Saving Your Marriage From Divorce - David Clarke Part 1

[@jeanstreet9545]

Hard to save a marriage when only one person is working on it

[@miriam9775]

Same here. Sometimes there are things you are not able to change. Sometimes we need to respect the decision (active or passive) of the other spouse. It hurts. But we need to go on, and use our strength for the lords purpose. Often, he can not use our abilities, when we are only focused on this one unsolved thing. We need to go on. It hurts to write it like this. I hate, that I can not save our marriage.

[@mariamorris7162]

Yep. Didn't work for me either

[@MrAllysonn]

Yes!!! That's also why I left. Set Me free 😊

[@skipdog9912]

Seriously. Where I’m at. Wife threw in the towel, still trying to hood it down!

[@GwenArlene8181]

Yes, esp. if the other person just doesn't want to have to WORK on the marriage any longer, they just want to get away!

[@daleknicely8812]

I missed the message from my wife. I love her dearly. She has been trying and telling me. I worked all the time and thought that work, fixing things, providing was what we do as men. I did not take care of her emotionally. We have 7 kids and home school. Really need some prayer and to let my wife know that it is not about me but about her. I love her very much and feel lost. She is a special person!

[@TheEllaTB]

Glad you at least see it and have the courage to admit it. A place to start might be The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

[@alenkamoore7262]

We also home educate our two kids and is hard work just with two so can’t even imagine how hard it must be for her with 7. She needs lots of adult love and hugs. Hope you both work it out 💛💛

[@amom2go101]

It's about both of you! You both matter and that's the point ! It just needs to be consideration on both sides and tools and communication of that so that both parties can understand honestly how the other one is feeling when they express something

[@bahatiwanjiku7262]

May GOD save my marriage.Its been four months of separation.Its has not been easy.

[@edenalemayehu1003]

we're with you in prayer and God is good. Trust in God and surrender to Him.

[@davidm4566]

I'm at 4 months separation now. How did it go?

[@LarryA-w4j]

Why did you get a divorce in the first place it takes 2 people to make a marriage work sign Cynthia Smith

[@Angebaby1237]

I have to say I’m so thankful I’ve found this channel!!! I don’t feel alone in this process. As far as I am from a healthy marriage….this gives me hope!!

[@skipdog9912]

Chris rock said it best. Marriage takes both people. It’s easy to move a couch with 2 people, now try doing that alone!

[@TheVua1]

Let’s do better. God help me to do better. Praying to come through this stronger

[@kdwalters4146]

THank you for posting this video---looking forward to the next part.....will be attending an Intensive next week---and praying that my husband and I can find our common pathway to coming through this cloud over our marriage......He acknowledges God---but has left Him at the door knocking...he is resisting so hard out of fear.....fear of not knowing how to live without the anger and bitterness he has carried for decades....I am praying for ALL the couples who will be in attendance --- that the Lord will have HIS way with all of us....and will SHine throughout the week....and praying that the Truth is presented in a way that doesn't cause my husband to run away-----but to our Father....please help me pray that I can be the wife God knows my husband needs! Thank you for all you do!

[@googlecritic2773]

How are things going now?

[@DJAntonetti]

I think the most frustrating thing about these marriage tips is that my wife and I don't fit the "typical" picture of how men and women are or act. Every time it's said "Men do this" or "women do that", it's the opposite for us

[@davidm4566]

That might be a problem though. Idk, try doing the tips for the wife toward her husband and your wife do the tips for a husband toward their wife. That might work!

[@Howielate24]

Thank you so much for helping hurting couples. The plans you give are so practical and make sense.

[@samuelroberto7400]

Please pray my wife would be willing to attend a marriage intensive 🙏🏼

[@Inkpuls_Content_Solution]

This in an insightful discussion, indeed! Standing for my marriage as in now

[@jeanineberthet1061]

Thank you David Clarke for hitting the nail on the head. We are getting your book. Life for the empty nesters.

[@Bakura60277]

interesting points ,if anyone else trying to find out how to save your marriage try Tarbetti Marriage Improver Tutor (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my neighbor got great results with it.

[@jayvelasquez8374]

Thank you for focus on the family have been a Christian almost my whole life and learning a lot more lately than ever..don’t know if it’s age or just god manifesting at the right time for me.. god bless you guys

[@danilotorres2113]

Sir i am Danilo Torres my wife file a divorce but we fix our problem because we love its and i am the who has falt because of alcohol problem and i deeply sorry and accept its my falt

[@KGB94TV]

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands." Pro 14:1 (KJV)

[@joannaidanele3832]

Its a two string cord. Two need to be on one accord in direction. The Head needs wisdom to,especially for direction and help in communicating with the Wife.

