Side Dudes Have the Best Perspective

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[@donnelle222]

Side dudes do have the best perspective. Sometimes these dudes are the one she wanted to be the main dude but he wouldn't give her the title, so she settles for what he gives her...when he gives it to her.

[@RomWills]

Truth.

[@targetegrat]

@Donnelle. *slow clap* The way you word that shit. Makes me feel like you are Morpheus telling NEO the game in the matrix.

[@uptown_bull6381]

This is what actually happened to me

[@jehoramisrael7374]

💯💯

[@twinrivers6200]

@@frankystrings guess you meant blow....lol my nugga!

[@chuckdz7251]

In the black community anything in normal society that is good...it really bad. What's bad in normal society is good in the black community. When I think of "good black man" I think of that one black man that's always getting taken advantage of or done wrong. I personally find the term "good black man" highly offensive. I mean to the point I'll stop talking to a chick if she called me that.

[@patton1909]

Being decent doesn’t work in the black community

[@slapittywapitty8173]

@Dee Jay : "our community?" Going forward a "good black man" is a childless uncle patriarch guiding his emancipated nephews. I learned this 'Side Dude' game at 21 from a cheatin-@$$, gainfully-divorced mother of two (16yrs my senior) in Kamakura, Japan. Black men are not regarded as leaders by ANY of Earth's women. They ALL see BM as just for 'fighting or f**kg. Stop auditioning for HoH. Two kinds of men: A Player banging everyone else's wives or a Sucker who's wife everyone's banging. Which man YOU wanna be?

[@slapittywapitty8173]

​@Dee Jay : Friends don't let friends marry single moms. I stress 'Uncles NOT Fathers' b/c Courts can't MAKE Uncles do $#!! Sister/Cousins make us uncles by instinct: Cheating, paternity fraud, 12BW preg' X: 1BM, etc. Just true nature revealed by 'liberation.' 'June Cleaver/Claire Huxtable?' Masks! So Y waste X & $ trying 2B Ward or Cliff? Just Be 'The Player banging everyone else's wives.' BM seen as 'F-Boys' NOT leaders by ALL women - BW too?!. OK: Marry/Impregnate NO ONE! Zero alimony/child spt. Help Ur nephews

[@BookerT1]

I am currently a side dude and I agree with this message. I have a birds eye view to this woman's life and how she really feel about "everything."

[@Jahfariinternational]

Sometimes you be the side dude and don't even realize.

[@RomWills]

Truth.

[@BGSIBMOR]

I've been lied to by more married women than I can count. You giving away game Field Master.

[@RomWills]

BGS IBMOR, You know the real game from the streets. The key is really understanding a woman's nature.

[@superone5838]

I got lot to say on this subject, but it brings back painful memories so i will just keep it brief. Women lying that's real talk. I was new to the navy a enlisted check- in back in the day at a new command and all the ships had just left. I met a fine petite redbone from Fresno , and the squadrons flew out of lemoore out to sea to the carrier. While stationed at lemoore i met the girl at the base club and everything was great for about six months until the squadrons came back. And then i found out I was the side piece. And the guy was selected to go to a officer program so i knew I wasn't going to say anything, but i was hurt cos she not only lied but she started acting like she was my wife and jealous of other woman when they were around ., but when a certain squadron got back she acted like she didn't even know me. Then I figured out that a lot of hustle and game was around military bases especially during the 80's.

[@superone5838]

Rom Wills yeah i commented to BGS 'S comment about a short story i had in a similar situation about married women lying.

[@TREESCARDSNHOBBIES]

@@superone5838 brother I'm active now, NOTHING has changed.

[@slapittywapitty8173]

@troy franklin: Good 4U. Got it out the way early. Blue-pill suckahs learn later & harder. Got my early education in Yokosuka, 7th Flt.

[@Superrdave6303]

Low key, the side dude is the best position to have. You typically get to see the real side of the woman sexually and you don’t have to put up with the variables of a relationship/marriage like the main dude has to

[@retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106]

All is so true but at what cost if your caught? Jail or death?

[@twinrivers6200]

Yeah bro used to roll the dice many times and mostly with married white chicks, course I was mostly younger back then but if their husbands would have gotten an inkling I was putting a whole in their wives/gf's backs, I shoulda been dead multiple times.I feel protected by the higher power looking back on it now.Will school my son, who is 12 that it aint cool rolling the dice like that cause if you get caught slipping, may be over for you.Great topic Rom.Not gonna lie shit was mostly fun as hell though long term it ain't worth it.

