Signs You’re Craving Emotional Intimacy, Not Just Sex

Are you longing for emotional intimacy rather than just physical connection? Today, let's explore the depths of your desires in relationships.
In today's fast-paced dating world, it's easy to confuse physical intimacy with emotional closeness. But true fulfillment in relationships goes beyond the surface. If you find yourself yearning for more meaningful connections, craving those heart-to-heart conversations, and seeking a deeper bond with your partner, you might be longing for emotional intimacy.
From understanding attachment styles to recognizing the signs of genuine emotional connection, we delve into the intricacies of building intimate and loving relationships. Join us as we navigate the path to fulfilling relationships that nurture both body and soul. Because true love isn't just about physical gratification - it's about soulful, emotional connection and emotional fulfillment.
#love #relationship #dating
Researcher/writer: Clarisse Delos Reyes
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Sarimopi (IG: sarimopi)
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Floyd, K. (2006). Communicating affection: Interpersonal behavior and social context. Cambridge University Press
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony.
Matsumoto, D., Hwang, H. C., & Frank, M. G. (2013). Nonverbal Communication: Science and Applications. Thousand Oaks, CA: SAGE Publications.
Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Little, Brown Spark
Yalom, I. D. (2002). The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients. New York: HarperCollins.

[@KingOfPain-369]

The emotional intimacy has to be in place first before the physical ensues for me personally. I refuse to be used.

[@pamelasimone5084]

That’s how I feel too. I want to know whom I am with and there is a real bond before jumping between the sheets.

[@KingOfPain-369]

@@pamelasimone5084 exactly. I may be cheap, but I ain't free J/K

[@FabianDialer-vw1zk]

I think the same way. I can't sleep with someone without having an emotional link before.

[@KingOfPain-369]

@@FabianDialer-vw1zk The gift of intimacy was one of the greatest bonds of union given to mankind. I highly respect and cherish it.

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

Exactly. Feeling used is the grossest feeling. Feels like someone shot a big hole through your heart and mind.

[@neofulcrum5013]

Sometimes it’s not about rollin in the hay, sometimes we just want cuddles.

[@TheLastLivinGameCube]

literally me in a nutshell

[@karma1507]

And someone who takes us seriously when we talk about our day

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

Maybe some head pats. 😢❤

[@tims9434]

Too right!

[@nicolefloof]

@@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed* pat pat pat *

[@mr.peanutbutter6969]

I just want a hug at this point.

[@Xingzi786]

Same

[@helloworld3002]

Me..at this moment right now🥲

[@phantom9831]

Same for me

[@olesian8713]

WHOS THAT DAWG

[@melinamcgilvra]

I wish I could.give you guys a hug

[@ajmorato17]

Somebody to love,somebody to hug. That's all I need

[@starlightplaysminecraft9743]

Same!

[@trophyscene5015]

Me too. My family is a bunch of narcissists, and I'm an introvert so I don't have many real friends. That leaves me with no one.

[@kars6026]

You don't need somebody to fk?

[@danimoonie]

😔

[@anderstermansen130]

Now youre just beyond delusional. Just hookup like the rest of the normal people do.

[@kyleee4126]

this is why hookup culture aint for me

[@jasonfanclub4267]

I feel this

[@bookenjoyer3970]

Fr

[@Aioooo981]

For real

[@libbyallen2566]

same here

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@brianna_crawl]

Girl I don’t need signs, I already know I want it. Always😂

[@aubriellemorgan]

I want both. They go together ❤

[@yoalisrodriguez8941]

@@aubriellemorganthey do❤️

[@yoalisrodriguez8941]

Yesss😂😂

[@neowolf09]

Lmao I was thinking the same 😅

[@tims9434]

I think you need to think how long term relationships work. The emotional intimacy was missing was lacking in my last long-term relationship, there was still sex but relationship was over. Sex is just sex and leads to infidelity if you don't combine with emotional intimacy like the video says.

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Dive deep 0:28 2). Emotional support 1:31 3). The little things 2:36 4). Shared silence 3:27 5). Sustained eye contact 4:21 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@errorthreat]

thank you :)

[@ThornOfHearts]

Can't stand the ASMR voice sometimes, this is a lifesaver.

[@grawakendream8980]

pin this!

[@Felasonic12]

Thank you very much! I got distracted and lost track, this helped me lol

[@redheadbelle]

That’s true love in my eyes. Feeling safe to be vulnerable, feeling safe while having deep feelings.

[@kars6026]

Of course that's what you want. Redheads are soul stealers.

[@digitalcamaro9708]

It's very important in relationships, and I had to learn that the hard way. I didn't understand exactly what it was or had ever done it before, so I wasn't comfortable with initiating it. About a month later I made the decision to make an effort because I realized it's something I (and she) wanted, even if I was new to relationships and nervous about it. My only request was that she communicated what she preferred. I got hit with a resounding "no" multiple times during that conversation, so that's how my first relationship ended. Communication is key, never wait on that.

