Seven Ways A Woman Can Attract A Top 10 Man - John Gray

[@kathymandala9456]

My husband was a top 10 guy because he was loyal, kind, and devoted. He was trusted, loved, and admired. He was the greatest person in my life. He died 3 years ago and I will miss him forever.

[@Elegan_te]

💕

[@gretchenburton7184]

❤❤❤

[@mino3d1]

😔

[@hlobisileskincare3837]

So sorry for your loss💔 but you are blessed to have experienced a love that most of us only hope for❤️🙏🏻

[@lydiapicano8806]

He sounds like he was a diamond. It sounds like you had a great relationship together God bless you both.

[@debbiesianturi2505]

1. Location,location.location 2. Don't be easy to give 3. Recognize the trade-off. share your values with your partner 4. Let go desperate, dont be needy 5. Create life, be joyful 6. Never give more than a man 7. Dont too many questions to a man That is me, John. Thank you of your guidance about relationship with top ten man in the world.

[@lajensi4998]

Thanks

[@afshah.7972]

Thank you!

[@EdelweisSusie]

What the heck does No.7 mean?????

[@Mindsetolympics]

NUMBER 7 I finally learned 3 years later after first seeing this another Dr. mentioned how disrespectful it is to question a man 😂hahhahahah

[@dbedazzling1]

money makes a man attractive but integrity is gold.

[@clybilmwamba9739]

dbedazzling1 😂😂😂very true😂

[@paulagamber3088]

dbedazzling1 🐳🐉🐉

[@axalissuintoyr4107]

+DateTop10Men I have spent months studying get a date and found a fantastic resource at Shawthing Dating Advice (google it if you are interested)

[@RAMB0VI]

Very untrue. If a rich man said the truth to women, he would not get any action.

[@lisamcguire7778]

LoveIsNotReal I came to this video Due To AUTOPLAY. But I read some comments including yours and thought, Oh! "God Hath Spoken!" (Please Return to your Mountain top on Mt. Olympus). You're just a bitter person. I see all kinds of comfortable couples out and about, old, well to do, moderate income, or not so rich, homely and handsome. Love is REAL!

[@elishagabriell6529]

I asked a guy that I was dating which kind of ground cover would work best in my garden. He immediately got on his cell phone and looked up 3 types of ground cover and sent that to me. That is meetting my small need. I let him know how much I appreciated his time and effort.

[@tpowell3776]

My father taught me long ago to make my own money in order be free from ever feeling stuck in a toxic marriage out of fear of losing security....So, I did just that --now I have the most amazing husband...

[@bonniel4325]

When a man uses criticism or sarcasm to point out my flaws, that is an instant turn-off, and a red flag that he has a narcissistic streak. Also saying yes to a guy I'm not attracted to usually ends badly. That's how I ended up with my ex-husband. Actually it was my mom who pressured me to commit to him. Isn't there just a nice man who can forgive my needy moments, and who likes closeness and affection? All this strategy and GAME gives me a headache. And most men are so profoundly selfish anyway. Why bother.

[@tenaciousone3646]

Amen.

[@Alfakkin]

He is certainly not a gentleman...we love gentlemen and gentleness 😉

[@christinamckinney2370]

He may also have severe low self esteem and he’s projecting his fear of imperfection.

[@marlenecalderon5830]

That is THE RED FLAG..... RUN!

[@bonniel4325]

@@christinamckinney2370 I agree, pushing someone else down because you are insecure is the psychological make up of a bully/narcissist.

[@PriyankaBhardwaj1]

John is really a pro-woman man. What a quality! Respect

[@PriyankaBhardwaj1]

I meant Adrian. Though John is also great!

[@gaizkamoreira7316]

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[@alaalfa8839]

Some men have feminine and masculine characteristics.... like the tenor singing a romantic song doing romantic gestures butt you see in his face he understands what the song is about, he understands the harmony Its like having empathy for people not just for one gender but both.artistry, technical stuff or the passion of it.... Maybe even athletes may have feminine and masculine who knows...For example I like German tenor Patrick Grahl and even the fact he doesnt use social media...but he sees the kind of person who isn't just good looking but very calm, intelligent and entertaining in same time...and doesnt make himself look like he is better than everybody else..He has only8 followers at youtube..which is good for him, His success isnt based on social media success except his website... Maybe even women may take inspiration from him..to be more nice, feminine, natural. His voice is charming and gentle. It seems like if they have this gentle feminine characteristics along with masculinity...they have great intuition for nice things and music and art...And maybe such people get good behavior from other colleagues.

[@Katherine-mo8fl]

Correction: FEMININE woman!

[@sirennem.6890]

pay him a dinner, dont wait Alpha men, men appreciate them a lot.

[@Jijita1]

I love that men are actually pushing women to level up and get a game changer

[@videoettaceo8900]

Hilarious. Menz have stolen from us for years. But you tell your story.

[@aharrcoop3]

i'm tired of all the rules. i just want to be able to be my natural self and that be ok for somebody. otherwise, just forget it.

[@julian19741974]

Your best can improve though, you can evolve to become a much better man, you are not same at ages 30, 40 or 50, you grow as a man.

