Narcissistic Abuse Is A Leading Cause Of Illness And Disease.

[@vacationeyes6430]

Things narcissists steal from you. 1. Self esteem 2. Confidence 3. Identity 4. Self reliance 5. Your social network 6. Your support system 7. Your looks 8. Your health 9. Your reputation 10. Your personal style 11. Your self care practices 12. Your diet and workout routines 13. Your sleep schedule 14. Your money 15. Your TIME

[@jak6326]

16. Your peace

[@Hurt-to-Healing]

You didn't mention the most important thing. Dignity

[@triptisoni5838]

Just to add on: Your career. Your skills Your motivation

[@vacationeyes6430]

Great points. You are all right.

[@mariaisabelcruz4943]

Spot on. My God how true you are!!!!! They destroy everybody around them.

[@martimontoya6243]

I had breast cancer , Stage 4, while being married to a classic Narcissist. He thought I wasn’t going to survive. But God had other plans. I’m now on my 22nd yr in remission, much to my ex’s disappointment. 🙏✝️🙏

[@anneaugustin9588]

Blessings to you .

[@zolekamagwaca8361]

Congratulations on your remission ❤

[@住居]

Congratulations for surviving cancer. I am really happy to hear that.

[@Tarotcooks]

😀🙏🙏🙏

[@danilaroche1156]

My parents were narcs. My ex-husband of 15 years too, and more recently, an ex boyfriend. I really think he was a witch. I didn't know what narcissism was until 4 years ago. I've had chronic insomnia and sleep issues last 3 1/2 years. Very debilitating. Do u think it's narc related? I've been traumatized since I was 4 years old. I think it's catching up in my body.

[@Eleanor-hn4vg]

Being around toxic people is the worst kind of stress.

[@ContentTablet-db4dj]

You never lied because that is why I don't have no family them people are abusive and scary

[@whyme6534]

💯

[@AALEAL1111]

Fact 💯

[@omartrachen6794]

Yep

[@tamilynedwards8388]

Yes, I'm in fight of flight all the time and I'm jittery in my chest and BP is too high...I almost wonder if it's the plan....

[@ashleymg231]

NO FREEDOM to be yourself, walking on eggshells, scared to use your voice, fear of being yourself & doing things you’ve always done for fear of being scolded. IT SUCKS & EXHAUSTING.

[@Oceansgreen]

Absolutely… totally agree.

[@rossanaluzzatto8224]

The precise description of my life

[@Esti-xg7tg]

Exactly this! And I have now not only one, but several autoimmune diseases. 😢 Trying my best to survive and get away. Heck, even thrive! After more than 20 years it's been a shock to see how much is due to NPD - at times I still don't want to believe it - and I also feel a bit paranoid about who can I trust and who not, what if some of my friends are npd as well, but I never knew cos I grew up in toxic, narcissistic environment with a lot of gaslighting and thought that it's sort of "normal" and in families where it wasn't, it was just a facade etc. 🫣 plus that there's something ultimately wrong with me, not in others. And yes, I have Aspergers, but I often question if it's also actually a form of CPTDS, with some extra quirks from the parents not interacting with the baby as much as they should for healthy development? 🤔 But most don't want to hear that either, and deny anything being wrong with the parents/family - and it's true in many cases, but there's lots of cases where the parent/s were toxic, from what I have read from the other autistic people in forums etc. So, maybe some of these have to do with the stress too, beginning from womb sometimes already ( violent partner! It must affect the fetus when the mother is in constant stress and fear! ) and then continuing with lack of nurturing from the day one on Earth. 🤔 Just wondering, not meaning to offend anyone...Oh, and ALL the children - at least the girls - have some autoimmune illness or/and handicap, stemming from the violent father, I am sure. Also often not discussed in medicine, as families often hide it. Imo most people with autoimmune illnesses need trauma therapy and getting away from the stressful environment, but it's "too expensive" for the society, so people get fed with very toxic medicine instead....I tried rheuma medication, and all of them, including biological meds, just made matters worse. Avoiding stress as good as possible indeed helps me, and naturally all people.... Sincerely hoping that the body-mind-environment will become a standard in medical field, and so many people could actually get healthy - on long term it would also benefit the society... well I dream on...

[@jenniferbenavides7031]

I agree!

[@toddperilloux6143]

They are demons

[@FlavioMarceloSousa35]

Narcissistic abuse destroyed my self-esteem and mental health for decades.

[@dianajilwah279]

Same here..

[@jacquelinejames1444]

I can't understand why they want to be in a relationship when they are so fake.

[@karenstubblefield9077]

People fail to realize the abuser mental health was destroyed first. That's how they learned masters yours.

[@margaretno211]

The narcissist needs a relationship like all life needs food and water. Relationship is their life support​, @@jacquelinejames1444

[@sophieyyyhh0057]

Same

[@jennifercovel4910]

What always blows me away is abusers thrive... They feed off of others pain.... It's stressful

[@daphneduryea9136]

They do thrive. My father-in-law feels like a big tough man after he's abused someone. He loves to abuse. And he loves to go to church every Sunday & makes sure everyone knows about it.

[@jacquib256]

They’re sad weak text book others who I used to attract BUT NO MORE! Btw 18 years of an abusive narcissistic parent (male) my brother and I both were diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis, apparently very rare. I refuse to take medication as I always felt it was stress related but thankfully watching podcasts such as this one, but my brother trusts drs, I’m relieved it was potentially due to the trauma of living in fear. However, I’m a ‘super empath’ it transpires, after fixating the last few days to watching video after video, as I can spot a destructive narc a mile away! This video though has given me clarity that all the anxiety I’ve carried through my many years was down to the abuse I witnessed and endured. It’s taken a lot of years of having the same experiences over time starting with my first massive panic attack that hit me out of the blue. I am on the path to recovery ie distancing myself from society for a while, rest and good healthy diet - in a house overlooking a sandy beach and the sea.

[@TheMazinoz]

@@daphneduryea9136 Yeah, my mother is like that. Big on catholic religion, utter bitch to me, basically determined to isolate me within the family, physically, mentally, emotionally, financially abusive.

[@veebliss1266]

When your weak they are powerful

[@jacquib256]

@@veebliss1266 it’s learning not to be such an open book too

[@flycorvus]

The saddest thing as a victim of narcissistic abuse: self-sabotage.

[@CynthiaSteele-o2g]

That is so true!!

[@katie195]

It’s like challenging yourself to see how much misery you can eat before you get sick. Yes I come home to that in my own home. But I have learned to flat line. Narcs are vampires of your soul.

[@paballomaureenmalimabe1670]

True

[@ZFern9390]

​@@katie195what does that mean, " learned to flatline?"

[@luvbuggz]

​@@ZFern9390FOLLOWING

[@JustMe-qq3rc]

You know it's amazing to me HOW MANY ppl suffer through Narcissistic abuse. There are millions of us. What the hell is going on in this world?

[@Stardusted1]

I’ve thought about this too. I believe it’s demonic.

[@bewinged1]

The world is being steered to be narcissists. So is society.

[@SandraFrance-v1e]

@@Stardusted1it’s everything Satan is. I agree with you

[@innerpeace5913]

Its definitely modern pandemic. We need to raise awareness of it urgently.

[@danika9411]

It has always been there, but now we have a name for it and awareness. We are around 8 billion people. If only 1% have NPD it's 80 million. But numbers go up as high as 4-5%. So it could also be as high as 400 million people. And they have lots of victims that they abuse in their lifetime.

[@nicolepreou6754]

What many people don't know, is it's not only the partner that is being abused, it's the kids watching the abuse too.

[@nessahfisher5325]

Yes my kids suffered from watching me hurting by my partner abused, but we all trapped because he is the one providing for us ,

[@charzemc]

Narcs abuse the children psychologically & emotionally even if not physically.

[@nessahfisher5325]

@Claudia Du Lac Lioncourt I hope and pray we all will get through this ,trauma bond and codependency is so difficult

[@sinceresong9907]

@Claudia Du Lac Lioncourt I still find that reality mind blowing, they take their abuse to the grave.

[@nancychandler3673]

Absolutely! Dad was an Overt Mom was a Covert.

[@cathiketchum6058]

Until I left my narcissist, my body was going downhill. The sound of his voice made my vision blur. Everytime I thought of him (his coming home for example), I'd have what felt like as mild electric shocks in my head. I didn't think I was going to live very long. Once I left I prayed Joel 2:25 & 26. Basically to ask the Lord to give back what the locusts had taken. Today, I'm 70 and people think I'm not over 50! Hallelujah Hallelujah

[@shireenramnarain4005]

Im still with narc I am 57 but look like 70

[@hc867]

​@@shireenramnarain4005I so relate with both of you. I'm 54 and look & feel 90ish. I have so many autoimmunes and cancer issues. However, I made a commitment before God and our families until death do us part, so I'm trying to stick to that. Crazy, I know, but I'm responsible for the mistakes I've made. I should've followed my instincts and ran.

[@cookiemama4]

@@shireenramnarain4005 Start focusing on yourself. Buy something frivolous just because you love it! Try a new haircut or hairdo. Buy a new top or jeans. Reward yourself. Blessings.. 💜🕊

[@cookiemama4]

@hc867 But did your husband live up to how the Bible tells husbands to treat their wives? He breaks your marriage vows daily. You could separate yourself from him. The Bible did allow that. It tells a wife who leaves, either remain single or be reconciled to your husband. God does not expect women to be constantly abused. If you want to escape the pain, you can do it without having to divorce your husband. 💕

[@queenkandake1515]

Praise God ❤🎉

[@AHealedPerspective]

The problem with these narcs is that they just won’t go away. They keep showing up to abuse you. They will look for ways to disrupt your life even you go no contact. It’s like they have an assignment from hell to torment you. 😢😢

[@miakay327]

OMG, after years of it being terrible I used to joke that my ex was "sent by the devil..."!

[@Crunklestiltskin]

I hear you girl. My dad has been singing the “I miss you” song. Lalalala.

[@luzlopez776]

I agree they do not go away forever. They only go away when everything is going their way in their lives. They will hurt their own mother verbally and mentally with no guilt

[@a.y.7738]

They do not let go, going no contact sometimes backfires because that narcissist has a mission to destroy you and won’t stop until you’re dead. They so cannot let go, how dare you go no contact! So the narcissist will hack your router so they can monitor you like the losers with no life that they are. They did you dirty and they have to monitor you so you don’t squeal.

[@debrahmanchego8605]

How Does One Get Away From A Narcissistic Spouse if Children Are Still Young and Involved? 😢

[@dmp2024]

No weapon formed against us shall prosper

[@cathiketchum6058]

As long as we don't subject ourselves to the weaponized abuser.

[@cathiketchum6058]

Read up about sociopathic narcissist. It is dealing with a demon.

[@stephl.r.6721]

Amen

[@linneaweilacher8939]

One that steals your light and is after your soul

[@dwanavent3067]

Amen!

[@Zorg1776]

The rate of which I've aged after just a few years with a narcissist is scary.

[@Storm11117]

Same here. In the past 11 years I've aged at least 20 😔

[@JohnDoe-pd4jo]

Lol 😂. Don’t mean to laugh Nadiyah, but that was kinda funny how you worded it

[@dineatrislloyd9365]

Omg sooo true! I've lost weight and am depressed! But I know in due time and with God by my side I will make it. It's not so bad being single.

