SELF-LOVE SEPT: How to Release What No Longer Serves You

[@peacelovemick6977]

Kelly, I so needed to hear this. I am torturing myself about saying good bye to someone who is a lovely person just not what I want for my life.... too much like the others from my past....I have to find my independence

[@wheeloffortune4181]

Very timely. This is something I am really struggling with right now. I have always had an adversion to the advice "release what no longer serves you" and have difficulty accepting that something new will come in and fill the space.

[@shaease4931]

So timely for me! I was raised by women who despised me; my grandmother was jealous that her husband was raping me, and my mother always competed with me. I am ready to let go of my toxic relationships with women who are insecure and as a result, gossip about me, pull power plays and give me their negative energy in general. I've had a lot of dreams about no longer being self-sacrificing because I feel guilty when people don't like me or I feel like I can change their minds. I don't want to be that person anymore. I just want to be true to myself and attract the people who encourage my evolution, just like you said Kelly Ann! Thank you for this series.

[@Emmastayofftheinternet]

About five years ago I did this, and I asked my higher power to take the wheel. I surrendered my will and finally gave up. if only I had known how powerful those words were and how they changed the course of my life more then I could have imagined. It's actually scares me.

[@nokomituha]

I am releasing a lot of gunk to do with health and body image. I fasted for *almost* 3 days for better health, and have through the years weaned myself from my caffeine, sugar, chocolate, junk food addictions. I still enjoy them and any time I catch myself living on them I stop it as fast as I can. I so love this series. I have you vids on "play all" right now. You are so affirming and enriching. Thank you.

[@hermitbeing]

I never thought, growing up, that art would ever be dead weight. But doing art for money is making me whatever the opposite of fizzy is, but I've been holding onto that because I love giving people that sense of, "this is exactly what I had envisioned!!" That joy of seeing their dreams made real, or at least visible. I want to keep helping people have that joy but I reaaally can't expand anywhere if I feel stuck doing commissions. So maybe it's finally time to finish up the ones I've started and just let it go.

[@AnyaEsma]

You mentioned being overly vigilant because of a childhood filled with danger. This is closely tied to the bullying topic for me. I have already released a large part of the protective behaviors I took on because I never knew when I'd get bullied next, trying to be as inconspicuous as possible. But I recently realized there's still a lot of self-surveillance happening when I'm around other people. Time to tackle that. :) Thank you, as always, Kelly-Ann!

[@KerryJeanWatson]

Releasing what doesn't serve me: I have held on to something (unconsciously) for more than a decade now. Three weeks a go my house mate and friend broke a vertebrea in his back (T11) with no nerve or spinal cord damage. No matter what I did, I could not take the physical pain he was in away. I ended up feeling I was a terrible carer and had an emotional break down. 4 days after the injury I went to a local support group (I live regional Western Australia) And while in a group counselling session realised I felt I was a bad carer because 10 years ago my mother passed away from an inoperable brain tumour. A couple day after my mother passed away my father (who return to Aus from the UK 10 hours before my mother passed away) told me that my mother died because I didn't do a good enough job at looking after her. Rationally I knew that wasn't true, but those words stuck with me for 10 years. After that session I stopped panicking about my friend with a broken back and have since become much more able to realise I cannot take away the pain. I made sure as well to do a releasing ritual when I got him that afternoon, because it was just a deep wound that needed acknowledgement and space held for it. Thankfully I am studying Psychology at Uni at present and my current unit is Self Development and I had had much helpful and insightful resources of information to help me through this. Over the last two weeks my friend pain has diminished and he is doing much better. I am making sure I implement self care routines to ensure I don't allow negative self talk seep in.

[@ShadowHarvest]

Loved this one! I have been struggling a lot with knowing I need to move on from my current employer but knowing the best way to do that is to save money so it can't happen right away. Many days just feels like i'm dragging something around that has been dead weight for ages. Feels like my whole life is just on pause till It makes financial sense to leave and move to a new city.

[@E.M.Luminations]

I had identified that I needed to release the house I owned during my marriage. It symbolised security safety and success to me and I had to sign it over as part of the divorce. I only realised a couple of months ago that I have been hanging on to the loss of that house for 17years.

[@YogaBlissDance]

Love the 80's sweater!

[@leeroyallen9053]

for the longest time I felt guilty with the feelings of leaving friends who no longer served me in my journey. We were alcoholics in our 20's and I needed to move on. I evolved and just couldn't enjoy conversation and we always would go back 15 yrs and rehash a connection that didn't serve me in a healthy and empowering way.

