Showing Love To Narcissists Only Fuels Their Anger

[@oliveknaus]

The crazy thing about this is my ex covert narc used to say to me ALL the time “you don’t show me enough love” these demonic fools wouldn’t recognize love if it punched them in the face.

[@pn6528]

You can never fill a black hole.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Like trying to fill a cup with a hole in the bottom

[@oliveknaus]

@@TheRoyalWe I knew something was off the entire time we dated. After the initial love bomb was over I reduced my affection and my love because I didn’t feel loved by him and he definitely noticed the more he abused me the less love I gave until I finally discarded him I’m now 10 months narc free and loving life 🙌

[@oliveknaus]

@@pn6528 they can’t fill it themselves- thats their KARMA

[@treelover1050]

THEY SAY THEY LOVE US BUT DON'T KNOW THE REAL EMOTION.

[@Ston247]

Narcissists really don't know what to do with your love. They don't understand it.

[@shawnwarrynn8609]

People like him should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of teens and people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists and Narcissism or condoning Narcissists and Narcissism!

[@beaglerescue5281]

Giving them love is taken as an opportunity to crush your soul once again. You’re setting yourself up for a trauma moment. I’m a witness. The more I love and support my covert narcissist daughter the more she stomps on me. It’s quite fascinating learning about narcissism. I’m learning not to be offended and take it personal. I’m also learning to grey rock and expect nothing in return. My hope is finally gone which is a good thing.

[@ohdwight]

they are insane I have decided ;showing genuine concern for their well being fuels their rage against you

[@TheEnd-l8e]

I did not know that at first. I felt something inside her. I thought she was just sick from being hurt. She was good to me until the last few days.

[@Ston247]

@@TheEnd-l8e It's hard to see it until you've experienced it. Sounds like you "dodged a bullet" before committing yourself.

[@marykrause608]

One point that was not mentioned is the fact that narcissists see love, empathy, etc. as a manipulative attempt on your part to control them. Because this is how they “show love”. It’s only a manipulative tactic on their part. So that’s what they think you are doing and they resist any attempt at intimacy by you. I have 38 years of experience. I’m no longer with this twisted human.

[@rezinatebasshead]

that is a good insight... never really thought about it that way

[@Lyrielonwind]

Good point.

[@sand-and-asmr]

Wow 💯

[@Chasing70]

Thank you for this! You just taught me something important that I have been very confused about! 38 years here also. Congrats to both of us for our freedom!

[@bondjames652]

I've thought this before. That's why they never really appreciate anything.

[@BecketteW]

The Narc thinks, “If you love me, you must be trash, because I am trash.”

[@roxanne2977]

They only care when you don’t care. Better off without them! Thank you!

[@Unavailableforyourgames]

I realize that now

[@annettefabiano3578]

With a narcissistic person everything is a competition. They have to be the one in control. Sick power is their game. That's when I walk away.

[@dennisrobinson8008]

So much distance that You wouldn't even let them kiss your ass!

[@Sara-et8sn]

That's true

[@milsanna4364]

Mine was jealous of me being a good mom to our daughter. Competitions.... Anything I did frim his point of view was for my own gain and ambitions.... He used this even to leave us. With no contact. Pretending that I was the one who had issues.

[@dennisrobinson8008]

@@milsanna4364 what a sicko

[@djwendy]

@@milsanna4364 Same. What man needs to compete with his wife ?? Hello ??

[@nicj5354]

They know they are monsters. They think you're stupid for loving them.

[@Unavailableforyourgames]

😮

[@chamomiletea5424]

When I tried to help with encouraging words, prayers, finances, I was HATED UPON AND CURSED! I was called a “fake Christian.” Whaaaaat?! This is on the spiritual realm. Leaving them up to God.. not casting pearls before swine anymore!

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@barbaraburns1301]

Yes, it's what you get when you give freely of your time and resources. Same thing happened to me and my husband. Helping out a widowed covert narc "friend" of 25 years absolutely ruined our relationship with her. It's peobably all for the best. No good deed goes unpunished, as they say.

[@debbyn4647]

Yeah. Mine found out I had church scheduled online for online 1 hr no less. He threatened to leave, but I was supposed to accept violent video games and fights on cable for hours. SWINE.

[@luper432]

They have to use names to degrade you

[@luper432]

They hate your guts for no reason But there is a reason... And that is Control and Manipulation Without you even realizing it. "Yu are human and they are not^ You trust them but they don't trust you.

[@vittoriacolona]

I discovered that the fruit of the spirit 'love' just means that you accept someone. The key word is accept. Accept the fact that they are toxic and unpleasant. Leave them be to who they are and leave them alone.

[@borishudej691]

This is a great point!

[@nomudnolotusnodragonnogold]

Inner peace is priceless....🙏

[@cathylake9072]

We irritate their demons.

[@lisablount7578]

The bible says it this way "let him who is unjust be unjust still" Its all in a song by Johnny Cash called "When the Man Comes Around"

[@lisablount7578]

What if the Narc is a mental health professional and a bible person too ?

[@starseedone7486]

This is so true the more you show those demons love and empathy the more they want to stone ya to death. These people are demons, run!

[@sonnywilliams7743]

Empathy really boils their blood cause they don't have that ability its not in their traits

[@marisamartin3664]

No - but full of demons.

[@emilystevens6335]

My son was treated badly many times in the world when he was open, honest and a good person. I think now he has developed into a narcissist as a defense mechanism and keeps his guard up around everyone.

[@lynneburridge9082]

Omg your comment truly shocked me. Very frightening. Do you think it's their up bringing?

[@lynneburridge9082]

@starseedone. Your comment shocked me. Omg glad you're ok. Just ruthless pathetic bullies.

[@patriciadubosky718]

Such an important message: "love your enemies" doesn't mean they'll become your friend.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes!

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

Love them from the distance, mean pray for them to find peace. Do not hate them, cause they're humans too, regardless of how they are as characters. We are all creatures from God, nobody knows where they can end up in their lives. But for your own sake DISTANCE is the keyword

[@charmainenduku8225]

I am so exhausted from my ex who was in denial for being this or anything . I e decided no contact and go on to heal with God !!! It’s too much alot of damage . I value my life .

[@charmainenduku8225]

@@jasminasinanbegovic6225 it’s so hard that may because I haven’t healed yet , so maybe when I heal the forgiveness and pray will come I’m angry right now since it’s so fresh .

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

@@charmainenduku8225 maybe if you start with forgiving yourself first for choosing that person, that one is on you. Ignoring red flags as well, cause they were also probably there. Taking responsibility for those part will make you less angry. Forgive yourself first for not doing better and take a long time to heal, hurry nowhere. Connect with God firmly. That's a good start.

[@nelsonvargas9527]

The narcissist consumes alot of their energy on trying not to break out of character .

