video to this one about appropriate vs not appropriate reactions to rejection. You touched on it slightly with the "ok, have a nice day" and just walking away when they give you a cold shoulder, but we all know there are many many more ways flirting can go bad. Could be a funny video.

[@ziloe]

Realistically, all of these would have gone bad, because the follow ups post introduction, would have led nowhere in real life, unless the interested party was to ask if they could go somewhere together (like for coffee) or talk another time, i.e asking for a number. That said, people need to stop putting their ego into everything they do. You can be the sweetest peach, but some people don't like peaches and you just have to accept that.

[@ArinnMackenzie]

I really feel like I’m gonna start saying to girls, “hey, can I flirt with you?” And see where it goes. 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[@onceuponamelody]

ArinnMackenzie same 😂

[@greenfire315]

Right? It's like I never thought about being that straightforward but I guess that clears some of the anxiety if you can just establish what's going on or not early on.

[@colombine33]

I usually ask are you gay ? (In English in the text and with a biiiiig smile) and that’s ok buuuuuuut I will try the : Hi would you like to flirt with me ? 🤗

[@carolbuzelim]

If she knows stevie, is a plus

[@quincyz629]

So how did it go ? Hahaha

[@gabriellysoares6318]

Me flirting like that would literally be like: Hi can i flirt with you?? Her: yeah, sure! Me: ... Her: ... Me: ...

[@linguiniperuano]

I wouldn't be able to say hi, so you're ahead of me.

[@beepbeeplettuce2637]

"Ew why?" me when someone says something good about me😂😂

[@SuviTuuliAllan]

Beep beep I'm a sheep

[@ZinniaLP]

Meow meow im a cow

[@micahmosse3876]

I really relate to what you said about adopting the "male gaze.". I didn't even know I was doing it for a long time. Super great video! You always keep it real!

[@ng7862]

HOW IN THE WORLD IS IT POSSIBLE THAT I FIND STEVIE SO ATTRACTIVE??? LIKE DAMN 😵😭❤ Edit: Wow i did not expect so many likes 😁 thanks

[@miagomez2486]

I think evrey one does

[@pamivey8004]

I do

[@SuviTuuliAllan]

Is this flirting?

[@adirmugrabi]

i do too

[@palomaburgos9217]

I love how you always find a way to bring up “consent”

[@evercuriousmichelle]

I have NO idea how to flirt via text. PLEASE make a video on flirting via tinder/phones/etc!!!!

[@elaaekaoka6734]

I flirt with ppl that I'm not into because I feel comfortable but I would NEVER flirt with someone who I'm attracted to it's so scary. Does Anyone do it like that too?? Am I weird?

[@xhevitvata3703]

Sameee girl I'm to shy to flirt with someone I like 😂

[@l.f.9952]

Ela aekaoka I kind of do that too, like I use humor and sarcasm with every one but if I’m attracted to some girl I get scared and won’t use the humor that I am used to. I get weird and act like I don’t care about them at all! I need to change 😫

[@niajasper3449]

Meeeeeeee

[@eial6632]

@@l.f.9952 SAAAAMEEE

[@elaaekaoka6734]

@@l.f.9952 OMG Exactly :'c

[@jeremycoleman2736]

Stevie's not *Creepy!*

[@beaublight]

Not expecting anything is a really good tip. Thanks for another great vid Stevie

[@AppleCore360]

Best "I didn't realize we were flirting but sure" moment I had: I was talking to someone for a bit but she had to get somewhere. "Hey I enjoy your voice so much, can you call me sometime and we'll talk some more" and she gave me her number. I thought that was very cute ^.^

[@maria_manias]

I get the “no expectations” rule and I think it’s awesome, really eye-opening. But I also believe you shouldn’t ignore a person, thats very rude! And I mean ANY person. Just say “Hi! I would really like to be left alone. Thank you.” or something...

[@ellygoya]

i am watching this at a coffeeshop while waiting for my date

[@scarletstarlet773]

beapseagirl good luck

[@pamivey8004]

Good luck!!

[@ArinnMackenzie]

Cuuuuuute! Ask her if you can flirt with her and tell me the answer! 😭😂

[@zaravise5960]

beapseagirl Show her this video and laugh together😉

[@jamilaanderson7505]

beapseagirl 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

[@prosperenfantinylosgeograf2721]

this is one of the best flirting tutorials i have ever watched! and i find the difference with men's flirting tutorials so revealing (they are all about psychologic tricks to seem desirable while you talk about knowing, liking and respecting a human being)

[@Mariah-sd4gu]

My friends tell me I flirt with everyone, but really I'm just trying to be nice and have a friendly conversation. If im actually trying to flirt, I would probably sound dumb. WHY DO PEOPLE MIX THE TWO!!!

