Self-Sabotage: Recognize And Eliminate It With Shadow Work

[@rozminhall]

Aye it looks like her arms are sideways because of her sofa!

[@emiliascharm4693]

Feels unpleasant to me looking at that... why?

[@skynet4496]

Maybe it's a subconscious crucifiction... 😅 Just a psychology joke lol

[@jasonfanclub4267]

I can't unsee that 😂

[@andyrandy0815]

lol

[@dr0zable]

We don’t talk about the sideways arms.

[@movewithmike]

"Self sabotage is self love emanating upwards from the subconscious mind... In a way that I don't understand." You're brilliant, Heidi!

[@wesleyhall4901]

*grabs my shadow* Get in here buddy, new Heidi vid just dropped.

[@heidipriebe1]

The term ‘lol’ has long since ceased to represent the experience of *actually* laughing out loud but that’s exactly what I did reading this comment.

[@rhinoskin7550]

​@heidipriebe1 how are you so good with word's?! I want to get there and get overwhelmed by all of this work 😂 I'm not even employed anymore trying to fix everything. My brain is like "nope, cant do anything until you figure this out.." ...and now I understand why school I'd important 😂

[@hannahr2824]

Your videos have introduced me to concepts that feel so basic, but are actively changing my life. The idea that my body might be reacting to change, and that the anxiety and frustration will ease as I settle in, is something that has never occurred to me.

[@TorturedSoul]

I hope you have an amazing day today 🎉 anyone who reads this

[@juan_castellanos19]

This whole video really resonates. I spent the longest time hating parts of myself because I thought they were either bad or actively resisting me out of spite, and my (unsuccessful) attempts to change were mostly driven by willpower and strong arm tactics. Once I started getting to approach those parts from a stance of curiosity and compassion, I realized that those parts had very good intentions, and in many cases were protecting me from pain and/or getting my needs met in ways that I didn’t even realize. I’m starting to now view those parts as borderline heroic, both because they did their job as well as the did (even if it wasn’t perfect) and because they were able to do so in the environment of my internal system that has been so hostile towards them for so long.

[@jennw6809]

They are 100% heroic!

[@ciaraskeleton]

When you really switch that mindset, and see the shadows as teachers, as misguided helpers, your whole view changes. This core work moves mountains in terms of self esteem. I went from having such a low view of myself, to having a solid secure view of not just me, but everyone around me.

[@Heyu7her3]

Oh no, my body and my mind hate me (my soul). And also hate each other smdh. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I have high to realistic self/ soul esteem, but the esteem of the other parts is just like "They gonna do what they want regardless".

[@SuLawn]

Wow. You're brilliant. 🤗🙏❤️🙂

[@Kali_Yugahhhh]

💗

[@jontnoneya3404]

EVERY TIME I listen to one of your videos, you seem to hit so many ideas directly on point. It's almost as if you're giving us the keys to unlocking the hidden secrets of our own lives, no matter how baffling our behaviors are. You make such complex and difficult issues understandable and you always provide practical tips for helping us unravel the mysteries ourselves. I simply LOVE THIS! I've been in a lot of therapy over the years and I've worked with some great therapists and some that seemed inept. You are providing insights that I don't remember hearing anywhere else. I guess it's true, when the student is ready the teacher arrives. Thank you for all you do to help people on this site and in real life. I can't express enough how much I appreciate your efforts.

[@jewellynn5497]

Yes she does!! I am completely blown away of how well she explains this!!

[@MyOver50]

I couldn't agree with you more! It's like she's putting together the missing pieces in a way that is easily understood. I'm so happy that I found her.

[@loosilu]

Holy moly, the timing. Wednesday last week I was fired from my job because I was caught watching videos instead of working. And of course I knew better. I was "sabotaging" myself. For several years now I've hard a hard time doing work and doing art. I need to figure out what the night shift wants. I cannot thank you enough for this.

[@thephddropout]

I quit a job that didn't want me listening to music or videos while working. I stumbled my way into tech/freelance/contract work. I prioritize working places that don't watch my every move so I can work the ways I need. Ex: when anxious, I play Tetris. I'm anxious when I'm processing meetings, work tasks... and after I've played Tetris for about 3 minutes, I've created a strategy, steps, tools, assigned roles... The things that even most managers struggle to do which of often their job😂 All that to say: yes, listen to the nightshift

[@MyOver50]

How's it going now? Have you found a good mix?

