SEXIST DnD Player Hates Woman DM | r/rpghorrorstories

[@giragira9509]

DM with the sexist player here. Thanks for covering my story. Thankfully, my friend Daniel kicked his ass and ended the friendship. So it's now back to me and my friends without anyone insulting me (and meaning it, lol).

[@PsychoSavager289]

Based on your profile picture, I think you and DnD Doge would get on well.

[@Mask0fFate]

Glad to hear that. And I’m sorry you had to tolerate that d-bag.

[@MrSwccguy]

Lmao

[@mirrortherorrim]

The "No woman tells me what to do" at the end tells me he probably gets bossed around by his mommy at home a lot.

[@justinmargerum2559]

Booting him was a good call. He didn't seem to start out hostile, so I wonder what changed? Dealing with frustrating things in life doesn't justify that behavior, especially not in a setting designed to allow people to put real life on hold in favor of challenges which can be resolved by fantastic means.

[@YouW00t]

And just like that, the All Frogger turned the world Maidenless.

[@PaladinGear15]

Guessing at an enemy's AC is like the least metagamey thing... If the enemy's in fullplate with a tower shield, probably gonna have pretty high AC, if it's got iron scales covering its whole body, probably gonna have high AC, if it's a tiny creature that darts about extremely rapidly, probably gonna have high AC, while if it's a large purple slug that can barely move and has a soft underbelly, low AC, if it's a mostly nude ogre with a beergut and a lazy eye, probably gonna have a low AC. Some people are way too quick to shout "metagaming!".

[@paulman34340]

Lets be real, even if you say as you said, this DM wouldn't accept it on the grounds that he's a paid Yes man who NEEDS players like OP in order to attract Meal Tickets like the "Favorite" who KNOWS he can get away with anything because the DM is as said, "A Paid Enabler" and he knows OP is a "FREE PLAYER" so he can abuse him as he wishes! DM likely got ON OP BECAUSE he noticed "Favorites" abuse on him and tried to play that he was "being reasonable" which he's looking DOWN on OP for assuming he'd be that stupid to believe that shit! It's like the Pay to Win Garbage idea! Mix Skillful FREE players with the WHALES paying the big bucks! Let the Skilled players THINK they have a chance to win when the odds are HEAVILY in the Whales favor. And you have your set up! The issue is, when the Skilled Players realize the game is rigged or get tired of this arrangement and leave, the Whales will be FIGHT "themselves" and well when "you have DOOM Cocker 8799 with his NIGH Invulnerable Armor and Instant Kill BFG going against NoSelfRESPECT6666 also wielding the same. Eventually one or BOTH will get bored to TEARS fight the same INVINCIBILE player with no chance of either winning, and they'll leave, which for him means "No more Money" for him. This isn't a Long Term good idea. Yet the Money blinds the idiots to it till it blows up To the OP, "Favorite" is likely not the only reason, those leaving likely knew as I described that there was no WINNING and opted to just LEAVE which was smart

[@GarkKahn]

Yeah It's called *guessing* for a reason

[@philiproberts5399]

Agreed. As a DM I don't care if the players try to find out the AC or any other stats of the creature. All of those numbers represent something in-world, as such they *should* be discernable. The only metagaming that bothers me is if the players collude about things one of their characters shouldn't know but another does, or use the out of game table goings-on to inform in-game decisions; this usually takes the form of a scenario like this: player A and B are in room 4'. Player C is in room 5. Player C has gone from where they diverged in room 1, through rooms 2, 3, 4, and 5 all by themselves and it hasn't been a problem. Players A and B have been happy to go down a different hallway through rooms 2', 3', and 4'. In room 5 player C finds a treasure chest and goes to open it. Suddenly it is dangerous for player C to be alone so players A and B need to "go check on them." Note: This exact situation hasn't happened in a game I've run, but it gives the general idea, and while yes you could argue about player etiquette in regard to opening a treasure chest without the entire party present, if they cleared that path entirely on their own you can definitely argue that they deserve the stuff therein. But the point is more about how the characters of players A and B wouldn't know about this; the only reason the players know is because I (or whoever is DMing) didn't take player C to a separate space to run their exploration of room 5.