[@NaiaYawar-bl4mr]

​@@Storm11117hi nadiyah I HV narcissist husband 😢😢😢too I feeling like hell at the age of 18 and now 32 I m always now lethargic and over weight being eating to make me feel 😢😢😢to survive in all of this hv three kids also😢😢😢😮

[@shireenramnarain4005]

Exactly I am 56 looking like 80 While they look 10 yrs younger Its true

[@kingbee9778]

Psychological manipulation of a person over an extended period of time causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one's emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator. This manifests as physical illness as well.

[@Noemie291]

Great comment.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Yes I believe your right. Living with these people bring’s on mental and physical illness alright, along with enormous confusion and self doubt. Coming from a narcissist family, sets you up for narcissist relationships. Leave them to wallow in their own stupid obsessive narcissistic ways, the penny will never drop for them. 😉

[@Portia620]

Exactly and before you know it when you get sick with autoimmune, that’s when they start pulling away and cheating then you find out they were hiding money and all the gaslighting and everything falls apart and then they cry and get upset because they’re caught and they have to give up the game of a wonderful future! 😂🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. I’ve never been so thankful to God for him, showing me his people’s true character, and get me out of that hellhole.

[@TheSilverMeridian]

Perfect explanation

[@wesleyduckett1982]

It is so fncked up how deteriorating the relationship is. I am to blame for everything.

[@sarahfox3312]

I feel like I’m under narcissistic abbisive by my government

[@walkingwithheather]

Canada, most definitely. The US most likely.

[@kingbee9778]

Those of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse at the micro level recognize it at the macro level. The one I like is, after 3 years of government torture the solution they offer is assisted suicide. That is absolutely a solution only a narcissist could come up with.

[@dwddavidsway71159]

Because we are . . . Narcissism and psychopathy are end times plagues, all recovery is possible with God, peace.

[@kamalvipul9213]

@@dwddavidsway71159 Well said. The kingdom of heaven in found within. These type of abuse pushes one to dive deep in oneself. It's a blessing in disguise. It's grace. Check out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqSon5WCpL6VaK8 Words from one of the greatest teachers of our time.

[@dwddavidsway71159]

@@kamalvipul9213 agreed! Am watching now! thank you! Blessings . . .

[@htmc2022]

The reason people HEAL after they leave their abuser: they finally SLEEP WELL - SLEEP Heals - you cannot Sleep Deeply through all cycles including REM sleep, when you’re AFRAID. ❤

[@PeterWhite-jz6np]

I’m still trying to have a great nights sleep, but it is the narcissistic flying monkeys that are still causing damage. I moved to my new home for peace and recovery, but sadly the narcissist followed me and is using flying monkeys to cause more issues, health wise.

[@htmc2022]

@@PeterWhite-jz6np May have to move again soon and leave no forwarding address with anyone. Then the flying monkeys may desist!

[@Nov3mb3r_Ash]

I experienced this. Deep rest after he moved out. I slept so well.

[@KChelseaVenus]

​@@htmc2022 Great advice but unrealistic in this USA country with the economy, not easy to do at all and for some impossible to keep moving.

[@MrNahatej]

On the contrary many of them are dependent on the narcissist. That means they can’t survive without their abuser. Sad but true.

[@susanroberts6573]

I had fibromyalgia saw a specialist, he said “You won’t come right till you leave your husband “ a very difficult and unkind person to live with . Was put on steroids, after 2 1/2 years my hair started to fall out . I now ware a wig . Left my husband 7 years ago after 50 years of abuse. Am now living in a caravan happy as , fibromyalgia completely gone . A lesson learnt to late . Unfortunately my hair didn’t grow back but I have a lovely wig , good friends around and wake up with a smile .😘🌈🐈‍⬛🐕‍🦺🤗

[@vincentbrugetti7254]

Why the rainbow 🌈?? Does it mean you switched teams?, or were you secretly on the other team during your marriage, or openly played with both teams, or maybe just into nature, and it’s colors, or maybe you just appreciate Gods symbol that he will never flood the earth again

[@corneltessendorf8054]

Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. I look have fibro and battle to cope.

[@my_world1982]

I wish you many happy days in life, you deserve happiness.

[@helentucker6407]

That is great to hear! 👍 👍 👍 😊

[@heathergreyart]

I understand the physical impact of emotional, & physical abuse... Experience is something you'd never wish on another - I see, & hear you, sending you love 💌 *big hugs* 🤗 Survivors, you are not alone in this..

[@rosendungu8051]

I'm crying like a toddler as I watch this. I've been admitted for reasons the physicians would not diagnose and eventually my doctor friend called it a "broken heart syndrome." The helplessness due financial crisis and a pregnancy that is due anytime but at the same time I'm so tired of living in toxicity. May God help me

[@kathleenmorrison8450]

Just said a prayer for you. May God bless, protect and heal you.

[@joanmcadam2627]

Praying for you all 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@avatrastern107]

Call upon the forces of good. Think of all the love you will need to gather for your unborn child🙏🏽

[@rosendungu8051]

Thank you everyone. There's light at the end of the tunnel. I believe God is watching over us.

[@marlenelindsey7638]

Your being about to birth a baby is bringing everything to the surface. Find a good therapist someone to guide you spiritually. Listen to high frequency sounds on KZbin. Congratulations on the baby. This is something else to learn our abuse has made us so sick.

[@Bahbahlatje]

I am no contact from my parents 8 years now. Eventually, your mind gets clear and you see things more clearly. I learned to deal with holidays by reminding myself that some people have normal families, some people have narcissistic families: it's the luck of the draw and it's not my fault. Now I focus on gratitude for what I do have in my life.

[@donnafoley2167]

It's so sad ,yet true. I find myself saddened at Christmas without family Then I remember what it's like with them. There's pain no matter what. LORD JESUS I'm thankful to be alone!!!😊

[@tulipsontheorgan]

Same here….I have spent Christmas alone and sometimes with friends. It’s fine. It’s a great time to nurture ourselves.

[@tonewilhelmsen2425]

❤️

[@Urban_Piggy]

How do you do it? Please tell me more. I need to continue and it’s not that hard but it’s sometimes difficult…

[@lorimiller4301]

@@Urban_Piggy The Crappy Childhood Fairy is very good. So is Louise L Hay. The most important thing is to never put yourself down. Be your own best friend. Look for what you're wanting to see; focus on the good stuff and nevermind the bad. There's no such thing as NO. You can't push something away from you. If you shout no at something you actually are drawing that type of thing towards you. Just ignore what you don't like and do more of the things that make you happy.

[@annem7806]

My friend has fatal kidney failure. She decided to spend what time left in her teenage home town. Left him behind. She has so far lived 2x past her expiration date.❤

[@scientistswife]

My mother faced kidney failure because of my dad

[@FaithInThisPlace]

Hallelujah!

[@Star-ch4ui]

As a female, 6 months after leaving the narc and working intensely on my healing, my hair is growing hundreds of baby hairs and getting noticeably thicker. I didn't even realize I had an issue with lack of hair growth until my psychological healing and release of so much stress.

[@dw-km6mg]

@star That's amazing!! I've also suffered with hair loss most of my life - please would you mind sharing some of the healing method you've used, to help yourself? x

[@Fortunecookeee]

This happened to me too

[@gloriadaughterofthemosthig8441]

💯💯💯

[@lv2756]

I started ovulating again and my menstrual cycle is back to normal. I didn’t even notice I had stopped 😔

[@helenarichard]

I also worked on myself and healed my long covid, my depression and anxiety, and got over a broken heart. I did also add professional hair care (Kerastase), and for the first time in YEARS my hair is becoming thicker and longer.

[@jillbettini2668]

Having to EAT anger, pain and rage led me to a blood pressure of 260/180 at age 12. The headaches were UNIMAGINABLE. No one believed me. I'm glad to still be here!!!

[@lilac624]

People won't understand our situation until it happens to them....

[@stephaniedegange2737]

I am thrilled you are here too

[@Jane-rc2rk]

Oh I had to check I hadn’t written this! My weight ballooned and my hair fell out! Still haven’t shifted the weight but my hair is growing back…

[@makupsy5154]

I'm glad I finally found someone who understands what I went through. I ate and drank my sorrows away. The insomnia, thr headaches 😔 He never cared to listen, address or change anything. It took high BP readings for me to finally get the picture that this was not the space I was meant to be in.

[@ingodwetrust5363]

Having others around you who don't understand you and the health issues brought on by narcissistic abuse is difficult in itself to live with.

[@carolynjaynes36]

Heart palpitations, panic attack, C-PTSD, chronic anxiety, emotional dysregulation, (bipolar) fear and paranoia, distrust of all people, fear of intimacy. No contact brought great peace, freedom, no abuse whatsoever. Healing requires no contact. Blocked on all fronts, changed my number and address, sought therapy and many videos on narcissism. I feel so much better.

[@72marshflower15]

It can go from there to borderline personality disorder and on to “splitting” real quick if the trauma is acute and persistent.

[@mohsinakauser8574]

I need help i want to talk about my narcissist husband to someone who can guide me

[@princessisha5205]

​@@mohsinakauser8574guide you in what if you don't mind me asking?

[@mombasham]

Watch it. Getting out is dangerous. I feel for you and certainly can identify with you. Find a safe way out. Please plan and get the help from only people you trust. The abuse will never stop. It's hard to leave but you deserve better.

[@YAHWEHrules]

​@@mohsinakauser8574praying for you mohsinak 🙏💖 GOD ALMIGHTY YAHWEH 💖 and MESSIAH KING YAHSHUA 💖🙏 please bless you and help you out of your situation 🙏 in the MIGHTY NAME of KING YAHSHUA 💖 MESSIAH I ask it.

[@TheWayofFairness]

Let's sue them for causing our brain damage.

[@charlespacheco7705]

My husband passed away from brain Cancer 🧠 His personality changed . Before he was diagnosed Abusive UP to his passing. & I was not with him when he drop dead Thank God I Free from the abusive husband 😢 He smeari ME with 2 children. Thank God I am free😢 He has done a incredible damage. Have many health issues.. Refuse to beat myself NOT being him when he dropped Dead R IP👹 WIDOW STILL STRUGGLING. 👹👺👺👹👺👹

[@sonjatant500]

This is so true. I got stuck in fight or flight mode and developed an aneurysm, high blood pressure, ptsd, recurrent major depressive disorder, anxiety. Almost died from it. THIS MAN IS SPEAKING THE TRUTH.

[@jackee511]

I had a lot of anxiety while with my soon-to-be ex. I had IBS symptoms that never seemed to go away. I was going to ask my doctor to up the dosage on my anxiety meds. He ended up leaving the first of may. My anxiety is gone. My IBS is gone..

[@khadeja378]

I did too, he died four years ago. Thank you God

[@conniepetersen7027]

This is so true, I had stage 3 breast cancer which I survived. I got high blood pressure, heart decease, ibs gallbladder problems, colitis. My husband committed suicide when I left leaving me with with guilt, I can goon and on.

[@donnahalsted7718]

@@conniepetersen7027 ...and none of it was your fault! You were the beautiful giving person who took on the responsibilities of the narc and paid for the consequences of his behavior. He did the worst to himself trying to destroy you. As empaths, we tend to take on guilt which is not ours but is put upon us. Our worst fault is that we loved without boundaries. They had no boundaries so they walked all over us. If you tried to put up a boundary, even a small one you paid for it: rage fit, silent treatment, tantrum... Reject all that garbage! It isn't yours! See the beautiful person you ARE. YOU are much too beautiful for him to have accepted as you are. To lift himself up, he had to tear you down. But nothing could ever bring him up where he could stay up. Narcs live under the dregs. They climb out temporarily on the sources of beautiful people.. So you paid the price of his footstool. I will pray for your healing and for his sorry soul.