[@sg5732]

Girl we are the same!!! When im comfortable and hanging out im really chill and funny. People easily mistake it for flirting and so does my friend. Which sucks because then you have to curve them. But then when Im actually TRYING to flirt...it can get awkward lol. Thankfully I naturally have decent charisma so I don't fuck up too bad but im also weird and quirky so I just feel the shift going in the wrong direction. I've accepted that my hoeing comes naturally, not when trying 😂😂😂😂. #naturalhoe

[@Mariah-sd4gu]

@@sg5732 this reply is everything and literally sums me up pretty much as well 😂 honestly I've learned to ignore my friends when they say anything lmao

[@zetyra8336]

“Hi can I flirt with you?” 😂

[@biancap3943]

if a girl flirts with me and brings up astrology, i’m walking away

[@marym6613]

This is awesome information!!! I’m a baby gay and it’s super hard for me to flirt with women. Idk how to flirt to being with, so this is cool. I’m usually just my awkward self and then when I mention I’m a scientist the person gets all excited lol, I’ll never understand it

[@MeAVE243]

Maybe they like that you're smart and hardworking...and/or maybe they like how passionate you are about your field.

[@marym6613]

Alexandria Virginia idk maybe, but then they think I can’t hold a normal convo about food and stuff, so they try to get me to talk about science lol

[@MeAVE243]

@@marym6613 Aww. Lol. You have to slide into your favorite dish. Haha. I have no idea how, though. Speaking of things that are hot and surprising (volcanoes), I love spicy pepperjack mac and cheese... Lmao. As you can see, I am not any help.

[@marym6613]

Alexandria Virginia Lol this is cute

[@MeAVE243]

@@marym6613 thanks. Haha. I'm glad you enjoyed that silliness.

[@ezrasnyder7278]

Stevie: talks about sex toys Also Stevie: bleeps out curse words

[@ItsTorple]

This flirting was so good I felt secondhand giddiness haha

[@laughwizard5]

The whole "no expectations" thing is so important to emphasize. I feel like I've learned a lot from this video.

[@blahblah3485]

"that could seriously fuck up your feed" LMAO so true. Also, your hoodie looks so fucking comfy.

[@Romewooo]

There is this girl that I gave my gay eyes too and she gave it back at Starbucks, she was the cashier but my mom was next to me so I couldn't flirt. But I'm going back and I'm going to be like, "can I flirt with you"? Instead of my original plan of asking if she's into girls 😂

[@jacksinthehat_4776]

Do you have a update ????

[@Romewooo]

@@jacksinthehat_4776 yeah, I went back several times. She wasn't there anymore, and when I did find her again I was already in a relationship with someone else 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jacksinthehat_4776]

@@Romewooo aw welp thx for the update 😊

[@mia7-411]

*Am I the only one who is sooo creepy whenever I'm into someone? Like, I seems like I'm trying to destroy all my chances by acting weird and ridiculous 😓*

[@therealbubblez91]

If only I was confident enough to talk to a woman

[@annimarshall7773]

"i mostly just wear black-on-black and alternate two cool jackets" *i feel attacked*

[@gillie6624]

Stevie's laugh makes me happy. It's a good laugh.

[@famousfreakinghobo]

you know, i feel like no other flirting 101 video i’ve seen has ever stressed how important it is to have consent to flirt and how to properly respond to a rejection. thank you Stevie, i actually feel like this video will help me in the future. i appreciate that you care more about stressing consent than making a point in your video that “we’re not even gonna teach you how to deal with rejection because these techniques are 100% foolproof!”

[@glitterkitten2203]

I am so happy you have a discount code with them! There was something I really wanted to get but didn't want to pay full price for it. And I just bought it 😍 thank you!!

