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It can be scary to go back out into the world and try to find love when you've had your heartbroken so many times before. In this video, I reveal how to push past this fear and move into finding the love you've been searching for.
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[@wendyh.9363]

"it's not that you don't trust yourself, it's that you don't listen to yourself" To thine own self be true.

[@mrmoe110]

Most "intuition" I see people talk about nowadays is just fear though. They never "intuitively" know when someone is good for them, they just "intuitively" know someone will be bad for them.

[@_Lush_Cosmos_Collective_]

I have a gut feeling that my bf is the right one for me.. ive even (i understand if you dont follow my faith its fine) asked God for guidance and He keeps telling me that my bf is the one for me, but im still scared that it wont work

[@jenniferleigh1674]

This is so true!

[@miina_dreams4859]

Wow

[@aprajitasharma6014]

Soo true

[@hannahhenderson271]

@@_Lush_Cosmos_Collective_I get it. I had the same thing happen to me. I prayed and I was convinced that God wanted me to marry my bf at the time. He got stationed overseas for 2 years and he began ghosting me for about a year. Then he had the audacity to post a pic of him on FB proposing to another girl.

[@MsSmashone]

I think we will always be hurt and disappointed by people. Its inevitable. Part of growing is learning to protect yourself set better standards and boundaries so that you can at the end of the day say you did try your best. I think true love is rare because I think people allow the evil in this world to overcome them instead of choosing a path that is right but also tough. Relationships are so hard and when it gets tough people get scared and choose destructive paths instead of taking on the hard work of looking at themselves and going through those growing pains with themselves and their partner.

[@MusicMusings88]

Totally!

[@evangelinedrummer3615]

today I am goong on a first date after getting over a toxic relationship. took me 4 years to heal. pushed people away and now I am faced with someone who wants to love me and I am scared to death of intimacy. please pray for me that I'm able to be abke to be open to love and feel safe to be vunerable again

[@amendajerry504]

I understand exactly how you feel, especially when you have given your all. May this new relationship be the best you will ever have.

[@bogdanbabic9902]

Heyy how is it been please answer

[@audreyd1787]

I’m suicidal every time I go through the emotional pain.. so yes it can kill me.

[@369ZIR]

Fix your shit first then. Being in a relationship should be the last thing you worry about. Don’t bring that kind of struggle onto someone else. Hope you get better. Head up queen. Your crown will fall off.

[@Happygabby12345]

@@369ZIR they might have BPD. therefore u telling them to fix their “shit” is sheer idiocy

[@ff-1971]

@@369ZIR maybe so, but don't think you know what people go through. Days can turn to nights in a second.

[@energeticstunts993]

@@Happygabby12345 they MIGHT. Also BPD is not an unsolvable issue. Just like Aids, you can take meds and try living a healthy lifestyle to limit its effects, it's not that you HAVE to be suicidal, the chances of you being suicidal is just a lot higher. Also everyone who gets suicidal during a breakup or any point in time seriously needs to go to a doc. And before getting into a relationship, I think it's bad to not first solve your mental health issues

[@marylnmonroe]

That’s not good you gotta work on that because no person or situation should ever make you want to end your own life.

[@AmandaNazzalCreative]

This is awesome "no breakup is going to kill you...embrace the challenge as an opportunity to grow" -- YES to all of this.

[@ff-1971]

Bad breakups can definitely kill people. Especially when you have emotionally destroyed the other person.

[@bopperette7260]

@@ff-1971 Facts

[@ID-dh5wj]

Risk is part of love life, I agree. But I find it really hard to recognize if my inner voice is the wisdom of identifying a red flag, or just fear of getting hurt.

[@noraa2199]

4 months ago I get to know this amazing guy and we decided to move forward and because it was a long distance relationship. A single dad with children. We shared the same values and priorities in life. I gave my all and sacrifice my time my sleeps, and due to distance I ensure that communication is strong and consistent. But as time pass by., I feel as I was the one making all the efforts and the sacrifices. I was frustrated. I was sad because I give my all to make things work. I was hurt, feeling unworthy and unwanted. I talked to him about it, about what i want but it felt on deaf ears. Finally I took the courage to let go. To stop contacting him. I thought that would make him think about thr whole thing and maybe he would reach out to me but well he went ghosting on me. It left me with a big dent bitter and hard to trust people again. Love is beautiful but it is not for the faint hearted.