[@MyOver50]

@@thephddropout Yes!! I do the same with Suduko & Solitaire & recently read an article supporting this method. Who knew we were ahead of the study.... lol

[@loosilu]

@@MyOver50 Thank you so much for asking! I work as a defense contactor and deliberately sought out a job where phones are banned and YT videos don't work. I really like the job. But I can't figure out what to do when I don't have work to do?

[@loosilu]

@MyOver50 While I was waiting for clearances to go through, I also took two big trips. The first was a solo Alaska cruise for 9 days, i was terrified of cruises, I had to work through a LOT of anxiety on a daily basis, it was hard but good. The second was a solo trip to Tokyo, which was also terrifying, and one of the most joyful experiences of my life. The Alaska trip was a private challenge. The Tokyo trip was joyful.

[@joshliam1967]

These videos have revolutionized the way I feel about my tendency to "self sabotage," thank you.

[@howtosober]

The hard part about this is that when you've been living in survival your entire life, you're constantly having to go against what you really want just to keep a roof over your head. So as true as this whole video sounds, it's frustrating to listen to in how it assumes that we all just have this awesome range of alternative choices available to us that are more aligned with who we are.

[@heidipriebe1]

I see that as consciously prioritizing survival needs as opposed to self-sabotage. Unless I’m misunderstanding what you’re getting at. This video definitely wouldn’t apply in that context!

[@jicajacobsonkimbreaux]

I'm in a similar situation and need to know how to do this without being unstable, agitated, and angry with myself and the other person 95% of the time, even when they're doing nothing wrong. It feels like I'm at constant war with various parts of myself- the part that values myself as an individual and wants to leave a toxic marriage vs. the part that wants to keep myself safe by controlling my partner vs the part that wants to create a peaceful, stable home for my children.

[@stantrisinhro]

@@heidipriebe1 Hey Heidi and How to sober and others, life as we know it is survival from the "beginning" to the "end", only levels seem to appear to be different. Go level down, and work on not pressing that damn toothpaste that much all the time, if you know what I mean. Have a good one guys!

[@ciaraskeleton]

I'm poor and lived in survival mode for my whole life. Your comment resonated with me because I used to think like this! You are realising a lot, but you're forgetting the part where we accept ourselves, our lives, our situations as they are, bad, good, all the in-between. The idea isn't to have a perfect pain free life, the idea is to sit in your pain and learn how to not just live with it but lean in and love it. It's trying to tell you really important things, if you're willing to listen to it. Negative emotions are just as important as positive ones, and we need to sit and validate every nasty little one of em. I mean...all of them. We build up these mindsets, beliefs, behaviours, that served us during the trauma in our lives. Then we grow up and aren't actually in the trauma anymore but we live as though we are. It takes a long time to be able to feel safe enough to even realise that you can stop doing those things now. Then it's a whole other challenge to start changing the behaviour. But one thing that will literally change your entire life, is listening to your feelings, validating them, radically accepting them for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. Know that all of your anger, frustration, pain, is normal and valid. Know that you as a person are not inherently flawed or bad. You are enough as you are. You might not believe that yet but it's bloody true. You never deserved the pain that life caused you, no one does, and it wasn't your fault. None of it. Let yourself be imperfect and messy, and look at yourself and realise your value and your strength. You've come this far because you're a badass motherfucker, look at you! You survived that shit! And you're still here?? Pat yourself on the back. You will get to that place if you start accepting yourself for who you are, warts and all. (All of these things help with sobriety too, which is another lifelong journey. Don't focus on your failures, focus on every time you wanted to give up and you didn't. You are strong and inherently full of value.

[@sethtenrec]

@@ciaraskeleton < this

[@beanl]

I'm honestly doing so much self-work through your videos....

[@_itchweed]

at a big low point in my life (or high based on perspective i suppose), your videos have been really helpful for just making me feel seen in a lot of ways i used to think i was crazy or irreparably damaged for in my younger self. healing and growing is a gift, but it is also so excruciating some days (like today). thank you for making it a little more tolerable with your work

[@sethtenrec]

Yes, it’s probably a high point for the night shift.