[@anderstermansen130]

Very good luck, chuck. The things you just listed is all the things nobody wants to be part of, in a relationship in this time and age😂 Does this look like year 1973 to you?😂

[@redheadbelle]

@@anderstermansen130 maybe you don’t want them or are capable of it ✌️

[@anderstermansen130]

​@@redheadbelleits called nobody actually cares for geniune relatio ships, only hookups. Love is dead😂

[@TDUShelby]

The one and only relationship I had lasted around two and a half years. Never slept together. We did find comfort and joy in just talking and sitting together. We once jumped on a trampoline and I split my pants open, and she laughed herself to tears. We had to come to the understanding that, despite enjoying each other's company, our life goals were polar opposites, so we broke it off. Wish you all the best, Moo, you wonderful, wonderful woman.

[@adrienne.7685]

This was so sweet.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

That is sweet that feels more like a platonic friendship not romantic relationship.

[@lovebug7985]

The way you handled your relationship was so mature. You'll do well in life with a mindset like that, I wish you the best of luck!

[@TDUShelby]

@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj It was romantic, just not sexual. We made out, made jokes, and discussed if things should progress, but I think we both knew we didn't want to take that step unless we were both 100 percent sure it was something we both wanted.

[@questionmark05]

I know it's a bit of confirmation bias. But this. I'm 30, and I've never had a relationship. Apparently sex is fun. I wouldn't know personally. But to be comfortable with someone, to be accepted and wanted by someone sounds even better. And hugs sound like they are good, too.

[@BenMojo.]

❤

[@Stardust51]

You're not alone, I can relate and agree with you

[@Juuchan17]

I definitely agree. I'm 38 and never had anything close to a romantic relationship, let alone been on a date... but wanting just some comforting attention from someone, that just sounds really good. I'm yearning for that as well... and I hope we all get to experience that one day soon!

[@Karuyin]

I am just 15 and have the same opinion and I think emotional intimacy is so important in comparison to sex that it might be perfectly possible that there is a very healthy relationship with almost no (or even none) sexual interactions

[@seanmcfadden3712]

I'm 37, Asexuality, sex adverse, and Demiromantic. I definitely understand where you're coming from.

[@ML-HS]

Fun in the sheets is nice, but I definitely crave cuddles way more. Sometimes I think I will never find it and just walk the world alone without anyone observing the happiness of others.

[@WOLFSENT1]

After years of dating, being in what were “settling relationships”, I FINALLY have THE WOMAN…she actually found me.. haha… I know people say this all the time. And it’s very difficult to do in the moment. But just be patient. It WILL happen…. IF you’re open to It…when it happens, you will definitely know. It will be so mind blowing. You’ll be so confused as to how wonderful it is. You will think you are dreaming. It’s just that good. Very few people find their ONE. That’s why everybody’s bed-hopping, divorcing, etc. Because, deep down, they are searching for THEIR ONE. The reason why they never find THEIR ONE, is because their mind is cluttered.

[@ML-HS]

@@WOLFSENT1 am more than open to it and I always thought of patience is a virtue. I thought I would find the one while visiting a friend while abroad for 3 months, but it didn't happen. I am happy for you that you have found the one.

[@Karuyin]

​@@WOLFSENT1Thanks, just let me wait some years until I actually feel something for someone that could be love (chill is just joke)

[@PolishPro69]

​@@ML-HSThis is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@ML-HS]

@@PolishPro69 I find it very ironic how people who say these things seem to forget how it was before they got into a relationship. Also, when I hear a friend(in a relationship) say relationship's are not all it's cracked out to be. You have to make comprises. It's a lot of work. You have to think about the other person. Then there is that famous everyone on this planet preaches you have to sort yourself out, heal the broken soul before a romantic relationship, it's kind of makes you me sad because I have known many who were broken and bruised and they still found a partner who chose them broken as they were and slowly, through loving and supporting they healed.

[@kikash7549]

Man I can only pray I get this type of connection someday ❤

[@MikeJoe-jy5kp]

Same

[@anderstermansen130]

Do not worry kikash7549, it wont happen.

[@anderstermansen130]

Dont worry, it wont happen pal.

[@davec3651]

Been in a couple long term relationships, and the thing I absolutely miss most is rhe feeling of partnership, care, true belonging, and security. The unplanned dissolution of this, whether abrupt or gradual, is what heartbreak is.

[@DevinJHiggins]

This is commonly referred to as 'demisexuality' where you're not interested in a sexual relationship with someone until you've established a deeper, emotional one first. For most of my life, I was a demisexual (now practically an asexual) and as a man, I ran headlong into the prevailing stigma of 'ALL men just want sex!' for decades. NO. No, we don't. We want to be valued, appreciated, seen, trusted and wanted as much as any potential partner does.

