Inner Child Work: What It Is And How To Do It

[@SuperGoodMush]

Ah, another 20-40 minutes of "Oh. Ah. I see. God damnit 😭." starring Heidi Priebe as understanding me better than I do /pos

[@mustacchiweb]

This sums it

[@Turtlpwr]

Every video I’ve watched (and I’ve watched a lot lately) my only response is “well…f**k. Dasssme.”

[@assiradarling8981]

Always. Every Heidi video

[@BruderAdrian]

Same! I just found her channel and she's so thorough and I love it!

[@oct2811]

Too funny

[@Anadorado88]

What I learned about myself from watching this video; my inner parent needs help being more responsible and less abusive to my inner child. Addiction is what I’ve been using to “deal” with my inner child. I felt feelings of resentment from my mother as a child. I was neglected. So I treat my inner child in a similar way. When I have feelings, I smoke weed to ignore them (and ignore my inner child’s bids for care) there’s also no structure to my life because I grew up in a dysfunctional environment where living that way was the norm for the adults around me. I had no healthy models around me as a child. I’m stuck being angry about all of this. But now I’m starting to see that both my inner child and inner parent need both a little nurturing and tough love in order to live a more fulfilled and peaceful life for the rest of my years

[@MildExplosion]

Finding that "firm but fair" inner parent has been tough for me too. Well done for working on all of this, it's sure as hell not easy!

[@VeronicaWarlock]

This sounds exactly like me. I’m finding it very hard to access my inner child. I feel like I’ve been enforced to ignore them, and be both parent and child to myself my whole life. My therapist asks me to consider myself as a child and judge them as a separate person, but to me they just kind of feel like me, but shamefully ignorant and out of control.

[@pioneerworx]

wow that was a perfect input. thanks a lot, ive also had some addiction to fight but ive never saw it from this view!

[@rafeeqwarfield9690]

Started reading and was like did I write this?

[@feliciawilliams629]

I overdiscipline myself to numb my feelings. I pride myself on being suoer disciplined and controlled. I use exercise and being able to use food and exercise to control how my body looks to feel okay about myself and in control and numb and avoid my emotions.

[@MarekLumi]

5 recommendations on how to work with your inner child: 1) 8:05 Improve your relationship with self-protection (Would I be comfortable with someone speaking to my 5-year-old child this way? If not, how do I need to stand up for myself?) 2) 11:07 Examine your relationship with growth and self-development (Would I push the child to try harder in the situation, or notice they're exhausted and need time to rest?) 3) 14:16 Adress the relationship with your body (If I fed, groomed, and dressed the child the way I do myself, what message would I be sending about their importance?) 4) 15:46 Improve your relationship with self-regulation (When I'm feeling impulsive, out of control, what might a child need in those circumstances?) 5) 18:03 Improve your connection to your life force energy (Am I balancing my short-term and long-term wants and needs? Safety, stability vs excitement & play)

[@randallsmerna384]

Depends who is speaking to you. Self talk or others?

[@DiamondEyez456]

thank you for breaking it down. I appreciate it.

[@tanajisahastrabuddhe4774]

Thanks a lot. Love from India

[@FitWithGrace]

Thank you!!

[@mariaflynn4620]

I was just thinking I'll go back through the video to make these notes for myself and saw this 😊 thanks so much for sharing it here ❤

[@josesand975]

Would you believe that 2 videos of this woman have more value to me than 10 years of therapy? I mean it's sad that psychologist of my city haven't studied this. I don't know why. Maybe it's not in the DSM or whatever. But holy .... Finally discover this it's life changing. Thank you very much.

[@rafeeqwarfield9690]

Feel the same

[@terryvolbrecht9356]

This wise and lovely young woman gives me hope for the future of humanity,

[@rhondaurb]

Me too! She’s incredible!!

[@Nicnac13]

I have a formal diagnosis of adhd and autism … I am high functioning and a genius at masking. The more I learn about trauma and reflect on my own life the more I question if I just have a huge inner child that is unhealed and wounded. I struggle so much with the concept of aging it makes me so so sad, I don’t identity as a 43 year old. All I want to do I play … I struggle to focus, work, be productive start tasks etc. I definitely need to strike a balance and allow my inner parent to take more lead with discipline and structure by allowing my inner child certain times to play etc … this was really useful.

[@gavinbrooke]

I understand that fully. Why I'm around men my own age, I feel like a child and they seem so much older than me. I feel frozen in time, and my inner parent never showed up.