[@LivingtheMash]

Honestly this is adorable and super helpful. Also my favorite Tinder move: when a person I match with actually reads my profile and responds to it in a thoughtful way before we talk. Can’t STAND when someone clearly doesn’t read it. And that goes for what ever kind of interaction I’m looking for. A hookup/date/relationship, it doesn’t matter. If I can’t tell that you at least recognize me as a person before anything else then I don’t usually respond

[@wildwesley9328]

These work (for the most part) for other types or relationships too. Especially the whole listening to people’s stories and treating them as human beings. For instance, I always try to listen to people and try to understand what they are telling me, but so many times in my life, teammates, or classmates who I’m working with, or sometimes “friends” have either visibly stop listening to me, or cut me off to talk to someone about something else without apologizing or returning to our conversation afterwards, or both. I always try to go with the flow and not let it affect me, but it makes me feel like shit because I am an ambivert and I don’t really talk to people I don’t have a level of trust with or if I’m uncomfortable in the environment. I know I can occasionally talk a lot especially when it’s something I am pretty passionate about, but if you don’t have time to listen to me or if I’m boring you then tell me, don’t add to my insecurities about how much I talk.

[@vgonzalez4565]

Coming out of a relationship but even before I always felt bad at flirting. Like Im told Im smooth and flirty and fun by people I am not even trying to flirt with. But when I actually like a girl I get shy and awkward and tend to stick my foot in my mouth. Really its just about expectations. Or hope. Letting those go and just appreciating the moment that I get to talk to a girl I like even if its for a short time was a game changer for me. Thanks for the tips.

[@carolbuzelim]

I can believe someone flirts back and made stevie speachless hahaha amber has it all I love you both

[@lauraschnitzer4969]

omg the pink sweater matches ur lip color perfectly and i’m kinda obsessed with the look

[@shahyali3569]

The most 2 beautiful people on KZbin collabing.. wow, I wasn't ready for this.

[@emmadarling7953]

this is very great and it also astonishes me how there are so many people out there who really need to watch this video, so thank you kindly for making it

[@tom4ivo]

Having a good laugh helps. Most people, though, don't give themselves permission to laugh fully, like this great laugh here 3:07. (Falling to the floor really sells it.)

[@MilkMostaches]

No expectations, just enjoy your time together. This is so sweet!

[@kuroekawaii1495]

My definition of flirt : Step 1 : Watch my crush from a corner, thinking of all the cool things I could say, so she would find me funny and cool while I will be trying to act normal. Step 2 : Go talk to her. Step 3 : *FREACK OUT* .

[@Ellie-mt7bz]

“People who expect shit are so fuckin bizarre, dude” lmao I loved the way you said that

[@gabycanamar5420]

Amber is SO ATTRACTIVE she just gives off this vibe like ... omg it literally murdered me

[@cgarcia9659]

Not just anyone can pull off purple hair!! You look amazingly beautiful!!! 💜

[@theadventuresofsam6045]

I don't know why I haven't watched this video in a while and I have really needed it!

[@taylorbastian9670]

I love this video because people in the LGBTQ+ community and males are taught to go after what you want like a predator and prey. That's what I was taught so I did that with obviously no success. This video will change my dating life. Thank you Stevie for being you!

[@rosiezacarias5495]

I clicked as soon as I got the notification omg yesss Stevie 😍❤️

[@wursternicole]

Watching this made think of the scene in She's The Man when they're like "Do you like cheese?" "Why yes, my favorite's Gouda." Probably why I'm single.

[@wonderingalbatross2400]

Hey Stevie interesting background music you had around 4:28😅😂🤣

[@OutlanderImagination]

As someone who flirts on Tinder and OkCupid, I love when someone is forward with me about a mutual thing. Someone once asked me about a new album released from a band we both listened to. Primarily the being interested in someone as a person is key.

[@eric_acevedo]

1:29 Stevie just waddling away haha

[@meelane]

i love your videos because it gives me reassurance that other people exist out there in the world who believe in open and honest communication.

[@Mj-gz6dx]

That was the smoothest fucking transition to an AD that I’ve ever seen. And I watch a lot of KZbin

[@maddinicole4679]

“PLEASE FLIRT WITH ME” me too

[@SAPPYKINGING]

Stevie you are awesome. Love all the way from Nigeria.❤.

[@missmalpractice]

the over size pink sweater covering stevie’s lil hands is the CUTEST

[@colombine33]

To me the best video since ever ! Like REALLY ! I Wish could have subtitles for my friends 🙄🤷‍♀️ Thank you Stevie ! That is still a pleasure to see your movies !

[@Jemike5]

Informative. The expectation thing true. Once I form one the dynamic changes instantly.

[@sinnamontongue2167]

5:48 haha I love Amber's facial expressions

[@Jess.do.you.]