[@pariyaava5823]

I agree with u, I want to be myself instead of acting someone else

[@Just.The.Next.Step.]

the Universe is based upon principles that are irrevocable, immutable. So to think that we can manifest anything in the Universe without adhering to these spiritual/moral laws is to avoid rationality. When we recognize that our meaning for life is to grow, to transcend, to overcome... we will see that we are NOT the same version of ourselves which we were so many years ago... how can we demand a man accept just any version? We certainly want a good version of a man. Hence why we click on this video. In harmony, healing

[@bberwald123]

THE BEST ADVICE! And a corollary of "Be yourself, everybody else is taken."

[@Glad2BGolden]

saycheeze4mi Men want a feminine attractive women who are put together. Do what it takes to get what you want. You are just being lazy. It’s beneficial to put time into yourself.

[@TheLovely990]

I believe that technology has destroyed the dating game. A lot of men, and women feel they have a lot of choices now. If your not giving it up, the one down the street will. Men are not courting women anymore, and its really hard for black women in my opinion, unless you are dating outside of your race. These are just my opinions, from my own experiences.

[@TheFleurChic]

Yes it's hard for black women. Well I'm muslim so it's quite easier because men are still courting women; we can have an arranged marriage (which is not forced, by the way. It's like my friend telling me: "I know this man, you guys should meet" then I choose if I want to meet him or not; then we meet with our families and talk and get to know each other but we don't "date", we don't touch and stuff lool) . But yeah I agree it"s more difficult! Why is it different when you get to know someone from outside your race ???

[@TheLovely990]

A lot of times the different races or cultures clash, because of a value system, or because of racism. I've dated outside my race, but I also made sure I was not an experiment. I use to work with a young lady from India, and she never dated her husband, they just got married at sometime.

[@TheFleurChic]

Miss V Ohhhh I see, it makes sense. I guess it's different for us muslims because even though we come from all over the world - like Indonesia which is home to the biggest muslim population, pakistan, west africa, india, egypt,etc - we share the same values (belief in God, His prophets like Jesus, importance of family, honouring all humanity wether black or white, etc) so we don't care about race - some do - so there is no races clash because well we're just muslims with different skin colours and different treasures (cultures). For example, yes Muhammad Ali or Malcom X were black but they were muslims so the difference is just the surface, it adds to the beauty of the individual, and deep inside we're the same, lol that's how we think ! I'm black too by the way, and I don't know why but a lot of men find us intimidating lool, I wonder why?? maybe the media... Oh that's cute! Yes that's what we do, we only 'date' after we get married and it's awesome, the love keeps growing :). ps: I apologize, english is my 3rd language, I mostly speak french :D

[@YolandaBriggs401]

remove the sex and just get alot of friends. i sometime search dating sites and look at thw guys hobby. if its something i never tried i send him a general message and eventually i ask him about the hobby. you learn new things and you gain a friend. take the sex out of dating for now. but try and really get to know people. be open to what they have to offer but if its not something you need move on.

[@TheLovely990]

Thefleurchic - Values are so important, but some people just don't have any.

[@bellakim9404]

To make the most of a love interest, let the man lead. Allow the man to initially initiate contact and reciprocate by behaving like a lady. Be enthusiastic but not over eager. Keep your calendar open for other suitors and do not put all your eggs in one basket until mutual exclusivuty is established. It's all about Self Respect 💕

[@gonza8824]

bella not all men like to lead.....or passive women...

[@tianiemitchell5692]

Thats true regarding when a men chooses to work hard. When my husband I met and fell in love he didn't even have a job then it was the early 90s and there wasn't any available but a couple years later during our engagement he found a job in construction and from there I helped him get his licenses and he became an engineer. My husband worked hard to give us a good life together but he worked so much he worked 80 hours a week he barely made any time for his family and for us as a couple there was a huge price ,he past at 54 He didn't start that way. It's nice to know that a man can take care of himself and willing to work but shouldn't work so little, that he makes his family suffer and he shouldn't work so much that he makes his family suffer. It's important to find the balance .

[@esotericsolitaire]

I guess people can work themselves to death when there is no relaxation balance. Fifty-four is young. May you heal and enjoy good memories.

[@f7e8t9i3]

Money doesn’t make you laugh when you’re feeling down and doesn’t give you a warm hug when you feel all alone.

[@laurawilson2145]

My mother used to say that it was better to cry in the back seat of a Rolls Royce than to laugh in a bus. Maybe she was right for her times but I'm a hopeless romantic. What time does the next bux come by? Lol.

[@user-vk5kn9ox8k]

Yes it does, you can pay for a comedian, if you are cold at night, buy electric blankets. Problem solved.

[@TheWilDOn31]

Poverty doesn't either ...

[@feline_star]

@@user-vk5kn9ox8k 😂😂😂, well that’s a way to go about it

[@user-vk5kn9ox8k]

@@feline_star 😂😂

[@bluliite]

Never been attracted to a mans financial status. Always been attracted to looks and character and his level of interest in me, and I believe that's most women. I do not believe most women view men through a lens of "How spoiled will my children be?" They want LOVE.

[@reginasemenenko148]

100% AMBER! I've never been attracted by money because a lot of the men who have it are UNFAITHFUL and have bad character! I make a little more money than my husband and we have most of our needs met and several of our wants. We cannot go on a vacation every year, but that's OK!

[@beetabug1109]

There were two men with money during my life who were attracted me. I did not like them. I think it's kind of difficult to find a mate that has all the of attributes one is looking for. I did have the love of my life. He was absolutely wonderful. He passed away a few years ago. He was not rich as far as this world goes, but he worked hard and made a good living. We got along very well. We both treated each other with respect.