[@framboise595]

@@joannaidanele3832 No it isn't . The woman was created fr the man's sake . Not the opposite. Clarke and co are horrible liars , wolves in sheep clothing who never put the blame on women as the BIBLE does .

[@framboise595]

@@joannaidanele3832 The head needs wisdom ... Who is the wisdom ? CHRIST is . So , the head just has to submit to Christ , his own head.

[@TheEllaTB]

Hard for one person to keep building when the other one is tearing things down

[@KGB94TV]

@@TheEllaTB that is so true!

[@miriam9775]

I would like to know, how to motivate the spouse who only has expectations and does not want to work on the marriage.

[@bolodelicioso]

15 years marriage 3 years trying to save my marriage alone!! Now he left his job and got his 401k and put in a different account. I think it's the time to me wake up!!God help me!!!

[@TheVua1]

Praying for you

[@edenalemayehu1003]

May God help you. God is good all the time.

[@googlecritic2773]

How are things going on now ?

[@avalanchaazteca9106]

🙏🛐✝️📖

[@marymessano3974]

That is my husband. He would not listen to a broadcast like this. Let alone read one of your books. And he is a preacher in the church we started in.

[@amom2go101]

I feel like it does start with your foundational relationship with the Lord . People will always let you down, people have faults, he is unconditional and if you have a strong relationship with him and you truly want to be christ-like these things don't usually prevail. I don't mean to be rude, but if your husband is a preacher and he's treating you like that it is hypocritical... that is someone who is not practicing what he preaches literally

[@Mybestlife46]

My wife has been gone 9 days . Says she wants a divorce . I don’t want the divorce I love her dearly . How do I fix this 😢

[@Imthird2024]

I ordered the book, thank you for creating this. Can’t wait to implement this wisdom. Thank you FOTF and Dr. Clarke for this gem!

[@kaylajordan8458]

This man sounds like a sweet heart!

[@acer4237]

Great information…we are all here when things get rocky, hoping it’s not too late.

[@annettefluit3496]

He's right on; first is the personal relationship with the God, which is communication. Communication is something so powerful in any relationship. If God isn't important, how can the marriage relationship be important? Putting out scriptures is easily done & putting them in application is the other half. It also takes 2 to create a strong marriage. I've come here to find out what I can do to put things in motion from my end.

[@tracydonald7150]

I will love to share my testimony to you all the people in world i got married to my husband about 2 year ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed,fighting about little things he always comes home late at night,drinking too much and sleeping with other women outside i have never love any man in my life except him. he is the father of my child and i don't want to lose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today .few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid,being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so i have nobody to turn to and i was heartbroken. I called my mom and explained everything to her, my mother told me about Dr Babatunde and how he helped her solve the problem between her and my dad. I was surprised about it because they have been without each other for three and a half years and it was like a miracle how they came back to each other. i was directed to Dr Babatunde on his email:[[e-mail]] and explain everything to him,so he promise me not to worry that he will cast a spell and make things come back to how we were so much in love again and that it was another female spirit that was controlling my husband he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe i said OK So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back asking me to forgive him i Am so happy now. So that's why I decided to share my experience with everybody that has such a problem. Contact Drbabatunde the great spell caster on his email addresses ([[e-mail] )or whatsapp Dr Babatunde or CALL him on this number [phone]

[@indrajeetnigamfromagra....4521]

Praise the lord ❤

[@guylepley3107]

Please pray for my marriage urgent

[@KGB94TV]

Guy Lepley what is going on with your marriage?

[@brentonkelly3780]

Please seek counselling from Focus on the Family or your preferred choice of Counseller

[@googlecritic2773]

Is everything better now?

[@MissFrisky1221]

5-7 years?! What if we got to that danger zone within the first week of our marriage? 3.5 years in... we are not doing well.

[@martigresham93]

Get outside help! Good Christian couples and Christian counseling!!! We all need help!!!!

[@googlecritic2773]

How are things going?

[@livi-e3h]

I have this book, but unfortunately it is pushing my spouse away more than it's bringing them closer to the willingness to save our marriage. I think this book is great for marriages with two willing hearts, but for the solo spouse fighting for a marriage that the other wants to end, it isn't really helpful. I keep this book for if/when my spouse becomes willing.

