Sending Children ABROAD? - Be Aware Of This Bitter Truth!! It Is a Serious Social Problem

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@kramalin Ай бұрын

I was working in AU for a year. Everytime i call my mother, though she says she is fine, i can feel sadness in the voice. I decided to go back to MY eventhough all my colleague and my boss said i’m crazy giving up a better ‘life’. I said to them, nothing more satisfying that to take care of your parents and doing your best to fullfill their needs. Their happiness is now my happiness.

@Maggie_2297 Ай бұрын

Ur parents r blessed to have an understanding and loving kid

@rajuraj-vv1pb Ай бұрын

Love your country apnadesh, there is 😎nothing like Home Sweet Home. Every one should know that what have you done to your country.

@geethanilam2857 Ай бұрын

Wonderful 🎉🎉🎉

@jancythomas707 Ай бұрын

God bless you my child

@sunkaravenugopal9720 Ай бұрын

My children refused to go abroad and stayed back saying that we are fine over here with you people 😊😊thanks children

@SteveVasa 29 күн бұрын

Depends on how wealthy parents are? whether they have enough wealth to build a life for children in India. Most middle class parents are not in that situation, they scrape the surface to educate the children at school

@sathyanarayana887 Ай бұрын

Absolutely true mam...one of my relatives have 2 sons, one is in London as a software engineer & another one is a doctor settled in Australia....these sons never came after mother & father ailments time & even after death they came after one week after cremation...we only helped for cremation....its like selling our children

@visalakshigurumurthy5651 Ай бұрын

Ofcourse you are right! But I have seen many parents saying that their children are well settled in abroad.They don't want their children to come back home.

@pallavisreetambraparni6995 Ай бұрын

The worst part is India is becoming more westernized than foreign countries. I have lived in US and this is the definitely the case. The younger generations in india don't want to cook at home anymore, they want to shop in shopping malls, whereas in US over 2000 shopping malls are closing and everyone is doing online shopping, they want to eat western food like pizza, subway, tacos, burritos, Starbucks, etc.. All these things have come in india now also and youngsters are not going for traditional Indian food, youngsters don't want traditional Indian dress like sari or salwar kameez, they want western dress, they don't want to learn indian classical music or indian classical dance and all indian classical music and dance artists who have toiled and worked very hard to learn their art go every year on concert and recital tours to foreign countries... Etc... This is what is happening

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

I am facing this problem now. I had less money, but I spent on my son’s overseas education n 66% he got education loan using my house as collateral. After he paid that loan , he forgotten us. Now surviving with less money. So long no major health problems, I will manage. So parents keep ur money for full comfortable life that should take care till u r alive with all medical expenses. This is my learning at age 60.

@MayaPeru-qt5dp 23 күн бұрын

Life is very difficult in the western countries. Once you enter these countries health issues, mental issues and financial problems start. That's why they not able to talk to you. You thought once in the west full money in crores. Life is not like that. Everything goes for bills and what little they save for the next 4-5 years they use that money to visit family in India. First generation will never have money here. Unless parents came here 50 years ago settled then those children might have some money, but again those children don't work and end up being foolish and careless in life.

@nl9803 23 күн бұрын

@@MayaPeru-qt5dp u may be right, but I can not accept it. Unless u touch 60+ n left with less money. , u can not understand my plight. Do u mean to say that there is no little money left to send across? Don’t get fooled like me if u start believing all these stories. Be careful, u keep sufficient funds with u before charity. Don’t curse yourself later. Learn from my mistakes.

@MayaPeru-qt5dp 23 күн бұрын

My friend replied. He too came with his father's loan and now doesn't look at them. See his reply when I questioned about helping his elderly parents. He has a job ok income and has US citizenship. ya, all Indian parents, even though they get pensions, rents, they still point out on kids and not disclose all their income and expenditure.

@MayaPeru-qt5dp 23 күн бұрын

Hope you don't feel bad, but I would suggest you come on visitors visa work at a restaurant or some job for the next 2 years and see for yourself how much you can save. Atleast for you it may better because you are converting dollars to rupees... but dollar to dollar bills are very expensive. If you have 10 bills to pay people in America have 20 bills to pay.

