Stepmom Tried to Ruin My Wedding by Sending Fiance Edited Photos Making Me Look Like a Cheater...

Stepmom Tried to Ruin My Wedding by Sending Fiance Edited Photos Making Me Look Like a Cheater, Now She's Begging Me to Let Her Back After Getting Kicked Out.
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[@DarkEinherjar]

NTA. Play evil stepmother games, win evil stepmother prizes.

[@SR-lm1jx]

Also huge props to the dad for being such a loyal and trusting father to OP. Like she said in the post it’s not her dad’s fault for not knowing about this conflict earlier and his reaction to OP’s revelations really shows remorse and regret for not stopping stepmom earlier

[@alexanderkelsey-gi4qn]

That is the most specific and appropriate comment I’ve ever seen in my life!

[@notlisztening9821]

She's TA for posing an ultimatum. She could just tell everything to her dad and let him come to his own, uninfluenced decision. Emotional blackmailing is never ok, even if you are in the right.

[@sadkirby161]

​@@notlisztening9821lmao shut up

[@Martyr_Knight]

Pretty sure this is the second time that I’ve said this but W PFP

[@Rinefi]

this is the reason why, ignoring such matters and pretending that everything is fine is the worst decision

[@spoof2062]

Yeah she could've saved so much time if they just set up camera's or something

[@Ghost1170]

​@@spoof2062Shes a kid. Its harder to do that when youre 8 xD. When she got older, maybe but it can also be taken badly so it depends on the severity that u can catch

[@roabarton7962]

It only delays the inevitable.

[@Carnibee]

Disney Channel convinced that child that this was a good idea. Adults have no excuse (unless they still think like a 12-year-old)

[@Rinefi]

@@Ghost1170 If she were collecting evidence, she would be able to collect enough we're talking about a huge part of her life, not only childhood

[@Maninawig]

Tbh, the real winners are your future kids, who won't have to deal with a crazy step-nana

[@Kpop-Multistan_8998]

fr

[@jemase7931]

Dad didn't kick Jenna out because of an ultimatum. He kicked Jenna out because he didn't like what he saw when he saw the real her.

[@low-keydrama1260]

"You're trying to sabotage and ruin Jenna's and your father's relationship!!!" I'd tell those people, and send them her cheating "evidence" and say "Well she was trying to sabotage and ruin MY relationship."

[@sophiaisabelle0227]

I guess evil step-moms do exist. better run while you still can.

[@cocogoat2131]

Ofc they do, there is a reason why they exist in fairy tales as villains. Stepmoms mistreating their daughters is quite common. It's a younger girl they feel like they have to "compete" with for the father's affection, and they of course lose, so they mistreat them out of jealousy.

[@bratp4504]

🤣😂🤣 and evil biological mother exist as well . They mistreat their kids. Have favorites and mistreat the other kids.

[@_juju_jojo_]

This the only time you’ve heard bout a pos stepmom or did you feel clever sayin that?

[@HubiKoshi]

Really the main mistake OP made was not going to her father all those years ago.

[@chessieray1465]

She addressed that at the beginning of the story. She realized her parents situation and had Jenna figured out. Her father wouldn't be too much help since he'd just be undecided.

[@dreadmachinima1649]

Not to mention that we, as adults, know that she should've gone to her father all those years ago, but as a teenager, you don't have that confidence or wisdom.

[@HubiKoshi]

@@dreadmachinima1649 I'm not sure if I'd agree "Go to a responsible adult for help" is very much a lesson we try to teach kids so they don't get themselves in trouble.

[@dreadmachinima1649]

A lesson taught for most kids yes, but circumstances vary from household to household where that isn't such a simple thing to do, that's a very heavy generalisation.

[@Ebunoluwa13]

Her dad made that decision for her. He unknowingly belive Jenna over her. That is exactly why she decided not to tell him anything after what she heard Jenna telling him while crying. He wouldn't have believed her anyway.

[@io5897]

Their friends say OP sabotage her marriage? That's rich coming from someone who actually tried to sabotage her stepdaughter's relationship weeks before her wedding. NTA. OP had that right to make that ultimatum. Also, she doesn't have to fix anything between her dad and ESM.