[@ruthsalinas9479]

Please explain what you meant by “it’s pushing your spouse away more than bringing them closer to the willingness to save your marriage.” So they did read the book? I’m in your same situation. I want to save our marriage but my husband wants a divorce. I’m not sure what to do. I’m in crisis

[@johnsonjj117]

@@ruthsalinas9479I found personally, the more I and her family tried to convince my wife she was making a mistake and the more I tried getting her to work on the marriage, the less she wanted to. She didn’t want to get counseling, go to intensives, read book, listen to sermons and the more I tried talking her into doing them and asking her to keep an open heart to the possibility she is wrong, the more convinced she became that she was right and needed to get away.

[@testtestryan2927]

please pray for my marriage.

[@freechild1566]

God help my marriage in my heart

[@dineshbalan2073]

I have spent months researching improving your marriage and found a great website at Pavs Partner Pundit (google it if you are interested)

[@tracydonald7150]

I will love to share my testimony to you all the people in world i got married to my husband about 2 year ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed,fighting about little things he always comes home late at night,drinking too much and sleeping with other women outside i have never love any man in my life except him. he is the father of my child and i don't want to lose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today .few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid,being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so i have nobody to turn to and i was heartbroken. I called my mom and explained everything to her, my mother told me about Dr Babatunde and how he helped her solve the problem between her and my dad. I was surprised about it because they have been without each other for three and a half years and it was like a miracle how they came back to each other. i was directed to Dr Babatunde on his email:[[e-mail]] and explain everything to him,so he promise me not to worry that he will cast a spell and make things come back to how we were so much in love again and that it was another female spirit that was controlling my husband he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe i said OK So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back asking me to forgive him i Am so happy now. So that's why I decided to share my experience with everybody that has such a problem. Contact Drbabatunde the great spell caster on his email addresses ([[e-mail] )or whatsapp Dr Babatunde or CALL him on this number [phone]

[@indrajeetnigamfromagra....4521]

Praise the lord ❤

[@martigresham93]

Amen! This marriage is dead! Take it outback and shoot it! Start anew! God first! Fix it with God first!

[@Ed-vi8lj]

My challenge was what I thought was simple communication. as much as wife wiuld talk, I was often too quick to react or did not probe enough to understand what she was asking. I skiwed down connected and accepted. Accepted is probably key word. We're individuals but a couple.

[@jonathanpuchner985]

I need prayers for my marraige its lost and I'm not willing to give up I have hope but it looks sofar from reconciliation

[@davidm4566]

How did it go? Praying now

[@danilotorres2113]

And the lawyer who file the divorce is telling to my wife rhat she can not do any because its alteady file so me and my wife are not going to continue the divorce what do i gonna do please help because i saved our marriage so with my wife

[@wasilazakari7566]

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

[@Ducky_FN69]

Please pray for healing for all of us.

[@KGB94TV]

"But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety." 1Ti 2:10-15 (KJV)

[@psychemmm]

David is soo real👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@storkdoctor11]

Be careful with this guy . My husband and I drove 10 hours ( missing all kinds of work) in order to counsel with him for several days ( paying out the nose with high hopes ) The first day was ok . The second morning we got completely stood up . Seems he had a “radio interview he suddenly HAD to do” and left us ( paying ) and high and dry . Also, he didn’t even have the courtesy to TELL us this in person . Instead, he sent us an email during a break ?!!! Extremely unprofessional! He’s very charismatic, for sure . Don’t let that deceive you . He also comes across pretty full of himself . I mean these comments as respectfully as I can write them. It blows my mind that FOF still hosts him .

[@margaretayambo1065]

Thank you David. How about if my husband doesn't want to get help,therapy and cancelling but only projecting every thing is my problem? He cheated on me, left me with 5 kids, moved away 5 hours flight for the last 3 years. I wanted to us to to seek for help and start a fresh but he refused to accept help from pastors, families from both sides. I never hated, reject or even have a feeling of divorcing him. What can I do now?

[@Julie-ly8tg]

Margaret Ayambo he may be a narcissist. So sorry to hear that. Prayers to you and your family.

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

What do you do if one of the spouses doesn't want to work on the marriage? Will this still work?