[@rcristy]

When your sympathetic nervous system is firing your body shuts down digestion and repair and sends the blood to your legs and arms to get away from the tiger/fight the foe. It's damaging to stay in that state because the food you eat cannot digest properly without its blood supply. You cannot absorb nutrients. Your damaged tissues cannot be excreted and build up inside you. (Yes, we excrete old tissue as it is replaced☺️) Once you're free from the stressor your body will concentrate on digestion and absorption, and healing/repair. Bless all of you in your struggles.☮️💓🙏

[@debbiesday8270]

I've been in fight or flight for forty years , from trying to manage a marriage with a covert narcissist. I had no idea what narcissism was for all those years until he left me and in therapy he was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and I started investigating narcissism and learned what had been making me ill. I have adrenal fatigue, hyperthyroidism, hypertension, depression , anxiety, arthritis, and fibromyalgia, and Complex-PTSD. Staying in that relationship has cost me emotionally, physically, financially and every way possible. If you think you're with a partner who has no interest in your welfare and is not interested in working with you on your relationship, get out while you can. Do yourself a huge favor. Don't wait like I did and lose decades of your life.

[@dianemorello7456]

💯 agree

[@angelawydro6844]

I understand exactly what you are saying. I stayed too Long. Now my physical health is the same as yours. If you can't get out start living a separate life from him on the down load.. Exercise helps a lot, making friends outside your relationship, a support system.. Take care of yourself with healthy foods also.. I know about the Pain.. God Bless you😊😊 Fight for yourself.

[@danilaroche1156]

Are you going to leave?

[@debbiesday8270]

@@danilaroche1156 Already did. 👍

[@o_o6916]

I love you

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes we are not designed to survive psychopaths in the home I agree.

[@MastaChafa]

We didn't EVOLVE to do so, but yeah

[@skippyalbrite2431]

My ex-husband,an extreme narcissist did such a number on unsuspecting me that I've never fully recovered.Not a whiner or lacking in courage,it's just my reality&I've had to accept it.The divorce is long since over but the resonance remains.

[@StreetcarDesire]

Completely different, maybe read a psychology book.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

@@skippyalbrite2431 my reality too. Had a couple of them as 'parents'. When you are in a house with a couple of them it's game over pretty much for the kid. They made me the Scapegoat and I have never lived a healthy free and normal life really but still trying to do so now. I took the damage and I survived but I can not seem to heal completely no matter what I do or how hard I try or how much money I put into healing so I understand. About 2 1/2 years no contact and I still feel I have a long ways to go to be even halfway healed.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

@@StreetcarDesire I have read a ton of books on this subject. Got a lot of books. I have concluded that psychopathy is not meant to be understood but to just stay clear away from at all times if possible.

[@PerfectContradiction]

My mother passed from pancreatitis at the young age of 42 yrs old due to her husband’s malnutrition, lack of healthcare(he lost his job for constantly going to the bathroom being lazy), monetary abuse(every car repoed, house/land-gone). My poor mother had gained weight and I thought she was fine last time I saw her. I got a call the next day to find out she had passed. I am breaking this generational curse of staying with an undeserving man💪🏽this one’s for you mama, grandma, any/all women that have ride or died for these selfish bastards. God bless any and all dealing with this. Please leave it doesn’t get better. They want to kill you

[@SvetlinaTrifonova-sl4pn]

❤

[@DaiseyStone-n2w]

Wow

[@carrieannearts]

Thyroid disease is huge for narcissistic abuse survivors and a cause of chronic mental health conditions. It’s taken me a lifetime to figure out that abuse is at the core of all my health problems and the grief is crippling.

[@TanyaKatherine]

@Carrie Anne Mitchell I am curious, can you pinpoint when the abuse affected the thyroid? I am struggling with the same and trying to figure out when and why my thyroid is linked. I have a gut feeling it is. It must have been my first relationship where the person robbed me of my sleep and threatened to break up with me if I didn’t deprive myself..I was 15 years old and missed a lot of school from that. I am curious for others and how it affected them? Is it everything all together that affected the thyroid or a specific incident that tipped the scales.

[@peterbuilttough3406]

Exactly what I'm going thru, please tell me it goes away without heavy medication

[@xanna_likhoa]

I really relate to this and can attest I am heartbroken by basically all that I witnessed in the last several months of having narc family

[@rozalina531]

I've noticed many narcicists with these diseases and disorders as well. Their toxicity takes a toll on their looks and physical health as well as the victim. No contact or grey rock is the best option. Cut them out like a cancer. Take time to heal and love yourself. Starve narcicists of your energy and presence. Cut their supply off. They will soon move on to their new victim/supply. They always come back using the hoovering strategy to keep you there as a reserve supply. Cut all contact if possible. These soulless beings will never change unless they admit to themselves that they are the problem. They live in denial and delusions about their false reality. They make up stories as they go along. Trying to reason with or understand a narcicist is a waste if time and energy. Put self love and energy into yourself and take time to heal in solitude. Peace, love and light 🙏🏻🌟🌹🕊♾️

[@rozalina531]

@PeterBuilttough Medication only covers the problem, and anti depressants will only give you a false sense of happiness temporarily. We have to take time to heal and no contact. Self-love and positive thinking. Remove yourself from a toxic environment and set yourself free. If not possible, grey rock and plan your escape to go no contact. Standard. Peace, love and light 🙏🏻🌟🌹🕊

[@livelife5890]

Anyone else experience insomnia as a result? Waking up and alert in middle of the night? Started happening after I realized that I was purposefully betrayed by a narcissist. The hurt from realizing youve been betrayed.....is the worst part.

[@Heidi_137]

Yes, and night terrors, sleep paralysis when I was a child, and insomnia as an adult from my ex narc. I sleep so well now with my lil dog by my side, peacefully. I very rarely experience night terrors anymore.

[@kathyadair8552]

Too Terrified to sleep B/4,the 🌅 Came up!! - Spring, 2018.

[@wishingonastar75]

Yes! And it’s starting to drive me crazy, I feel permanently tired. I hope it resolves itself I honestly don’t think I can do this long term. Wishing you all the best for the future and well done for having the strength to leave the demon! ❤🤗🙏

[@Alloniya]

I didn’t sleep for two weeks when that happened. Then I started having heart issues.

[@Elven.]

Yes, I fixed insomnia to like a 90% after watching the episode on sleep on the huberman Lab podcast, for anyone interested

[@Reevay762]

So true Kevin! I have chronic illness and now I tell anyone and everyone I meet to get out from narcissistic abuse as soon as you can before it does a number on your nervous system, digestive system and hormone system!

[@ladybluelotus]

Straight facts!

[@kanhdahar2]

anxiety has begun to ulcerate my stomach, i haven't had this confirmed, but all the symptoms are there.

[@kanhdahar2]

Is Your Toxic Relationship Causing Your Ulcerative Colitis?! kzbin.info/www/bejne/h5-qc3aCbM6HaKc&ab_channel=HealYourGutGuy

[@Heidi_137]

Especially as a woman, your hormonal cycle gets disruption and in return it can result in so many illnesses and even later in life. Glad you're ok now :)

[@gorunsko31]

@@kanhdahar2 first stomach, then joints, spine, irritable bowels syndrome, chest pains then you start falling down … slow suicide if you stay with covert narcissist. Save yourself because we can never save Narcissist.❤️☮️

[@melaniegerard2582]

I moved 3000 miles away from my Narcissist after he tried to kill me. I have been free from him for 3 years, but still having panic attacks and nightmares. Over the years, I had developed a large golfball- sized nodule on my thyroid as well, which hindered my breathing and ability to swallow. About a month ago, I wrote a letter to my abuser. I called him out for all the horrible things he did to me. After sending him the letter, my throat started healing. My nodule was completely gone within 2 weeks. I spoke my truth, confronted Evil, and started healing!

[@DirtyAl420]

Sound like allergies

[@theverystones2643]

@@DirtyAl420you sound like a flying monkey

[@Mantras-and-Mystics]

That is brilliant! I might try this too. ❤️❤️❤️

[@jennywager6228]

I didn’t know why I was getting so many physical illnesses and depression and anxiety…the whole body had symptoms literally! Dizziness, cognitive issues, sleeplessness, exhaustion, boils, pulpitations, blood pressure, fibroids, diverticulitis, back pain, aching bones, hair loss, fainting,panic attacks, speech slurred, twitching eye, nitemares, dead labido, suicidal feelings, nervousness shaking, black floaters,silver floaters,frozen shoulder, migraines. =30 years married to a narcissist and toxic families both sides. It’s no joke.

[@ms.c8058]

Although they might not admit it but narcs get all of that too especially blood clots. The narcs going down.

[@jessie9653]

@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama you should check out astaxanthin it's an amazing supplement for inflammation I've been taking BioAstin Astaxanthin 12mg now for years because I was diagnosed with RA. I'm on no meds just this and my vitamin D3. Astaxanthin is great for your eyes you should check out the reviews I get mine on Costco online when they are on sale... Best investment I've ever made 😊

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

I experienced exactly everything you wrote as well… ☹️

[@artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut3731]

Blood clots too to add! ❤ all are so true.

[@maijensen3317]

😞

[@laurarudd737]

When I was with a narcissist I kept on having miscarriages. He stress me out on purpose. When I left the relationship I had a healthy baby.

[@karlasnyder645]

Being with a narcissistic man brought me all the way down until my mind finally broke and therefore I had a psychosis. I told some gfs from church about how our relationship was and they were actually the ones to tell me that he was gaslighting me, one of those was his friend too. He would constantly tell me that I don't see reality, that "reality" is different, constantly saying "I don't remember" and thats how I started to lose grip on reality, I would always have to over explain. Honestly, narcissistic people are sychopaths. They are almost like demons in human form..

[@jennicastagna4226]

I hope you got away from this person for good! God will bring you the right one at the right time Karla. God bless you!

[@christabelleblue9901]

My parents used to be exactly this, now as an adult I over explain and double down on explanations just to make sure I have said what I wanted to say (a form of checking) and repeat myself, two maybe three times just to make sure I've been understood. I have had this pointed out a number of times, people find it annoying that I do this and feel as though I'm treating/talking to them like they're stupid! It is not always appropriate to explain why I do this and I'm sure it's put a lot people off me...😢

[@oluwatoyin6348]

Yes they are evil. And the worst kind is a Narc spouse, because you can eventually get away from the Narc patents, friends or boss, but you have to go home every day to d narc spouse. Its ike living with the devil himself. But how does a human being become so damaged that they become so demonic ? I keep trying to understand what could have happened in his childhood to make him so eveil now. I just dont get it....

