Self Harm Q&A // covering them, sex & existential crisis

[@marieroseeee]

omg im sorry for that really awkward middle part HAHAHA fuck i was trying to take a thumbnail lol ffs

[@becca1727]

Oagaha I just got to that part lmao I dunno why I find it so funny omg

[@marieroseeee]

So embarrassing 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ellejames4128]

marieroseeee i love you sooo much you're honestly my idol ❤️💜

[@marieroseeee]

Awh thankyou so much Elle!! Always here for you, remember that! ❤️

[@kelseyreid7495]

Omg that was so funny 😂 love you angel

[@eeedeee6667]

This advice is so so good. Teaching people about emotions is so much better than telling them to snap a band on their wrist. Thankyou for this x

[@marieroseeee]

Eeedeee 666 you don’t even know how thankful I am that you commented this, I think this is definitely what people need too!! xx

[@Wink-182]

So true! The band thing didn't really work for me personally, I ended up bursting a blood vessel in my wrist from snapping the band too hard, and seeing that I could leave a mark with it led to me snapping the band as hard as I could so I could burst more, so it kind of defeated the purpose 😅

[@becca1727]

I am currently 3 weeks clean from self harm and ngl I’m really proud of myself bc I’ve been trying to stop for a few years but I actually feel like I’m getting somewhere this time

[@quran-rain]

Yo how you doing? :)

[@becca1727]

Path To Paradise I was doing really well although I did have a relapse a few days ago but I’m still trying to be strong

[@quran-rain]

@@becca1727 YAYY! Awesome! Keep going! 😊 I used to have these small relapses all the time, now I don't even think about it anymore.. 2+ years clean and still going strong. You CAN be free! ❤

[@abstractfvlogs7389]

@@becca1727 hope you are doing well☺☺

[@kadegarrett546]

Keep at it m8. It slowly gets easier.

[@1992disneyprincess]

also ur eyes look so blue n gorgeous in this video

[@1992disneyprincess]

when my niece n nephew asked about my scars (i looked after them for years at weekends) i explained aunty emily had a poorly brain and this is what happened as a result. they are now both so open minded because of that. my niece had a friend who self harmed and she was always asking me advice for her.

[@aubreyisaverage]

Omg I wrote the first question! I never imagined it would make it into a video, thank you so much. You gave me such amazing advice and I feel like you’ve given me the strength to talk with my boyfriend about what I’m feeling. I can really tell that you took the time to really think about my situation and I can’t stress how much I appreciate it. Your analogies were absolutely amazing hahaha! Thank you so much Marie, love you to bits 💕

[@aubreyisaverage]

I love what you said about writing thoughts and feelings as well. I just starting DBT for my BPD, and I’m currently working on recording my thoughts and figuring out what I feel. It’s hard and sucks sometimes but hearing you talk about it makes it seem possible 💖

[@TashaRoberts]

Oh my god Marie!! You actually give the best advice!! Have you ever thought about becoming a therapist or something like that? I think you would be amazing! You help SO many people with your videos and your advice! I know listening/watching this it made a lot of sense to how/what I’m feeling and it made a lot of sense ❤️ SO lucky to have you on YT making these type of videos! You actually are so amazing and I love you so much ❤️

[@marieroseeee]

Tasha Roberts tashaaaaa 😭😭❤️ THANKYOU I LOVE YOU

[@TashaRoberts]

marieroseeee ❤️❤️❤️

[@EmilySimsySims]

Hi Marie, I’ve recently been diagnosed with BPD and I’ve got my first session of therapy tomorrow after three years of hell, I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and I don’t think I could’ve gotten this far without you and your videos, thank you💞

[@SchokoCookieKr]

Yeah got the same diagnosis a few weeks ago. Feel free to contact me if you ever wanna talk about it

[@Twogirlssinging]

I teach dance classes to children from 2 - 10 y/o and whenever they have asked about scars I've just said I was poorly before but now I'm better. They normally accept that quite easily. And any fresh cuts I usually blame on me being clumsy which again at that age they accept and normally tell me about all their bumps and bruises xx

[@avsky837]

I love how you don't glamorize or talk about your scars and situation overall in an overly sentimental way. Your scars were a symptom of an emotional crisis or latent mental illness, and it fucking sucks and that's all there is to it. But you don't let it get to you. Great video and you have a beautiful personality too.

[@isabrooks1821]

18:59 it was probably the dont worry part of the statement. Like the person is telling you that your scars arent worth your concern or stress, almost like theyre invalidating your feelings.