[@weekend1rocks]

Personally I feel the most loved when a man is willing and able to provide for me. I also believe a man's desire to provide for his family can say a lot about his character and level of interest. Also statistically men are more likely to be unfaithful when they make less money than their wife. To each their own though.

[@tanaicannon5843]

I was thinking these exact thing whilst reading these comments.....

[@berryyrreb1946]

I guess in terms of money they were talking about financial security, or maybe its not about financial security, coz women do earn alot nowadays, but about how a women would not really prefer a broke guy as a partner.

[@dianabejarano7102]

I only think the man that loves you and gives you the attention you need without being selfish is a top man who can make you successful

[@journey2319]

What a great video! Thank you James and the very insightful John Gray. I think here "Top 10 men" means "men who are leaders in their own field." All the tips are very helpful, they're: 1. Location location location. Be where "Top 10 Men" are. 2. Don't be easy to get. Follow the truth in your heart. Go slow, let him earn your response. 3. Be clear what your values are (in your mind, at least.) 4. Don't be needy. Let go of desperation. Continue to create a series of positive dating experiences. 5. Find happiness from inside. Joyful people are attractive people. Create a life that is full and rich. when he's talking, say sincerely "Wow that makes sense." "Good idea!" "You're right!" Make the guy thinks the good idea is his. 6. Never ever give a man more than he gives to you, because you will appreciate him less. Men bond through doing, women bond through receiving. Men want to earn it. 7. Dating advice: talk more than the man. Remember it's NOT an interview, it's a conversation! Stimulate and engage.

[@fitandbeautiful9173]

Journey Thank you for this! it saves me so much time.

[@StaceyBing]

Talking about interviews and dating, during a job interview I was once asked what my partner did for a living. As a woman, I felt that was rather intrusive, and completely irrelevant. I was single at the time, but I said with a smile "oh, he just messes around on his yacht, and plays golf, we don't actually need the money from this job, but he felt it might be nice if I had a hobby." We all laughed, because I was clearly joking...but seriously? WTF? 😂 Side note: I got the job 🙄

[@StaceyBing]

@ayokilaza not really, I don't know why they asked if I'm honest.

[@Sandra-bx6yy]

@@StaceyBing I am wondering if the interviewer was"sussing you out" in terms of your availability and happiness in your relationship. Maybe he wanted to see if he had a chance with you..or to test your integrity. Anyway, sounds like you passed with flying colours... and thank goodness our changing society means that those sorts of inappropriate attitudes/behaviours are being called out and exposed... meaning that those who say them are having to re think their reasons for doing so! I think it's great to have a public platform to share and discuss our experiences.. and I think that that is the key to knowing if a behaviour is appropriate or not.. if it doesn't feel right,it probably isn't.

[@Sandra-bx6yy]

@@StaceyBing 🤣🤣 Yes, indeed! Oh well, that's amateur psychology for you!😁😁 Nice chatting with you, anyway... have a wonderful day!🌞🌞

[@StaceyBing]

So funny listening two men talking about what women should do (in a nice way). Also funny, that James and John seem to be talking about two different things. James keeps reverting back to money, and John keeps trying to point out that it's not about that. There's a trade off. If you get a millionaire, there's a million times he won't be there. That's the trade off.

[@Victoriaward]

Great comment

[@Lexi_Con]

Wealthy men are more likely to cheat. Not saying they ALL do, but there will be plenty of opportunities. John was correct in saying people let it go to their heads. Big egos contribute to controlling behavior (or perhaps the opposite, apathetic). Idk which is worse. Don't even get me started about narcissism!

[@selectiveoutrage6617]

@@bronze2956 It's important to find out a guy's family background when you date him. Hunter Biden is a perfect example of the spoiled rich kid who failed at everything, was a drug addict who only got attention because people wanted political favors from his narcissistic father who used him as the bag man for bribes from foreign countries. His sister is equally fucked up.

[@jsa3458]

Perfect then 👌

[@reginapolo3357]

@@bronze2956 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣you are so on spot!!!!

[@petitwhite6366]

I've met few millionaires and unfortunately they were the most boring people and cheapest people. I run away from some of them as fast as I could.

[@cocogomez2278]

Petit White - and cheapest men I've dated

[@fishstickbio594]

They are afraid that people likes them for their money ? They live with a lot of anxiety 😂.

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

I work for a multi- millionaire and he is nasty, insulting and cheap once you work for him. Can’t imagine living with a man like that. I’ll stay alone.

[@nicoletakasamas9201]

@@TheDriftwoodlover and he is single?

[@faceintree]

This is true. So have I and they bored me.... blah personalities.

[@ladyjei]

I love that you say that a woman needs a sense of security to know that she can be all parts of herself without some guy taking it personally. YES!!!

[@StaceyBing]

We (me) ask men lots of questions on dates, because we are judging you 😂 If we keep asking lots of questions it means we like you, and you've passed all the previous questions (we're just waiting for you to f**k up). If we stop asking questions and sit back, you're either definitely in, or you've definitely failed. It IS an interview. The question we're trying to find the answer to in the interview is "my life is wonderful, can you make it better?" (I'm clearly single 😂)

[@miranda6738]

Totally agree

[@lasuperchica59]

¨Ëxcept if he´s broke.¨ I don´t need a man to provide $ for me. I also don´t need a man who expectst me to provide for him!

