Single At Christmas? Here's Your Survival Guide.

[@hellostephco84]

If you notice my eyelash was so excited for Christmas it was trying to escape my eye…you’re not wrong!! 🎉🎉🎄👀

[@AmsaH5]

I didn’t notice it until you pointed it out.

[@caseyjakemorris]

The leaving the white partner at a majority black party thing happened to me. I took my girlfriend at the time to my best friends dads birthday party at a club in DC. We (the guys) outside to take a picture. Maybe 2-5 minutes later she comes out the door past security screaming at me about being “abandoned”. We then had a screaming match on the street. I wonder how common this is.

[@jellygurl27]

I have 0 issues with seeing happy couples or things on social media. My ONLY issue is the relative and/or friend who wants to ask invasive questions about your dating life or why you are single? PLEASE STOP asking people who are Single questions. just STOP. We are aware of the situation. If we wanted help we would ask. We also do not want to be reminded. Thanks!

[@natkinggriff]

If/when you finally do get married, the NEXT question is, "when are you going to have a baby"? SOOOOOOO insensitive. Suppose one cannot or does not want children. Now you've struck a whole nother nerve. Stay out of folks uterus and their sex lives!!! please and thank you.

[@jellygurl27]

@@natkinggriff Right! People sometimes just don't know what to say out their mouths. I am convinced lol

[@rose-marielewis4717]

Right?! How about you just say NOTHING if you don't know what to say.

[@JulianSteve]

I agree with you. Thank goodness my family is not extra. It is the outsiders doing the most with these questions💯

[@sharplioness]

Facts. PERIOD

[@ranieshabaker9449]

Steph release an album because you pipes girl! Stop playing! 🥰

[@patricebright4182]

That’s the same thing I was thinking. If she should make a Christmas album

[@lashaeleaf8842]

Right 💯💯💯

[@xauceamani]

Right, this woman can sing!

[@VLM123]

Yes, her voice is great!

[@ClaireHaire]

*Love this video & can we make a new rule? How about when it comes to the holidays, we don't ask people personal questions that they are going through. I remember when I first graduated from university & the day of Christmas being asked what's my future plans? It frustrates me that family waits until the holidays to "hash out " issues, there's so many days in a year. I used to have anxiety around the holidays because, I think of everything I'm "lacking" will be presented right next to the eggnog.*

[@hellostephco84]

Yes!!!!! Absolutely!!!

[@ShereSagi]

Please make this a rule. People are just bored and do not know what to say! I'm 34 and my parents ambushed me twice this year about getting married. Even though I went through having my kidney removed in the summer, they asked me just a few days ago when I'm going to get married and i should be worried 🙄 I'm just blessed to have my life and health at this point.

[@candyc4713]

@@ShereSagi sheesh I know that’s right. Shame on them!

[@Spokentruths725]

@Alicia E yeah unfortunately our parents aren’t always the people we should listen to.

[@sinlifemedia4759]

That and can we normalize stop asking people why they are working on Christmas???

[@tasha1206100]

I use to get triggered by weddings. All my friends knew about this. It just conjured up envious, jealous feelings. Just sadness in general. I don’t feel that way anymore but I can definitely relate!

[@britt1953]

I never thought it was a big deal to be single during the holidays. I mean a lot of couples aren’t even happy being together but they just don’t want to be alone during this time of year 🤭

[@jessicaberry87]

I'm not single this Christmas but I've lost key family members and now the Holidays bring a bit of sadness to me. My mother passed three days after Christmas two decades ago. I find myself staying away from social media on Holidays. I pull away from social media a bit after Halloween.

[@sensimania]

I can relate. My mum passed close to xmas 2yrs ago. Now for some reason I purposely switch off my phone at xmas and especially NYE because I don't want to see all the happy new year text messages / memes etc. I rarely respond to them.

[@jessicaberry87]

@@sensimania Same here. I thought it was seasonal depression but I looked deeper and realized it was because I knew on some level that the Holidays just weren't the same for me anymore.

[@banzy5387]

Yes…I am not single either, but I have to stay away from social media on Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and Christmas. Both my parents have passed and those days are hard for me. My mother was awesome at baking and cooking, so the holidays are ruff.

[@jessicaberry87]

@@banzy5387 I'm sorry for your loss. Yeah, those are "pull away" holidays for me too. My grandmother went out of her way to decorate the house for the holidays and I miss that.

[@rose-marielewis4717]

I feel you. Both my parents passed within months of each other. Christmas was my mother and I's favorite time together. It's tough. My heart goes out to everyone who has/is going through this.x

[@diyafalife4]

Your skits always have me dead 😂😂 it is hard though watching people move into certain milestones when you can’t relate at all.