[@sebastiendeloumeaux7372]

This night shift analogy is awesome. Understanding that conscious and unconscious parts of myself are working for my good but with different priorities is life changing. I have always thought that teamwork is important and it is exciting to realize I can build teamwork within myself. Oh and the realization that everything has trade offs. I am pretty delusional when I get excited so I now understand why I am awlays so resistant to changes when I start a new project. I feel so protected by my shadow now. 😍 Thanks so much Heidi for this enlightening explanation ❤ I can feel my mindset changing after every of your video.

[@bakytasykbayeva2300]

I like this topic, because it was very helpful to know that I shouldn’t fight myself, but instead listen to my subconscious mind. Thank you, Heidi! You’re doing a great job.

[@susanaluna2522]

This lesson needs to be taught at every school, hospital, place of employment, and play on TV! *Heading over to do some reflection to stop self-sabotage my life.

[@dseer13]

In my case, my sabotage was stemming from the belief that my flaws made me unlovable. At least if I was flawed more than other people then I was undeserving of love from them. So trying and failing was a major flaw, so I wouldn't even try. I would zone out hard, waste time, procrastinate and ultimately fail and hate myself even more. But at least I wasn't vulnerable to trying and failing in the face of other people who did pass.

[@nj.7325]

I relate.. Im sorry you're going through that. It's incredibly painful and isolating. You may have already but Heidi's video on toxic shame and procrastination is actually about toxic shame and maladaptive coping mechanisms (like procrastination and isolation) so it might also be helpful with that. All the best.

[@EightyFourThousands84000s]

That "imagine your day-to-day" advice was really helpful. Thanks so much Heidi!

[@JeanneBowman]

I"m going through a bit of a crisis right now and your videos are extremely helpful for understanding WHY I am struggling so much. Thank you so much for making these videos- this one especially, it speaks to something that happened to me that I've really been struggling with.

[@amydringering]

Literally got me crying in the shower. 😅 This is exactly what I have been needing to hear. Thank you, Heidi. ❤

[@GrymorioDiBarter]

What you are doing here on KZbin with your videos is just incredible.

[@corylcreates]

I want to be a novelist. I know I want this. All the day-to-day bits of being a novelist (planning the book, writing the first drafting, doing multiple passes of edits, formatting and designing the book for paperback and ebook) interest me and are sources of enjoyable. But I'm afraid of the financial instability. I feel like I should have a safety net for my income. I feel like I should be cautious with this dream, in case it flops and I don't have money. My inner child fears that instability and fears being so desperate for money to take a job I hate. My adult self knows that my current job, while it doesn't make me a lot of money, is a job I'm good at even though it's not my dream. My inner child doesn't want to spend all my time on this job, but she's also afraid of poverty again. She's afraid that she can't do both (work a safe, easy job and work on my dreams) because there isn't enough time in the day. But there is enough time in the day.

[@iveylynmay]

@corlycreates you can do it. You can write a book and get it published. Do it.

[@dearbrave4183]

...but there is enough time in the day

[@ollend5818]

This is the most helpful and lucid way I’ve ever heard the role of the inner child interpreted. Really grateful for you to have made this, Heidi. Thank you.

[@JohnM...]

Really? I’ve tried talking to my inner child. He just tells me to GFMyself.

[@rainonheadfarah7611]

Not me thinking Heidi had 4 arms

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Same! At the beginning of the video, I thought she had her arms spread out... 🙈😅

[@organlessgirl]

thank you for this, would you ever consider making a video on how to process emotions? i’ve recently stopped repressing emotions, but now i feel like i’ve lost my survival method and i feel things too intensely. i know how to feel emotions but i don’t know how to actually process them. i would like to learn the boundary between pushing myself out of my comfort zone and straight up abusing myself. again though, appreciate everything you do.

[@carolbond6124]

I’ve recently gone through this. You will feel emotions more intensely for awhile. What I did was set aside time to write out all my fears and then all my resentments. Then I meditated for 20 minutes. (I started with 5 minutes and worked my way up) During the meditation I communicated with the parts of myself and allowed any emotions to come through. Over time the emotions became less intense and less frequent.

[@dacewillow]

I would find this super helpful as well!