[@wandaad]

I think if you keep loving them, you fuel their shame. They know that you know who they really are and they are deeply ashamed (that's why they develop a narc personality in the first place, as a shield) and now that you stay loving, you are obviously 'the better person' in the equation and they can't stand it because now they feel even more ashamed, in the face of a good person. They want to be adored, not humbled.

[@SweetColo]

This is such a great statement ❤

[@brendatanner1259]

yes, Dr David Hawkins Map of Consciousness, shame and guilt at the very bottom. Even below anger.

[@winnieamar9368]

What a wonderful perspective. Saving this to remind me from time to time

[@phabebarcelona863]

Interestingly accurate

[@teresarenee3829]

truth.

[@tonyharden7159]

If you want a narcisist to care for you then you have to disrespect them and, basically. let them know you don't want them. Narcissists cherish ill treatment. I am a victim of a few narcissists and I stopped playing those games years ago.

[@jkies11]

Oh, my goodness. YES! I'm a 70 year old raised by a narcissistic mother, who can turn an entire house full of people against me without a word. No one dares to confront her, question her or disagree with her opinion of me. I am the family truth teller. I am the one who cries and hugs people at funerals. I am the criminal. 😂 😂

[@Michelehoffman-q7c]

So true, I'm the scapegoat of my family and my husband's. Menopause helped me get smart, get strong. I've educated myself and we've gone no contact with my sister, his sister, his father and his son. My only regret is not having ditched these reptiles years ago-from the jump. It's a badge of honor to be hated by these clowns, Here's to us!🐐

[@Bahbahlatje]

When you figure out who they are, you have the keys to unlocking yourself from captivity. This is important information to understand. We're sold such a bill of goods that love conquers all, that we can heal people with love, -- it's not true. Some people don't need love and they use your love as a weapon against you.

[@johntuohy1867]

Been there: Sometimes the love you have to offer is in letting them go allowing them, however slowly, time to become conscious of their own outlook. It can, though may never, happen.

[@jennyanderson4796]

You have the keys 🔑 to unlocking yourself from captivity when you figure out who they are!

[@NobenStudio]

The mixed information I get from channels like this almost feels like I'm falling into the same traps. Think for yourself, and don't let the grand illusion of excusing any form of reason (especially from yoursself) to being an asshole as a way out. Your own behavior as a factor in such relations is a factor. Ifi it's a way to better yourself: DO NOT make it at at another's expense. Or you'll fall victim to being the very thing you don't' want to others or yourself top be: A narcissist. The advice I'm finding from channels like this are only to define the negatives, rather than FINDING the positives in dealing with people. And that's very confusing.

[@johntuohy1867]

@@NobenStudio positive info is also sent out in positive ways of dealing with narcissism- including your own.

[@NobenStudio]

@@johntuohy1867 But if your intent is to hurt someone, despite it being veiled as love... does that make you a narcisist? Or at the very least... a jerk? Where and what is the positivity in that...?

[@Ur2ez4me81]

It took me losing my dad & my sister (within two months apart) to realize that my STBX wife is a narcissist. I even had kidney stones during this time period while grieving & she still went behind my back & cheated on me then try to place the blame on me. Now she is discarding me while I’m at my lowest point in life, I probably will not trust another person again bc of her… Please pray for me.

[@nicj5354]

I pray that your crushing moments will be used by King Jeshua to expand your reach. I declare a hedge of protection strong around you, and I place a guard around your heart in the Name of Jeshua! You won't come through this bitter - you'll grow your roots deep down into His love and be renewed.

[@angelabowman343]

Don’t let them change who you are!

[@Sara2016a]

I pray that you get over this situation. Not all women are the same. My husband brought his mistress home while I was at work. That’s so low and disgusting and he said that I am accusing him while he is innocent. He didn’t even apologize.

[@allieaudio9965]

@@nicj5354 It may not seem like that now, but discard from these monsters is a blessing. Now you can start healing and living your life finally.

[@taylorpresley4604]

Prayers of healing for you.

[@pattyterry6432]

Excellent, thank you! Jesus didn’t continue to show love and compassion to Sadducee’s and Pharisee’s, who were narcissists. He called them out, separated himself from them, and gave his love to those willing to receive it. More of this needs to be taught in churches. We can still love them, forgive and pray for them, but that doesn’t mean we need to be around them!!

[@samjubran7315]

Perfectly said. Many times you need to love...and leave.

[@ursalaoutrageous9249]

You are so right. Jesus even told his disciples that when they enter a town and are not accepted to not only leave that town but to shake the dust of that town off their sandals.

[@cowboy_strong]

@@DebraB406 Sounds like a nice landlord to me. You shouldn't be that close to a landlord that you would be able to know he's a narcissist. Sorry, you gonna get angry now?

[@Sweetpea064]

@@cowboy_strong Why are you being such a jerk? All of your comments are argumentative. What is your problem?

[@Sweetpea064]

@@DebraB406 I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing that. I imagine it’s very stressful. The guy saying that your landlord sounds nice is just a bitter old man. All of his comments are rude and condescending. He seems very triggered by this topic which leads me to wonder if he’s the narc in his family. I hope things get better and that you can hopefully find a new place someday soon. Hang in there. ❤️

[@marciesellers7340]

You just nailed this to the wall! The more you love them and do for them; the more they hate you! This is a family member in my case. No matter how much I do for this person; the more they hate me! Sad but true! Keep these messages coming! They terrified me yesterday! I have never seen such anger! I am not going around them at all anymore! I cut myself off from them! Thank you for helping me! I will keep watching your videos! 🙏😇Marcie Sellers

[@Chandra2024Singh]

Sad when you are surrounded by Narcissists your whole life!😥

[@mstutoring]

They are aware of their destructive and cruelty, but they don't actually care how it affects their victim/target. Such a tragedy.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@celanaellis3248]

my husband recently showed his true self on raging the snow job is over!

[@pilarq7886]

The question is not do they know what they are doing . . its more like zero empathy they dont care. And its a thrill for them so dont give them what they want.. . .

[@louise7052]

So true

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Care about no one

[@jackiefb1]

This is absolutely correct. The more love I tried to show, the more irritated he seemed to be. The love bomb was strong so I was always believing that we could be like that again. It seemed like the more I tried, the worse things got. Strange.

[@rezinatebasshead]

the closer you try getting to a narcissist, the further they will push you away

[@Razainthewoods]

Yes! Exactly!

[@sunshinyday1901]

Exactly, its like chasing a lost rainbow

[@lishik7712]

I saw an explanation on another YT channel where it was explained that it's all about control. The narc knows which buttons to push to inflict harm & ruin your moment.

[@antoinitaviolette4067]

I believe they do that is because they are demonic, and are rejecting the love that they wanted from someone who didn't give it when they needed it, like a parent or guardian, and they refuse to face that fact...ashamed they weren't loved, and like using that anger to work that mess out onto other people they believe are weaker.

