SIL Kept Insulting My Husband for Being a Stay-at-Home Dad, I Snapped and told How My Husband...

SIL Kept Insulting My Husband for Being a Stay-at-Home Dad, I Snapped and told How My Husband Supported Their Entire Family During Hard Times at Her Wedding Dinner.
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[@kalifaa.d]

i really don't understand why people don't have the same respect for dads likeeee BOTH parents are very, very important.

[@bismarckturtle8367]

Exactly 💯

[@kalifaa.d]

@@yeyosilver7067 what do u mean?

[@Centiwing]

@@yeyosilver7067taking care of your family is pathetic??

[@yeyosilver7067]

@@kalifaa.d It's clear what I said

[@holyroman6541]

@@yeyosilver7067 Imagine saying that helping your child's developement by ensuring a healthy environment is "pathetic". Never become a parent yourself lol

[@alext9320]

"Your father was unemployed for a time and your brother worked two jobs to support the family." Why is that a secret that needs to be held at all, let alone years? This family, not even just Janice but the parents too, sound pathetic and dysfunctional, good riddance.

[@fl-ri-]

The problem with AI stories is they often don't make much sense.

[@LA-ly1nt]

In a misogynistic minded family, it is a disgrace. The man of the family (usually the dad) should be this awesome mega breadwinner. To rely on the son is still a disgrace, better than relying on a daughter. And they hid this from Janice to 'protect her fragile emotion', which enables her rude and mean personality even more.

[@alext9320]

@@LA-ly1nt I do understand the view that it's disgraceful that the father is unable to provide for his family (even if I don't agree with it), but that disgrace would fall on the father's shoulders, or more nebulously "the family's" shoulders; it'd be an embarrassing thing you wouldn't want to be public knowledge. I don't understand why the daughter would be kept out of the loop, especially if the reasoning is that it was for her own benefit to be kept in the dark. Frankly if I were the daughter here I'd be more offended at my parents for lying to me than anything else. Maybe I'm just not insane enough to understand the reasoning of the family here.

[@goldyd144]

​@@alext9320 It's likely been kept a secret because Janice is likely the Golden Child of this dynamic, and her parents wanted her to continue to idolize them as the providers rather than her scapegoat brother.

[@nataliereeves3594]

The dad should have let the mom get a job if they were struggling. They also needed to tell the spoilt brat the truth and make her give up her luxuries to help out too. Instead they carried on with the backward minded attitude and kept spoiling her and making their son take the full wait of responsibility. They never showed gratitude and Instead belittled him fir being there for his kid and wife.

[@Thaddius0]

They are just jokes until a line is drawn in the sand. Now they have chosen to double down because it was never jokes

[@persephonist]

May I also add that appologies are nothing but air. No "I'm sorry" is going to change anything when it's gone this far.

[@jdavis7613]

No one should let cruel jokes go to "keep the peace ". When someone says something unkind, you SHUT it down HARD!

[@noneedtoknow07]

SIL is getting married by yet can't seem to understand the concept of standing up for one's spouse.

[@ancadiamant]

It is not only Janice who is stupid but the parents as well because Jason helped them all out and they still put him and OP down.

[@BaeBunni]

It's hilarious that they act like him being a stay at home dad is the worst thing. But have no problem when FIL has to go jobhunting and would also have been a stay at home dad too while his own son paid the bills.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Bet he never did anything like jason did and just expected everything to go on as before.

[@NeoLotex]

Interesting how she kept apologizing to her parents, but never to her brother plus apologizing does nothing once some things are said, especially if they don't want her to say that she lied or made it a bigger deal than it was. An apology wouldn't change the situation that she felt like a burden which she obviously was.

[@Pikeya]

As a very senstive person, do not dish out what you cannot handle being thrown back at you. Janice was being cruel and now she's having to face the consequences of that cruelty

[@kaykayglover2463]

As far as consequences go Janice is still getting off really light. All she found out was that EVERYBODY she knows wants the best for her and would go to extreme lengths to give her any and everything she wants (which I surmise she already knew, just on a more basic level).

