How To Approach Girls - Without Being Creepy

[@Derekivery]

How to approach women without being creepy: Step 1: Be really attractive..... creepiness means "talking to a woman when she does not want to talk to you." Super hot guys can walk into the ladies bathroom while she's taking a dumb and it wouldn't be viewed as creepy because he's hot. An average or ugly could go to a bar called "Singles Bar" walk up to a woman sitting alone and say "hi" and be called a creep.

[@SolidGeddoe]

Lmao

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

For what it's worth, I've spent the last 13 years with guys in bars helping them to approach -and your example above doesn't in fact happen. Sure, attractive men can get away wiht more inappropriate behaviour (so can attractive women for that matter) - but just approaching in a bar, average and below average men can do that just fine without being called a creep - I know becuse I've watched it happen thousands and thousands of times.

[@timothylocklear9885]

I think cute/attractive guys can get away with a lot.... there's much more forgiveness for a handsome guy who and if he's forward, it's flirting. But unfortunately, less attractive guys get walled creeps when they do exactly the same thing. It's not really fair. :-\

[@BMSLou]

Timothy Locklear Agree! I’m 6’5” and a big dude so I’m naturally intimidating right off the bat anyway.

[@timothylocklear9885]

@@BMSLou LoL it's actually interesting.... I'm 5'10 and 160 lbs, and I'm naturally gentle and pretty soft-spoken, and more into books and art and music than sports, so I'm not intimidating at all. Sometimes I'll be a little sarcastic or a little mean in order to make up for not being confident, and I overstep myself sometimes, but generally I'm very nice to girls. But I'm not good looking, and I've come to realize that how a guy looks is more important than some girls like to admit. Same with men, although I think they're more honest about it. I've found that guys who aren't confident and are shy end up with lots of friends who are girlz, while confident guys end up with lots of girlfriends 😆😆😆

@@BMSLou If you're ugly, you'll be intimidating. If you're actually handsome and white, your height will be to your advantage. Women love tall men.

[@Ozzie_Mandias]

Get yourself some money and perhaps invest in "cosmetic improvements". Everyman has the right to be an Adonis.

[@reez1728]

Suck it up! The world is not fair, never has been, never will be. You're asking for equity whereas in reality it doesn't exists.

[@Maxi_Vila_Animator]

Thank you so much. I just came back from a bar, I talked to two girls, but I bored them haha. I was trying to look confident and I didn't really relaxed. I can't wait to try this next time! You are being of a lot of help with this videos!

[@ruslanbagirov2390]

Great point, great examples. Well done, Damien

[@elliotkouame3849]

With the downfall of RSD, you are one of my main guys now. Keep up the good work, mate! We appreciate it.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Great to hear it Elliot! If there's a specific topic you'd like me to do a video on, let me know :)

[@splitcanerods1]

you make more sense than most. Frankly, much of the advice you see is to come across as arrogent and rude!

[@mcdalek2233]

I like this channel a lot and In feel Damien's advice really is good, and even a little profound. I love that there's a lot of self-help stuff in there, and not just pick-up, it's opened my eyes a lot and makes me think in a different way... Cheers :)

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Thanks mate, I'm pleased to hear that you're getting a lot out of it!

[@likemysnopp]

So basiclly.. be afraid? And continue to be afraid because there will be harsher and harsher consequences for doing anything that is out of the "social code" which is not written down anywhere. Yeah.. you do understand that this is next to impossible, right? Which is why a ton of men even go to the x-pill forums and lash the hell out. Because nobody actually write down the rules. And those who does have no idea of the actual rules. I start to think that if you verbalize the rules, then you are seen as odd and you will get rejected socially.

[@simchaehrman6529]

Thanks for the video! What I learned is to be mi Express what I mean without trying to play something else

[@SolidGeddoe]

You are so right about most women lacking confidence,recently I saw this female on instagram who has a pretty face and smoking hot body,she had a comment that said some days she feels confident while other days she feels insecure and lacking confidence.

[@viewerdescretionisadvised474]

Found your videos recently, was surprised to see a voice of reason saying what makes sense actually. Can't understand why this video has less than 300 likes after almost three years of posting, it should reach more people.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Cheers mate - you and me both ;) Actually I suspect the reason is that people like extremist viewpoints more than rational ones - especially around topics that are emotional.

[@Blissiralabs]

Bravo amigo! Bravo! Fantastic advice for beginners or even a lot of intermediates!

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Cheers Roni

[@PaulVoorberg]

7:20 - The congruent/admittedly nervous approach 8:20 - What to say: "Hey, I know this is really awkward. I feel super nervous right now, but I saw you, thought you were cute, and I wanted to come and say hello". 11:44 - The mission for men who are nervous and insecure is: focus on building connection, having fun, laughing, enjoying the interactions, connecting with another human being. 12:04 - Damien's experience with hyper-confidence vs chill approach (chill worked better)

[@bizarre6553]

To not be creepy just be attractive

[@RuudAwakening]

This is how I felt during the new years party I was. (don't worry it was a small house party ;) ) I got attention and I'm guessing what was some flirty banter. But as soon as it came too close me, emotionally, I started worrying about how I was coming across. I felt the energy shifting, think my bodylanguage shifted, and I started saying and asking safe and superficial things. Kinda like said in the video, I was hiding and protecting something, my emotional vulnerable side. It was nevertheless a good learning experience.