[@reginasemenenko148]

100%!

[@Sheyviolet]

Been there, done that and ended up so angry at both him and myself it was not good.

[@videoettaceo8900]

Exactly!

[@musicrocksinaustin]

I'm 38 and just a couple years ago I started accepting that no one is responsible for my happiness and personally it helps me to stop being upset in most situations. and when i AM still upset I let my partner know straight forward that talking about it IS going to help me talk about it so i can move on. But for the most part, John Greys concept of "you are only responsible for your own happiness" has taken a lot of me putting blame on the other person (of course if they name-call, i do not tolerate that and i'm very quick and firm to say it's NOT OK to go that far in an argument) LOL

[@Lisa_M_V]

Alicia Mapp yes the 90/10 rule. 90% of your happiness should come from you and only 10% from a man

[@laurawilson2145]

@Sophie I became spiritual when I discovered that God was female.

[@watchmanonthewall14]

@@laurawilson2145 God is Spirit. God CREATED men and women. How did you "discover" that God is female?

[@chris532008]

make sure u re opposite has no serious mental handicapps as counseling only gets u to tolerate that which is intolerable and problems magnify with age and worsens an outcome u can t save the unsavable and if u try u will drown with them

[@CarmenGomez-pc3fz]

Free advice: Create situations to allow him to prove himself to you and finally really see if your love interest deserves to come into your castle. Example: mention that you have car problems, see what he’s willing to do for you jus to come and help you. If he’s not willing to be your hero, just let him go. It’s a real moment of truth but only if you are willing to see the reality.

[@AuroraNatureSounds]

Excellent advice Carmen! :) How do you do this if a relationship begins to be a Long Distance one?

[@CarmenGomez-pc3fz]

@@AuroraNatureSounds Easy, mention to him that you’re going through some financial problems. Very casually, nothing deep. If he asks if there’s anything he can do to help, and he actually sends you the money then he’s your man. Don’t take advantage by asking him for an exorbitant amount of money, maybe one month’s rent, and no more. The last thing you want to do is to damage a person who might care a great deal for you. And by all means, do pay him back!

[@AuroraNatureSounds]

@@CarmenGomez-pc3fz thank you Carmen :) maybe even if he offers is already good enough. Thank you🌺🤗

[@CarmenGomez-pc3fz]

@@AuroraNatureSounds Nope, not good enough! You’re settling if you think that’s good enough. And don’t feel bad for using money as a revealing factor of his true feelings, because: 1- You will return his money 2- It is the only way he can play your hero in a long distance relationship. A man who cares for you wants to be your hero, remember that. If he doesn’t care, he’ll pretend he can’t hear you and you’ll never hear from him again. BUT, you’ll never wander again whether he likes you or not, you will know for sure. All you have to do is be brave enough to find out. Good luck🙋🏻‍♀️

[@AnimalSpirit777]

So true! I had car troubles and told the guy i had been talking to, he basically laughed and said good luck with that, UHHHM ok... these dusties 🤢

[@Medietos]

Wow, that is what my father did to mother, persist in courtship and caring until she believed he was serious. She really needed security. And he never made much money, but was economic and responsible. I wish i could have got to know him better.

[@Twilight_years0723]

A filty rich man can't promise you happiness in a relationship. Financially stable with good values in man is most important.

[@fredjohnson5458]

Hello siti

[@deliaocampo4340]

My mom always say never give yourself to anybody respect yourself and the body unless being married a guy will be serious with you and keep running after you 🇸🇽🇺🇸

[@ReinaBRamos]

I used to be the type of woman that would say I don't care about money and I ended up maintaining and paying for all my boyfriends needs and bills. Now pay attention, there is a difference of being broke because he is happy with a simple life or he is going through a season of losing his job vs being broke because he is lazy

[@Gradinaeconomicapespatiimicicu]

I think John Gray would say if you pay for him his testosterone goes down and ends up leaving you. Just seems unfair. Keep it equal, no?

[@reginasemenenko148]

NEVER seek a wealthy man. Seek a man with character and integrity! That man will go the distance. If he is arrogant and entitled, it's a major turnoff. Of course, there are also some women who have this personality type because of their beauty. I didn't have sex until I got married and he knew that I was NEVER going to be easy. I am not stunningly beautiful, but my Mother always raised us to NEVER be an easy woman because most men will never appreciate that type of woman. She also taught us that it's important to like yourself and to know what you want. Also, who in the world wants to get a STD?!

[@romainecalm1108]

Having worked in an ob/gyn office I think this is solid advice! Learning about Nagalase testing for total viral load makes me believe that today’s STD testing is far from comprehensive. So many things are passed through saliva as well...Waiting until marriage may not be in vogue but the science makes me think it could make a come back.

[@4gma59]

Same here. My mother told me the same, and she was right. I'm 60 and married a man who is very successful -- thanks to his father's wisdom (he and his father started a banking and financial services business long ago). He was tired of women throwing themselves at him, and men who are successful are always on the lookout and suspicious. I never slept with him until we married and I have no regrets. Neither does he.

[@4gma59]

@@romainecalm1108 : I agree.