[@WomanofGod-jc4cj]

THEY ARE demons IN HUMAN FORMS. IVE BEEN DELIVERED. I. SET FREE. RUN AND RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. THEY ARE VAMPIRES SUCKING THE LIFE OF GOOD PEOPLE, IF YOU ALLOW THEM, ONCE YOU EEALIZE WHAT YOU'RE DEALING WITH. RUN AND FAST. DONT LOOK BACK PERIOD

[@Cerebralseid]

I disagree narc parents are worse than a narc spouse, because the parents created and brought a person into this world. A parent is the provider , teacher, supporter. You can always divorce a narc spouse. But a parent will always be your sire, relative and maker. You cant undo that.​@@oluwatoyin6348

[@stephl.r.6721]

My physician, when I was diagnosed with diabetes, knew about my marriage to a severe narcissist, and attributed the disease to the constant high cortisol levels over decades of abuse. Our bodies are not created to endure abuse of any kind.

[@Bostonscubachic]

Yup. 100%. I got colon cancer from my narcissist and all of his abuse. Everything started with emotional stress and digestive issues. He is a doctor, rheumatologist! Online rating of 2 stars. I missed all the red flags. He abandoned me while I was in the hospital for 5 weeks with complications from surgery. I was pretty and healthy before I met him. If you suspect you're with a narc, run!!!

[@lilac624]

I thought I was alone with my experience and I came to realize the world has lots of narcs

[@314honeydipp]

I wish I knew what a narc was before him. He was the 1st person I ever dealt with like that. I'm just now learning what narcissism is. Its been a year but I still have serious anxiety from it. It damaged me, damn near destroyed me mentally, emotionally and physically. I'm a diabetic and when he tried to give me covid while he had it, I truly knew then he didnt care. He knew what covid could do to me while being a diabetic but he didnt care. I appreciate all that you all are sharing cause it is truly helping me understand all of this. Thank you for sharing.

[@ricardodelacrvz1400]

you really feel it in the gut

[@wheatORweed]

I too had colon cancer, stage 3c. He went to one chemo infusion with me and stared at his laptop the whole time. I had 3 girlfriends take me after that. When I was finally declared cancer free, I wanted to go out to celebrate, he didn’t. So we didn’t go out. Ive had an irregular heartbeat for 20 years due to stress. Recently I had to start medication for it. I am planning my exit because I don’t’ want to live this way anymore.

[@krazysalsa]

same here! i was smiling and pretty before i met him , 5 year later my face and whole body changed so much you can see the pain in my face strycture and eyes.... i am a whole different perdon now... it is scary how they destroy you from inside out

[@1ChynaPink]

This is so true. I developed fibromyalgia in my 30s, in which I had all over body pain, especially my legs, and I could barely walk. Since going no contact over 2yrs ago it’s gone away.

[@Janeintheok]

@@Beth00009 same. He made me sick, and then got angry about it.

[@Dalcar.avotreestudio]

Me too, also fibromyalgia

[@mp5249]

Awesome 👍. Fibro sucks.

[@MR-fe7st]

❤

[@sandragoddard4930]

Me too, developed Fibromyalgia during a abusive marriage 😢

[@melissaschank5124]

I made the mistake of contacting an ex, and my stomach IMMEDIATELY started hurting! I now use my belly as my guide to what and who is healthy for me. Ty for your videos❤️

[@realitywinner7582]

yup we're down in the belly and wo'nt lie to ourselves !

[@helga4791]

Trust your "guts"

[@LadyTanukiTime]

Good lord, this happened to me tonight...thank you for this comment. I would not had made the connection.

[@e.williams13]

@@helga4791 literally

[@lorimiller4301]

I got so upset talking to my ex that my dog threw up out of nowhere. I'm certain she was responding to my panic.

[@tamaraadams6240]

20 years with a narcissist. 7 years without! Healing from Idiopathic, Chronic and Debilitating illnesses! I believe his message.

[@lilac624]

Narcissistic abuse is slowly killing me... I was raised by two abusive women and my father didn't protect me from them

[@ValerieHalla-no1else]

From someone who quite literally barely made it out alive from a an extremely abusive relationship. I just want to say that I think you nailed it when you said we are cut out to deal with normal stressors of life, but not to be constantly abused by someone you love.

[@lisacranmer8005]

Amen...being abused even let me get to the point where I had no peace and I was in constant muscle spasms... fight or flight...all the hormones were from abuse and TOXIC people who lie and manipulate to get what they want...I'm trying not make everyone happy but no cared to make me happy...what they in the dark with a out the the light light..I like the bear attack and yes I was constant in abusive situations...crf... yepppppp..IBS, gut, yep...all of the abuse.. emotion and ❤️ issues..all of it was just pure hell..... TOXIC people kill people..

[@nca1952]

@@lisacranmer8005 Yes, indeed, If you feel that you are suffering something in some respects, in a situation, don't keep feeding into it. You can walk away from someone if you want to. I wouldn't just cut off a family member because I'm going through something seemingly difficult situation. It may be difficult for the other person too. You definitely don't want to argue with the person. Getting sick and having ailments is a part of life, we all experience. I never heard that you get an autoimmune disease, or gastritis, because you think that another person hurt you in some way. You can grow up in a family, and everyone goes their own way, more or less. This is sad, but not hopeless. Think of the other family member too, and what is bothering them, before you decide to do something rash. If you feel that its causing you too much stress, you can take a break, and find things to do to relax. I noticed that the words "toxic " and narcissistic" are getting to be very popular these days. Why? Because it is a little more difficult to heal broken relationships, than to ignore one. Thank you. God bless you sister!

[@andreadoria4557]

Bryan Adamik understood nothing.

[@mrsshahid5117]

100%

[@christinemott8799]

Not me. Im ded inside. Havent spikneto him in ?,,8 years.

[@sydneyrogers9697]

My mother was an abusive narcissist/psychopath. My early life was hell on earth. I left home at 15. I'm 70 now but unfortunately I was never able to get over it despite constant therapy. I have suffered major depression, Lupus, digestive problems that ended in four surgeries, migraines and the list goes on. I had a wonderful career after paying for my own education and loved work but personal relationships were always a failure. I now spend my time with animals. They don't judge and are always there to comfort me as I am there to care for them. It's been my only joy in life. I was totally destroyed from the inside out.

[@hautecouture2228]

Similar story. Only that I had narcissists at work in almost every job I ever had. Bosses , coworkers and so on

[@jamesgoetz4625]

I'm 62 and it's been a similar road. I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue in my twenties and IBS 10 years ago but I have had terrible stomach issues for years and someone mentioned to me that they thought it sounded like gallbladder. Well I talked to my narcissist sister who I didn't talk to for 15 years and found out for of her kids and herself all had their gallbladder sow and her kids all have their gallbladders out in their twenties. Then my aunt had her gallbladder out and my sister told me that none of them had stones but the gallbladder had just stopped functioning. So I'm seeing a GI doctor at the beginning of next month. What really made me curious as they said the gallbladder can affect the adrenal glands and I've had to adrenal insufficiency and panic attacks in my twenties and 30s. What surprised me is how the gallbladder mimics the IBS I've complained to the doctors that it's fast that I'm having problems with as well as certain foods. And they say certain organs are associated with certain emotions like anger. And that can cause irritability and resentment. Which makes me wonder how many other people out there that were diagnosed with IBS that may have gone through narcissistic abuse actually have gallbladder issues that were misdiagnosed. Or it could be both.

[@hautecouture2228]

@@jamesgoetz4625 interesting. My narc mother died from gallbladder cancer. They thought she had a gallstone but once it’s spread to other organs they worked out it was a tumour. She was the first in the family to have cancer or gastric issues. I also heard that it can be caused by anger issues

[@jamesgoetz4625]

@@hautecouture2228 That is an irony. My narcissistic mother guide of Fallopian tube cancer. It's a shame that they caused us so much pain in our lives. What helped me is to forgive them. What I didn't expect is 3 years ago that I would run into another narcissist and it stirred up all these emotions again. And all my gut issues got much worse. It's not a surprise you're depressed because most of the serotonin comes from your gut. It was only this past year that I felt down in dumps like the world was crashing down on me. My gut causes me weakness, fatigue, trouble breathing at night, nausea , cramping, bloating and anxiety. I think that I wouldn't be ruminating nearly as much if I felt better and wasn't so isolated. I hope you find the answers for your depression. I'll pray for you if that ok.

[@tinalettieri]

I was too and my father was terrified of her for some reason and he wasn't a beta male by any stretch. I was pretty healthy as a kid, except for some allergies and I think he was a mitigating factor. I never understand how people can leave as minors. If I had tried, she would have sent out the "posse" and have them drag me not back home but straight to the "reform school." I'm about to turn 77 so the age of majority for me was 21, not 18. Of course I married a narcissist to get away and my PTSD spiraled into Complex PTSD. I also have never been really well most of my adult life. Now that my second narcissistic husband has died, I'm getting better.

[@debbiejohnson2243]

My narcissistic mother’s terrorized me since the day I was born. I had to go no contact again. I am almost 60 and I have to save myself. I just couldn’t physically do it anymore. I literally felt like she was killing me

[@renesreview]

I can relate!

[@lilac624]

Your experience resonates with me

[@newjerseydevil6115]

Mine is definitely trying to kill me. She has Munchiesn by Proxy too. Form of abuse: stalking and coercive control.

[@debbiejohnson2243]

@@newjerseydevil6115 I always wondered why mine didn’t kill me. Then I realized she loves being cruel and torturing me. She wouldn’t want to lose that. And it never stops. Almost 60 and don’t ever see her or talk to her. But her flying monkeys are in full force. It’s disgusting

[@newjerseydevil6115]

@@debbiejohnson2243 I completely understand. My parents get off on the sadistic abuse of slowly torturing me. They like to see me sick and in pain. It's the only way they can control me. Please don't make the same mistake I did. Go completely no contact with ALL the toxic people in your life. If I did that I wouldn't be in danger anymore.

[@lanaschara9084]

Heart articular disease Peripheral articular disease Eating disorder - Obesity Panic attacks Depression Anxiety High Blood Pressure Breast Cancer X 2 Hypothyroidism Emotional distress Broken Heart Syndrome Grief X 6 Digestive disorder -IBS Arrhythmias Fatigue When I heard this post I realized how terrible my life had become. This prompted me to go no contact. I still and dealing with these disease processes but I have so much more peace!! Thank you so much

[@Melborn0915]

When I realized that living with a narcissistic spouse was quite literally shortening my life, I finally gave myself permission to leave. Going no contact may be the best decision I ever made!

[@anneloving8405]

Me too,I had hair loss,severe digestive issues,skin rashes etc,within 6months of leaving my ex the symptoms disappeared.still have sleeping problems but my skin and hair is good.that was 20yrs ago....if anyone does it again it's their health at severe risk I promise😁

[@juditharsenault2131]

I had chest pain and felt unwell. The chest pain left after we broke up. I was so wounded. It felt like I was bleeding inside. It took me years to feel less je myself again.

[@davidreeder2047]

I can relate used to get rashes real bad I just thank God he got me out of that situation I feel a whole lot better learned bought narcissism

[@Normachavez-c7b]

Same here i was slowly deteriorating.. gained 40 pounds , im on my way to healing..

[@kelllykimbrough47]

@@davidreeder2047 I got hives every night and there was no allergy found. my body seemed to be attacking it's self because of the stress I also had very bad nausea every morning and also blood pressure issues. praise God for making a way of escape!

[@karenk2409]

40 years of physical and emotional misery caused all kinds of illness in me. It took over a year to recover after fleeing. Five years later, I haven't had so much as a cold. Amazing.

[@phoebehill953]

I’m getting out after 35 years. Thanks for the encouraging words.