[@novawestergren9357]

''numbness'' anger, pain, guilt, and anxiety would be great for videos

[@danielleo4369]

“Everyone has skeletons in the closet but mine are stapled to the front fucking door of the house” I’m getting that tattooed across my head what an absolute gem😩😂

[@celtic666crayons6]

Your analogy of having the urge to self harm being like someone needing to use to use the restroom is brilliant! Spot on.

[@hjc9114]

Hi Marie I found your channel recently and it's really helped me alot.. I've been struggling in this hot weather having to cover my scars and seeing you feeling so confident helps alot. Even your video about your worst reaction helped because you had so many people validating you that it made me realise that the people who matter will never judge.. Anyway just wanted to say thanks :)

[@elliottrae9355]

You got this :) Lots of support to you.

[@hjc9114]

Lost In Twilight thank you 😙 I really appreciate your comment right now ^^

[@psvillanelle9398]

Yes I agree ! You’ve got this ❤️

[@hjc9114]

Portia Moore you guys 😭 thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@marieroseeee]

ヘザー so proud of you! Thankyou for validating me too! Keep going bubba - you got this ❤️

[@camouflageillumination4369]

Loved this! I just really struggle with actually identifying the emotion, like I just get a feeling in my body, rather than a thought in my head xxx

[@georgiabartram777]

i would love a video on dealing with guilt. not just the guilt from self harm, but guilt from friendships and relationships - such as the smallest argument or mistake you make

[@rainyday8161]

I know I need to stop. But I don't want to. It's like I'm afraid of not having a let out.... I started watching your videos a few days ago but I love you and how you handle everything...💛💚

[@1992disneyprincess]

funnily enough i use the toilet analogy when describing self harm urges when i give training to professionals

[@marieroseeee]

emsrecovery92 omg wow noway!? That was the only way I could understand and try and get other people to understand too x

[@Aicha-oq9xq]

couldn't help but notice how cute those peach covers looks like! 💞

[@talishajade3746]

You are so unbelievably brave and strong and you help me so much with my mental health issues, also your eyes are literally so gorgeous I could stare into them all day, love you btw xxx

[@terirooney4204]

MAY I JUST SAY,,,,, you are so ducking pretty ilysm you are such an inspiration tysm for being so strong and being the person I can go to to make myself happy ^3^

[@jessicagodley2758]

I work with kids every week and although I mostly cover up my scars, teaching gymnastics can be strenuous and because I’m human I get hot! If kids ask questions I do exactly what you said and tell them it was from when I was ill but I’m okay now and they usually accept that. Older kids are a bit trickier because they usually know what they are and are shook not going to lie but they normally shy away from asking questions so I let them talk among themselves and act as though I would if they are covered and normally they get over it pretty quick and now most of them aren’t bothered at all 🤗🤗🤗 Also love your videos Marie, thanks for sharing love you 💓

[@beckyf4503]

Love you and these videos help me so much, I’ve struggled so much coming to terms with my scars and feeling comfortable in my own body. Thank you, girl!!!

[@marieroseeee]

Becca S thankyou Becca! You got this hunny ❤️❤️

[@joannasaunders2179]

Oh my goodness I don't normally comment but i had an existential crisis last night too at 4am i just woke up and thought i was the biggest failure on earth because i don't have a job yet due to my bpd, it's so nice to know i'm not alone thanks marie xox

[@elliottrae9355]

[@charl3394]

I cut and it’s really hard to discuss it so your really a big inspiration to me xx

[@marieroseeee]

Dog Lover! Talking is the best way to get through this, even if you just verbalise it to yourself - it’s important to literally get the thoughts out x

[@charl3394]

marieroseeee Thankyou so much 😊

[@evecoates3261]

I just want to thank you so much, you’ve helped me so much with being more open with my mental health. I’ve recently been admitted to hospital and found it really hard with all the questions I get about where I’ve been because I’m still in school doing alevels. In an older video of yours you explained mental health as just being ill or poorly and it’s perfectly normal and that really helped me with trying to explain to people where I’ve been. Your videos mean so much to me and I feel like you’ve really helped my recovery and you should be soo proud of how many people you inspire and help xxx

[@tiffanyfinch1816]

you’re honestly an amazing person. you’ve always been so great at giving advice and helping me. i can’t thank you enough. the way you describe an urge just made it so much easier to explain it to my friends so thank you💓x

[@kelseyreid7495]

Omg the way you described it about going to the toilet is so true I understand that 💕💕

[@katiemae70]

This video has helped me so much. Recently someone commented on my scars and it was the first time I had my arms out in public. I felt so ashamed and singled out from everyone around me. I’m so grateful that I have positive influences like you to show me and so many others that we shouldn’t be ashamed of the things that we’ve been through. Thank you so much Marie, lots of love 💛💛💛

[@emmajones6206]

I have never been able to describe my urges. Thank you, you don’t understand how much those few sentences has now helped me. I can finally, myself, understand what my urges are like. I’ve always just done in and be put under so much pressure of why I did it.