[@Heyu7her3]

I was tired of "feeling the feels" and processing them because they kept coming back with no resolve. So I asked my psych to prescribe me with anxiety meds. Definitely dulled down the intensity and now think I'm ready to taper off them _(they've been over-effective)._ The issue still remains that *the world ain't shi* and no self work will keep me from that reality. But at least I don't feel so strongly about it/ am emotionally spiraling anymore 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@katie.freitas]

I don't know anybody on KZbin that explains all this better than you. Thank you for sharing this info with that much details and clarity for all of us! Thank you. God bless you

[@Yintendo]

i want Heidi to run for US President, but she's Canadian. 😂🍁😢 ... imagine a world lead by people this rational, conscientious, and aware. 🤯

[@mauritsbol4806]

I do like the idea, but just for fun. being president is like governing an organization. There is a good reason why your local therapist is a bad candidate for president (usually). What happens when there is an invasion of taiwan? Or how about us taxes, freedom of speech, etc.

[@HUGEHARDTHICKANDVEINY]

I don't think she's narcissistic/Machiavellian enough to make that work lol.

[@Thomas...191]

I really like how Heidi is miles away from the slime of politics. Slime that is threatening to subsume everything. I even liked the way she recently alluded to the Johnah Hill Hullabaloo without actually getting into commentary and the digital fisticuffs. The psychology space online gradually edges towards more; views, reactions to events/people etc. Most of it cheap and poorly thought out for clicks. The reason I like this writer is that she is thoughtful and has a beautiful ability to communicate ideas. Please for the love of God.. don't do politics.. rant over.. haha

[@suzanne2680]

Why are there so many wonderfully self-aware Canadians on YT? 😄

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

​@suzanne2680 who else do you follow/recommend. Heidi is one of many youtubers I follow but she's my favourite.

[@mangothunder7]

Your couch is so trippy, when your hands are down it looks like your arms are spread out

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Was looking for this comment... I was so distracted, I didn't pay attention to the content of the video! 🤣 Maybe a form of self-sabotage on my part? I feel so silly... :)

[@sebastianrooks6778]

I found your work after a blindsided breakup with an FA ex-partner. You've helped me understand and have greater compassion for her. I've stayed a follower and am ordering one of your books because your honesty and trauma awareness (cPTSD here too) and writings speak eloquently to the beautifully fucked up experience of being human. Thank you, learning about your work is one of the silver linings of this experience.

[@russellcameronthomas2116]

Same here. Such a jarring and shocking experience. Good thing I was able to learn about FA and also see signs prior to her "cutting and running". I hope you can maintain "no contact" and focus on your own feelings, your own development and growth, etc. I'm 60 days no contact, and I have lost 15 lbs., working out more, cut back drinking, moving cross-country (back home), and more.

[@jean-victorcote5825]

This is definitely not shallow work. This presentation is very well put together.

[@0MOLOTOV]

I don’t know if you’ll see this but, if you can think of a good approach, I’d LOVE a video on being ok while being physically alone when you’ve been overly attached to people. I broke up with my ex of 8 years and now live alone, and I’m going through genuine despair at the idea of living alone now, despite so badly wanting to accept it. Your shadow work series seemed to be timed perfectly. I don’t want to fill my space with another attachment figure just to avoid my physical loneliness. I also realize I was probably too attached to my mum in childhood which doesn’t help this feeling. I want to be independent and happy alone without a romantic partner around to constantly co-regulate, so so badly. Your channel is one of the biggest helps I’ve ever found emotionally and spiritually. I can’t tell you how grateful I am.

[@valentinavsl4148]

I am going through the same thing, I feel you. First time alone for almost a year now after many years... It takes a lot of time and maybe the result will not be what you expect. Maybe you will find out that you don't want to be alone but in a less desperate way. I'm reaching the conclusion that although I can survive on my iwn and I will if I have to, I don't want to... It just helps building resilience so that you don't fall into the wrong relationships for you just to cover the pain

[@0MOLOTOV]

@@valentinavsl4148 absolutely, couldn’t agree more. It’s so hard to imagine that the future isn’t fixed, that there are new unknowns now and that’s okay. What heidi said in this video about nervous system shock, I feel so strongly. I had to move house AND jobs on top of breaking up so I’m now in a completely new world and my nervous system is in complete disarray. I’m also in a new polyamorous relationship with someone who I see a few times a week but who can’t just move in and replace my ex. I’ve found I projected all the loneliness onto that, which is unproductive, and I want to just work on myself, instead of requiring a partner to live with me to soothe the pain. I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

[@Heyu7her3]

Not that I need validation _(I'm avoidant not codependent),_ but the research stats about single women having happier and longer lives helps me

[@CTHD13]

OH MY GOD I don’t know if she ever made this video, but I am so excited to see your comment. It’s been difficult to find people experiencing this on google. I’m single for the first time in 13 years and I feel like I’m going insane without an attachment for regular co-regulation. I’m 4 months into it and just starting to feel a little normal.

