Seven Positive Psychological Traits That Predict Good Health

[@outsidethewall8488]

My psychologist once told me that wisdom was the marriage between logic and emotion - both are acknowledged as valuable/ valid rather than always prioritising one over the other. I really like that conceptualisation and still think about it a lot - definitely feel it helps me make decisions too.

[@mcdaici]

that is such a nice thought, thank u for putting a comment

[@briannenurse4640]

Logic without emotion is stagnant, paralyzed, unable to move in any direction on its own. Emotion without logic is wild, free to move but unable to ground itself in anything solid. It's only in combining the two that you gain both the ability to judge and to choose. Logic is the ship and all its conceptual cargo; emotion is the compass that points you in the direction of your truest, most authentic self.

[@Thrna_1]

It's good to see you talk about positive psychological traits for a change.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

For a change? Did I go down a negative road? 🤔

[@Thrna_1]

@@DrTraceyMarks usually you talk about mental disorders and their treatments, so that's what I was referring to.

[@kimsbodydesign]

Dr. Tracey, it would be good to see possitive actions that reflect possitive mindsets....clinically and not based on personal montras.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

@@Thrna_1 Ok I see 👍🏽

[@DrTraceyMarks]

@@kimsbodydesign I have some mindset videos on my channel

[@MrBungle900]

I’m a recovering addict and have had severe depressive episodes and anxiety etc for years. One month ago, I learned to do the 3 Good Things exercise each day with my partner. We’ve been doing it every single day. And we have been the in awe at the change in such a short span of time. We’re both usually quite cynical and negative but we’ve been the opposite for weeks now. We struggle to narrow down all the good things that are happening to us now to just 3! There’s so many to notice now. Our brains are slowly focusing on the positives of every situation. And when it doesn’t we find a way to reframe it. There’s always a way to see it differently.

[@kasondaleigh]

Excellent advice.

[@funnymonkie411]

1. Resilience - being able to come back from setbacks, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect you negatively, but you are able to move on from it. 2. Optimism - hoping for a better outcome in the future despite current negative circumstances. You can be optimistic while still experiencing negative emotion. Not the same as toxic positivity where you tell yourself everything is ok when it’s not. 3. Personal mastery - you have the confidence that you can handle what life throws at you, more in terms of problem solving than coping 4. Coping self-efficacy - confidence that you can use the coping mechanisms you know to get through difficult situations. Related to personal mastery 5. Social engagement - how connected to you are to others, quality/closeness of those relationships, and how much you enjoy this social times. 6. Spirituality/religiosity - believing in a higher power and/or purpose. Spirituality is more personal while religiosity is more organized and has a social aspect. 7. Wisdom - being able to make decisions, gaining insight from new info, tolerating uncertainty and other belief systems. Related to maturity which develops over time and life exposure, but wisdom is more about using knowledge from experience to make good decisions.

[@BlackWomenInComedyLaffFest]

Thank you ❤

[@funnymonkie411]

@@BlackWomenInComedyLaffFest of course :)

[@goldenme8324]

Thank you

[@au8438]

Tracey saying she's not funny while making me laugh out loud in almost all of her videos! A video on helplessness would be wonderful

[@Rodney-1972]

This was a great video! I definitely would like to see one on learned helplessness.

[@b4rtir4]

UP!

[@giulianacr2638]

Yeah that's a good one.

[@Lena-ld1qc]

Yes! What a great suggestion! Please consider it @Dr. Tracey Marks

[@fbbWaddell]

I'm glad you discussed the difference between optimism and toxic positivity. A valuable lesson we all need to learn.

[@minigiioi]

I would love to see a video about learned helplessness. I definitely think that is a concept I relate strongly to, as someone who developed chronic illness over the course of my teen years, on top of my pre-existing mental health disorders, and then years and years of compounding trauma, drug use, social isolation, developmental stunting. When you mentioned needing support for even little things, I remember the time I had to call in my best friend to help me narrow down my shopping cart when making a large order from an alternative fashion website, because I couldn't handle the stress and responsibility of making all the final decisions myself. This comes both from wisdom and pessimism, as I know from past experiences items ordered will not always turn out exactly as imagined, or that they simply may not make me as happy or be as useful as I think they will be, and I feel very anixious about wasting money, even though in the short run it wouldn't be hugely consequential. Comparing this list if healthy traits against reseach I've done about unhealthy cognitive distortions is very interesting, and although I've heard most of these things before, putting them all in one context together adds to the weight and meaning, I think. Plus I just appreciate your delivery, Dr. Marks, since I can end up feeling criticized and defensive when reading articles; as opposed to your constructive approach, and even and considerate tone.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Randall I'm glad the information is both helpful and affirming. 😊❤️