[@dinerosign]

Lol MJ with the kid had me dying😂

[@liamuzn3528]

Same bro 😂

[@shonkysidewayssam6134]

Going to a Forro dance or Latin dance night is a perfect opportunity to approach women in a fun, realistic way. Asking someone to dance is the tradition of these nights/events and often leads to other things later on ;) There is a Forro night in South Bank in Brisbane that I am looking forward to going this evening and it will be a great opportunity to practice my approaches in a natural (non- Female Body Inspector) manner..

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Yep, I've always loved salsa dancing for this reason too!

[@Eserr7856]

Agree, I have a lot of fun in Latin clubs, so I'm in an environment where I'm comfortable and this mindset helps me approach women and ask them to dance

[@josedesousa1730]

Damien, there is something wrong with your left eye (see at 12:06 and more). And thank you for everything. Nice point, well explained as ever.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

I don't remember exactly, but I think a small piece of hair was getting into it ;)

[@tigersgedanken1246]

its simple, be good looking and handsome

[@atrainay]

Go Mode One

[@Sid0419]

Well if you're mean and confident you get laid, if you're nice and friendly you get friend zoned.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Correct - But what.. and this is a wild idea - what if you're friendly, but have a spine, and set strong boundaries and consider BOTH your and her needs at the same time? My argument is, THIS is what men should be aiming for, not being mean and confident as an excuse to get laid even if it hurts people (yourself included over the long term) along the way?

[@Sid0419]

@@SchoolOfAttraction I agree Damien - it works with women who are confiedent and have self esteem. But most women dont. That's the reason most women get attracted to bad boys. Women like to chase and get drawn to men that are mean or treat em like shit.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Well I'd argue that I want women who aren't damaged goods - so I can leave those ones to the men who treat them badly ;)

[@DanTuber]

Creepy is when the girl doesn't find the guy physically attractive.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

I mentioned this to someone else in this thread, but the guys who shared this feeling have inspired me to make a video - you guys have it backwards - Good looking guys are often allowed to get away with crappy behavior where less good looking guys aren't (same applies to good looking women too) - But if you approach in a quality way, then regardless of your looks you won't look creepy.

[@Jintekshufflez]

Then maximize your looks afap, do sports , wear fashionable clothes and get a nice haircut and care about basic hygiene of course = 60 % done ;)

[@Straga_Severa]

@@Jintekshufflez Not everybody can do sports because of their medical conditions. Think of it for a second.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@SchoolOfAttraction But if you LOOK creepy, then all of your interactions with women will be painted by your looks. If I walk in the cloud of dandruff, and literally cannot do anything about it (multiple doctors - to no avail), then I look creepy, and no amount of stylish clothes or anything can mask this creepiness.

[@dusanslavnic4727]

What advice would you have for someone who has simply lost the desire to approach women, over the years after I graduated highschool my sex drive and desire to talk with women has plummeted, all this stuff about false accusations isnt helping me with the issue either, I have watched quite a few videos on flirting and whatever but I just can't picture myself doing it anymore, it all just seems like it's not worth the effort/time

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

That can be a hard situation to be in - Because it's literally a form of learned avoidance that you're struggling with - A great solution would be to start spending more time with men who do regularly approach - we tend to learn a lot subconsciously from the people we surround ourselves with

[@dusanslavnic4727]

@@SchoolOfAttraction that could help, but in my situation being an introvert, not attending any university/college, and rather frowned upon hobbies (i.e videogames and anime) I don't have many options to meet other people I get along with outside the online world. And riding a motorcycle in Vancouver, Canada isnt as popular as warmer parts of the world so that one didn't really work out to my favor either.

[@nathanbeales8900]

She only calls you creepy because you're not the guy she wants to hear it from but if it was that guy her reaction would be entirely different, it's just her way of shaming you Same thing goes if you ask women for sex she will call you a creep but if it was Chad or Tyrone she would be up for it, so don't believe their lies when they say they don't sleep around women love to sleep around, she does it on a regular basis, it's been proven they actually have more sexual partners than men

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Man come out with some guys on a coaching session some time - Women can be patently unattracted to a client, but if he's upfront and not hiding anything, she won't find him creepy at all. What you should really say is "Really good looking guys get away with more bad behaviour without being called out for it". Because that statement is true.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@SchoolOfAttraction > "Really good looking guys get away with more bad behaviour without being called out for it". Or you could rephrase this in less judgemental and more correct way - the better you are looking, the wider are the boundaries of the acceptable behaviour with women, and the easier it is to not be seen as a creep.

[@herculeeza]

Can women be creepy? Genuine question

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

I actually think this is a good question - The answer is of course yet, just watch the movie "smile" on netflix and you'll find a woman SUPER creepy AF. The main reason why it's harder for owmen to creep men out, is because creepy usually comes with a sense of potential danger. Women can be socially weird and uncalibrated - but there's no danger to men most of the time so we don't get the creeps, we just laugh or get annoyed.

[@Ibrahim-hi1kw]

Just be a little boy 👍

[@tonyfight9897]

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