[@artisticagi]

4gma59 how long did you have to wait until you were married

[@4gma59]

@@artisticagi : I was 33; He was 38. We dated for a year. Engaged for 6 months. Had a small family-only ceremony. And it wasn't easy waiting. But, as I said, I'm glad I did. I grew up with very little, and he never wanted for anything. I had (have) a very strong sense of self, was independent, and I remember hating it when he gave me gifts. I wasn't used to it. He was always bringing me little things, and finally I just told him: "Listen. I know you mean well, but this makes me very uncomfortable and it makes me feel obligated. So please -- hold off with the gift-giving until you know me better. I know you want a woman who likes you for you, and not the things you give her. So please wait with all this. I would really appreciate it." He ''got it." He wasn't offended, and everything went well after that. Just thought I'd share that with you. Don't know why. LOL

[@littlelights1112]

I absolutely loved the analogy about buying the house, verses coming to visit... would make dating so much more relaxing and fun.

[@theresasilver5743]

John has brilliant energy and gives off such a positive vibe :)

[@salmanesultane3482]

Yup

[@stefaniemuller3475]

I love men with high vibrations. The lower the Energy field the more egocentric they are..

[@rangrew7868]

How do you feel vibrations of a guy?

[@soystef]

Agreed!! Amen

[@soystef]

It’s that sense energy field that keeps them heavy.

[@stefaniemuller3475]

@@soystef I know

[@canda2837]

"What makes a long lasting relationship is sharing values"! Absolutely! Really got sick of you guys going back to 'attracting a millionaire'. I think that's more your issue. AND the video is all the way from 2014. It was a different time then.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Canda,you are absolutely right 🤙

[@deliaocampo4340]

When a person having self confident self esteem and having a high standard you dont feel needy and always use the head 🇸🇽🇺🇸

[@Royalu2000]

BEST PHASES 2 USE: 1) "WOW, THAT MAKES SENSE!; 2) "GOOD IDEA!!"; 3) "YOU'RE RIGHT" (PRIMITIVE POSITIVE RESPONSE).

[@foxy5136]

How a man treats you his personality and sense of humour is important, money is nothing more than a bonus

[@LisaGemini]

Entrepreneurs and doctors, lawyers...it's true. They are usually workaholics. You will have lots of houses, cars and jewelry...but I want to spend time with a companion, a best friend. That means more to me, especially in my 50s.

[@pinkflamingo8088]

very true..workaholics are the worst

[@LisaGemini]

@@pinkflamingo8088 Sounds like you were married/partnered with at least one. I was married to two of them! So I wasn't always tops on the priority list.

[@8675-__]

Here's my tip...look for a person that makes you laugh! And do it in Marin County, California on a bicycle 🤗 You can thank me later 😍

[@pinkflamingo8088]

So agree with MAKES YOU LAUGH.

[@Dreamer_-zn4qv]

✍️ search bike riding events at Marin County, California. ✍️

[@svitanok3891]

too simple, have to study a person for a long time (without sex) before he proposes, narcissists can make a woman laugh very easy

[@janiqu3L]

I wish I could. That would work!

[@debbiedebbie9473]

@@svitanok3891 You're very correct. Some really funny people are actually narcissists and cruel, abusive.

[@laraoneal7284]

Integrity is number 1 along with compassion and sense of humor and well read in academic knowledge. A guy can be a construction worker whatever.

[@Vexarax]

I agree with this!! Compassion, kindness, a sense of humour, and knowledge. I don't care what job he has as long as he earns enough that he can cover his share of the bills :)

[@LisaGemini]

Oh my gosh! Money comes and money goes. It's a man's personality that really matters. Is he treating you with respect? That's way more important. I don't care about his bank account. I want to be treated like his No. 1 priority.

[@Alfakkin]

True but I appreciate a person who is capable of taking care of his finances...be responsible with maney 👌🏻

[@louiseboyd8896]

I would be happy with a $5.00 bunch of flowers and an inexpensive meal......

[@angelwings4437]

Lisa Cunningham I agree with you...woman wants to be treated number one priority

[@edith324]

Beautiful things are not always beautiful, but beautiful people are always beautiful beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[@edith324]

WHOO WHOO I second that no seconds

[@cheery-hex]

there's only one way. be a top 10 woman! Also, I appreciate ppl like John Gray who recognize different values, and doesn't disparrage ie a person who values money and success

[@DancingWithBells]

I trained with John Gray and got a radio show based on my perspective of men. Non-judgemental, just different. No male bashing. His work is so helpful.

[@rachelfry9992]

WOW! THIS IS MY VERY FIRST time EVER to leave a comment in the 3 yrs of studying this subject on "dating/ how to attract what you want" etc. THIS IS SO good! EXCELLENT MATERIAL! So good that I had to post! In this short hour you two have managed to sum up what EVERY expert makes EVERYONE pay LARGE amounts of money for. I am grateful for this video post and for the generous information you put together Here. Thank you both kindly for taking the time. Awesome stuff! Really just WOW! keep at it ;)

[@4gma59]

I met many millionaires as a cashier working in a grocery store!! Do they shop for their own groceries? Nope. But they do rush in and out for something quick for dinner.

[@Journal2Awakening]

4gma59 you mean you “assumed” that they were millionaires? I can’t imagine they would have shown you their bank accounts

[@4gma59]

@@Journal2Awakening : Well, I'm 60 now. I was in my 30s then, and cashiering was something I did to pay tuition back in the day. I didn't have to "assume." They were prominent in my city and their children are just as nice. Everyone here knows who they are. One would slip me two $100 bills occasionally, and say, "Here, go buy yourself a nice sweater." They dressed simply; there was nothing ''flashy'' about them; and they hated rude, unkind women. They were/are very kind, down to earth, humble, and friendly -- at least when I waited on them. Qualities someone like you would never understand, based on your comment.