[@AshAuset]

This video is such a help. I am working on moving away from toxic positivity into a place of optimism. Better said than done but one step at a time right? 😀 Thank you for the video. I’m so excited to get your book ❤️❤️❤️

[@chanson8508]

Me too! Good luck to us both 🍀🙌🏾🍀

[@sandralujan1199]

I think the self-help industry taught us this. Basically ignore how you really feel ignore whats really happening and “pretend” its all good. I noticed there was no skills for afterwards. Yes, thinking positive really helps when youre going through hell and faking it until you make it helps when were really going through rough times. But what happens afterwards? What’s the plan? How do we manage these feelings? Good luck on your journey

[@briannenurse4640]

I've changed several of the patterns that historically held me back at this point in my life. It's never a quick or easy process, but it does work. You focusing on it is enough to make it happen, it just takes some time and the perseverance to keep going even if it doesn't seem to be working all that well at first. You'll get there!

[@Tymbus]

So I guess I'm 50/50 on this. after loosing my job, my money, my home, my health in the space of a year, it took a long time and help from agencies to recover mostly. I have found I am resiliant , optimistic, spiritual , socially engaged and wise all to some extent. I can be very dependent and have a bit of social mastery. I'm still getting used to being diagnosed as autistic as an adult.

[@Msmeohmy52]

You’ve been through a Lot. Be gentle with your self

[@benjamindover4337]

I've noticed a huge number of adults being diagnosed as autistic this year. I wonder what's up with that.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

@@benjamindover4337 The DSM-5 has changed the particulars of Autism from the old "category" related to "Rainman" (movie with Tom Cruise/Dustin Hoffman) and moved toward "a more spectral definition" regarding neuro-psychological developmental disorders as varying degrees of approximately the same thing. The APA (group behind the DSM development) is working toward a more flexible approach to many of the older-school "Categories" of disorders and allowing more over-lap for clinicians to use (hopefully) with greater and more consistent success in treatments while encouraging researchers to refine their work more and focus on a somewhat broader approach to what they research and develop... It doesn't make it any easier to accept a developmental disorder, even on a spectrum from slight through moderate to severely crippling, but accepting that there's a hurdle that's a little more difficult for some (including adults) can only help those who struggle with a little better support and a more focused approach to their development, in order to compensate for things they find particularly difficult... It's just a bit confusing for those of us who haven't gotten some of those notes from the APA regarding the DSM-5 (aka DSM-V) because we're still kind of stuck on that stereotypical "idiot savant" (see "Rainman") which is extremely rare... Hope this helps a little...

[@briannenurse4640]

I don't think that relying on help from agencies and institutions negates your emotional well-roundedness. Psychological dependence means someone relies on agencies or other individuals for just about everything they do - from what to wear to how to style their hair to what career to go into, etc. Someone with decent resilience, optimism, spirituality, social engagement, and wisdom may still require help from individuals and agencies, but they will do what they can on their own and find independence within the boundaries of their condition. I think you do qualify as someone who is all of the things you listed, and that accessing the agencies needed to help you was part of that resilience.

[@Tymbus]

@@Msmeohmy52 Thank you for your best wishes.

[@TheClassicalKids]

Cant stress enough how much I’ve been enjoying and appreciating these videos. Not only is the information enlightening and insightful, but dr. Marks has such a calm and pleasant demeanor about her, they always leave me feeling at ease after watching. Feels like a breath of fresh air.

[@barbaramallow3870]

Au contraire, you are most certainly funny 😊 There are hidden gems in almost every video. Thanks for a great channel.

[@InsightImagingPhoto]

This was awesome. 5 years battling a brain injury, you helped me better understand how I manage to fight every day with the constant symptoms. Thank you

[@StelizaAaA]

I'm sorry but this video featuring Rosalia on TT that you show towards the very end is what I was frantically looking for last night!?!??! Um...... THANK YOU!!

[@zipbangcrash]

I've been journaling daily for six months (a practice which seems to finally have stuck for me in a meaningful way), and I'm absolutely going to incorporate the "amusing items" idea into the practice. I'm just starting my morning, and have just written down your delivery of the word 'curmudgeon' as being the first humourous highlight of what I hope will be many. Thank you! So glad I found your channel.