[@Ldfyjhkjg]

Friends ❎ "Friends"✔️

[@demonark3391]

If the stepmother was willing to make false evidence of cheating for her fear that her holiday would be affected by the cost of the weding, I fear what other lengths she would go to. I'm sure if OP had any kids she'd do her best to convince everyone they were from an affair at minimum. Definitely NTA, the stepmother needed to go

[@InkAndPoet]

"... I've been feeling guilty quite a lot lately since technically I'm the reason they broke up" Well, doing the right thing can feel like that sometimes.

[@333333joshua]

Interesting how narsasistic pretend so well that they become really good partners, then they just have to be nasty to someone and ruin their own life. All she had to be was decent but she let her narsasistic insecurities get to her

[@yamairad1]

It never lasts, though. 1) They always need a target. So, if OP had left her dad, the woman would have found somebody else, and it might have been harder to keep it a secret for 15 years and 2) the milliseconds the dad messed up. Be it losing his job, making less, etc, her true self would have come out. It is miraculous that dad lasted this long without realizing it.

[@BrightElk]

It’s because while they are being good they are saving up all their evil in a jar so they can release it later on their defenceless victims. While everyone else lets their bad out in little spurts throughout the day to cut down and reduce evil doings!

[@Deedoof]

Trying to destroy a wedding through manipulation and malingering doesn't help your own divorce? OOPS!!

[@Quessen]

People forget that micro cameras exists... It wouldn't hurt her dad to buy one or two to record audio and video footage of how his lover treats his child to a decision... He also could've tell his daughter to try to always record some audio footage of her interactions with that 304 of a stepmother.

[@hm5468]

I don’t think those were a thing when she was a kid bud

[@Quessen]

@@hm5468 Dude events from the story happened at most 15 years ago. OP is 27F (at the time of writing the story) we don't have the link to the original post so we can't see date of it but I doubt it is that much older and 15 years ago there were plenty of spy cameras etc gear to use. Even smartphones where present that had voice recorder apps on them.

[@ayenii]

@@Quessen I don't think a 12-year-old would have access to spy cameras, and the father was obviously far too trusting to set them up himself.

[@Ldfyjhkjg]

1.Spy cameras are expensive 2. When dad asked OP whether the accusations were true , the OP deliberately admitted to it because she wanted to play mind games. End of drama. -"Did you steal?" -"Yes , I stole , I'm sorry it won't happen again." End of drama .

[@Quessen]

@@Ldfyjhkjg well he could either buy one or two spy cameras or hire PD. Dunno which one would be cheaper but both would prove succesful.

[@SkyEcho751]

I remember this story, I'd say it's a year or so old on reddit. OP was fully in the right to reveal what she was trying to do. And those relatives are crazy as well, they claim OP was just making up lies to break up her dad and the evil wife, yet the evil step-mom was literally willing to falsify evidence to break up OP's upcoming marriage. I have 0 idea how she thought that was gonna work.

[@artemisia457]

bruh.... jenna wanted dad first and then wanted adrian

[@deadly-mage1697]

I’ve dealt with something incredibly similar to this, and OP is NTA. I swear there is a weird phenomenon with stepmothers wanting to separate their stepdaughters from their fathers and ruin their relationship.

[@squiggle463]

It's some weird emotional in##st stuff, similar to those toxic boy moms

[@Olimar92]

It's got to be some kind of "This is my Husband, and he shouldn't have anything to do with his wife." Girls just remind the bitch of the the Ex-wife more than boys do.

[@toastykitty1448]

Same. Wtf is with those types of women?

[@mr.knight2026]

How dare she break her dad's marriage when Step-mom tried to do the same to her even before the wedding.

[@chessieray1465]

Something tells me that the evil stepmother has some unresolved Electra complex/daddy issues and is taking them out on OP to have her father all to herself.

[@vincentcleaver1925]

Freud? He's a fraud and an addict, or an addict and therefore a fraud

[@JaneWirawan]

Gosh, is that even a question? NTA

[@georgia3043]

Does anyone else get the vibe or feeling that the stepmother was only in it for the money? With the way she was primarily concerned about the holiday holiday spending money and the divorce alimony divorce, just gives me that vibe and the reason she wanted the O.P out the picture was so She could get more money

[@Bluecrimson217]

That woman absolutely saw the man as a meal ticket.