[@waiki8223]

Jeez I hear you girl, am myself guilty of “throwing pearls in front of the pigs”... Hurts a lot!

[@autumnakins7640]

He clearly wasn't one worthy of your attention. You can do better.

[@amymorgan7222]

Yes it is really hurt to fall in love and ended with a broken heart. I'm scared to take a risk too after all

[@joycecorwell848]

All relationship are doom to fail im sorry that happen to you but I hope you just love yourself because today ppl aren't capable I don't want to get hurt let down or dissapointed again an if I was to open myself up to the next person it will end the same way

[@marylnmonroe]

Yeah it can be scary I’m working through it in therapy now myself but I guess like the video said with love comes risk but I guess that’s all types of love even for friends and family

[@laetitiannyoung6545]

But how many broken hearts? Like when enough is enough of being hurt?

[@juliannatrure6319]

Amen.Like how many frogs do i have to kiss to get to the prince?

[@Chefelicole]

Chun Jax word

[@jonathanpinzon6468]

I think as many times as it takes, actually this kind of pain makes me do things I normally wouldn't do and I get in better shape than before.

[@jamieseiple]

@@juliannatrure6319 just my opinion but I would never kiss a frog expecting something good out of it. Bad always leads to bad. You want a prince? Look for a prince.

[@juliannatrure6319]

@@jamieseiple It was a joke, but in all reality there are a lot of frogs out there. I don't want to force things and I don't think women in general have to *LOOK* for a prince. They should wait on one to look for them or appear in their life. Looking is for desperate people. Patience with positivity is key

[@ikin3301]

Best coach ever, love the way you explain things, thank you !

[@MutedHijrah]

I gotta say your videos are so helpful. I love the insight you give on the stages of relationships,listening to your gut and trusting in ones resiliency. Information is quick,honest and easy can do advice! Love this channel!

[@MatthewCoast]

Thank you for making this video! I appreciate all of the advice. Keep up the good work!

[@misslm267]

I almost gave up on finding love today. I love these videos, you are awesome Matt. :)

[@SoramiUchiha]

I just got back into a relationship after one of..several nasty breakups. It's sad that I can't seem to get the same kind of security I offer to my partners, and so even now, I am afraid to trust in my current partner fully. This video did help a bit. Though somehow accepting that there is a risk makes me feel like I'm going to go through this relationship with a voice constantly telling me that something can go wrong and I'm not really sure how to cope with that.

[@misst8771]

wow...i love this video....one of the best you've made. keep up the good work.

[@sonias9722]

I was hurt and avoided relationships for a long time. Then I decided I have to try again and be vulnerable. Then I got hurt again

[@austinroberts6229]

Damn

[@tink30i]

Hey, Matt! I'm an avid fan of you and your videos. You are a divine messenger helping us, women, to heal our wounded hearts. I can always resonate with each topic you discussed. I can sob with it, but at the same time you can make me giggle with your comic gestures. Thank you for shedding us enlightment about complicated and confusing relationship statuses. More power!

[@michpotgieter4902]

THANK YOU - needed to hear this - much appreciated

[@Ellaangel78]

Hi Matt thanks for awesome video.

[@tammierusby444]

You are right. I saw the red flags and my intuition was telling me many times to leave and I ignored it because I loved him and genuinely wanted the relationship to work. He wasn't right for me and we wanted different things and we're in different places in our lives and I'm learning and growing and I'm going to learn from this and I'm going to listen to my intuition next time. I finally allowed myself to love and let somebody in and it felt great. I'm not going to let this heart break that I'm going through prevent me from loving again. It does hurt really bad and I do believe that after I do the work on myself I will find somebody who is right for me. And now I know what I don't want in a man and I know what all of the red flags are and so I'm enjoying this journey of learning about myself. Don't let the heartbreak harden your heart because that person you were with was not right for you and there is a right person out there for you do the work heal move on and get yourself back out there because you deserve to be loved by the right person

[@stephanieyeboah-mensah6427]

mat boggs u have said it all. we have to listen to that small voice and act on it rather then ignoring it, thanks for this great message

[@terezahristovski6004]

Thank you for your advice. I really connect with what you're saying!

[@Devotionorange]

You are awesome thank you for your posts Mathew. Very encouraging and uplifting to folks who desire authentic romance.

