Should You Get Married Young?

00:00 - Intro
00:17 - Reasons People Gave Me For Why I Shouldn't Propose
00:54 - #1: What Is The Right Age To Get Married?
01:51 - #2: Should You Experience Other People First?
02:55 - When My Sergeant Told Me I Had Made A Mistake
04:14 - A Fairy Tail Made By Men For Men
05:08 - #3: Should You Live Some Life First?
07:17 - What You Should Do Before Getting Married
08:58 - Marriage ≠ The Wedding
09:22 - Am I Telling You To Get Married Young?

[@khalexi8692]

"A marriage should be the beginning of your adventure not the end of it" -that is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard.

[@elijahjohnston-ligesha]

YES! BRO SO TRUE!!!!

[@thabopitsoo]

That is beautiful thanks for sharing!

[@Mondaycat7]

Married at 20 my husband was just 5 days after his 21 birthday. We were in a great marriage for 49 years until I lost him to cancer. We were each other’s one and only and neither of us ever regretted that.

[@merseltzer]

My condolences to you.

[@RickeyLarson]

Sorry for your loss, I’m also grateful that you gained so much as you shared so much together. Thank you for now, here, sharing with us. God continues to bless!

[@angrydragonslayer]

That last part is what i was about to write As long as it's the right one you're getting married to, it will always be a good decision. Be it 20 or 80, it will work out well.

[@sugondee920]

Sorry for your loss

[@poycixyz4614]

My condolences... It's good to know, at least, that you made the most of your time together. 49 years? Wow. I'm shedding tears of joy and sadness at the same time.

[@graceclark3481]

I'm 31, no kids and a virgin and the guy I am seeing is in the air force. He's 28, never married no kids. He's the kind of guy you wish you had met earlier, he is so mature, solid and we agree on so much! I even told him I was willing to move States for him. I didn't get the chance to marry young, because i knew what i wanted was marriage and most guys in my early 20s were just wanting sex. And the ones that didn't, didn't want me to homeschool or be a stay-at-home mother. Issues that I will not compromise on. I made a vow to myself and God I wanted to date the right way, I didn't want to fool around and waste time with flings. Was it hard sticking to my guns when I was disappointed over and over? Oh yeah. But I'll never be sorry for waiting and sticking to my principles! Mr. Frietas, thank you for this message. I wish more men were like you!

[@badavocado1322]

I pray it will work out for u! ❤❤❤

[@deus_nsf]

Damn, YOU are the prize. That man will be lucky to have you and (hopefully) likewise!

[@davidaustin1649]

Lucky guy.

[@graceclark3481]

Thank you very much! I know what I want. God made marriage so it's not wrong to make it a goal. I'm not one of those people that thinks "is marriage in the cards". I think in general, if people want marriage and are willing to be the stable healthy spouse that anyone would need, they can find someone. I agree with you, marriage is hard work. Too many people don't understand how much hard work. It is not just about the feeling of love that is fleeting. It is about commitment, and shared values. Mutual respect.

[@graceclark3481]

Thank you! That's very kind of you. I had a amazing mother. She taught me the right stuff

[@SaltyTribeCo]

Married at 20, husband was 19! Married 19 years now and had 6 children!!! Everyone told us we were crazy - those people are either divorced now or never married and still unhappy! We grew together, learned together and adventured together. We would do it all over again and choose each other! 💗

[@dawnstonerock4253]

You give me hope!❤

[@WiseOwl_1408]

Congratulations on the success

[@karenk2409]

I am guessing you have your life goals and faith in common, and good for you!!!

[@cptsuperstraight6924]

6 children. Well done. I hope you have lots of grand children .

[@graceclark3481]

It never ceases to amaze me how miserable people discourage happy marriages from succeeding! Good for you that you guys proved them wrong!!

[@lindathompson9334]

I married at 19 and my husband was 21. We met in high school and were married 52 years. He died two years ago and I miss him every day. We both came from parents with bad marriages and we were determined to never be like them. We worked at it and it lasted because of it.

[@graceclark3481]

Bless your heart ma'am! I'm really glad that you made a conscious effort to be different, it seems like people who come from families with bad marriages, it puts them off. I'm really glad that you did not let it spoil marriage for you! My parents did not have a good marriage and it's made me determined to avoid the mistakes that were made. But then, my mom talked a lot about what went wrong in her marriage. I wish that all children would have a healthy conscious effort in regard to mistakes in relationships.

[@husseinkobeisi5022]

When he said "we watched the birth of our 3 children" man I teared up. This dude knows what he's talking about and it should be taught more. I believe committing to someone early isn't "settling down", it's allowing yourself to have more experiences with the right person.

[@castirondude]

You can get married and hold off on children and have adventures together.

[@phoenixrising55]

Facts 🙌

[@clarity2118]

Didn’t get married too young but at 25 last year. Both of us waited until marriage to have sex. We both have zero regrets about that decision and wouldn’t have it any other way. If your spouse is your best friend and love of your life-don’t worry sex will be enjoyable. My advice to other young people is to wait for sex but get to know each other really well in the dating process. Know each others goals and values and you’ll do awesome. For us our Christian values were the best wisdom we could have gotten anywhere

[@sethruter]

Spot on!

[@Russ1tonram]

That is so great . I wish I'd have had that integrity myself. My wife did. And we've been together for 44 yrs. Come Jan.

[@charitysweetcharity3091]

Yes! So very agree

[@user-ud1kc4yl1s]

Amen. Great testimony!

[@graceclark3481]

Hey a lot of people know these days what they want by 25, you did good! Less people these days know what they want at 19 and 20

[@georgeanderson2664]

AMEN! I agree with everything you said. We've been married 62+ years (she was 17, I was 20; she was Filipino I was Caucasian; she was from a different culture & a different race; "they" gave us 6 months, but by God's grace we are still together & love each other more than ever). 7 children; 21 grandchildren; & 22 great grandchildren later it's been a great adventure with no regrets. We didn't miss out on anything & wouldn't have had it any other way.

[@graceclark3481]

Wow, I'm so happy for you that with such different cultures you were able to make it work! That's really tough to do, but hey if you two people really love each other, and they're willing to negotiate, I'm sure they could make it work! I suppose a lot of kids nowadays don't know the meaning of making things work anymore. So happy for you that you have been married 60 plus years! Congratulations

[@patricksfam3765]

I hate "they". "They" are so rude.

[@umiluv]

Wow! 22 great grandkids! What a blessing to be alive to see so many of your great grandchildren.

[@dandrichollinger7112]

That’s a blessing🙏🏽 I got married at 19

[@raij465]

Regarding what was said at the very end . . . A bad marriage is incredibly lonely, isolating, stressful, heartbreaking, and full of regret. It’s much better to stay single than to marry someone who is not on the same page as you. Get to know the person well. Make sure you’re both mature. Don’t ignore red flags.

[@l_b_calm]

Yes!

[@mumstheword8851]

But that doesn't really have to do with age

[@Prodigious1One]

Yes, you're right. Don't rush into marriage. Listen to your heart.

[@thefrankburger5233]

@@Prodigious1OneI would say the heart would be the actual cause for the problems of rushing in to soon. Use your head not your heart.

[@DanielVoyles]

This requires both parties to be looking to improve themselves and to know themselves well. If you are constantly changing to make the other happy, that just does not work long term. One must know who they are without someone else holding them up. You have to be okay with taking honesty and giving it lovingly. We (humans) are a work in progress, as well as a daily chore. Marriage is work and anything worth having is going to be difficult at times.

[@Tincan53]

My wife and I were 20 when we married. It’s now fifty years later and we’re still madly in love with each other. We have two kids and five grandkids and love each other deeply. It’s about love and respect for one another. We’ve gone through 21 years of Navy life, 2 strokes, 4 heat attacks and cancer. We supported each other through it all. Oh and one last thing, we abstained from premarital sex and I’m damned proud of that.