[@lalalovengun]

These Reddit stories train me to smell BS from a mile away.

[@nikkihorn3852]

I start to look at people differently.

[@Garurugirl1]

"I didn't mean to send a edited pic 3 weeks before your wedding I just wanted to mess with you!" you almost ruin HER relationship what if Adrien wasn't a good guy and posted that photoshop pic EVER WHERE you THEN ruined her reputation (defamation and slander) plus is jenna aware that that THREE WEEKS into the wedding would ruin op financial?!

[@kiaowens2856]

Why does the step mother have his number??? Y’all hate these people but give them your s/o number???

[@Ghost1170]

You act like they cant get numbers from relatives. Ya. Idiot.

[@roabarton7962]

I'd send that email to dad and everyone of her friends where she claimed she was messing with them. See her group of allies grow thin.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

I always wonder with stories like this. Are the flying monkey family members JUST as toxic as stepmom orrr were they told a completely different version? My money on the later but you never know🤷🏻‍♂️

[@cindyskullz]

It’s usually always a story twisted in their favor but even when the truth gets to them, they’ll often rather believe the story told to them first.

[@essienbaruti1388]

I wouldn't call her the AH but I do think giving him till the end of the day was a bit much.

[@SwaggerChiick1]

I'm surprised more people aren't pointing this out. She made it seem like the dad was also some villain who had to make things up to her and she even said she was "more than fair" to give him ONE DAY lest she cut him off. She knows she pretended all was fine for years so how is any of this the father's fault?? She's obviously not the AH overall, but she has some issues herself.

[@vincentcleaver1925]

​@@SwaggerChiick1 I wouldn't hold it against her. There had to have been signs. Maybe she lied and gritted her teeth, but years of this means years of benign neglect. They were in conflict for years, there were slip ups

[@SwaggerChiick1]

@@vincentcleaver1925 that is a complete assumption you've made that she herself never stated not even once. I'm gonna take her story, from her own words, just the way she presented it, and not add to it unnecessarily. (This is coming from someone whose dad did indeed neglect us for his new women, but if that was the case for OP, she wouldn't have left that out.)

[@CG-yb6zj]

What makes NO sense to me.... Is - You married somone with a kid, 'baggage', KNOWINGLY, then do everything in your power to push them out to make believe that it's just you (likely THEIR kids, too) and the spouse when, like cheaters, you could've just went with somone on the same wavelength as you instead of destroying lives🤨 WHY??

[@raidenjacktheripper2787]

She ask for keeping the house and hell out of payout? Srysly? After all she done to her? I said no. She doesnt hab any basis and she doesnt hab any of part of it and she only act nice in front of him, abuse his daughter when he wasnt around. She shouldnt get all alimony cuz how narcisstic jenna is

[@phunkyzilla]

An eye for an eye makes the world blind is only good sometimes. Sometimes you must strike down your foe with righteous and indignant fury.

[@ThePawerStation]

Narcissist people are worst investors ever. She could keep his husband money and get something from OP and her marriage (Knowing that both paid most of it) if she would've played her cards right and not being a PoS.

[@JamieJosef]

OP is obviously the victim here and NTA, but it’s a bit ridiculous for her to say that giving her father a 24 hour ultimatum to end his 15+ year long relationship over information he was only told half a second ago or lose his only child is not extreme or forcing his decision

[@mcclure3510]

Yup. 'I didn't affect his decision, it was his own choice!' Girl, you forced him to MAKE that choice. Still NTA, but stop acting like you didn't give him a rough ultimatum

[@leebitqoq]

Seriously, I wouldn’t be surprised if the dad cut off both of them cause what the fuck. That’s confusing as hell 😭

[@martianhighminder4539]

Nah. The daughter had the receipts that the step mom was a cuckoo bitch, and a man's daughter should outweigh a random woman who isn't even a mother to any of his kids in terms of preference. Twenty four hours is plenty of time to realize that if a woman will try to sabotage your daughter's wedding (especially after being part of the family dynamic for those 15+ years!), she is potentially capable of more egregious behavior and isn't actually invested in the relationship anyway. Good on the OP for the ultimatum, and good on the dad for stepping up to it so fast.

