Should You Let Kids Come to Your Wedding if They're Family?

[@jayvon96]

Hell no, don't invite those spoiled kids. If you want a child free, let it be child free across the board.

[@Megan-bt9pm]

Assuming the story that these kids have ruined other events is true as told, then yeah bride is NTA. It would have been a tough call already, but that tips the scale for me. It's impossible to know though if OP made it up though or embellished in order to look more sympathetic, but the same can be said of any of these stories. Because of that, I'm taking it at face value.

[@beccablueeyes99]

If you want a child free wedding, then you should have one. My friend did. My little sister wasn't invited. She has known my sis since she was born and sis was 17 and 1/2 years old. But she had a rule so that no matter what, nobody could say something later on about it.

[@yumekoslefttoenail6746]

lol idk, 17 and a half isnt a child at that point.

[@Kyosumari]

@@yumekoslefttoenail6746 Sure buddy

[@m_here1]

I think cultural differences change the answer to this question a lot. For example, I’m Jewish: there are always children at Jewish weddings because Jewish families can be pretty big with lots of siblings. I have a lot of siblings and a ton of first cousins. At the very least, the young children in the bride’s and groom’s families will be there. And then if a lot of your guests have children (which a lot will) their kids might be invited. It still varies a lot, but Jewish events will typically have someone’s child there. To illustrate this further, I didn’t know child-free weddings were a thing until I became an adult.

[@sillymunchkins4life]

Just get married and don't invite anyone...that's the way you do it to avoid every type of unnecessary drama.

[@Ilovepalmtrees-cx5ms]

Exactly thank you

[@Dave-cw2mj]

If you dont want children at your wedding, you don't have to have children at your wedding. Literally the only time I could ever see the bride as the asshole in this situation is if they get anrgy at guests for not coming because they had to take care of their children. As a bride or groom if you dont want children at your wedding, thats fine but you also need to realize that certain guests wont be able to come because they cant find a babysitter. The OP in this post does not fit this though, as she specifically said she'd help the mother find childcare.

[@smallcapy]

i dont think i would ever get married bcs my relatives all have beef with each other and i cannot picture them being in the same room for an entire day lol

[@thebreakdownartist9260]

I stupidly thought they would put it aside, my brother isn’t coming, non of my mum’s siblings are coming and 3 of my cousins aren’t coming. Kids wise we said please come we out in lawn games and colouring books, they are family and we’re kid people

[@Justinya0]

Get married and don't invite anyone, it's that simple. You save money (cause no reception) and nobody ruins your wedding.

[@zinc8002]

you can get married with whoever you want around, don’t let this stop you, you don’t even have to invite them.

[@Ivy-Aut]

I really underestimated the family politics. Our families are mostly chill people and are both not so involved in the decisions we make in our lifes. But I realized when it comes to my wedding, they all seem have an opinion on who to invite or not.

[@AngiDas]

I have older kids( 21 and 14) and I support the bride.

[@TheLilyMustang]

The only kids invited to my wedding is my son & his best friend who is my best friend from high school daughter. They will be our flower children and when planning it my son ask my for his friend to do it with him. As well as no one is paying but my husband & I.

[@tiffanyx8577]

I just want a dinner party in the woods. No politics, just love.

[@chantehayward6225]

If there is to be alcohol present, then children should not be there. It's to dangerous.

[@temari3646]

people always drink in front of kids. acting like alcohol is the devil will make your kids want to drink it more.

[@chantehayward6225]

@@temari3646 I was referring to adult getting drunk and not taking care of their children. If you wanna drink alcohol, that's fine. But first make sure your children aren't in danger. Which they could be with a group of unknown drunk people.

[@Kyosumari]

@@chantehayward6225 Sorry, but its not your responsibility to make someone else a good parent. If they decide to get drunk thats not on you for serving alcohol. When you become an adult, you'll realize that its a full time job just taking care of yourself and your own family - let alone investing energy into policing when another family has access to liquor. if you're worried about a parent getting drunk and not taking care of their child, then you should probably NOT invite that person and maybe call CPS....

[@Kyosumari]

So should children not go to restaurants then either? Alcohol is served in most establishments in the US. Try using your brain some more to really think about what you're saying.

[@chantehayward6225]

@@Kyosumari firstly, I am an adult. 27 to be precise. Second, if the wedding is children free then throwing a tantrum about your crotch goblins not attending is a clear disrespect. And finally, when people drink at restaurants, they don't tend to over do it and become a danger to others.

[@beardedham5983]

i would nevaaa have kids - children at my wedding !! hell no

[@omviv]

she mean