[@KoolT]

I love this doctor She is so brilliant and help's me so much.

[@jakewhoskate]

Your video on health anxiety snapped a barrier for me. I am working out regularly like I used to. I was in this cycle of suffering. I feel a lot better.

[@ioanapopescu7231]

Wow now i am more positive that i ll go trough life seeing how many of these i relate to

[@marieodu3149]

It’s good to know I’ve been on the right track - all these years my grandma would teach us to look at things differently try to find the best in things even when all is going bad. Thanks Dr Marks

[@briannenurse4640]

Your grandma gave you a wonderful gift

[@marcusyaun9465]

I learned a lot from this video, I’m so glad they put a psychiatrist on KZbin, cause I can’t afford therapy atm, lol

[@mollycote1021]

She is fantastic! I’ve been following her from the beginning of her channel! Every video is so useful! 🙏🏼🥰💫

[@TheClassicalKids]

…what do you mean THEY put a psychiatrist on KZbin? 🤔

[@hamzahramadan388]

You gather useful information and explain them to us. Whether from your experiences as a Psychatrist or useful books that you reviewed. I keep taking notes and revise. I spend endless hours enjoying every minute of my time living with you. You really mean much to me. You deserve all the respect.

[@gyurilajos5010]

”Listing three good things each day" this one surely one of them I can list today. Thanks.

[@louleloup2607]

You have such a calm, strong and warm aura, it's amazing. I wish I had you in my life, and am so grateful to have you in my KZbin.

[@patrickt.6492]

I would like a video about learned helplessness. I'm dealing with trauma from neglect and abuse that happened when I was younger. Sometimes making even minor decisions can give me intense anxiety. So I'm learning that I can make those decisions for myself and it will probably be fine no matter what I choose.

[@yohaizilber]

Self awareness can help us change our personality in ways that we desire (example: being less neurotic). Self awareness can only bring us positive changes for ourselves and is in the root of all this traits

[@vivvy_0]

too much self awareness can drive you mad

[@vivvy_0]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling what when we know what is wrong in our lifes and with us but we are helpless in making any difference?

[@Ron-SA]

All of these points are so good doctor and I've found myself getting excited that I relate to a lot of them. Reflecting on my progress in the past few months, I notice that I am able to see the positive and find things funny that would usually just leave me irritable or indifferent. I've been playing more with my kids and even taking time to play with our dogs and cat. That coupled with my beliefs and experience or wisdom has helped me have such a better quality of life. Also, being consistent with my medication has played a big role. Just acknowledging that the stereotypes that people have made about those who require antidepressants and the myths etc aren't worth the joy and quality of life I get with them. Some have been through trauma that can be seen by scars on their bodies but some of us have been affected differently in ways you cant always see. And like a broken bone, we take medicine and that's ok. I've determined to also stay consistent because I often fell into the trap of being on something for about two months or three and feel much better, I start convincing myself that I'm fine without it and the dip eventually creeps back. So I've made peace with myself and how I'd worry about what others would think. I am happy now. My family is no longer subjected to random outbursts and frustration. And my mind isn't as busy and noisy. With these techniques tips and medicine my life has truly improved greatly

[@Ron-SA]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling Thank you so much for this

[@briannenurse4640]

So proud of you friend! And so happy that you've defeated the demon of self-doubt and recognized what you need to live the best life possible. You've found the path, now all you have to do is keep walking it.

[@briannenurse4640]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling When someone has diabetes, no one judges them for taking their insulin. When someone has cancer, no one judges them for undergoing chemotherapy. It's only in the case of diseases of the brain that we still have such active stigma against medicating our condition. This is one of the thoughts I hold onto when it comes to dealing with my own internalized feelings of shame around being medicated. Sometimes bodies don't have all the stuff they need for our optimum health and wellbeing. If you don't have it naturally, you can get it pharmaceutically. The brain is no different than the rest of the body, and sometimes it needs stuff it doesn't have access to naturally in order to maintain itself. There's no shame in a magnesium supplement when you're lethargic, so why should there be any shame in taking any kind of psych med when you're mentally unwell?

[@Ron-SA]

@@briannenurse4640 you're so right I'm so proud of you too!