[@Journal2Awakening]

Ok, my mistake....

[@vitabuonavita2565]

This man is GENIUS...it's 2020 he wrote his book in 1992- wish i had read it then :)

[@TheLovely990]

I read this book many years ago, and it was very interesting. Made me understand men a lot more. I also read "Mars and Venus on a Date" based on singles. One thing I did learn is do not chase men, and the rubber band effect.

[@niviamaeva]

Miss V Rubber band effect ? 😳

[@Lisa_M_V]

Never chase a man! We are the prize!!

[@Lisa_M_V]

nivia Maeva Trindade men pull away like a rubber band and if the woman lets him he returns

[@niviamaeva]

Lisa Marie Thanks Lisa

[@lindapuertesdeals6006]

this guy is brilliant, he makes sense all the way. no wonder he is in the top ten!!! great video

[@toffeeink]

please let the author finish before interjecting...

[@ohioladybug7390]

Vickie HXue ....he has to interject or John will go on and on because he loves what he does. They only have so long so he has to draw him back to the point.

[@cwest3020]

Lol funny

[@danechatani347]

I was about to say the interviewer has the patience of a saint.. and interjects to clarify Johns ramblings and ties it together. John has become a nana, with narcissistic braggarting. I find it Hard to take advice from a man whose a nana...a turn off.

[@jefdby]

@@danechatani347 what is a nana.?

[@danechatani347]

@@jefdby a grandmother 👵

[@mollygrace3068]

Ok now I’m at 11:00 (I’m never gonna get through this), and John just brought up his famous old “women just don’t want advice” crap that I heard him say 20 years ago. It’s only now as an adult professional that I fully understand why that always felt wrong to me. The truth is women are fine with advice, and often seek it out. What men, women, and anything around or in between don’t like is UNSOLICITED “advice” from people who don’t know what the hell they’re talking about. If I talk about my job and some dude starts “giving me advice” that makes it clear he barely even understands what I do, then yes, I will become frustrated. You’ve cracked the code!!! I seek out meaningful, valid advice all the time. What I don’t need is condescension from a man (or woman 🤷🏻‍♀️) who thinks all I need to do is follow his ill-informed advice to be happier with whatever situation I’m complaining about. THAT’S where “just listen to me” comes from. How TF can your advice be valuable when you clearly don’t listen?

[@John-do9to]

These rules r not set in stone. I have dated 2 millionaires for fun. I am a plain girl. I love working and these guys resented it. They were happy when my work situation was over but that made me unhappy so I just broke up with them. I don't care about anyone that much. So most important is don't put a man first

[@VictoriaWhitlock]

I was talking to this guy and said, U right,” and he got so enthusiastic. I was confused because it wasn’t even that serious. We were joking around about something.

[@azraelinarakoczy7862]

Not all women are looking for a financially successful man. My main thing in a relationship that i look for is his good heart, his soul, his love for me, kindness, compassion and family values.

[@amourah3132]

What happened to saving intimacy for marriage? Not 6 or 7 dates...?

[@SP-ig3vs]

A video on this would be great.

[@susanarojo3906]

We did and he passed away two years ago, after 52 happy years of marriage, would vote for it.

[@rorifrongillo6763]

That was a great interview James! It was very insightful and made me want to pick up John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". I especially liked the tip on being radiant with happiness (having fun). It's a good thing I like to laugh!

[@DateTop10MenOfficial]

Thanks, Rori! Yes, be radiant with happiness! I like that. Men are attracted to a woman's happiness. Keep smiling. Keep laughing!! James :)

[@rorifrongillo6763]

I'm feeling especially radiant now that we're getting all this beautiful; warm weather! :)

[@AHNLakshmiRajaKumariCMB]

+Rori Frongillo I've spend a long time studying abundance then we discovered a fantastic resource at Max Miracle Method (check it out on google)

[@yannickedinho571]

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[@salinajoshi665]

Lakshmi Raja Kumari fthe to ta ttotttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

[@alexandrastratanphotographer]

i have met the most intriguing individuals if you may, in inconspicuous place, so yah, when I did not go to those place for that reasons, like modest sushi restaurants, certainly not in that right side of town so to speak, I believe we attract what we attract as a result of our energy or vibration, and it is not something that we do using our minds, it just happens. This is something that happens and it has to do with a sense of equilibrium, not conscious decisions and with self sense of fullness and abundance, not looking at all just being instead, it seems a flow just sweeps certain things a persons way

[@landear8]

I agree with you Alexandra. Energy is everything, as well as confidence & feeling you are beautiful on the inside and out.

[@laurawilson2145]

Ah. At last. Beautiful and intelligent words from a woman who 'feels' the truth and values beauty, truth and self awareness in a world populated by narcissistic men and shallow women. 💗

[@pueraeternus111]

19:53 "if it's easy, you won't bond"

[@janetdiaz8916]

As you said a woman has to have security in herself and friends to go to so she is not needy. There needs to be a balance when you are married to a millionaire. Usually the couple grows wealthy together and the wife is willing to make all the budgeting sacrifices, and work along side her man right from the start in order to become rich.

