Self-Love: If You Do Only One Thing, Do This! | Frankie Côté | TEDxCollingwood

Self-Love: If you do only one thing, Do this! In this emotive talk, Frankie shares the one thing he did that finally allowed him to find self-love, after years of chronic mental and physical health problems that led to two suicide attempts. Frankie made this discovery, and found the route to self-love, through a song he wrote whilst on a 17 country world trip back in 2018. During this talk he shares all that he learnt and the one simple thing you can do to find self-love too. He ends the talk by singing the song that changed his life.
Frankie Cote has played his music to crowds of over 1400 people, hosted a radio show on National Prison Radio in the UK, travelled to over 17 countries in one year and vlogged the whole trip, worked as a carer for autistic children and built a career in digital media. Frankie also once weighed 320lbs, drank a bottle of whisky every day, lived with chronic depression and an anxiety disorder and tried to kill himself twice. Having faced his demons and escaped the major rut he was in, he now spends his days helping others do the same with his latest music project, HERDD. He is also a mindset coach and the Founder of BE INFINITY, a business he started to spread his technique to a wider audience. Frankie Cote has played his music to crowds of over 1400 people, hosted a radio show on National Prison Radio in the UK, travelled to over 17 countries in one year and vlogged the whole trip, worked as a carer for autistic children and built a career in digital media. Frankie also once weighed 320lbs, drank a bottle of whisky every day, lived with chronic depression and an anxiety disorder and tried to kill himself twice. Having faced his demons and escaped the major rut he was in, he now spends his days helping others do the same as a performing artist, mindset coach and the Founder of BE INFINITY, a business he started to spread his technique to a wider audience. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@Chopsyochops]

Self love. A song about stripping away the ego and loving yourself deeply. So beautiful. Thank you.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) Thanks for your lovely words Christina. I really appreciate them. Self-love can be tricky at times, but it doesn't mean we shouldn't try! :)

[@yeelaavraham1184]

@@herdd so great that you answer people

[@herdd]

​@@yeelaavraham1184 Honestly, I'm just grateful that you're here and connecting with my words and art. :) Chatting with you is the least I can do.

[@yeelaavraham1184]

Thank you

[@herdd]

@@yeelaavraham1184 You're very welcome!

[@nataliecat98nc]

You have a very calming voice. You would be good at reading audio books😊

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - THANKYOU! haha! You're not the first person to say that. I've actually considered turning my own book into an audiobook, just haven't found the time yet!

[@karenevans5117]

Thank you so much for sharing your life story. It is very powerful. It sounds like you have discovered some deep things from your Knowing Place. Keep sharing I believe you will inspire many people.

[@OspreyMomma]

👍🤚I traveled along with Frankie’s journey all around the world watching him write his book then release this song and then made some videos. He is truly an inspirational man I am so glad we connected and will be forever friends. He is ❤️by so many but Frankie always has a special place in my heart here in Florida. Thank you for having him speak here he is a very multi talented, inspiring nice gifted man. Hugs 🤗 hugs to Frankie take care 💕

[@Munsjvc2]

“Differently abled.” ❤️❤️

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your kind message.

[@scottmichaelmedia]

Love the song and what it represents. Such an open, honest and brave story.

[@dannysze8183]

learning to love your true self is the greatest love of all.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I couldn't agree more Danny. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us.

[@dannysze8183]

@@herdd after you love your true self, you don't need a partner. they are optional. you are the best partner of your own. if you found another person who love his true self, that is the best relationship. true love.

[@herdd]

@@dannysze8183 YES, YES + YES! Once you have a great relationship with yourself, you don't need another partner. But, you can choose one and if you do choose someone who loves themselves too, you can have something that's almost magical.

[@cestmoi5702]

Wow. Two times I almost lost the chance to hear your beautiful voice. I don’t know who you are but I am glad you failed twice. ❤️❤️

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Your message really moved me, hit me right in the Feeling Place in the best type of way. Thankyou for your kindess, it truly means a lot. :)

[@Feelization]

That was beautiful. ✨🙏✨🌷💜🌷✨

[@ivaspeaks]

LOA (law of attraction) brought me to your great Ted talk Thank you To fall in love with ourselves is one of the secrets to happiness

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Iva! I'm so grateful for your message and very happy that my TED Talk resonated with you. I agree that self-love is one of the roots of all good.