[@janicereese5224]

Amen Jesus said “Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls (empathy and compassion) before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces” by mouthing hatful words towards you. Excellent message, Blessings to you and all through Christ by His death and resurrection to all who turned to Him with repentance of sin!

[@DJRenee]

Final a Bible verse used correctly.

[@marisamartin3664]

God actually spoke that to me when I asked him if I could leave my cruel, faithless, alcoholic husband, who did all of the things mentioned in this video.

[@staggerlee3587]

Narcissists are among the soulless and there is no way to fix them. I learned this the hard way. It took me 31 years to figure this out. They dont love you or anyone else. Soulless beings don’t possess this ability. I say get out and go no contact. Or live in a constant state of disorder. Dont let them drag you to hell with them. Just forgive and forget them.

[@LeslieGonzalez-t5z]

This is one of the best videos he's done out of many!! Kevin understands ppl!!

[@SavedBySweetGrace]

This info is golden for a Christian like me who always gives the other cheek, and loves unconditionally.

[@eddiefossler8422]

Thank you so much for this!! Narcissists actually lose respect for you the more love and forgiveness you show them. My ex wife’s face would actually change (the mask would slip) when she would do or say something cruel and I would move past it or forgive her for it. Any relationship with a narcissist is doomed.

[@karenbrandis9099]

monster is the right word

[@Woman156]

Say it again so the people in the back can hear you.😮

[@zazu3006]

i’ve seen this with my ex. that mask when it was over with being nice few weeks into our 2nd instalment he became outright nasty. me ? obviously surprised and be hurt? his face!? dark, different and conniving. but i had seen it before noped out the situation asap after trying to have normal conversations about it during the next days, via phone etc. and yea 😂it never ends from then on. it’s my fault, it’s anything to argue about and c for hours and also the stuff from years ago when i was sharing some trauma? of course fame to twist and just flick with people and my head. well, few good months later i had weird messages and we decided to meet up to talk about some we were handling, like friends. park, bier. and it stared even then. some horrid drunk message, some love bombing, some derogatory words, some apprehension 😂 this time - i was driving those messages by being quiet, or praising his achievements or dismissive or being apologetic about how it ended hahahahah! he really went deep into each one! i a space of 5/7 days? he went full classic abuse circle - before i even let us meet again. oh, then i just let him know, i’m super done, he is a monster and admitted to me not once how he doesn’t about other so i will never want to need to in fact feel anything about him. never meet again and please go, die. yea… felt great💫💫💫 like a huge cloud left my space and my mind. finally my head had space to think and be without his chaos that entered my space yet again. but hey, of course he turned all My friends against me in some really great manner. well, friend really, we’re they? i gave up too after a year of trying to have a conversation and be like we used to. i guess that the price i paid for getting rid and being on top for once

[@annettegenovesi]

Yes this video let's me see this clearly. Never realized the utter cruelty and knowing so many of them led me to believe that I must be the freak, while their behavior was normal.

[@mafunasekaisi2290]

Exactly

[@samxsara]

I think we can even say that they hate love and light because it burns. They hate us bc of the energy we carry

[@sistergoldenhair1809]

It’s all spiritual in nature, good vs evil. They HATE the light/good/God inside of us.

[@KS-hh5yr]

I am a Christian and I did try to show love to my narcissistic sisters and it did not work. The Holy Spirit told me to cut them off. Some people you cannot help but give them up to God.

[@dawnberger8105]

Recognize toxic relationships And avoid them. Let them learn their own lessons in their own time And go on with your life

[@shawnwarrynn8609]

People like him should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of teens and people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists and Narcissism or condoning Narcissists and Narcissism!

[@reneebrown9451]

This is the fucking best advice that I’ve heard!! I’m tired of hearing about all the playing games with these Narc fools

[@22suezann]

After my narc husband died I was going through papers etc…and found a diary/note entrance where he’d ACTUALLY WRITTEN, “it felt so good to see her hurt by what I said.”!!

[@redruby5689]

😢😢

[@Unbreakablechic]

Sick!

[@Susan-lf2hl]

Because he was a sadist

[@freedomofspeech6095]

These people are pure sadist

[@22suezann]

@@freedomofspeech6095 You know, I accept now that he was a sadist; but when one is in the middle of marriage/parenting with these b****rds that’s the last thing you want to believe. Really- it’s easier to leave a wife beater.

[@mysticme777]

They like being destructive... It gives them fuel... And many documentaries about crimes show how narcissistic psychopathic criminals describe their excitement while taking other's life and how they enjoy their control over their victims... Thank you for your videos.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes they do

[@cyndigooch1162]

Mystic Me That's exactly right and a highly narcissistic family member posted that she's PROUD of having the "family trait" of saying what she thinks to people, no matter how hurtful. It's interesting that I don't happen to have the "trait" though! Another highly narcissistic person stated that she enjoys hurting me and the self-confessed narcissistic psychopath, HG Tudor, says that harming others gives them what he calls fuel, which is akin to a powerful drug and he doesn't ever want to change. Mind you, he is assisting many thousands of people to to stay away from, or leave, his kind, if possible, and Kevin is certainly doing an excellent job of that as well. ❤

[@mysticme777]

@@cyndigooch1162 yes indeed, and I first listened to HG while I was dealing with a narcissist without knowing anything about narcissism... HG helped me by his videos to know exactly who was the ex and how to escape from him... so I left in October 2020... This awareness is our treasure now 💖

[@katehere9783]

Yes, it's really sick isn't it? And this is a little off-topic, but I'm on a mission to stop U-Tube scammers from abusing animals (especially the ones we love, like dogs and cats). They make TONS of money by impersonating as "animal rescuers" when indeed they put the animals into distress....and pretend to rescue them. Unknowing people donate their money to this cause which is a double evil. If you'd be interested in helping this endeavour by sharing etc. pls check out Justice4Animals vid of July 30/22.

[@thesecretplacerevelations]

That's why if I've to choose between being a part of their life or getting killed because of leaving them, I would choose the 2nd. You CAN't live with someone whom you KNOW is a murderer and rapist and heart. NOone wants criminals as their family members except the equally evil enablers.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Actually I am Buddhist and experienced this word for word with my entire family. It doesn’t make you a flawed Christian Kevin - they are truly sick. Full stop

[@claudiapost-schultzke7216]

Also Buddhist. You are absolutely right

[@jill4268]

✅🎯‼️

[@salonsavy6476]

there have been too many narcissists that received my love ,,but I learned from all that abuse ,, it’s sad that one of them was my mother ,

[@gregpendrey6711]

Vile Mothers. It's just how repulsed my mother was getting hugs and an I love you.

[@gregpendrey6711]

I just as well go to my fathers house to bring food etc. and say something horrible like (MAGGOT) to him.They are vile. Both of them are monsters till the day they die. Hope kevin can help us!