[@paulman34340]

@@GarkKahn You mean "Gaslighting" right?

[@M_Alexander]

If you say sexist, racist, homophobic, etc things when you're "going through" something, all that tells me is that 1) it's how you really feel and 2) you know it's bad if you don't normally say it

[@BlueTressym]

Yes, especially with how targeted it is. If the dude was just generally being kind of a jerk, I'd still tell him to stop but at least the 'Because he's going through something,' would feel more feasible. I mean, the only thing for which going through it would likely trigger misogynistic nonsense like that is if he'd just been dumped and I'd think Daniel would know and at least give OP some kind of heads-up about it when the bs started if that was the case. It'd still be completely unacceptable behaviour, though.

[@sailorsloth8183]

The age reveal of the problem players in the first story was a real sucker punch. The whole thing sounds like the kind of stupid, awkward drama high schoolers conjure up, and at least high schoolers have the excuse of going through one of the most tumultuous times of physiological and social development of their lives. Seriously, what self-respecting, grown adult plays out flirtation and potential cheating in Minecraft?

[@paulman34340]

Yep, unless you SAY the AC number! Guessing from viewing the individual isn't really Metagaming! (Like seriously, of COURSE you're going to think a dude in some HEAVY ass durable armor is going to be a tough nut to crack! THAT is realistic as the Realism cult love to spew but never understand) But then you have idiots screaming PLOT HOLES or PLOT ARMOR and completely ignoring the setup beforehand or not "listing even ONE of the so called MANY plot holes they apparently noticed in the story" because they know they didn't find a single one or if they did, it's so minor they know if people could slap others via the internet, they'd be slapped enough for their cheeks to go as red as a baboons butt for annoying and wasting people's time!

[@7thsealord888]

IEdge Lord clearly has major social issues. Frankly, I am concerned about what will happen with him when something in this 'relationship" changes, and it will eventually. Either there is a disagreement, or the woman gets bored and decides to move on, or something like that. Whatever happens next won't be pretty,

[@ghost7685]

The question you ask in the second half of the paragraph is answered in the first half of paragraph

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

​@@ghost7685 That "answer" only works for tweens and teens. Not late 20 to 30 y.o. adults.

[@ghost7685]

@@icecreamnoodles3742 I have seen woman well into their 50's - 60's still complain about other women who are attractive. Most people don't grow up and at least the guy was just doing fictional stuff, not going after people irl.

[@alphons1456o]

See, when it comes to making jokes like that, you have to build rapport. Not just to let people know "hey, this isn't how they really are. It's just an edgy joke", but also to know what a person's limit is and to never cross that line. For instance, I had a friend lose their mother and they were really hurt over it. I often make "yo mama" jokes just to get a cheap laugh. When I heard that happened, I never made yo mama jokes around them again

[@siobhanroberts2329]

First story: are you playing dnd with Dwight Schrute?

[@wynautwarrior2161]

Hey. I hear a lot of paid games getting flack (and mostly for good reason) but I'm actually in a paid game that I enjoy, and it's one of the best DnD games I've evet been in. The DM even has a forum to make sure he's letting in players that won't disrupt the game. This game is basically DnD meets animal crossing, where we have been building up and protecting a town with the help of a somewhat greedy monster (i promise it's not just DnD Tom Nook). I think one of the best parts of the game is how everyone gets a chance to be in the spotlight and my favorite parts of the game have come from a friend who is playing a Thri-keen Druid. They've basically been tasked by a late relative to save the forest our little town is surrounded by from "blight" and to say their story has brought me to happy tears is an understatement. I hope this shows that while yes, people can use paid games to take advantage of others and it sucks, there are a few good DMs out there who just want to be paid for their time. Dm, friends, if you're reading this, you're all the best.