[@heathermcalister9919]

Thank you for the words of wisdom! I met a really great guy recently and things have been going so well, but it also scares the crap outa me! This was very good advice, gotta be in it to win it!

[@tranesethehairstylist]

Great, great video! Very helpful.

[@damngoodlife1307]

This video s so relevant. I had just missed a great opportunity because of my fear to get hurt again. He is looking for a relationship. He presented himself as a worthy man. And I screwed up. Now I get it. Thanks so much for your words. Very insightful...

[@caucasianafrican1435]

Damn Good Life He sounds like a Nice Guy. ;- ]

[@1217harry]

We met over a year ago .She had an abusive relationship and moved to live with her daughter we conctantly kept in communication .When she came back she invited me to dinner.When we would meet it was constant hugging kissing touching etc. Then she sent mea text stating i don't want you to fall in love with me don't be mad if you don't hear from me.I think she fears falling in love with me. I have not contacted her in over 30 days.Should i wait to hear from her?

[@Untitled0752]

Harry Hoffman no don’t wait go after her. She’s afraid

[@anniebain7563]

this brings tears to my eyes

[@iannestor5406]

HUGELY necessary advice. So helpful :)

[@goldensprite3373]

Thanks for your compassionate, helpful videos, Mat xxz

[@Sarah-si5yn]

Two years of dating after a divorce and I'm more leery of it now than ever! I do find that your posts are all very encouraging, and I think that's where I need to be for now - regaining some confidence and not being blind to what it takes to find someone and a positive, healthy relationship.

[@GoldeyLoc53]

I like your comment. Going on 3 yrs after a devastating break up I felt I wanted love again but I'm terrified and won't give anyone a chance. I find a deal breaker in everyone and began to wonder if it's me. After 2 days of speaking to someone I had nice convos with I found that we r too different and gently cut him off but in reality I had a break down yesterday cried and anxiety I felt scared of rejection and idk what else. I'm going to stay here for a min. And learn before I proceed.

[@zawadytjijombo9464]

Thank you so much for this, needed to hear this 😃😃😃

[@Dieviete7]

Great advice! Thank you :)))

[@JulieMinasian]

Matt, you are the best. Truly. Thank you!!

[@arianaksatriadeoliveira392]

thank u...u make me to think positively, decrease my fear and calmer 😊

[@mandykay7410]

This helped me so much today, thank you thank you thank you ❤

[@chantalpowell7220]

Great advice, thank you!

[@SakuraCerulean92]

This is so helpful. Thank you

[@haayaramadan7605]

Your 100% right challenge and risks and we have to choose the best for us and to take lessons from our experiences, and we shouldddd have this risk and challenge in all our life until we’ll find the real partner cause life is nothing without partner .. Love ❤️ is something special to ppl

[@maemedina9205]

thanks matt, your an angel.. you really help me a lot as in to understand things well.. i watch others video, as for me yours is the best of them all because you explain thing in depth and no nobody i ever explain it the way you do.. its fantastic.. thanks for the effort to help, its really delightful to me.. you just made me realize that i did the right thing.. with that vanisher, because when he came back , i let him go because there something from inside of me that saying: dont go for him...hello he makes you feel like your the option number two and yet you want this man, you deserve more who gonna value you the way you desrve.. then another man came to life and show interest on me and really ask me to be his girl but i also let him go because there was somerthing inside of me telling that its obvious that his player, if you want to be miserable then go ahead but if your happy then go on with your life without him.. you can make it, your stronger than you think you are.. i am so much happi i listen to those voices.. thanks again...

[@nirmaladatt6178]

"moved by feather's touch" and porcupine technique are two great advices! Thanks for sharing! 2 videos in this playlist are hidden. Kindly make them available. Thanks again for rest of the videos.

[@ChicagoDreamer5]

Good job! And HUGE marks for not saying the word "like" every 3 words. 5 stars for that too.

[@kelseywilley1881]

I know ALL about the 2x4🙈 Great wisdom! Thanks again

[@terriNCCC]

Be moved by the feathers touch. I love that!

[@veronicasubliminals5704]

Your videos are really helping me!

[@angeleyes3396]

This is good stuff!