[@0MOLOTOV]

@@CTHD13 hello, sorry to hear you're struggling with it! It's really fucking hard, I can empathise so hard. It does get easier. I'm in a relationship where I don't live with my partner, I just see him a few days a week. I also see a friend usually once or twice a week. That's very regulating to me, and over time as I've gotten used to it, my nervous system is able to calm down while I'm in the house alone. It's become more normal. It's still difficult sometimes, stuff often comes up that destabilises my peace, but overall living alone is pretty calm now! Some things that really helped me are: routines, decorating my house to be comfortable, finding comfortable safe spots in my house, working regularly, therapy, being honest with everyone. How about you?

[@meganjohnson9540]

Thank you so much for doing this Heidi! You are helping me so much. Please don’t stop.

[@bewilderedlearningevolving]

I've never heard anyone mention an inner "parent" before, but I feel exposed. Or at least one of them do.

[@anotherbadinfluence3007]

Hi Heidi! Thank you for your immensely honest and helpful videos. Using this to get by a very difficult life situation. You mentioned in a video of Self trust after self abandonment, that it is important to stay in the present with yourself and not in a fantasy world. I request you to please make a full length video on just that. Why we’re in fantasy and how to stay in the present, snapping out of the fantasy. Would mean a lot. Thank you so much for your channel and content. May you be eternally blessed.

[@MissBluebirddays]

Not many videos stop me in my tracks to grab a notebook and pen for an impromptu deep dive into self! Thanks for the incredible content ☺️

[@catalystcomet]

This was PHENOMENAL, Heidi.

[@kirbyaugustine761]

Definitely giving this a re-listen. Amazingly, I’ve heard of and have done some research on the topics of healing the inner child and completing shadow work. I’ve been avoiding delving into both and I’d surmise it’s my shadow selfs way of avoiding exposure. Our mind/ body are ingenious at subconsciously protecting us even if we are completely unaware consciously of it’s mission. Great video. Thank you for what you do and know you are appreciated.

[@yuliacymbura3677]

Heidi, the work you do is so important, so needed. I hope it reaches as many people as possible. Thank you & I love you

[@anthonyw1499]

The day shift/night shift example was genius. I’ve known that goals have the same positive and negative outcomes as the present circumstances for years but this really ripped it open and exposed that I’ve never truly seen both sides I just had the intellectual understanding not the bodily understanding.

[@dittyman]

I think I need to listen to this again. Trying to wrap my head around what I want that is good with my inner child while knowing the line of uncomfortableness of both inner child and inner parent.. I hope that makes sense 😂

[@Katrinasana]

I like the idea of the inner parent and it fells more sensible and calming to me than listening to my inner child which I did enjoy until my body was telling me no more. It’s a beautiful way to feel we are always acting from love, but maybe the communication needs clarity and time to adjust and we interpret it at sabotage.

[@inannaurania]

Heidi you are amazing! You have a genuine gift for communication. Thank you for doing this work. Very helpful.

[@nj.7325]

Thank you for helping me feel able to live. I have severe depression and day to day is a struggle. Thank you I don't have the words for how much you have helped me. Life is so beautiful and my mind is so beautiful. I will do my best.

[@mendoaninthesky]

To came up with the idea that the self-sabotage side of us is actually trying to protect ourselves and also with love shows how gigantic self-compassion dan self-love of Heidi's heart. I want to reach into that point, and i know by heart, in order to go there (for most of us) we must through a lot of pains and self-works. I hope that i won't give up from this journey.

[@toondreamer4438]

ok thank you, this shadow work does sound like something I need to hear right now.

[@caelum9]

It's funny to hear this day/night shift metaphor because I have dreams where I explicitly or abstractly think of topics to work on during the day. Several dreams about attachment issues motivated me to watch a few longer videos on the subject. Dream journaling, and a lot of daytime research, seems to have slowly gotten me to this point and whatever comes next

[@ilikeitlikethat7305]

Finally! I understand what the “shadow” self is. Thanks Heidi!