@nl9803 22 күн бұрын

@@MayaPeru-qt5dp u r not understanding my plight. Everyone has probs to deal with. I don’t know exact income vs exps, but from net I get to know that for a bachelor, rent is 600, electricity, 75, food 175, petrol n emi 300 clothing 75, entertainment 100, health insurance 50. I know his salary as per his few yrs back appointment order. The mind set is that whatever he earns is his own wealth n nothing to do with parents. Other side, I do earned properties, I do get rent. But whether this money is sufficient to survive is a big question. I have been on rent n misc income. But now decided to sell that property n invest in fixed deposit where by I will get good monthly income. I was silent to ensure my son to enjoy that property. If things goes well with six months, I will have good money in hand n go to old age home to live happily. But u be careful with ur money to spend on others before considering ur age, health prob n other support as the age pass by.

@krishnanbharathi7988 Ай бұрын

Practical thinking : Money is not everything. But to run the life it is necessary. So to strike the balance, thinking about the children's future, present abroad earning, conducive green pollution free environment , hassle free daily life, abroad preference is not a crime. When you start living loving the environment, neighbours, relatives etc, let our future generation be comfort enough with where ever they prefer to settle down, do it. As a parent @ 68 , I am expressing my opinion. Love the nature, love the environment, you don't feel aloof anytime. 🎉

@user-nm4vp8xy8v Ай бұрын

I understand your point up-to some extent. But every coin has 2 sides. For some below middle class families , going to abroad is the only option. Think of a family with no money even for their children weddings, one of the child goes abroad and sending money for the siblings weddings, building home for parents. After couple of years only their real savings starts for their kids. By the time due to various factors people cannot come back. Money is not everything but without money we can’t survive any where in the world.

@gopalarao99 Ай бұрын

Very true. Many intelligent and economically poor are being deprived of in the name of reservations so no opportunities to serve in the country. So they have to find a way to earn their livelihood and send money to their dependants . 😊

@malinimadhusudana3518 Ай бұрын

Absolutely! Every coin has 2 faces . A child also becomes a parent some day. It's not give nd take policy. It's that concern and unconditional love for children nd children towards parents matters . Staying separately from parents doesn't mean u are neglecting them . Every one needs their personal space . Difference of opinions also counts . Bottom-line one being for others is what matters . It may be from parents or kids . Also I live in a family of 11ppl

@sudhirchopde3334 Ай бұрын

Excellent

@praveenModlier Ай бұрын

Ma'am's advice is more befitting for a single child. When it comes to siblings, any one child can be with the parents.

@benjaminaranha9704 Ай бұрын

Forget one child,even 3 and 4 are settled abroad and cannot even attend the funeral of the parents. Is just sending money enough?@@praveenModlier

@praveenModlier Ай бұрын

Excellent advice. As a sixty years old I can vouch that career comes next. I do have lost many opportunities and regretted many times but when I see my successful friends, I feel better off and luckier. I can't explain this in words but to tell the fact, my decisions appears good in many ways. Thanks for the video.

@dasamabhilash Ай бұрын

I feel sad, took wrong decision not going to USA at my earliest stage of my life. Now I am struggling to get into USA with family and kid. Remember Now or Never. If you work for 30 - 35 years of savings , is equal to 5 years of foreign savings. In India you don’t have long private employment, in foreign you can go for employment after 60 years too. Here in India, heavy politics in private companies and competition. Where as in foreign work life balance. In simple terms I will tell you, myself working in India struggles to get leave, where same position team member in Foreign country enjoys long vacation. Your skills are more valued and paid in foreign/ western countries. Her in India your are slave … corporate Slave. Don’t trust any one, but do always good deeds. Thank you.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@bhanuvyas4608 Ай бұрын

People in thinks in India uk they pay more money but you have to work 12 hours make it’s so much dear here please still working at age of 70 or 80 you get 4 weeks holiday for year it’s don’t easy life here I was working 14 hours day 90 hours for week done for 48 years you are happy in India 🇮🇳 money is everything Lord Shiv bless everyone Jay Shree Krishna

@bhanuvyas4608 Ай бұрын

Money is not everything if your are not happy 🙏

@vijayakumardanagoudra7390 Ай бұрын

Same here...

@sekharroychoudhury6806 Ай бұрын

Sir , It is our governance over the past 70 years which has lead you and I , to this situation .

@shampaghatak2987 Ай бұрын

Life is also very hard in abroad for first Generation of immigrants …Easy to give lecture.. Everyone has different priorities in life .If you don’t get good job in your hometown…You have no choice ..It is the middle class people who come abroad to build their fortunes. The rich people don’t come to settle abroad..They buy a home and come for vacation..