[@Figuringout.404]

Ah such a great video!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@cherrygirlw5911]

Very good inspirational words :) people can definitely learn from this

[@kateks3780]

thanks for sharing this amazing video ... really loved it.. I m facing a problem lately.. which is kind of related to this subject matter.. I dated this guy whom I loved and was quite serious about the relationship... this guy when I met him appeared to b a really studious, honest and direct kind of person but the longer I stayed in relationship I realized who he really was... he was selfish... and a really highly competitive in a bad way.. I noticed these signs but I was so much in love that all these facts remained neglected by me even though thoughts kept popping up... soon he started avoiding me... and stopped calling me at all..if I called he would talk or else it was just texting that connected us.. it was frustrating ... I asked him to call me so that we can rebuild the connection that we had ...and that I miss our old connection.. but he never took any initiative to do what I wanted. soon he was so busy in his own world ..I was his gf but felt I don't exist in his world as his gf.. I felt friend zoned. when I gathered courage to ask him that do he really think of me as his gf anymore cause he has been acting to far away from me lately... his reply was that he only takes me as friend and I can't me more than that... I that point I felt so broken that this guy is telling me this when I am asking this.. I loved this guy once and now I really really HATE him for letting me down ... for not being man enough... to tell me about his feelings before and making me suffer for so long... if I never took the initiative of asking him surely he would have never told me until I make a move... he asked me that we can b friends ..I said yes at first cause I don't wanted it to look like a big deal to me... but as the days passed I could feel a lot of pain inside of me that he never felt... I was feeling like I m stuck and can't get out.. so finally I told him that I can't b friends with him anymore cause I m unable to move on....and guy laughed at my face saying that I must not react in such immature manner and must get over my feeling... and he never tried to understand my situation and wanted me to b his friend... but it was so difficult for me... I told him that I can't do it anymore I really don't have this capacity anymore ..and we stopped talking .. today the only way we are connected was fb id..in my friends list (however never talking or liking dp or any post of each other)... and if any thing related to him pops up ...just looking at it I could feel the hate for him.. I don't even know that it is hate or anger or irritation ..but what I know is something that this feeling is very negative ... all the selfish things he did to me now I can see them clearly when I m out of love for him.. may b I m just unable to forgive him for whatever wrong he had done to me... I don't know how to make myself feel neutral about him and through negativity away...

[@sabaamin6425]

I don't like dreams and comparisons to interfere with a relationship I could have that would be healthy for me and my situation. I feel like I can get strength while getting my needs as a person who seeks a healthy positive person to grow with, who can help me and themselves to.

[@petra3754]

Thank you so much 😊❤

[@eatthecakeannamae]

My picker is broken and I think my intuition is off in this department. I get bad vibes from everyone it seems. Even when I meet someone who seems like a good man I mess it up because of the walls I’ve built and the things I say. I feel lost.

[@goodintentions1302]

You are not alone. I'm not young anymore and I'm giving up. I'm going to do things for myself and on my own.

[@Suraj_Mehra0211]

Thanks Matt. This was the video I needed now. I was also in a relationship and because of some reason it did not work. I now want to come into a relationship again but I am damn scared because I don't want to experience that suicidal pain again. Thanks for this video Matt. It is really a helping hand to think about starting a new relationship.

[@lifegenius763]

Thanks Matt. Excellent advice! I divorced 5 years ago after a 20 year marriage which ended in disaster. Ever since, Ive struggled to find a partner, but when I reflect on this honestly, Im afraid to commit as lm scared of getting hurt again, even though my heart is yearning for someone to love and for them to love me too. Yr so right, its a risk and Ive got to get in the love game to have what my heart desires...Im going to work in this area in my life as all other key areas are sorted..maybe its my time now...Im definitely working hard to manifest someone this year. ..thanks and many blessings to you 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@MARC_MUTSAARS_OFFICIAL]

Nice words Mathew!

[@caucasianafrican1435]

God damn, he's right. I should watch this video 300 times in a row, to drill it in. All his points are on point.

[@tbone2872]

I really appreciate the videos you do Matt especially this one. I feel the way Carol from the example feels. I'm not saying you're wrong but the pain of a break-up doesn't make me grow as a person, I feel like it takes something out of me and/or becomes baggage that I can't get rid of. I've been divorced 1-1/2 years from a woman I loved dearly and I'm having a very difficult time getting past the hurt. I'm at the point now where I think it's just better for me not to get in a relationship at all anymore, even as much as I hate being lonely and love being with somebody, the pain is just not worth it.