[@Deity09]

Go head with your multi talented self! Now I’m feeling a bit festive. P.S that skit was fire 🔥

[@juleslove9814]

I’m just honestly happy to get the time off during the holidays. Everything else is a bonus.

[@spacetimecontinuum]

It's the skit for me :-) However, think about not only those who are single, but those who are single and have NO family, none. That is a special kind of hell this time of year.

[@tinkerbelltheredhead]

💯

[@ericadallas9839]

Your experience was important BECAUSE it shows that a person can be partnered and still have their special time ruined. Being single sucks, but ohweee I am aware of too many partners that are miserable. And I'd rather have a solid relationship than many of these smiling holiday couples who really having drama on the back end. Hugs to you this holiday season.

[@Spokentruths725]

Yeah my aunt is in a struggle relationship acting like she’s better because she’s married. She’s trying to save face.

[@juleslove9814]

The liquor being poured into the cup TOOK ME OUT !!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@db4449]

Love your vibe Steph 🥺 Our PARASOCIAL relationship is getting So Strong lol 🥰❣️🥰

[@tacrewgirl]

Same

[@zahrawright2253]

Girl you should think about being a comedy writer!! You’re hilarious!

[@ericadallas9839]

I definitely identify with this video. I've resolved to start celebrating out loud by joining groups, volunteering or even traveling because life is too short to isolate one's self or expect family to show up for you. Find like minded people or even join another person's family. As a natural loner, this time of year can be heavy. But it's billions of people in this world. Your group of people who love you are out there. That's what I tell myself. Hugs to you!

[@misskris117]

I’m a natural loner too and I’ve really got to just find MY people. It’s never too late right?

[@angieangiel2666]

I'm like you too. I'm a loner who is not close to my immediate family. I made 2 friends online and we are so similar which I wasn't never similar with my siblings nor had nothing in common with them. I feel like I finally found me soul friends in them and those online friends I consider family now.

[@angieangiel2666]

@@misskris117 I've been a loner since I was 12 years old. Although I'm married with 2 teen girls now I still consider myself a loner.

[@noirefit5954]

Your content is so relatable!!! I’m 26 turning 27 next week and I’m really over it. I keep attracting the same person and I’ve become the girl who can get a man but can’t keep em (they cheat, they are verbally/emotionally abusive so I leave). I am a single mom so just having my child is enough for me and I pour all of me into her

[@ramalellison9205]

Sorry you experienced that. But to be fair if every single man you get with happens to be a cheater or abusive......you just picking the wrong men.

[@TheGreenbutsad]

Good on you. Invest on your child rather than a random man.

[@noirefit5954]

@@ramalellison9205 I’ve only had two men sooooooooooo anyone can mess up twice. BUT you are correct. Somethings wrong with my picker lol. Taking time out to learn more about myself and pick better

[@Ohitishim]

@@noirefit5954 I feel you on the "picker" being broken. I, too, am sitting still-to self examine. I do hope that as you learn more about who you really are, and what it is that you truly desire from your next relationship/partnership/marriage, that you will become a more fulfilled Woman (standing within your own self). That is my goal at this moment. To be sure that if, and when, the day arrives, that I meet the Woman I desire, I will be able to meet her as a truly fulfilled Man.

[@noirefit5954]

@@Ohitishim amazing. Well said! And thank you for the encouragement. I do hope the same for you as well!

[@liplock000]

Girl when is the story time about the nightmare girls trip coming?! The one where the sleepwalking girl peed on everything and you had to recite Bible verses to the other girl 🤣 As someone who seems to always find themselves in wild situations like that, I am dying to hear the full story! You are such an entertaining narrator as well.

[@artisticagi]

I think she told that story before in one of her older videos. I think the one about friendships not lasting forever

[@artisticagi]

I think it’s this one kzbin.info/www/bejne/oHnKYmSFgp6ibbc

[@liplock000]

@@artisticagi I know, but in that video she said she would make an in-depth story time about everything that happened if people wanted to see it….that‘s me, I’m people 🤣

[@artisticagi]

@@liplock000 oh ok I didn’t know that she was going to make a more in depth version. The one she told in that video sounded pretty in depth already to me! Have a nice day ☀️

[@anagrace498]

Lol she posted it today if you haven’t seen it yet ☺️

[@misslauren6798]

I *LOVE* your content!! You make me feel "seen/heard"! Keep doing what you're doing! 😘

[@sarahjane4266]

06:35 Oh gosh, I had to do this last week, a lot of people I follow have had babies, are moving into new homes...I hated the sad and jealous emotions I felt when seeing these happy couples share their happy moments. I just didn't want project any negative energy onto the posts so unfollowed. I reeaaaaally appreciate you sharing this video!