@ArghaSen Ай бұрын

Even though I am not financially settled, I have always tried my level best to be with my parents and support them as needed.. Even at the cost of my career to a certain extent.. And I am happy in a way that I could do it..

@shanthisahadevan9746 Ай бұрын

Conscience is God telling us what is the correct thing to do. You did right.

@desireedias8395 Ай бұрын

You will get abundant blessings 🙌

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@SH-nv5sp Ай бұрын

You are a Good person!

@shanthinijayram6972 Ай бұрын

Children in India are also neglecting their parents and inlaws. It has become a trend now. So we cannot blame the children who are settled in Abroad. Atleast they have some affection towards their parents. Within India parents are sent to old age home. Why? Who is responsible for this state of affairs?

@gomathinatarajan7545 Ай бұрын

Yes. 100%true. It's not the matter whether in Home land or abroad the children have to take care of their parents . The worst situation is no one likes the parents to be with them even if they are here. They want to be alone. It doesn't mean that the children here are only taking care. Whether they are in homeland or abroad affection towards parents is important and care to be given when situation arises

@jayanthipawar6516 Ай бұрын

Absolutely correct

@krishnakumarsawant8013 Ай бұрын

Educated wives teach their husbands to stay away from parents.@@gomathinatarajan7545

@ruchireddy3652 Ай бұрын

After suffering with health, u talk same

@vpn740 Ай бұрын

The harsh reality is that in over 60% of cases, lot of parents compel their children to pursue studies and employment abroad. They often compare their children to others, citing examples of individuals who have gone abroad, questioning why their own children can't do the same. In their 50s and 60s, they fail to see the potential repercussions. However, by the time they reach their 70s, they become reliant on support and come to realize their mistake. On the flip side, the dilemma arises when children go abroad to study, seeking employment to repay their educational loans. They end up staying longer to earn money, start families, and settle down. Yet, they find themselves stuck abroad, unable to return due to circumstances beyond their control. Bringing back their children who are in the midst of schooling becomes a complex issue, as the educational systems are vastly different. Thus, the challenges extend far beyond what is initially discussed.

@sunilnama1753 Ай бұрын

Lucid, Simple, and very TRUE 👍

@GururajBN Ай бұрын

Even those who settle abroad can’t be entirely happy and satisfied. In another country, they are always second class citizens. In the US, Canada and Australia, their safety is also not guaranteed. Often, Indian are abused, attacked and sometimes killed. Nowadays India too offers many options and opportunities to the youths.

@HK-yf1nu Ай бұрын

60% of Indian youth is unemployed.

@livelikeamonk3161 Ай бұрын

@HK-yf1nu Unemployed by choice. We have a huge family of cousins from both the parents side. No youth is unemployed. We are not reservation category. Still everyone found a way to earn. Lazy people are unemployed.

@benjaminaranha9704 Ай бұрын

Everyone wants a govt job

@SteveVasa Ай бұрын

Very hard sad truth of the mass migration. On one side it’s leaving behind very lonely parents back at home. At the same time, on the other side it’s leaving behind very lonely grand children all around the world, mostly unmarried, lost in the mass world population , no one knows where these people are as they are deeply buried in multiculturalism. Children born to the people migrating don’t belong in overseas, at the same time they can’t go back to India as they don’t know anyone in their parents country of origin. Leaving their children (grand children) in most expensive countries in the world when they die. Not many people want to take about this serious issue.

@shanthisahadevan9746 Ай бұрын

True. Sending money to parents is not enough.Dont treat them like beggars. Your parents need you nearby as they age. You dont have to live in the same house if you dont want. Live nearby. See them often. We have to do our duties to our parents. They did theirs to give you a better education and career. Dont abandon your parents and motherland.

@sudhirchopde3334 Ай бұрын

Beggar no 1

@athensmajnoo3661 Ай бұрын

If the children want to have better opportunities, better life, and want to go abroad, why and how can anyone stop them? Just because we gave birth to a child, it is unreasonable to expect them to neglect their aspirations and serve us . Your son/ daughter is a person with individuality,, personal choice, and goals, not just somebody you gave birth to take care of you in old age.

@shanthisahadevan9746 Ай бұрын

@@sudhirchopde3334 who are you calling a beggar? I am married but childless. I can take care of myself, thank you.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@rekhadedhia9802 Ай бұрын

Karma is B. Children who neglect their parents karma will catch up with them.they will face same situation.they never show the affection towards their parents their children will be same.yiu have to make parents as part of your familly.