[@blindghost7167]

That last story keeps cementing my hate for paid games.

[@GarkKahn]

Pay to win games have a rep for a reason This is no different

[@scorch2155]

I really wouldn't judge the idea based on horror stories. Reason being you might as well hate Paladins given according to horror stories only That Guy's play Paladin so you should assume anyone who wants to play Paladin is That Guy and kick them from your group.

[@M_Alexander]

... I need to use the All-Frogger in a future campaign

[@Jean-Luc_Renard]

If he doesn't want to play with a woman DM, he can leave whenever he wants.

[@mrosskne]

nah, she can.

[@Brwigames]

​@@mrosskne Nah, you can. Leave this world, I mean.

[@ShitpostingJoJo]

I think y'all are missing the point here 💀 *_Why did he even JOIN to begin with?!_*

[@RiveroftheWither]

​@@ShitpostingJoJoKnowing guys like this? Some pathetic "I'm alpha and will assert my dominance, then she'll quit dnd and want to sleep with me!" fantasy.

[@ErdriedDeirdre]

​@@RiveroftheWitheroh my God. Do people actually think like that? Like they think that would work on a woman? 😨

[@andrewhladun3671]

😊 it has been a few months since I last heard your stories (been a really busy and stressful year...will talk about it if you want later) and thought you stopped showing the fur babies, really happy that they are still in your videos

[@AvatAR42420]

Personally I thought the woman hating player was doing that "negging" crap that certain shady pick artists try and claim is "irresistible to women".

[@seb24789]

All hail the All Frogger!

[@deadzone4033]

All hail the All Frogger!

[@nfsfreakism]

The All-Frogger is secretly Alex Jones as a frog-person BBEG introducing chems into the water supply

[@krystlvines]

the all frogger campaign reminds me of the thing where someone gender flipped a module and the players got paranoid about the lack of men

[@LucyBean42]

Honestly, if the people wanna ERP, as long as all partners are informed and consenting, it's okay. In my current campaign, my character is in a romantic relationship and is married, and we're both OOG married to other people. We've both told our partners, and we don't bleed it outside game, though we'll talk about them during downtime sometimes. In our last session, my character's wife blew up in game, when the Rogue panicked at seeing his personal questline BBEG and ran from battle, leaving my Paladin facing a mind flayer alone. I think the relationship helps her get more invested in the game.

[@Brwigames]

Consent is the key, something that should be obvious...

[@paulman34340]

@@Brwigames Yep, too bad many have this allergy to it and believe it will "all be okay and work out AFTER the fact" and are SHOCKED it didn't work out lie they planned! Who knew people LOATHE being forced to do something they don't like or never asked for or agreed to it! Hmm maybe EVERYONE BUT YOU DUMBASS (Seriously had this YELLED at a That Girl in my last DnD session two weeks ago who did this type of shit LOL)

[@BlueTressym]

Agreed and yes it works perfectly fun when people are adults about it, as you've described. Trust and respect go a long way. Still the people in the first story need to have some consideration for other players. I mean, if the GM doesn't mind his SO and another dude roleplaying smut, it's not anyone's else's business BUT, when it's making other people uncomfortable, an OOC chat about what is and isn't appropriate at the table needs to happen. If the group agreed at Session 0 that sexual RP was OK, maybe OP's sensibilities just aren't compatible with that group, which is fine but they may need to find another group that aligns with their preferences better. If it wasn't agreed at Session 0 that it was OK, and/or the players in question are causing discomfort to multiple people, the players really need to either tone it down or stick to doing it in private sessions. I mean, I run games that sometimes include ERP and it's fine but we're all aware that it's not everyone's cup of tea so it occurs only in private channels (for pbp/text games) or private sessions (for live games). No one participates, or even witnesses any of it unless they're cool with doing so.