[@user-bj9ci3uy9s]

I completely agree w what you said about people referring to scars as battlescars! I hate it I think it's so patronizing even though I know they mean well

[@bethnova9176]

You’ve helped me so so much, I truly admire you. Thank you for making these videos 💛

[@inferno0_081]

Have you ever just self-harmed because of how dissociated you are? Just to feel real?

[@lexiiiii_gigi706]

Yes I use to at times after crying everyday for months and always being upset. Sometimes I felt like I couldn't feel and just wanted to feel something

[@callmev3531]

I’ve done it to feel real. Or rather, the feeling of being able to make something real. Something that mattered.

[@bruh-kc2iz]

Another way to think about urges is holding your breath. Containing urged is like trying your best not to suck in air.

[@elsajohansson5316]

hey, I know this is two years old but I came across this video completely randomly and you just made me cry in the best way because I completely relate and I’m trying to practice self love but it’s so, so difficult. If you see this please know how brave you are, how much you’ve helped me by being honest about that guilty / self worth issues in literally the space of ten minutes - thank you and good luck in both your bad AND good days from a complete stranger aha x

[@marieroseeee]

wow thanks so much girl !!! 🥺🥺🥺 old video though!! xxxx

[@princessfelicity4719]

I’ve self harmed since I was 13, my family asked if I wanted help and I said no so they never did anything from there. None of them have ever gotten mad or sad or even remotely scared, I now do it 24/7 and have no intention of stopping, so all is good as my family couldn’t give a flying donkey. Now, the reason I’m typing this is to ask: I want someone to tell me why self harming is a bad thing. This is in no way sarcastic and ABSOLUTELY doesn’t have any intention whatsoever to encourage people to self harm, that isn’t even close to my aim. It’s just because I’ve never been told it’s bad or I need to work through it, so I don’t understand why everyone online gets mad when people encourage it (that’s why I put that disclaimer, so no one gets upset...) or sad and sympathetic when people announce that they do. Isn’t it just a coping strategy? Again, I’ve never been exposed to content encouraging me to quit until recently, so sorry if this is offensive as I’ve seen lots of people getting upset about comments like this one...

[@shannonofficial]

You really are inspiring . I’m going through such a shit time at the moment and I badly want to give up, but you inspire and encourage me to keep fighting . I love you lots xxx

[@remingtonsvampire9400]

I would love it if you did videos on couping with different emotions. I would say the one I stuggle with the most is shame. But also sadness, Anxiety, and stress; and at those times usually cause me to self-harm. I have Depression, Anxiety and BPD, btw. I'm working through my emotions and trying to point out to myself the underlying emotions that cause me to hurt myself; and I keep a journal, and that totally helps. Thank you so much for making these videos, I love you so much!!!

[@chloexx_]

Thank you so much for uploading this - you are so brave and this was very needed tonight lots of love for u 💖

[@tee_gxx6824]

Thank uuu for this, uuur videos help me so much with my mental health, especially that my depression has just relaps, love uu❤️

[@kelseyreid7495]

Omg yes I love the idea about the 5 minute videos❤️ please can you do it about feeling guilty, feeling anxious and feeling angry xx❤️

[@jaysal1827]

I admire your strength and confidence so much!! It’s helped me a lot and it’s made my self harming slowly go away little by little. I’ve been in recovery for about 3 weeks now, which is longer than I would’ve ever thought. Thank you so much!!

[@laurynward2969]

I would describe self harm like holding your breath for many seconds maybe a minute until you have to take a breath, if u get what i mean ?

[@chelseacate7651]

Lauryn Ward That’s how i also think about it

[@PhantomPanda939]

So and so being like “I’m a few weeks/months clean yay” and I’m sitting here like “I’m about an hour clean good for everyone else who can stay days clean

[@ellamary245]

I love listening to your videos and advice, also w o w you are so fUcking gorgeous geez like omg you're beautiful!! Your videos have helped me so much in that they have helped me realize that I don't need to be afraid or ashamed of my mental illness/hospital visits, all that. Thank you so much for everything you have no idea the impact you've made on me. plEase never stop making videos!!