[@karenk2409]

@@phoebehill953 Have courage, peace is a miracle every day, and freedom is amazing.

[@JR-pf2fh]

I been with my f*ck for 40 yrs still. Since I know what he is. He can't hurt me. I will be free of him .

[@attractarattigan3574]

Me too.. Didnt even get Covid

[@karenk2409]

@@attractarattigan3574 Neither did I! Absolutely everyone around me did, but I didn't. Don't really know why, but I don't argue when karma is on my side.

[@bodymindsoul60]

I left my Narc husband 10 years ago. (As well as many toxic family members and so called friends) I was sick all the time. I had tachycardia and a myriad of health problems. All my health issues cleared up. In addition I haven’t had a cold or flu since 🙌 Healthy diet and daily exercise are also crucial!

[@nmc1859]

This is awesome!!💖

[@matilda4406]

well done!

[@ChosenByGod1111]

I could have wrote that myself. So called friends gone, toxic family gone …including my parents, narc ex husband gone.

[@bodymindsoul60]

@@matilda4406 Ty🙏

[@bodymindsoul60]

@@rf4537 Sunlight in your eyes as soon as you wake , build to 10-30 min walk Also Dr Andrew Huberman has many educational videos that may assist you, good luck and blessings on your journey 🙏

[@SilverDoveTx]

By the blood of Jesus Chris I rebuke anything that may have physically and spiritually and mentally affected me... He is my Lord and my deliverer. Love you Lord. I forgive those who've hurt me and I pray they find peace.

[@jenicarter4190]

Amen en amen ❤

[@TheTerrainWizard]

What about Exodus 21:7, though? Per God’s laws in the Bible and Exodus 21:7, what is a good price to sell my daughter? Do they pay by the daughter or by the pound? In Jesus name, Amen!

[@virgirma1328_PhD_scholar]

Amen

[@lydiahayek7500]

Amen - In agreement with you 🙌🏼

[@KarenandBeckyArethesamedemon66]

Why did white people oppress the world with jesus

[@oldsoul3733]

Both my parents are narcissists among other vile traits. It took me 49 years to walk away no contact. It's too late for me. I'm 58 and physically and emotionally broken. I have everything you've discussed but for most of my life there simply wasn't enough information for me to recognize what evil I was dealing with, and how to cope with it. I've been in fight flight mode my whole life. I was diagnosed as having CPTSD but there aren't any psychologists trained in narcissistic abuse anywhere near where i live. There is no help for me to get well and I now live as a recluse. If you're reading this, LEAVE NOW ❤🙏

[@truthylucy7068]

I'm sorry for your pain, I know this pain well. I'm also 58 & always new something was very wrong with mother. It took me until I was 50 to understand she's a toxic narcassist! I spend my time alone my friends are long gone. Like you, the damage is done. I'm just greatful time seems to be going by so much quicker. Be well!

[@ascend555]

Always speak and think positive to yourself to attract healing. Also do daily meditation and prayer ☯️

[@iopakayalo3459]

My heart breaks, just reading your story. It is not too late, dear. Educate yourself. Watch motivational and inspirational tapes like Late Louise Hay. She is an excellent pillar of hope, that things do get better. Sending prayers and alot of love. Stay strong 🙏💕.

[@ggbellz]

💜

[@lifecoachmary]

Please don't give up on yourself. You are never too old to heal and live the life you want. Thank you for encouraging people to leave abuse. Sometimes comments like this are the push some folks need to leave and be free.

[@Loveveggies]

I am crying watching this. Seems like sometimes its just too late to overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse from parents and partners. God bless all people who are impacted by narcissists.

[@fatemeshafie2595]

its not too late to heal. this hopelessness is also another effect that narcisists caused in you. you are very strong that you could survive them so you are strong to get healed too. ❤❤❤

[@sandismith460]

FIGHT FOR YOU ! SCREW THESE NARCS .

[@shadowfax9177]

I feel like this too some days. When I'm so horrifically tired, exhausted, unmotivated and depressed it seems like I'll never get better. However I'm starting to have some good days strung together and then even a whole week. Hopefully soon I'll enjoy whole months of feeling well. With the grace of God, He has helped me heal the most and change my negative thoughts patterns and alleviate anxiety.

[@RVFreeDa]

And children

[@jack1d1XB]

Not always, less and less in fact as to every coin, there is another side.

[@viccoluba]

Everything you’re describing is me! I just had a heartattack and triple bypass surgery! After 33 years of marriage I finally realized that my husband is exactly like my mother was! I’ve tried to please her all my life and never did,my husband makes me feel the same way! Now it’s my turn to stand up for myself! I’m too old and sick to go to work, so I don’t have a choice to leave! But things will change here at home,I’m done walking on eggshells!😊

[@ascend555]

Daily meditation and prayer helps ☯️

[@minniekomperda3165]

I am the same, from mom to spouse. 35 years of marriage and I literally cannot do it anymore. Rheumatoid arthritis is in control enough to work but NO where to go. Something has to give.

[@u.p.inthewild7163]

I grew up with a grandiose narcissistic mother and married a covert narcissist. Our marriage was very toxic and I was a total door mat. Four years ago I started learning about narcissistic abuse and what it was. I would name out loud and describe what manipulation tactic my husband was trying to use on me, just to let him know it wasn’t going to work anymore. I set up up boundaries and would let him know if he was impeding on them. I too was in a situation where it was very difficult to leave the marriage. Our marriage is better today, of course it’s not perfect but it is much better than it was. I think there’s a spectrum to narcissism, my mother has been told by most of her friends she only talks about herself. Even on the phone she will say “Enough about me. How about you?” only then start talking about herself again. I’ve told my mother she is a narcissist and she should seek therapy for it. She won’t acknowledge any part of it and she has zero capability to self reflect and she will probably never change. Good Luck!

[@aNnAkt1qw]

Victoria Rose admire your strength. Go for it and keep going 💗

[@gayleearnhart9113]

Thank you

[@AnnieBryant-m2w]

My brain surgeon explained this to me in depth using my medical records. Three terminal diagnosis I’d been given. I am out five years and my mind is still blown over what I have lived thru. Within 6 mths of leaving I was off 37 pills a day, I haven’t had seizures or pain since leaving. I had to leave the religion that told me I needed to pray more and forgive more. I needed the one on one from a relationship. I had no idea God would communicate directly with me, He does and He keeps his promises He has helped me heal the holes in my soul put there by loving someone who got pleasure from my pain. I don’t think I could have broken that ungodly soul tie without Divine help and lots of it. I’m forever grateful

[@agak9974]

A Priest told me that we are not created on this planet to adore our parents. I didn’t realize how mentally codependent I was with my difficult parents instead of concentrating on my adult life path. My ex boyfriend was exactly as toxic as my dad. That’s how it goes 😬

[@HomeFrendsten]

When v r born in abnormal families there r chances to come across more toxic people

[@ironfist9831]

Toxic people are just toxic no matter who they are, or where they come from…be it parents, friends, siblings, or anybody with such demonic straits . If this toxicity is removed then healing returns to our bodies and mental systems which help us to consciously reset our bodies to default settings which is our true nature, our true being in an untethered way… 👏😇🇬🇧

[@MrSpankyxiv]

It's a good point. I would suggest that we are here to be better then and better off then, our parents in everyway. If my children achieve this I will die happy. Many parents are now so self absorbed and controlling (narrasasistic) that they see independent success within their own children as a threat to their internal self worth. My advice to parents... be honest with your children, show them your faults first and clearly. Your childs judgment of the situation(s) is them side stepping the cost of having to learn the hard way. Aka the sins of the father being visited upon the son. Good luck out there parents!

[@juliaannegrider5734]

I am the only child of a narcissist mother and my husband is a covert narcissist most certainly changes in a dime. I am 67 and can't go no contact with either. I need to take care of my mother and too old to start over that would make me sicker. I need help in dealing with it. 2 years after I married my husband I got 2 auto immune diseases , IBS and now heart and neurological problem. No rest for me until death .

[@healershealth5818]

The ONLY solution is zero contact & zero tolerance 💯

[@eliudnjai]

I started healing when i realized this. It's magic how diseases just disappear ❤

[@MYLIFENOW9706]

Everything disappeared with my no contact … everything WOW

[@heatherpllana5546]

Same

[@donnahalsted7718]

After over a year of my narc Brother's leaving I am still in recovery from PTSD which I did not suffer until he was gone. He did so much damage on my farm that I can never repair, and have no finances to do so, that it caused me trauma filled with the knowledge that it was done purposely to destroy me. That, only because he discovered that I knew he was taking advantage of me. I was his total supply, though he had a better income than I. Narcs can't face TRUTH. They must retaliate! They must retaliate even if we have done nothing but exist , serving their every whim and putting up with their continual denegration. That evil is so foreign to our way of thinking. I do have a greater understanding of these people and how very pathetic they are. There is no changing them. I also have a deep understanding of the vicious state of PTSD. The trauma of life with a narc has given me wisdom I would otherwise NEVER have gained. Tomorrow will be better than today...and the next...and the next!

[@kimberlyfox2244]

How did you guys heal your body?

[@lopezl4323]

Same❤

[@crystalclarity4318]

100% agree we’re built to deal with everyday stress but not the stress from abusers where there is no rest and no place to restore your body.

[@asligar3887]

Very well said. Your comment hit home for me. Take care

[@TrainsAndSirens]

Same here😢

[@tinajeppesen5948]

Absolutely just left a bipolar narcissist it was like living hell. I know my mind & body would be in a different place today if not for him. I think he popped my lung out of place when he shoved me against a wall once & pulled my arm up over my head way too far out of place & it caused a plural effusion. They found none of the usual causes it was a mystery. I felt something really strange happen in my chest the night he did it.

[@malakai3360]

I was married to one for 30 yrs. I had chronic inflammation, weight issues, panic attacks, 3 nervous breakdowns, back pain, neck pain, stomach issues, rashes, etc. He died 6 months ago from cancer and I look better and feel better now than I did a year into our marriage.

[@ElsieDee001]

I divorced my narcissistic abuser 30 years ago now. I felt like I was losing my soul, my sense of being. Migraines were beginning to affect my life activities, I was gaining weight from eating to feel better. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did for myself AND my children. And my now adult children still tell me the reason they ran off crying when we told them we were divorcing was because they were crying HAPPY tears.

[@HPuew-eh3su]

Good for you!!! I recently left a relationship with a narc, which landed me in the ER twice with intense migranes, not to mention weight gain, I just felt miserable. Thank God it only lasted 9 months. I was outta their

[@ElsieDee001]

@@HPuew-eh3su So glad you escaped!

[@Tarotcooks]

👍

[@ladyofthecreek279]

Thank you! So many people stay in these horrible relationships for the "sake of the children" 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@franceshaggitt3104]

Yeahhhhhh..my oldest said ok mum long as you are happy.. he was 7. Left ex abuser there and then with them , youngest 4

[@annaburns2865]

It’s really frustrating and shocking when your own mom is laughing at you because she has raised you to be a people pleaser and she knows she is taking advantage of you and stealing your joy and your rest. This was my first sign something was wrong, but at the time, two years ago, I didn’t know what to do about it. It’s been a long hard road. They are are truly cruel and evil. Bye mom.

[@jacrowe3477]

They also try to steal our identity, very cruel.

[@Dru-v9u]

I hear you , it’s really fucked

[@Confessions089]

Everything you said is true. Except that's not a mom at all. She's a donor and that's it and that's all.