[@UR_SUNSETGIRLLYY]

Bruh Janice seems annoying 😊

[@Olimar92]

She purposefully made sure everyone knew about a fight with her SIL on her own wedding day just to feed off the drama. Like really? She couldn't stand being slighted by a girl she already doesn't like that she has to make her wedding about their fight. She's worse than annoying.

[@Homicidalbus]

I’m a stay at home dad and my wife and I couldn’t be happier with the arraignment. My wife finished her schooling while I was mostly in warehouse forklifting jobs, and didn’t make as much as she does. We found out that I’d literally make enough for a nanny and a dog walker every month, so it made more sense for me to stay home. I love my daughter and we are happy she will always have a parent around because of this.

[@BaeBunni]

The FIL literally has no leg to stand on. You can't talk down to Jason as if he isn't a man when he was man enough at 18 to support the family for a year. Making your own son break his back for a spoiled sister and have the audacity to question what he wants to do. MIL isn't much better and Janice is obviously worse. Not only do neither apologize Janice probably convinced herself that it was all OP fault because the spoiled princess deserved the money from her brother worked for.

[@Moodyman90]

Should have "apologized" by saying how blessed she was to have a family willing to go that far for her to have a comfortable and carefree life to the point she felt the need to judge others for their choices. Wonder how well Janice's marriage is going to last, or what the groom's side of the family thinks.

[@FullMoonOctober]

The husban she was DEFENDING doesn't want her to appologize. If she does, it's like she's taking back her defense of him. Absolutely not.

[@boneymeroney2674]

Awe, poor baby girl 😂 got her feels hurt and needs an apology. 😂

[@ladyweasellou3367]

Her in-laws are selfish, obnoxious, rude, dirtbags. That girl needs a heavy dose of reality and she finally got it. I'm so glad her spouse is such a good man and backs her up. My ex was the opposite.

[@Z020852]

If I was snapping back as a trauma surgeon I'd get everyone to shut up and drop it by talking about something graphic if not outright gross.

[@foureyedelf6151]

"Oh don't worry he does plenty of work on the house, especially in the bedroom."

[@potatoAlive_207]

SIL need to grow up, so immature like a brat in middle/highschool and the parents if has problem needed to say the truth to open their kids eyes if they have a money problem like my parents telling us and warn us the short money meant we had to cheap out and can not go all in it is to understands the circumstances and fair to all than one get all and the other suffers. (In my opinion:) The family is just pathetic losers, clear they only wanted the Husband to work so if had a problem they can milk it because its their sons, and not reach to OP because she's the one who holded and the breadwinner and definitely wouldn't reach out to her, it is better to LC from the family who doesn't hold any respect to their son.

[@BrightElk]

You know I think you hit the nail on the head right there!

[@Mia-dt3gl]

Just wait, Janet’s new husband is going to leave her because she’s shown that she LIVES on drama. Then the family are going to try and drag OP and her husband back into the drama.

[@user-bu9wc8ys2l]

If ur husband said not to apologize then don’t

[@teamblack204]

Jason is a W dad and a W husband that any woman would be honored to have. To me, there's nothing manlier than taking care of his child❤

[@royal-wolf]

If i was marrying into the family and saw the drama, they themselves caused due to their toxic ideals and behavior, I would be reconsidering the marriage

[@royal-wolf]

@xZampx allow me to rephrase that a little. If I was marrying the sister who was that toxic to OP and seeing the rest of her family act the same, I would be reconsidering the marriage. She definitely shares the same beliefs as the rest of the family and wouldn't cut them out and would want to be a part of that family.

[@TheGrandy123]

It is ridicule to hide this from her. She is an adult now. She should respect his brother whatever what he did. What is the way of thinking about being a stay at home parent?! I love how the parents talked about the "repercussions of actions" when it suits them

[@user-ij8uj1tz5u]

If the truth makes a person have a melt down that person might want to think about therapy

[@lodunost]

I wouldn't ever apologize. They should rejoice that a parent will be present to raise a kid. It's very important to the development of the child an honestly too many people let others raise their children these days. The parents lied to their daughter for a long time. She would eventually have found out the truth and she was always rude and seemingly punching down. Jokes are meant to be funny, but she obviously knew what she was doing. As for the guy marrying the sister that should be a wakeup call of what type of person she is. If he still married her after that then he is a dummy. People that bully and belittle others or emotionally manipulate or just try to cause strife and damage are terrible people what can you expect from them? A long happy life? NO.

