SECRET HYPER-VIGILANCE IN CPTSD: SIGNS | DR. KIM SAGE

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[@jds0981]

As a child, I listened for the car door slam when my mother came home from work. While doing my after-school chores (in preparation for her coming home), I would move thru the house with an eye to what she would see first. If she was in a bad mood, I had to be visible when she came home and stand at attention while she did her 'inspection.' I realize I didn't have a childhood home; I had a childhood workplace. This explains so much.

[@ToniOne03]

Same 😢

[@lithiumgaurd]

Childhood workplace

[@lorrainejames857]

After a lifetime of believing I am an antisocial freak, or on the autistic spectrum (which didn’t really add up), it really is a relief and a revelation, clarity at last, thank you Kim 🙏

[@jamesross8683]

Thank you for sharing your truth, honesty and professional wisdom Dr. Sage. You are a true blessing to this online community......ALL OF WHOM....I believe,...AND HOPE....are attempting to recover from their individual traumas. THANK YOU AGAIN!!🤗

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I will be 71 in July...I have lived a reasonably" functioning " life but only after discovering you have I realized why my life has been such a struggle. I wish I had known 55 yrs ago what you have taught me. There are no words...if I had the money, I would take every one of your courses.

[@AdamS679]

Thank you for this, I really resonate with what you're describing and I love the line you said that to think of healing as "a lifelong practice of managing your nervous system."

[@billd66]

8:00 that thing with the rage-y parent coming home? Yeah, you just described my entire childhood. I learned to listen for how my dad closed the garage door. And I pretty much spent my childhood holed up in my room with books or music or toys or homework (depending on age/educational stage).

[@launacasey6513]

Sometimes I'll listen to a Dr. Sage video just for the comforting sound of her voice. It's very calming, and filled with compassion and understanding.

[@Nemily57]

Your videos feel so true for me. You're the first therapist/person who seems to really truly understand and get it. I feel like you know me... I ... You just get it.. thank you.

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

For me, the trauma resulted from the constant bullying and soulessness of my peers in the public school system.

[@tamaraclapper]

Omgosh this is what has been wrong with me my whole life! This is not from my grandkids KZbin channel, 🙄

[@Mossy-Rock]

Thanks for this! This is definitely the way I operate, and I now understand why. The thing that is most challenging to me is: which threats I see now are valid and real, and which ones are not. Being an INFJ HSP/empath, (probably a lot of these attributes I developed in my younger, formative years due to abuse) I can read people like a book very quickly and I usually know who is safe and who is not. I can't un-see things that I've learned. If I don't trust and go with my intuition on people and situations, I usually regret it down the road. But, obviously, there are times when I mis-read things.

[@CreativeArtandEnergy]

I feel support in having awareness around CPTSD. Recently found you. I've had many experiences with isolation and getting re traumatized because of the experience of my parents also having an anxiety reaction to me unfreezing anger and sadness. I wish more people would talk openly about this.

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There must be a video pipeline from my laptop to your research computer. Spot-on evaluation, thank you.

[@heifie2540]

I was maladaptive daydreaming a lot in my past and it took me a long time to understand why I needed this behaviour. As I wasn't able to live and couldn't follow my daily routine I attended a therapist who helped me out of this behaviour. Now I have to be aware, because if I' m stressed and triggered my daydreams come back.

[@Advanced1234]

I'm glad you are posting on here. I don't have tiktok

[@nicolewily4846]

I finally found out - what my issues are- ❤ wow this is a mind blowing moment- the topic! I’ve been searching for so long . Thank you!!!

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I love ur content. But don't feel pressured to post everyday.

[@KoolT]

Just EXCELLENT advice. I listen to Alanon speakers at night, Alanon teaches people to TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES BC you can't count on the alcoholic in the home.

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Thank you thank you thank you !! Your videos are a refuge and sense of normality decency and kindness. You are helping us in ways you may not fully fathom. You are doing work of a divine nature. God continue to bless you with peace wisdom health love and prosperity 🥰🥰

[@Longinthetruth]

It’s maybe not even that anxious people attract certain types of people, it’s more like *no matter who you are with* you will bring out the same qualities out in them *no matter who it is* because of the way you are behaving. They will have a corresponding persona that deals with someone who is behaving in whatever way it is.

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[@thesouloftheblueroselavend2076]

Hello Dr. Sage! I've been following your Channel for a long time now...and i find your Videos very true and helpful!! I have a Twin sister in the Wheelchair , as well as other Siblings and i belive today, that my mother is a horrible Bpd / Narcissistic Person with a Syndrome ,called Munchhausen by Proxy. I live not far from my "Family" Sometimes i am so scared and hyper Vigilant cause my Twin lives with her still.😢 I feel that im a very strong Person. Keep making Videos, please.! Greetings from Germany,Berlin!

[@LexinePishue]

this is such a good description of me, before beginning trauma therapy in the form of kickboxing, and later narrative therapy

[@sullengirl1698]

do you recommend kickboxing? i was looking into some new activities to try and was thinking about starting it!

[@LexinePishue]

@@sullengirl1698 I do!! I took a cardio kickboxing class so it wasn't a lot of sparring, just light partner work. it allowed me to get out a lot of pent up feelings and it managed my anxiety for me, and it allowed me to feel like I was consequential. like, I could affect things in my life, because every time I hit that bag I had to move it back into place, I hit it so hard. I was here. I could affect things.

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I had no room.

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I know it’s not the most important question, but what is the outro music? I really want to know, I love it.

[@71suns]

Thank you.

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why would there be a tiktok ban?

[@gabbermensch]

See, this is how I live. And it is sort-of a bad way to be, but in my environment it helps. The part of the world I live in is very chaotic, very criminal, very violent and I seem to be very calm. It's only when I go places that are genuinely peaceful, I start ripping hairs out myself because nothing is happening, so I expect and prep..always ready...it's bad in a day-to-day because you are always on a hair-trigger, but when shit kicks off, you go full-Zen, respond and it is beautiful...it's like being awake enough to enjoy being asleep...you don't really think, you just are, you don't feel fear in that time, you barely feel time, everything just comes into place...it's very intoxicating...you are beyond power of yourself there, you never want it to leave...but it ends and you feel hugely drained, like you got your knees taken

[@peaceformula5830]

More of her videos describe how to get out of that trauma brain way of thinking that "any day now it's going to happen" Its in her HYPERVIGILANCE series

[@baileystark7629]

I don’t believe you can’t heal. I don’t believe this is who I am. I believe that if you open your mind and work hard you can overcome this. Why limit yourself by saying you’ll always have this so just cope. I hate that mindset. The brain is adaptive and plenty of people completely change. Of course there are those that don’t. But I believe part of it is because they don’t believe they can so they just cope.

[@maeri6040]

It would be cool if they had allowed me to just stay in my room lmaooo

[@melissabeckwith8252]

Have you found yourself having problems come out on your own children? No matter how hard you try not to allow these situation’s to be manifested in your own life with your own family but they manifest themselves anyway.? Not all the time but that any time makes it harder on you because of the guilt that you feel for allowing that to happen with your own kids

[@KoolT]

7:30 raging parents, arguing parents

[@anielyantra1]

Your method is finding someone else to blame. I prefer recognizing the imprinting, and looking for the metaphysical reason why you choose this situation.