@lakshmisrinivasan8439 Ай бұрын

40 years ago my husband got a golden opportunity to settle in US. But he returned as he felt he is the only son and they needed his support. People thought we are foolish. It was not easy for us but we have our in-laws' blessings forever and I have no guilty baggage...which is such a heavy baggage.

@usharamesh8853 29 күн бұрын

Well said maam

@Abhishek-pp5in Ай бұрын

Well said, but some parents are really toxic, so let's not judge all children who abandon their aged parents. Every case is different.

@usharamesh8853 Ай бұрын

Agree.

@jakezo369 Ай бұрын

So glad people are openly talking about bad parents, that's such a taboo in our country. I am in India and went no contact with my narcissistic mother and am free now for years.

@Aarkay77 Ай бұрын

I would like to take it a step further. First gen immigrations will be satisfied with the way of life anywhere abroad! Coz They would have spent their growing years in Bharath, thus having good knowledge about their existence, culture, roots etc. But problem will arise when their kids (second gen immigrants ) grow aboard ! They will grow in a culturally mixed environment which might give way for confusion as they grow. This might have problems in kids sticking to their roots. If parents(first gen immigrants) are mentally prepared for this, it’s fine. If parents are concerned more about propagating their race than earning money, then they need to give it a thought .

@SteveVasa Ай бұрын

Have a plan to go back before having children in overseas. Otherwise all the effort you put in to go to overseas will be wasted and you will be stuck in wrong place fore rest of your life.

@kshiprarisbud5845 Ай бұрын

Very good Dr...very bad situation in our society today...no one wants to take care of Parents/ In laws...why ?? Then what are we doing in life ..only earning money...for What ?

@PriyaBS5917 Ай бұрын

Who is responsible for this sorry state of affairs. I can say it is parents. They treat their children as money earning machines. They used to boast their son is studying in US/UK. Next stage that their son is employed in US/UK.and earning 150k USD a year. They used to make a couple of visits to see their wards. All is fine when health is ok up to 60/65 years of age. After that when their health detereorate they require the assistance of their son, which is not possible, as he can't get any job here in India to suit his qualification and experience. Today's youth is tomorrow's parents. In addition to academics,, parents should inculcate the moral and duty of children to take care of their parents

@ur67tube Ай бұрын

Everyone talks about society but no one try to do their role... funny .. if one is there to listen that's it Everyone tells vedhas.. no one knows what is vedha

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@mohanrao6273 Ай бұрын

Yes madam what you are telling each and every wordings is 100%correct 👍

@shyamalas9550 Ай бұрын

Very good Advice...Many Elders are really suffering...Many are alone depending only on servants & car drivers...sad situation

@kshiprarisbud5845 Ай бұрын

It's a criminal waste to send children abroad for education...

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@raghuvalab Ай бұрын

Very true

@josephsabu4355 Ай бұрын

Then why India isn't giving the same opportunity like the other foreign countries and unemployment is so high and how can you live when you have prime minister from Kerala who is traveling to foreign countries while people in Kerala dealing with financial issues and so many folk losing job and can't even feed their own family. If you live in India what kind of future or opportunities India could offer when there are corruptions

@josephsabu4355 Ай бұрын

Then ask India to fix unemployment and give better opportunity for their kids so after finishing education then can look for job that suits well for them instead of putting restrictions and also they should increase wages in workplace so young people will stay

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@@josephsabu4355 u r one way correct to support the Italy congress nepotism. Western countries came to limelight after 200+ yrs of independence. Example USA is more than 250 yrs. fortunately, they all had honest politicians most of the times. The freebies were limited for survival, never for vote bank. All these 65 yrs of corrupt Italy congress rule using freebies for vote, never for Bharat development. For that matter, vp Singh, Sathy, Desai, Gujral, Vajpayee were short time PMs with honest rule. Now only we have honest terror PM. Just wait for next 20+ yrs under bjp rule, u will see many will come to Bharat to earn. Last one example: last 70 yrs we were importing weapons for our defence. This is the first time we started exporting under Modiji rule. Do u need more samples, let me know ur specifics.

@sureshkumargv1 Ай бұрын

Parents also should avoid comparing materialistic possessing's of siblings who are in India and abroad.

@masongupta6618 Ай бұрын

Good gyaan.. People do what they like not what others like....