[@nisanozden4589]

Coming across your videos was the best thing that ever happened to me. You put everything in perspective and explained it so well, that it carried my self-growth on a completely different level. I introduced my friends to your videos and everyone finds something from themselves in them!

[@joyfuljennifer4125]

Heidi thank you from my heart 🌬 💕 🫂 your video was helpful to me and I will pass it on to those I know would appreciate want to tap into both inner child inner parent. Great video to help us be more flexible with compassion as we all innerstand. So very helpful🙌🏻🫶🏻💕✨️

[@hayleyb467]

I love your emoji game🤗🎐💗 so fun like reading a picture book🔮🧜‍♀️

[@aftertonightjazz]

Thank you sooo much for this. You keep saying things that just send up a flare in my brain! I’ve had soo many aha! Moments since watching your channel. Also until you lifted your hands I thought your arms were stretched out to the sides on the couch 😅

[@jhadaaddams9803]

Thank you. I REALLY needed to hear this.

[@rsamuels6969]

Mind blown- what a great analogy

[@desertboot9755]

This was really good. The part I hadn't realised was about acknowledging the negative aspects of attaining my goals and if maybe there's something in there holding me back. It's hard to get real about the negatives to a dream you've had for so long - I guess we idealise it.

[@marilynwarbis7224]

I find this video so useful. For a long time now I've been aware that I seriously self-sabotage, and I've spent much time wondering why. This video gives me the key to being able to look into the 'problem' and to find out what's going on. Many thanks.

[@PlockyFlocky]

What a PERFECT video! Thank you so much ❤

[@asab167]

Dang! This is an incredible video. Thank you.

[@tumblingrosesstudio]

I just want to mention that I watch each section of these recent videos like a dozen times, trying to grasp and process and the amazing new information you are sharing- pure gold, thank you for these

[@laurewinkelmans9501]

Such a clear explanation that I had never heard before, but it actually makes a lot of sense. I'm currently working through issues I have with myself and this video really helps and comes at the right time.

[@astridprojection]

Thanks for the work you do. This was life changing.

[@Fefe559]

This is freaking GOLD Please please keep making videos! Amazing!! amazing.... wow

[@bougeorgie7666]

your long form, informative videos have been helpful! thank you!

[@ericabyrd815]

Thank you so much for breaking this down and explaining it all so clearly.

[@ebbyc1817]

This series of five videos is a gift 🎁. Thank you for doing this, Heidi. You have no idea..

[@CreativeImpulse]

As someone with dissociative identity disorder, this is an _extremely_ important video that I'm going to be sending to other plural friends. It's ironic because having DID means our "apparently normal" and "emotional" parts are actually differentiated, with sways in the whole decision of the self. This makes it easier to listen to the inner children since they literally have voices and names - and you're spot on about the inner children being crazy resilient. They want what they want; it's what we as a whole want. So much of our therapeutic journey the past few years is learning how to listen to these parts - the "night parts", which years ago the "day parts" really felt like were trying to derail our life. The day parts felt like we were working so hard to achieve what society would deem as a "high functioning life" and the night parts felt like we were literally killing ourselves trying to reach goals that mostly we didn't even want - all for the sake of looking normal. We found that actually listening to these parts and actually taking a step back to do what we _really want_ has hugely reduced internal tension, self-loathing, and boosted esteem.

[@Ennpey]

With each one of your videos I have breakthroughs. Thank you so much!!!

[@dseer13]

your eyes are absolutely gorgeous and the contrast between the black hair and black sweater is beautiful too.

[@the.awkward.artivist]

This was so extremely insightful! Thank you so much

[@AR-xi2wy]

That is amazing!!! Thankyou for sharing!!!

[@elonadamhir6896]

This is my favorite channel on youtube right now. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Moma_spam2]

Thank you so much for all of the work you have put into this ❤️

[@grchris1103]

4th video now Of yours I've seen , I'm hooked. Love it and thank you.

[@LazarusFeels]

The tool of "visualizing what you are at the moment" works great for me too. Has helped me decipher my emotions + what I want multiple times over!

[@amyfigueroa1911]

Heidi, you’re amazing. Thank you! Love love love your perspectives and info. So deeply helpful. I appreciate the time you take to focus on removing shame and delivering this info in a way that helps remove shame. You rock.