[@virginiaputman5041]

Hello fellow AuDHDer! I struggle with the same problems as you, I can’t believe I am turning 38 this year. I never really felt like an adult until this year. I think my biggest 💡 moment was when I was diagnosed with autism this year, and the depth of my masking ability and frequency was consciously in my face. I began to see “Oh that’s why I do that” everywhere in my life. I have decided I don’t want to mask my weird crazy self and have felt more aligned, confident, and happy since then. I struggle with getting things done massively as well. Get to know yourself. I discovered I am super productive in the mornings and late afternoons. I get so tired and unfocused from around 11-3 each day with no explanation. I have given myself leave to rest/play/just sit and it helps so much. Also, check out other KZbin channels and you’ll find some great advice. “How to ADHD” has videos you’ll love, especially her “Wall of Aweful”. And habits. Habits connected to things you already do like brush your teeth and wipe down the bathroom together make it less painful to clean. I do the dishes when I first wake up and now if I don’t do them it feels wrong. I’ll admit, I almost look forward to getting them done every morning. Remember to be kinder to yourself! Best of luck, you got this!!!

[@krystalcooke2067]

I once burst into tears during an episode of Blues Clues. The host was calmly discussing feelings and I realized I had never been supported in that manner. I still like to watch that show to give my inner child the support I never got. I'm 53 .

[@moldbellchains5709]

What episode was it?

[@morticiablue]

I've just diacovered you and for the last 3 video that I've watched I've been sobbing uncontrollably. Thank you for such valuable resources. I have been working with myself for more than ten years now, managing my depression without meds while raising a child and trying to have a healthy family dynamic. I am so lucky for all that can be learned online as well as for my husbands support and companionship while we heal together. Thank again, this has been so eye opening.

[@aboutninety-somethingcats6061]

Girl you’ve got me bawling rn. My inner child has a voice, but I just realized it’s protesting, because my inner parent is MY PARENTS- a mashup of a sociopath’s unpredictable disciplinary cruelty and a narcissist’s calculated, covert, deeply wounding criticism. I think the underlying problem behind so many of the issues I’m at a loss with are just my rebellious (see: historically invalidated) inner child and my inner parent at war, just like it was when I was small and disappointed and untrusting. It hurts to know that I have to be the first person to love me even when it requires sacrifice and compromise, and that it’s taken 30 years to get here, but I can’t keep letting them cause harm.

[@ThomasFloydLPCC]

Inner child work is incredibly transformative. I've noticed in my practice that that clients who succeed in healing are the ones that face their inner child.

[@romafreespace]

Sometimes watching Heidi Priebe I think... man I wish I had a girlfriend just like Heidi Priebe...but then I realize that what I actually need is to do my inner child work and inner parent work and check my limerent thoughts and not forget my shadow work 😂 being a human is so much damn work sometimes haha Thank you for your videos!

[@Gone2war-q3i]

You dont ramble. I have adhd and find it hard to concetrate at times. Thank you ❤

[@a.s.jackson8203]

Thank you for another great video. My inner child has been in the driver seat my entire life. I'm a responsible, dependable, reliable person, for most things. I find it easier to help others than take care of the things I need to do in my own life. My avoidance and procrastination are keeping me painfully stuck in life. I'm unemployed and the most important thing I need to do, I barely do, which is look for a job. It was approximately 2 years ago that I had the thought that my procrastinating and avoidance were "pathological" so set out to learn about my behavior. I didn't think I was depressed, but I thought there was something to my lethargy and inertia. I have now learned that my maladaptive behaviors are a result of my abusive, neglectful, unstable, violent, childhood. In childhood, I had no structure, no routines. Now, I'm trying to learn how to do this for myself. It's difficult for me, and it will take quite a while to learn new habits, to learn a new way of life. And, learning how to get my inner parent in the driver seat will be key. Fingers crossed I can do this.

[@LaCiguapaRebelde]

Wao!!!!! I identify so much with what you wrote. I feel as if some kind of force keeps me from moving. Procrastination has been my way of life. I feel so lost, like my life has no structure whatsoever. Like I don't understand how to organize my chaos. I've never really had any kind of routine in my life (though I have tried). Like you, my parents never taught me any kind of discipline or structure. We never had a specific routine that we followed, we were not taught how to learn, or that everything is a process and takes time. We were never encouraged to keep trying, or to strive for our dreams. I was never taught how to create good habits. My mother always told people that I was "super intelligent but super disorganized." It's been really hard for me to change but I still haven't given up. I hope neither do you.