[@UneakTershai]

First time hearing music on a TedTalk. Lit! 🔥

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks Uneak! :) As an artist, I couldn't resist the chance to sing. Glad you enjoyed it!

[@melpreston2095]

Just now seeing this. And seeing you, Frankie. You’re a kind, gentle soul with such love inside. Good luck & infinite inspiration as you move through this World. Your message is touching. Your drive and determination evident.... Bless your Path & those in it.🌟🙏🌟

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Wow, Mel... What can I say? Your message really made me smile. Your words are very touching. At the end of it all, past the joy and pain, the motivation and dissapointment, I believe that there is something greater that binds us all. Perhaps what you like in me is what is great of you. :) Thanks for watching and commenting. Keep trusting what you know and following your heart.

[@vanhoudtshoorn]

Thank you for sharing. loved your talk and song. very inspirational

[@readings-and-mentoring]

Thank you for sharing you amazing soul!

[@OneFranceska]

Frankie ! Record this song ! 🙌 It's absolutely beautiful !!! 🎵

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks so much Franceska, I'm so glad we connected and I was able to share the song with you!

[@monaanderson4607]

Lovely, Frankie. Happy you are still here. I think I will try to do what you have done for myself. I would like to be content the way you seem to be. It’s Lovely, Frankie. Thank you.

[@melissanaidoo7924]

That was... beautiful, heart warming... the loveliest voice I've heard.. Thank you for an amazing talk.. Truly inspiring..

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Ah Melissa, you are so kind. Thanks so much for your lovely words, they mean a lot. I'm so glad that my message made sense to you, please do stay in touch :)

[@transformwithverve2133]

Beautiful song and beautifully sung :) Lovely voice. Loved it.

[@RiverWestin]

So inspiring to hear your journey! Beautiful song at the end too

[@mariannedressler6784]

Beautiful message. Beautiful song. Beautiful person. ❤️

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Awww Marianne, You're very sweet! Thankyou. :) I really appreciate your kindness and thanks for watching my talk!

[@FelixNew]

What an inspiring and authentic talk! Frankie is as real as it gets. 🔥 Beautiful song too 🌟

[@amandatsiokas2676]

Thank you. Beautiful words and great advice. Thank you for the inspiration. ❤️🙌🏽🌀

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks so much for your lovely words and support Amanda! I'm so glad to hear that my talk resonated with you.

[@jessdreamingoutloud6679]

Hello Frankie, Wow you have done so many things in your life and you are so humble about it all. It really sent shivers down my spine when you were speaking. You are such a great person.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Jess! Your kind words really mean a lot to me. :) Thankyou! I may have done quite a few things that I'm proud of over the years, but I've also failed and made plenty of mistakes too haha. I'm really glad this connected with you and I'm very grateful for your message.

[@joleahkunkel2717]

Truly beautiful, thank you for sharing your jewel with all of us!!✨🌹🙏🌹✨

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your wonderful words Joleah! I truly appreciate them. :) I'm so glad that my talk resonated with you!

[@missware2677]

First time I’m able to connect deeply with my real self. All I feel is compassion for myself

[@beccismith4454]

Yes! Resonates with me as well! Even several of the stations along your way, things you thought you were… I thought I was a linguist, work currently with boys with Asperger’s at the moment, for a long time I was a college English as a foreign language teacher or project head or whatever… Lots and lots and lots of different roles I have played! And at the moment I am again at a place of “who am I?”, And also a place of learning or learning to practice self-love. So thank you for your impulses here. 💗

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - It's great to hear from you Rebecca! It sounds like you've played many different roles too.. and worn many hats! :) I totally understand where you find yourself, it can be a little daunting. But I promise you that if you find a way to lean into your Knowing Place you will start to make peace with the fact that perhaps it's not about finding the hat that fits best, and instead about the joy of being able to try out many different ones.