[@kellytrierweiler5513]

I very much appreciate your videos! You do a great job of clarifying things. I also appreciate that you are well read and thoughtful

[@AZnomad]

You seem really down to earth, Heidi. Thanks for making these videos

[@Littlestephy29]

This video was excellent. Thank you so much.

[@ralica6059]

Heidi, your content has been so helpful and thought-provoking. Love from europe 💕

[@themistoclesnelson2163]

I really like the analogy for shadow work!

[@Deep-happiness-for-all]

Oh dear Heidi I have to watch every single video from you at least 3 times to comprehend your content completely 😅 thank you for being that amazing ❤

[@pedromaia_art]

Your videos are so enlightening, thank you so much for that.

[@gregruddy3870]

Really needed to hear this. Immensely helpful. Thank you.

[@andreio3426]

So very precious content - THANK YOU dear Heidi ❤❤❤

[@jverart2106]

Thank you so much for another great video. I got a bit emotional when you talked about the inner child. I've always been very immature in terms of "adult life" and I have spent a lot of time hating myself for it even though I am starting to love myself more. Currently I am dealing with a lot of "adult crap" in a very inefficient way and deep down I know it is because my inner child is not playing. It's like I don't want to allow him to play. I know he has the answer, but I'm still far from getting in touch with him in order to live my life as I deserve. It feels like a huge risk because he wants to play unconventional games to make me triumph. I haven't watched all your videos yet but I hope you speak more about the inner child. Again, thank you so much for what you do, I really appreciate your work

[@hastijafarijozani5115]

this is so amazing. thank you!

[@poetryjones7946]

Aw, cool effect, it looks like she’s trying to hug all of us❣️❣️

[@Stauby_Bobby]

Heidi you truly have helped me so much. Thank you for giving me perspective and the ability to understand myself. I hope you never stop enjoying making KZbin videos ❤

[@fenixrise1272]

This was so helpful. You made me think about self-sabotage completely differently and compassionately. Thank you! ❤

[@Michael-zp9kl]

Seriously grateful for your work ☀️🌊

[@odelledewet5152]

Your metaphors & explanations are SO clear. 🙏🏽

[@SuLawn]

Thank you Heidi Priebe. 🙂❤️🙏🤗

[@galemartinez6585]

Thanks, I shared this with my family to help with explaining what I am working through! I am making so much progress❤

[@JIRH922]

I just came upon your channel and I can’t thank you enough for making these videos. I feel like you’re holding up a mirror that I could never find. I feel like you are sending a prophetic message, to our inner neglected children, that everything can be okay. Not very many things have made me feel that way. I’m 41 and I have a masters degree in non-fiction creative writing, and no matter how I poured over my life and my experiences, I was never able to understand that I belong to a group. I belong to the group you’re talking to. Sorry if I’m fan-girling too hard, but I feel so relieved,

[@sandyedwards2681]

I already loved you but I adore you even more hearing that there really is no self sabotage. Thank you. I agree 100% and I’ve never heard anyone express the issue so eloquently and insightfully. Your analogy of the day and night shifts is perfect. Truly. I’d like to quote you in my own work on the subject @Heidi Priebe

[@AicimounLight]

Just discovered you! I drink your words like a knowledge solution!! You're so articulate and sooo clear! My brain adoring you!!

[@garywillett6396]

I’m enlightened by the negative aspect of our desire/ambitions and the process of dealing with that shadow on an incremental basis.

[@almamaria57]

This and all of your videos are so incredibly helpful and inspiring. Can’t thank you enough, Heidi.

[@sommer.rain421]

This makes sense. I went back to an ex a year ago after a very successful moment in my life. Comfort and reassurance is what I was needing and he reminded me of my dad.. I definitely did not have those needs met in another way. Thank you!

[@xosinamari]

Your multiple definitions of resistance is life changing

[@MJFUYT]

This is an amazing video. A sincere thanks for sharing it. 💯

[@lionofistanmusic7311]

This was an excellent video. You channel Internal Family Systems in the way you talk. Love to hear it. Great analysis 🤍

[@nepenthe_1610]

Such a beautifully crafted video indeed! I resonated with so many points. Thank you! I'll be saving this and re-listening again and again. I really want to get into shadow work and reconcile parts of me which aren't in harmony.

[@secondchancehomestead]

How cute! It looks like you are holding your arms wide open for a big hug! 🥰 ❤😊