[@freetolive7704]

Same

[@tintina2753]

Same for me too, very painful realization 😢

[@sarahwaldrop192]

My mother has tried to or ruined everything my whole life. I mean everything my whole life. She makes me sick.

[@msdemeanour]

Do not love your enemies or your "frenemies."

[@gailcrowe727]

I have faced narcissistic rage, it was horrible and made me feel quite unwell.

[@TheRoyalWe]

It is horrible

[@trivenich9335]

i suffered alot alot. i loved my narcisst alot alot. i love him alot but he brokeup with me and marrying other girl

[@manfocused]

"Maybe it's the moment where fight or flight enters into your body for the first time because of something they said, or something that they did." I remember when I felt that fight or flight moment for the first time. She wasn't even raging. It was during the first month into our "relationship." We where at a restaurant, on a date. I thought she looked so pretty in the dress she had on, so I told her that. After I complimented her, she thanked me. She said, with a big smile on her face, "Aww, thank you." Her smile was saying one thing, but her eyes were saying something else. I saw "evil" in her eyes. It felt as if she wanted to kill me with the fork she had in her hand. It sounds like I'm exaggerating, I know. But that's what it felt like and it scared me. I've never gotten that feeling from anyone before. I remember how silent I got after seeing the look in her eyes. I wanted to get away from her, at that moment, but then questioned my gut: "Why would someone who just thanked you after a compliment want to kill you?" Let's just say my gut feeling was right. A few years later, she tried to do exactly that. I've learned to never ignore my gut or underestimate the level of evil a narcissist can stoop to. They are extremely dangerous.

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

We are control driven..I am self aware and trying to heal but I feel it's just part of me idk I hope not ..I'm trying

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

The eyes do tell

[@Mr60minor]

Sir. You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.

[@theharmonyofknowledge1286]

​@@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829Have you seen any of the videos on Lee Hammock's channel, Mental Healness? I've been watching a lot of his videos, and I understand narcissism so much better. Maybe it could help you too?

[@manfocused]

@@theharmonyofknowledge1286 The Little Shaman is helpful, too. I'm subbed to both channels.

[@davidresch390]

I just did... “Happy Birthday”....to my narcissist sister.... she hates herself at 51! They get WORSE over time! Got nothing back! Love your channel Kevin

[@Bahbahlatje]

You are allowed to go no contact with toxic family members. You don't have to wish your sister a happy birthday.

[@davidresch390]

Low Contact is what I’ve done...birthdays and holidays...just staying in it for my nieces....just waiting for them to leave home

[@Matt-ng4tj]

At the age of 48 I had to do the same thing as you about 4 years ago. Determined that they were a psycho narc as well as you did. Thank GOD I'll never speak to them again in my case

[@carmenburgos1616]

Im 50 but I’m worst due to those Narcs .. they really will make you sick ..!

[@shereeholland172]

Yup! Stop pouring into an empty vessel. 😉

[@robotsrule5051]

Great video as usual. I think we have to face the fact that the reason this is inexplicable is because we are dealing literally with demonized individuals. Please make a video on this. The reason they hate love kindness and empathy is because it's a direct assault against the kingdom of darkness.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@robotsrule5051]

Ephesians 6:12 King James Version 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places

[@christieforcelsius3648]

So true, they hate Love and compassion!

[@tigressatwork1708]

Spot on !

[@pamelaprivette5361]

That is the EXPLICABLE reason! That is the EXPLICABLE truth!

[@PlanetOfTheApes999]

Narcissists have the fantasy that they don't need anyone or anything and haven't done anything wrong. Showing them love reminds them that they need others, and forgiving them reminds them they've done something wrong.

[@melilifabulosa5505]

Best comment on here, so true!

[@missesraisin]

The presence of THE HOLY SPIRIT GOD almighty in our soul resting peacefully, irritates the crap out of the butt-load of Demons they let occupy their souls.

[@colbysmom56]

One of the last things my narc partner said to me: "You think you're so good, don't you?" She was bothered by the fact that I reached out to people. She hated this trait in me. She didn't have an ounce of it herself.

[@markbrookes6915]

Shit similar,I asked Friends for there opinions of her text messages I couldn't understand where she was coming from she found out I went behind back Shit did she go off .

[@loverofthelostnarc]

I agree with you Kevin. We are wasting all our virtues behind a narcissist. There's no chance that a narcissist can be made new as an human being. Everything is revolving around them and should be revolving around them, that's their agenda. So my advice to all the victims of narcissistic abuse: Leave them alone and do not go to them either for God's sake. Read what James 4:7 says: Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

[@ginakelley749]

Satan was the 1st Narcissist

[@makesnodifference]

@@ginakelley749 Satan was the good guy in the Bible and God is the narcissist. Read it. Satan killed far fewer people than "God" did. the God of the Bible demands complete loyalty and worship. Satan never demanded anything like that. All Satan did was raise a question, "Hath God said?" Who but a narcissist demands unquestioned devotion? Please pay closer attention.

[@oliverbird6914]

Everyone s a narc.

[@ciscowarrior]

🥰😁

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Absolutely true...the more love, respect, tenderness, and care you show them, the more contempt they have for you.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@zazu3006]

contempt but also shame and confusion. i think they are scared to ever be honest share their feelings..? fear? being hurt?? never, it’s all about smoke screen with them. and yes, understanding person is on a losing position also why do people share their fear?? and likes?? oh, they can NEVER

[@tommcewan7936]

Their contempt for you, is their externalised contempt for themselves. They refuse to believe they could ever deserve your love, and think themselves weak for even wanting to receive it, so the more love you give them, the more their self-hatred ramps up to oppose it. The more you love them, the more their internal critic rages at them that they're worthless and don't deserve it and only a weak, pathetic person would want it anyway; to their childish minds, this feels like your love itself hurts, so they hate and attack you for "hurting" them.

[@theanabolicviking]

Once she broke that character, that is when she started blaming me for her behavior. She would say... I'm just responding to you and your behavior when all I was doing was calmly asking her a question about her behavior. But they are not able to be questioned... EVER!

[@lorencast]

That’s what they do!! They gaslight you all the time!! Blame you for everything.. accuse you for nonsense

[@ReinaRevived]

As you said, they want to feel superior, so coming back to the narcissist and their family with love for them like you did shows that you had a great sense of control over your emotions and ability to think and then act, not react, and it puts them to shame. They’re losing. They were not able to cut you down the way they had hoped, to make you as bad as them. You didn’t fit in! Thank God for that! And the resulting freedom. Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation. Viktor E. Frankl.

[@jillharvey578]

You are so right. Evil hates the light. Keep on Lovin on those that deserve it!

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes evil hates the light

[@annettegenovesi]

My conclusion is that at least some part of these people is willful behavior. If they would seek help they might be able to control their emotions, but they're too narcissistic to do that!