[@MikeJoe-jy5kp]

This is me

[@Mewcaloid]

Yeah I think I’m a demi romantic and demi sexual too

[@serpentine1983]

Oh man! Stop inventing so many terms! now there are around 100 types of sexualities! Even liking someone that doesn't smoke is considered a sexuality! THOSE ARE PREFERENCES! nothing more!

[@bookenjoyer3970]

Demi gang!

[@jonathanjimenez2480]

Certainly, I just can't get along with any relation without a deep connection, this hasn't even been a good thing a intend to not get the arousals in a common way as I want something deeper than just sex and that's the way it works for me, but we tend to be so suspicious of everyone that establishing a connection with someone new might be hard sometimes

[@fraxizztv6433]

Remember folks, sleeping around will never feel as good as intimacy with a real lover.

[@tims9434]

Exactly

[@Kephy_]

For you, but not for everyone, don't forget that everyone is different.

[@andrejz8954]

this@@Kephy_

[@Cherry_picked00]

​@@Kephy_ being different doesn't justify sleeping around

[@fraxizztv6433]

@@Kephy_ chasing superficial pleasure isn't as fulfilling as having a reliable, secure partner.

[@AC-ni4gt]

Watching this reminds me of why I desire a firm emotional connection before I go for the long haul. I need someone who can be there for me and me for them. Allowing them to be weak when they need to be and the same for me as well. It sounds a lot but for me, it's simple.

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@kars6026]

I'm bi. So, wanna hookup?

[@LeifTunteri-lm6un]

It's not a lot but unfortunately most people can't deliver in the modern world. We all want it but we've been trained to be unable to give or get it

[@keip4568]

This is so hard with everyone wanting sex for fun only with zero connections or intimacy just sex for the sake of fun.... it gets so old creating stigma for anything dating many aren't even single and are in open relationships or cheating....

[@joshy2joshy]

Yeah, my gf used me, for attention, sex, etc. Then one day she just pretty much abruptly ended it randomly only saying how happy she was a few days prior. I never expected it, traumatised me for months

[@tims9434]

​@@joshy2joshy sounds like she was narcissistic and she found better supply. "It's not you"

[@joshy2joshy]

@@tims9434 "it's not you, it's me" she said, one of many things 😂

[@joshy2joshy]

@@tims9434 BPD is all good fun

[@karleneallen5498]

​@@tims9434what do you mean by supply? Lol

[@Adamcito.]

All I want is cuddles But all I get is struggles 😢

[@keip4568]

Sometimes I question is love even real anymore. Tolerance to empathy/sympathy is so rare nowadays when it isn't faked by a narcissist at first or for social media to how people want to present themselves to the world to just look good. Almost everyone on dating apps just want hookups to satisfy lust back to back NSA = No strings attached and mental health on these are so gaslit. I'm being 100% because I've been looking for the one for years just to get such offers even inappropriate pictures i never asked for, for said hookups. While i rather just see someone's face and authenticity.

[@CantRead1]

"Nowadays" It's literally always been a thing.

[@wakakox4776]

Gl mate.

[@briannawhitfield9372]

It is rare, but it’s nonexistent on apps.

[@BigLeagueChew11]

Are relationships even true love? True love isn’t conditional. Any relationship makes love conditional on the basis of fidelity. I no longer love you if you cheat on me. That is not love, it’s conditional. True love accepts everyone as they are even if it is inconvenient to your relationship. That’s why love is rare. Your ideal of love isn’t true love, it’s possession.

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

Thats why i stayed away from them. Every partner i had, i met them through friends or in public just naturally thinking they are cute and striking up a conversation❤

[@robinlee6295]

I am so blessed that I have a partner who is a great cuddler, listens to me and is there for emotional support through thick and thin. ❤

[@kars6026]

Yeah guys love em thick

[@anderstermansen130]

of all things that did not happen, this did not hpapen the most.

[@matanthewizard4525]

I believe that people crave for love so much because once it's real and mutual it is too beautiful compared to this world. It makes everything look different.

[@Mimira_15]

I need hugs 😭 No one hugged me in last 8 years 🙃 Edit:tysm for all hugs 😖

[@melinamcgilvra]

I wish I could.give you a hug

[@melinamcgilvra]

Stay strong :)

[@jasonfanclub4267]

Get a free hugs sign

[@melinamcgilvra]

@@jasonfanclub4267 I sure will! :D

[@Cherry_picked00]

[Hugs you, _virtually_ ]

[@xxtimeisthefireinwhichweburnxx]

It should never be just about physical intimacy, but it's nice to be with someone you're attracted to...

[@tims9434]

Someone who matches with you on more levels than just physical, I'd agree.

[@xxtimeisthefireinwhichweburnxx]

@tims9434 in most things that matter in life it's always what's inside that counts. Books, computers, cars and even people... The shell should never matter... We're all beings of light...