@jyotiyangadmotghare1843 Ай бұрын

Yes you are true mam .I did not send my daughter to USA for further studies as I refused to give my retired money to her and not wanted that she should leave india .I knew that no one wants to come back and we have examples of her friends and their siblings that after completing their further studies they are getting married with the foreigners and settling down their.Offocourse we can't bread fresh air as we breathe in our own country neither we can live sressless life

@karunasagardheram598 Ай бұрын

And this about staying in your own country, just because a son or daughter stays in the same country does not ensure he or she'll be available on the moment! He may be in a different state altogether, have responsibilities that tie him down. ... The answer is we, the parents have to arrange for their old in the best possible way.

@manoharraman6707 Ай бұрын

You are absolutely right. My lone son is working at U. S. A. He may stay there for another 5 years atleast. I am 64 and my wife is 55 years. Anyway for the time being I am pulling on. I want him back in india.

@AnimeRealm0974 Ай бұрын

Karma works the same. If we leave our parents today for money. Our kids will leave us in future for same money.

@Maggie_2297 Ай бұрын

Kids dont leave us n go its parents who ask them to go. Because every parent will want they child to do good in life.situations r such that kids are faced with a lot of challenges which we never had n due to time constraints they r unable to give us they time n they too hv the responsibility. The situation at present its very sad n hope children dont make a mistake of going abroad now u kids know everything .staying here is better n serving r country

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@AnimeRealm0974 Ай бұрын

@@nl9803 I feel so sorry for you sir. Be strong life doesn't stop for anyone because of anyone.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@@AnimeRealm0974 thank you. But keep in mind you n ur spouse safety is top most priority. Had my son failed to repay the 66%, sure we two would have gone to hell or heaven . So be alert. That’s all I can say. Once again thank you.

@AnimeRealm0974 Ай бұрын

@@nl9803 ok sir.

@cablenetworksystems Ай бұрын

Good point u r discussing. Once u go, coming back to India is difficult. I worked 10 yr part-time and saw life there, I settled in India and now I hope my son will also settled in India. There's lot to say as we have close relatives settled in US but not everything can be discussed here.

@Vasavagiri Ай бұрын

Ram Ram. Your observations are very practical. But it is the Parents who have to be blamed 100% Only the parents prepare the child frim LKG to go and earn in Abroad. Knowing fully well they cannot come back for very many reasons. So the parents' emotional suffering is self-inflicted. Children cannot be blamed at all.

@SteveVasa Ай бұрын

Assuming everyone went to overseas, floating in money and don’t want to come back is wrong. No doubt there are few. Unless someone take £200,000 when they move to overseas, majority of them, 95% of them work to pay their mortgage (house loans) and raise children without any/no savings. Biggest problem is, most parents in India (or any other countries) don’t have a clear plan on the future of their children in terms of where to live(house) what job to do, when they finish higher studies. Most don’t realise how much effort and money need to build a life for a child. Most of them take the children to schools, send to tuitions, pass A/L, apply for a visa and send them to overseas and wipe their hands. When children finish their studies in overseas, they don’t know where to go back to or where to live when they go back. Very sad situation

@sundareshans1474 Ай бұрын

100% reality madam. Parents in the interest of their children future send them abroad even taking loans but after that lots excuses are given by children for not coming back. Even then parents won,t curse children and curse their fate.

@vijayadurga9095 Ай бұрын

Thank you Mam ,for very good video..Most of the parents facing same problem.I am also facing same problem. I Will Always advice advice parents to don't send Children to Abroad.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@maryroseculas3273 Ай бұрын

Thank you Maam for this great subject today. Myself I didnt want to get married cos of my mum. No inlaws will oversee her in her time of need. Loved n cared for her till the time she left. Am glad I did that. Our parents are the most important people in our lives.

@shanthisahadevan9746 Ай бұрын

Lord Krishna said ' Do your duty'.

@geethanilam2857 Ай бұрын

This advice is the need of this time. We see lots of oldage homes sprouting because of this. Very pathetic to see them suffer only because they allowed them to go

@charmaine8512 Ай бұрын

Children are vulnerable and should never ever be sent to a strange country to study. That time in their life it is crucial they are with family and their culture. Literally packed off to uphold your pride. So parents keep them in your country _ once they have gained experience in thrir own country they can go on a contract and return home. You have no ROOTS and life becomes unbearable when you realize you have made a mistake by packing up and leaving for good. You are literally a third class citizen caught in two worlds. Those who went to the Gulf countries or Asia returned back to India without abandoning family but those that foolishly pack up for good struggle in even getting a job after all the stresses at such a young age. Depression, family breakups, divorce, debt trap are not something one can overcome but managing with family in your own country is any day better.