[@TrulyWOW]

I used to think that I have very poor mental habits because I do feel bad when bad things happen, and I also suffer from depression. But now I realise that my responses have been normal and I still have positive traits like maintaining hope even when I'm crushed. Thank you for reminding me that depression is not a fatal outcome but can be buffered against despite having setbacks. And that these positive traits can be carried by even those with mental health challenges.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

It's important to realize that sometimes "a depressive episode" is the correct and natural response. The problem(s) begin where a depressive episode is either inappropriate for the circumstance (you win the lottery and somehow feel crushed)... or it gets entirely out of proportion to the situation (you insert coins for a soda, and your favorite flavor is sold out, which sends you into a depressive fit of tears and suicidal ideations). At some level, there's a proportionate relationship within one's lifestyle that also effects how a depressive episode should be calculated as "normal" and then there are individual elements, from family, culture, and plain old personal resilience that vary from one person to another. This is why rich people who almost never hear "No" can lose their sh*t when they try to buy something at a store when it's sold out. No amount of money can change that, but they're simply not capable of dealing (mentally) with such a rejection, and the "meltdown" happens. It's not exactly a mental disorder, but their own lack of experience in handling rejection or disappointment... BUT not all rich people have that trouble. They may not have trouble with the disappointment being manageable, even though they still feel the disappointment... It's just a trend with highly affluent people. In any case, and (honestly) strictly out of the DSM, "Even when a patient complains of symptoms but does NOT quite meet the criteria for a diagnosis, there can be reason enough to pursue treatment or therapy"... AND there's a whole section of the introduction about how it's supposed to be noted in files and all... so it IS official. NOT that you weren't diagnosed or that you don't suffer... JUST leaving that acknowledgement for the "purely academic value" in case you or anyone else who happens on this thread might find something out that's USEFUL... ...and hey, man... cut me some slack. I've been reading... I'm kinda proud of myself. (lolz) ;o)

[@briannenurse4640]

I'm so glad to hear that friend! When I had that realization for myself, it was lifechanging.

[@TrulyWOW]

@@gnarthdarkanen7464 good to know.. although I have a constant passive state of depression rather than simply depressive episodes. The difference is that when bad things happen, I feel even more crushed than usual to the point of ruminating negative thoughts and emotions in my mind over several days in an obsessive manner. I always considered them unhealthy, but they are in many ways the normal stages of grief and the only way out is through. My more passive daily depression is what I truly struggle to come out of, because it has made my life meaningless and empty.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

@@TrulyWOW That certainly sounds like a general depressive disorder (though I'm not quite to that particular set of issues yet... lolz)... In any case, just because something is inherently unhealthy, it doesn't make it necessarily terrible. At the same time, you probably shouldn't feel like your whole life is meaningless or empty... There are some pretty great things going on in mental healthcare... In the meantime, I'd suggest you might find some use in Dr. Emma McAdam's channel "Therapy in a Nutshell"... From her 30 episode series about "Processing Difficult Emotions" to her many other series and rotating focus on things like anxiety, depression, and just symptoms like intrusive thoughts and ruminations, she has at least a little bit for everybody... AND she doesn't just give out coping exercises and skills. She regards "coping" like a "band-aid" to be used in the moment, but to keep temporary as you move on toward longer term strategies and healing, or treating. Anyways... I hope you find your way toward a better tomorrow. I hope this can give you some comfort for today. ;o)

[@SJ-vd1jh]

As an adult who suffers with ADHD, learned helplessness is a concept that I recently became mindful to not allow myself to fall into (or at least stay there.) So, yes, please do a video about learned helplessness especially as it relates to adults who struggle with chronic failure and managing their ADHD symptoms.

[@jenjones6284]

I beg to differ! You are funny, Dr. Marks. I love when you slide the occasional joke into your videos. It makes for a nice break in the informational content. Thanks for educating and entertaining us.

[@Tubeytime]

Ironically, when she said that I laughed. Humor is complex and there many unique ways to be funny!

[@giulianacr2638]

I like her wit!

[@rrosaseconda]

Thank you, doctor! I needed this just now!

[@deemcturk9317]

This is great! A practical and honest definition of mental strength in a sea misleading self-help

[@jcolby298]

Thank you Dr. Marks for yet another articulate video which summarizes many healthy attributes. I consider this mental home!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Mental home, I love that! Thank you Jonathan ❤️😊

[@jcolby298]

@@DrTraceyMarks - ha, I meant to write "homework", as in I will work on practicing these positive traits, but I suppose that was a colourful statement after all. You are the first person I have encountered that offers clear, easy to understand, high quality content about mental health. With a touch of humour at that! Out of pure curiosity, are you in clinical practice, or more academia?

