Should We Get Back Together? 5 Terrible Reasons To Give Up

[@ClayAndrews]

Ends on Sept 13th, 2022: docs.google.com/document/d/15m29V9dat9uAXdn2p1uKpjKYwEIjxL-J2cABz25zxtM/edit?usp=sharing

[@user-es5gx2di7h]

Basically, you should challenge any midwit fortune cookie style advice you hear. 1. "The breakup happened for a reason". However, you also got together for a reason. These ought to be weighed against each other. Do your 5x5! 2. "You're weak to get back with an ex". Myth that it's low status/needy to get back with an ex. You should seek INTERNAL validation for your decisions, not external. 3. "If we get back together, we'll just break up again". Only if nothing has changed, the dynamic hasn't changed, same situation or context. HOWEVER, if you focus on changing yourself, you can show your ex that they're not walking back into the same relationship. You must therefore have a GROWTH mindset. 4. "Plenty of fish in the sea". Scrapping things or not is your decision. But think about what you're looking for in a partner. Be specific. Define the ideal partner for you, the ideal relationship. 5. "Time heals all wounds". It only heals it if you grow, process it, feel the pain and learn from it.

[@viehl2221]

Heartfelt comment with great elaborations, hope others healing up a relationship read this. God bless

[@alaalfa8839]

There is plenty of fish in the sea but there is a limited amount of time for investment or only one investment in the relationship, This means the person who tried 20 relationships starts all over 20 times while the one who sticks with one relationship creates much more and is in a higher position with his work and investment in the relationship, is just enjoying the fruits of relationship.

[@dianelambert2016]

Thank you for these recent videos, they really help with coping with friend and family pushback.

[@alexandre9328]

Be careful of not taking a bad turn..

[@maria-jocelynebousseau6127]

Hey. My girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago. We have been together for 9 months. We were in a polyamourous relationship ( I was the relationship that happened after). We were almost living together, we've met each other's parents and friends. I told her I can't do polyamour anymore because it hurts too much. She has decided to end both of the relationship. It was in a moment we're she was in crisis. And we were both emotionally dysregulated. The week I spent at her house was perfect. We have agreed on seeing each other in two weeks. I broke the non contact, she said she wasn't able to talk with anyone right now. (pretty fast, she has kept the picture I took of her has a pp) In a fuck that moment I've sent her things she didn't need to reply (poems, reference to a film). All my family says I should let her go because it was toxic but, right now she has agreed to work on her mental and physical health, we will no longer be in a homophobe environment and we are not going to live together. I realized I shouldn't tried to

[@maria-jocelynebousseau6127]

I shouldn't try to try to intellectualize her, but she needs reassurance. So I am working at myself. She was traumatised in her previous relationship and she has never seen her parent show Each other love. She also has been emotionally neglected. I know she loves me, and I really love her. What do you thing about this?

[@reginamanson4454]

I was with my guy for 19 teen years now in a rebound within one week still together going. On three years. Still make sure that he stays involved with my family my grandkids he's just simply in my family's life after all this time. OMG. WHY??

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m so sorry about your mother Clay.

[@AmirOnzo-vp5pq]

@clay Hello. My ex is pulling away after we reconnected and we have been sexually intimate. She is more and more distant and hesitant to talk to me and it's hard to build emotional connection and intimacy. I am having a hard time and need help. I dropped the romantic pressure but she is very stubborn and doesn't initiate at all. It has 2 1/2 months since reconnecting and we were in no contact for 6 months.

[@pimpindistress101]

I was dating someone for 6 months but they were a gambler. I found out just before she disappeared just how bad her habit really was. She didn't ask for space but I felt that she needed space because she told me that she was really stressed out so I was just letting her figure herself out and I let her be. She reaches out every now and then by text or she calls me, but we haven't brought up hanging out together. I told her I'm just giving her the space she needs for now to get things straightened out. Where do I go from here?