[@426mak]

Good to finally hear about a dad who stands up for his child.

[@jimko6436]

Ight wtf is that ultamatum? "Cut off your wife of 15 years, or i will cut you off. You have less than a day to get your shit settled." That's a-hole actions to the father, especially since this was the first time he was told about this in years. At least let him process it all first

[@vincentcleaver1925]

Projection sucks, stepB!

[@kennycai8695]

I keep saying "narcissism is one heck of a drug". That stepmom showed a lot of signs of a classic narcissist. Trying to ostracize and gaslight OP to isolate her from her father, this is a sign of control. Deliberately sabotaging OP's relationship for no reason other than to give OP a petty middle finger, another narcissistic trait, in that the narcissist's "enemy" can never be happy at all, and will go to insane lengths to say "F U". Plus, I am also calling the stepmom a coward to get her friends and family to brigade on OP over HER mistake. Since this is an AITA story, my verdict is NTA.

[@cheryljones8875]

NTA…all she had to do was mind her own business…but no..she had to meddle. This is what she gets. Ignore all the others who are crying about it.

[@BrightElk]

I feel like there is more to the story. I think the dad knew something about the step mom that OP didn’t.

[@shellecebusiness7244]

I think so too 15 years is a long time to not see any thing yk

[@luckyvonstanke2155]

NTA ya stepmom is evil

[@mbaliemncube4513]

My dad died with this mentality thinking I hated my step mother when she was the one who treated me like shit. It is what it is though

[@NourAmsterdam]

I was in her situation as a kid. Only my father took part in being awful to me. Always bashing my mum, mocking her. When I was 13 I had enough and set him and his wife straight. Told him I didn’t want to come anymore in the weekends and that nobody should speak nasty on my mum. That the b*tch he married was way below my mum and a jealous witch. Tbh I went all out, all those years of trying to ignore it and accepting it, I just exploded. He claimed I had a mental issue, and that my adhd made me do this 😂. I’m 33 now and still going strong with my mum, she is an amazing grand mother. I’m in therapy now for dealing with the past and it’s going good. Haven’t spoken to my dad but 1 day im gonna confront him. Just to close that chapter and maybe maybe be on speakinf terms with him. Gotta say he was an addict as well in the past.

[@hahahahaha72]

After all this i hope her mom and dad get back together seeing that she really cared for him this would be the best thing that could happen to him

[@MizzShortai]

Jenna really thought she could continue to try to destroy OP's life and not get caught. I also find it funny how she thought OP hadn't told her fiance about her and her games or that OP's fiance was going to trust her over OP. Dont date single fathers if you dont want to raise a step child. Jennas friend are hypocrits. So is jenna. Jenna tried to ruin OP's marriage before it even started. Actions have consequences. She didnt mean any harm.? Was just messing around.? Yeah thats why you told the fiance not to mention anything to OP and just break the engagement off. It also takes time to photoshop pictures.

[@sanddagger36]

pretty sure even if the dad was happy with his new wife when they were younger she has probably done some things since then that made it not a hard decision to drop her.

[@RozaDarken]

yta for not talking to dad about problems b4 hand because it was sprung on him suddenly

[@yukilullabi]

Unrelated to the story but when I heard the name Adrien so many Miraculous clips played in my head of “she’s just a friend” 😭

[@Ebunoluwa13]

This is why men have to be careful when rhey want to remarry. Pretend to hate your child in front of your gf if ypu have to just to see how they'll treat your child when you're not in the room.

[@vexxama]

I don’t think even the ultimatum is extreme. Even if I didn’t make it a binary choice, if she pulled that with me and he took her side, I’d definitely be going low contact

[@Thaddius0]

Ultimatums are generally wrong. I would have just said she is uninvited to the wedding and you wont be spending any gatherings/holidays in her presence ever again. Let him choose divorce when he realizes the gravity of the situation

[@SwaggerChiick1]

Exactly. I'm very very confused by how she confronted her dad. She knows good and well he doesn't have any idea about any of the issues since she herself decided to deceive him and pretend all was well. So her reaction to give him till the end of the day lest she cut him out of her life was so bizarre. She's not the AH overall, but she has some issues herself.