[@scorch2155]

The thing regarding the first story is, them doing it not just outside of game....but everywhere even in complete different Doscord calls and on unrelated games like Mine craft and its makong OP uncomfortable. The OP is clearly not consenting to being an audience to their ERP.

[@monikasernek1177]

I know being a armchair psychologist is bad - But what the heck happened to the guy that he has SUCH issues with women. Did he fall head first in the red pill vault.

[@AmaryInkawult]

Nah, likely the company he kept. That being dumb people.

[@monikasernek1177]

@@AmaryInkawult Yeah, but sometimes I just want to know why people are this way (Including some women acting that way towards guys).

[@MissBoxxx]

​@@monikasernek1177 sometimes it's a trauma response, sometimes they learn it from others and sometimes they just become hateful for no apparent reason. None of those reasons make it okay, but that's just how people are.

[@monikasernek1177]

@@MissBoxxx The "not letting woman telling him what to do" sounds a little bit like a trauma response, but he still in the wrong to act like that.

[@littlegiantj8761]

​@@monikasernek1177I dunno about that being a trauma response; that sounds like a-holism

[@TigerKirby215]

Favorite players in a paid campaign is a double negative. Not only is there a "friendship" dynamic there's also a monetary aspect.

[@savaged49]

Ive had a kinda flipped version of the last story. Had a female dm and honestly loved her world building but even she admitted she was loosy goosy on rules espacially when it came to combat. She do things like "hmm six seconds a round is weird we will say 1min now lasts 3 rounds of combat." I asked her privately out of game about saying that it feels abit punishing at our levels cause some of our once a day abilites and limited spells would end way to fast. She through a fit saying i was being condescending towards her for questioning her. Another time in combat she ruled that lightning bolt would hit everyone in a line including airborn characters. I argued that the spell is a line it doesnt hit characters above the line, but she said you are still in the line so you get hit. Like i know the rule is gm is always right and dont question but that one seemed way too off would totally unbalance encounters. Again she said i was being condescending about it and said essentially i dont respect woman. Finally when it came up again i mentioned i looked up the rule and found proof in the players handbook and claims so you went behind my back to look it up to prove me wrong...like i dont even know what to say to that.

[@Rein377]

My advice for the first guy would be to talk to the DM about feeling uncomfortable at the table due to the two players' behaviour. The state of DM's relationship with his girlfriend can be whatever, it's up to them, but the table is a space where everyone should be having a good time, and the two lovebirds are clearly not providing that. The DM should either introduce stricter rules or let OP find a different table.

[@theofficerfactory2625]

Intro: No cats? Lol. Story 1: Uhh... this is gonna be spicy. We have left spicy into creepy and weird territory. I feel ya, doge. My suggestion? Yell "OMG, get a room!" Story 2: This is gonna be spicy. Oh, one of those types; again. Sigh. Intermission: Hello Lucky and the 3rd void I keep forgetting. AAARGH! Story 3: Ah, this one. This one is odd. Me thinks lil bro is autistic and the others are just brats who need a good talking too. Story 4: Wooooooow.

[@TigerW0lf]

Quite the charmer in the title story🙄

[@vortega472]

Hey there Lucky, my little buddy - you got my like, and now the comment. He takes the sting out of cringe.

[@7thsealord888]

Story#1 - If something is making you uncomfortable, you have every right to say so. If the rest of the Party is OK with it, then MAYBE it is best to just try to distance yourself from that whole thing. Honestly, I am concerned about Edge Lord's mental health and what could happen if / when this "relationship" hits any turbulence or even breaks up. That will not end well. Story #2 - Personally, I think this w#nk#r was given a little too much leeway early on, but that's just me. I do wonder why, with his misogyny, why he chose to stay with a female DM as long as he did. Then again, maybe that was exactly why - a convenient target. His removal / non-attendance is a good thing - one can hope that he eventually learns something. Story #3 - Kudos to the DM for adapting, and for still being able to give his little brother a fun game. I put the group's behavior down to teenage dumb@$$ery, something I'd usually visit harsh consequences upon, but I GET why he didn't in this case. Story #4 - Honestly, why NOT demand a refund?