[@marketwizard8012]

tbh!!!!

[@joefromdc]

Gm Uncle Best part - side dude doesn’t have to deal with her real life bullshit 😎

[@RomWills]

Exactly.

[@suli5109]

Reminds me of an experience at University where a girl invited me to her accomodation and didn't mention her man. I had no idea she had a boyfriend til we were cuddled up and he called her. She even told her man that she loved him. The game is the game i guess...

[@RomWills]

Women throw the word love around loosely.

[@roycejay6723]

You see this a lot on military bases.

[@etf42]

i remember being shocked the first time i was a side man as well. it really messes with you.

[@retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106]

@@RomWills my ex wife used the i love you loosely.

[@jessekirksey1980]

I had to cut several few women because I was putting myself in danger dealing with women who are engaged married or in serious relationships. I also wanted a relationship for myself but being a side dude gave me Insight. I love my freedom too much to be stressing over women

[@TooColdGame]

It’s been 5 years since this video ,The game still goes on 🙏🏽💯🔥

[@rollingtinfist]

Awesome video. Was a side dude more often than I'd like to admit back in my 20s. Women always have a man on deck, and sometimes (rarely) she may not be aware that "friend" is really a side dude in waiting.

[@bkboy88]

One of the reasons side dudes have great perspective when it women is also because women are willing to be more honest with men they're not too familiar with. In the couple times Ive been the side dude I've gotten alot of information out of women and so does my friends when they go down that route.

[@flyazzplayboy]

I wouldn't say unfamiliar, I'll say more unlikely to judge her for gf/wife characteristics and positions.

[@sherwoodbradley9240]

True but many times that information is for sympthy purpose ONLY...and most time its not the FULL truth. Just there side of the story to make you give them the comfort and D they yearning for at that moment. Even when you date a SINGLE woman...they only tell you BAD shit about they ex or baby daddy. But they won't say how they was begging two days ago and sucked and swallowed to make him spend the night

[@busyrand]

This one is something I relate to 100%, and swore to experience once I committed to learning The Game. Women could always pick up on my highly sexual nature, but I was very blocked and blue pill until my mid twenties. It pissed a lot of women off. After a catastrophic breakup, I found meditation and BDSM. Now I have to consciously turn my light down around my friends' girls/wives. The last woman I hooked up with pursued me for three years and told me she could tell how I truly am behind closed doors. She told me she could tell I could sense if she was lying so she made sure to be upfront and make sure she was on a "break" with her boyfriend (provider). The female appetite for raw sex play is boundless. She enjoyed being sore. Brilliant girl. Actress jawn I've recently seen on four commercials this past year. Hey... It's important to know the truth.

[@JKingMustang]

As its been a year of me being a side dude i can tell you what I’ve learned. Almost every woman has one around 70% of women has a side dude. The women you’d think would never move like that, more than likely move like that for the right guy shes going to move like that. It’s crazy because these women will be in 5+ year relationships and getting clapped by the side dude and the main guy will never know. Also there is a mistake that some side dudes make which is trying to become the main dude at some point. I have this rule i live by. If she does it to him she’ll do it to me because i am no special from the next guy im just playing my cards better. Thats the mindset i have to make me realize trying to be the main guy isn’t beneficial at all especially when you were once the side dude. If she catches feelings thats good because the benefits become better for u the more attached she is for you. But if she catch feelings to the point if where she wants to be your main girl and is trying to ruin your rotation you gotta cut all ties with her. Because then she will become a problem and not a benefit. Just my personal experience with being a side dude and some advice you guys be safe out there💯

[@RomWills]

💯💯💯

[@thablackkat9905]

I will take your advice. Thanks for sharing. It really came in handy for me today.

[@Mcdowells]

To a degree this ties in really to a well with that vid you did "most women are not with the man they want to be with" and "you have to make her holla" in addition to master yaos "retention video" This is a true red pill video

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@therenaissance7158]

I know that sometimes you have too make a woman feel like she isn't doing anything wrong initially.....sometimes there own guilt will get in the way of it.....but I just let them keep it moving too the next guy not really into sacrificing my own dignity too make a woman not feel her own guilt....