[@Braffet22]

Healthy conflict!! Yes!! "Arguing well"

[@tracydonald7150]

I will love to share my testimony to you all the people in world i got married to my husband about 2 year ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed,fighting about little things he always comes home late at night,drinking too much and sleeping with other women outside i have never love any man in my life except him. he is the father of my child and i don't want to lose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today .few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid,being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so i have nobody to turn to and i was heartbroken. I called my mom and explained everything to her, my mother told me about Dr Babatunde and how he helped her solve the problem between her and my dad. I was surprised about it because they have been without each other for three and a half years and it was like a miracle how they came back to each other. i was directed to Dr Babatunde on his email:[[e-mail]] and explain everything to him,so he promise me not to worry that he will cast a spell and make things come back to how we were so much in love again and that it was another female spirit that was controlling my husband he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe i said OK So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back asking me to forgive him i Am so happy now. So that's why I decided to share my experience with everybody that has such a problem. Contact Drbabatunde the great spell caster on his email addresses ([[e-mail] )or whatsapp Dr Babatunde or CALL him on this number [phone]

[@GwenArlene8181]

What to do about those irreconcilable differences, tho? What if you can't possibly meet them halfway?

[@salsung73]

Thank you for your information ℹ️ I appreciate it and I hope you have a great day 😃🙏😁🤗

[@amyoppenheim2711]

This was excellent!!!

[@andrealmoseley6575]

Interesting about the stats...because in my experience I almost only know women who are spiritually growing and close to God yet they have marital problems. I am active in church and spiritual growth as are my friends. Maybe birds of a feather flock together but way more than 3% of the people I know are in this boat. Almost all my friends have some kind of struggles. Many to the point of needing counseling tho not all, but most.

[@amom2go101]

Everyone is going to have struggles in a marriage... there's opposition in all things in this life, it's what we do with that that matters and it is difficult at times , as many as stated, if you feel like you're the only one trying or doing anything and it's difficult to if you're in a relationship where you may have someone that is very narcissistic. You can tear yourself down thinking there's something wrong with you forever and that is destructive as well. He is totally on point...Satan knows where the weak strings are and he goes at them the minute they come into play and his goal is certainly to pull us away from the Lord, because ultimately, He is the one that can help pull us together, if both parties are willing. We all need to pray for each other and realize that we're not alone in the struggle..husbands, or wives.❤

[@samanthaquant7411]

I don’t think I could easily tell my husband what makes a good conversation.

[@juanbarreto6178]

There are a few ideas for making improvements in your marriage Try to talk more Cooperate with each other more Start to give and take more (I learned these and the reasons they work from Pavs partner pundit site )

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

The man is brilliant. All deniers and deflectors won’t like this

[@incognitoriaanonymousita]

Can't communicate if you're being stonewalled. We are both Christians and we go to church. I read my Bible and pray daily about 97% of the time. My husband does not.

[@joshuat770]

Dr. Clarke made some assertions between 4:30 to 4:45. He called it dumb that the husband said we are alright though his wife says she is unhappy. I will give the doctor a Scriptual response. First Corinthians Chapter 11 Verse 3 says, "3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. " (KJV) First Corinthians Chapter 11 verse 8 thru 9 says, "8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. " (KJV)

[@higsgirl]

So you're saying that if the church had a problem and wanted to talk to God about it - just like many churches do - that God would just say... I don't have a problem so theres not one? No. It works both ways bc God made it that way.

[@joshuat770]

@@higsgirl I don't understand your post. If you are saying God as Husband and Church as His wife, then the church can entreat or pray to God. Just as Christ is Head of His Wife the Church, so is a husband head of his wife on earth. Genesis Chapter 3 Verse 16 says, "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." Clearly it says the wife's desire is to be to her husband, and the husband shall RULE over her. This is God's Command after the fall of man. I choose to believe Scripture, not man's opinion.

[@higsgirl]

@@joshuat770 But you're only believing parts. Just like you do not have to commit the sin there can also be the sin of omission. You're saying wives bow down but you're forgetting that you are COMMANDED too treat the wife as you'd treat yourself and to love her as christ loved the church. And that is His word, not my opinion! You've obviously been hurt by a woman or you just despise them? Idk but either way you need to speak the truth AND the whole truth and dont come on here riding a high horse with me. I choose to listen to Gods word and not your opinion either. And whatever beef you have with women, it probably stems from lack on your part in the first place. In which case BOTH people lose and satan wins. You're here watching this video just like I am but just know that it still goes both ways.