[@leenaparsons9876]

Definitely planted that seed of intention while watching this video. Thanks for the nudge!

[@wendygreene]

I've been dealing with the unrequited feelings for a co-worker of mine that has pretty much taken over my life. It's hard to let it get over it because I have to see him everyday and work in close quarters with him. The worst part is, recently a new girl has started and they've clearly hit it off and I have to sit by a watch as they've grown closer in the last two weeks than I have in the last year with him. I've struggled so much with this that it has become hard to let go of my pain and anger at being rejected, even though I've tried so many times. It's almost impossible to see him (and now her) without feeling that pain.

[@kitdubhran2968]

I watched this while straightening. I'm letting go of "I'll do it later". At least I'm trying to. Also the trap of perfection. If it's not done "right" it's not done. That's sooooo harmful to me. As someone with ADHD I just get trapped in a mental cycle of "I can't do it now, there's so much of it to do". And then executive dysfunction comes in and nothing ever gets done. This has been an amazing amazing year for SLS for me. #selfloveseptember is coinciding with so many things right now, other challenges, and such, that are leading up to a lot of open doors. And this time I'm actually walking through a few of them! Thanks so much Kelly-Ann for your videos and content this month. It's been amazing!

[@chelloxx]

i relate to that so much, a chronic procrastinator if you will. that's the biggest thing stopping me from doing all these amazing things that will change my life.

[@kitdubhran2968]

Rachel O I know it's kind of campy, and cliche, but "one step at a time" is really a great way to go. If it's a huge task break it down into tiny parts and schedule them onto your day between all the other stuff you're doing. Im currently block scheduling my day like I had in school, and setting alarms every day for things to get done. It's a brand new journey, but I'm getting more done than I have before. Probably in part because I really looked at all the things I wanted to do the night before and on the morning, rather than just an overwhelming "so much to do". Also find something you can enjoy in the background that won't take up your attention so it becomes enjoyable time, rather than just "work". I play KZbin. You could do pandora, or learn a language, or some podcast. Best of luck to you! I know you can do it. One tiny bite at a time!

[@chelloxx]

You're exactly right! I'm watching some "how to stop procrastinating" videos and there's some really good advice on there and they all say break it up into smaller tasks. The scheduling and alarm idea is a great suggestion, especially for someone that gets easily distracted. I'm definitely going to try it out. And even the simple task of looking at what to do the next day, so smart! Because the first thing to cross my mind in defense of my procrastination is "I don't know what I'm supposed to do next". Thanks for the support, I know we can both do it =]

[@kitdubhran2968]

Rachel O me too! Best of luck! And if you're feeling glum about not getting something done, acknowledge it, accept it, give yourself a pep talk and jump back on the bronco. We can do it together! ❤️

[@worldofmehak]

This is just the video I needed, thank you Kelly Ann for your words and wisdom and the light you share with the world ❤✨

[@meluzynn]

I just want to thank you so much for that video, I was so in need for this today ! I usually watch your videos but I think I never comment, I’m not a huge commenter on YT nor on FB, I guess I can be called a lurker... I read, I listen, I learn bu I never say a word. I need to change that especially because your videos are such a great help for me, I need to change that, be a bit more grateful and tell you how amazing you are. And I also love the fact that I can read your lips quite easily even if English is not my native language. Thank you for everything !

[@mauralee9987]

Pure synchronicity Kelly-Ann!!! Just what I needed to hear!

[@calhoonas]

Yes! Such a great topic and, much like everyone commenting here, PERFECT TIMING! I've been in the process for two years of letting my job go. I've had a lot of surprising blocks around leaving, which has been so confusing because it's ultimately what I want most. All of that said, your idea to have a ceremony to honor the gratitude I have and let go was the last piece. It assuaged my guilt for leaving an amazing job I have loved, but I'm ready to move on from. Thank you for sharing! Clearly, many of us needed to hear this! 💜🧡💛💚💙❤

[@KatziRoman]

✨💖🙏💖✨ Perfect message for today, Kelly-Ann! Thank you so much for this!!!

[@meianoiteastrologia]

Thank you!