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

Evil hates good.

[@GLDn1]

To truly love, you must be vulnerable. Vulnerability means risking loss. Narcissists HATE to lose so DREAD love. So instead, they want you to worship them.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Good understanding

[@adammcallister9675]

Good take

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

Yup that's really what we want it's even worse having leo placements 😂..

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

And woe to anyone that trys not to worship us lol😂

[@angelafox9522]

Wow! This message is such an eye-opener, it was like the last piece of the narcissistic puzzle I was missing from the whole narcissistic epidemic. I touch and agree with you, fact 💯. Their behavior is evil, drop the word narcissist and let's just call it what God calls them - EVIL 🐍.

[@annettegenovesi]

I used to use the term witch, warlock, but ultimately it is evil.

[@honeychildlor]

True angelafox !

[@kanani717]

YES

[@Sassy-po1tp]

This is spot on! I finally realized this with my Narc Mother a year ago and I stopped trying. I have gained so much peace in knowing that she won’t change. For years I treated her for who I wanted her to be and not for who she is. So happy I woke up and loving those who truly love me!

[@PassRush49]

This reminds me of the saying: "the opposite to love isn't hate, it's fear." In my experience, narcissists have a lot of fear in their lives.

[@dmc3202]

This so true! Such fearful people

[@zazu3006]

yes.!! fear to be real

[@2KChilds]

The opposite of love is indifference.

[@kingkazma3246]

They have a lot of phobias and are always worrying.

[@DJRenee]

I agree.

[@phoenixrising8007]

They constantly one up you and see acts of kindness as acts of war 💥🎯 love is not a competition

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes it is truly heartbreaking

[@phoenixrising8007]

@@TheRoyalWe that’s an understatement...it’s infuriatingly frustrating 😣

[@fetijajasari9522]

You can have compassion with narcissist-but at a safe distance!

[@lesleybrown1583]

Exactly!!

[@fetijajasari9522]

@UCZ5yG9RefNfhNl8ou-5k9UQ You don't have to. Honestly, having compassion with my abuser is sometimes still difficult especially when he is mean again-after more than 20 years!

[@rodneylee4026]

I have experienced this very thing from different narcissists many times. The disgust they have for love you give back. Actually a narcissist's fantasy is to have someone who simply takes the abuse as a sad victim and lets them create in you what they want. When you return love, they are disgusted and I believe this is because you are showing them that they have no power to make you unhappy like they are. It also shows them indirectly that you have something within you that they do not have. If you want to love your enemy in a case like this it has to be from a distance. Get away from them as far as you can.

[@sandraregister5907]

Like the Grinch.

[@soniao100]

You are right. I experience the same.

[@MysteryMountain44]

Often I've found indeed it's your kindness and love that they envy the most and try to destroy the most. All the narcissists I've met have tried to 'make me like them' by torturing me and hoping that that will corrupt my character.

[@jc-246]

This explains a lot. You get to the stage of not caring about them eventually. Total switch off when someone strips you of everything you are, eventually the time comes when you have nothing to give them anymore. Never again!

[@m.skinner6303]

So true 👍, when I showed compassion or care towards my ex narc he would be OK for a 3 or 4 days, then the anger becomes unleashed yelling to me " your not normal" I think because they hate themselves, they cannot believe someone would care about them. At one point, I was shitty & detached and he liked it, I even felt like I was the narcissist. I learned how do you get rid of a narcissistic- just tell them you love them.

[@sand-and-asmr]

😮 I never heard of him, after I said I love him ! I understand now

[@chewieboy1088]

Oh now i know 🙂

[@Not-the-usual-BS]

😢😢so sad but very true!! They are uncomfortable with our emotions

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

They can’t change this is a taught behavior by mom 🙏🏽💯🙏🏽💯

[@jamesl2846]

I was thinking this too, sending them to hell wouldn't even be a punishment for them they'd feel right at home there.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@lesleybrown1583]

Thats not true ,thats your hurt speaking!They are demon possessed 4 yr olds but wouldnt wish anybody in hell!

[@treelover1050]

THEY MAKE THE CHOICE TO GO TO HELL. THEY WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH GOD. ALL OF US MAKE OUR CHOICE TO REJECT OR ACCEPT JESUS.

[@nicholashudson1283]

The fact that they can never experience true joy is a living hell for them, so much so they are jealous of anyone with even the slightest amount of joy. So when you think life is unfair because of the fact Narcissists exist in this world. Remember once you know how to deal with these toxic people, life becomes more fair. The narcissist can never truly be happy, so their personally disorder is their own punishment.

[@lillumination5388]

I gave up on this issue... 28 years without any, ANY celebration, of BDs, holidays, of just expressing joy over anything... No gifts, no special meals... at the beginning I used to buy BD gifts, but they were heavily criticized and rejected. No hugs, no kisses, a very abusive sex. I was all alone in a foreign, his land, so I was cornered and degrading....punished for expressing compassion and love that flows so naturally from me. I finally divorced him, but my feelings of love are heavily damaged...

[@TheRoyalWe]

So sorry to hear this Mari

[@uniquelove8991]

Wow Ms. Mari Anna I’m sitting here reading your words and I must say if I had not woke up about 2-3 months ago I could be sitting in the same place the you have been wow thank you for your openness and may you be blessed with real love someday!!

[@MajaJeremic]

That is so hard, Mari. I was lost for words to explain to people the exact same thing you experienced, because I couldn't make any sense of it. Over 20 years without any celebration, including kids birthdays, not even coming home to share good news about something. Not even bad news! And we lived abroad, so no old friends or family for support. I hope that you are better now, I'm getting there. It's like recovering from cancer.

[@rickylumo8666]

They are toddlers. Pure and simple.

[@rpm3305]

You are correct. The more you show goodness, the more the narcissist hates. The narcissist that I know told me "you are disgusting! I can't stand your voice!" I always thought that the narcissist that I know hated my success

[@carolnolan9439]

Omg my husband yells he hates my voice. He calls me filthy names

[@rpm3305]

@@carolnolan9439 your voice reminds him of the things he can’t be. Do not take the contempt.

[@cmhwilder]

Dude its crazy how much I've learned the past few days. She took me for a crazy ride. The day I sat her down to have a well spoken thought out deep conversation I ended it with her because it was like looking into the eyes of satan. Lights were on but nobody was home.

[@TheRoyalWe]

I hear ya

[@annettegenovesi]

Wow. So true. The eyes of Satan, and they can have strange voices too.

[@DJRenee]

Yep

[@Wishpool]

My ex was a covert narc, and man, was he good at playing the part (I had no clue and my radar normally catches this). The verbal rages/cussing became more frequent after the 1st time. The lies, manipulation, and betrayal (I was discarded for new supply). I started to rage at him, until I finally chose "love & forgiveness" (for peace, not to rekindle things). He said he was envious because he had so much hate inside. He moved on to the next girl and I asked what was so special about her. He said, "Because she doesn't know who I really am" .... yet.

