Should a Boyfriend “Lead” His Girlfriend?

[@076gold]

"Cuddling on the couch at 11 pm to watch a movie has never in history ended in a conversation about cinematography" - Matt Chandler 👆🏽😆🙌🏾

[@Destractoid]

My girlfriend and I have actually done this though :/

[@rachelmccray6043]

@Flim, Faith and Levity My boyfriend and I do this every movie night actually😂

[@CassyFilms]

uhhh my boyfriend and i do this frequently. if you dont have self control then dont do it

[@victoriamirembe719]

True as singles we sometimes overestimate our self control

[@Imnotelijah1]

I feel like I’m a relationship the guy should be leading to a degree because if you can’t during the relationship. What makes you think you will In marriage. Noted your won’t get it right. But God wants to see the effort and the qualities as well

[@kirjian]

I love how he calls people "singles"

[@abigailrosebrock7184]

Loving this series!❤️❤️

[@angloaust1575]

Depends on the word lead! Lead where?

[@TheCreepypro]

give us discernment Lord to make good decisions

[@Charles-lh8vn]

Wow thank you, a question I had for a long time answered!

[@sarasaeed7807]

What's the happy medium between spending enough 1 on 1 quality time with the person you're with and dating around others to avoid temptation???

[@UndeadManifest]

Don't allow yourself to be in a situation where the two of you are SOLELY alone - be near other people. Be chaperoned. People in another room while you teo have your quality time. Stick to public places

[@fishincognito]

Ideas - parks, museums, zoos, coffee shops, restaurants, group game nights, shopping downtown, etc. - all great places to talk and get quality time without the extra temptation!

[@jonathanasdell9310]

If temptation is an issue (which it will be if you're attracted to the other person), don't be alone with them 1 on 1 in a private space. Spend time outside, hang out in public spaces, but never 1 on 1 privately for leisure time. I fell into this with my last girlfriend and didn't put the boundaries in place to "run from sin" as we're called to do

[@W3sker]

@@jonathanasdell9310did you guys break up because of the lack of boundaries if so do you feel like you forfeited the relationship? Did you guys get back together. Thank you for your time and future response

[@nettebroni3868]

There's no such thing as dating in the bible only betrothal , if any could you inform me where does it say?

[@KatieAJ]

read it yourself

[@msonufriychuk]

How about we start with this question. Is it permissible to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in the first place!!

[@manigahbleckTV123]

You can have but not for the purpose of sex, if you love each other not for sex, you can love and wait till marriage,, but I advice don't seek for love at a younger age

[@cassie8844]

how else will you marry??

[@deepikaravi637]

Courtship is safer and better than modern dating.

[@ModelJames13]

@@manigahbleckTV123 People should be marrying young, especially women.

[@arabniga]

Isn't the "growing desire to be physically intimate" called lust which is a sin?

[@aileenprestan1823]

No.. That's natural that you want to be physically intimate with someone you love. The lust will be to covet it... Search for it and imagine it when it's not time and you don't have the right to do it.

[@foolishdrunk2181]

Women need to follow

[@abiadu5276]

Your name says it all.

[@valorietompkins4697]

ALSO SIR ADD ON HE SHALL LEAD AND THEY CAN TO BUT ONLY 1UNO GIRLFRIEND SIR NO MORE THAN ONE SIR 2 SO THE WOMEN CAN HAVE MORE BOYFRIENDS OF THOUSANDS BUT THIS IS AGAINST HER MORALS AND VALUES SIR....SO THAT BEING SAID AND ALSO AHAINAT MOST CHURCHES LAW RULES LIKE YOU JUST SAID SIR MARRIED TO 1WOMEN FOR 15 YEARS SIR....LEFT SHORT OH MY.....AND CERTAINLY NOT ACCORDING TO GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS...THEY MUST LIVE.....VERY WISE OF WISDOMS.....SIR THANKS AGAIN GREAT TEXT GOD BLESS YOU

[@jeradLiberty]

Didn't even watch the video just wanted to comment a girl should be led by her father until she's married.!

[@whitneyallman8365]

Amen 🙏

[@ThatHoodieGirl]

What if the father is not a Christian and is a manipulative marcissist who is abusive and extremely possessive? In short, he has his own interest in mind, not his daughter's. Also, in our culture women are by law viewed as adults without parental control by the time they are adults. If we are to follow the law, letting the father dictate his daughter seems "off". So how does this wirk in this situation?!

[@Jamric-gr8gr]

Mother and Father. Not just Father

[@Flyingferrets5]

@@ThatHoodieGirl This just reminds me of my biggest temptation to leave the church. John Piper's answer to "What if a Godly woman has a husband who lives in sin?" He says she should still be subject to him. I hope John Piper is wrong about his many descriptions of marriage, because if he's right, I'll die before I ever marry. What I've heard him say about marriage makes me quite frankly embarrassed to be affiliated with the church at times.

[@justonetime6179]

Flyingferrets5 “lead” and “subject” are not concrete as such. All believers should follow Christ 100%. We should respect our parents/spouse enough to listen and consider what they say. But ultimately if it clashes with following Jesus then we dont follow it. Like if your parents/spouse wanted you to break the law you wouldn’t do it.

[@andresalvaradolizano3838]

Anyone who sees this, I want your personal opinion, is dating even a thing? Should we date? It is not in the Bible, or I'd like to see a passage where it mentions dating, I think it should start as a friendship in the aim of a marriage, I am really confused with it being something we should allow or not, if not, why do we see it as something normal and answering questions to improve relationships that are not in the Book.. anyone who can give me a concrete point, more than welcome

[@aspiretolove]

Andres Alvarado Lizano great point! Dating was not something that existed in the culture during biblical times. Marriage was more of a family driven business deal, where parents decided whether their daughter could marry so and so. Ideally, the main thing to remember whenever pursuing a convenant relationship in marriage is that it honors God. The way its done is different from culture to culture, but it is all done to bring two people together in a covenant relationship so that they become more like Jesus through their relationship! Please consider picking up Loveology by John Mark Comer, he talks more in in-depth on how Christians can date in a God honoring way

[@andresalvaradolizano3838]

aspiretolove thanks a lot, I really appreciate your time and answer, God Bless you

[@PrinceJes]

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

[@followerofchrist9800]

I’m sorry but this comment seems real...well...stupid. You saying that it should start with friendship in the aim of marriage- well, that’s exactly what dating is. That’s why it’s called having a girlFRIEND and a boyFRIEND.

[@Syzlex_]

I think it requires godly wisdom. There are areas that aren't 100% clear biblically (hence the different podcast topics) but I think dating is useful if done in a godly way. It should be seen as a time to know the other as friends with the potential for marriage. To skip strait to marriage without sometime without dating I guess could work.... Not sure how successful that'd be lol.