[@maryokeefe5351]

Yes, and many times the man then dumps her for a younger version after all those years.

[@CrystalWhispersASMR]

Lol this guy is much like the guy I fell in love with. He meets my needs for intimacy and I haven't a care in the world that he isn't made of money right now, because intelligence and a motivating supportive system can change that quickly! Here's a hint: If sex feels like a chore, it's not the relationship for you.

[@LonjeMarie7]

A top ten Man it’s not always about how much money he makes. I’m not saying ladies be happy with a man who wants nothing in life and absolutely has no potential. A top 10 man is a man who really truly cares for you he’s consistent and he treat you with kindness and dignity and respect

[@mimiela2261]

Absolutely well said 👍

[@MeanGuitarrr]

The more I know about men , The more I love my brazillian Mastiffs and my guns

[@nofybn7794]

Yes, my dogs.

[@kelleybright3113]

Lol love it

[@VictoriaWhitlock]

the more boys I meet, the more I love my dog

[@iinlove118]

😂😂

[@cwest3020]

On a serious note as someone says finding mates that didn’t experience childhood trauma and had a quality up bringing.. soo true ... very rare

[@rsvp-dc5629]

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," started the manslation genre: "Act Like a Lady, Think like a Man," and " He's Just Not that Into You." Kudos!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

When I fail in love with my husband, he was looking for a job. Before he died , he was making more than the president of the United States as a general engineering contractor. I helped him with his licenses, that's what love can do for a person. And yes he became a workaholic which was not good

[@bunniewood]

This guy is a genius.

[@Lisa_M_V]

brwood33 he is a genius. He knows women so well

[@ggjj999]

Speaking as a woman, they are way off base. Silly.

[@iraqiraq1950]

Money is important, the looks 👌, personality, passion, love ,romance, to be successful, free spirit , open minded ,respect , intelligence, and loyalty..these are the keys to my heart

[@InfiniteTravelingSpirit2BE]

BEST Interview EVER . WOW 10 books could be written based on this interview.

[@garywilson7883]

+Veronika Khar YOU ARE CERTAINLY RIGHT! ..... AND I COULD WRITE A FEW BOOKS ABOUT YOU FROM THE WAY YOU LOOK IN THAT PICTURE!

[@michellekalski8823]

He has written books about this already.

[@averyjoycelynbarakudablock4139]

Thank you for making some absolutely critical points! I didn't make a lot of money and I didn't make babies. Through my dating years men couldn't imagine how I could turn down a fabulous trip or a bunch of gowns and sumptuous outings. And the big money ones suddenly would find themselves on foreign turf when they could see that I was unfazed by theiri holdings. The fact is, I have a hard time just getting through a lunch with someone who is not an interesting person -- who is "dimensionally deficient". The guys with the goods needed show off the pretty girl they scored. Forty- five years later I'll hear young men talking about beautiful women - like children in awe- and they are apparently still, as ever, absolutely smitten over beauty and the possibility of a "score" in "landing" one of them. And it's all the more of a win now, when, in a major city there is a plethora of very bright and financially secure women. The guy can't just be Mr.Charisma with a few bucks in his pocket. NONETHELESS, when I see now, walking through the park on a summer's evening, a pretty girl wearing a lovely dress (and heels, yet) and who has spent between one and two hours putting it all together, arm in arm with a guy in a T shirt I just call him out: "Look at this gorgeous girl. Do you know how much effort she has put into this date and you -- YOU show up in ratty jeans and a T"?? She L0ves it and he recognizes that maybe the admonishment has some merit. It's delivered in good humor so we all come out just fine. Well, now... tymz is tough and social gestures are surely hampered, but I'm nonetheless not feeling hopeful about people meeting socializing and breaking all up by way of tapping at a keypad. What now, I dunno. Over six years on, most of what transpired here is really relevant through a power- packed very successful exchange. Thank you again.

[@chris532008]

the admonishment is no girl should spend 2 hours beautifying themselves for anyone if she takes care of her health the other things take care of themselves men r naturally attracted to healthy specimens if u don t take of u reself no amount of cosmetics can cover the flaws a healthy girl without makeup is more beautiful than one unhealthy with 2 hours worth of coverage

[@aylinaslan9310]

Great interview James, thank you very much! Many thanks to John Gray too! He's awesome!

[@4AndroMedia]

wow, thanks. you opened my eyes... I absolutley need a man who fulfills my emotional needs!

[@katherynesharp5345]

This is the first of your videos I've ever seen. I love it! You are a very skilled communicator! Keep up the great work!

[@stacybroen9848]

I absolutely love this! And ladies.. On a first date, don't ever ask too many questions! Let the date flow and see if there is a connection!

[@denisereinert9223]

Great discussion. I pray we all seek deeper and richer humility and love along with living and building moral conduct in all our relationships as well.

[@viciouscycle8964]

If I date lots of men as he advices, men like me and saying no to them is very difficult for me. I dont wanna hurt anyone. Is it an easy way to reject men we dated? They pay for the date, but after that I'm rejecting them. This is really difficult for me.

[@rebeccajones8628]

The key is getting to know the guy. Pick a quality guy. You can play hard to get, and he could be a turd who will work to get you but then forget you once the chase is over.

[@selectiveoutrage6617]

You can't ask a man too many questions. There are ways of getting information conversationally without sounding like an interrogation.