[@joshuat770]

@@higsgirl I believe the whole Bible not just parts. Posting many many scriptures or the entire Bible here is time consuming. Do not think I believe only parts just because I use some scripture to show that Dr. Clark is wrong. It's true husbands love their wives but God defines love not you. Please Give me one scripture that says husbands are to bow down to their wife's emotions.

[@framboise595]

@@higsgirl There has NEVER been as much marital unrest as there is today in this era infested by feminist where most women act like Jezebel , Delilha or Vashti . Woman's true colours have shown and they are dark sadly.

[@stacydelrio1433]

Thank you so much!

[@JSTN88]

Thank you, God bless!

[@jbouse64]

What if the wife is in serious sin?

[@shanewinfrey1723]

I am sure this guy is a good counselor but made everything the man's fault until the interviews corrected him. I will pass on a guy like this. I am hard enough on myself. Don't need another person to add to it.

[@kengy1991]

They mentioned near the beginning that every time he says “the husband does this” he is referring to both the husband and the wife but that just takes longer to say. I’m not sure if you are talking from personal experience with having been counseled by him or just stating what you saw from the video.

[@KGB94TV]

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?" 1Co 7:10-16 (KJV)

[@davidm4566]

What's your purpose for posting this? Most of the people here are trying to save their marriage, that's why they are here. If someone gets left by an unbelieving spouse (even if they claim to be a Christian, the spouse that leaves is acting as an unbelieving spouse), it is not their choice and you are kicking them when they are down.

[@KGB94TV]

@@davidm4566 why should a man have to save his marriage. If a woman wants to leave, let her leave, she was never your woman. “They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.” (1 John 2:19, KJV)

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

@@KGB94TV lol. The man is the initiator of the marriage covenant and the head. So he has the most responsibility for making the marriage work

[@terencewilkins1416]

Can you please provide me with the Bible chapter and verse of the serious sin you said the husband is in 5:36? This is a Christian show but we are getting all the references from your book. What does the Bible say about marriage? Where does it say we I have to be emotionally invested with my wife? I thought Jesus is first then man then woman? Can you explain from the Bible?

[@amandabartley8847]

The serious sin he is referring to is 1) he mentioned the man no longer being intimate with his wife... When we marry, our bodies belong to our spouses (the beginning of 1 Corinthians 7), and 2)..from what I infer, just the "we are married legally but no relationship" mentality doesn't exercise loving your wife as Christ loves the Church, and giving yourself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). I know this guy is a little" in your face", but I think he is trying to give good advice for couples two communicate better and restore their relationships.

[@amandabartley8847]

Personally, the best and most biblical teaching/explanation I have ever studied on the husband and wife role/relationship is by Bob Lepine.. SO worth the watch. He also references the scripture the entire time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol7dd3ZrhbJqiMk

[@joshuat770]

@Terence Wilkins You are asking the right questions

[@redeemedone672]

What if someone doesn't want to save her marriage.

[@googlecritic2773]

Sounds like number #2 of the couple

[@jayrocky9067]

I have the same issue with my wife of 14 years.. we’ve been separated for almost two years

[@KGB94TV]

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." 1Co 11:3 (KJV)

[@joshuat770]

Beginning at 2:50 to 3:00, Dr. Clarke seems to belittle and attack the main 3 things of the husband's job and role that Scripture Commands a husband to do. The Scriptures say this is what a husband is suppose to do for his wife. Exodus chapter 21 verses 10 thru 11 says, "10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. 11 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money. " (KJV) According to the Scriptures, the husband is commanded to provide his wife with: 1) Food 2)Clothes/Shelter 3)The duty of marriage or Conjugal Rights But Dr. Clarke says doing what the Scriptures Command is not enough. Dr. Clarke has at least 30 years experience and has written a book. God has over 5,000 years of experience and has written the Greatest Book ever that we call the Bible. I choose to obey God rather than man.