[@chazrooks4681]

Move on. She hasn't grown up, you need to grow and keep it moving. Wish her the best of luck, and move on. She'll only hold you back in your life

[@joelwilson7571]

Hi Clay thank you so much for your genuine and realistic advice on navigating honest relationships, my long distance partner and I just broke up, I flew to see them but the answer remained the same as they said we should just be friends, after being there I realized that the love was still there but they were hesitant and stuck to their descison even tho we got really close. Its been almost three years we've been together and half of that long distance. I want to make it work but I'm confused as to what I should do at this point did I blow my chance ?

[@chrismcevoy2503]

So Time Heals All Wounds is really a crock Clay.

[@jerrycundiff6748]

Dude, shut up.

[@jonathandenga8014]

Hi Clay, me and my ex broke up two months ago after a two months break (recess). We dated almost 3 years and got engaged February 2022. Since then her family hates the idea and pressured us for about 7 months until we broke up. I’ve been in no contact since breaking up in January but broke contact on text for her birthday which I also gave her a financial gift (she appreciated it) and went back to no contact. Recently last week I broke contact and she responded on text we needed more time and space to heal. She does respond to text but doesn’t initiate any communication.

[@AdamNotaro]

Hi Clay.. me and my ex are broken up 2 months now.. at first there was no contact.. then we chatted for a bit.. she opened up to me a lot about problems in her life.. given me hot and cold treatment. She said there's something there still but the issues with her life need her full attention.. she hasn't said never again.. should I just get on with life and remain hopeful that we can get back together? Or just leave it altogether.

[@megajeffrey999]

Hey, I think I am in a similar situation as you were. Would love to hear an update on how things went. Hopefully well for you :)

[@Godlytoe71]

Same, I don’t know if I should leave cuz she’s not committed or I should work on it, but honestly I feel like if she was interested in getting back together she would put in more work.

[@AdamNotaro]

@@megajeffrey999 I actually ended up just leaving her be, and have now met the most wonderful girl who I'm seeing and now living with, she has made all of the pain I went through over my ex seem really silly.

[@AdamNotaro]

@@Godlytoe71 my opinion now nearly 2 years from making this comment is to just let that person be, take up new hobbies that are good for you and leave her in the past. There is someone better out there for you who will appreciate you for who are and will not leave. It happened to me even though I thought it never would. Just keep your head up and keep moving forward. Also, looking back at it, watching videos like this do not help. The channel making them are preying on vulnerable people who feel there's a lack of hope. Avoid them.

[@Godlytoe71]

@@AdamNotaro it’s a long story with my ex, after a lot of drama and confusion we got back to talking and it seemed to be going great then she pulls back and basically friendzones me after treating me like a boyfriend, but we’re both scared that if we jump into a relationship again its gonna crash n burn. She’s admitted she doesn’t know what she wants, so I told her it shoudnt be that way with someone you actually love so we should stop talking. But she begged me to stay and didn’t want me to leave. I’m honestly so confused and I want this to work but she doesn’t seem interested enough through her actions.

[@shibbydbz5046]

Is there a vid that explains that if u got back together more then once ?

[@bellapadmalakshmi47]

My ex and I aren’t in contact. Should I send a accountability letter.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

The reason I broke up with my ex-girlfriend Tracci Ludwick because she took me for granted.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I got together with my ex-girlfriend Tracci Ludwick because she was my high school sweetheart.

[@lLuke.c]

so bro just doxed his girl for the whole internet to see 😂

[@freightexplorer3714]

thank you

[@cantgobck69]

I have believe all these to be garbage except this guy I have started watching and he shows respect and touch of care on each case non judgemental or a side basher 👍

[@kitty2doggyMeow]

What are our 5 signs? not the person that we are dating. Do you have a video like that?

[@pandorapink1227]

Good vid

[@shandy41709]

Should u listen to ur family and friends.

[@nickolazcarters]

11:11

[@Dolphinsz]

Well they basically say got together due to trauma but i feel that's a big cop out 3 years together It was all due to trauma Sure 😅

[@kiavang8658]

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