[@king-qo8fi]

that sick bastard

[@Wishpool]

@@king-qo8fi I agree, thank you. He truly is sick to knowingly manipulate women who don't know what lurks beneath the surface.

[@shayk.393]

SEE!!! HOW INSANE THESE NARCS TRULY ARE. EVIL.

[@nuckiicod]

Wow . Because she doesn’t know who I really am yet

[@HelpfulHerbs]

This makes so much sense. Trying to make time for my mom and visit regularly made her angry and i could feel that disgust you said they had. She was in heavy competition with me, i saw that. Think trying to figure all this out rationally drives a person bonkers. Walked away no contact 5mos ago with no regrets.

[@jewely9757]

They see love, forgiveness and empathy as weakness! I’ve seen it. They really do not understand what these things truly are. They despise these traits.

[@peu1285]

The Bible says "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. " Narcissists demand submission, not love but gaslight you to think otherwise.

[@jesusrettet9204]

The devil wants to bring strife, he is afraid that we show compassion or evangelise 😊

[@speakvisionspeak]

He told me, You are the only one that thinks I'm a monster. I had never said he was a monster, just that he had no empathy or love or concern for me. He also told me he was scared of my love. The fake person they are in the beginning changes quickly. The relationship is full of lies and confusion.

[@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529]

Did he tell you WHY your love scared him??? I hope you've gotten out of the relationship, God bless you!

[@JuanRodriguez-js6uh]

I would say the problem disordered people have is that they are very much in the moment in a bad way. They don't care. The people I suspect of having these disorders. Seem to have bad tempers. Lack empathy. If they have any empathy. Lack humility. They seem to thrive on chaos. God Bless everyone.

[@learncadadia7832]

12:08: “Stop it, Reserve Your Love, Empathy, and Compassion, for those who are able to receive it, honor it, and able to show the same to you.” (Paraphrased) Thanks Kev!

[@ernarc23]

Your attempts at compassion affronts them because it threatens their scaffolding - that false front they construct to hide the underlying machinery. They don't know how to respond to the real thing; it terrifies them, because it reminds them how alien their entire false construct is to human beings whose heads and hearts are actually connected. Thank you for doing this. It hit home. xo

[@mirnamisevic1993]

I was deeply hurt by the narcissists in my life and I pray to God just to relief the pain that they are causing to me. And miracle happened I don't feel pain anymore, because I learned that everything they do is from a very sick place and twisted mind. Kevin has the most clarity about narcissist personal disorder than any other channels, it helps me a lot. Once you fully understand what is all about, it gets better with dealing with it.

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

They decide that being hateful and twisting the truth around from love to hate...and honestly to lying is a mark of intelligence. Evil becomes their goodness. And love deserves hate. The more they practice evil is good....the more evil they become. They try to be above others with intelligence based on how to be good at evil. Unfortunately it does make their expert evil, easier to spot and they get caught.

[@MONEYAINTATHANG100]

👁

[@marciloni12]

Absolutely, if only they would put all that energy, time, and savvy to do good in the world...

[@ginakelley749]

'Woe to those who call evil good and good evil'

[@toddmichaelhorvath]

This is amazing. My daughter looked at me and said, “How do you still love me, I’m only going to do it again. All I do is hurt you. “

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@annettegenovesi]

Good that she sees it, but my guess is that after more years pass her hate will be total routine and she will no longer be able to realize it.

[@novelist99]

I doubt she's a narcissist if she said that as they would never admit to being the problem or take responsibility for the hurt they've caused.

[@bukimoore2645]

💯💥 I was about 24 and my mom and I would leave for work around the same time each morning, one day I said..."By mom, I love you, I'm heading to work! She replied in a normal tone, "... I love you too" . The next day as I was leaving for work, I again said "By mom, I love you, I'm heading to work! This time she replied in a angry annoyed tone......"Troy!!! shut the hell up! You don't have to tell me that you love me every God Damn day!"

[@jaslyn5501]

You didn’t deserve that.

[@annettegenovesi]

Especially hard that it is your mom.

[@nomudnolotusnodragonnogold]

I felt that.

[@wms72]

Yes, absolutely right. He got angrier when I was calmer, sweeter, kinder.

[@cassandramartinez2994]

You hit the nail on the head with that narc trying to “out do” me in who’s “more” compassionate!! I forgave him for cheating and etc.. and he came back with throwing my faith in my face. He made me feel like God was more on his side than mine and told me I wasn’t a “Christian “. He mirrors my emotions and turns back and throws “my exact words” that I told him and try to make it his own like he was capable of feeling those exact emotions that I was expressing to him. So I stopped talking

[@TheRoyalWe]

Thank you

[@gingerisevil02]

This is my narcissistic roommate… I’m trying to not come from a place of desperate when I look for my next living situation. You’re spot on. Charming in the beginning, and then after you move in with them, exposing their toxicity (entitlement, believing she doesn’t owe me communication on things involving the living space that affect my sleep and studies… like moving out and moving 3 strangers in, then moving back in and 2 people moving out with no communication, and giving me the silent treatment and treating me like shit because I expressed it bothered me. I just got a job and am coming off of disability, I wasn’t able to move out or be choosy, my vulnerability made me prone to narcissistic abuse.) I’ve tried this, being peaceable and apologizing when I’ve done nothing wrong. Thank you for your videos you make me feel less crazy!

[@debbyn4647]

They love picking vulnerable victims and then trying to hold you back. You are gonna have to get your bible out. Go wild on them. They do not respect anything else. Do not even look them in their evil eyes. They take your positive god given energy.

[@gingerisevil02]

@@debbyn4647 I’m an atheist 🤐but I appreciate the kind sentiments. Don’t cast your pearls before swine still is a verse I appreciate. xx

[@lennie1703]

I really wish you a good, safe journey out of this to a happier place. Please believe you deserve peace and happiness and stay strong. We just need to stay away from people like this to achieve equilibrium.

[@slumdogjay]

When I showed my ex love I would be pushed away and told she needed her own space. When I backed off I was told I was selfish and had no empathy or love for her. I couldn’t win either way. A lot of gaslighting and smear campaigns. Ended up going around in circles for years. Became a very toxic marriage from both sides in the end. Over 4 years out of that relationship and my eyes are truly open now. Never let myself fall into that trap again. If you are stuck in similar circumstances to what I was, get out as soon as you can and start rebuilding your own life. Takes time and hard work, emotionally but it more than worth it in the long term. Good luck.