[@Tigerdriver93]

I can relate to this. All the attention I get from women these days are mainly taken and are even living with them. Shit is crazy 😮

[@Jarack123]

Thats how I lost my virginity lol. Being the side dude..

[@vaughnamir.6457]

@@iamwhatiam187 lmao smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@seanwiggins1633]

Uncle ROM loved the vid straight to the point it's all facts 💯

[@walterjones5727]

Yeah man I love the background music man that's that's funky I like that

[@michaelnafari2032]

ROM! ...You're on point as always. When you mentioned the "look that women gives", as a sign of their interest; if you're not able to pick up on it, you'll easily loose out. Only very later in life did I learn to tune in.... but tuning-in takes skill. It literally, can be a short as a second.

[@RomWills]

Real talk.

[@twinrivers6200]

So true, I blew out many backs but now that I look back I missed out on alot of those looks my dude.....damn oh well made up for lost time when I had the chance.Learn sooner or later.

[@bigmantok1]

Crazy video but a lot of truth. To the men having a hard time listening to this video remember there are no guarantees in life besides death no matter what. Number two Uncle Rom doesn't owe us anything he could be saving this information for himself laughing at us but he has chosen to help be grateful . And finally don't get mad get glad use this information and adjust your life accordingly boys whine and complain and men get emotional at times but overcome their emotions and do what the have to do period !!!!!!!!.

[@RomWills]

I'm telling men what's out there. The game is more than getting in a woman's panties.

[@Heavon1999]

@@RomWillsand brother I appreciate it a whole lot!! Your content is great and well endured my friend. What a pleasure to have your time, sir🤲🏼

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Rom i wanna see you interacting on youre channel with someone. Living proof how good you are with people in reality.

[@RomWills]

Maybe I'll film a seminar.

[@roycejay6723]

Back before I met my wife, I was unwittingly put in that “side dude” position several times by married women or women with live-in boyfriends. I didn’t like it, and ended each situationship because I felt it was dangerous, and I frankly didn’t want that karma in my life. The funny thing is that I’ve been married quite some time now, but the same few women that put me in those situationships still check in on me to see if I’m still married. That’s a funny thing in itself-quite a few women from my past checking to see if I’m still married, lol! Oh, the messiness!

[@leilou19]

You better not slip up you may end up divorced. Allowing past flames to "check up" on you is a problem. Especially women who proved to be dishonest in the past. All women are manipulative. If roles were reversed and your wife's past boyfriends were "checking up" on her you would be tight. Don't feed into the messiness for that brief ego stroke.

[@rachelsweets]

@@leilou19 Exactly

[@roycejay6723]

leilou19 Lmao! I feel ya, but I’m a safe guy. Those females check for me; I don’t check for them. I don’t entertain their advances but women of all races and demographics are attracted to me. The type of work I do makes me rather accessible, and I’m a decent looking man, even as an older one because I’ve stayed in decent shape and I have a magnetic personality, so people tend to like and remember me. Cheating is not an issue between my wife and I because I don’t seek validation between the legs. I had plenty of women before I met my wife, and she rather enjoys having a man that other women find attractive. What I seek is to maintain the persona of a “good man”. You see, I don’t come to ROM’s material to learn about women, I come to learn about people, and Rom has excellent insight on people. Rom has even described my type in his material (“Intelligent Brusier”), which I appreciate him for.

[@depy2762]

Black women have a problem doing things with honesty and integrity. They love fucking married men behind another womans back but would be offended if the same man wanted to have both women in an orderly relationship. She worships the chaos unfortunately.

[@johneta7665]

This subject truly irritates me. It irritates me because of the Puritan facade that women display. When the truth is many are whores at heart. They are liars and hypocrites. It may not even be their fault because they are reflecting this corrupt and dishonest society we live in.

[@SmooveTV718]

John ETA also us men can be judgmental too so women try to keep their “value” as high as possible

[@roycejay6723]

It all goes The the appearance of beauty in the eye of the beholder. All women want to be seen as beautiful and pure to the men that want to attract and retain, even when they may really not be. It’s no different than men wanting to seem brave, capable, and a good provider, thereby resorting to the props and tricks that men use attract women. Don’t get mad, just be aware of that part of human nature.