[@ceciliaartaxet3674]

I can relate, finally detached from my mom. I feel so much better, my health my mental state. Just a positive vibe all together. It's so sad my own mother. I am also an only child. I am staying away for my health. I will always love her, just can't be manipulated anymore.

[@themysticmuse1111]

About to leave mine behind. Pure EVIL. No contact, baby. 👊

[@o.aldenproductions.9858]

I thought I had lost my short term memory for good but after the divorce I've e been so grateful to see it come back... It's wonderful to remember where I put things again 💕

[@lilac624]

I can't get past the trauma...The trauma has caused me different diseases and recently I had protein on my urine and even blood on it..Narcissistic abuse is slowly killing us..

[@user-ly3li3ex8c]

Dopamine is associated with memory, movement, executive functioning, motivation, and other things that keep you working properly. Narc abuse messes up your Dopamine reward system.

[@delleon1172]

@@user-ly3li3ex8cSounds pretty plausible to me 🤔 🌻🙏

[@SalwaTabl-ln4xp]

Oh my God.. same for me.. i had a perfect memory my all life.. in one year he damaged me deeply.. everything good in me was gone.. i was going crazy.. nothing can describe how malignant he was.. we genuinly believe because we are pure inside... universe will take our revenge. Im sure!!

[@heathergreyart]

"That never happened" is what I got today when he knows it very much did happen, the gaslighting, & cognitive dissonance is so sickening... Sending love to you all who are sharing, it is a struggle. 🤗*hugs* 💌Take care, because we know they will not.

[@Forever_broken1]

This is true. Still seeing gastro docs and getting scans blood work the whole 9 yards and just recently realized my 6 year gf is a full blown Narcissist. Extremely abusive. And its literally killing me. This needs to be taken seriously. Appreciate it.

[@hannahshmulsky7119]

I feel you. My mother is a raging bully and is only starting to retreat from her narcissistic behaviors after 4 decades…I’ve been chronically ill nearly all my life. This is a real medical crisis. I hope you’re able to get away from this woman ASAP, and that you heal fully from all of this. With you in solidarity ❤❤❤

[@sannajohanna5579]

I am from Finland. Here is also a KZbin channel (in Finnish) about narcissistic abuse. She has made a video that explains why emotional abuse (narcissistic abuse) is also physical abuse and people should see it that way. It affects our nerved and chemicals, hormons. It indeed affects our body. Our stress hormons run high. Cortisol will be high when we are alert all the time. Insulin increases and causes insulin resistance because stress makes us grave unhealthy food and even alcohol (or drugs). Then we are in the circle because carb-high diet makes just grave more sugar and bad food. Blood preassure increases - and the body stays constantly in the stress mode, high adrenalin. We cannot think clearly, our brains are constantly at beta-waves, when alpha-waves would be the more creative state. We get angry easilly, we are nervous and all those chemicals affect our mood. Soon body is addicted with these chemicals. I’ve also thought about this when I have just learned about insulin and cortisol etc. and also listened and read Dr. Dispenza, who very well explains how our thoughts and feelings affect our body. He does not talk about abuse, but is is quite clear that when a person is under a constant stress, it predicts sickness later in life. I have practised yoga and meditation and mindfullnes quite a long time and I think that it has helped me to notice my body reactions very well, sometimes I think that too well! Now, when I even think about going to my parents place, my body get stuck, I can hardly breathe. My body tells me that it cannot take it any more, it is unstandable. I can almost feel how cancer cells are preparing to have a party when I even think of setting myself for the bully. Especially, when my job already is stressful. Now, after being in no contact for some time I realise that I am so tired! During holidays I slep, slept, slept. I woke up but I took long naps during the daytime. I was thinking, what the hel is this, am I lazy. I cannot get anything done, I just sleep. Then I thought that maybe my body needs it. I haven’t had holidays in two years and I have had quite a chaos in my life. Last year, I moved three times! Body takes it all. It has the memory. It needs realxation. My cats relax most of the time - it is the nature and meaningful. Then they have huge power when they play (hunt) for a short time. The body is not meant to handle long term continuous stress. And the western world, even without narcissist abuse, is apt to keep on stress continuously. That is why there is so much overweight (stress causes it), depression, all these things that people did not have before.

[@zsuzso7]

Same sh*t here :) even though I practiced yoga, when I was constantly abused by my ex, I was exposed to constant stress at work, my hormone system finally couldn't keep the balance that led to gynecological, digestive, etc problems. And when you produce symptoms, that is actually already the healing process already, this is something the modern medicine maybe gets wrong, which leads to many times this tipical error of treating only the visible sypmtoms of a patient. I can recommend you to check Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer's works, can give you some hint on why do you need sleeping that much (by the way, I've been in the same situation right now for two weeks already :D ) take care!

[@irishelinac]

Very interesting, thank you for sharing with us ! 🌟😊

[@curaturable]

Very well said !!++++ Speaking from experience !!! I got that too from toxic ppl around it's draining you feel loosing yourself it's like psycho virus !

[@lamagiduneinstant76]

@incuraturable ~Read “Wetiko” by Levy I believe. It IS a virus that ancients, Gnostics, Indigenous peoples have long known about and recorded. Most recently by shaman Don Juan in Cesteneda books. “The world would be a better place if everyone read this book.” -Sting

[@johncorson6599]

Yes, got out April 2022 from totally toxic sibling .. was doing fine as peace came and got a good job with nice ppl .. but now very tired and sleeping way more than normal .. I figure my body needs it so don’t fight it .. first 4 or so months it wasn’t this way

[@soniag4516]

I've lived through two toxic narcissistic relationships-- my older sister and my Ex-husband. Your story is exactly like mine but much worse. I had little children and almost died. I've never taken drugs, alcohol, or smoked. Doctors kept treating symptoms of heart, lung, digestive, head/back/ joint pains, IBS, anxiety/ panic, HBP, entire body inflamed, sleeplessness...you name it. I got away in 1997 and the road to recovery began. I quit doctors, I quit friendships with anyone who had access to my abusers, changed housing often running from them...now fairly peaceful BUT remember this if you had narcisstic spouse your kids inherited that trait/demon. My children did, now in their 30's I see it clearly yet don't have any fight left in me. I hide in Christ Jesus... I just tune-out, go into my garden or go visit friends who left toxic relationships. A support system is important. The devils are real. Even the stupid ignorant psychologist & the psychiatrist had no clue what I was dealing with. Don't look for any help from law enforcement either. Just pack-up and disappear. Home-school your children (if you have any), cut-off from vulnerable relatives & friends--narcissist will use them to get to you. Our govt and law enforcement are full of narcissistic people, both genders and now the many colors. Don't be a victim, be a VICTOR!

[@fifilafleur5555]

@soniag4516, 💯💯💯

[@wms72]

You sound like me. But I don't have enough local friends at my age, especially since the lockdown,

[@ericanelson7789]

I pray my daughter doesn't turn out like her father. She's only two now, but time will tell.

[@kirstenschneider8209]

Well said. I'm so sorry can't trust anyone

[@khushikhan6839]

Sonia its true there ia demon devil angle in ths

[@TrainsAndSirens]

I’ve been diagnosed with 11 autoimmune diseases after spending 27 years with a class A textbook covert narc! I’m literally dying! From that relationship. On top of panic attacks and anxiety through the roof! I am no contact thank God!

[@maureensheppard3613]

@ TrainsAndSirens.Please dont die.Say positive things to yourself every day.The body is stronger than you think & your mind needs to heal your body.I too have 5 autoimmune diseases+ my whole body shut down due to stress of seeing my Mother die & that horrible ex boyfriend abusing me hours after her death & storming off.Plus there was a clash of medicines + kava & a little wine to ease the shock.Warning here dont take Kava Kava its dangerous to kidneys & liver & is banned in several Countries ! My kidneys & liver stopped, wt this resulting in HBP. a stroke, A fib & constant sweats. Fell away to 31 kilos.My beloved dog weighed more than me.The medicos were perplexed. They thought I was going to die.But I hv nearly died a few times in my life & surprised all the Doctors. Then enchapalitis,then cancer. I fought on & am getting sooo much better. Sure I hv flare ups if I eat some things,& hv other stresses. But coming out of an abusive family then into the arms of more abusive usuarious people has made me more than cautious.I hv flash backs too to their cruelties,& this causes stress.Lean to heal,as must I.I prayed to God & He helped me in the most beautiful & unexpected of ways. These people, their just selfish horrible people & you must get away from them & heal from their past inflictions too; if your ever going to get well.And you will if you try really hard to find happiness even if artificial for starters -- like happy imaginings every day.But avoid anyone in future that shows those familiar cruel red flags,& give them No Power over you as it can be a cycle.A very evil & callous cycle with no love or regard for you when they choose; which is too often.Listen to this man he is so very right in all he says.

[@jeanettesimon7978]

Oh my goodness. May I ask which autoimmune diseases?😮

[@TrainsAndSirens]

Autoimmune Metaplastic Atrophic gastritis, Pernicious Anemia, Crohn’s Disease,Hashimotos thyroid, Raynaud’s , hypogammaglobulinemia , autoimmune liver disease, Lupus, autoimmune dysmotility,psoriatic arthritis, POTS!

[@Esti-xg7tg]

@@TrainsAndSirens I am so sorry. 😞 Going through many of the same things and few different autoimmune diseases - I hope that I will make it somehow, though now, after 22 years, it seems unlikely...At least want to be able to get better enough to make it back to my home country, don't want to die in a foreign land. I hope you get at least some of your life back before the end... Hugs and prayers! 🫂🙏🐾

[@TrainsAndSirens]

@@Esti-xg7tg thank you and I’m sorry for you as well. May we heal and live our best lives!

[@the_one_who-knocks]

So true, going through this right now. The abuse will make you sick and take you down to the point where you won't recognize yourself or how you got here. Smh...

[@jayp3687]

This is insightful! living in panic mode with a narcissist is atrocious.

[@TanyaDunn-d5q]

Broke ties with everyone family friends and now living a much better and healthier life😊

[@lemondropzs]

Good for you

[@caroleyre9144]

I had to do the same with most too. Well done. Love and blessings ❤️

[@BeautyMuwowo]

Just thinking to do the same thing my all family they're narc

[@BanFamilyVlogging]

*Many narcissists become dangerous when they realize that you’re leaving.* People die underestimating narcissists, because they don’t know to plan their escape in secret. It’s a proven pattern that deadly escalations are often triggered by the victim either attempting to leave, or by revealing that they plan to. So keep yourself safe.

[@HomeFrendsten]

Narcsts 'means people who play with othrs life and respect

[@miss_nycity8457]

This is extremely true and important! Aside from being a physical, mental health issue it is highly spiritual. Stay away from these toxic, life depleting individuals. There is more to life, stop trying to help ppl that don’t deserve it.

[@veronique272]

True! It’s a spiritual battle for your soul. Discernment is absolutely key in this realm.

[@maryfrances1307]

And don’t be led by lust. Sometimes you miss these demons because you’re in bed alone. Always remember how they made you feel outside of the bed.

[@jessicadubois9945]

💯

[@deannaodle5476]

You are 100 percent correct.

[@lizh1988]

Yes, they pat you on the back and say nice things to distract you from the fact their putting a knife in it. Or a feeding tube in the side of you neck so they can suck the life out of you.