[@readings-and-mentoring]

Its refreshing to hear such raw honesty in such a loving way! Bless u

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Michelle! Your messages really made me smile. I believe that there is strength in vulnerability and I try and bring my truest self to the table every day. Although of course, I do fail at times! haha. Thanks again for your message.

[@readings-and-mentoring]

@@herdd good on u! Could not agress more..Its very inspiring! I've been thinking about doing a Ted talk for a long time now I prefer the idea to writing a book put it that way. I feel like I have a story to share. Well done again🙂 And thank you for your message. It's very kind.

[@herdd]

@@readings-and-mentoring Thanks Michelle! :) You should totally apply to do a TED Talk. What would yours be about?

[@candykandy]

I love the humble brags about the world trips 😂kidding... amazing talk and he uses beautiful quotes and metaphors that make you think. Thank you!

[@herdd]

Hi Kerry - It's Frankie messaging from my personal music channel on here. Just wanted to say thanks for checking out my talk and I'm really glad it resonated with you! :) ... Sorry for the humble brags too! Hahahaha. ;) Thanks again.

[@candykandy]

@@herdd you’re so welcome! Thank you again ❤️

[@veganchaatparty]

Super Superb.....super awesome!!! so so so so so so beautiful!!! Super Amazing!! Super thanks for sharing!!!

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - THANKS SO MUCH AKASH! Your kind words mean a lot to me!

[@celestite888]

This was really beautiful.... Frankie.... your heart is so beautiful...... It shines.... I think your purpose in the world may be just to set the hearts of beings on fire... bring them out of the comatose state they are in and fill them with the Light of your own Divine Fire.... I feel we are privileged to be sharing this world with you.... Infinite blessings....

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks so much for your kind words and support, they really mean a lot! :) I believe we all have the capacity to help each other love a little more and fear a little less. I've been helped by some truly remarkable people over the years and I only hope to return the favour.

[@sadekamullings269]

Thank you 🙏

[@BeYourUniquePotential]

You are an amazing person. Inspirational. Thank you. ❤️

[@herdd]

Hey! :) It's Frankie messaging from my music YT channel. Just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to check out my talk. I'm really glad it resonated with you! Wishing you and your loved ones the very best for the rest of the year.

[@barbarastavros]

Thank you!

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - THANK YOU! For sharing this moment with me.

[@2quick2.0]

Such a beautiful message. I will definitely be applying this to my everyday life. God bless you! I am manifesting it and I am claiming it! I receive it! Beautiful things are coming my way, they’re on the horizon! ❤️🙏🏼✨

[@justwanderinginair]

Beautiful song and message

[@biba350]

Thank you for sharing inspirational

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - THANKS for your kindness Rebecca! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. :)

[@dominickly4992]

That was beautiful. Thank you.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks Dominick! I really appreciate your kind words and support.

[@saundnyasakhare1973]

Such a beautiful song 🖤

[@dadaprishelo8085]

Inspiring and truly beautiful

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I really appreciate your kind words :) Thankyou. I'm glad my talk resonated with you.

[@unzahid]

powerful.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I'm glad that my talk resonates with you! Thanks for watching.

[@sabine4998]

Beautiful ♥️

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your kind words of support Sabine!

[@chanelgruver6884]

Loved This ❤️

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Just wanted to say thanks for watching and thanks for your kind words! :)

[@vyzzkid]

just so lovely...you have a warm heart :) god bless

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I'm so glad that this resonated with you. You know, it takes a warm heart to recognize a warm heart :) Thankyou for your kind words.

[@vyzzkid]

@@herdd how sweet are youuu :D

[@herdd]

@@vyzzkid I'm a people person! haha. Feel free to connect with me over on my channel or Instagram! :)

[@TravelWithMe480]

Amazing. ✨✨✨

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your kindness and I'm glad that my talk resonates with you.

[@mariacollinsthomas8706]

Loved the song

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I'm glad you love the song! It means a lot. There's a studio version of it over on my channel.