[@-glitch-8195]

Wow! Mad respect to you and your wife sir. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@graceclark3481]

You and your wife are my freaking heroes! God bless you!!!!

[@willm678]

That’s beautiful. I hope you and your wife continue to live well for many years!

[@deannasteele9803]

Tincan53 Because you honored God in your marriage by abstaining from premarital sex. He honored you by giving you a good marriage.

[@deannamcmanigal3994]

So thankful for this message! We were 20 and 21,husband in military. What a great adventure we have had! 3 adult married children and 12 grandkids. God has been so good to us. How thankful we are for 51 years!!

[@HappyTexan52]

Amazing. Pray you have many more years.

[@dawnstonerock4253]

Beautiful!!❤

[@WiseOwl_1408]

Blessed

[@kimberlyhughes6548]

God blessed you for sure!

[@jeslordischus-wealthkwarte2833]

"... because the mentality that marriage is the end of the adventure than the beginning of it is the problem..." That struck me so much🥰🤗

[@zacharymccoy9262]

“We’re still married and they’re divorced” wow that’s a powerful statement. It’s so moving and communicates the point you’re trying to make.

[@jenniferyoung8977]

Married my high school sweetheart at 19. We had so many people tell us not to. We both waited for and chose each other only. 15 years and seven kids later we are still madly in love and each other’s best friends. It’s rare to see someone else talk about their marriage the same way we do. A true marriage is such an absolute treasure.

[@Tropicoboy]

Seven!!! Wowzers thats rough.

[@jenniferyoung8977]

@@Tropicoboy haha It can be rough at times but it is totally worth it 😁. We both came from bigger families and loved it so much we wanted a big family ourselves. It has its challenges but having such a wonderful marriage really makes having so many kids much less stressful and a lot more fun ❤️

[@derekhayter4879]

7 kids? You must make a lot of money and have support, plus you must have a big house and a big car without stress. Good for you.

[@AMAli-ct5df]

May Allah bless your marriage Miss

[@igorpisarev1898]

Love to hear/read it.

[@devchonka18]

I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we got married in 2007. 16 years and 4 kids later... i can say this was the best journey i could have ever taken ❤

[@graceclark3481]

Bless you both! As long as a couple are mature, I think it's wonderful to get married young!

[@andje_izidor_music]

I don't know if you believe in God sir but I just came across your channel through this video and I believe you're totally describing what God himself intended marriage to be originally. You're doing a great job by sharing your life with people who wants to listen to reasonable voices like you. Thank you for your encouragement!

[@awesomegermany9586]

I believe in God as well and I was thinking the same thing

[@Radar120155]

Isn't it Obvious ?

[@TheTweetybird1122]

He believes in God

[@simplymattern]

Married my freshman high school sweetheart, but we waited 10 years because we weren't ready until we were mature enough to make the commitment for life and equally ready. During the 10 years, I got a degree because it was important to me, and he figured out his career path. We grew together instead of apart. Our engagement was a year and a half because we saved up and paid for it ourselves. We didn't fit everyone else's mold of when or how it was right. Since the beginning, others said we wouldn't make it and bet against us. In our marriage, we've lost three infants, had almost every immidiate family member live with us, lost and started jobs, and so on. We made sure when we got married, it was for life, through good amd bad. All that said, the true glue, what sustained us and carried us through? GOD. I knew I would marry him at 15 years old after we had conversations about our shared faith in Jesus. We even attended the same church for years and never knew each other. I could give all the ways we made good choices along the way, but there are plenty of mistakes too. God was and is the grace and the love that sustains us through it all.

[@604dinoboy4]

I got a question Do you worship jesus or the one jesus worshipped? Just a quesiton

[@OverYou-tr5ok]

I read your comment twice. I reflected on it. God also lets us mess up And he also moves people out of our lives. God sees what we don't see. Thank you for your comment 👍

[@DonSinyard]

Who did Jesus worship?@@604dinoboy4

[@simplymattern]

@@604dinoboy4 I appreciate your question. It's an important one to consider. To be transparent, I'm not the best at memorizing scripture, though I'm secure in my faith and read the Bible. So thank you for the opportunity to practice by sharing. I believe Jesus is the son of God, that He died for my sins and for all peoples' so that we may be saved through Him. I believe that no one goes to God the Father except through Jesus. And I believe in the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Below are some supporting Bible verses. That said, I encourage anyone wanting to know more to read beyond plucked Bible verses for richer context and meaning. I hope this answers your question. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son. That whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. John 3:16-17 Jesus answered “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6 Jesus said, "I and the Father are one." John 10:30 Jesus came and said to them (his diciples), “All authority has been given to me in heaven and on earth. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:18‭-‬20

[@KalonOrdona2]

"the Father is greater than I" but "I and the Father are one." You can worship Jesus and be worshiping God.@@604dinoboy4

[@darleneblakely7726]

We got married at 18 yrs old. My husband was in the Army. We will have our 50th anniversary in December.

[@jterrelltx181]

Brother You nailed it!!! I married young and it was and has been and remains the greatest adventure ever conceived. Her dad told me, “Jonathan, my girls do not play house! You have honored her by asking for her hand in marriage after 6 months of dating. Honor her in your time of engagement and I promise God will bless your marriage!” He was correct! I cherish my wife and would die for her without consideration. The older I get the more I deeply value the purity and innocence she brought to our marriage! God bless you brother and keep speaking the truth!

[@sashabelle728]

What great advice! I was just past my 20th birthday and my husband was 23 when we married. We were the first (and only) for each other and I'm so very thankful for that. Lord willing, in December, we will celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary. One of the things that has helped us during the inevitable hard times is to approach life as teammates and not competitors. We have two children and two grandchildren. The Lord has been so good to us. As my husband tells couples, your marriage is like a triangle. Put God at the top and you and your spouse on the other points of the triangle. As you grow closer to God, you will also be drawing closer to each other.

[@karenk2409]

People like you make my heart sing.

[@sashabelle728]

@@karenk2409 thank you. 😊

[@JamesSchmidt-by3wu]

Looking forward to our 39th anniversary this Jan. It set record cold temps on our wedding day. Best man almost didn't make it because he couldn't start his truck. Yes we had people question our getting married, and why, on the coldest day of the year. Our son likes the phrase: ' you never get ahead by putting God last'.

[@jd-hj5ed]

I was 19, and my husband was 20. We were dirt poor. Only slept with each other, no one before. We were meant to be. Soul mates. My friends took bets too. One sent us a tenth anniversary card "It's been a long six months". He died after we had been married 25 years. The number of fights we had in that time I could count in my hands.

[@jpaulis292]

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔

[@Hunter-ox6kh]

That’s truly beautiful

[@merseltzer]

I too am sorry foy your loss.

[@ashleycampbell8767]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[@Gr82bmom]

My parents got married young. My dad was 18 and my mom 16. They are still going strong almost 60 years! They had me 2 years after they were married. I married a little later then them-I found my forever at 23 and going on strong for 33 years ❤

[@faeyi]

Luckyyy, I’m glad you found your person! That’s so wonderful ❤

[@kellylynn2384]

Amen! This is solid truth! Your story is similar enough to ours that I just cant help but share it. My husband and I met at church camp, when he was 15 and I was 17. He was a young preacher boy, and we bumped into each other in lunch line. We lived 300 miles apart, so we wrote letters back and forth for the first year, then exchanged numbers when we saw each other at camp again the next year. And we started talking for hours on the phone every day. (That was before either of us had cellphones. It was landlines all the way.) We talked about everything. About God, what we believed, what we wanted out of life, what we expected out of a mate, whether we wanted children someday, how we wanted to raise children, what we liked and disliked... Everything. We became best friends. We fell in love with each other over the phone. When we saw each other again at camp the next year, he proposed to me and I said yes. At that time he was 17 and I was 19. We had lots of people tell us that we were crazy, or way too young, or that it would never last. The thing was, we knew that God had put us together, and that we were made for each other. The next year, he turned 18, and then graduated highschool a few days later. The day after he graduated, he got on a greyhound bus and moved to my small town. We finally got to go out on our first date together. That fall, we got married. We were both virgins. I moved into the trailer that he was renting. We didn't have much money, but we definitely had love. We had alot of learning to do about life, but we learned together. And now, 17 years and 3 children later, we are happier, and more in love, than we've ever been, and we have no regrets. (Or drama or baggage from past relationships.) We are still best friends and we love the life that we have built together. He now pastors the small church that I grew up in, we got married in, and we've both served God in. Now we are raising our 3 kids there. God has been very good to us. We are so blessed. ❤ Thank you for putting this message out there! As I said, It is solid truth!