[@messpilo]

So true. Just hearing the telephone call from a toxic person ie friend or parent cause me a feeling of strong anxiety.

[@romanastrasheim5226]

YES! 😰

[@marinanamaste5821]

So true!!!

[@youtube_chaplain]

Heaven and Hell are real... Is your heart right with God? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. MARK 1:15 “ the kingdom of God is at hand; repent and believe in the gospel.” "Salvation Prayer" Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of and I repent of my sins. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sins and that He arose from the grave and that He is alive today. I ask that you forgive me of my sins and come into my heart.... I proclaim that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. AMEN......

[@lmb1931]

My brother-in-law was taking care of his narcissist mother until the situation became so bad that he literally put her out by finding her a nursing home. He was a nervous wreck, his marriage questionable, and his blood pressure sky high. When his mother chased him around with a butcher knife in each hand, he got a restraining order against her, went no contact, saw a therapist, and even moved. Today, he and his wife are happy and healthy. His mother? Abandoned by all of her children.

[@BrittJoshua24-15]

My husbands mom is in a nursing home and my husband is the only one who visits her. He even threatens to stop seeing her when she starts on him.

[@lilac624]

Aging narcissists should be put in nursing homes .....

[@lmb1931]

@lilac624 He tried. Found her one. Got her settled. She decided she didn't like the food and got herself out of there.

[@InshasChoice]

As sad as it is, these people can't be helped... I know children often feel guilt due to the expectations, but there's only so much you can do...

[@gracegwozdz8185]

So my question is: What's with this chasing the target with a knife? My mother did that for all of her life! I never understood that she was toxic and evil.

[@AutumnGold0706]

I stayed in bed all day today just exhausted. I knew there was a reason and there was. Tonight I feel much better and look forward to everything I am going to be blessed with.🥀

[@foxclover6]

You know what's weird, this can even exist on a less " abusive" by definition level. Just someone who refuses to let you go, and constantly messes with you and guilt trips you.

[@kizryuver]

Yeah though i wish workplace abuse was mentioned too. 🔸𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙗𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙘𝙚 🔹we may have perfectly good family but sometimes society really is an issue due to narcissistic people or just abusive people in general that aren't narcissistic but still abusive. 🔸𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 🔹And i so wish channels like this were available in all languages, they are literal treasures.

[@bridgetsieger2261]

In other countries or belief systems they don’t use fancy psychobabble words… which are true, these words and actions are true and helpful to us victims. They are called demons or a possession in other cultures, even ours. Sometimes I think God wouldn’t create something so evil…it is the devil. Someone who can willingly hurt you, steal your friends, convince others you are the (fill in the blank) then walk away when you are begging for an answer, is a demon. Sometimes they were born with souls but over a childhood of narcissistic abuse, they turned evil. Then, let the cycle continue. At least that is the way it seems to be in my NARC family dynamics.

[@chrissyscholl816]

You literally just described narcissistic abuse. It's not "less abusive"??? What is it "less abusive" than exactly? You just gave the literal definition of it. Gaslighting and control over someone else...

[@foxclover6]

@@chrissyscholl816 I was saying it can be on a less heavy level like someone just reminding you they're there all the time and not letting you have peace.

[@foxclover6]

@chrissyscholl816 then*, not than.

[@janinegrey6937]

After 4 visits to the ER in 1 year, unconscious from dizziness, diarrhea and vomiting, I realized I was going to die if I didn’t leave. After all tests came back normal, I asked the Dr. if emotional distress could be the cause. He said, “Yes.” My gut has a brain and I left! Never had another episode.

[@dmc3202]

Good for you! We must always walk in the light of truth once we see it.

[@healthychick9450]

I spent my adult life with major illness, part of my kidney removed, uterine fibroids and most recently a bone marrow transplant (leukemia). I'm healthy otherwise. I was raised by an abusive narc mom, escaped her at 34 years old. My bone marrow transplant donor was an anonymous woman in Switzerland. So when people say "you need your family, what if you need a kidney one day". Lol. God provided a perfect match for my marrow from a complete strangers halfway across the world. Break free from these demons, your life depends upon it.

[@joyhappy3461]

I’m happy for you

[@angeliquebacker8522]

Proud of you! 👏👏 I’m also hoping to work hard and move out from my narc grandmother. My new job starts by the end of the month, I’m so ready! 💪👊👊

[@yolandaholliday4964]

I was in a marriage with a narcissist for 27 years and had been diagnosed with Graves’ disease. I had to have my thyroid removed which had a lot of non cancerous lumps on them. I’ve been divorced now approaching four years and I have had a clean bill of health since. My lifestyle has changed for the better. My mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional wellbeing has improved significantly and I am a much happier and healthier woman today. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mariafihn6874]

29 married to one 31 together … free now 3.5 months

[@teriliebmann3491]

After 34 years of an abusive narcissistic relationship it became obvious that I literally had a broken heart, amongst all the other stuff the stress does to beat up the body. Get out, stay away with every inch of strength you've got and Go no contact, no matter what🙏

[@Oceansgreen]

I have, after 36 years…. Thank you.

[@Kolana42]

I have SLE Lupus - had to break bonds with a family member and then my number of flares decreased by 95% and got off a lot of meds. Narcissists WILL kill you! Thank you for this episode of affirmation.

[@lilac624]

Narcissistic abuse is slowly killing me..

[@shireenramnarain4005]

My daughter has lupus My son has mystenia Gravis I have multiple sclerosis My husband is a narcissist....a good one at that😢

[@shilk4301]

@@shireenramnarain4005leave him .its better to live poor and survive happily than to be with such ppl . I have been there and I know how difficult it is

[@cherrydomingo8545]

Same here my friend.

[@DarrenRockwell]

This was a big one for me. I didn't realize that my narc mother was abusive until I first moved out. I would catch myself mentally walking on eggshells, always thinking (would this upset my mother). Constantly. Anyway, my father still lives with her and I can see it physically eating him alive. He has no soul left, no hobbies, no passion for life. Just anxiety and depression, along with horrible memory and cognitive skills. He walks around with his head hunched over. It kills me to see him like that, but I will never live a decent life of my own if I dont keep distance from my narc mother and I cannot save him.

[@apemayaxx]

I feel you... I couldn't save my mother and she now has "Alzheimer" (I am sure it's the result of cronich gaslight and humiliation)

[@heart1caligurl]

I relate...my dad finally died...she is killing me now, my ex failed but now my mom is finishing me off...makes me sad...happy you got away

[@TheMazinoz]

I was in exactly the same situation. Loved dad, but had to give up both parents

[@World-Sojourner.22]

I totally understand! My dad, a raging drunk. Mom, a self righteous narc who tried to badger me into living the life she wished she’d had. Non compliance brought rage, love w/d, silent treatment then love bombing. My sis grew into a jealous narc who also abused me. Mom died last month Thank God! Sis had manipulated mom into making her Executor of her tiny estate. She is acting like Mussolini! Only meaner. I truly believe that if she could she would murder me. She is trying to make me homeless! She’s actually happy at the thought of me being homeless! I’ve gone no contact and hired a lawyer! Good Riddance Sis. Hell knowing you! The relief I feel is weird, like I’ve been released from a prison. I barely know myself. Im 62, disabled with an autoimmune disease spent seven years in bed and got well enough to moderately function. Just in time to allow myself to be manipulated into caring for my mom as she slipped into dementia and death. The last year was hell. She needed to feed every seven to ten days and I’d get out! I think narcs are emotional vampires. The Bible says that in the last days people will be lovers of themselves. We’re beginning to realize that these narcs seem to be everywhere!

[@debbiekaczmarek7212]

Omg there's someone else that said it. I finally had to go no contact with my mother who's in her mid-seventies. My father can't drive anymore, but could walk to my house, I live 2 blocks away. Because I don't have contact with my mother, I can't have contact with my father. My mother would put him through hell. It breaks my heart, because the strong man that I always looked up to is a shell of himself. He also doesn't have any hobbies or friends. He's retired and stuck in the house with my mom all day. I myself have lost 30 lbs in the last 5 months, my hair is falling out, I have horrible anxiety. I know I have major depression. I have a doctors appointment already set up and I'll be starting therapy. Before I stopped contact with my mother I asked her if she would go to therapy with me. She said she didn't need therapy I did. This is a woman who lies all the time, even about stuff she doesn't have to lie about. She Will never apologize for anything she's done to you. Even if you showed her a picture, a text, or recorded video. She would still deny things.

[@AquariusExtract]

THESE HEALTH ISSUES ARE EXACTLY WHAT IVE BEEN DEALING WITH FOR YEARS!! OH MY GOD! Tachycardia, Dissociation, inflammation, chronic fatigue, random panic attacks for no reason etc. x2000 Everything got worse during and after a narcissistic relationship and living with negative peace sucking family doesnt help at all but.. Mind blown. Thanks for this.

[@BelindaVanLill]

I was married to a covert narcissist for 24 years. Through the years I developed many diseases and events, for example hyper thyroidism, irritable bowel, breast cancer, depression and stroke. His toxicity was extreme I was fool enough to think that we could be at least civil towards each other after the divorce but in the end when his toxicity continued I went no contact. So much peace and love now. During my cancer therapy he started an affair with a co-worker, I finally could except that he never cared about me and my marriage was a lie.

[@munkyjammin]

I have lived your life almost exactly. It has utterly destroyed our children & myself. We were all discarded like garbage. He completely abandoned all of his children without a word. Looking forward to happier times. More power to you , prosperity & peace.

[@susanroberts6573]

Belinda, so pleased you can now be yourself . I can’t believe I stayed so long. Lots of love ,enjoy your new life 😘🌈🐈‍⬛🐕‍🦺🤗💐

[@adriennmagyar8746]

😢

[@michellebadham9353]

Years after leaving a marriage to a narcissist, I developed an autoimmune disease and a heart issue. My daughter suffers with anxiety due to her past relationship with her father. I've suffered with anxiety and panic attacks since I was a child. It's extremely frightening how a toxic person can affect your health, and rarely do you ever regain it back again

[@carolfrome7801]

I've seen this in action. It is absolutely true that someone else's abusive behavior toward you can kill you. The abuse does not have to be physically violent. Whether a slow bloody grind, cruel explosions, character assassination, attempts to redefine you in the light of their twisted perceptions, or what-have-you, such abuse can make you physically and fatally ill.

[@Nicole-q6c3u]

mhm

[@candydodson1283]

My mother is a narcissist. I’m in my 50s. I’ve had little contact with her over the last 15-20 years and my life is just more peaceful without her. I talk to or visit her every now and then but at my convenience. She’s in bad health now. I do feel bad for her but not bad enough to stress myself out taking care of her. I took care of myself as a child, she’ll have to take care of herself as an old person.

[@serendipity0775]

I'm a mental health professional and iv seen this up close and personal, both in my practice and iv been thru it myself. Go no contact is the ideal solution, but not always practical or possible due to children, finances and a host of other factors so let's take some responsibility here and help those who cannot leave to equip themselves both mentally and emotionally to whatever extent. Dr Ramani has some great content on that .

[@carolglover3582]

Dr Ramani is very good

[@teeka7777]

EXACTLY! if I had a way (means) to get away, far away from my severely narcissistic mother I would!