[@Business458]

Then the wife should have quit, the man is supposed to be a provider and he doesnt deserve the same respect as real men who work 9 hour jobs each day to put food on the table Besides he knew what he was getting into by giving up on his job and he knows his family so he should have expected this

[@kaedeshirakawa1979]

@@Business458He did expect their behaviour but gave them the benefit of the doubt. Also why should SHE quit if SHE earned more money than him and HE was 100% fine with the idea of being a stay at home dad?

[@traviscumbest3946]

​@@Business458so the guy who gives up his carrier to take care of his child after supporting his whole family while working 2 jobs is less then a guy work a normal 9 to 5. If your really think that your a weak and petty person. Hopefully some day you grow up.

[@lodunost]

@@Business458 That kind of thinking is out mate. Sorry to say but feminism killed all that. Logically it should be the best provider work and the other take care of the kid until time for school. My wife makes 10x what I do right. I wouldn't ever ask her to quit to stay home with the kids. I would do what needs to be done. Because my first responsibility is the family I have.

[@knightawz]

@@lodunost "hat kind of thinking is out mate" time doesnt kill beliefs haha nice try, plenty of societies that have these beliefs and roles. Keep coping. Modern feminism is cancer

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

My big brother worked as welder since he was 16 he invested in his gf education till she got her doctorat (PhD in the US) and took a very good paying job without much working hours then got married and took 2 years to rest and learn a fashion based trade (high education is free here in France but certain artisanat careers gets you a big scholarship) now he is a happy SAHD with a part time job from home at his own atelier. He is well respected in the community but there were wsome nasty remarks from envious losers but nothing from the immediate family.

[@Maninawig]

Good on him.

[@Business458]

Your brother sounds like a hard working businessman/hustler who knows how to use his time which is why he is respected. The only issue your family can ever have with him is that they might believe that his wife doesnt worship him enough guven how great his accomplishments are and contributions towards her This guy isnt like your brother, he doesnt do anything other than cook/clean, nothing says he helped her get a career, his wife probably gives him an allowance and he even expects his wife to help him with house work even though he is at home all day. What about him now would a young man look up to and say "I want to be like him." What about him would make a young girl go "I want to suck his xxxx "

[@kaykayglover2463]

Forget Janice. Why would the entire family want to keep encouraging her spoiled bratty behavior? So wild.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Tale as old as time. Parents allow the bratty child to do whatever and expect everyone else to just get over it as “that’s just how she is” …but the second someone snaps back at her, then THEY become the problem🙄🙄🙄.

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

If you see a stay at home dad Its none of your business... It's their wife's. Are you their wife?

[@notsoanonymous5786]

if she's that apologetic, she should've apologized to Jason for being HIS burden instead of crying like a b*tch seeking for attention and sympathy. Also, parents clearly has favorite child and that ain't Jason. NTA

[@snigdhakushwaha6279]

the reason Janice is an "emotionally fragile girl" because the parents have fucking coddled her to death. If she's old enough to get married, she's old enough to know these hardships and sorrows because tf life isn't alwasy going to let you off easy. OP in fact just gave her a much needed reality check and a huge life lesson that things aren't always as jolly as they seem.

[@hooraayy]

The parents should be the one who apologizing for lying not the one that telling the truth

[@k.a.89]

If she's so sensitive, she shouldn't be so controversial.

[@BusterNoggins]

Ditch Janice.

[@JBMVoid]

dont throw stone when u live in glass house

[@synneangel2062]

Dam, they were eating when arguing😂 13:11

[@lynx9311]

Only way is for a mutual apology. She apologizes for the mean shit shit said and OP apologizes for her shit. No apology to the family

[@thomasritchey1365]

13:11 putting our food down 😂

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

I’ll never understand why men and society hate stay at home dads. They’re still taking care of their family but in a different way. It doesn’t make a man less than a man. I swear society loves women caring for the home and kids until it involves men taking on that role they shrivel away in fear like they’ll catch cooties.