[@jordanwilliams9984]

All I can say is " Thank You." I was with a covert for 3 years, after him I was single for 2 years. Thinking I've healed and was ready to love again, I was love bombed and swept off my feet by a Grandiose. We've been together for a year and a half, and everyday is a struggle for my freedom. I'm doing my best to exit in silence, inch by inch. It's hard, but not impossible. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@annettegenovesi]

You're so right. But after many years of it you become fearful that there is nothing better for you. Anyway when you're too nice you attract these very people.

[@slumdogjay]

@@annettegenovesi I’ve honestly found that being single has brought me much needed peace and happiness. Once you realise you don’t need anyone to make you happy you are on the right track.

[@slumdogjay]

@@jordanwilliams9984 Good luck. Do what’s best for you.

[@annettegenovesi]

@@slumdogjay It's wonderful that you found your answer. Different for everyone.

[@Yul-Uhlu]

You are 100% correct. When I listened to your video all I could do is nod my head and repeatedly say yep he's right. I had experienced this during a long term relationship with a full blown narcissist. The more caring and empathetic you are to them the more they treat you with disgust and even anger. And when they are exposed and you see them for who they are, they become terrified and allow you to get closer to them but once they have you under their thumb again they turn evil to your every affection or empathy towards them. Basically you get mind f%*×ed. I am happy to say I ended that relationship and stopped all communication with them. If you let them in they will try to control you again. Don't, don't, don't let them back into your life, period.

[@jackiewhite7551]

😭 I can't let him go. I feel sorry for him because he's never known true love, especially from his abusive parents. I want to save him and show him how good it can be. 💔

[@joynyenpan5848]

Visited my narc brother on his wedding anniversary even though he had ignored me the entire year. Took gifts 🎁 along and travelled an hour distance to his home just to see him. He pretended to be happy to see me probably because others were around. A week later, he saw me at church and passed by me as if i was a ghost. I felt like a trash that day. And learnt my lesson the hard way

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes, you may want to stay away from your brother

[@annettegenovesi]

I really feel for you. The thing is I don't think we can learn these lessons, as people like us naturally want others to like us and we want to make things right and do the right thing. Recently my sister's husband passed and I spent much time with her while he was dying, helping her in every way I could. For the funeral I was given information where and when it would be held. The very last minute she changed the town and time. I found out through a third party and couldn't attend. Probably did it just for my "benefit." Couldn't stand how nice I was to her and now I can't stand myself for how nice I was to her.

[@j-eames8186]

@annettegenovesi Give yourself a hug. You did the right thing. Congratulate you. 🎊

[@annettegenovesi]

@@j-eames8186 Sweet of you j; thank you. I know you are right, but these people sure know how to hurt others. They are experts at that. I do remember my sisters strange look when I told her that I'd be there for the viewing. Now I realize how diabolical it was.

[@luciakudrocova678]

Trying to show more love to my narc father ended like this: he used to tell me that all I did or said is a FAKE. So whatever I did was disqualified. Now I understand why - it triggered his position of an authority (and more). Thanks Kevin. You do a great job.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes, this sounds all to familiar

[@dennisrobinson8008]

What a bastard. So you obviously cut them out and stopped taking them seriously. For the time you were considering his thoughts and opinion it must've been completely gutting and deflating.

[@TheTreeOctopus]

Oh my gosh!!! All my ex ever said to me was my love was fake!! I am fake! I have no morals and it's all an act!!! 3 years and finally out!!

[@makesnodifference]

He was projecting when he called you fake. He was telling on himself.

[@soniao100]

My mother died when I was 9. She was very sick since I was 4. My father was telling me that everything I do , I do wrong like my mother did. It was heartbreaking for me. I was the youngest of 4. He was saying: You have to be like your sisters are. I grew up without self confidence into this world of narcissists and psychopaths, having troubles dealing with them.

[@nicholashudson1283]

The Covert Narcissist brother-in-law who visited my mum's house yesterday commented that he likes animals more than people. I think its the only thing we have in common, if i'm comparing my pets to toxic people like him. I love my Border Collies the most compared to most people in my life, but the average non toxic person is a lot more lovable than a toxic person. Unfortunately these covert toxic people are sheep in wolves clothing that waste too much of our time and energy.

[@HouseOfTauler]

Trust me. He does not REALLY like animals. My ex- narc began to warm up to my cat. For three weeks, he fed her and watered her EVERY day. My cat bonded with him...then...he just stopped. Believe it or not, my cat went into a depression and refused to eat. Did he reach out...no. They are incapable of loving ANYTHING!

[@nicholashudson1283]

@@HouseOfTauler Wow, it sounds like he loved bombed your cat and then later on he gave your cat the silent treatment. Probably your cat caused a narcissistic injury, by ignoring him. Just as all cats ignore their humans occasionally, but his fragile ego must have been affected. Your cat can do better :)

[@HouseOfTauler]

@@nicholashudson1283 Precisely. My darling cat was skin and bones. It took three weeks for my sweet cat to begin to eat regularly. Oh ..do not worry, his evil arse is no longer around.

[@cynthiaolson2428]

Yes. I saw this in my marriage. He despised me for loving him. The only "good" thing he did for me was to be so deliberately cruel that he totally killed any love I had for him.

[@akashamedia671]

It is such a comforting feeling to hear someone genuinely say “I’m a here to support you.” Thank you and thank you for the great works you are doing 🙏 💖

[@heathermixson1265]

To me, love your enemies means to not wish them to burn in hell.....as hard as it may be TO NOT wish that....simply bc you wouldn't wish this upon yourself . Thanks Kevin.....this was right on time.

[@LisaPeterson227]

They are going to hell. You are not to wish hell on normal people you don't get along with.

[@demigaines5644]

HI KEVIN THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS. SO INCREDIBLY TRUE I LEARNED THE HARD WAY WHEN I WOULD SHOW THE NARCISSTIS AFFECTION/ LOVE .I WAS ABUSED EVEN MORE. NARCISSISTIC PPL SEE LOVE AS A FORM of Weakness.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes they do Demi

[@treelover1050]

YES. WE KNOW IT IS A STREMGTH. THAT'S WHY WE.CAN NEVER GET ALONG WITH A NARC.

[@demigaines5644]

@@treelover1050 SO INCREDIBLY TRUE

[@katehere9783]

Yes, and I think they secretly envy us bc we CAN show love and they can't.

[@demigaines5644]

@@katehere9783 Absolutely TRUE

[@practicallivingwithM]

I can attest to them doing everything they can to crush, and bruise you. To try to take you down for being there for them. To try and take you over. No matter how much it crushes you they go further, especially if you can't hide the sadness. Once they get the reaction they get the boost they were looking for.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes this is true

[@annettegenovesi]

Total cruelty. So true.

[@Angelface11]

They are freaking nuts. They behave like they're in schizophrenia with some sanity to harm you. Crazy.

[@isabeltobin5472]

Yes l agree with every single word you say because l experienced this first hand for years!