[@mgu1N1n1]

Men, never hesitate to put a restraining order on your female partner if you feel your health and safeties in jeopardy! Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the best act of my adult lifetime and my only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men are conditioned and expected to take abuse. Men, be safe!

[@JennyB957]

John is great as always , and this interviewer is keeping everyone on track to get the most out of the information. Thx Guys .

[@megbustamante99]

It's not about money because i can make the money myself, but it's about trust! i am a divorce, it's about man who can stay in a relationship longterms....

[@dylamber2399]

Meg Green marriage sucks....but an open relationship and an open marriage , which are a good idea...

[@reginasemenenko148]

EXACTLY!

[@gwenshin]

Instead of thinking "can this guy stay in a longterm relationship", Instead, think to yourself: Do I WANT to stay with this particular man in a relationship?.

[@alaalfa8839]

When you meet Mr. right feel in love (may not be rich but decent)...you forget all the rules... but the rules come naturally, because its not superficial attraction. Some couples seem nice, are talented but not rich.

[@rockinrollin8306]

I like the interviewer. He's cute and humble and sees things from both sides of gender♡

[@hrealthyfoods6032]

Sadly, Dr. John Gray's wife of 30+ years died in August of 2019 (Bonnie). But I just heard (from him) that he has found love again! He married his long time tour guide/translator from China - Lin Wang (Viki) on May 4, 2020. She is 31 years younger than him and they are thinking kids! I would love to hear Dr. Gray talk about their age and cultural differences. How does she feel about living in America? How did Covid affect their new relationship? How do their kids feel? (I am married to a woman from China that is 25 years younger than me. Our kids have just met for the first time and it has been difficult. I would love his insight and helping tips.)

[@heatherhebl4260]

There is a little twist to men being emotionally available. If a lesser successful man comes from a very successful father he is also not available emotionally either because he has learned this.

[@WanderingNature]

I have never looked for a man with money but I do need to learn how to attract a Man that is a quality person

[@ChitchatwithApril]

I love his honesty! That is generosity! That is true wealth!

[@patriciacole8773]

I love Truth.

[@Charity-vm4bt]

The most important point is when John said at the 18 minute mark, the women who "got away" are the ones he remembers. The women he "scored" with, he soon forgot! He is a genuine person who truly respects women.

[@Petitemuslimah215]

Lol it so funny what he said. “In the US dating is definitely like a job interview “ you are so right, I made the same reproach as my dating experience which I found weird and superficial

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

I've known top 10 men, no connection. I love a top 10 man (top 3 to you) who has nothing -- but opened up interests, music, film, literature and my long dormant libido. It hurts we're separated by the pandemic and he's fallen into depression. Patience. ♥️ I'll take my S. African over NYC men, thank you very much. 😍

[@petritamallorca]

you`re right! dating in Europe, Spain is so much different to dating guys, even online, to guys in the US! :)

[@AlmaWells]

+Petra Welter - my idea of a very fun date... is the art of communication. I enjoy spending time with a guy who has smart, intelligent conversations about life, love, and their pleasures in life. Unfortunately... MOST U.S. men don't want to waste their time talking... they want their sexual needs met.

[@hvanderf]

@@AlmaWells SO true and so boring!!

[@AlmaWells]

@@hvanderf - The most fun, fun, pure fun... is " the meshing of minds ! " Oh ! When you get involved in a very fun conversation with a guy who tells you things you did not know... is the most fun in the world ! Communication... that's my function !

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Petra Bazan,you are absolutely right 🤙

[@cwest3020]

True

[@tinacalle3599]

Glad you mentioned the Languages- it made things so easy for us when we met. John's advice coupled with the languages- We are HAPPY People!! Thanks!!!

[@ziarolneisha5393]

I love listening to these amazing tips thank you so much,why didn't I think of this before?

[@csg1381]

No man or woman will say "this makes me happier". We just say that being with someone, doing something, being somewhere makes us happy. Thank you for the key points provided in the comments section :)

[@nataliedrapeau3859]

I loved this, great advice. Will be watching more and rewatching this before going on a date. Thank you

[@coppersense999]

9:50 I've always said this: I am the crazy one with PMS, all I need is a man to be a rock I can crash up against. Don't "fix" me don't over empathize, just be steady and watch me settle right down. That's all.

[@stephanieinthewild2678]

Top 10 men usually don't get married unless in politics or something of this nature. Entertainers usually marry their own kind. The others stay playboys or marry once getting hurt or screwed over so they "date". Or at least this is California.

[@NerisaFinau]

Fab interviewer in extracting key areas and ensuring the tips were clear - well done!

[@anastasia10017]

did he say if you want happiness, intimacy and communication in your relationship, you have to find a man who doesn't make money ???

[@LosAngelesTherapist]

James did a good job of pulling John back on track. It is not true that women are looking for guys with money. Financial stability is attractive but it is an offensive stereotyping that all women are looking for a millionair.

[@nisha9160Sac]

One of the best dating videos on KZbin! Thanks.

[@whatsthetruth_review]

So when I get in a career in real estate investing I will actually have a chance at being around rich and dating rich men..

[@pavana4750]

Fantastic advice John, you're the best relationship expert out there, hands down.

[@MegaBibilili]

dancing dancing you have to dance all day

[@jenniferjudice]

John is the best, I have all his books! He has helped me tremendously through the years. Thank you to the Gray family!