[@lulabella9249]

You're awesome Mathew😊👌

[@beckyv5040]

i had my heart 2 times, so i need this

[@ramirenriquez6795]

I've been single for a year now and started living on my own, great opportunity at work and light friend time = more time to focus on self growth. Being with someone will definitely affect the balance we create in our life and the world we live in where things can easily break, it's not just risky, but the time you can't get back anymore is the worst. We gotta be okay with the idea that the right people/person will come along even without that much effort. Our lifestyle and personality should be enough as magnets to the future partner we may have. We all know though within ourselves that it's kinda not complete not having a partner but it still has lots of good sides to it. You pick which one is more important to you.

[@teamsafetysales5673]

i am a person who is hurt by other woman, and also made someone hurt. When now when i grow up, and experience all the pain. i believe the pain made me understand other people, at the end of the day, we all human, we feel the same way. i feel the right thing to do and tell other people the true, not just disappear.

[@sitisyumairah9168]

Thankyou Matt for the tips. I'll try to listening myself and allow my intuition go for it. I realized that i'm to scared to start, fear of something that i dont know what i thinking about haha. Fuhh

[@elicroft7113]

Dude he’s right I need to trust my heart more and listen to it cuz that’s why I got into trouble

[@sophienavarro4317]

This is really helpful Matt. I do have a good question too. I also often feel like my picker is off too. I also think based on previous dates, that I scare men away. Either I am too up front, too direct, too emotional and perhaps too sensitive. What I am noticing is when can I no longer just buy into this idea that a women shouldn't lean in or should only lean back? When can I show my authentic self and bring that personality forward and see that, I bring forth me, I accept my idiosyncrasies, my quirks and still embrace me. I need to let go of the fact that some of these men have rejected me because I am too me. It can be very frustrating when I don't want to play games and some men do just that or they often have one agenda. I don't want to fall under the trap of thinking all men are this way. I know that isn't true. I want to believe that who I am now and today and what will it take for me to just attract the man I want. I find it interesting how my perspective could be blocking something. I hope this makes sense. I want to to trust myself and I want to be able to trust men again but it can be very challenging. I want to remain honest with myself and be in integrity when dating instead of just going along with things. I want to catch things right up front and be able to be honest with a man if they don't seem like a fit.

[@jazzz1587]

0:20 so incredibly relatable.

[@GeorgeD1975]

I just found mathew and I'm hooked :) thank you so much mathew :) I'm really enjoying your blogs. man this do much sense now :) but I want to send a pm to ya asking a fs things but I'm not sure how tho!!

[@RichaTailang123]

True same here :D

[@mikelopez5865]

I feel cursed i want nothing more but real love i wanted to get married. I have never felt so sick emotionally and physically i honestly don't know what to believe.

[@kybeastmode]

Ask God. I did and he showed me who. I think it's time ladies to show who's boss. If you want that man. We must fight for him. Show him that you are the only 1 that will treat him like he wants to be treated.talk more to him and demand that ring

[@MsSassychiq]

i can relate with carol

[@angelkitty808]

so, what happened with that girlfriend? did she even explain why she did that? :(

[@MariaGarcia-br3dc]

You are Amazing 💓

[@marwa.emad2206]

I believe that when the student is ready, the teacher will show up. that's what happened so I found you, Mat. Thank you

[@Running_to_play_FF]

I m a Gujarati But your videos are very aprisiats me. Thanks.

[@JessLaFesse82]

Go on Carol !!!

[@stefaniestalmasek7139]

You are right!

[@kirstyLouisewilson]

I found this video helpful

[@TheOceanblue35]

I love your video you are awesome

[@bassiecharmaine5722]

Thank you

[@letshaveabreak9797]

Great channel! (y)

[@LL-jw4pt]

Great " mind" set....I guess I'll keep going. Permission to grow.😉. With any relationship that comes my way. 😉

[@beckyharper6263]

Mat, I think of the poem from C.S. Lewis "To Love At All." Great advice. 🥰🙏

[@martinesakulku6546]

I have 2 sets of feelings ! I will take it very slow with this new interest. Either way I will not loose myself !