[@Karuyin]

yeah I definitely just want someone that just hears me out I have been feeling extremely drained lately because I have always been the one that hears and i was realizing already that I wanted someone that hears me and I guess loves me, but this video made me be 100% sure that I want someone to which I can talk with confidence about how I really feel without having the fear of being rejected (not romantically) by them and that will support me with what I truly feel. For more detailed context I have helped 3 friends with tough emotional problems because I am the "therapist friend" and I have experienced some rough things by myself too which gave an amount of empathy to others that is way too much, up to the point of caring first of the other before myself in *almost every single thing,* lately I think I am trying to become someone better not because of myself, but to not be a problem and be able to help others, guess I just want a very tight hug that makes me feel as if I am not alone. Now continue with your life.

[@Karuyin]

oh and btw if someone cares I am 15M. Edit: God now I feel that maybe it will seem as if I wanted to say "oh my life is so bad, give support" it is not that okay?

[@Unknown-bq8tv]

​@@Karuyin اعتقد اني اشبهك بطريقة ما انا ايضا أشعر أني مجرد صديقة معالجة استمع للاخريين و اعتني بهم بينما في الحقيقة لا أحد يهتم بي حقا اسمع لاخي الاكبر و هو يتكلم عن نفسه لساعات و ماذا فعل اخي الاصغر كل يوم بعد المدرسة و امي تشكو من أبي و كم ان حياتها مرهقه و سيئة بسببي انا و اخوتي اساعد في حل مشاكل رفيقاتي في السكن و بنت خالتي التي تعاني من مشاكل عاطفية بسبب حبيبها ووالدها لا أمانع مساعدة الاخريين حقا لكن الأمر مرهق حقا عندما تساعد و تسمع الاخريين بينما في الحقيقة انت أكثر شخص بحاجه إلى تلك المساعدة

[@Karuyin]

@@Unknown-bq8tv And I thought I had it bad, your situation is at least 10 times worse and you don't even do it intentionally in most cases, people just talk about their problems with you and probably don't ask about how you feel, but I think that if you continue to be this way you will someday find someone that will appreciate you and also support you when you need it. This most definitely won't give more reasons to not talk about my problems with anyone... yeah 100% won't...

[@Unknown-bq8tv]

@@Karuyin حسنا بالتفكير في الامر ربما الأمر سيء حقا... لكن لا تقلل من مقدار معاناتك حسنا؟ جميعنا نعاني لكن بطرق مختلفه هذا ما أؤمن به اتمنى حقا لكن بطريقة ما من خلال تجاربي في التعامل مع الاخريين اكتشفت انه في الحقيقة لا أحد يهتم الجميع مشغولين بأنفسهم و مجموعتهم الخاصة من المشاكل لا أعلم لماذا الامر فقط يذكرني دائما بسطر في اغنيه ما تقول "الجميع يحاولون حماية أنفسهم بينما ينتظرون يد المساعدة " و أجد ذلك حقيقي بطريقة ما انا لا أقول هنا ان الجميع لا أحد فيهم يهتم لكن من يهتم حقا هذه الأيام هم أشخاص نادريين ربما هم ايضا يبحثون عن أشخاص يشبهونهم أو أنهم حتى استسلموا و فقدوا الامل في العثور علي هؤلاء الاشخاص و لأكون صادقة لا أعلم حقا لماذا حتى شاهدت هذا الفيديو احيانا أشعر أني مثيرة للشفقة لان كل ما أريده هو مجرد حضن طويل لكن كما تعلم لا يمكنك أن تصرخ في شخص ما لكي يهتم بك أجد ذلك مثير للشفقة.... حسنا شكرا على ردك على تعليقي و اسفه اذا ازعجتك بهرائي اتمنى لك يوم جيد ابقى قويا

[@Karuyin]

​@@Unknown-bq8tv (non-aggresive response) Nah it actually isn't as you say, in reality everyone cares so much about everyone else to the point at which all of us don't have enough care for ourselves, but people is scared of admitting how much they care because it feels like if you do it then you would someday lose the ones you care of, its sorta like a cope mechanism, but the problem with it is we end up losing someone we care of and end up with regrets because we didn't help them when we could. It really is sad to think about it, even more when you realize that if we actually didn't care about others we would feel better, but even then we continue to try and help others, even if the cost to pay is our own enjoyment.

[@StrongerMindzNation]

We should love ourselves first before we can spread true love to others

[@fakesike7735]

Bro these guys are stalking me 💀

[@jypapiaehh]

Me too, like always 💀

[@KingOfPain-369]

You sure your not being followed, because your in front?

[@jypapiaehh]

@@KingOfPain-369 so you're that ghost?

[@KingOfPain-369]

​@@jypapiaehhI didn't choose to disappear, to "ghost." Nor was I the one who walked away. If I said I love you, I meant it with my whole being. If I said it then, I still feel it now. Love never dies. Love never fails...

[@jypapiaehh]

@@KingOfPain-369 omg pookie....I love you too. I know I've messed up but give me another chance, our love wins all 😔

[@iparagonepersonalvlogs1061]

I’ve been going to this channel in part for the relationship videos. And while I get that the sex and red flag videos may get more clicks, THESE videos about emotional intimacy is what I’m REALLY looking for. PLEASE make more of these, perhaps a series on emotional intimacy!