[@kirillstp]

They don't hate it, but they can see the risk of the working woman starting to perceive her man as less of a masculine provider, losing attraction, and deciding to cheat or leave. Not saying it's impossible to be a SaHD, but the man better have mojo oozing out of his pores to make the relationship last, if only for the kids.

[@carenxatu5962]

Toxic masculinity is running rampant in our society. I’ve seen very few stay at home dads, but the few I have seen are strong and confident. They are so secure about themselves that they don’t see anything emasculating about their profession in the slightest. That sort of mentality is something to behold. And honestly, I’d say they’re better than a majority of stay at home moms, considering all the entitled, outrageous drama I’ve been seeing from mothers these days.

[@jamaltheophilus7596]

What a nightmare.....you all took the high road for years, and Janice continued to milk it. I understand why you snapped; she attempted to embarrass you and your husband in front of her in-laws to set the precedent for how they treat you and Jason. Good on you for speaking the truth! You are a rock star. Go NC with all of them. They are draining.....worse of all, they enjoy doing things that destroy families....keeping secrets.

[@rcranjos]

OP is a rare type of woman.

[@TheLowsee]

Jeez when are people going to realize keeping the peace for the family never ends well. It only emboldens the other person to continuously get worse and worse until it blows up. Smh.

[@CreditR01]

People who judge other people's living and work arrangements based on their own are weird. It's none of your business, unless one or both of them is having issues and asking for help. It's great that a new baby has one of her parents around, so good for Jason. His family sounds snotty, judgmental and annoying. Janice is just a byproduct of that. Keep standing up for your husband. No one should be given a free pass to insult your partner, and it's crappy if you don't say anything when they do. Besides, it's doubly insulting to call being a parent a "vacation" just because they stay at home. It's ignorant AF. Janice should be crying, and ashamed of herself.

[@chung2055]

. 100%: Agree, that you have nothing to apologize for by exposing the In laws dirty secret.

[@Battalionchief_lynn]

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[@Olssvwlyzvuzsvs]

Ok

[@xXA0iXx]

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[@kelleyboyz6487]

Ok

[@okk239]

Here before this blows up

[@sarikakagbhat26]

Nice

[@quacasualwomen]

emotionele fragiel? spoiled little brad. cut ties with them

[@stickmandrawing1140]

Bruh how did you even mess up the word brat? I mean i didnt know brad was little and spoiled or "emotionele fragiel" like auto correct is there for you to use my guy

[@user-tl9bj9kh4v]

​@@stickmandrawing1140 You do know that not everyone speaks English correctly right?

[@stickmandrawing1140]

@@user-tl9bj9kh4v thats fair

[@stickmandrawing1140]

@@user-tl9bj9kh4v i did not consider that mah bad cuh

[@alyzu4755]

So the entire family has been coddling Janice her entire life, hiding the truth from her, and enabling her ridiculous behavior, and somehow that's OP's fault? Janice is getting married. It's time for her to grow the eff up. Any repercussions are the fault of Janice and her parents. OP is absolutely NTA, and her husband is a gem. I hope they go, and stay, NC.

[@Cael_Dereck]

Never let anyone, even family, walk all over you and take it with a smile just to keep the peace. Never let anyone think bullying you is okay and won't have repercussions.

[@cheryljones8875]

I wouldn’t apologize to anyone…but then again…I am SUPER petty.😂

[@ToaRahkshi]

"He knew about my equation with sister -" not 2 minutes in and it's already revealed to be another AI story LOL

[@TheGreyParse]

The best option is always to cut toxicity out of your life, in any form it takes 🙌

[@0fbaimeg]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Don't push someone past their breaking point and then act all *surprised pikachu* when they lose it with you 😐

[@sanddagger36]

why is no one else allowed to be "emotionally fragile" It's like getting punished for being good at your job by getting more work piled on. If you prove you are mature, you get more responsibility while people who prove incompetent get coddled.

[@AdyHh-up9ez]

Jokes r jokes till u give them back and it becomes hurtful

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

Jason as a teenager did his duty for his parents and sister then as time passed and as an adult Jason did his duty well by serving his community as a peace officer and now Jason continues to do his duty for his own family but no one recognizes it except for his wife who also has dedicated herself to a calling as a surgeon in helping others. Shame on all of his relatives.