[@kagome1000o]

Why is it always a Jenna?

[@conormac6293]

Not going to lie I think OP is kind of TA for giving the dad a 24h ultimatum. She pretended everything was fine for years only reveal everything and force him to make the most important decision of his life in 24h. She should have trusted her evidence and let him come to his own decision on his own time.

[@bigbro869]

OP’s got a good guy.

[@deesseverseau1500]

No you're not wrong

[@hominine]

Could you change the gameplay sometimes or at least turn down the FOV? I love watching it with the story, but the motion and FOV makes me very motion sick sometimes, I’m sure I’m not the only one! Thanks ❤

[@vincentcleaver1925]

This please

[@shellecebusiness7244]

Honestly dad had a bit to do with this cause 15 years is a long time to not realise that something is really wrong yeah jenna may be a good liar but she had to have slipped at one point or another that woman terrorized his child for 15 years i think op giving him that was good on her fuck the rest of the family cause they didnt get terrorized in theyre own home for years

[@junetate9669]

Huh neat

[@_hihi_0.0]

you give off such pedestrian energy /pos

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@_hihi_0.0you give off snowflake energy lol

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@_hihi_0.0you must be a feminist 😅😅

[@NJ-kp3wu]

​@@_hihi_0.0You know we can see your profile, right?

[@_hihi_0.0]

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[@hunterg24]

This story is fake. First she says that it's three weeks out from the wedding and the father just kicked out her step mom and was beginning the process of divorce. Then she says it's two weeks to the wedding and the divorce proceedings have begun? Lawyers can barely get the paperwork together to be served in that time.

[@Munthegun]

I hate unfinished story’s

[@foysalmahamud7599]

W Dad

[@Obihann]

I think you pick your stories when they're not ripe enough. I like the stories thst have an ultimate ending like a year so the events are hashed out properly. Yours are months old, which doesn't give a definitive ending.

[@bigmike2464]

You should have recorded the incidents FROM THE START... instead of acting like a martyr...Your guilt is ridiculous... Evil Step-Mom did ALL of this

[@kidm0bius190]

fake af

[@FlorianHWave]

Please use a female voice if the main character in the story is female.

[@Doomed462]

It is super annoying when you turn fly-mode on and try to pretend that it isn't on. It makes this even more annoying than the normal gameplay. Just looks like crap.

[@marilynnirkkola3483]

The constant rapid movement behind the text is awful…it's so distracting that it gives me and maybe others a headache…why is it even there?

[@ansgarwolfsang1287]

"You only have until the end of day to decide if you want me to cut contact with you or not for the rest of our life , after I told you stuff of something you had no idea about " "It seems to me I did not force his hand, it was his own choice"

[@leebitqoq]

That was way to harsh on your dad, sorry.

[@susandevlin5981]

Step mom just mad because her gravy train left the station.

[@taetannim3581]

No, you were an incredible AH to dump all that on your dad- after lying to him all this time- and give him such an ultimatum. That's seriously fucked up and if your dad resents you later, it'll be exactly what you deserve.

[@TessaBain]

Yeah, telling him was the right thing to do, but to demand immediate action through emotional blackmail was not.

[@cindyskullz]

So her step mom tries to sabatage and ruin her relationship with her dad for years and you’re saying that OP deserves to lose her relationship with her father anyways for pushing him to leave an obviously toxic, gold digger narcissist?

[@roy7670]

​@@cindyskullzno? what we're saying is that she shouldn't have given that ultimatum to him she should have just told him about it see what he does and then decide what to do but for her to give him that ultimatum is screwed up because he didn't know anything about it, she purposely hid it from him so you're basically putting all this pressure on an innocent person so suddenly is screwed up. Especially your dad

[@Darkspark06]

I think was a gen Z expression Shes for the streets

[@_juju_jojo_]

8:44 “I didn't force my dad to do anything” Does she not know what ultimatums are? Don't get me wrong, she's not wrong for giving him that ultimatum and her dad wasn't forced to do it, but that's what ultimatums are for their supposed to force a decision.