[@graceclark3481]

I love your story ma'am! I wish I had been lucky enough to find somebody in church. Church was very difficult for me to find men in. The guys I talked to in church didn't even want to be bothered. I didn't get the chance to go to church camp. Maybe that could have been a possible meeting place. I wish that churches encouraged dating like they used to, they've made it so awkward. Anyway! Your Story made me so happy to read it. I wish you and your husband 50 years of happiness! And I wish everyone was a solid as your family

[@Jordan-pn7fy]

We got married at 19/17 and are still going strong 18 years later. The lessons we’ve learned have been invaluable.

[@muchadoaboutkovu]

My husband and I got married at 21 and 22. Waited to have the sex til after we got married. Many people said we were too young. Even my grandma told me I needed to date other people(my husband was my one and only..) I greatly disagree. Especially since I ended up struggling greatly with my fertility in my 20’s.(something you cannot know until you start to do the deed.) we are still going strong 13 years later and 3 kids(one still incubating til due date) and four baby losses. We now finally have our own house. Working together as a team is so rewarding. And I personally believe our love life is FANTASTICS.

[@Nickjfreitas]

Good for you guys! Well done!!!

[@merseltzer]

I am glad for your success & joy. Congratulations on the new baby.❤

[@graceclark3481]

I'm glad you didn't listen to those people. If you know you love someone, why bother dating other people?! You're just going to waste time and hurt yourself in the long run! My sister struggled with infertility also, I'm really sorry for all your losses. She and her husband have only been married 7 years. And I'm grateful God blessed you with four little ones!

[@muchadoaboutkovu]

@@graceclark3481 my heart goes out to your sister. I will pray she is blessed soon with her miracle baby! It’s definitely a horrible thing to struggle with, but it molded us into who we are today and our children each have their own miracle stories. And I agree! Why date around when you’ve found exactly what you were looking for! I do not share to brag as it can come out that way. I know our story doesn’t happen often nowadays and peoples hearts get broken. But I believe anyone can find love and work hard with each other for the long haul.

[@marcusshumway4946]

Married after my tour of duty in Vietnam. She was 19 and I 21. Been married 49 years and loving it. She’s the mature one. I’m still a diamond in the ruff. I agree a lot to what you’re saying. Keep standing for the truth. It’s nice to hear some fresh wisdom.

[@joyfulhomemaker8053]

Thank you for your service 🇺🇸 🙏🏻

[@marcusshumway4946]

@@2tallyGr8 😀 I’d like to say it was my good looks but I keep her her laughing. That and my bear hugs.

[@marcusshumway4946]

@@joyfulhomemaker8053 thank you

[@nenyeo6090]

@@marcusshumway4946 the bear hugs always makes a woman stay 👌🏾❤️ congrats on your marriage

[@rosameijering5161]

​@@marcusshumway4946ha ha i am so happy for you both. I really really hope i will marry as well... to someone i love and like

[@nhancedsvt]

Excellent video. My wife and I started dating at 15, engaged at 19 and married at 20 while we were in college. Tons of people (including my 2x divorced Dad) told us why it wouldn't work and how crazy we were to do that. We're celebrating 15 years this Spring, have 3 awesome kids and have built a wonderful life together. One of the benefits I've found to getting married young is that we've been able to "grow up" together. We share a lot of firsts together and continue to do so. Our lives are intertwined at this point and all of our memories point back to each other.

[@graceclark3481]

Nick is definitely right when he says you should never listen to someone who is unhappy, trying to give you advice! Never ceases to astonish me how people who have been failures at relationships try to give advice. I hope your dad is now eating his words! I would be ashamed if I were him

[@willm678]

My grandfather met a Japanese girl while he was there during the occupation of Japan at the end of WW2. They married in 1946 when he was 21 and she was 18. He stayed in the army until 1970 and travelled all over the world, but they also had 6 children and raised them all successfully. They stayed married until my grandmother unfortunately passed away from Alzheimer’s in 2002 in her early 70s. My mom said that in those last couple of years my grandfather had the “patience of a saint”. He lived another 15 years and died at 91. He married young and still lived an amazing life and is remembered by countless people whose lives he touched. He is still one of my personal heroes.

[@booshkaboo]

I was 20 my husband was 19. We're best friends and have grown so much from having each other's influence, companionship and encouragement. We both wish we had saved ourselves the heart ache and gotten married right out if high school at 17 and 18 but sadly because of social pressure we never even considered it. Don't waste your time dating if you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Married life is so much funner. Do everything together, work as a team. Not against each other. Sacrifice for each other but don't hold it over the other person's head like they owe you something. Do it out of love because it's what's best for them. They'll pay that back 10 fold and love you the way need even more. Always speak about the other person with respect love and reverence. There will always be people who disapprove, and they're usually the ones whom are the most miserable in life. Ignore them. Cut them out. Create an island for you to live on where no one else has a say but the two of you. Be each other's biggest advocates. Don't lie. For any reason ever. But don't say things in a way that are hurtful. Be honest out of love. Because it's what's best for them, not you. Chose someone whom will be on your team for life, no matter where the roller-coaster brings you. Women, let him lead with trust in his ability. And men, lead selflessly. Your each other's only team mates in this wild crazy world. So act like it. You'll both find joy and fulfillment in marriage if you do. Not happiness per say. But true joy. It's a deepest sort of contentment.

[@WendyWzOpinion]

BOOM! 🎯 Couldn’t have said it any better!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@ChristopherMiles.]

Great comment. It brings me some hope that theres possibly someone out there for me.

[@nholbrook1682]

Beautifully said!!❤

[@StrongBodyandMind33]

You’re still young

[@nholbrook1682]

@StrongBodyandMind33 yup, and very much looking forward to growing old together ❤️ why do you feel the need to throw shade on others success? 🤔

[@sorchadonavan5266]

Our society matures more slowly then past generations. We are desperate to hold on to childhood and lack responsibility. Marriage and parenthood matures a person quickly, it comes from putting others needs ahead of your own. I wish i had married my husband at 20 instead of 30. I always love your videos, you give a lot of needed wisdom and truth.

[@Me-hf4ii]

Yeah same here. BUT I do know that all of my friends and myself that married later are still married 10+ years later… so the maturity thing is definitely at play. We SHOULD mature faster, but if we don’t, waiting is the correct way… that said, the YOLO and “get experience” and “career first” mentality is probably one of the likely culprits in so many of us launching so late. That type of advice is emotionally stunting, and it is so engrossing and stimulating that it takes many of us a decade+ of face planting and getting close to self destruct mode before we have fallen far enough to be like “hmm… maybe this isn’t the way!” God bless you and your marriage. God redeems all-even those of us that came to the truth later. Remember the Parable of the Workers - it doesn’t matter how late you show up, your wages are the same if the work you do is honest and heartfelt once you do show up 💕

[@PcGamerify]

Yeah true

[@graceclark3481]

Society only matures more slowly nowadays because they have a lack of strong fathers. And people have believed the lies of the modern culture that we need to delay maturity as long as possible. Homeschoolers are not that way. Homeschooling matures someone far quicker, speaking as someone who is a homeschooler. And just because that is the way things are sir, it's not the way they should be! I think we should be encouraging people to mature far quicker. We would have a lot less tragedy if we had people that started thinking like adults when they turned 18! That is the legal adult age, imagine how many deaths would be avoided if people acted like they did 50 years ago? Society expected children to be mature by the age of 18 50 years ago, that's why they matured quicker. That's the only difference.

