Sex And Attachment

[@masoben]

Margaret lookin fresh.

[@justinorprecio3094]

You folks are criminally underrated geniuses. Imagine if more people knew the stuff you're sharing here, the dating scene would not be too insane i.e. a lot less WTF moments/drama

[@shaynewatts44]

You two have been my best friends over the last few weeks. Can't thank you enough guys.

[@nvh682]

from my experience: the DA-partner hates cuddling, pillow-talk, kissing, touching, holding hands. It is just about the technique and the climax. It feels lonely to be honest to be intimate with a DA.

[@Byronic19134]

They actually love it but as a defense mechanism they are afraid of being love bombed and are afraid of getting use to something that may not last

[@AozoraZz]

I'm an avoidant, if I feel secure with a partner and not smothered I initiate cuddling and hugs.

[@mrzahkriisos2457]

Craig and Margaret can you please do a video on friends with benifits!

[@marylyncrocfer6424]

This just opened my eyes to why we split up great video.

[@bthebeauti6709]

So Glad that you are covering this topic as well , it plays such a huge role in relationships . Thank you both so much 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@PaintSociety]

All this sex talk and its been nearly 8 months for me, I would be fine with any of these attachment styles LOL!

[@rubybeard944]

Lol

[@sensorit1045]

Lol

[@logitech4365]

I meet women when I change jobs or go school. If I go to a bar I'll meet the wrong kind of woman or none at all. Age is starting to become a factor for me. In my 30's. When people see you doing something for yourself thats big they are attracted to it. Women dont like money but they love the things that come with it.

[@jinxlee8556]

My new girlfriend has a secure attachment style. WOW! Finally I found a lady who is not psychotic. She is a keeper.

[@PakistanNews786]

Dude same

[@spookywitch0x0]

Having other attachment 📎 styles doesn't make a person be psychotic, besides that, attachment styles can change. Same person that was anxious attached can become secure over time.. 😐 Also being secure attached doesn't make us be a keeper, keepers are more likely to be anxious attached, secure people are not afraid to loose you that much they know they'd be okay and happy without you. 🌚 Hope i helped to clear things up.

[@jinxlee8556]

@@spookywitch0x0 Not in my case.

[@jacquelineball1569]

Attachment theory and sex. Yes it is all beginning to make sense. Thank you Margaret and Craig!

[@lacieb716]

I totally needed this video! This is going to help me either with my ex or someone new!

[@donkndave7811]

This is an interesting subject. Compare and contrast this to the book The Five Love Languages. My ex/ girlfriend and I are both similar in our love languages, we enjoy physical contact and spending quality time with each other. In our case sex is VERY important since it's our language. If we had different languages it would be tough to reconsile and sex would be less important.

[@sula1529]

what do you get with an avoidant man and a anxious attachment woman? is this total waste of time and pointless ?

[@77pax]

Thank you Craig and Margaret for another great video. This is the kind of stuff I've always wondered about but I could never find any answers until I found you guys. I am going through a painful breakup, but I am implementing full No Contact and will be booking a skype session soon. Meanwhile I will keep on working on the workbooks. They are teaching me a lot of things that I really needed to learn to succeed when I get second chance with my ex or whoever will come my way in the future. I truly appreciate these videos and the work you do. You are much appreciated.

[@mvfplanet]

Hey coach, do you see any chance of an ex coming back when a big problem in the relationship had been lack of or very rare sex (once in a month or two)? When she had been the only party initiating intimacy and most of the time being rejected due to a number of typical excuses such as tiredness etc.? I wonder why such an ex would come back - please don't give me false hope. Appreciate your work and guidance.

[@knockdadeathstroke3799]

I got a question...so my ex is an avoidant and we dated for 9 months (2 months seperated because of the lockdown so I guess I can say we dated for 7 months actually) and we never had sex. She had body image issues and I respected that and never pushed her into it. There was definitely sexual energy between us but we never got to the act, only some sexual acts but not the entire experience. Does that mean that she has zero attachment to me or she's just not able to provide sex because of her mental issues? She wasnt completely avoidant either, she was kind and did things for me when I had a hard time with my family. Keep in mind, both of us are virgins, or were (Im 22 and Im still a virgin, yes), I don't even know at this point, Im in NC for soon to be 3 months and I still miss her and want to re-attract her but I don't wanna waste my time with someone who literally has no attachment to me. Can there really be attachment if theres no sex after like...months of dating? Im usually a very confident person but holy fucknuts this question makes me go completely insecure lol

[@lawschoolpro]

Havent forgot my coaches....love yall. Your talks are keeping my relationship going strong.....after a bad breakup. So sometumes the brikenhearted do win

[@logitech4365]

Wanting your ex back in itself is an anxiety driven behavior if you think about it.

[@chooseboost]

Personal growth. 👌

[@jeffcalderon]

hey guys.. I love all your videos! but my ex dumped me and finally texted me exactly 3 months later.. " Hi . how your doing ok "" Now. I really want to work this out without making a mistake.. long story short.. she left her ex husband who was a narcissistic ex husband for me and then he used his custody for there kids to interfere her from seeing me all the time.. we worked with this lunatic actions for the last 3 years and finally she told me she had to let me go so she can focus on full custody of her kids. 3 months later she texts me . ' hi . hope your doing ok " now I really want her in NY life.. I have no interest in other women.. how can I hit a home run in this situation ? please help because I don't want ruin ruin my first chance ? thanks guys

[@allisonlonsdale6596]

thanks guys this was really great i love it when you get all educated up and share your knowledge. I love you everyday. Thank you for your wisdom and your insightfulness. Al x

[@elmooko69]

Haha! I was just reading about this in Sue Johnson's "Love Sense"!

[@theotheo590]

why do we try to label attachments so hard, im pretty sure no one is 100% avoidant or anxious, someone can easily be a mix of attachments

[@Dad_Brad]

I’m wondering if it’s possible to figure out a partner’s attachment style (no pun intended) by the way they have sex? My ex seemed to enjoy nonstop climaxing when we had sex, but the next day she was up by 7, out the door by 8, not a word said about last night. Sex was several times per week, sometimes multiple times per day. The memories of it just bring me down further as we’ve broken up since.

[@deshawn1801]

Really enjoyed our Skype yesterday coach I’ll be scheduling another very soon !

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Whenever u need

[@thtboirich_]

He’s the best

[@ponokunishima1]

Now that my girlfriend and I broke up, I don’t think I’ll be able to have sex with anyone else! We were having sex two to three times a week and sometimes two times or more in one day. We enjoyed our time together during and afterwards, and afterwards we would just cuddle and sometimes go again if we were really intimate that day.

[@ponokunishima1]

I don’t think I could have sex with anyone else. Coming from a 5 and a half year relationship, I don’t know if I’ll enjoy it, (granted I may blow them away, because I blew my girlfriend away) because she was my first, she took my virginity and we had a strong bond when we’d make love, often times more than once a day. Plus, I may be thinking about my ex if I were to have sex with someone else and therefore I wouldn’t enjoy it.

[@ThanhNguyen-gm5kd]

Oh I am vietnamese and my english is poor to fully understand the whole video. So sad huhu

[@renatosilvaportilla1564]

Coach Craig could you do a video about friends with benefits?

[@rosepedal3140]

Should you have sex with your ex that you are trying to get back?? If they want sex and you don't give it will they think that you don't want them anymore? What do you do?

[@AS-xn7nr]

“Sealed off sex”…wooahhhhh..definitely what you get from an avoidant..it’s sad