[@lungatsominzlet4941]

Is there any means that someone co-parenting with a narc hubby can get help to raise his children so that she can go no contact with that beast.pleas help I'm stuck

[@djentdjinn]

I live with a narcissist dad and unfortunately due to my situation, while not impossible, is very difficult to get out. But learning about narcissism has finally given me the understanding that I needed

[@suzyhomeacre]

Bravo to the op!! Validation, big time!!🙌🏻 I knew it…🤫 I suspected it…so thank you for more clarity.

[@nathalieandersson9432]

I will never let such a sick person into my life ever again. Was always sick and constantly ached throughout the body and felt sick. I didn't let myself be manipulated by his fake lying ways. My body warned me every time we saw each other. Love reading psychology and watching these educational videos👌🏽Thank U 🙏🏽❤

[@EveningTV]

Great topic! This is what led me to having a heart attack at 33 years old which led to a near death experience. One year after watching me flatline in front of them, my sociopathic husband (diagnosed ASPD/NPD) and narcissistic family abandoned and scapegoated and mobbed me. I was left penniless, disabled and utterly alone except for my two traumatized children who they kept in chaos for the remainder of their childhoods. Fifteen years after this happened, my eldest son died of an overdose after years of suffering with severe CPTSD. His sociopathic father managed to contain his joy so he could get the narcissistic supply of playing a grieving father. No one had to know that his abuse and neglect were a problem years before drugs came into the mix. I can't help but wonder if there isn't a link between the narcissism epidemic and the opiate epidemic because there certainly was a connection in our case.

[@tamivega6225]

I never thought of that but of course! What a horrible thought.

[@soniag4516]

I know my oldest son was affected by my narcisstic EX. yes I had heart attack at 45, almost died, had depression & suicidal thoughts at 32 that's when I turned to Christ Jesus but stayed in the toxic relationships too long. People don't understand why I never remarried nor dated all these years. One trauma was enough for me.

[@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs]

the war on drugs was started as a loophole 2 get around fundamental human rights and freedoms. pretty sure u could call that narcissism extreme. the us govt. invented drug crime.

[@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs]

also the #1 schedule onebsubstance- lsd- cures addiction. so--- yeah... ur probably absolutely spot on with that 1

[@EC-yd9yv]

Cocaine and abusers of pain meds...can be very grandiose, narcs. 😣

[@lynnevogelsang4907]

I will get better once lm away,l know it..only thing stopping me is my health and lack of money..l have faith and believe in miracles..l will survive 🙏🏼

[@filomenaricciardi6876]

To all the great people that were abused by these criminals may God help us with peace love and health for a new life!❤

[@rikavermeulen9463]

Thank you for this. At 62 yrs old I have been working hard at healing and started thinking that a lot of my physical issues are related to a lifetime of narc abuse ( my mother) and and 13yr marriage to a violent narc. You have given me hope and confirmation that I am on the right track.

[@mykingdomforahorse9256]

me too. mother's cruelty was like the mother in snow white. chilling.

[@EveryDayMattersToday]

I’m a Fellow survivor same circumstances - God be with you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@maryrichardson6029]

I was 63

[@maribethhenry6251]

Bless ya'll...60 yrs here

[@cjjones-x4r]

What physical ailments did you get from it? I got digestive, low weight, anxiety

[@deborahbailey8246]

🙌🙌🙌🙌. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse. Being a nurse for many years there was never any medical tests that revealed why these problems were manifesting in my body. It hit me two years ago and I was like WOAH! Thank You for sharing your experiences and please continue to do so! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️. I know IM NOT CRAZY NOW!

[@kimseniorb]

you are by the looks of it

[@tiaslays255]

@@kimseniorb ????

[@truthbetold4350]

@@kimseniorb You are probably a narcissist

[@amandaroberts5111]

On the contrary, you have regained your sanity

[@sydneyrogers9697]

Nurse here too. Grew up with a narcissistic/psychopathic mother. Suffered major gastric issues requiring surgery, Lupus, major depression, migraines, cutaneous problems, the list goes on and on. I've sought help throughout my life with little improvement. I'm 70 now, retired and a recluse. I did once love helping others but it's caused problems. Just love my pets now and being alone.

[@mariaisabelcruz4943]

I had breast cancer I had high BLOOD pressure Heart problems Stomach problems. Mental problems Now, im much better. Left him for for years, and I start to be healthy 30 years with a narcisist always hoping that he could change .....he never did!!!! Each year was worse than the other....a desaster. Thank you for helping people to recognise a narcisist and run away from them . The hell on earth.

[@Enlightement369]

35 years with a covert narcissist. Your words couldn't be more true. By the time I left my relationship I had 25 years of insomnia fibromyalgia chronic daily pain terrifying anxiety attacks, depression and self hate for 25 years and my narcissistic husband driving me into the dirt with his nasty controlling emotional mental abuse. Then on to another relationship with another narcissist for a year way worse than the first 1 this 1 involved serious physical abuse. I managed to get out and pray that I can take care of myself and no longer ever be co dependent again....Just Loved and appreciated.

[@lilac624]

I experience years of insomnia...

[@AndreaMolinari-tl5bb]

Noooo😢😢😢😢😢

[@patjones2082]

Married a narc 40 years ago. I was diagnosed with 3 auto immune diseases. In and out of the ER with heart rate issues. G.E.R.D. Asthma. Narc was told get counseling and do right, or I'm leaving. They left within 48 hrs. Type 2 Diabetes reversed in 6 months. Cut my blood sugar, hbA1c, by 1/2! 5 sizes lost. BP down to the low end of normal. Cholesterol almost had me on meds, but it's fine now. Extra high hdl ratio to boot. Thank got, Jesus! Still going thru divorce, so issues concentrating and short term memory is completely shot, but I'm hopeful once the circus is over God will return all my health and peace. I wish the same for you today, reader, and I will pray that anyone reading this with needs receives the solutions with an abundance. God bless you all! 🕊

[@gitsiegoo]

Congratulations on getting out of that relationship and on repairing your health! That's amazing!

[@MargaretWark]

I am sorry to say that your narcissist will make things worse for you as he did me. My family and friends all turned against me because of the lies he told. I was 58 years with mine.

[@freedomdance7]

God bless you ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@teresapayne2679]

simply thank you. and prayers returned ! 🙌💝

[@varshatripathiofficial]

Mannn ..i needed to hear this 4 years back ... but I am glad you made this vdo .. you nailed it with the diseases that you mentioned... its so amazing that more and more people are addressing this now👏👏

[@rhondar4063]

Praying that God keep you safe and help you get you to get out of the situation in Jesus Christ name amen 🙏 I lived through this with my own mom as a child and today I'm watching this video for me.

[@lorilange8654]

More like 50 years for me..

[@Miss_Takn]

Thats what I said , although I was planning to escape each time something weird happened. 1st time had how to siphon out stuff etc.. was going to a rooming house , not ideal but close and id be out . Nope , building sold everyone had to vacate by Dec.31. Ok, the this time GD im gone , i cant take anymore . News out of Italy , WTH, a global disease , whaaaaaat, yep . Lockdown. Im just to old now to start anything with anyone . I couldnt even begin . I dont mind being alone but the last part of my life I just cant .......My family , alot of close friends all gone . Seriously when is that time machine going to get invented

[@mrjamiebowman]

we're becoming emotionally intelligent people and as uncomfortable as it is.. we should share these experiences to help not only our selves but others. Awareness is key.

[@mrjamiebowman]

@@FreedomAboveAll4I get it, I'm 40. That's the beauty and irony in life is that you have to be willing to accept this and move forward at all costs. An amazing life awaits you if you believe that. Pick up a new life, move to a new town, make new firends, and start completely over. That's what I did and I'm living my best life. I also have suffered from this for 18+ years. Find your best version of yourself and pursue that.. whatever it is.. then.. pay it forward and help others. You will find all the love you've been missing your whole life.

[@jackiecolbert3915]

Wow just came across your page. Most of the issues you described was me. Came from toxic childhood to toxic marriage for 21yrs. Divorced 2yrs and slowly starting to feel better. I'm blown away from just this one video.

[@lissysue]

My health got increasingly worse while I was with my husband. I never realized until now how much the abuse was affecting my health. I have gone no contact and I’m dealing with the flashbacks and grief but I’m also on the path to creating my best life 😊

[@kimberlylehman125]

Melissa, God bless you. I'm so sorry for your pain. Omg!! I went no contact too and am dealing with grief and flashbacks!! I've been no contact for one year. Do you have any tips for healing?

[@abdullahzubair1888]

Use Bach flower essences to heal yourself Quickly

[@deeberry650]

So happy for you ..spread your unclipped wings and FLY ..

[@Layp107]

True! When my father passed, I felt obligated to go in order to help my mother get her stuff in order (I am an only child) and stayed for a couple of months. She managed once again to make me ill with her narcissistic abuse. I had the panic attacks that you describe, in my sleep. I thought: time to get the hell away again. And I did. I went home, 3000 km away. It took me 3 solid months to calm down and feel like me again. I won’t go back in the region as long as she’s alive. Like ever.

[@jester7038]

The poison they emit gets deep. I moved away during my 20s, I don't remember much of my childhood and youth. I accepted that I was difficult and a trouble maker. But blossomed during my years away. Redundancy forced me back to the motherland and I moved close to my brother. 2 years ago Mum moved to us. My zest for life has diminished. I've become my angry teenage self again and seem to repel people I meet, being sarcastic and hostile. At work I'm impatient and defensive. It's upsetting to see the change in myself. I've gone no contact with Mum but she's showing up places. She lives a 5 min walk away and I've become afraid to leave the house. Changed the locks this week so I can at least feel safe and secure at home. Starting therapy this week. It's horrendous what the emotionally abusive parent does to their child.

[@graceisamazing5493]

I can attest to this. I was raised by an evil narcissistic mother from hell and was chronically ill as a child. Then, after being away from her for 15 years, came down with the flu after being around her for Christmas.

[@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999]

Yes, your body knows who is good for you and who isn't. Always love yourself and don't allow those who are bad for you back into your life.

[@lynneroberts3628]

Been there, hope you stronger now 😊

[@deeberry650]

Been there and have a tee-shirt from my mom and now but I have a Narco husband so there has been NO PEACE ....63 years too long

[@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999]

@@deeberry650 that is too long Dee. I don't know how you can live this way. Don't you think you deserve better??? If you're married to a harmful person your first job is to leave or get them to leave as soon as you can. Never stay with a person incapable of kindness or empathy. You're wasting your life. It's not worth it. Plain and simple. You gotta love yourself first and foremost and know that you DO deserve better, a lot better!

[@sonjak8265]

@@bnyob3463 Her mother caused stress that lowered her immunity.

[@OriginalJohnDoeFakersBeware]

Very true. There is a strong connection between abusive stress and physical health ailments. Stay away from people who abuse you.

[@christined72]

I was raised in a tough manipulative household. My teeth are shot. Years of clinching and vitamin deficiency as a child. My hair turned white very prematurely. But the medication I’m 50 and I cut out all toxic people out of my life. I even got my butt fired from my toxic job. I’m getting dental implants in my broken back teeth. I grew out my white hair. But when I got rid of all the toxic people. I also got rid of all of my back pain that I’ve had since I was 16 years old.

[@baddiezone]

Wow I’m so sorry that you went through that , I pray that god gives you healing that you deserve

[@melinakoufalis281]

Sorry to hear you went through this ..families can be really tough .. what a list of suffering they gave you.... I was curious what do you mean by you grew out your white hair? Did you also have hair loss?