[@martharunstheworld]

Thank you for a positive video! Resilience has gotten me through the toughest spots in my life!

[@thereadingsylph]

Have been searching info about this for a long time, I currently feel like I am in a really good place right now, feeling resilient and content. I strive to try my best to be healthy

[@Team_Tennant]

THIS 👏VIDEO👏IS👏SO👏HELPFUL!!!! Thank you Dr Marks. I have ADHD diagnosed in my 30's and struggle understanding my emotions and knowing what the 'appropriate response' is to so many situations. Understanding what each of these healthy/negative traits actually look like and differentiating between them provides so much guidance when I can't tell how I'm feeling/if I'm over reacting.

[@Truthseeker0926]

Very helpful 👌 ☺

[@MoneTheGreatiAm]

Yessss thanks DrMarks. Very encouraging video that reaffirms my positive healing journey. I'm focusing more on healing than the hurt this content is RIGHT on time

[@DRiPPYDAWGG]

thinking about things that are amusing is like exercising to see life as a game which is not always too serious. we are in this world to experience and i think it is important to see it in a playful way. thanks for the video

[@MrRjnn35]

So needed this today. Thank you. Im right where I'am suppose to be!

[@smdyoutube]

Tracey you are amazing! You are doing the world a huge service in making these videos! Keep it up much love from Canada!

[@user-wk3sx6yh7n]

You help so many lives, Dr Marks. Most folks can’t find mental health care, or afford it ! You are A Gift 😘

[@jeannewitter8419]

Thanks for this video. The field of mental health has been focused on pathology since its beginnings. Moving into the direction of positivity has helped countless clients of mine out of their self-imposed jails. I learned “build on your strengths” in the 1970’s and it has made all the difference in my life. Thanks again for helping this trend grow.

[@ashleighbowie1386]

Dr Marks you actually are pretty funny! I find myself laughing watching your videos all the time! Not sure if its on purpose but you have a great deadpan delivery!!

[@ljcool1004]

The first thing on my list of something I find humor in and uplifting is your video this morning, especially the end 😂😁. Thanks for another awesome video!

[@jameseclipts9686]

I've learned more and used more of what I learned from your videos than any therapist I have ever gone to see. Voluntary and court ordered therapy. Thank you so much for making these videos. You don't understand how much positive benefits I've gotten from your channel

[@relicofgold]

Wow......sanity on the internet. I like your balanced, grounded, realistic approach. Subscribed.

[@jaiyabyrd4177]

This video is absolutely outstanding ‼️👍🏾 Thank you Dr. Tracy

[@andrzejmaranda3699]

Dr. Tracey Marks: these informations ARE VERY IMPORTANT for me!

[@darvius]

Dr. Marks you're on of my favorite KZbinrs!

[@FlavioVagnini]

Watching your videos count as a good thing in the day

[@openmindz4628]

I love this video and it came at the time I needed it. Thanks so much Dr. Mark's 🌹😊.

[@emanuelsanders2030]

"Learned Helplessness" ~ YES, I'm up for it, bring it on Doc!

[@EpixRed]

I love your videos! 1/3 things i found uplifting today for me now for 2 more :)

[@jendayiKa]

My fave therapist! Thank u for sharing your wealth💚

[@deden638]

I love your videos and how well you explain things. I learn a lot from them. Thank you!

[@felisaferreira5179]

A sweet person like you will always make us smile of happiness and think of the so much good things God give us by other people. Even if you are not funny as you said, you make us smile with gratitude for all the good personality traits people have that bring so much good to us. Best wishes and I can wait for your video on learned hopelessness.

[@thewikiddreamer]

It's so reassuring to learn that I've been doing the right things all along and that it was my toxic AF family and environment that had pushed their generationally learned helplessness onto me. Thank you Dr. Marks for sharing your knowledge with the world. We are in DESPERATE need for clarity and I believe that these are the first steps towards that. Again, thank you, signed, a proud C-PTSD survivor.