[@mequable]

I wanted to mention that last time you had the example of "if I had a little 5 year old child with me, would I let them stay in this situation" I thought of my friend who actually did have a five year old with her and was letting him stay in a very toxic family environment, because she's pretty anxiously attached and her relationship with the boyfriend is always a priority. So she loses basic common sense and judgement. Life is so complicated and throws at us weird use cases to test us, it seems. Anyways, as always a very comprehensive video and by the way my friend's relationship is way better now and the kid is better too.

[@vantablacklord]

Heidi you're the best! Your videos have inspired a lot of the progress I've made in my mental health journey after cancer. Thank you for your invaluable videos.

[@jm7514]

This is the first time I have heard of inner parenting, and thank you for explaining it as well. I was told I needed inner child, but it seems that it is inner parenting that I need. Time wasted on the wrong problem can be detrimental. I cannot thank you enough for all of this information and your delivery of that information. You are priceless to us in need of understanding our world.

[@jm7514]

Oops. Seems I need to work with both. I spoke too soon

[@xforumx]

About time we get this video!! 🎉 You have no idea how much your work has changed my life and the lives of those around me. I am helping many of my closest people begin to take their own work seriously because of you. With all my heart, thank you Heidi

[@chrisf3875]

I have seen my inner child, and he just keeps running around in circles!!!

[@alimay967]

Interestingly enough my inner child also runs around and plays 😊

[@noturbo]

i didnt listen to the inner kid about a love interest the kid was right and so i need to listen more and trust myself, love myself and heal myself by not letting people abuse me.

[@stevensawyer5924]

Infinite Love and Gratitude 🙏✌️❤️🌞🐶

[@CemalEker]

Another awesome video, just as I started thinking about my inner child. I am a really rational person, but seeing these coincidences always brings happiness to my life. If you are a spiritual person you’ll like this. I was fighting with very intense anxiety for the last two days after neglecting my health for a while. I was sitting at home after spending almost whole day in hospital, in an anxious state. But managed to throw myself out to take a walk and have a decent meal. After the dinner while working back to home I just remembered some points Julien talked in his videos. And probably for the first time in my life, I said to myself “I really love you man. I care about you.” As I thought about these words my eyes were filled with tears. I feel quite lonely recently, even though I’m surrounded by friends. I said “I’m here with you. You are never alone.” I was thinking about caring for myself better, but never realized there is a clueless child inside me living life solely depending on the emotions and impulses. Depending on my day to day decisions and waiting to take the wheel and enjoy the moment. I reached home with tears in my eyes to find this beautiful explanation about how should I care for myself and my inner child better. Thank you Heidi!

[@jamesg3105]

The way you talked to the inner child was so meaningful. Reading your comment made me say it too which is just what was needed. I had a similar experience as I've not got the best connection to the inner child and I feel hurt and anxious a lot of the time that it's too late to become more secure. Work in progress. Thanks again man, your words had a great effect on me. Wishing you the best in life.

[@fabct1957]

the simplest and most helping way to explain inner child/ work . thank you

[@bohdankaUSA]

I am on a growth journey for about 10 years but true healing journey only for about 6 months now. Discovered attachment theory only couple of weeks ago and OMG, what a game changer. As for my inner children, I now have 4 playing inside of me during my meditations. Myself as a baby, 4yo, 14yo, and a young adult. I am learning how to support them and give them love, learning to be kind to them and to guide them. It has been transformative and eye opening. All, keep pushing. It is SOOO worth it ❤❤

[@Ennpey]

Woaw. I've always wondered why I had been bullied in school, you know what kind of lesson that was teaching me on a psychological level. I'm avoidant, and my conscious mind has always repressed my negative feelings when being bullied by "They're stupid anyway. They're immature. This isn't hurting me, they are hurting because they see in me what they would like to be themselves". That was probably true, but on my end, I had to learn to feel the negative feelings of "someone is actively trying to hurt me", the shame maybe. Still going to have to process all of this. Thank you for your video, as always! You're a blessing ❤️✨

[@lilyneva]

The idea of an inner child has helped me immensely. It will take a vague feeling of unease about someone’s behavior and crystallize it into a knowingness that it’s not acceptable to me. This video helped me see that I can think about my inner child when I feel low and burnt out and let it help me feel okay about taking a break and consider allowing myself to do things I long to do, like be in nature, draw, paint, write stories, poems, etc.