[@Kevin7557]

Their attitude is just as misandric as it is misogynistic.

[@alexdale2387]

Jokes?? What a bunch of hypocrites, don't ignore them. Inform them you're cutting them off and block them. If they know where you live, move away

[@fivelittlemonkees]

I wouldn't give a flying flip. She has abused her brother for YEARS and her family has turned her into an entitled brat.

[@Raw_mass06]

I don’t even know what was OP worried about, if someone ever told me I’m in the wrong even tho I know I’m not, our conversation would go like this : They: what you did was really selfish you know? Me : well damn I didn’t know They: so you have to deal with the repercussions ( of you standing for yourself) Me : bet

[@ale123kin]

It is really crazy how people care so much about appearances, to the point of ruining their true lives and then impacting said appearances

[@lindah3803]

As for the family who are contacting OPand hubby wanting details as to what happened. Draft a statement of the misteatment that has gone on over the years. Include what exactly was said and done at the dinner,along with the argument in the hotel room. Put ut all out there. Include that NC is in effect for the parents and sister. Send this statement to everyone. Then grab an extra large pop and bowl of popcorn. Enjoy the show. The family needed OPs hubby's help in the past. They will again. OP and hubby can laugh in their face then.

[@sanddagger36]

"She feels like a burden" Not her fault "She feels horrible for making fun of him without knowing the truth" this is her fault Why did it take this for her to realize she shouldn't have been making fun of him? She is having a mental break because she realized she put her foot in her mouth and there is nothing she can do to brush it off like she always does. This is the part where she moves to Nepal in shame and hopes never to meet anyone she knew again

[@cordellej]

the problem is people let other people disrespect them for to long before finally standing up to it. one should ALWAYS put people in there place the FIRST time they cross that line NEVER let it happen a second or even third time before ctomping it out OP should have put that brat in her place from day one and her husband should have put his parents in there place from day one thats how i deal with things . i stop it immediately on the spot one time. the first time , it does not happen a second time

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

--- Don't apologize to Janice, she reaped what she sowed. She's rude and insensitive and needed to be put in her place. Tell the in-laws that you two are tired of the family putting them down. Good for them standing up for themselves and bidding adieu to their toxic family. Janice will revel in being the center of the family's attention and milk it for all it's worth. The in-laws won't realize for a few months (too busy focusing on poor Janice) that they haven't seen their granddaughter and heard from their son. It will then hopefully dawn on them that you two didn't appreciate Jamie's "jokes".

[@MaxsCulinaryChronicles]

My mom was a physician and my dad stayed home. It was great. They got comments and looks. However, with my mother‘s female physician colleagues, many of them had stay at home, husbands.

[@daveo1808]

Men are kind of lucky in a way. When I was a young boy I liked to joke and insult people for various things, always pushing further and further then one day this guy who was much taller then me didn't take kindly to what I said and he punched me right in my mouth, we fought a bit there and then after school we fought some more and he def got the best of me. From that moment something clicked in my head and there was a line which I knew never to cross, the line moved at times but I always knew where that line was and steered clear of it on the side of safety to avoid getting beat up again. Women don't really have that, they can just spew whatever they want with no physical consequences today and while that may save them a few days of pain and recovery the lack of it can result in an entire lifetime of misery. I'm thankful today that Ryan beat the crap out of me, everyone needs a Ryan to keep them in check

[@gideonroos1188]

I do hate it when people say 'get eith the times' like the current year thing is necessarily better than what came before. I agree that the family's attitude towards the couple's roles at home is not very healthy or moral, but a new thing isn't better, or even good, just because it's the new thing.

[@BlackBrisingr4]

Okay, I generally agree with the OP on the overall point of revealing the truth, but one question: How is it misogynistic to attack a man (her husband) for doing household work? Wouldn't that be misandrist? Note that she said that they don't attack the female members of the family who work, just the OP's husband for not working? Also note that the women who stay at home agreed to it and even seem to support it, at least in public, so saying it's forced upon them without proof behind familial expectations is iffy at best. Does everything have to be a "women worsting" situation even when it's literally an attack on a man?