[@thewikiddreamer]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling the idea of forgiveness for all implies that all things and all people are forgivable, for which I VEHEMENTLY disagree. There are those whom are incapable or outright refuse to learn to do right & actively chose wrong, no matter what you do. How can you learn what forgiveness is, if all you've done is forgotten why you were sorry in the first place? The ideologies of Forgive & Forget and Forgive & Let Go are extremely flawed. Instead, I suggest Forgive and Move Forward: Always Forgive Trauma, but Never Tolerate a Lack of Accountability.

[@sandralujan1199]

This video was just what I needed. Thank you for your dedication and consistency to us your viewers. I have been watching you for years. As Ive grown and developed you continue to help me. Thank you for sharing your research and work with us. I was never taught how to adult. I was taught to be co-defendant to be there to basically take care of my parents, learned helplessness as you mentioned and yes please make a video on that. I have fought for my autonomy and independence. This particular video is oh so helpful for someone like me who has to learn everything out in the field aka the real world. I’ve already realized I’m in a healthy mental space from my recent down sizing. Thanks again doc.

[@hamzahramadan388]

Where do you get such expressions from? You are really highly educated, deserve life, and hard working Psychatrist. You are educating and helping people. Wish I know much about your private life.

[@samuelpanning764]

Love the inclusion of Wisdom as the final dimension - excellent video

[@michie4872]

Awesome video Dr. ! I want to focus on positive videos now instead of being paranoid that I have all these negative syndromes. I'am what I make of myself and my story is going to be a good one! No more shall I live in my past trauma because Im living in the present moment and I don't fear my future as God has already planned my future days to be amazing as long as I do good for me and choose what will benefit me instead of hurting myself with negative feelings. Thank you for your videos. You are soothing to me and keep up the great work of awakening us all in optimism!

[@laneatkinson6441]

I really liked the part about finding humor in your day-to-day life! Lately I was dreaming of having a day off, and now I'm stuck at home due to illness. I need to be more careful about what I wish for! 😅🤒

[@laneatkinson6441]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling Thank you!

[@vivvy_0]

@Brendan Bellavia Counseling opposite for me, i can't take anything serious anymore and lack motivation to do anything. All feels like a shitshow

[@NatySpaghetti]

Great video! Very helpful, I just went on the comment section just to say that you are funny actually, I remember seeing past videos from you that made me chuckle, have a good day!

[@paulcomerford1]

Thanks again, great content. :) I will look into Positive Psychology you mentioned - the listing habit sounds like a good idea. ! had to have a bit of a laugh at the end of the video very amusing end.

[@catherines1571]

Fantastic list, finally someone does a list of green flags. Love the examples!

[@margaretcampbell2681]

Thank you again for another very helpful video Dr Marks ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheRalphie2020]

Thanks for this video, a lot of great advice. Pretty thumbnail!👍🏾

[@karinberryman2009]

Learned helplessness - rarely mentioned states like this are very common. Yes please!

[@elevenade]

That last joke at the end made me laugh out loud. Self-aware humour was always my favorite, as it requires a lot of Personal Mastery, i guess. Interesting. Thanks for the lesson, Doc!

[@MrFlameboy15]

Dr. Tracey, you are so funny!! Your quick humor always makes me laugh. Definitely one of the many funny/good things that happen in my day 😄💯

[@yahainHotPink]

Thank you for sharing Dr. Loved the listing things that made you smile or laugh and the explanation. Those parts made me especially smile and/or chuckle.

[@AuraKnight8]

A friend told me that I’m great with accepting life. Like having perseverance and having the idea of winning is just as great at losing because of trying. They also like how I’m not afraid of being bullied when it comes to finding new people. Because some how the bullies become friends with me over time because they underestimate what Im like compared to them. Basically they like how I have the same interests as them and I’m friendly about it. They like how I just do what I enjoy without caring about what others think of it. I just do things I like even if I’m doing it in a unusual way.

[@jexward67]

A friend of mine had me start writing three positive things every night before I went to bed a few years back. The problem was at that point in time I couldn't think of anything positive in my day. So I took the three negative things that happened that day and had to write something that I thought was positive about them. What did I learn from those negative things? What could I do differently so that those negative things didn't impact me like they did that day? Anyway just wanted to share. 😺

[@vivvy_0]

this is very good! need to write it down

[@carylfontaine3640]

BRILLIANT Wisdom is applied knowledge..true

[@ghaliyahansari1557]

Thank you for the video Dr. Tracey. Can you do one on reappraisal? It's a CBT technique and I want to learn how to use it properly instead of using toxic positivity. Thank you.