[@funefulla1]

I really like this visualization technique. It actually gave me a bit of sadness to think about how tough it's been to little me with the ways I've talked to myself through my adulthood when I didn't understand better.

[@lara-zed1200]

Your channel is giving me my Self back... Please never stop making videos, I'm ready to drop down on my knees and beg.

[@atipachaleka9172]

I have been abused and starved as a child by my Stepmom.Now I am taking care of my inner child .2 weeks ago I started going to the gym,I go take a walk at the beach sometimes by myself.I now go out with friends sometimes and I now feed myself,dress up,sing,dance,play music.I didn't have the energy to find work but now I have just started my own business, I do not have lots of clients yet but am pushing myself to make it work.I pray I would keep doing this for myself for the rest of my life.Thank you Heidi

[@amasterofone]

I definitely tend to lean into my inner child running things. What I struggle with is knowing how much parenting is correct because that wasn't modelled. I tend to go overboard and then rebel because it feels like my freedom is being infringed upon.

[@alexandergreuter5938]

Wow, you perfectely described how I feel on a day to day basis, I feel like I'm just chasing these small moments of joy with no way to consistently get them. Because after finally getting in touch with my internal change, and subsequently turning my entire life in an entirely new direction, I swore to myself to only ever do things anymore that I'm actually intrinsically motivated to do. Because I deserve to know that the things I do in life will actually help me feel better. But, because I never actually helped to find this intrinsic motivation in my childhood, I've been lacking a ton of motivation to actually implement any of the changes I want in life. And so I've been desperately seeking for that. I feel like this video has finally started to show me how I can start using willpower and discipline in a way that is respectful towards myself. Is there any chance you can talk even more about that?

[@antonia4069]

Dear Heidi, thank you for your immense contribution to all of us who came across your channel while researching for ways to heal and understand ourselves better. Whatching your content for the past few months has made me understand so much about myself and other people around me and in a way kickstarted my “upwards spiral” once again on a never ending journey of being a better human being to myself and to the beautiful world we live in. I never really comment on anything but I just felt the need to express my gratitude as a huge thank you for your work ❤

[@ceecollette6708]

I really appreciate your videos! You have such a gift for tackling topics we know we need to hear in a *truly* non-judgmental way. You really do speak to the inner child. Every time I’m hesitating clicking on one of your videos, by the time it’s over, I’m like “well that didn’t hurt at all” 😅 I actually feel like I can do the work. Thank you!

[@GooseBJJ]

A great book I'm working through on this topic is "You're the one you've been waiting for" as well as "No bad parts"

[@Jellyfishfan24]

So I'm thinking about my inner child, and I'm pretty literal, so I just think about five year old me. And 5yo me was fiercely independent and stubborn and always learning on my own. And then there's a wrinkle. My parents did a lot of stuff right, but they didn't really give me as much structure as I needed. So I gave it to myself. So now when I'm stressed and frustrated, I'm thinking and making plans about things like my career to feel safe. But metaphorically, it's my inner child trying to write a blueprint. So even though I have a plan, I still don't feel safe. I feel like I need validation from someone (proxy parents) to know that the scribbles 5yo me made will work. I work in education, so I have the next few months off. Usually I am an unstructured mess during this time, but this gave me the tools to realize that maybe what burned out me needs is a routine. Keeping my alarm on, but maybe a little later. Having a bed time, but later. Working out so I can play video games in peace. Thank you for putting this out there ❤

[@kookyandstrange]

Love this framing/ perspective. Thanks for sharing

[@alexandraneuhauser5672]

What I learned from this video. That my inner child needs to be seen and need response to thing she don't like and motivate for things she like to do. It is OK to dislike something or somebody and it is OK to be loved with things she want do. Thank you so much I feel better ❤

[@gefiltefish2000]

Im so glad I found York channel you explain things so well

[@retter5137]

Love your videos. This is the first productive, non-cringy “inner child” explanation I’ve ever heard.

[@EayuProuxm]

First time catching a video as soon as it drops. I am ready for the healing!