[@sorchadonavan5266]

@@graceclark3481 I'm not sure who you're arguing with. Traits of homeschooling can mature a person, not homeschooling itself. Responsibility and morals mature a person, often those things come with homeschooling, but it is not a given.

[@user-cy4bo2ys5p]

Married 31 years. We have two wonderful adult sons. We have survived cancer, a brain tumor, and acute kidney failure. we are still going strong. My wife is my safe harbor and the rock upon which my life is built. Thanks you for what you have said here.

[@margaretgordon7088]

I was 20 and he was 24, a biker and VietNam Army veteran. It's been 50 years of sheer bliss. And NO, I was not pregnant. His family was Protestant from Belfast Ireland. My family is Italian from NYC. We were married in a Catholic church which is why his family didn't treat me well. We overcame that and so much else. Nick, I watch all your videos and this one on marrying young qualifies as your best. God Bless You and your family!

[@Inv1cto]

Thank you, sir. I'm 17 and have been wondering about a lot of this lately. I still have college and police academy ahead of me, and I didn't know when the best time to get married would be in the midst of all of that. I took to heart what you said about marrying earlier to have those adventures WITH the person you love. I'll navigate it with prayer, and I'm confident that I'll know the time when it comes.

[@tjotts6802]

I'm a retired law enforcement officer after 36 years of service. I was 22 amd my wife was 20 and we got married while I was still in the Air Force. Then I went to the police academy after we had been married 4 years. I had a great and successful law enforcement career, but I could have never made it through many difficult times withtout her by my side and helping me through. In my opinion and experience, a great marriage is critical to being a great cop!

[@kimawelec1909]

Good on you young man, good on you!😊

[@joyfulhomemaker8053]

Keep communication w God. You didn’t mention a significant other. Don’t get married just to get married. You will know when you meet the one. It’s hard to say that because often, you will *feel* a lot of “could be the one” but there is a difference. At the end of the day, when you are married, you get to choose how much you love your spouse that day. Choose to love and serve them well and things will be pretty good. Keep your focus on God and it will be very good. The closer we are to God, the closer we are to each other 🥰 🙏🏻

[@Inv1cto]

@@joyfulhomemaker8053 Thank you. I should have mentioned that I do have a friend who I'd like to date when she's 18. And yes, constant prayer is a must.👍

[@Nickjfreitas]

You are going about it the correct way! With prayer and thoughtful consideration!

[@svejyboo]

My landlord and his wife met when they were 14 and 15, got married at 18 and are about to celebrate 54 years of a loving marriage. Their key tips to us when we moved in as newlyweds: 1- always maintain open communication with each other, and 2- recognize that marriage is a partnership and will require work and effort. These are great tips for any marriage regardless of age, and the outcome depends only on the couple.

[@MissionSilo]

Another one I heard is have a purpose or a meaning for your union

[@blacklyfe5543]

That's terrible advice don't get married That's the best advice I can give you.

[@anthonyju6392]

If I might add another one. I know I am not much of an expert but I do have 13+ years experience. People don't grow apart they choose to be apart. Marriage is not only work but of personal sacrifice. Honestly it is not even that big of a sacrifice in the long run but there will be sacrifice. Couples who do not sacrifice for each other or couples who don't recognize the sacrifices people make for the other will lead to resentment and unhappiness. Always be grateful for those sacrifices for and gestures of love and affection.

[@Sabersafe]

​@@blacklyfe5543 Nope, get married. This is a bad advice. Besides, you should not tell people to not get married. Because that would spread corruption and abomination.

[@graceclark3481]

​@@blacklyfe5543get off this page. No one wants to hear what you have to say! This video was for people who love marriage and think it's sacred, if you don't, we don't want to hear you.

[@randyrhodes3934]

Married at 18 wife 19. We will celebrate our 50th next July. I spent 10 years in the Navy, 10 years as a bivocational pastor, and 40 years in medical electronics. I just retired and she is still working because she loves her job. We moved 29, yes 29 times lived in 9 states and one foreign country. We have two children both veterans who are not afraid of the unknown in life. We have had a wonderful life and a great adventure. We are still strongly and powerfully in love. We moved to a farm where my roots were and plan on enjoying the remainder of our lives together. Never let someone else tell you what’s good for you, hold hands and hearts and live every day to the fullest. God bless you for your service and your wife as she served along side. God is good. All the time.

[@barbaradavis393]

Sometimes you can't marry young because you haven't met the right person yet. I was 25 and he was 33. We lasted for 42 years before I lost him to cancer. I can't imagine anyone taking his place.

[@FarmFreshIB]

Met him at 15. Married him at 17. He was 21. My mom told me as she signed for me to get married that, "He will work great until someone better comes along." Yeah. THAT was messed up. We were each other's only. Tribulation is part of life. We've been through it. Yeah... STILL married. BTW... LOVE is a VERB.

[@DivineJacob-]

Hi, love your story ❤. How long have you guys been married for?

[@serenityssolace]

Damn the mom is wild. Glad you didn't take her seriously

[@jinjurbreadman]

So, I must assume that you are trying to make a point by saying that "love is a verb", but just to make sure, "love" can be both a verb and a noun. Example 1: "I love you." Here "love" is indeed functioning as a verb. Example 2: "My love for you has only grown over the years." Here "love" is a noun.

[@bagelz3359]

That's called the devouring mother complex, she's subconsciously trying to sabotage you due to jealousy that your life is better than hers. Don't misinterpret this, im not saying she's intentionally doing it, she's subconsciously doing it for reasons psychology can explain if you read about it.

[@latashalea944]

⁠​⁠@@AlaskanmanIkr! The nerve of them to say things like that. They don’t know what’s best for you. They say things like that because either they’re jealous or don’t like that you’re happy. If the spouse isn’t abusive, cheater, etc why wouldn’t she want to marry a man like that?! I guess as long he has money, stay with him at all costs. It sad what mothers, aunts, etc are teaching their daughters these days.

[@heleneyoung9631]

Totally agree. My husband and I became friends in grade school. We really liked each other as people and enjoyed hanging out together. We knew each other's boy and girlfriends, friends and families. In our senoir year of high school, our friendship love blossomed into more. We married days turning 18 and 19. This year we will celebrate 51 years of marriage and 60 years of deep abiding love. God blessed us.

[@Nickjfreitas]

That is so great! Thank you for sharing!

[@OrangeCub14]

As a Muslim, I approve this message, and love the channel !!

[@ifyouloveChristyouwillobeyhim]

You must repent and be saved by Jesus Christ!

[@knastera]

@@ifyouloveChristyouwillobeyhim- you literally ensured the Muslim person will never come to Christ. I was going to compliment him and mention that there are many things Christians and Muslims share. You need to take an inventory of how to be an ambassador for Christ because what you just did is not the way to do the important job of evangelism. To Muslim person making the initial comment, I apologize for my Christian brother's boorish ways.

[@BabushkaTwerking]

​@@knasteraright!? It's like me saying YOU MUST REPENT AND SUBMIT TO ALLAH! BECOME MUSLIM NOW!!!! Like it won't work that way😂

[@Carolinejoyamico]

As a person who respects other beliefs, even though I’m strong in my own, I approve your message, Mr. Tekin. I’m Christian, but I’ve spent some time learning about all the Abrahamic religions, and I’m sending you a big: “MARHABA” 👋 from Missouri, USA. Qudusson Allah. Qudusson el Kawi. Qudusson el Ladi. La yamut irhamna. I hope my spelling makes sense. We sang that Arabic hymn in my church, when I attended with a bunch of Syrians. ☮️

[@Carolinejoyamico]

@@knasteraI’m HOPING it was a computer bot, trying to stir religious trouble. Christians shouldn’t act like that. I was thinking about it, and it might be a bot.