[@CalebForslund]

Might come off as "unhealthy", but I want them to want me first. No sex before marriage for me, but intimacy is important. Both emotional and physical. However, it's pointless if someone doesn't want to be with me or is indifferent towards me, you know?

[@poison213]

It's not unhealthy, these are simply your wishes and standards, and it needs to be respected.

[@christysong9578]

Unhealthy? Nah bro, we need more people like you on this planet. People who have emotions and want to connect emotional with people. We are social animals and that's how we should connect

[@GabrielleTollerson]

not unhealthy,this is how it has been for a very long time. Pretty sad if people would find THIS unhealthy but not the hookup culture they partake in

[@kars6026]

Bruh.. 😂 You act playing hard to get but that's actually not the truth here😂

[@poison213]

@@kars6026 he's not playing hard to get, he just has self respect and self worth to know what he wants, and what be deserves. Maybe you should try to be more like him.

[@phantom9831]

To be honest, I've already known that what I wanted the most is just having some emotional intimacy with my partner, while a part of me do want sexual relationships, I've never considered these as important than just sharing some good or chill moment with the one I would love, hugs and kisses are, for me, far more meaningful than every sexual relationship that I could ever have.

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@GabrielleTollerson]

FACTS

[@kars6026]

Yo polishpro you comment in all replies and stated you are straight male. Are you that desperate looking for partner? Because youtube comment is probably the dumbest site looking for partner. Go on dating site you will get better result maybe you'll get laid.

[@anderstermansen130]

its just unfortunate that in these days, its the women who wants a sexual relationship, not the men.

[@phantom9831]

​@@anderstermansen130 Well...maybe, but I don't think we can really generalize like that, I don't think "most" women only wants sexual relationships, but maybe I could be wrong

[@abbynormal7525]

I don’t know how you do this, but once again you hit the nail on the head.

[@zerg6205]

What I already knew, in one summary/convienient package. Thanks for making this!

[@blou_]

man i love this artstyle so much

[@user-yy9hc6yr4l]

This is so true! It's most important, as this in itself, has to be for two to grow strong together. It's all part, of just what real Love is all about, this pulls them both together and helps keeps a strong bond for one another.

[@HyperTornadoHD]

Number 2 hits very deep for me. I value loyalty over anything in the whole world and it’s a shame that’s so hard to find. I’ve pretty much conditioned myself to never expect any person to stay. If me being at my best is not enough, then I’m better off alone so I don’t get hurt

[@helamoroni6361]

I didn’t need this video to tell me what I already knew, but it’s nice I be told I’m right!

[@Lillyd6731]

I’d love to see a vid on how to strengthen emotional intimacy!! Thanks for this vid

[@Psych2go]

Loved it!! We can make another video on how to strengthen emotional intimacy! :)

[@huseyinaltun2130]

I still dont understand how you guys post a new video EVERY single day

[@davism8495]

I don’t know why, but you guys always post a video that is exactly like my current mental state the day you post it lol

[@_larchiviste_]

Honestly, I am ace, and as such, I'm not into sexual or physical intimacy. But if there's something I'm a sucker for, it's huggies. I love me a good cuddle! Unfortunately, I've been single for 21 years 😂

[@nosteviewonder8959]

Always felt this way but sadly am yet to find someone who feels the same way. Most people are just fixed on having sex with as many people as they can and i just cant do it unless there is an emotional connection.

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@GabrielleTollerson]

same!!

[@GabrielleTollerson]

it's sad!!

[@anderstermansen130]

Have you tried just giving up on finding a "the one" in any real capacity, and just cruise singlelife on autopilot?

[@marcomongke3116]

Hook up culture seems to be very common when looking at these videos and comments. Yet here in Asia, most of the time, it's the exact opposite. Hence, i think we secretly crave for no string attached physical contact more.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

then you're screwing yourselves over. No strings attached is not fun like people pretend it is

[@marcomongke3116]

@GabrielleTollerson most people in such societies tend to be very loyal and good spouses for life. But for some of us who grew up consuming lots of Western entertainment and increased internet exposure, see that as rather boring and typical. I think it's human nature to seek something different or things we lack. Perhaps i am making a wrong assumption. If more Asians read this, please confirm or prove me wrong.

[@unfreezedfreezer9455]

Not only the east (as most non-asians think East Asia is the only Asia), I know southeasterners see "sex before marriage" as unethical and sometimes even harbinger of deadly diseases!

[@Sillyeepy]

I put this in my relatable playlist, just to identify what I need at that moment

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for doing this! :D

[@valentinnovi6928]

Totally nice Day

[@justmeGL]

Thank you so so much for sharing! 😊❤ This video is so helpful for my confusion right now, thanks heaps!

[@tirthlakhani9515]

Something i can turn to Somebody i can kiss I want something just like this ! I feel this every day

[@anderstermansen130]

Its beyond delusional. But let me guess, based on your wild fantasies there pal. Would you also want a someone to hold hands with?