[@soulmatesis1]

So timely

[@tasmin212]

You, wizard liz, tam kaur, shearseven are all that I needed to become the highest version of myself. Thank you so much for changing my life. I love you ❤

[@reconnectwithtrue]

You explained this in a way that makes SO much more sense for me than any other way I’ve learned about inner child healing. Thank you for your wisdom! I’m feeling more empowered 🙏✨

[@stevemiller8895]

HEIDI , I ACKNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPT EVERY WOUNDED OR ADVERSE OR NEGATIVE INNER CHILD THOUGHT AND FEELING THAT SURFACES INTO MY CONSCIOUS MIND, AND WHEN THEY DO COME UP , I DO NOT SUPPRESS DENY OR REJECT, BUT AS THE FATHER OF MY INNER CHILD , I IMMEDIATELY ACKNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPT WITH LOVING KINDNESS AND HOSPITALITY BEING THE SPACE FOR MY INNER CHILD TO TRANSFORM FROM WHATEVER REPRESENTING WOUNDED EMOTION TRAUMA OFFENSE OR ISSUE ETC. BY THE ACCEPTANCE AND LOVING-KINDNESS I IMPART UNTO HIM. AS A FATHER I HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO ENCOURAGE , VALIDATE , VALUE ESTEEM ETC. AND THOSE WORDS WITH MY INTENTION GOES INTO MY SOUL AND COMES OUT AS HEALING , MOST TIMES JOY!

[@donboggs3880]

Ms. Heidi Priebe...THANK YOU from me, for me. Ms. Priebe, you are a connective thinker who I feel I can relate to on an emotional, logical and analyzation level for my continued search to join the army...you know, the "be all you can be" slogan. I'm turning 67 this year and have been seeing counselors at least two thirds of that time usually feeling disconnected from their words and understanding of where I am coming from. Of course they cannot feel what I feel since my experiences are my own. Ergo, I love you using that word, I have difficulty assimilating their directions. And many times disagree with their understanding of my thoughts/emotions/directions. I am glad I found you on KZbin. I do not need to meet you to identify with your delivery of your struggles. You help me understand mine. You have given me your viewpoint and I am now dining at your table , devouring your words as a last supper to end my childhood trauma. To release my emotional baggage, to release myself into my world and find peace and belief within myself. That struggle may last this lifetime but, I feel small releases and healing happening each day I try. I find your approach, from the inside out, versus just from regurgitation of another's words, really allows emotional connective tissues to generate within my pea-brain. Even knowing my journey may last this lifetime, I am glad you are part of my crew. Keep doing what you do, keep telling how you bring these thoughts from the inside out...for me, that is the essence of my connection to your words, to your brain, and I find, what a beautiful brain, even if I get anxious at the minutia of information you must take to clarify a concept...lol. This approach, your delivery IS the most important part of your difference from the others, it is unique. Thank you for trying to show your struggles and help others relate to themselves the human connectedness we all must face. Loves PS this "Inner Child Healing" video is a perfect topic for the Universe to share with me at this specific point. Thank you for helping me understanding my specifics, for me, and you being a part of that.

[@barbykelly466]

Thank you for specific tips how to start. I've been hearing about inner child healing for a long time, no method or meditation felt right. Inner Parent - definitely going to work on that side.

[@naranjajasjsjkaj]

Every video I watch from your channel is in some way so mind blowing, like everything makes sense just right after I hear it from you, that's powerful content thank you for that

[@mod8054]

Seeing this at such a great time love this sync! :)

[@tracyladams3601]

All I can say is yes, yes, yes! You possess such a gift and are an incredible resource on my healing journey. Gratitude!

[@ketilamtrup1411]

Thank you for this one about the inner child. It makes so much sense❤

[@kirtidagautam6786]

I have watched tons of videos on the inner child, but this is one of the most clearly explained videos. Full of Aha-Moments.

[@ShadowDisorder]

Thanks Heidi! I don't comment often but you've changed my life with your videos. Thank yu so much for helping me, and thousands of others, get through trauma and actualize our better selves. ❤❤❤

[@nielsdahl2022]

Thank you Heidi🙏🌻♥️

[@xWabbli]

Always looking forward to your videos

[@sairamdonthula]

THANK YOU SO MUCH❤

[@NetflixTopVideos]

Good, very simple when you know. Thank you again Heidi 😊

[@onyerbike4713]

I have so much respect for Heidi, her work, and the way she presents it. A really serious practitioner in her field, and I get so much from her content 🙏

[@EnglishwithAlan]

I don't know how you do it, but once again you've hit my own personal nail on the head. everything, and especially the part about having given up or not caring about succeeding any more. my inner parent AND my inner child both need some attention and need to be heard. thanks so much.