[@nectarioslafharis2149]

Dont forget unconditional love forgiveness love like christ loved the church

[@joshuat770]

@@nectarioslafharis2149 It is true the husband is to Love his wife as Christ Love the Church. For clarity I will paste what God's Word instructs BOTH the WIFE and HUSBAND to do. Ephesians Chapter 5 Verses 22 thru 33. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. The Word of God commands wives FIRST to submit to their own husbands as unto the Lord. Verse 22 alone goes against the teachings of David Clarke because David says the husband should submit to the wife. Verse 23 commands that the husband is the HEAD of the wife. The wife is not the head of her husband. Husband is compared to Christ. Wife is compared to Church. Verse 24: The church does not tell Christ what to do, the Church does not rule over Christ, the Church can not save Christ. It's the other way around because the Church is subject to Christ. So is the wife commanded to be subject to their husband IN EVERYTHING. Verse 25 commands husbands to Love their wives and give himself for her like Christ for the Church. Verse 26 thru 39 details the commands on HOW the husband should love and give himself for his wife like as Christ for the Church. Verse 26, husband is to sanctify and cleanse wife by the waters of the Word of God. Christ does the same for the Church. Verse 27, Husbands are to use the Word of God to cleanse every spot, wrinkle, blemish from his wife. Example is when the wife is in her emotions or worried or unhappy, the husband is supposed to quote some Word to her to cleanse that blemish of unhappiness or wrinkle of worry. He is NOT suppose to do EVERYTHING she wants just to make her happy like David Clarke suggest because Christ does not do EVERYTHING the Church wants just to make it happy. Christ has purpose in everything He does. So the husband must know the Word of God before getting a wife. Then the husband can present his wife TO HIMSELF a glorious wife just like Christ for the Church. Verses 28 & 29, goes back to Exodus Chapter 21 Verse 10. Husband is commanded to provide food, clothes, and duty of marriage. Husband takes care and loves his own body or flesh and so he must do so for his wife. Husband is to nourish his wife which is to feed her and provide food. Husband is to cherish his wife which is clothing her, providing shelter, keeping her warm. And husband is to perform the duty of marriage to his wife or conjugal rights. Even so the Lord does all these things for the Church. Verses 30 thru 32, just as the Church is of Christ's Body, Flesh, and Bone even so the wife is of the body, flesh, and bone of her husband. It's not the other way around. Genesis Chapter 2 Verses 21 thru 24 is alluded to here in the Book of Ephesians. The woman was taken out of the man, the man was not taken from the woman. The woman was made for the man as a helpmeet, not the man for the woman. Verse 33 in summary commands husband to love his wife as himself and wife see that she reverance her husband. David Clarke goes against everything the Bible teaches and commands husbands and wives. He switches the roles of husband and wife causing them to sin against God if they do what he says. David Clarke's methods destroys families and is not in line with God's Word in the slightest. David Clarke recommends his book or talk to a pastor but NEVER does he recommend the Bible. Jesus Christ and Paul spoke of people like him who lead the sheep of God to destruction and block them to the way of life. Davis Clarke should be ashamed of himself for deliberately deceiving husbands and wives who really want to do right and want their marriages to thrive. Not making your wife happy IS NOT a sin according to the Word of God but David Clarke says it is a great sin. Not doing what God says to do is a sin. God inspired the Bible and has over 5 thousand years of experience on the subject of marriage compared to David Clarke's 20 to 30 years of experience. I'd take my chances with God. As it says in Romans Chapter 3 Verse 4, Let God be True and every man a liar. I hope this helps. Doing marriage God's way from His Word is the ONLY fulfilling marriage. I challenge everyone to filter everything they learn or hear in this world through the Word of God. Blessings to you!

[@higsgirl]

@@joshuat770 He's assuming that anyone watching this already goes to the bible first bc he does. What are you trying to say here by reading into things that aren't there. Sounds like a scorned perspective and pulling ONLY what you want to hear from the bible? I could be wrong, just trying to get a better understanding?

[@joshuat770]

@@higsgirl I'm a student of the Bible. The Bible is the "measuring stick" . If books and pamphlets written by people do not agree with the Bible, then they are wrong and the Bible is always right. The Bible is the inspired Word of God and I choose to believe it. Shalom!

[@wayfaringstranger493]

@@joshuat770 do you have a reference for Godly counsel regarding sexual betrayal?

[@annatevesbanzon1359]

This author is on fyah!

[@Kouloves-29]

Fabulously fabulous 🌹🌹🌹

[@DSmith-vi9on]

Where’s part 2 ❤

[@KGB94TV]

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." Col 3:18 (KJV)

[@MaryAnnFriesen]

Although this is biblical and true I am sick of this verse.Much abuse in our home using this.

[@davidm4566]

@@MaryAnnFriesen this verse does not condone abuse. It is a guide that shows how to act. The man's role how to act is part of it; abuse is not showing love to the wife (or husband; wives abuse their husbands, too).