[@lukehunnable]

Wow man, this is spot on! Have watched many hours on this topic and never heard this point of view. This exact thing happened to me, and the more I forgave, the more extreme and absurd her abuse became. And the more that happened, the more confused and curious I was and the more I tried… it became a cycle of degradation and destruction, as she had no empathy or sense of proportion and fairness, until there was absolutely nothing left in the relationship - at least for me, because, to her, she (very twistedly) thought there was still a possibility of something. Crazy. Now I’m closer to getting it.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Thank you Luke

[@annettegenovesi]

These people are hard as hell to live with, to understand, and to deal with in any shape or form. But now I'm realizing that they really do show themselves from the get go. Go to any group of people. I'm betting I could now spot who may be a N. by looking at their eyes.

[@lagoldie9783]

They look at you as not having any self respect, dignity and strength because they've revealed their hatred towards you, they've revealed to you that they are your enemy and you keep wanting to love your foe. It's just as sick as the narcissist is evil.

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

That’s what I thought too … but how would I be sure

[@lagoldie9783]

I think honest observation helps

[@daphneduryea9136]

When we were discussing his abuse toward me through the years, my BPD narcissist husband said to me, "You allowed it." He committed suicide not long after that.

[@teralecole316]

Wow 😯 How did you feeling when you first heard the news about his unaliving?

[@lillumination5388]

I wish the same ending would hit him too... demonic vampires... once the host pulls out, and there is no more supply, I bet many of them expire soon...

[@daphneduryea9136]

​@@teralecole316 I felt relief. I knew he needed to cross over to the other side {heaven}. There was nothing anyone in this realm {earth} could do to help him. He'd been seeing psychiatrists, psychologists & counselors for 35 years and none were able to help him. He had seething anger towards his father that he took out on other people. His last psychologist had him secretly taping all interactions he had with his father so that he {the psychologist} could better understand the dynamic between the two. The psychologist told him that his father has NPD & there's nothing anyone can do to change that. He told him to stay away from his father as much as possible. My husband felt the only way to get revenge was to kill himself. He wanted to make his father cry. He did cry a little but still thinks he was the perfect father.

[@cyndigooch1162]

@@daphneduryea9136 That's extremely sad because he did attempt to get assistance for the issues with his father! Of course, it wasn't okay for him to take it out on you and others though. I'm wondering if any of the therapists got him to get his anger out by releasing it via punching bags etc and feeling his pain by crying, which has helped me immensely, because talking isn't enough and can often make it much worse. ❤

[@daphneduryea9136]

@@cyndigooch1162 None of the therapists told him to but he did put a punching bag up in the garage & used it. He also cried all the time but never to his father. His father would have gone into a narcissistic rage if he'd tried to cry to him or talk about it because in his father's mind that would be an accusation that he had bad parenting skills. He cannot ever have been wrong in his life & still cannot be. He's 90 years old now & still thinks he's the top dog on earth. He walks around with a 'rictus grin' which is a sign of psychopathy.

[@margrettol1161]

It is not who they are but what they do. ❤

[@DB-de6bq]

A narcissistic is another word for a toxic person

[@deborahcollins1100]

This is so great Kevin! I have actually said to my narcissistic husband if looks could kill I would have been dead many many times of the years! The evil and hatred looks and he has the nerve to say to me that I hate him! Yeah right! 😢

[@anandanabila8439]

Leave him

[@zoilacolon3204]

Narcissistic people turn everything toward the other person and act as they are the victim.This is so pathetic.They are always watching. This is crazy. You can sense their hatred.I went through this.Just keep moving forward and don't look back. I know is easier been said but I know how it feels because I went through this too. Love and be strong for yourself.❤💪

[@EmpressSigns]

My narcissist actually cried a crocodile tear when I reached what was not my last straw, because I still suffer thinking our 12 yr old may go bonkers if I decide to end my hellish relationship with her father. :/I feel I'm waiting for my David to arrive as God smites my hate filled common law nightmare.

[@orbitalmechanics3756]

The Bible described these types of personalities very well in the book of proverbs, but it takes discernment to fish them out. I believe it's also one of the reasons why we are admonished to be as wise as serpents.

[@anandanabila8439]

@@orbitalmechanics3756 i think they are humain/reptiles with artificial intelegence mind (Robots) no soul just a dark empty hole 🕳

[@gingerisevil02]

This sounds like someone I lived with, who I wanted to cut ties peacefully with; I told them we weren’t a good fit but I wished them well and she raged that it was me that was the problem.

[@Setapart4him]

Projection is their favorite weapon

[@elibenGodson]

You aint said nothing but the TRUTH! I'm experiencing this on my job! Everything is the truth you've said about the narcissist

[@teresestewart6154]

The Good Of One Doesnt Come At The Expense Of Another ! Guard Your Own First !

[@tomdawson2864]

Brother that is spot on and very true. The Lord has been showing me today how that mentality of a narc goes down even further beyond surface level understanding . Example: when someone doesn’t like us we tend to think about WHY does this person NOT like me. And we do things to try to “make “ like us . The problem in this is pride sets in and corrupts our thinking on what I NEEDS are (as in we might begin thinking that we NEED some one to like us). Thus we get angry when we can’t make that person like us, thus we can begin to seek out our satisfaction from the creature instead of our creator . This causes us look away from what our NEED truly is ; that we NEED to like ourselves and seek out our spiritual satisfaction from THE LORD God thru Christ . Spiritual Satisfaction Vs Pride of satisfaction . The Narc is the same as us , but at the opposite end of the table and God will use the Narc to expose the Pride w/in ourselves and use US to expose the pride w/in the Narc. The Narc will never think about WHY some one doesn’t like him , but rather when he sees somebody who DOES like us He will begin to think on WHY does this person LIKE us. Thus the Narc will feel like he NEEDs to make this person NOT LIKE us or the Narc will begin to think he NEEDS to MAKE everyone NOT like us. Thus the Narc seeks out his satisfaction from the creature by trying to MAKE people NOT like us and yet he himself can not see what His need truly is: to LIKE himself , and spiritual satisfaction that can only come from our Creator. Praise God

[@angelabowman343]

I agree partially with your analysis, but my issue is not that I don’t like myself. I fully like myself, I’m just naive to believe the lies the narc tells. I’m naive to the evil in their heart. I always thought everybody was supposed to be good and loving and helpful and supportive. I just don’t know how to react to someone that isn’t loving. So yes, I do what I can to evaluate my own actions to see if I did anything to make them NOT like me, and if I find I did something, I apologize to them and try to make it better, as I am a peacemaker Sure, I have a little pride, but what is at play here isn’t pride- it’s confusion. It’s not about how the person treats me, it’s how they treat anyone. I have something inside that stands up for truth and justice for all, doesn’t matter if it’s me or someone else.

[@AboveRubiesTV]

@@angelabowman343 I resonate with EVERY word you wrote!