[@summertaylor5665]

For some of us its not that easy... The feeling of being in love sends me into a constant state of fear, anxiety and panic attacks due to feeling unsafe. Love for me is unsafe...even the thought of potential love does that to me... I can no longer handle it mentally or emotionally.

[@Tantei7]

The thing that's really crushing me is the feeling that my own mistakes ruined the relationship with the girl I thought was perfect for me. And I still think she is, I still love her. The pain is killing me.

[@veronicasubliminals5704]

Thats really true

[@mssummerrose1]

3:50 that's sooooooooooo me : great video

[@mia_f]

If I listened to my intuition every time I’d never be in a relationship ever again

[@rebeccadobson6255]

Me and my partner split up a fewer months back although it was neither either of our choice, we both decided to stay single and wait for each other as we knew we where meant to be. But in that gap he saw 2 girls in between although I knew I never let him know, he was still over pretty much everyday, but to cut a long story short I am scared to fall completely in love with him for the simple fact I could never go through that pain again, I never slept or ate for 2 month really, I do love him with every inch of my heart and more but for some reason everything just feels so strange and different, TIA x

[@shakawalker1249]

That's what I do I get in ❤

[@humudumbuya3299]

How do you know someone loves you and can do anything for you in a relationship

[@aoi2861]

you are great.

[@lolamyers2227]

Nice!

[@nallelyrangel1175]

You're awesome! Keep up the relationship posts, they help. What if a man seems interested in you but you find out he was with someone else years back and still keeps contact with that person? What do you do.

[@nallelyrangel1175]

+Mathew Boggs The thing is, he's dating that other girl but he doesn't know that I know about her. We aren't together or a couple because he doesn't “see anything further than a hookup”. In your opinion, do you think I should get a hold of her and tell her he's been cheating?

[@neonmaple5259]

Can't say this will help me move on and heal. But it does confirm my suspicions. Short story, I hate conflicts and arguments with passion, and they always lead me feeling vulnerable and beaten down. And the shitty thing is my ex used that as "her" advantage. Even in odd times, "she" had a way of twisting my soul out of my chest, tearing off little pieces now and then, and leaving me fixing it up so "she" can tear them off again. But then again I can't blame "her" entirely. "She" was in an unstable state and I wasn't all perfect in this as well. I do my best to get better, but not with all the constant nagging, belittling and cold hearted words I've been receiving. It became to a point I had to end it and pick up all the pieces myself. Sooooo much happier now, but my trust in people in terms of mingling have greatly diminished. I just feel like one point in another, people just want to hurt you no matter how much they love you or how much they never meant to. Relationships in my perspective seem like all a play of dramatic themes and shit.

[@dalegribble7939]

For me I got hurt quite a bit inside from my previous relationships intimate or otherwise . And for me just made it to work it's difficult to want to open up but these things to open up about what's going on trying to say anything because I'm afraid I might burdens someone else or I'm just speaking I'm not being heard

[@scarletdamsel3139]

trust hurts love hurts words hurts the word i love you hurts then look smh im 33 but i been through it all but i keep it moving with a smile

[@charleenhopkins3590]

don,t know if i can do this any more , i just keep meeting evil guys

[@artv.9989]

@Marla Motzkus they have to be evil in order to have any chance with you people, if you looked at yourselves critically from the point of view of an outside observer, you would understand why men become like this

[@estherkapinga7082]

Hi Mathew, thanks for the wisdom. I have a question: when I want to break up a relationship of 3 years with a man, what is the best way to do that with the lest pain for a man?

[@maureenniss647]

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[@yinsun_chew]

Hi Matt, I have a question. I agree with you like you said there is this 'intuition voice'. What do I do when in the beginning my bf says he doesn't know when he will get married due to financial issues and through the relationship we spoke about this again and he says to me that he will want to get married & have a family but he just can't promise me when? I do truly love this guy and he has important qualities I want in a guy and of course no one is perfect. I am however in a dilemma. Please help me.

[@mddlvr]

I’m scared because o trusted my instincts that allowed me to date an abusive narcissistic. 3 years of breaking me down. What the hell was I thinking? He has me still on guard. I get a feeling of no trust right off the bat. When will this stop? I am so upset w myself. I can read people very well and I allow this man into my life and my children’s lives to be a liar and an abusive man abusive emotionally and mentally with me and physical with me one time I want to date and have fun but I just can’t trust