[@patrickdallaire5972]

Talking to my therapist this week I expressed how I've known for a long time that I want to "be vulnerable around someone and still feel safe". Whether it's a friend, family member, community member or lover, that's what it takes to generate that sense of belonging. Maybe it's an excuse to justify avoidance/self-isolation but I have scared people off by being "too real, too early". With a lot of people you have to play this game and maintain a "safe distance" the first couple of times you hang out.

[@MrZed82]

For me it's so important that I don't crave sex if there's no emotional intimacy 🤷‍♂

[@karleneallen5498]

So true. 💯

[@anderstermansen130]

"men only want one thing and its disgusting" *What men wants:*

[@carolinavelluto]

it is sad that when you remouve sex a lot of people has absolutely nothing to show you. as demissexual, emotional initmacy is essencial and only with thi i can feel sexual attraction... and i struggle a lot to find someone who is genuine emotionally available

[@jordiedmond5744]

Thats true

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight demiromantic male lol

[@kars6026]

You're asking too much women. Modern guy would never want to hold your emotional burden.

[@carolinavelluto]

@@kars6026 I won’t low my standards anymore if they only want sex buy a sexual doll rather manipulate and hurt people, but you know most of men kinda sucks and treat people like trash , it’s abou their ego only . Emotional intimacy is not a burden is a need as a sexual need but yeah a lot of people like you thinks it is a burden because you don’t have maturity to have a solid and serious relationship with someone .

[@carolinavelluto]

@@kars6026 emotional intimacy is a need just like a sexual need . If men only wants sex buy a doll instead manipulate, hurt and traumatize women. Emotional intimacy is for mature people and this is what makes a relationship a healthy one … that’s why most of relationship never ever work out . Most people don’t have maturity enough for it

[@AbigaleKirsten]

For me, emotional intimacy helps me open up to then wanting physical intimacy. The issue with - not this generation, but many people old and young is they want physical intimacy from the get go without the emotional intimacy as the lead. Many people are okay with it being that way, but i am 100% NOT. And often the requirement for an emotional bond seems too much of an ask. Therefore my motivation to continue with that one person halts, diminishes and disappears. These people want to feel your skin, but not touch your heart. They want to hear your voice, but not listen to the words. They want to look at your face, but not see your mind.

[@nancydrew5]

Well said!

[@bubai2405]

It really shocking to get the first video of the day on my feed with an exact title I'm undergoing in nowdays😲😌

[@user-fs8ob2cl5g]

Hats down to You for Your keen understanding. This video is gold. A thousand Thanks !

[@viciousLUA]

Thank you for this ❤️

[@The_Castol]

Yup that’s lowkey the ultimate goal in my life

[@Ethan-fb3yb]

My comfort channel ❤

[@cierraslowsdown]

I literally explain this in my dating profiles! Lol. It’s honestly opened up a lot of conversation with several men around the topic (cause I’m heteromantic asexual). It’s been nice! Everyone reaching out that I’m matching with me has been respectful

[@chinny_reckon]

This animation is just too precious 💕

[@MikeJoe-jy5kp]

True

[@pienter593]

And yet I feel like no one wants it

[@lelkesviktor3062]

my girlfriend and i are forced into a longdistance relationship we have 4 months until we can meet and from that time we wont be seperated by distance for sure! But now it's the hardest time, bc we have 7 hour time difference and she is working all the time, so we dont really have time to talk as much as we want. Sometimes its difficult to think that it will be over and there will be no problem. But im craving everything

[@anthonyrodriguez8590]

This poped up at a really good time thank u

[@maryamm469]

Never saw this many relatable comments under one video!

[@theredguy8746]

The emotional support is the one that resonates most with me. I suffer from anger and confidence issues, so having emotional support and intimacy is vital to me.

[@dot510]

❤

[@pedrosabino8751]

The physical part must be thousand times better with the emotional part, just knowing you are making your partner feel good would be very pleasuring

[@PinkWorm]

are you perhaps looking at me through my window right now because this upload was a great timing

[@yourfoodstories1619]

I have always communicated my need for emotional intimacy and how emotionally wired I am. But the culture isn’t no more like that. Physical intimacy is so readily available, most guys I have met simply shrug off the need for emotional connection. It’s draining seriously😅

[@NelsonGuedes]

Shared silence is deeply underrated. Unfortunately, silence seems to be largely considered to be a problem.