[@SToGEmNE]

I spend a hundred dollars out of every paycheck for smoking a pack of cigarettes every day... my boyfriend smokes too, we smoke inside our apartment. It's literally a part of my daily routine. I tell myself that it's a break from stress, a break from the go go goingness of life but it just... isn't anymore. I don't know man. I don't want to be a cliche either, my boyfriend has vocally made fun of it and mocked it and it's a part of my identity and aesthetic in weirdly prominent ways. For a while there, it was my *only* sense of identity.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I seriously relate! I need to make a video about my story of quitting smoking! X

[@rowanlefey8511]

Thanks for this video, it's exactly what I needed to hear at this moment. I'm in for a big move soon and I will also be meeting my partners parents as well (so nervous! lol). I'm moving from an area where I practically grew up so as much as I know that this move is good for me i'm still very rooted. This was very encouraging and something I needed at the moment so thank you Kelly :-)

[@liminalflynneas9844]

I'm strugglng mostly with the second part/other side of that, being willing to embrace what will serve me, while I'm just sort of blahing through, not doing anything particular. And I just realized sort of a huge shadow thing which is the source of that blockage, so hopefully this awareness can help me overcome the fears.

[@baileymaxwell4247]

I released a toxic relationship and behaviors.

[@maryeva_dunord]

Very useful video as always! I really need to relwase my self esteem issues.

[@KandiandRum]

Great video Kelly-Ann! ❤️

[@TripleRoux]

A wonderful video, perfect timing. Thank you so much! Big releases happening for me these days, no idea what even tomorrow will bring after this decision ... I'm quite scared but ready to plunge into the unknown! Your videos are helping me so much in this phase of my life! Blessed be! 💖

[@vikingwitch7181]

I'm thinking a lot about OCD when I watch this video. For me, who suffer from various thought traps that can go on for weeks, it's so hard to know what is "right" and what is "wrong" in my life. Because OCD just mucks it all up. I don't have a clue of what to let go of and what to keep in my life.

[@lemurianchick]

I don't think OCD interferes with this knowing. You know which thoughts are the mind's way of distracting you from feeling intense feelings and the ability to look at your habits and know which do not serve. OCD doesn't remove discernment; it just tries to shout over it. Don't give in.

[@topazmoon3122]

I watched this three times today. As you spoke,it resonated so much with the blockages and my failure to move forward or make way for what I feel is ready to come in. Are you still running specials for March,I think I will be booking a session soon could you send me some info or a link to book in a monthly session. Blessed be sister

[@rsnsol2490]

Wow! Well said. This resonates so strongly with me right now. I really needed to hear this put the way you said it. Thanks

[@lovelightshining4444]

Lovely message, a truth that everyone of every age should listen toooo. Ty, Blessed Be.

[@CopicAddictedSara]

This is a subject that I really need to work harder on! I have the intentions of releasing things, but then I just let it be... not actually doing the work. I have this little voice in my head that says... Are you sure this is what you need to do? And that is where I get stuck! I have learned that not making a decision is indeed making one. I know that sounds totally messed up! Ex. You are standing on the train tracks, you hear the train coming... you know that you need to make a decision but by not making one... you actually are... you have been struck down by the train. Well the train has hit me many times and I need to change this!!!

[@journeyloveroyal3165]

Wow thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@LisaCosmic]

I have just started this process, so this is very timely for me. Thanks so much xx

[@TheStitchinWitch]

Brilliant video, lovely. ❤❤❤

[@studionightshade]

Thanks for this. This speaks as a nice follow-up for the reading you did the other day.

[@janinecobb]

I really want to let go of contact with my Mother. She is a diabolical abusive, manipulative woman. I have tried numerous times in the past and each time she has absolutely steam rolled me back into contact. I feel this is something that I absolutely need to do for my mental health, but I also fear defeat, it has happened so many times.

[@Letha222]

Good video. Thanks. The thing that I’m grappling with is my atheism. I embraced atheism in 1990’s when I was coming out as a lesbian. Back then the Bible was often used as a reason why gays and lesbians should be denied various rights and freedoms. Atheism, with all its associated rhetoric, was my shield and sword in the battle with Christian fundamentalists who believed I was going to hell. Twenty years later, gay rights have advanced tremendously and I don’t give a fig what Christians think. So, I no longer need my atheism and I feel it’s holding me back from the spiritual explorations I want to engage in.

[@mixtresskatgranquist9898]

Im struggle to move on with a part of my life thats well and truely over . I used to be a musician but now i dont even get a chance to practice, im a audio tech now so my life revolves around supporting musicians instead. Im having a realy shitty time moving on i want to sell some of my guitars but my partner keeps telling me not to i feel like building a funeral pire for it all. And burning it all away

[@bonniephillips7758]

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[@SamanthaMenzo]

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[@janinecobb]

I really want to let go of contact with my Mother. She is a diabolical abusive, manipulative woman. I have tried numerous times in the past and each time she has absolutely steam rolled me back into contact. I feel this is something that I absolutely need to do for my mental health, but I also fear defeat, it has happened so many times.

[@ReneeGreen4]

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