[@elliemain6072]

i love u bby you're so brave

[@elliebloxham1595]

My anxiety often makes embarrassment difficult to deal with because I find it often develops into shame - I’m in a good place now but I’m sure that video would be helpful for others in that situation xx

[@elliemain6072]

and i love the idea of the emotions videos - emptiness would be really helpful

[@emily-jx8xm]

i have self harmed since i was nine and my school found out. they took away everything that is sharp including pencils (honestly they helped so much) but they gave me a rubber band to put on my wrist and every time I had an urge to self harm i would grab the band and let it go on my wrist to make a sensation of self harm. it was a really good coping method for me. if anyone else needs a coping method it works really well (at least for me) *I STILL USE THIS*

[@CharlotteFoley]

Admire you so much! you're the only person I have notifications turned on for, love your videos

[@marieroseeee]

Charlotte Foley OMG Charlotte noway!? I can’t believe someone has my notifications on?! 😂 thankyou so much bubba ❤️

[@CharlotteFoley]

marieroseeee you’re amazing gal ❤️✨

[@kaliemcmanus4921]

thank you for existing. you really are such an amazing person and i love you so much♥️ xxx

[@yarenaltuntas7656]

it's 12:40 AM in Cyprus.i don't know why but when i saw the notification it made me very happy. love you

[@elfy819]

this was super helpful and altho i do cover my scars as much as possible, i try not to feel as bad when i slip up and roll up a sleeve in public or something. youre amazing, love ya x

[@sashathorpe]

what an amazing video, never fail to post the best videos, lots of love xxx

[@Marie11W]

I love your honesty! You say it like it is, no bullshit. You gave some great advice and I know that you are helping so many people out, I hope you realize that. Take care! :) xoxox

[@kian7906]

It’s mad how much I relate to you aha, Iv been over a year clean and even though I still get urges and feel down, I’m so much more in control and I wanna thank you for helping me and others out!🌻

[@miastansfield8436]

anger and guilt defiantly but I get really anxious and paranoid about little things that I later see were stupid. If you do the series id love if you could include anxiety swell. You have really helped me, thank you x

[@SchokoCookieKr]

Yeah me too... If you ever wanna talk feel free to contact me

[@lailashakira4253]

Omg Marie love you so much!!! Keep slayin gurl I look up to you!! This video was amazing and I would be interested in the mini emotion series! Much love Xxx💗

[@stephanienelson3706]

I love your q&a’s! And I love you as well! Keep going girlie💓

[@1992disneyprincess]

first!!!! proud of u girl!!!!! ALF-BEE

[@charlottehooton6378]

Been waiting for this I love you Marie!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@SophiaCantFly]

I love the video idea, I’m definitely going to try it. Love you Marie ❤️

[@lemon_cake98]

Anger and guilt definitely

[@ninaaishling7873]

i agree, the biggest factor

[@elliottrae9355]

Thank you so much for being you and making these videos, they help so much

[@miawoody1371]

Omg I love your q and a s. It helps me sooo much. Ly ♥️♥️♥️

[@emilybean7806]

I have been struggle with this addiction since I was 12?? Yeah and I am 19 and I will say my mom is super not understanding. She told me I had to stop and only mentally ill people are like that and it made me feel so bad. She likes to punish me when I do relapse. But I can't tell her either cuz she will still be very mad. She will just say hurtful things to me. So I still open about stuff but when it comes to the darker stuff like self harm and suicidal thoughts, I don't speak of that with my mom. It does make me angry but last time I told her, she said what can she do. Or tell me she can't deal with my mental health and addictions, she told me, she can only deal with her troubles and my sisters. I understand she needs to do her own self care. But when she added my sister into her list (my sister has OCD and GAD), I felt so much anger and I mean it still affects to me this day. But yeah, I notice I am being more open about my mental health and past experiences but I don't like that either. I instantly regret. But with u I feel like I can relate some to u.

[@luta2835]

so much love for you❤️🔆

[@ezrab5828]

1700th like! Just noticed that when I clicked it(besides the point) Thank you for making these videos it really helps me through my depression and anxiety.

[@kelseyreid7495]

I love your q&a’s ❤️🌺

[@loveannie353]

Aghhhh Marie, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!❤️❤️

[@kelseyreid7495]

Your videos really help me❤️💕

[@charl3394]

I look up to you so much Marie xx

[@teyahmellor9994]

for self harm scars, i would recommend dermecol , you can get it from ebay and people use it as stage makeup and is very very very full coverage, a little goes a long way 💖

[@emily-jx8xm]

teyah mellor thank you! i am going away and am being forced to wear shorts and i carved words into my thighs and my parents don’t know so i need to hide them. thanks!