[@NYCbankersforPalestine]

Absolutely love the new hairdo - and the videos too!! My therapist knows about you now and gets my references :) Just want to share the impact you make!

[@alleysouza7200]

Ohhh I’d love a video on Learned helplessness. I find Positive psychology to be incredibly helpful.

[@ShadowsOne]

Nice to know I have some POSITIVE psychological traits. I'm on several of these spectrums. Thank you for explaining things so clearly. 🥰

[@djsoucy2006]

I truly enjoyed that and appreciate the clarifications stated. Had a psychiatrist tell me once that I use my sense of humor as a coping mechanism which was a positive trait. What the hell did he know😂

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

I also apply 3 good things to 3 good things about myself as where the negativity so often comes from is so often overly noticing what all is wrong with myself.

[@aamodvardhanpandey]

Suggestion- A little smile every now and then can make this better!

[@IsaroBururu]

Very insightful! Thank you Dr Tracy♥️♥️

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome Kagoma 😊

[@LVLV-im3ne]

Love the definitions & explanations for ex. Wisdom. Excellent video gave a different prospective!

[@dwilikinson3855]

"Not mine, 'cause I'm not funny..." lol. . . Well that sure made me smile! Thank you Doc! :)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

My pleasure! Thanks for watching until the end 😊

[@addysaw]

I did 9 sessions of Positive Psychology as part of a research group and definitely noticed an improvement in many areas of life. Sadly I did revert back to depression once COVID lockdowns were a thing again, but now things are better again.

[@ColdDiva]

Working on my master’s in Positive Psychology been such a rewarding degree. I would love to learn more about “learned helplessness“, in a future video. You’re book release date is mere short days away…Congrats ! 🥳

[@ViirinSoftworks]

For people still able to work, this is the best time the world has ever seen. Every company needs employees badly, even hiring people totally unqualified just to get someone in the position. USE THIS! Have a dream job? Then you might be able to get it in less than a month even if it requires all sorts of things. Just try. I'm not saying the place will be great, but you could totally get the job you want at a place that sucks, and use your employment there to get a job somewhere else that doesn't suck, then quit the crappy one.

[@hopeisnotaplan]

Another insightful and helpful video. Thank you Dr. Marks.

[@MsCafecito]

Beautiful hair Dr Tracy. Love your content.

[@AeriaGl0ris]

Huh, I guess I'm doing better thsn i thought. I checked off most of the characteristics you listed. One or two I need to work on, but otherwise I'm doing just fine. A video about learned helplessness? Sure, I'm down for that!

[@datguy6745]

This was awesome I did many of these things already, but kinda didnt think they hold any ground in science. I just "felt" positive effects. For example: a couple of years ago i tried to be funnier. At first, people fake smiled at my jokes to appreciate the afford. Then suddenly, i made the whole room laugh, wich made me feel FCKIN AMAZING. Nowadays, i just crack stupid situational jokes without even thinking about it. Sometimes the joke just pops up in my head, making me smile or laugh myself, before i even shared it. It's kindof addictive and super fun. Thanks Doc! :D

[@kawaiihoney58]

Off-topic-I'm excited that I getting my book this month!🤗

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

Excellent! Unless you are in a crisis and completely unable to function, your therapist should be building your skills as well as treating your limitations/illness. None of us are perfectly mentally healthy. We can all improve our skill set to handle what life throws at us. Meds rarely do everything. Mental health isn't like appendicitis.

[@MariadelMarBoscana]

Excellent descriptions. I learned a lot.

[@divinelyguided1144]

Thank you for this! Working on toxic positivity 😇😇😇

[@KaylaLoveHeart]

I would love a video on learned helplessness. I suffer from it due to my childhood trauma, but trying to get past it.

[@opulence_prime]

Learned Helplessness video 👍🏽

[@ParadoxalDream]

6:41 Yes please! I can relate all too well to that description

[@AlwaysStampinVideos]

Bahahaha this video is so great and so helpful… and funny! Haha, seriously… loved the last part because it actually made me LOL and i needed it. Thank you 💜

[@briannenurse4640]

This is a really helpful reminder of the kinds of traits we can focus on to improve our lives. Thank you! I would absolutely love to see a video on learned helplessness, as that's something I've struggled with quite a lot in my lifetime.

[@sailormoongoon90]

I laughed out loud when you said, "...not mine because I am not funny." That was certainly funny to me!