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

@@davidm4566 agreed, but if the husband or wife is abusive (not the average person) then this won’t work.

[@JS-wb3jv]

Frustrated at first then they addressed it. Not just Men... He did this he wont change. This is a cliche that puts men at a disadvantage from the start. Unfortunately I'm so many situations focus is how can he repent. What changes will he do if he CARES AND LOVES. Thanks for at least saying Wemon and Men. Now let's fix the victim mentality from each.

[@davidm4566]

The guy in the blue shirt sitting alone had a man bias. The guy in the glasses called him out on it and he acknowledged it, but never stopped doing it.

[@usa2342]

Everyone need to hear Christian cognitive neuroscientist Caroline Leaf! She’ll teach you, how we can take control of our minds and what happens when we let negative thoughts in our brain.

[@Guyfrom-dg7ek]

David always seem to blaming the man for all marriage troubles, which is not helpful as a marriage counsellor and shows gender bias against men. Wives need to be submissive and respect the husband’s opinions too, not just the husband loving the family by sacrificing outside the home (e.g. working hard) and not get appreciated for it at home. Sometimes wives can be very demanding on their husbands too, to the point that the man can’t handle it any more, especially in this feminist era.

[@melcryarfineart]

it was stated in the video that he is using the term "male" or "husband" to refer to either spouse, for simplification

[@joshuat770]

@Guyfrom 1980 You speak truth. Those who love and know God's Word can see you speak truth.

[@JS-wb3jv]

Yes he may have mentioned it but still why not keep it in the she hers perspective. It's so frustrating. The focus always seems to be how HE is emotionally clueless or withholding but it could be he is witholding out of self preservation. It's safe to say love oneself so you can love others. Ask God to help reveal who you are and know he loves you amd you can take your love and share with others. How is that possible when her need is " deep level communication" with her yeah that is always focused on HIM... he dont show love, HE did this wrong HE didnt do this and it must be on purpose let's "DEEPLY COMMUNICATE" about that EVERYDAY and every conversation defaults back to this! If the man is showing love apparently that means he is willing to go thru this "Deep level" torture daily. She calls him out for everything and he "listens & Apologizes & owns it" then she gets what she needs isnr that great. He listened!! He communicated... no! He just got torn through, hes left there an hour or two later having been kicked around , self esteem down 10 points but yippee were communicating. Blah!!! Let's talk about not blaming. Or not holding records of wrong. Let's BOTH become accountable

[@framboise595]

@@joshuat770 He speaks the truth that is hated by all the abominable FOF feminists .

[@davidm4566]

So true. Women are *just as likely* to be emotionally abusive as men. They can also do physical abuse as well.

[@KGB94TV]

How can anyone save their marriage from divorce if you are encouraging women to hire a lawyer and file for legal separation/divorce? "Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints? Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church. I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren? But brother goeth to law with brother, and that before the unbelievers. Now therefore there is utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded? Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren." 1Co 6:1-8 (KJV)

[@KGB94TV]

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." Eph 5:22-24 (KJV)

[@andrealmoseley6575]

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[@framboise595]

@@andrealmoseley6575 He focuses on the most important point , the one that is being intentionally suppressed today by wolves like Clarke and co . And that poison has crossed the borders. The whole Europe is infested by this feminist virus demanding that husbands love their wives just to end up totally emasculated by them because this love thing is not paired with submission anymore. I can testify it. I heard exactly the same in my own church . In Europe. There is a devastating spirit all across the western world. Focusing on wifely submission is THE key to marital bliss. Because the woman was made the man's sake . Not the other way around. Notice that wives submit always comes FIRST in every marriage instruction . Those men are horrible liars that have disfigured the Truth .

[@davidm4566]

This one makes sense. If husbands and wives would follow the Bible there would be no divorce among Christians.

[@KGB94TV]

@@davidm4566 70 to 80 percent of divorce is initiated by Christian women. “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” (1 Peter 3:1-2, KJV)

[@Justyna8097]

If your are a man read whats for man. Stay away from whats writte for ladies.