[@kelseyreid7495]

Been waiting for this ❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤

[@ainedolley5438]

I love love love this it's so amazing you talk about these things. I love you 💕💕

[@graciemalicoat5940]

Love your videos! I recently was basically given an ultimatum to stop cutting and I totally agree with everything you said. Even though I did stop cutting the urge is still there and I will not tell my parents because of the way they still react to anything self harm or depression related. Sucks but at least I have your channel to make sense of everything I'm feeling lol💕

[@nadelalala1600]

I'd love videos about how to deal with sadness, emptiness and feeling lonely 🙈 ly❤

[@savannahmills7763]

Love you! You're so inspiring!!

[@chloej8501]

I have a lil sister who’s 3 and she’s into everything and asks questions about EVERYTHING. She saw some of mine and I just told her it was the cat😂 and yeah she believed it and replied with “she’s a silly cat” and yeah, ima just leave it at that for now and then when she’s a bit older will go onto the fact the i was ill xxx

[@phoebedighton6500]

Chloe J that’s what i say to children who ask too like it’s just easier

[@emily-jx8xm]

Chloe J i feel the same. but your sister’s reply was adorable!

[@thegirlinterruptedd]

Please please please do one of those five minute videos about guilt and shame - it would be super helpful!

[@1992disneyprincess]

anyone that wants scar coverage cream go to the GP that shit is brilliant!!!!!! and waterproof PERFECT for holidays n u can swim with it n it doesnt budge!

[@stronglovatic7454]

Do you know if you can get it in the uk 🙊🙈

[@jasminejohnson5130]

go to your GP^

[@gia3124]

whats it called so i can get it in the US plss

[@ireneengehagen258]

GP?

[@jorgenvonstrangle9201]

You are so insightful! Such a mature woman you are.

[@avreealexander8768]

“Everyone has skeletons in their closet but I feel like mine are stapled to the front fucking door of the house.” I felt that.

[@1992disneyprincess]

last comment i swear but i LEGIT could relate to EVERYTHING u said

[@katiedalrymple2661]

thank you so much for this video Marie ❤️

[@lil9791]

Emptiness would be good, If that’s even classed as an emotion??? Xx

[@marieroseeee]

Lily Brown LITERALLY THE HARDEST THING TO PIN POINT! Definitely going to do a video on this xxxxxx

[@kimwildxx]

100% emptiness is what I feel most often!

[@kelseyreid7495]

Thank you for this video💕💕

[@oliviacheyne5443]

Hey Marie, only just discovered your channel and now it is one of the highlights of my week. Obviously I'm a bit late but I have a question related to the topic of this video. My question is did you always want to stop self harming? Like was there a time when people were telling you that you need to stop and your internal response was just like "no i dont want to"? I ask cause everyone is telling me to stop and expecting that i want to stop but half of me really doesnt want to, which i know sounds nuts, i know its bad and all but i struggle with wanting to stop if that makes sense? Love you and your channel so much

[@huntermitchell9581]

I’ve recently subscribed,, & I love having a KZbinr I can relate to:/ & actually makes me feel something

[@lisamueller1512]

Would love a vid about how to deal with emotions! :) Especially with anger!!

[@ventingvegan2517]

i would love a video on coping with guilt and shame!!!!

[@Rebecca-kl8xs]

I love you so so much Marie ❤️❤️

[@hannahsingleton7410]

I love your videos so much they've helped me out a lot and your really inspirational thank you 💕

[@lilyhuntingford1018]

love ur videos, thank you for all your help xxx

[@marieroseeee]

lilyy louu thankyou so much lily!! Means a lot to me! ❤️

[@yamaguchitadashi8487]

Hey, I know it's been a while. But I would really lie the worksheet, if you ever found it! I am also really amazed by your attitude and your great advise. I wish I had someone like you when things were really bad. I hope you're having a good day/night

[@izzysworld1020]

Yesterday at school my best friend took my blade from me for one lesson which made me angry. I usually let my anger out with self harm but I couldn’t which made me so worked up that I cried because I needed to release my anger.

[@kelseyreid7495]

Omg you are stunning ❤️❤️

[@curiousgeorgia2321]

The idea of my scars being ‘battle wounds’ or ‘showing my story’ is very distasteful to me as well. I think it’s because I’m an older sister and I spend some time with kids around my sisters age. To me the biggest struggle I have with showing my scars is showing them around kids because I don’t want the idea of self harm to become normalised in their minds so that when they face controversy in their own lives, they think self harm is a reasonable and rational coping mechanism. When I’ve had people say ‘they’re beautiful’ or ‘battle wounds’ it sort of romanticises it to me, and I think that’s why I don’t like those sorts of comments

[@emsum9254]

Omg please do the emotion videos it'll help so much xxx