[@patriotmama]

My husband and I dated the last two years we were in HS. We got married young. I was 18, he was 19 and in the Army. Ready to go to OCS and then on to Flight School learned to fly helicopters, then off to war. Yes, it was hard and stressful, but we never looked back. That experience alone made us realize never to take the other for granted. We then raised three children and now have 16 gorgeous grandchildren. We celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary this past June. Like you, the people that told us it would never work are divorced now. In fact, there are many couples our age that we have known over the years that are now divorced. You are so correct. Maturity has a LOT to do with it. That, and a lot of work, patience, love, understanding, kindness, respect for the other person, laughter, and intimacy. We are each others best friend. I adore my hubby and he adores me and that is all that matters. And btw, yes, we were told by many at the time, "you are way too young to be married" OR "we give it a year, it will never work".

[@karenk2409]

You have hit the jackpot of life!

[@graceclark3481]

That's freaking sick what people said to you,!

[@xingzheli7431]

Each of your children had at least 5 children on average?

[@vernontorrence4407]

Wife and l got married at 20 in 1982. 41 years later we are still with each other. Maturity level is a great point. Realizing how much commitment is involved in a marriage is paramount to making it work in the long term. Thinking of the other is extremely important in virtually every situation. Marriage IS a very adult way of life. It's the ending of ME and the beginning of WE! Supporting and helping each other is the secret of a long marriage and it takes mature thinking to make it work.

[@ashertosaka9006]

That’s so beautiful! I have to be honest, I need some advice. Any advice on what the maturity to make such a beautiful marriage work looks like?

[@vernontorrence4407]

@@ashertosaka9006 And, l will be honest with you, l dont know that there is a one fits all answer. But what would l look for? I personally would look for towards a first born child. (Wife and l both are). Reason: first borns have usually in one way or another had to help take care of younger siblings. This alone helps to teach responsibility at a young age. Someone who grew up with animals, maybe still has animals. You can see in an instant how they treat and/or take care of them. That's a another good sign of responsiblity. I truely believe that responsibility and maturity are two sides of the same coin. Something off the wall here, are they spending their own money or Mom and Dads? A person who has their own money will usually be more mature as they more likely strive to be independent. And they will take better care of it if they earned it! Other than that l wouldn't know what else to say 'cause again everyone is different. Every situation is different. I do know for sure that maturity has nothing to do with age or education or intelligence. I wish you well!

[@ashertosaka9006]

@@vernontorrence4407 Many thanks!

[@AE-pv9vc]

Got married at 22, she was 20. Only person i have ever dated or been with. Been married 14 years. Went through a deployment, had four kids, started a non-profit to preach the gospel oversees. We've not lived near family since we got married, but God has provided and we are blessed. Not only that, we've come to the same level of connection as you describe. When you're ready, you're ready and you're only truly ready when the foundation is built on something that will last. I contend that without Jesus changing hearts to be selfless, it is a miracle people stay together at all, but miracles happen :). Great video

[@noel56879]

it absolutely depends on the person I got married at 23 she was 21. She cheated on me twice, she radically changed her personality over time compared to when I met her, and changed her spiritual beliefs and everything. I got divorced at 28 To think that there is a correct answer is stupid. It obviously there is no answer because its completely diferent for every couple. Sometimes you should get married young. Sometimes not. To be honest, I would prefer a woman who is at least above 26/27 for the reason that the brain and the personality is more settled by that time. Some people still are creating their personality and lifestyle in their early 20s, and you don't know how radically diferent that person can become over time. People tend to transform less when they are a bit older, so to me its safer . But we are not in this life to play is save, we are here to live and take risks, dare to take chances... so I would say everyone should do what they decide is right for themselves. I do regret my marriage but in my case I was too immature to choose well

[@AE-pv9vc]

@noel56879 sorry that was your experience. That's partly why I said, "you're ready when you're ready." I think we both agree a specific age does not mean someone is ready. Hope your next go around is full of richness and a healthy relationship.

[@toddtobydad2]

Agree 💯! My wife and I have been married 24 years as well and I was 20 and she was 18 when we got married. We've had an amazing life together and I can't imagine missing out on that just to have meaningless experiences with randoms. We have tried to train our kids with that same mindset, a real life is finding the one you're meant to spend it with and then committing. Age does not matter, maturity does. And it's great advice to tell them ask the big questions first. Thank you Sir for making this video!

[@gailcarey3597]

I am I glad you are speaking in this. My granddaughter got engaged last week. Neither she or her fiancé gave dated anyone else. In fact, her step father had to give her boyfriend the courage to kiss her after dating a year. He is a second year teacher. She is graduating next May with a double major. Each of them have taken on some serious life struggles and they are so equally yoked it didn’t phase them. It is remarkable. This is a Godly union and I’m thrilled for them.

[@Elizabethartz0087]

Would have been married at 23 but he died. Ended up marrying at 25 and about to celebrate our 11th anniversary. We met, got married, had a baby, and moved all within a year. Everyone said we were crazy. We are the only ones who are still married. We have been through every hardship you could imagine, even almost losing a child to an accident. We are closer today than ever.

[@khensanimakgatholelathyati3918]

Hi Elizabeth, despite the persecution you have faced in your life. You have made it through the hardships and you're still continuing to this day.

[@graceclark3481]

Crazy to get married at 25?? What the hell is wrong with society? 25 is a great age to get married! I'm so glad you didn't listen to any of them. I'm convinced that modern society is so evil that when they see two people that are perfectly happy, they want to destroy their happiness. I am so glad that you two made it work with your dedication. Love is not enough, dedication and commitment will make anything work!

[@jimbearone]

Everyone I know who got married young stayed married for the rest of their lives, they grew together and suffered and went through hard times and great times and they learned to lean on each other and trust each other no matter how bad things got there was no comparison between “Old Flames” and no jealousy. Most of the people who lived together and slept around and got married later got divorced, not all of them but MOST OF THEM.

[@brianmead7556]

That’s strange, that’s exact opposite of the sociological data regarding marriages. Getting married under 20 quadruples the odds of divorce. And it’s even worse from a strong religious background. No, you’re not in love and haven’t found the one you’re two horny kids that wanna bang. I think that makes you think you found the one is they are at not un attractive, and willing to bang you.

[@michellewinkler3985]

Love these stories! Married 37 years. 3 sons. Married at 21 and 22. Dated 4 years before marriage, finished college then got married. Be partners no matter what! Learn and grow together! Never go to bed mad! Keep the same financial plans and goals! Make a date night once a week even if you have kids! If you marry young you grow up together. If you marry later it might be harder because some are already "set in their ways"!

[@sethruter]

Just seeing your channel & as a recently retired Army veteran a BIG THANK YOU & you’re SPOT ON here!! I married when I was 19 coming out of Basic Training & we celebrated 22yrs this yr with 4 children & she was with me throughout my whole career & my wife endured 5 deployments FTX’s etc, military marriage life is truly unique & has its own sets of challenges but none I’d trade, except being home more with my wife & children. We loved moving from state to state together, home is wherever we are TOGETHER! Thanks for what you do brother

[@ELOAAMinistries]

This is the best marriage "PEP talk" I have heard so far in life!

[@slchambers1]

Got married at 22 and 20 and just celebrated 46 years together. Never spent the night until our honeymoon. Old folks

[@LoriPeace]

This is so SO good. I love you saying that that marriage is not the end of the adventure, because it isn't. I don't know that I would say it's the beginning of it, but it's definitely the beginning of a new chapter in the adventure, and how great to have it with the person you love. I didn't meet my husband until we were both in our mid-30s, first marriage for both of us, and I'm glad that I waited for him.