[@Bluecrimson217]

It was an asshole move, but a justified one considering what the stepmom had tried to do. Especially with the marriage so close - I wouldn't risk that woman being anywhere near the marriage in any way.

[@TessaBain]

I will say the OP is still a pretty big asshole for the ultimatum itself. Regardless of any other argument stemming from the fallout of telling him about it, that is emotional blackmail and makes OP an asshole.

[@nathengriffiths-holland7038]

Ok so while the step mum is a peace of shit she gave him an ultimatum and said “ I didn’t force him to do anything”. That’s 1 straight up wrong and 2 a lie. Exposing the evil step mum and forcing your dad to not let her be involved with you is fare but I believe OP’s actions are a bit controlling

[@gracelouise3091]

100th comment

[@mukuroikusaba7998]

I do think giving him “until the end of the day” after dumping all that on him was a dick move on OP’s part, but other than that, I can’t blame her at all.

[@steelfoot98]

I think giving the dad an end of day ultimatum over something that big was a bit too much, especially since this was his first time hearing about any of this and there’s no way he could fully process everything by then. Other than that OP had every right to do what she did.

[@nicknitro86]

Didn't try as a child...but didn't the post say she tried to sabotage the relationship as a child?

[@dokuganryu1565]

That's what OP got acussed of doing by Jenna.

[@Olimar92]

No, she was doing her best to just stick it to her. Stepmom was trying to get her to leave, or try and get her dad to just give her to her mother full time.

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

This is story is funny and fake.

[@christophernoble76]

yah but it's entertaining like wwe or movies

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@christophernoble76true

[@Z.O.1991]

We all know it’s fake, but it’s really entertaining.

[@REYCER0]

comments are too focus on the stepmon, i´d say she can rot on the street, but that doesn´t change if you the ah or not, you didn´t gave you father the oportunity to believe you, you acussed his wife (with truth but he did knew those things before) and didn´t even let him be or not to your side because you gave him an ultimatum like he was the bad in this situation, you severed your relation with your dad and this will come around sooner or later, ytah

[@Zed6534__]

If you were a parent and had your child tell you that your significant other was basically bullying and tourtuing them with proof, you would never take the side of the significant other. Please stop trying to blame OP for the stepmothers actions

[@laynegrey2003]

@@Zed6534__no one is blaming OP for what her stepmom did, they're saying the ultimatum was excessive and inconsiderate of her father's feelings. OP purposefully didn't tell him any of this beforehand, by her own admission, and stepmom also hid it to maintain her image, so the dad is finding all of this out for the first time, and is entirely innocent yet she's giving him this ultimatum as if he ignored her constantly bringing up the issue for years. And as you said, OP gave him proof and everything, if he were a good parent he would side with the correct party, without the ultimatum. Telling him the truth is absolutely the right thing, but stapling onto that "cut her off or I'm never speaking to you again" with a time limit of THE END OF THE DAY was just a bit much. It's punishing him for something she pointedly didn't tell him.

[@REYCER0]

@@Zed6534__ i didn´t said that, stepmother can rot in hell, father should take her side yes, but op made an ultimatum in her first confrontation to her father, firts attempt was the nuclear option, she forced his hand even if she doesn´t believed she had, and now his father can´t even show sadness in from of his daughter because he can´t even trust his daughter wouldn´t leave him if he shown emotions over his ex-wife that until so few time he believed was so nice and charming.

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

Parents shouldn't remarry.

[@mohoejegi4876]

Firstly,That literally makes no sense. Secondly, the dad never married the mom. Use your brain it's there for a reason.

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@mohoejegi4876are you triggered little girl?

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@mohoejegi4876did you get bullied as a kid? Is that the reason why you're so slaty? Lol

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

​@@mohoejegi4876aww you're mad lol

[@krqh474]

@@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xcawwww your so dumb you’ve really grown down 🥹

[@buckfitches8845]

Well well well, how the turntables. As the saying goes, mess with the bull, you get kicked out of the house and your husband divorces you. Or something along those lines.

[@Quessen]

@telltales. are you gonna finally put source into the description?