[@KGB94TV]

"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement." 1Pe 3:1-6 (KJV)

[@reymundagehart8720]

Was this man married to Paula White ? Why did they divorce ? Did she cheat on him ? ...🤔 just curious

[@JS-wb3jv]

Yes he may have mentioned HE/SHE applying to both but still why not every so often keep an entire video in the she hers perspective?! It's so frustrating. The focus always seems to be how HE is emotionally clueless or withholding but it could be he is witholding out of self preservation. It's safe to say love oneself so you can love others. Ask God to help reveal who you are and know he loves you and then you will be better able to love and share that love with others. How is that possible when her need is " deep level communication" well apparently deep level communications is allowing her freedom to express how he ........insert horrible man topic here.... communication is always focused on HIM... he dont show love, HE did this wrong HE didnt do this and it must be on purpose let's "DEEPLY COMMUNICATE" about that EVERYDAY and every conversation defaults back to this! For the man to truly show love apparently that means he is willing to go thru this "Deep level" torture daily. She calls him out for everything and he "listens & Apologizes & owns it" then she gets what she needs and off she goes. isnt that great?. He listened amd he apologized!! He communicated... No! He just got torn through, hes left there an hour or two later having been kicked around , self esteem down points but yippee were communicating. Probably apologized because he caved and there's a 10000 tasks he needs to do b4 tomorrow or he will hear about it in tomorrows rant....Blah!!! Were Communicating. No hes tired amd it would only make the session 6 hours if he put his truth on the table. Let's talk about not blaming. Or not holding records of wrong. Let's BOTH become accountable. Let's respect that it takes two.

[@asamusicdude]

Women initiate 80 percent of divorces and it mostly for financial reasons.not a bad husband

[@rl1890]

Sad but true

[@longredroad4249]

First I am glad you are trying to help and I suspect you are helping many, carry on and help ever more where you can. But the truth is sometimes it is just time to cut your losses. Splitting up should never be the first choice but is it still a valid choice. The juice is simply not worth the squeeze for many of us. In general I don't believe marriage should be entered into for most men today, you are not marrying a woman you are marring the state. I don't hate the player, I just hate the game.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Troy Wayne it’s sad that’s its come to this but that’s not Gods plan , it’s the enemy’s, don’t fall for it .

[@longredroad4249]

to finish my story if you are interested, feel free to ignore; Statistics say we are have a happy marriage, we are still marred after 37 years and because of that most infer that I am happy, satisfied and we have a wonderful life.... Statistically they point to us and say look at that success! There is one right there get married guys it really can work!!! However don't ask me if I would ever do it again, don't ask me why it is cheaper to keep her, don't ask me what over 10 years in a sexless marriage is like. I have a roommate, a great friend, a reliable businesses partner. We have learned to each go our own way, we live parallel lives in the same house. You don't need to marry the state and sell yourself into slavery for that. Yes just living the 20% success dream........... I wish I had been wise enough to listen to Paul and to follow him. and like before, I don't hate the player, I just hate the game, sometimes the only winning move is not to play.

[@kaygall4973]

Something is not right with this guy.

[@chelsadangelo1395]

Unfortunately Clarke believes that you can use any excuse to divorce. You just have to twist scripture to make it ok. I'm not sure why anyone should take his advice if he can't even be honest about the very specific prohibitions against divorce. Include reading the obvious meaning s of the scriptures he twists. Sadly he has found it more profitable in abusing men and selling his books and really bad advice sessions. His advice has destroyed a friend of our's marriage. Focus needs to recognize his teachings as those of a false teacher. Either you save it or decimate it, what is it Focus on the Family?

[@saritaxd7738]

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[@andrematthews8730]

Tired of all these videos focusing on the man. It’s my wife on this one.

[@hushanimation2855]

Even when they focus on the man, a woman still included in the problem. Facts.

[@davidm4566]

Same. Women are 100% just as capable as being the problem in a marriage as the man. Watching these videos in the comments you see men and women reaching out for prayer and standing in their marriage against a prodigal spouse.

[@lluvleylex9358]

Haha I rather raise my children’s alone instead of being of toxicity marriage.

[@framboise595]

How to save your marriage from divorce ? Easy . Don't let wives run the show anymore.

[@indrajeetnigamfromagra....4521]

Praise the lord ❤

[@KGB94TV]

David Clark reconcile your comments with the Bible. You are leading a lot of silly women to hell! You literally breaking up good homes with children in them. Show me in the Word of Yah that support your counsel. "Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." 2Ti 3:5-7 (KJV)

[@andrealmoseley6575]

The broken marriages are coming to him. He is not breaking them up. He has done more to help marriages than most people.