[@parker24brue]

"The little things" got the feels rolling, ouch really want that and the shared silence, and all these tbh Lonely single vibes can hurt deep

[@faisalabdurrahman2029]

Now this is what gives me hope in society ❤❤❤❤

[@bastionsea2829]

I have always been interested in emotional intimacy rather than physical, I didn't expect to ever see a video about it though, with how much sex is pushed to the forefront I used to love it when I would sit at the computer and my dad would be watching TV in the next room, even though we weren't physically close,or even spoke usually, there was a feeling of being close

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@ECLIPSE_6_6_6]

With my pillow, I feel a huge connection

[@ciucaamalia7997]

Yes, i do relate with all of this signs!❤

[@eulalawrence4389]

Its really the case for me too... Like emotional intimacy is all I want but physical it is almost nil... My friends call it weird but now I know I ain't alone 😅

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@user-cl4xm6ti8q]

watching this video is a sign you want an emotional connection rather than "just sex"

[@anderstermansen130]

Just because its something we want doesnt it automatically means its something life feels like actually granting to us.

[@365ral]

This is how I discovered that I was asexual and aromantic. I love people more like siblings than potential partners. I love my best friend of 12 years like a sister. ❤

[@AdrianColley]

Sue Johnson's _Hold Me Tight_ is full of educated wisdom, and I recommend it most highly.

[@Dibbz_TV]

As someone who only prioritized physical for a decade, emotional is where it’s at gentlemen. Physical is important too but priorities

[@MarkVincentMarcos]

The narrators voice is so soothing.

[@0tosavage1969]

I haven't had a hug from a woman in ten years, at this point I just want to feel human again

[@Red_39]

i wanted all that and i got someone i can trust now im keeping my fingers crossed for you all guys :))

[@Berg2woo]

One of the main reasons online relationships often drop IS physical interaction.

[@Realist.exe.]

I need both, next.

[@yemaya_la22]

I’m literally crying…

[@ravs1rangat]

Can definitely relate with all of these signs. But what if I don't find someone?

[@mkrzy27_]

I wish I had a person to be emotional intimate with. I could tell them anything and we would help each other, we could cuddle and rub our hands and love each other or just have a really close friend to hug with and be best friends but I don’t believe I could have this. I have couple of friends who I really like and we are in a group but it’s more distanced, I am too shy to ask for a hug and I don’t really know if I should tell them a problem or not but I really like her. Also sexual things are not my thing I don’t physically feel that I want to do it and I don’t find people attractive THAT much to do something with them. It’s in opposite direction, sex grosses me and it makes me disturbed and I don’t imagine myself doing it. Maybe I need to get more matured but by now I feel like an asexual person and crave more cuddling than sexual things. Venting this because I don’t feel like I could talk with someone about this and the video helps me find people a little same as me.

[@kevincrowder4144]

"I say, is it too much to ask for both?"

[@narayani1505]

Thank god im not the only one who feels this way. THIS over casual, wild, unrealistic intimacy ANYDAY.

[@BeelzeKid]

cuddles is my health recovery ... mental and physical

[@cloud09gaming]

Honestly intimacy is what I'm looking for personally. Approaching 40 and still never done it, but I want it to be something personal and loving. Not a throwaway "fun time". Does that make any sense?

[@MikeJoe-jy5kp]

Same

[@PolishPro69]

This is very relatable for me and I'm a straight male lol

[@Hespro]

As a person, who lived 3 years Lonely, i wanted someone to support me emotionally. All the years i was in home playing games alone 😭. But now i found a friend who even kisses me on lips. We are not homosexual but we are really really close. We love each other. We even had 🫢🫢🫢 that Relation in bed. No matter how much loneliness is great, you need support, you'll need to be with someone. So better go and find. Don't just grind a stupid camo in your favorite games. They won't comfort you. They are like a beverage nothing more.

[@Stefy-daydreamer]

Thats really sweet. Maybe he's not just a friend but the love of your life hehehe

[@Hespro]

@@Stefy-daydreamer He has a lot of friends😔. It really hurts when he goes out with others. I never cried in my life even after getting badly physical hurt. But he made me cry emotionally so much that i was crying like a baby🥺.

[@Hespro]

@@Stefy-daydreamer Your words really comforted me🥺. Thanks steffy🥺. I wish you meet a nice person that takes care of you well 😊❤️

[@Stefy-daydreamer]

​@@Hespro😢 Sorry to hear that. Maybe if you try to communicate with him, and basically tell him how you feel, things could get better😊 Good luck!

[@Stefy-daydreamer]

​@@HesproThank you so much😊😊

[@germantuxedo6397]

Only read the title but OMG YES, so me!! Now Ima actually watch the Video 😅 Edit: After watching, I feel even more like this Video was made for me

[@00Unstable]

Damn thats deep but i just need ANY friends or people i can talk to

[@aldronskywalker7438]

Saved the video, i might need it when i have a girlfriend one day

[@petercormack2859]

Well that explains a lot for me…

[@NelsonGuedes]

All those things are super rare. ALL of them.

[@jangzhang7323]

This video describes everything i ever wanted. Now in search of someone who I can hold and who can hold me, before my heart shatters in pieces.

[@anderstermansen130]

i got bad news for you pal. There is not a "someone" for everyone out there. Wecome aboard the singlemobile. Toughen up and enjoy the ride of solitude.