[@dkatasaurus5191]

Where can I listen to this song?

[@julienavarro3602]

So Beautiful.💕😍

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your kind words and support Julie! :)

[@SaadonAksah]

awesome speech!

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks so much Saadon. I really appreciate your kind words. Glad my talk resonated with you.

[@dominicossarg8931]

Beautifully written, spoken and sung. Thank you 🙏

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks Dominic, I really appreciate your kind words and support. It means a lot!

[@karenhogan731]

❤️❤️❤️

[@herdd]

[@lydiamoolenaar7967]

il loving this Ted Talk

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I really appreciate your kind words Lydia. Thankyou.

[@BeYourUniquePotential]

❤️

[@tuneintolove2527]

This was excellent. 💕

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Your kind words made me smile. I'm so glad that this resonated with you!

[@tuneintolove2527]

@@herdd So much!

[@herdd]

@@tuneintolove2527

[@CoachKathiTheFitSpirit]

Amazing

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Just to say I think you're amazing too!

[@CoachKathiTheFitSpirit]

@@herdd thank you! I really needed that yesterday. And saved it to listen again.

[@herdd]

@@CoachKathiTheFitSpirit You're so kind Kathi! :) I'm glad this makes sense to you. If you ever want to chat more! I am totally open.

[@CoachKathiTheFitSpirit]

@@herdd thank you!!!

[@herdd]

@@CoachKathiTheFitSpirit You're very welcome.

[@ayaan8877]

I can't focus on anything but those pants.

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - Thanks for your comment, it really made me laugh. :) You raise a valid point.

[@avachandel6609]

ayan Nuur 😄😄😄😝😝😝

[@MrAshay12]

I didn't understand, can someone please explain what's the one thing we should do

[@rarekindbeauty]

Honey! I think you are beautiful! I like everything about you! Much care! Stay safe! God Bless! 🙏🌞🤗

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - I really appreciate your kind words! I feel so lucky to have support like yours. :) Thankyou.

[@rarekindbeauty]

You absolutely deserve sincere support!!! Happy that you got a chance to see the comment that came from my heart yesterday 🙏🌞🤗 I just subscribed to your Music Channel! Please keep on doing you and keep on shining! Hugs from Moscow! 💚🧡💛🙏🌞🤗

[@herdd]

@@rarekindbeauty I really appreciate your kindness Nataliya. As an artist it can sometimes feel like you're sharing your vulnerable heart to a big, empty void. It's with support like yours that this doesn't feel as empty when times are tougher! Thankyou. :) If you're ever on Spotify or Instagram.. I'll also be there!

[@honeybunny7895]

LOVE YOU 😘

[@observer7418]

I wish I could be special like you.

[@gratefulayn1872]

May I know the song title pls

[@herdd]

Frankie here! (Messaging from my music channel!) - The song is on my channel! It's called 'One Thing'! Thanks for listening and watching. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[@ANGEL-ux4lw]

@@herdd beautiful music ❤️ where can I download from?

[@herdd]

@@ANGEL-ux4lw Thankyou so much! I really appreciate it. :) All of my music is on major streaming platforms and stores. Thanks so much for listening!

[@spindrifter7519]

Self Indulgent

[@honeybunny7895]

I think am a good person , but am sure I have done pretty bad things in last years.

[@Stolanis]

Then you are not a 'good' person, just a person who is capable of doing good or bad. To think of oneself as 'good' is to enforce an ego upon yourself, an idea that does not exist in real terms. Who you are is who you happen to be in that moment, regardless of your past or intended future. It matters not how good you think you are, but how much good you do in the world. Let your actions speak for you.

[@OspreyMomma]

Kaz 🤚friend 👏💯agree with your comment. Wonderful way with words.

[@chriscameron4618]

how can anyone take you seriously when your wearing those trousers?!

[@jenskruse1475]

Typical bragtalk

[@BeYourUniquePotential]

❤️

[@WhenSerahWrites1991]

♥️

[@herdd]