[@etf42]

its very difficult. it makes it hard to take women seriously or respect them, despite the fact that its what women complain so loudly about. you can never let your guard down or trust them or their decisions. they are very good at cheating and hiding their tracks too. they have a duplicitous facade that can be very difficult to reconcile. a woman can be righteous and have personal deep convictions about everything in her life except her own personal fidelity.

[@rahkeemthegreat360]

Great video

[@hollywoodhawkins9730]

OG ROM WILLS THANKS FOR PISSING THEM OFF🔥🔥🔥

[@raiders48gates5]

Brother Rom continue to go in big homie. LOL continue to let the cat out of the bag.

[@motorcitykid2837]

I've noticed how honest those women are in their approach. At first I was taken a back. Then I realized that's how you are suppose to move in these dating streets. The majority of the women, I come across are in relationships, and want what's the opposite of their committed beau. Until you've been on the other side of the game you cannot truly comprehend nor grasp a woman's true nature. I swear uncle Rom it's a gift and a curse. I'm Jaded asf behind those encounters.

[@RomWills]

I understand.

[@kwamexxx773]

On point ! 10000%

[@johnzor7961]

I see the light..... lol thanks Unc Rom

[@roystongibbs7189]

Been on both sides of this one. Thanx

[@grizzly5592]

Damn rom talking facts. Married neighbor just made a move. Now we texting. She sending some wild shit. She down. Straight up.

[@mwambak1438]

Lol I've been in a couple of kitchens. But i wasn't too proud abt it to even tell anyone. If only married men knew

[@foreplayfreddyp3972]

*CLASSIC* ✊💯💯

[@roycejay6723]

Great video, as always. A lot of males fancy themselves as players and professional side dudes, but they really are just guys trying to replace the man occupying the “husband” spot.

[@retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106]

I agree and dont agree. I wouldn't do such of a thing. But your right an the woman be knowing this too. I have peeped this many times when i was this so called side dude. Jealousy dont want you talking to other women non sense. But it never failed an the two times i did the side dude thing everytime her and the main got into cause of his fuck up i have to fix his shit to keep her away from me. One woman told me im done with him i can focus on us now hold up wait what! 😆 Didnt you say he was at the hospital with you all them days you was in the hosptial thats a good man for you i had to convince her he was good all a while this dude mad at me cause im at her house eating the dinner she cook for me and buying me stuff but we never had sex cause i chose not too. That dude was not having it an he married 😆

[@RashaudMonroe]

You said “ask him if they had any boyfriends” ... shit rom if we gonna be honest it seems like they all got boyfriends at first 😂

[@RomWills]

Real talk. Until they get to know you and then all of sudden there are problems with their men.

[@Seven-oi8hx]

Couldn't have said it better.

[@yungking2465]

Yo Uncle Rom is that dude. Thanks for the solid game 💯

[@WhipLashOG]

Rom is the best in the game.

[@RomWills]

Thanks.

[@sameernelson3178]

They have the best part.

[@MrSadelover100]

Ive had the same thoughts over the last 10 years, but Family Traditions blocked me from fully embracing it as a Fact of life. Nick Cannon solidified it for me

[@blackgoliath962]

This is Ken Griffrey bottom of the 9th home run game Unc Rom Salute 💯

[@targetegrat]

@ Black Goliath. Ken Griffrey when I use to watch baseball and play home run derby on sega genesis the good old days.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

I don't seduce women ever. Mr nice is not my name trust me and as long my future wife is not in my presence i am the worst kind.

[@asaruamun-re9510]

That’s a strong position to be in many men will mess that up though,but for the few intelligent ones they be getting it in out here. Rom this a Classic among the many... Good looking for this profound jewel 💎💎💎💯🔥🔥🖤❤️💚💪🦍+🦁=👑

[@itstayaaa8280]

Morning Unc ROM truth .

[@Basethagod]

i been a side for so long i know how the game go so well these women be telling on themselves lol now my main always tells me your body count gotta be hella high cause you know what u be doing

[@ericthered1140]

Yes.....💯🔥

[@Lindy77ful]

Very timely, 😉. Very...

[@cottrellevans]

Damn,Rom this sounds like a preview to some paid content. Too many gems...lol.

[@stxcks23]

I feel dumb because I be trying to get in relationships with these women but I just came to the realization that they just want me to be the side Nigga

[@KraziChidi]

Ice Cold Game ❄️❄️❄️

[@twinrivers6200]

Straight frozen homie!

