Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship

[@Emma_Beme]

you are describing many men I've met good looking charming, sweet but have a dark side and all this time I thought it was me . I became so stressed and depressed I didn't want to live anymore. They will drain you. I am finally free and happy . Thank you GOD

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so thankful that you are free. It's not easy and I pray that many women can be set free too.

[@lavishlystar]

You have to make this a series because there are so many women who are in relationships with men who are jealous of them it’s scary

[@desireenunez7824]

Thank you for this video ❤ I dated someone with anger issues, and looking back, it was evident on the very first date, he was impatient with the waiter. I was so empathetic that I always thought I could change him, or blame his childhood. Making excuses for the abuser will keep you trap.

[@MikoShitzu]

I agree with the embarrassment. I have been humiliating and treated meanly in public over the simplest things to make me look stupid and I try not to make a scene but it's always in public to make me look like a non sensical person when it's not even the big of a deal. That is abuse and when I bring it up it's always brushed off as if I am over reacting. I don't need that kind of public attention and humiliation. That is spiritual warfare at its finest.

[@kenyaSaunders]

I can not finish watching this video only because so far everything you said is true and it makes me feel ashamed that i went through this kind of abuse and that it took me so much of me and i couldn't escape it. Great video. God bless.

[@Godfavorsmi]

You are describing my child’s father/ high school “sweet heart” to the T ! So glad I didn’t go thru with marrying him, he’s even worse today than he was in high school!!!!

[@MsWillita8]

Please let’s throw out the notion to not ever talk about what happens in your marriage to family or friends. That’s how many women stay in toxic or relationships. Find people that will either pray for you, provide guidance, protection, or resources, especially if children are involved.

[@nothinglastsforever2217]

Yes!

[@tateecanmakethat]

Good timing. I just left someone before things ended up going down this path. There were the beginnings of red flags.

[@PineapplesCoconut]

Get out and don’t look back. They don’t change and you will waste years waiting.

[@Abstraction_g]

I’m 21 I have a child with a guy that you described. Overtime he has gotten worse. He belittles me when he’s mad at me, etc. I started fearing for my baby and I life, it was just this feeling of feeling unsafe for the longest time. I usually get warnings in my body, when he tries to come back in my life. I did, but the next few days he was sent to jail for something he did. I opened up about what I was dealing with my family. My mother told me God removed him so I could have just enough time to get back on my feet. I realized God was protecting me from this person. This persons spirit is dark, he’s very jealous of me and my baby. A jealous man is a dangerous man. Thoughts lead to actions just like you’ve said in one of your previous videos. I thank God for watching over me and my son for protecting us from any harm this person wanted to do to me and my baby.

[@drmichelledaf]

@@Abstraction_g I thank God for His protection over you. Pray for His wisdom and strength because your lives are priceless.

[@candaceyoung7498]

You are helpimg thousands of women!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank God!

[@kenyaSaunders]

Very true ❤

[@candaceyoung7498]

You are doing Gods work❤

[@ssyy8030]

I love love your videos!! They are so enlightening and strong. Could you do videos on the following topics: - how to prepare for marriage as a single woman - how to ask a husband respectfully what you want in a respectful way - how to deal with intriguing in-laws in a feminine and god fearing way

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you honey. I appreciate your suggestions, I will!

[@UMMH2000]

I’m so glad you did this video. ❤❤❤❤ I think this is what some, not all, feminity pages miss out on speaking on.

[@Fatimah-ey9ks]

OMG!! You make me laugh when u say: beautiful and invisible!!! 😂😂

[@pixelle6078]

I was with a guy who was physically and emotionally abusive, for a very long time. We were never married, but we did end up having a child. I knew long before I had to leave, but I never got myself to actually doing it. I thought he'd change his ways once he became a dad, as he always said he wanted to be a dad. Well it didn't happen, the change. I went to labour with covid, he was the only person allowed in the room and it was a nightmare. Anyways, long story short, I made a decision for my kid and myself to not let this man be the example of a man for my baby. Not too long after, one night he refused to let go of an argument and it was getting heated. I called police and by the time they picked up he was out the door, I told them about everything that's ever happened. They were ready to arrest him had I told them to. A day later we went to my mom's for a couple of months until he found a place for himself and I have never been more certain I've made the right decision in my life. Just started coming back to myself and it feels great. It's like a heavy weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Yes, maybe I shouldn't have waited so long, but everyone's mental state in these situations is triggered differently, I'm happy I didn't lose myself completely in that relationship. After the call to authorities social services contacted me numerous times just checking on me and offering free psychologist sessions, accomodation etc. Help is there, you just need to make a decision and take a step. Abusers never change, expecting change is like waiting for purple rain to fall off the sky. You are the one who changes. ❤

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for this beautiful testimony. I am thankful that you and your child are now safe. May the Lord protect you and heal you.

[@lou15176]

Healthy men don’t display misogynistic behaviour. Full stop. X

[@jewelleglasgow5477]

This was spot on!

[@NovaDoll]

My boyfriend is Asian and would commonly send me photos of other women saying he wished I had this or that. I told him that was hurtful. I do all the chores and he takes advantage of my kindness. I feel so sad because I know I need to leave. I also have a learning disability so life is just harder for me. I also moved 2000 miles to live with him. I feel so sad and alone. Edit to add. He has amazing friends.