[@ezinwanwakama5057]

#4 was the most helpful for me. I didn’t even know that I had to work on my self-regulation until you brought this up. Thank you Heidi!

[@alisiademi]

Your take on the inner child is impeccable and helpful, thank you ❤

[@LurkingLinnet]

Thankyou so much You are the reason I'm still alive. I mean it. Thank you existing Heidi, thank you for putting yourself out here. ❤

[@robykaa44]

Thank you for this great knowledge expanding my perspective I enjoyed listening to you

[@tannugupta3293]

This is the only video i needed from a long long time! Thank you, i am gonna come back when i will feel lost! I was actually always using this for my kids that how would i feel if someone won’t listen to me or how will i feel if i was a kid and someone did that to me and that gives me strength to have patience and deal with kids in right way instead of just reacting. Never thought of using same thing for myself and it makes so much sense 🙏🙏🙏

[@20SushiGirl]

Literally one of the MOST important information for healthier life

[@MatthewGillespiedj]

So, what about when both the "inner child" and "inner adult" are not getting what they need. Right now, I resonate immensely that my inner child has been neglected for years, if not for a decade or more. But Inner Adult is pretty much flailing about as well - treading water.

[@MatthewGillespiedj]

Regardless, your analogy concerning "would I let my five year old be/do/etc put a new litmus test in my mind. I will try to use that in life choices.

[@neekolezx]

Thank you Heidi this was exactly what I needed. I was paying attention to my inner child but not my inner parent. The struggle of having to work on both because of never being taught proper discipline and never being able to be safe in my inner child when I was younger. Finally feeling safe for more inner child but now I definitely need to work more on my inner parent. Thank you for your work!

[@laurafmartinss]

Hi Heidi! I only found out about your channel last week and have been devouring its content. You are such a wise and beautiful woman. Thank you so much for sharing all your knowledge and wisdom with us so generously! 😘

[@tinapark72]

I recently found this channel and it helped me a lot ❤ this is free therapy for me! Thank you ❤

[@barbarajones7522]

I love you, Heidi!!! When I see you have a new video, I get so excited...you seem to have secret knowledge, and they way you present...your tone of voice...just right for me! Thank you! 🙌 🧡

[@lettinggoofego2622]

Really appreciate your videos, incredibly articulate

[@stevemiller8895]

YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPT YOUR ANGER WITH LOVING KINDNESS AND WHEN YOU DO IT TRANSFORMS INTO JOY AND PEACE!

[@georgiebradley6]

The nuances in your explanations and examples makes personal development so accessible. Thank you!

[@garlicgalore]

Yup, another excellent elucidation! ❤

[@treegreen9205]

Thank you for your videos. You have a very good way of communicating and exacting your words in a way that’s very easy to absorb. I’m grateful for the information and insight. Please continue. God bless you in your every endeavor!

[@catherineclarke9131]

Thank you. I am becoming more aware of my anxious attachment style and appreciate the help in evaluating what steps I can take to grow.

[@gratefultobehere]

This particular message was extremely helpful for me and appreciate how you helped sort this balance of inner child and inner parent balance / imbalance and recognized quickly where that imbalance occurred this week by taking in this message. 🙏🙏

[@bedailvenerabile]

You are priceless, absolutely amazing creature ❤️! Thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙏

[@jenodeau43]

This resonates very much with where I’m at and what I’m trying to work on and I understand a lot about it due to my early parental dynamics. My Life force has felt drained for decades and my inner child has been ‘frozen’. I’m wondering how you would explain the realization I’ve had where it’s as though I’m unable to allow myself to feel positive, spontaneous emotion. It’s like my inner child avoids it and chooses to stay dormant b/c it associates that curious, energetic and positive child in me with emotions of guilt, shame & embarrassment. My parents had been very overprotective and sometimes physically abusive and being 42, now, I’ve become more hopeless at accessing that child part of me-it doesn’t seem to matter having all the insight in the world about it b/c that child part of me has locked herself away in a titanium vault and I’ve seen countless counselors but I don’t know how to reach that child and let her know she really is safe to be spontaneous.