[@LymiaKanokawa]

In this case, it is misogynist at its heart, because the implicit logic is that they think it's bad for a man to be like a woman - because they think women are inherently worse. The actually misandrist stuff is usually more bad opinions about men's sexuality being dangerous/etc, since there's less an underlying sense that "bad because women are bad".

[@MrSteuBaer]

well tbf it is just a fact that it is not beneficial for a men to act like a woman. That is exatly what happens when you dont grow a spine as a men. your getting walked all over and taken advantage of by everybody. it has nothing to do with hating women... its just a fact of life. do you guys even know what mysogenistic means?@@LymiaKanokawa

[@KilroyWasHere83]

OP and her husband have a very good relationship. I hope it stays that way, especially since Hubby is a stay at home dad. I just hope she doesn't start resenting him for it and doing something to ruin their marriage.

[@laurapruitt2129]

Nta do not apologize. The parents fault for expecting brother to man up and support them while allowing and coddling the princess. Let alone you all have clearly. Arentbokay with these jokes and snide afbremarks. She should have known and she never had thr right to degrade her brother. She SHOULD feel guilty and like a burden its exactly what her entitled as is. Dont apologize.

[@barbaracameron8292]

Jason wasn't selfish when he took two jobs to support them.

[@PointlessPickle]

Now I don’t think it should be op’s fault. The parents were the ones who decided to keep the secret from her and created a spoiled person… like oh no, consequences!

[@torisisk5252]

Bro, can we just talk about what a dude OP’s husband is! He quit his job to take care of his daughter knowing his family wasn’t gonna like it, and actually having a spine to stand up to them. I, personally , have seen at lot of these where the husband always ends up on the entitled family’s side “to keep the peace.”

[@sammyf0x]

Better way is agree to apologize, with condition that Janice apologize first for her jokes at table, which started everything. If until wedding, she doesn't do that, OP and husband can leave and the in-laws can't say anything, since they themselves refuse to acknowledge their fault first.

[@SherioCheers]

would not apologize. She can throw her little toddler tantrum but I'd refuse to apologize for telling the truth.

[@jobob9643]

I was with that parents thinking if an appoligy would work to stop the wedding from becoming not about the newly weds.. and who knows if it would have worked with Jan if she hadn't overhead the fight and gave that shit ultimatum. The parents were right that them leaving would create its own issue (which it did but on Jan at that point). I wonder if she didn't have too much of an reaction since she says that was kinda the status quo for how they talked. but she was coming from a good place of being loyal and defending her husband in a way he wouldn't have been comfortable. This would be neat as a choose your own adventure story.

[@jacearmor5274]

Janice should feel guilty, she's been nothing but a spoiled brat. Maybe this will make her grow up.

[@lilykhandker6716]

Never take the high road!! Just say 'the sister was acting like a b***h and being rude and you stopped her by telling her the truth

[@mongviemong]

Always the insensitive person who can’t handle a “joke” 😂😂😂

[@roberthuffer6591]

If OP had really wanted to be petty, she could have told Janice: “Enjoy your wedding, and enjoy your inevitable divorce, in the near future.”

[@zachboyd4749]

They can dish it out, but they can’t take it…

[@PhonkAwake]

wow, nice story!

[@Shmeages]

Love is about sacrifice the love that OP'S brother had for his family was rewarded with being mocked and humiliated for his sacrifice you push someone to the edge and you can't get mad at the result.

[@crazyyy_.]

Just wanted to tell yall that my little cousin (4) wouldn't let me this and eat dinner.

[@soniamoore1772]

1 : I was not apologizeing for the right thing to do

[@Grimeaper]

I mean I would have never allowed any of it to happen to begin with you allow people to use you as a door mat, and they will keep doing that til you snap then call you a monster. It is that simple that is the rules. Be the monster from the word go. Fuck anyone who says otherwise. Simple.

[@NamorImperius1969]

Bring a cop… a good cop is extremely hard these days. That job will grind you to dust. A lot of great people suffer from life long injuries and mental illness. If he needs to retire from it, good for him!