[@ilovethebratz1234]

Hi nova! I truly believe you have so many great things in life waiting for you to find. He is not one of those things. I recently left a 6 month relationship with my ex boyfriend because he was not giving me the treatment i wanted and deserve . It took a lot of strength for me to let go because that can be hard for me, but I did it. He was not worth any more of my time or energy . We as women must protect our energy and peace above all else. That’s how we preserve our femininity. The right man will want to protect and preserve our femininity as well. You are beautiful, loved and valuable. I recently heard something that goes “when you’re a diamond everyone will try to grab you to get a piece, but not everyone is worthy of keeping you”. I pray you find some comfort in this and are encouraged to leave. For every 1 man who refuses to give you the best, there exists another who would be willing to give you above and beyond your expectations. The longer you keep the wrong guy in your life the longer he will occupy the place that the right man is supposed to be in.

[@NovaDoll]

@@ilovethebratz1234 Thank you so much ❤️

[@memeanimeconnoisseur]

Hey beautiful ❤️ Can you discuss how women’s mouths can get them into abusive relationships with men. A lot of the times women acting masculine is the reason why they get this negativity out of men. Some women take advantage of a man’s kindness and turn him into the villain in their story. It’s an overall toxic relationship, negativity on both ends.

[@rgrandberry1234]

Hello!!!! thank-you for all your great knowledge!!!! Real Healthy Men are out there!!!! xoxox

[@UMMH2000]

Please make this topic a series!❤❤

[@Maggs3]

Hey Dr. Daf can you do a video on the concept of being the bigger person. How to do it in a healthy way minus ignoring your feelings. Hope it makes sense.

[@takeilaf1433]

Thank you for this stream!❤

[@drmichelledaf]

My pleasure!

[@Kanesha38]

HELP. True story, recently... I have stayed with my bf to see if we can live under the same roof. 2 weeks in I have been doing what I would naturally do at my home ( cook, clean, do laundry, make sure his lunch box is packed and unpacked). While rushing out for work to cater to him he felt unappreciated because I didn't realize he shined my tires. Next day I accepted his correction, was agreeable and still made him lunch while he critiqued me. Once his plate was made I sat on the couch in silence watching the news while I processed what happened. This made him angry because he didn't like the solemnes and me throwing an attitude around he said I "brought bad energy to his space and need to learn to communicate and grow up because time is running short for women with kids in their 30's". I thought it was ok to take a moment to process what had happened. Will this lead to abuse? Is this abuse ?Those types of comments are hurtful. If I say it's hurtful I'm told I assort no authority over men.

[@drmichelledaf]

Honey I think you know the answer to this question if you search your soul. How did this leave you feeling? There seems to be some major issues in the things that he says but it's hard to tell without knowing all of the dynamics of your relationship. I never recommended living with a man or playing house under any circumstance but this seemed to be a good glimpse of what you can expect to see from him in the futue.

[@lou15176]

It’s not “leading” too abuse. It IS abuse xx

[@lindsaycampbell]

Please do a video about reasons to divorce biblically 🩵

[@MsWillita8]

This would be good especially nowadays. It’s said that a married man can’t cheat with a non married woman because of polygamy in the Bible, therefore a woman can’t divorce 😒

[@Pickedpurposely]

Please do a video on wives dealing with husbands with porn addictions 😢

[@TeeAhhhna]

Amen ❤ 🙏🏾

[@_klovely_]

🫂🙏🏾🤍🍇🍇🍇🍇🍇

[@nafeesadamier7592]

❤❤❤

[@Godfavorsmi]

Do you think in an exclusive relationship you should go out with the opposite sex whether it’s for drinks or dinner. Is that acceptable or a date? It’s important to have your own identity in a relationship but what are healthy boundaries when it comes to friends of opposite sex

[@ssyy8030]

I know that many people justify, that this is possible. However man don’t, it’s more of naive woman and the only ones who do so, that I encountered are the ones, that are so stuck up and non masculine, somehow low masculine, that they cannot be in a committed relationship. I heard this so many times being justified, and be called out as childish and old school. You know what? My colleague had an opposite friend for about 3 years, she was clearly into him. They were frequently going out, having dinner etc. He always said that this is just a friend thing. In fact he hoped for a casual hookup.

[@drmichelledaf]

I do not think it is a appropriate. I can expand on this in a video

[@Godfavorsmi]

@@drmichelledaf thank you I will be looking forward to it !

[@1.618Golden]

@2:38, Dr, you are wrong. God does want us to depend on those around us for all the things you mention and so much more. We are not meant to be solo mission our whole lives. Men need women for many things. Women need men for many things. Women need other women for many things, and men need other men for many things. I don't know where you got your information. But unless you have a direct link to God, his word says we are not to abandon the gathering of ourselves together. We are designed to rely on others in many ways, emotional, physical, psychological, etc.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes that is correct. Perhaps you misunderstood the context. What I said was God does not want you to depend on anyone for any of those things if that is your reason for staying in an abuse relationship. Rather you can get those very same things with a healthy person who can bring you all of those things in a way that brings you joy rather than pain. I hope that makes sense to you. Thanks for watching 🤍