[@susanlane8803]

Yep we got married in our early 20’s and still going strong 39 years later, if you’re right for each other, you’re right forever!

[@Hearth123]

I was 19, husband was 21, almost a decade together and 3 kids and so glad I married him. I love that we built our entire adult lives from the ground up together. I feel like we're connected in a truly profound way. We were both virgins at the altar. He's the only man I've ever even kissed. My husband is my best friend and I can't imagine life without him.

[@kwazooplayingguardsman5615]

Ah, a beautiful christian marriage. God be with you, sister, your example brings hope.

[@noel56879]

it absolutely depends on the person when its the right time to get married there is no one right answerr that fits everyone I got married at 23 she was 21. She cheated on me twice, she radically changed her personality over time compared to when I met her, and changed her spiritual beliefs and everything. I got divorced at 28 To think that there is a correct answer is stupid. It obviously there is no answer because its completely diferent for every couple. Sometimes you should get married young. Sometimes not. To be honest, I would prefer a woman who is at least above 26/27 for the reason that the brain and the personality is more settled by that time. Some people still are creating their personality and lifestyle in their early 20s, and you don't know how radically diferent that person can become over time. People tend to transform less when they are a bit older, so to me its safer . But we are not in this life to play is save, we are here to live and take risks, dare to take chances... so I would say everyone should do what they decide is right for themselves. I do regret my marriage but in my case I was too immature to choose well

[@Hearth123]

@@noel56879 I agree that it depends on the person, but I think buy and large we should be teaching our children to prepare themselves for marriage and to be making that a priority in their youth. Not a priority to be furiously looking for anyone to marry you, but preparing yourself for marriage in a real way and looking for people who are doing the same. Personally, I always recommend that single people get connected with their churches and volunteer a lot because you'll meet other people who volunteer. I met my husband when we were both volunteering at a Christian outreach camp. It's true that there is no perfect age for everyone, but I think there is a reason Proverbs 5 says "Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth." It is a blessing when you can grow your lives together. My dad was well into his thirties when he married my mom and she still left us so waiting doesn't solve it either, it's a matter of maturity. Overall I don't think we really disagree, we just have different emphases because of our different experiences. I'm sorry you went through that.

[@graceclark3481]

​@@noel56879I am so sorry your wife treated you that way. That was evil. And I'm sure she will suffer consequences for that. However, you are entering a dangerously, unbiblical zone when you say that everyone should do as they see right. There's another word for that sir, it is called moral relativity. The Bible says there is a right and a wrong way. And that people who think they are following the right way as their human perspective sees it, will actually find Death. I know you've been hurt. But don't let your bitterness and experience make you think that everyone must experience what you did. Yes, we should warn our children about the dangers dating the wrong people. But you run the risk of leading children astray, by having such a negative outlook on relationships. I can tell you, I have run through quite a bit of bad men. For over 10 years I dated, and I have been disappointed over and over. I could have let it make me think that men were no good. That getting married was for chumps. But I didn't. Because I had faith in God, that God could give me the right man! I follow God's way the entire time, and I have been blessed. I think you need to find that same God.

[@debracaron8993]

Got married at 19 as well. Lasted 50 years

[@callmefry3385]

😭😭😭😭

[@jpaulis292]

That's so awesome! Good for you 🥰. We are 20 years in and still madly in love.

[@robedmund9948]

33 years married. 35 together. 24 and 21 respectively. Age is just a number. Not always an accurate predictor is success.

[@DamslettesSIMP]

I'm happy for you, gramps

[@jpaulis292]

@@DamslettesSIMP No need to be rude.

[@waleedkhalid7486]

I think it’s important to mention that marriage is not about finding the one who you love the most. That can be anyone, and love can fizzle out. Its why the divorce rate is what it is. It’s about finding someone who shares your core values because at the end of the day you will stick with someone more when you agree on how to raise your kids over how they wear their hair.

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

Honestly love is the only reason to marry.

[@nimvin]

When you say "love can fizzle out," I think you're talking about initial physical attraction. But attraction and chemistry DOES play a role in good relationships - it's just not the whole story. Ultimately, finding someone who shares your values AND for whom you have some attraction is the goal. But I do agree that failing that, opting for shared values is the next best thing. However, physical intimacy with someone who does not attract you at all is a tough way to go, and IMO should be a last resort.

[@dod2304]

@@AmazingStoryDewd Not sure how old you are but I think most people will say that initial feeling of being in love, can't stop thinking about that person, only wanting to spend time with them, fades with time. It's a biological response for perpetuating procreation . We are still biological creatures/ mammals. I'm not saying you "fall out of love" but love changes. Hopefully, with having the same goals and seeing yourselves as a team will be the foundation for deepening your love and feeling of intimacy. Intimacy and trust are more important than heart pounding IMHO. You need to know that you truly like that person for who they are. That even without that physical attraction, you'd still want to spend a lot of time with them. That you care about them in their darkest moments and when they're sick..maybe for a long time..and not as "attractive" as you find them now, you still are inlove because you love their soul.

[@graceclark3481]

People also misunderstand that just because the Love has faded, it doesn't mean it can't come back. If you guys don't spend any time together, yeah it'll fade! The best relationships don't survive well without effort! Also, it is emotionally irresponsible to rely on your spouse to make you happy 100% of the time, and if he's not then you must divorce. You're right, you should share the same core values and beliefs. But love and commitment should still be The binding agent.

[@kgood9293]

Married my husband only one month after graduating high school. Was told we were crazy the whole year prior while we were engaged. We will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary this coming July. I love him more now than the day we were married & would have never thought that would even be possible. Jesus is the very core & foundation of our relationship & I can’t even begin to describe the depth & richness He has given us in our marriage. It wasn’t always that way so I can attest to the dramatic difference. We had a great relationship before (of course not without some struggles) but now we have a great relationship on a whole different level (of course not without struggles). To say I’m thankful & blessed doesn’t even begin to cover it. Getting married young has allowed us the ability to GROW TOGETHER, not grow separately then try to weave ourselves together.. and our 4 daughters, 2 sons in law and 2 grand babies are the most precious gifts God has given us in the process so far ❤

[@graceclark3481]

Bless you and your husband! My sister and her husband married my sister and her husband married at 20 and 22 years old, and I was so proud of them! We were never discouraged from marrying young, thank God our mother is solid. It's always so heartwarming to see people from high school staying married to their spouse! The media should highlight those stories, not the stories of divorce

[@lindayoung2959]

You are lucky. same thing happened to me. But 2 and a 1/2 years later, we were divorced because he cheated on me and liked to beat me.

[@travisfitzner5067]

I was 21, my wife was 19. We were engaged for a little over a year. (I proposed at her highschool graduation party.) We've will be married 26yrs in 1½ weeks. This whole video is SPOT ON!!

[@decadude8968]

Me and my wife were married at 21. Sure we weren't financially too well off, we had personal issues we had to deal with, and we struggled. But there's one thing I can confidently say, we wouldn't be the people we are today if we never got married. That's the thing about marriage, it's an adventure. And to me I would much rather enjoy being on an adventure with my best friend in the world then by myself. And the ending comments you make are spot on. Having deep and important conversations early on in a relationship are key. By the time me and my wife had been together 3 months, we had already agreed on faith, having kids, parenting strategies, baby names, where we wanted to live, etc. It amazes me how so many couples never talk about all those things before getting married.

[@patriciaotuma3531]

They are caught up in romance and falling in love.

[@saram9423]

Tell me about it. Whenever I like someone and want to start something more I always ask them deep and important questions and I know it's hard, but if your not asking early then you might waste time.

[@patriciaotuma3531]

As I say they are caught up in falling in love and romance.

[@wendybird5104]

Everyone should watch this video, even those that aren’t married yet. You should ask the important questions that he talks about. And be honest !