[@patton1909]

All this does is make me want to ride solo and get some where I can.

[@RomWills]

It's hard to convince someone to marry these days.

[@superone5838]

Catching feelings is a No!. While taking part in that type of activity if this is what you do .

[@donavin51]

#FACTS

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

I dated a man years ago who had everything privately/below the surface, he was gorgeous 6’2 dark brown, amazing smile, smelled amazing, very clean and organized, charismatic, he was crazy about me. I was crazy about him but I had to end the relationship because I knew in my heart that I’d have to carry the relationship financially. He had a criminal record from his early 20s that hindered his opportunities. I can honestly admit that it took everything in me to make the most responsible decision for my life back then by ending things but now I am great full that I left. Guys in this position I think become side dudes lol.

[@RomWills]

Thanks for that perspective.

[@twinrivers6200]

Damn

[@marcusmccloud8394]

Yesterday I had an self actualization and realized that I have always been the side dude and didnt notice it. People always asking me about gettin in relationships but its kind of pointless if you dnt need too to get what you want.

[@tonybulley5764]

And this is just the tip of the iceberg 😂... Giving them a taste of that uncut BlueMagic... Wait till they get that Mainline dose!!! 🔥👍🏽

[@RomWills]

Dudes really don't know.

[@oftheuniverse2242]

Deneb@HoSJalchemists has learned alot in eleven minutes.

[@MsJoyce31202]

Yeah well we choose you anyway. Even in response to you speaking to us first.....

[@Jahfariinternational]

Rom I got a question. In my life I have religiously slept with 3-4 women a year for the past 20 years which averages to about 80 women in my life. On average about 40 of those women I had to do not one thing to sleep with them except just show up and the other 40 on average I had to date them and carry them places and so on. I just want to know if I am doing good or bad in the game.

[@RomWills]

You are in the top 10 percent as far as dealing with women.

[@100footsie]

Big bro what's your take on chicks who are big weed heads. Its a strange question I know but as of lately I've been running across a lot of them

[@RomWills]

Cannon fodder for Dusty players.

[@100footsie]

Rom Wills LOL!!!! so maybe they see Mr clean up man when they see me?

[@Godfather-79]

I'm a Merry Man about to get a Divorce. but the other Woman wants to have a Relationship with me . I wasn't having it. side dude Merry Man 101..before and after.

[@marketwizard8012]

im currently talking to a girl who is sooo thirsty for me .. all she talks about is what she wants to do to me and how she wants me to treat her like a whore and fuck her etc... she was open to being w her baby daddy since day one .. shes a stay at home mom .. i honestly looked this video up to get a better understanding of the type of woman she is nd how to best handle her lol she turns me on though like how bad she wants me nd how shes willing to do anything for me even turn her back on the man that does everything for her lmfao. All she does is talk highly of me cause im a body builder with a decent physique and she recently started goin to the gym so we share similar interests ... shit is just so fucked up though and i know i probably shouldn't even let myself enjoy her strong desire for me but god damn lol

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

A man who qualifies for a side dude would have to either have an excellent compliment and talk game, he’d have to have a very deep sexy voice and be tall or he’d have to be in a place where women frequent often and there is alcohol involved. Scorpios, Aries and Libra men are typically this way naturally. From a woman’s perspective lol. You wrong for this one Rom Wills 😂.

[@RomWills]

I'm just letting folks know.

[@j.rmeadows1689]

SIDE DUDE IM JUST THAT CRANK IT UP 🍻😱

[@darrenhawkins9040]

What's up Big Rom,since I've experienced the marriage life it's not worth saying you belong to anyone because it's always somebody else getting the goods for free count me as the other guy thank you miss want to be married.

[@markflowers3985]

Rom you keep leaving one out on the cheating. When she know her dude cheating. She on her Johnny Taylor. Cheating in the next room.

[@RomWills]

Bruh, I can't cover everything in 10 - 15 minutes. That's another video.

[@twinrivers6200]

Lol

[@kwamexxx773]

Bro Rom ! I’m not telling you how to conduct your biz but maybe you should get into the codes and ethics of a side dude ie keeping your mouth shut , not breaking up relationship , keeping the woman mind right( I’m not your main dude) etc ...for the novice .... I’m just saying

[@RomWills]

They have no rules. I just saying what is.