5:03 I thought she was holding one of those fluffy pens.... should have known that's not what it was. 😂

[@danipaustian3352]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Loved the whole video but especially the part about not treating people like shit when the feeling isn’t reciprocated

[@guitar_laur]

I HAVENT EVEN WATCHED THE VIDEO YET AND IM ALREADY SCREAMING BC ITS STEPH AND AMBER MY OTP AHHHHH

[@almatsailaukhan9181]

my social ineptitude reaches herebefore unknown levels. on the bright side, i was talking to a friend and she told me that my flirting is adequate, which baffled me because i wasn't flirting. nice to know that my approach to flirting - be yourself and hope they like you - works.

[@verybadmobilevideos8660]

THANK YOU FOR THE ACTUAL EXAMPLES- HOLY HECK 😭💕

[@enbykenz]

sooooo many people need this video wow

[@onlymander]

"People who expect shit are so fucking bizarre, dude." Lmao!! WORD!

[@thedonutladay9757]

Thank you Stevie!

[@asiapugh7137]

"Mostly compliment you and ask about your trauma" hit WAY to fucking hard😂😂

[@goddessathena8396]

Stevie + Amber= omgooooooosh 😍😍😍😍

[@TheAverageSavage1021]

Our Queen 👑 coming through at the perfect time. I fucking love you Stevie! (In a non creepy totally mutual kinda way😂) ❤️💋

[@ankeretief5839]

Me: Do you like chicken? Them: *slightly confused* Yeah sure why? Me: *lifts elbow and smirks* Grab a wing.

[@Lilworrierstar]

You have a glow lamp in background!!!! Introduce us to your plants!! Please xx

[@soulcatch]

Step 1: Be super freaking attractive. No other steps needed.

[@carissajohnson1011]

I already failed

[@SixtySecondYoga]

soulcatch Oops I fail all the steps

[@angelphilic]

TIME TO GO HOME I GUESS

[@ZinniaLP]

Instructions unclear stuck for in the toaster

[@leesoftball1111]

Disagreeeeee

[@folkmore]

stevie’s content always outsells

[@musicwakesme]

"that could seriously fuck up your feed" haha priorities

[@LindseyObrooke]

lmfao at Amber, "please get out of my face."

[@niajasper3449]

You see. I can flirt without trying it's so easy. But then as soon as it looks like me and said person might end up together I cant do words

[@jackcoolbean1505]

I think you're the only person who can casually say "I go to bdsm parties all the time" without sounding weird

[@xxxRobstenxxx]

OMG YES. YES YES YES. I NEEDED THIS VIDEO. THANK YOU STEVIE. THANK YOU AMBER. I haven't watched yet but I am about to and I'm so excited!

[@jessicalee163]

So helpful. Thanks Stevie!!!!

[@monserratmonroy1071]

Thank you so much for this video!! For some reason I always find it hard to explain this to my male friends but now I have this cool video that I can show them :)

[@IglooDweller]

3:51 Who could say 'no' to that smile?

[@94badwolf]

Omg your going on tour that is amazing! I would love to see you in person.

[@jinxesvixen9978]

This was amusing to watch, who knew steve could stutter. 🤣

[@Moonlit.Marauder]

Asking someone if you can flirt with them is SUCH A GREAT MOVE.

[@sararastakhiz3268]

I love that hoodie you are wearing!

[@willinwoods]

Yay, IRL flirting FTW! Really good advice, well illustrated.

[@Mandrake_root]

Tbh I only used tinder for friends over the summer and the most successful conversations is when people begin by asking me a question about something in my bio. One girl asked me how I dyed my hair a certain color because she also dyes her hair. I also made sure we were on the same platonic page so things didn't get awkward later

[@oliviaheuermann8531]

damn how flustered did amber get stevie at the very start. she teachin us because she the master,

[@meganh5657]

Hey Stevie I live in Ireland and I don't think it's a safe place to come out in my school. There is literally no lgbtq+ sex Ed but the teachers all say they support it. The majority of Irish teens are homophobic and they don't even realize it. Everytime they use being gay as an insult it really hurts me. Even my closest friends would say something like that without knowing what they're saying. I'm not out at my school.( You can prob tell why) Your videos really help me come with everything and you help me accept who I am. Thank you for helping and teaching me about everything other people aren't comfortable talking about. You're a lifesaver.

[@helRAEzzzer]

😂😂😂😂 "Wow! You're so mean! You're probably gay anyway..." *baffled* "Yeah, I'm gay! ....Aren't you??!"