[@danielaparcel2647]

Married at 24, which is young but not young enough that anyone said anything negative to me about it. I'm 28 now and have learned in the short time I've been married that being married isn't hard like a lot of people claim. You just go through a lot of hard things as you mature and if you have to go through those things with the wrong person, it's gonna feel even harder.

[@karlstrauss2330]

Early to mid-20s is ideal

[@countrysunshinegal3038]

Thank you for saying these truths, especially coming from a strong man. My son is marrying his girlfriend of three years, he's 22, and they call each other their best friend, they've had the opportunity to experience building a life together, one they are both involved in. They've built a little home, he helps and supports her with her love of horses, she helps and supports him with his love of hunting, and of course the list goes on. Due to a real legitimate issue she has with her body digesting certain foods, he says, if she can't have it, I can't have it. They are truly becoming one flesh, putting the others needs first. I raised 4 boys and a girl, my oldest, my daughter, married at 20, and they have a beautiful 3 year old son. I raised my boys telling them "women are not strictly for your viewing pleasure, they are someone's sister, daughter, aunt, friend, they are people, not products", and the way my husband treats me has been a positive relationship they could look up to. You said all the things I have told my boys. Wouldn't you rather show your children that their father loved one woman with all his heart, than to show them the list of women who aren't their mother.

[@drlca6601]

Swayze's wife couldn't have his kids, so he said no kids. I'll always respect him for that.

[@marnaday4596]

Got married at 19 and going on 30 years!

[@Skimmers1495]

I think it’s important to consider that no one wants to get divorced. Yet marriage is a 50/50 chance today. If that statistic was on anything else, most people wouldn’t do it. But, I’m so glad it’s worked out for you and others.

[@nonap5225]

My husband was 19 and I was18 when we got married. Everyone said we were too young. Well we have been married 61 years and 5 months. We would do it all over again. Raised a daughter and a son. Now have a granddaughter and 2 grandsons and 2 great grandsons. We have seen other people we knew who married years after we did who divorced. Looking forward to many more years together. From deep southeast Mississippi.

[@Raiders_United]

Me and my wife married at the age of 25. We were told we were too young and we should wait until we were the age of 30. Well, me and my wife are in our early 30s now and still happily married. Maturity, trust, commitment, unconditional love, and God is what makes a marriage successful. Thanks for sharing this video. God bless brother.

[@tjotts6802]

Amen brother!! I've been giving this advice for a long time based upon the fact that I married my wife when she was 20, and I was a 22 yr old Sgt in the USAF, and we discussed all the same topics as we felt were being called into marriage with each other. We were told all the same things by people who are no longer married as we celebrate our 34th anniversary and we are still best friends going through the adventure of life. We also get to enjoy our three grandchildren while we are young and healthy because we gave this same advice to our daughter and the man who was courting her while they were in College. They were married when they were both 22, and 8 years later their marriage keeps getting stronger and stronger. Thank you for getting this message out there for all to hear. It is 💯 percent accurate!!

[@jeepgurl1379]

Amen! I agree. My son is 27 and has been told the same thing(sow wild oats first). We knew once he got to puberty we/he’d face the cultural naysayers. For us it’s the Lord’s way, all the way. He understands to be intentional in meeting a young lady and they need to be liked-minded. I thank God for his self-control.

[@belindaatkinson1945]

I can't even put into words how this video made me feel. this topic is so heavily argued upon, and this gave it one simple answer. The inability to understand this concept pains me in knowing some people will never truly experience love and life to its fullest capability in harmony. Life is already against you in so many aspects but enduring that with basically your best friend and supporter. Take the saying ride or die with a grain of salt.

[@fatemakw9990]

Love this. This is how we do it as Muslims - have the right conversations up front, no cheap relationships… intimacy is for marriage. This is what all God’s religions teach… I don’t know how society has strayed so far away from it! Thanks for sharing!

[@myurbangarden7695]

Good point

[@CarsonS_Gaming]

Jesus is the way the truth and the life, repent and believe in Jesus you won’t regret it.

[@disagiato9391]

Lies lies lies in Your religion you have Mutah and secret Marriage

[@salma-vl2qf]

@@disagiato9391 idk what u mean by mutah but secret marriage is explicitly forbidden. if a man wants to take up a second wife, which he can only do is he is able to treat both equally, he must get the permission of his first wife. that is the law, and if someone does anything other than that then they are in sin.

[@miamoon69]

@@salma-vl2qfno point wasting time explaining to a kafir, for some reason they seem to think they know more about islam than muslim lol.

[@heatherjohnson1569]

I was 19 my husband was 23. We have been married 15 years and going strong. I would agree with marrying young, but smart. I interviewed my husband on our dates. I told him from the get go as I did the other guys I dated. That I date to find out if I want to marry you or not. I don't date just to goof off and put my emotions out there to be trampled. We dated 6 months, were engaged 6 months and have been married since. People need to approach dating with intentionality and find someone with similar values as you.

[@tianamarie989]

4 months after marrying my husband we decided to get pregnant and we were successful by month 6. This relates to the video because we were told not to have a baby so soon after marriage, enjoy your time together. Youll miss this time alone. Yada yada. We were together for 6 years prior to getting married, had a wedding for about 3 thousand dollars and baby soon after. Another 7 years later and we're still together. Love each other more everyday. Yes theres been downs but they pale in comparison to our highs 😊(we have 2 boys)

[@Huldah4cs]

Nick, you are so on point…on every point. We met at ages 15 & 17, married at 18 & 20 (crazy in love and mutual attraction) and here we are 55 years later, still going strong. We also built our marriage on our faith in the Lord. We’ve had to deal with the usual problems (money, in-laws etc.), but never infidelity or abuse. We raised our children in the faith as well. And yes, the wedding is not the marriage. I’ve found that the more ridiculously extravagant the wedding ceremony is, the quicker the divorce. We were poor and had a simple, “God bless us in this union of commitment to one another” type ceremony.We had a little cake and punch, and that was it. We pledged ourselves to one another and to let NO ONE put us “asunder.” Yes, we were young, but we knew we had each found “the one.”

[@robedmund9948]

Age is far less important than the maturity of the people involved. I've know 19 year olds who were far more mature than some 30 and 40 year olds. The ability to commit is also VERY important.

[@Rmaxx13]

I got married at 19 while I was in the military, and after 40 years it's still going.

[@mcdonie1975]

We were married when I was 22 and she 19..... And we still are 26 years later. No body counts, just love and commitment. Kids need more examples like this.

[@boohoo4248]

Married at 18 , now 30 and divorced my society considers Me as equivalent as to a prostitute, thank god my father exists her helped me to go back and study,now I have a job. Marrying young can be a good thing to mamy but the worst thing for lots of people

[@IvanBarsch]

My parents got married at 25 (dad) and 18 (mom) 23 years in and they’re still going strong.

[@myurbangarden7695]

To each their own. We were 24 and 26, but there are couples who get married in their 30's and 40's who are happy too.

[@user-bo3dc3bu4u]

You conviced me man! Everybody i talked to said the same thing that we are to young. Refreshing to hear something else

[@AudreyLMcFarland]

One of the best "talks" - and the most honest, realistic, and practical.

[@renamaemcdonald2075]

We were both 19 when we were married as well. We will be celebrating 40 yrs on October 1. There's been some hard times like everyone goes through, but I don't regret marrying my best friend & a great husband! We both learned to be responsible at an early age. That's what many people are not raised with anymore imo. The priest said during the wedding ceremony that my husband would be out drinking with his buddies & I would be watching blue movies at home within 6 months. 😂 We are Christians who don't drink or watch junk.

[@JacksonCampbell]

Good on you. I'm surprised there was a priest there.