[@Rustwraith]

Never pay another person to play a game with you.

[@justinmargerum2559]

An intro with no cats? Okay, that just means there will be an appearance later in the vid. I'm fine...for now. [Halfway through the video] CATS! My patience was rewarded!

[@patrickhaley1312]

When you can't even roleplay being a decent person

[@Lietuvis0000]

i like how dnd became joke of it self

[@damienhailey118]

Last story sounds a lot like the "Star Wars Shenanigans" storyline on ReddX. It's a similar story, about a bad player given way too much leeway because of money.

[@OmegaBlakX]

For a hot second, I thought we wasn't going to be getting a visit from the like and comment kitties. I am happy I was wrong!

[@absolutfx]

This first story is incredibly weird. Not sure if it's kids still off for summer, but they play daily?

[@barriehannon6857]

its gotten to the point where paid campaigns are a red flag to me

[@Xuecnahc]

Calculating AC is not really metagaming in my humble opinion. Of course, the character does not yell "9 to hit!" but it is apparent to any good fighter how hard it is to wound a target and how much it is affected. The "9 to hit!" is just the player discution to speak about what the characters see and feel. Once a DM made a riddle about elves and claimed it was metagaming when I found what it was without rolling to know what specy it was... Man, we were coming from neverwinter, of course we know what elves are o_o

[@Galaxykuma]

I knew it! The DM had a sugar daddy!

[@rynowatcher]

1st one: seem op is trying to barrow trouble. This does not really concern them, and they seem to be going out of their way to find offense because they do not like op's behavior. They say over and other that they are the only one with the problem...

[@eirinym]

For the first story, if you're not comfortable with it, but everyone else is, maybe that group is not for you. If those two people are doing what they want, it's not your business. That said, you don't have to put up with it. And ultimately it seems like either they're moving towards a real relationship or they'll just play that out until it's no longer fun. OP of that story seems too judgemental here. I may find it irritating or weird myself, but if it were me, I'd just weigh the weirdness of it against my desire to play with that group. If it's too annoying, I'd leave.

[@LEWS316]

The aniti woman dm, issue: my thoughts, my DM is a woman, shes my older sister and housemate:) she runs a campaign for 4 players all of us men, with just me playing a female character (an old rpg habit of mine) we get along fine, lots of laughs. This guy woulda been kicked in a couple of incidents from our group.

[@CooperAATE]

Dog Talk Time is here!

[@_PannieCake_]

The first one is that the girl is obviously cheating on her bf.

[@jediping]

Un, I don’t think not having women for the players to interact with is a good solution. It doesn’t teach the kids anything useful. I know it’s just a mini campaign, but if OP is indeed a college guy coming and telling a bunch of high schoolers not to be creepy, that would have a serious impact on them. If OP is a woman, I can see the decision to just not deal with their BS.

[@bandwagonbuzzard1617]

All hail the hypno-allfrogger!

[@Captaincory1]

All glory to the hypnotoad

[@alanbear6505]

Cutting to an ad right when I’m promised kitties is cruel! Cruel I tell you! I got to see the kitties si I’ll let it slide. 🙂

[@kevinsullivan3448]

For the He-Man Woman Hater, he just sounds like someone with a victim mentality that is caused by women not treating him the way he thinks he should be treated. n I've seen it before, many times before, If I were a player and he talked like that to the GM I would invite him out behind the woodshed. If I were the GM and someone acted like that towards a woman in the game I would invite him to never come back.

[@keropi193]

Not offensive, but "woman in kitchen" or "har har make me a sammich" jokes stopped being funny in 2010 alongside "DO A BARREL ROLL" lol

[@GarkKahn]

It can still be funny But like any joke it can get really boring really fast

[@Arlesmon]

What about things like all your base are belong to us, badger mushroom and other ancient memes?