@Amnamania786 Ай бұрын

You are juste à motivational speaker, do continue like this way , the world will definitely changes their mind. Thankyou for such a beautiful vidéo.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@pradeepbhatnagar4848 Ай бұрын

Vry well explained the Truth of life nd in other words I called it Philosophy of life.Money can purchase materialistic things but not Happiness.Maam it depends from individual to individual to whom they give priority bt.it is a vry.fundamental rule money cannot by happiness.Its a eternal approach of life 👍🙏🙏

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@drsraghuram Ай бұрын

Studies and jobs are very tough in USA Life is not easy abroad

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@jagathfernando6433 Ай бұрын

Nicely explained.Thank you Dr.Devika.👏I am from Sri Lanka.

@surabhisirsi1581 Ай бұрын

Nothing can be imposed to any body,it's only "Take the life on your stride" as long as you can and inform or express your disability when are able to take care of your own that's it, thank God for every thing.

@sreekanthmg Ай бұрын

Really this video/topic is an Eye-Opener for the present generation who ignore their parents in their old ages, moreover, I feel very proud to say that, now-a-days our India is not less any advanced countries for any further studies or for job purpose and further to say, a true patriotic person will never settle down in other countries by quitting his or her own country and their beloved age old parents. 5:24

@jitendramayekar8477 Ай бұрын

Very good, superb teaching! Money can't buy happiness!

@athensmajnoo3661 Ай бұрын

Money can buy your parents a good house, a car, adriver, a cook,.....

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@shanthisahadevan9746 Ай бұрын

Money can't buy morality and love.

@stanleynoronha9223 Ай бұрын

Yes. I Fully agree with you. Good advice for children to follow. My salute to you Teacher.

@sekharroychoudhury6806 Ай бұрын

Madam , This trend has set in " apeing the West " . In Europe , North America , Australia , children are advised to move out of their parental house and fend for themselves . Pleasantries are exchanged once a year during Thanksgiving . Grandparents in India will still be able to sustain themselves because there is some societyal bonding . Think what will happen when these sons and daughters become old and remain settled in a foreign land .🙏.

@user-jb1wn6dp6l Ай бұрын

What about kids who born in foreign countries, if parents Ghar Wapsi then severely affected childrens , social adjustment and education issues. A balanced and well planned strategy needed

@anjanan53 Ай бұрын

Parents only want more money than children. Hv seen many people

@BinduViswanaath19 Ай бұрын

Very true

@usharamesh8853 Ай бұрын

True. Not all parents are same. Many parents want their freedom and don't want children to be always around them. They are rather happy kabhi kabhi aane se. Parents say that work load increases if children come frequently visit parents with grand children.

@BinduViswanaath19 Ай бұрын

@@usharamesh8853 Not many will understand But that’s the truth Money rules……

@athensmajnoo3661 Ай бұрын

@@usharamesh8853you seem to be very very lucky to gave such parents who are not clingy.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@Nickhil Ай бұрын

I completely understand your point. I feel it is better to sensitize parents of the financial implications if it involves a collateral & they're children turn care free & irresponsible. As for the other situations, why are the children expected to return always? Why are parents going hard & unwilling to move to the children's homes in the respective countries that they live in? When the kids are young, they live & move places with parents. When the same parents turn old, it only makes sense if they move along with the children.

@devikabhatnagar Ай бұрын

Very good Practical Analysis 👍🤝

@jagdishtosawad8995 Ай бұрын

You are right madam ; but what’s if children lives in India ; but not able to support to parents?..? Theses are applicable only those who already have sufficient finances

@user-wl1hn1mu6y Ай бұрын

Madam you are a very pure soul. Your video's are excellent. Hats off to you. God bless you and your family always who very good health wisdom prosperity

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@madhusudhanrao2094 Ай бұрын

Exactly wonderful &Humanity subject explanation madam. It's present days Needed subject for parents suffering with lonely in city's in India. Thank you for sharing affectionate message to NRI. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😢😢😢❤❤❤

@SteveVasa Ай бұрын

Before sending the children to overseas, parents should think hard and arrange a place for the children to live when they come back. Most children go to overseas, do not have a place to live back at home. It’s very easy to buy a flat or house in loan in overseas. It’s not easy to buy a house in India/home. So children get stuck in wrong place

@devikabhatnagar Ай бұрын

Valid point it is, need to think by the parents 🤝

@karunasagardheram598 Ай бұрын

You can't compare life in bygone years with changed circumstances. Already youngsters are under terrific strain due to ever changing job situations, aspirations and ambitions of spouses, geopolitical occurrences, and if we add parental pressures too, it will only lead to depression and mental breakdown! I only expect my children to be loving and be concerned but not totally arrange their lives around my convenience!