[@adrianacasares1130]

Quit a cop job when you become a parent its normal nobody want a job that could made your baby become an orphan

[@kirillstp]

There are many more dangerous jobs than policing. Logging and roofing for example. But nobody sympathizes with them.

[@stevepaul6842]

broo this is brooklyn 99 season 8 with the job thingy

[@MEME_Theif]

Ethics and Logic over Tradition

[@unnamedplayer7141]

you know you've watched too many reddit videos when the only thing you can focus on is the fact that the minecraft parkour video is mirrored from the original, which is seen in many, many other reddit stories

[@robinphillips3762]

NTA she doesn't owe her an apology at all Janice doesn't know how to behave and neither do her parents OP's hubby is a freaking saint sponsoring his sisters and parents lives for a year and then keeping quiet about it because the parents think she's "fragile" but Janice isn't fragile just a bully and nope bullying is not sibling teasing teasing is always something that is only slightly sassy and doesn't ever make the person getting teased feel bad yikes Janice really needs therapy as well as the parents

[@bobothetroll2873]

The husband is partly to blame for this. It is his place to stand up to HIS family. Not OPs. I don't disagree with what OP did. But it never would have come to that if he had had a spine

[@MrFrogTheChad]

Standing up to your brides family usually ends poorly for you.

[@stinky_twigs]

honestly, it sounds like his family was never on his side. it sounds like he's used to being walked on. i used to have a spine- i used to be very outspoken, but i'm not anymore- because my parents broke it. someone that's been walked all over and manipulated their whole life isn't going to stand up to the people that did that, so outside help is sometimes necessary to get the ball rolling. additionally, earlier in the video the husband did say that he wanted his wife to stay out of it so he could stand up for himself.

[@MrFrogTheChad]

@@stinky_twigs You stand up you are the villain. You stay passive you are walked on. Either way you lose but being passive let him have a positive relationship with his wife so he took it.

[@Maninawig]

The problem is that nobody puts Baby in a corner... I mean, nobody in his family has the right to stand up to Janice, and Jason had lost all the footing and respect he had from his family when he left the force. Trying to stand up for his wife to them would be like a white single father bringing his 6 month old twins to a femınıst rally: a disaster ending in putting innocent lives at risk.

[@bobothetroll2873]

@@MrFrogTheChad It was his family that put him down. Unless I am misremembering

[@onlittlecatfeet]

My grandparents from both side were had a very traditional value in relationship but they weren't force it to their children, they raise their children with "we don't have anything to give to you more than necessary" mindset so that they didn't grow up to be spoiled children even though they have enough money to send them to college, both of them have 12 children so that was a lot, they got so much money because they were sold 3/5 of their farmland and use the money to build apartment and house for each child on remaining land (i don't know how big their land was but from what i heard and when i was visit their former land it was about small town). So i don't understand why some people force their mindset to their children and spoil their child rotten

[@JaneWirawan]

I mean, did janice apologize to jason for humiliating him? If she didn't then you shouldn't.

[@SenseiRaisen]

THE F? ... why? They are the a-holes for keep that and what Janice did is realizing how much of an a-hole she also is too. Also this is a situation they brought up for rasing her like that too, even OP's husband, with all the good intentions is part of this too. YET! he did out out of compassion, while Dad out of maintain his pride and the illusion of bread winner. If anything, they are the ones who should apologize to OP in 1st place and to the husband. This wasn't "a mistake" like this 2 idiots paint, that is straight bully and sister is a jerk for everything she did before.

[@slayerwytch2032]

O I see… Janice can dish it… but the golden child can’t take it… op double down

[@LymiaKanokawa]

It sounds like Janice is the way she is because her parents robbed her of every change to grow as a person and realize the consequences of her actions. If she knew the situation at the time, she might have had reason to reexamine her own beliefs and attitude and grow for the better.

[@JoseMorales-su8ol]

F A F O

[@Koko-de8re]

send her a letter "womp womp"

[@TsukaiStarburst]

Gonna be honest and say in an AITA situation, yes OP kind of is, there was no reason to drop such a huge bombshell the day before something really important to her and she really clearly took it very badly. One of those rare cases in a youtube rendition of an AITA where I'm gonna say yes, they were in the wrong.