[@ghost7685]

This feels personal. Wanna share with the class?

[@FoxtrotMouse]

They were funny to begin with?

[@Arlesmon]

@@FoxtrotMouse depends. Do you like all your base are belong to us? But it was more of a random style of humor from the late 90s ans early 00s

[@MasquedMocha]

7:20 i'd just say to mute them tbh

[@AmazingAutist]

5:36 this is emotional cheating and as friends with a DM you should let him know that his girlfriend is doing Sly stuff behind his back.

[@ArcCaravan]

I feel the need to throw out there that it could be polyamory. Granted DM should definitely be in the loop.

[@GarkKahn]

Something tells me dm knows and either he's ok or lacks at least a single ball to confront them

[@AmazingAutist]

If it was anything like that then they wouldn't feel the need to be secretive about it

[@Slushea]

DnDoge

[@dracone4370]

How do you think the Party lineup for Doge's cats would like, in terms of Classes that they are?

[@adventureswithfrodo2721]

It is none of the OPs business. I would think he is jealous. If thevDM doesn't notice I feel sorry for him buy they are not married. The it is not yhe OPs concern. I think that us the real issue. The second one e sounds like double standards. Don't let one player make sparky comments if all players can't do it. Youvare hypocritical otherwuse.

[@soldierbreed]

Bit of kink shaming in the first one. But hey

[@ArcCaravan]

Seems more like concern for an affair, the two not keeping it to themselves, and previous bad impressions with one of them.

[@iforgot-fg2rk]

cool im early

[@timreynolds4785]

While it's weird that they're this into each other, it sounds like just young people who found each other. And so...what? Not in the wrong, but just get over it.

[@AzriusN]

The fact that a 30 year old woman is getting flirty with a 23 year old man grosses me the fuck out. It might only be seven years, but that's a MASSIVE difference in life experience and a huge power imbalance no matter how you look at it.

[@ArcCaravan]

Passes the "divide age by two then add seven" test for dating age.

[@Arlesmon]

What would be a more apropiate age gap in that case? One could say that both of them are adults, and some partners while having big age gap it can work. But it depends on the situation. And what do you mean by power imbalance? Life experience? Just wondering, what if the 23 was the boss and the 30 the grunt worker?

[@ArcCaravan]

@@Arlesmon People assume age difference automatically means power imbalance favoring elders. Last time age difference came up, it turned out the younger college student was controlling of the older partner to the point of intentionally causing damage to other relationships.

[@BlueTressym]

Age gap does not always = power imbalance. You're not more powerful than someone just because you're older than them. Yes, in some cases, there actually IS a power imbalance but that's far from universal. Age alone is not power unless you're talking about one of the people being under eighteen or one occupying an actual position of authority over the other, like a teacher, coach, boss, manager etc. Do you think that people are only allowed to date people of the same age? Do you feel such a lack of respect for anyone younger than you that you're convinced it's the same with everyone? Also, people don't all live life at the same pace and the idea that we should only date people who are in the same place as us is silly.. Meeting, associating with, and yes, sometimes dating people different from us is how we learn more about the world. There are plenty of genuine creeps out there to worry about but getting obsessed with age gaps is not how we fix that and in many cases, is actually counterproductive.

[@AzriusN]

@@ArcCaravan Most of the time it does. Just because there are outliers, that doesn't change the fact.

[@mrosskne]

disregard all foids

[@solosynapse]

@@mrosskne Ah, incel slang. Incels are friendless, conspiracy-believing losers & their opinions can be disregarded as worthless.

[@mandiblecalavera]

You played a game of DBD with Lara and my duo Steve who got tunneled on Hawkins, enjoy my subscribe

[@RdWarrior-x8y]

1st op: jealous incel

[@ArcCaravan]

Depends if the DM's girlfriend isn't cheating on him.

[@GarkKahn]

And problem player: Ultra mega Sigma alpha male chad

[@RdWarrior-x8y]

@@GarkKahn cringe