[@sparkstudies1675]

I'm half your age but there with you. Trying to have fun with others either feels empty or wrong, ahah

[@jenodeau43]

@@sparkstudies1675 It kinda feels like my development became arrested at around half your age. Like I’m a kid waking out of a coma and existing in an adult body. No family, no kids, just sorta like well shit, ok this is what I’m working with, ok I got this🥳😵‍💫

[@GodTurnItAround]

​@@jenodeau43I'm so happy to hear someone else put into words what happened to me. At age 46 I woke up from my "trauma coma" and realized I got arrested development at age 12. My 12 year old me had been literally running the show. I felt scared, and like I was in twilight zone. I've not been able to verbalize this experience. Not to mention how totally confusing it's been since then!!!

[@xooq_]

Wow i had been looking for answers on this. This is. A great model to use

[@JoULove]

Heidi, I'm so glad I found your channel! Thanks for sharing your expertise and everything you do 😊 Some feedback on the way you format your videos: I'm autistic with some ADHD inattentive traits, and so sometimes I have trouble processing information especially when it's conveyed verbally with no breaks or visual aids. I have to watch/listen to your videos several times to take them in. I think with minimal editing (like, just adding a slide with text so that there is a pause between ideas) you could make your content a lot more accessible to people like me.

[@divinaflamingarrow9556]

Item 2 yes I resonate with applying good balanced. Thanks❤

[@bellasimone2001]

Thar was a great description of how to tell what is going on within ourselves, thank you!

[@trevorleake2010]

always spookily timely. are you watching me?

[@WendiRenay]

Absolutely life changing

[@housekeepah]

Mind = blown. Super useful metaphor.

[@juan_castellanos19]

Thank you for posting this Heidi ❤ I especially liked you sharing all the questions that you find useful to ask yourself!

[@namrathasridhar3160]

Thank you so much for this knowledge, I can’t put it in words to explain how much this video has helped me

[@CassidyHansen]

Heidi, you really do not deserve this incoming nit-pick, but I feel you're the type of person who would want to know. First off, your content is low-key saving my life, like in a certain type of way, not to be super dramatic. It's really incredibly helpful. I love you for what you do and who you are. Ok, phew, we got that out of the way. I, 'particularly' (wink) love the way you do so few takes. You nail these takes so well. Thank you and keep it up!! :)

[@wiwi9252]

Heidi, have you ever heard of Stefanie Stahl? She is a german author, but has been translated into english as well. She writes about the Inner Child quite a lot and I think it would be worth reading. Thank you so, so much for your videos! You canˋt imagine how much you have helped me!

[@cyrusmir1]

Heidi - I've been binging my videos and I cant believe how great you are explaining complex topics concisely. Thank you so much for your work.

[@Hugbryggen]

I feel i have to work on my inner parent and child now ❤ Thank you again Heidi ❤❤❤❤

[@micahfreeman2736]

Your videos are LIFE CHANGING!!! 🔥❤️🔥❤️

[@Antonypradeepcan]

Thanks for this video Heidi! I needed this! I always felt lot of love in your videos! Thank you for that!

[@krisayumadina906]

Thanks so much for sharing this. I have been trying to work on my inner child but I really need the perspective on how balancing inner child and inner parent dynamic which I got from your explanation ❤

[@viiiRA_]

Oo baby! I'm looking forward to what I can add from you to my inner child work! Much love as always, Heidi.

[@GodTurnItAround]

Heidi, thank you for this. I wonder if you could look into arrested development? Something traumatic happened to me, at age 12. It changed me completely. At age 46 I woke up to the realization that I was "stuck at 12"....like I woke up from a coma. All at once I saw that I was a child, but now in my adult body... And 5 minutes before I "woke up" I was a child in a child body. This is possibly - probably - definitely what people with NPD are suffering.

[@MissBluebirddays]

I am so happy I stumbled across this channel. As an anxiously attached person, this gives me something to start working on 🙏

[@alannguyen6505]

So, so wonderful. Thank-you Heidi. This is an amazing and beautiful exploration of a yet another vital concept. I am so grateful for everything that you are 😊. You have helped me more than you will ever know and have definitely become one of those ‘experienced teachers/trailblazers’ for me that you have discussed in previous videos ala Pete Walker, Dan Brown. Friendly, warm, generous and wise ☺️.

[@Ashley--L]

Wow!!! I hadn't thought about it in this way! I love how every video adds to or totally changes my perspective! Thank you !

[@MattSloanVMMP]

Omg I love you so much Heidi 😭 thank you

[@harperwyatt6]

This is revolutionary stuff. Thank you so much.

[@TheSharkhugger]

Thanks for explaining it in this way. It makes me want to look after myself better x x x