@wildsaffron5220 Ай бұрын

Very well said. I’m abroad but taking care of my aged MIL who never had any kindness for neither of her DIL’s. If parents treat their children/ DIL well. They will definitely take care. Humanity is still alive

@AnimeRealm0974 Ай бұрын

Am very thankful to you that you chose this topic and spoke. Many nana nani homes are coming up in India . Where parents can live when their kids have left them. Pathetic situation. Again my many thanks to you. Soon moving back.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@mgchandrakanth Ай бұрын

Even if they return home country there is no guarantee that they will keep parents peaceful. Even those children who are at home, there is no guarantee that they will give support and peace to parents right now. Atleast those who are abroad let them be happy. As long as parents at home are keeping reasonably good health and are reasonably happy their children can be abroad.

@vvk594 Ай бұрын

There are both good n bad. For few the financial status has improved significantly. For the rich they may be missing their kids.

@mukthambatn1435 Ай бұрын

Very well explained madam, thank you🙏🏼

@sunilanavalkar Ай бұрын

Dr you Are right. But who says they earn money. I have known parents who are instead sending them money

@RiaMukherjeeCHEM Ай бұрын

Not everyone is blessed to be born in a hometown where there are lot of job opportunities- So returning to hometown may not be feasible always. Secondly, those who are staying with their parents also do not potray very happy relationship with their parents. PS: I dont stay abroad. But I dont quite like the hatred blames put on people who are abroad. It is not that those who are staying here or staying with their parents are doing a grear job either. Atleast NRI childs parents get to fulfil one of their wishes which is a trip to foreign land 😂 and there is no chance of regular Saas bohu issues 😅

@achlabhatt6737 Ай бұрын

EXCELLENT ADVICE ❤

@padmaoruganti9179 Ай бұрын

What about the parents who are pushing their children to accomplish this and they are very proud parents if the children stay aboard ?! In every family get together we get to hear parents discuss this, my son is in US vice versa , no parent is proud of his or her kids settle in india does farming or something else!!

@dominicpatel1064 Ай бұрын

Sad but trueI know of many cases where the children are living abroad leaving their old parents in India alone with a big Bungalow ang garden but only come to India ,sell the bunglow and go back abroad.

@balasubramanianr4755 Ай бұрын

It's not necessary to go abroad. I know few children who go to a different state in India itself. They are so busy that slowly they maintsin distance from parents. Try to settle there. As parents they have done their duty. The children have no time to talk or even msg. When parents call they prefer to answer in what's app. Not even video calls. . When will such children understand? Living in India itself but staying in a different state brings such a situation what to do? When will such children change for the better .

@stutisrivastava3992 Ай бұрын

Thanku ma'am you are absolutely right 👍

@user-ok2ym9br2g Ай бұрын

Very much true....my parents facing same problem....I know how hard it is my parents are going on...

@RajalakshmiSrinivasan-dj1de Ай бұрын

Very well explained. Thank you.

@pranavvishnu3860 Ай бұрын

Please make this video in Telugu madam. It will help somany greedy Telugu parents

@devikabhatnagar Ай бұрын

In Telugu uploaded a couple of months ago, this video has become viral in many whatsapp groups as a result, it has reached to my whatsapp. kzbin.info/www/bejne/b5_dnGZ3jZ2gfrssi=PiUTlB40QbFb_guU

@praveenp5281 Ай бұрын

A lot depends on the values imparted by the parents during the child's formative years. I know many parents who are obsessed with packing off their children to the US once they turn 18. When children are implicitly told that only money & career are important, they simply follow it up!

@leenacabral4620 Ай бұрын

Nicely explained. Thank you so much❤

@svenkatesh6497 Ай бұрын

You are right. Out of 1 lack one child may accept this concept rest no. Instead one should save for their own care & settlement supparately at worst situations one shouldn't hesitate to get settled at some good Old age homes without blaming their loved ones.