[@lilyw.719]

@@JacksonCampbell The woman is a Catholic who was married by a Catholic priest in a Catholic Church. Catholics are the original Christians, FYI - in fact, St. Iraneaus, a disciple of St. John the Evangelist and also a Father of the Church, said in the year 109 that no one may call themselves a Christian who is a heretic outside of the Catholic Church, because they don't truly follow Christ and His teachings. That's an actual quote that you can look up on his Wikipedia page. And yes, he referred specifically to the Catholic Church. That was the first known recorded reference to the Catholic Church. If you actually read the Church Fathers, you would see that their beliefs were Catholic, that the earliest Christians were Catholic, and that there is little to no support for Protestant ideas among the writings of the early Christians and the Church Fathers, Hoover all clearly Catholic and who held the same beliefs that the Catholic Church does now. Dr. Scott Hahn gives interviews in-depth on this subject.

[@JacksonCampbell]

​@@lilyw.719That's not true. Christians are people who follow Jesus and the Bible. Catholics follow some of Jesus and some of the Bible and don't follow the rest, making up their own doctrines. This woman said they don't drink, which Catholics do, so that's why I asked why a priest was there.

[@lectro5418]

Awesome vid. I've never regretted getting married at 19. I started dating my wife at 17 and have never looked back. You expressed it wonderfully whe you said "Home is where Tina is"! I'm sure she would say the same. My wife and I are celebrating our 50th anniversary next month. Lord willing. The wisdom you share isn't very common nowadays. Neither is common sense. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@GrandmatoRVSGCM]

My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We were both 16 when we met. We didn’t marry until the weekend after my 21sr birthday. He is only 10 months older than I am. Here we are 41 years later (36 years married) and we are as in love and happy as we were back then. We had people tell us we were too young too. In fact my cousin tried to talk me out of it just minutes before the ceremony! We have four amazing children and 5 grand children and one more due any day now. We have grown together even more over the years and a lot of those nay sayers are divorced or in really unhappy marriages themselves. None of that matters, what does is we were clear on day one of what our commitment to each other was and we did everything in our power to make this marriage work and we still do and we love each other deeper for it!

[@evage99]

I'm sad that "sexual compatibility" is such a huge factor for people when deciding who to marry. Love isn't sex. Marriage isn't sex. At some point, the sex is going away. Hopefully just due to old age (and maybe not! I don't need to know yet!) but there are who-knows-how-many things that can temporarily - or permanently - remove sex from the relationship. And then what? Maybe everything else falls apart, because you used "Who can give me the biggest oxytocin hit" on your marital checklist. Sex is something to have with the person you've fallen in love with (after marriage), not something you use to determine if you're in love. "Progressive" culture is stupid. ETA: I've also become sad that I can only "like" this video once. Well stated, sir.

[@roxyroller9268]

I forward the posts you and Tina make on relationships and marriage to my young adult children to hear from adults that are not their parents the sound advice you two offer. I hope you two know how important your voices are to these younger generations. 😊

[@Nickjfreitas]

Thank you very much for letting us know! It really is encouraging!

[@Capitan_Doug_Keith]

I've been married for two years, no kids (yet) and I can say I', very happy. The only thing I wish was different is I wish I wasn't dumb as a post. I was a great soldier, (I commanded an airborne platoon in Germany and a company stateside) but when I got out I was back where I was before ROTC. All my life I've been told I'm stupid and been prescribed with four different medications over time since I was 12 and yet now I run my own business, and it's thanks to you that i stopped going on medicine and got my act together. Still dealing with the post-Army depression, but my wife and co-workers have gotten me through it. Much love from Texas, and I hope you run for president

[@karlstrauss2330]

Early to mid-20s is the ideal time to get married. Young enough to be idealistic and open to new experiences while also mature enough to deal with the challenges that marriage can face you.

[@Mallory1961]

We got married at 22 and my sister in law asked 1 week before we got married if we were sure we were going to get married because they didn’t have the gas money to waste. We have been married for 13 years now. Sister-in-law and brother-in-law are not happily married most of the time.

[@TLStitches]

Amen! Maturity and commitment are key! Married when I was 18 and he was almost 20, 41 years ago next month. We have a big loving family and all 4 of our adult children are married and have families of their own. We had some of the same negativity about getting married young, but we're so glad we ignored it.

[@jasonscott6906]

Great video Nick, I couldn’t agree with you more , me and my wife got married in 97, I was 20 and my was 18 and we celebrated 26 years and just like you said a lot of people that though we were too young aren’t married themselves anymore. She’s my wife and best friend. Thank you for your service.

[@marygibbons2099]

Lovely message. I wish more men with this mindset would give talks in schools. The young people need to hear this. Thank you.

[@OrigamiMaster06]

I feel like the most important point isn't age but instead, a full comprehensive mature understanding of who you are and what you want. People are advised not to get married young because oftentimes young people lack the maturity to actually understand what exactly they want. I think fully defining this for yourself sooner rather than later is always beneficial not just in love but in everything. How do you wanna live? What type of lifestyle do you wanna live? What type of career do wanna do? What makes you happy? They're all very important questions that you should know the answer to as soon as possible.

[@eodmax85]

😂😂😂 Love this! My wife and I got married at 23 and 33 respectively. I escaped the Big Green Weenie about a year before we were hitched and my wife got the same schtick from a gaggle o hens before we tied the knot (she's too young, he's too old, he's a player, he's a vet, you aren't good enough for him, etc.) All of them are divorced (or still single and miserable) now. Sidenote, the couples that gave us the thumbs up are all still married! 😂😂😂 Almost like misery loves company and so does bliss; look out for this ladies!

[@NicoleK8]

I was 19 & he was 22. We talked a lot about our faith, world view, things that mattered, before we even started dating. We were by no means super mature, but the areas that mattered, we agreed on. We've been married 20 years now and life wouldn't have been as colorful or full if we hadn't gone through those years together. All the real dangers of marrying young end up being the same as marrying later in life, because the thing that's super important (the person's long-term character) can only be tested through living together (married, not just lip service promises of commitment).

[@addisonlumadue8497]

I feel like this isn’t talked about as much! Love this! My husband and I got married at 20 and 22!! We’re 1.5 years strong and loving every moment of building our life together. Still got decades to go and we’re excited to grow old together ❤️🥰

[@christownsend7602]

I was 19 and my wife was 20. I was going to school and didn't own a thing, but we got married, almost 54 years later it is still working very well for us. Best decision I ever made.😊

[@Chooge]

When you go into it because you truly love the person, you have a relationship with God, you have the intent to stay married, to not run when life gets hard and you have tribulations, you have a fighting chance. Too many people have the attitude that they will just run when it gets hard. Those people start out with an intent to fail.

[@patrickbracken7580]

Wow! That was extremely compelling. I knew that when I was 18 and no one believed me. They told me/us they same misguided B.S. that you mentioned. I lost the love of my life to that type of indoctrination from her parents, friends, and the sick secular culture we live in. We wanted to get married young and we had that exact conversation that you mentioned about our goals for the future etc. We agreed on everything. Her parents moved her to another state as she was just short of 18 and... well you know the rest. I've never found that kind of love and compatibility since. I'm in my 60s now and still wish we would have eloped. True love never dies.

[@JeffChester-jq4xq]

My parents are 91 and 92. I'm the last.. the tenth child born.. 45 niece and nephews. Dad left High School as a Junior, to join the Army and OCS school.. Mom and Dad got married after he got back from the Korean War. 51-53, as he was the officer in charge on OldBaldy, Hill 266 and Pork Chop at 18-19 years old.He spoke of his metals, and horrors, and battles one time, at 85yrs old. He vowed after his combat mission..to make Love, Never War again.. they've had an amazing Adventure. He wanted to get married before he deployed!!!

[@rosethorn0232]

Yes absolutely. It's about growing together as people, and honestly it teaches you how to be an adult too. It's insane that some people refer to college students in their 20s as "kids" nowadays (and many of them act like kids too). Before the last few decades, those same people would be married with full time jobs, a house, and maybe already have a child.