[@unfreezedfreezer9455]

​@@anderstermansen130 Too bad this, despite all the sugarcoatings is actually true. We need to adapt to eternal celibacy or else you'll not find life enjoyable. We live in the best era for people like us, international travelling is easy to access, many virtual entertainments that can actually get you real friends, or maybe just relax and do whatever you want with your hard earned money. Maybe if you had a decent relationship with your parents, you can help them?

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

Yes this perfectly describes my heart craving emotional intimacy and mistaking it for craving sex 😢

[@soniabripnauth4753]

100%❤ emotional intimacy .

[@Tada_no_Senshi]

3:52 the trick is that you trust the person you are with right now and you feel calm and comfortable around them, so even if you don't think about anything specific it just puts your mind at rest. 4:29 aaah yes the best way to get a nice dose of oxytocin, works wonders for the nervous system, only catch one should be careful with who they are doing it with, should be someone that will not betray you, because doing it with someone that gained your trust just to get something out of you will make get attached to such a person, making a potential betrayal even more hearth gutting. The way I see it is, when two people make sex, there is only physical attraction, and when you add emotional intimacy to the mix, when your feelings become so strong that words are not enough to express them, this the moment when sex becomes making love. The catch is how good you are at expressing your feelings with words, because if you are bad at this you will get to the point where words are not enough very quickly, but if you are good at expressing those feelings you have for the other person with words it can take a lot more time until you get to the point where you feel that words will no longer do justice to the way you feel about the other person. Also this should go both ways the other person should also be able to do the same by expressing his feelings with words, for me it is important that not only the girl expresses her feelings with word, but she will also let me express my feelings with words, and it may be just a theory but the longer it takes to get to the point where words cannot do you justice in expressing your feelings, it makes deeper the emotional connection you are looking for, so ideally you want that both you and your partner to get to this point at roughly the same time. Also it is perfectly normal to crave physical intimacy and emotional intimacy at the same time, the catch when this is present is that if you only satisfy one need the other will instantly become more prominent making the absence of it to be felt much stronger, so basically if you are using friendship with a girl to satisfy your emotional needs, your physical needs will become more apparent and you will want to have sex with her, the other way around would be if you are sex buddies and your physical needs are satisfied then you emotional craving will make you want an emotional connection with her. Getting only one gets you in a really bad spot, what I haven't figured out yet is how to communicate to a woman that I need both in a potential relationship with her. There is something I would like to say about emotional intimacy, for me there exists two types of emotional intimacy one sided where only one person talks about their feelings in detail, and two-way where both person are making effort to express their feelings for each other with words. what I have noticed that people call a relationship romantic when there is one sided emotional intimacy, meaning the woman is emotionally available and is attracted to a man who is emotionally unavailable, the man is using romantic gestures and the woman expresses her feelings with words, so the woman is left with the impression that the man feels the same way as he does. And this is why it is called romantic because people that are emotionally available (EA) do not process feelings the same way that people that are emotionally unavailable(EU) process their feelings. I cannot say for women but for me personally being an EA man, when a woman makes me feel the warm feeling in my chest it means that the woman is currently emotionally unavailable towards me. Most women will describe this feeling as love, since they are ok with the one sided emotional intimacy, in my case I am looking for two-way emotional intimacy so thinking that when I have this warm feeling in my chest means that I am in love with the woman was a big mistake, firstly because I am not looking for a relationship with one sided emotional intimacy, and secondly the EU woman is not interested in the emotional intimacy I am offering, to put it simply it is too much for her so she avoids it. So neither me nor the woman that makes me feel this warm feeling in the chest will be satisfied in a potential relationship between the two of us. Took me about an 6 months chasing such a woman to get the rejection "I don't see how it can work out." and almost an year to figure out why I got rejected in such a way and why I didn't get a better answer. Now after knowing this much on the matter, I know that the woman that rejected me was unable to better express her feelings due to being EU, and this was the best explanation she could muster and I also understand that I was offering to her something that she did not desire, also since usually women are better at expressing their feelings (at least when they are EA), I was left under the impression that she will be able to understand the kind of connection I am looking for and she would have expressed her self better when she rejects me. Also when I explain all this I do not mean to say that EU men do not love the EA woman they are currently with, and most EA woman sooner or later figure out and accept the fact that the man they love may not feel the same way as they do but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love them back.

[@Kinuhbud]

I like shared silent moments and cuddles a lot

[@delosreyes8987]

yes i've been wanting intimacy that feeling of being hug being kiss but this things are to hard for me because most of the times the ladies have stronger boundaries and it is so difficult to break the ice until all to suddenly i end up becoming the person who have a stronger boundary i ended up having it because i went trough tough situations where the rejections are most of the times traumatic for me and i ended up rejecting people even when i find them beautiful or pretty

[@jordiedmond5744]

A story to tell I shared beds with a girl and after the happy phase before leaving we looked into each others eyes and there was a mutual understanding right away without saying a word....

[@MegaAmpster]

Never saw a video title that called me out more 😅