@jayalaxmias134 Ай бұрын

Good message to young people make more videos about this

@archanakishersagar7625 Ай бұрын

Thank you ma'am I agree with you

@vijayadurga9095 Ай бұрын

Mam,please do one video on late Marriages.even 30 age also Children are not ready for Marriage, How parents are Suffering they don't bother.I realized not Supposed to send Children to Abroad.Many parents are facing this problem Mam.

@rajendrathota7219 Ай бұрын

Nice topic madam u have taken today children should have councelling regarding this matter

@roymathew3456 29 күн бұрын

Today's parents are more happy if their children's r settled abroad with high salaries, that's why many students r planning to go ab, parents have become materialistic

@abbasalikerawala1604 Ай бұрын

Excellent points 👏 👌🏻 God bless you more 🙏❤

@radharamani7154 Ай бұрын

You are right Mam. My son has settled abroad and we both are senior citizens. But what about children who doesnt care about their parents in India also. Who dont invite or talk to their parents after marriage. Pl talk about that also

@sudhirchopde3334 Ай бұрын

Iam ashamed at the dependency of 57-60 year old people.To return those living abroad is a real sin.Why encourage clever ones to remain here.Due to lack of opportunity they suffer here lying their lives and careers. Make your lives secure 60+ age group remember JaneFonda and make arrangements for the 4th phase of life...60..90.or so years.

@sudhirchopde3334 Ай бұрын

Beggar no 2

@athensmajnoo3661 Ай бұрын

@@sudhirchopde3334 beggar of all beggars spotted 🤣

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

I am wearing ur shoes now. I am facing this problem now. I had less money, but I spent on my son’s overseas education n 66% he got education loan using my house as collateral. After he paid that loan , he forgotten us. Now surviving with less money. So long no major health problems, I will manage. So parents keep ur money for full comfortable life that should take care till u r alive with all medical expenses. This is my learning at age 60.

@annapurnakrishnamurthy2667 Ай бұрын

So well put. Thank you ma.

@prakashshah1019 Ай бұрын

Excellent guidance.

@brototidas615 Ай бұрын

Very nice message to young generation

@kalanair4773 Ай бұрын

I agree with you.good topic for youngsters as well as parents.

@nl9803 Ай бұрын

@rsd6317 Ай бұрын

But what about mother in law doesn’t like daughter in law and there is a hell like situation at home ? Daughter-in-law is good but mother in law treat her like a slave.

@ritoquezon4884 Ай бұрын

yes, doctor ..I 100% agree with you..

@weare4s Ай бұрын

In an ideal situation this works. But a person who has worked abroad cannot find suitable job in India and for some people their health does not permit them to face the commuting challenges. So when it comes to losing their entire power of earning although they do not like they are forced to continue working abroad just to provide the basic needs for their kids and family. Then although the person is sad that he or she is unable to comeback, they are unable to return to their motherland. This is the harsh truth for many.

@sv9446 Ай бұрын

Rightly said , appreciate this !

@goldentiger1841 Ай бұрын

This video is long overdue, it is good that India is slowly waking up.

@user-oo6ug6xo6l 29 күн бұрын

What educational institutions of India & abroad taught they are following. (2) Needs rectification of this problem at institutions level when parents send their children for studies. (3) Institutions & faculties (Indian or foreign institutions) knowledge deficiency problem & bad practices parents are suffering. Simple.

@natureinurbanspace1280 Ай бұрын

So good advice. Needed topic of time.

@monafernandez4389 28 күн бұрын

The current situations in our country are the reasons for most youngsters or complete families even migrating to greener n safer pastures abroad. People need peace and happiness around, hence many are moving out is my take on this.

@vibha.v2999 Ай бұрын

The stark reality is either the parents or the children are not ready to accept the situation they are in...Life is not a bed of roses...both are in a way wud not be happy surely

@azeemhaider7062 Ай бұрын

very nice vdo...these type of vdos r rare on you tube

@shubhenterprise Ай бұрын

Very good video, explaining real facts of current era

@usharamesh8853 Ай бұрын

Maam agree with you to a great extent. But pls understand that just like 5 fingers, not all parents are same. Many want their children to be away and do not disturb them. They say that jab zururat hogi toh help le lenge.

@raghuvalab Ай бұрын

We should not disturb privacy of parents or kids. In this generation that is needed. Even relatives should not be entertianed. If these are in control, no need to go to abroad. People are interfering in individual lifes and thats were people are not interested to come back.