[@anissa2361]

Everytime I get on social media I'm reminded I'm single and have no one to take me on a date to see Christmas lights. Let me log out my account right now 🤣

[@sarahturtle3270]

I’m side eyeing the friend that didn’t help her put her wig back in place in the skit 😂😂😂😂😂 like I need friends who gone make sure I look good! Great video Steph!

[@AlishaThomas112]

The friend was absolutely terrified LMBO. It might set her off again.

[@ColdDiva]

Not bothered by the holidays, my Grinch heart has been calcified and now is impenetrable.

[@bford3977]

What I had started doing before covid was being out of the country. Having a margarita with extra tequila on the beach made everything wonderful. 😁

[@kiagreene958]

Being single anytime of the year is okay enjoy your self and life life it only means your not married to someone lol enjoy life ☃️😎

[@noik_11]

I TOTALLY agree with you about cutting them off so they don’t ruin your Christmas!!!! I do this too.

[@talisha5863]

Steph - you seem like you were a wonderful teacher….i bet your students still talk about how cool you were and how much they miss you👏🏽👩🏽‍🏫🎖 thanks for sharing your Christmas Survival Guide and acknowledging that there may be a lot of people suffering through depression due to comparing their lives to others on social media. You’re truly using your media platform to help others and yourself..thanks Queen👸🏽

[@ricardobelmont5984]

Cutting off social media does help not just the holidays. My holiday punch which I give to my folks to spice up....this taste like 5% cheerwine now. Recently started doing a early Christmas morning or Christmas eve stream for folks who wanna chat and watch me croak while gaming. Overall treat yourself! You had that eye on that item go get it!

[@eb6302]

Your video really helps me understand that it's okay to be alone. I'm only 20 but romantic relations never happened to be unless it was online. I am cruising through life now but the holidays get me in my feels at time

[@1978spears]

I’m right there with you in surrounding myself with all of my favorite things & doing activities that bring me so much joy & happiness….like going to my local zoo at night to see the zoo lights😍 Going shopping to buy Christmas PJ’s, and preparing the holiday meals I dreamt of as a child👍🏽

[@lindarockfull]

Steph, I love your voice, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Merry Christmas!

[@koobea4859]

I had that “boyfriend is an SOB” Christmas. Years ago. It taught me about keeping my expectations in line with reality. It also taught me that New Years Eve is really a great time for alcoholics to strut their alky stuff.

[@pricklypear1111]

Its so important to build resilience. The world is full of things that are desirable but the hyper-reactivity to certain external factors (seeing couples, etc) can be paralyzing. When I was single I remember being so negatively triggered by happy couples. Until I healed that part of myself internally, I kept attracting more single-ness and loneliness and I dated from that energy of sadness and despair. Eventually I changed my reactions to neutral and later to positive feelings of warmth and admiration I felt when I saw couples (yes even while single). That vibe changed my entire energy.

[@graciousgrace7509]

How did you heal?

[@isisnine]

Stephanie...you are so multi-talented. You can sing, you're hilarious, you're intelligent, thoughtful and beautiful inside and out. I hope and pray that in the New Year you find a loving, honestly, intelligent, funny, attractive,supportive partner that sees you as the queen that you truly are and treats you accordingly. Happy New Year sis! 🥳💝💖

[@robinsnestradio]

I dont even celebrate Christmas but I totally enjoyed this video and that sweater looks so good on you. Blessed holiday to you!

[@swambomb5555]

Can't watch the video RN because I'm working out, but I wanted to comment. But how did you know I needed this! Girl, thank you for this survival guide!

[@SCFLEUR]

The stuff you did for the kids sounded cool and fun. But yeah you were saved from dude and he is family.

[@pepperminttree]

Mute is a beautiful instagram tool lol, gotta protect ur peace!

[@carrieedwards7755]

❤️❤️your singing and your skits, had to watch again, so proud of you.

[@washeabarnett7093]

🤣🤣 Your skits are hilarious, love them.

[@Nekole1]

You look really pretty as usual! Love the lipstick and Christmas sweater. Looks really nice.

[@broughttoyoubynmblake]

I said to myself, if in the skit the wig is upside down or falling off, I’d literally combust laughing! 😂😂🤣

[@charlottegordon7004]

I love your content💓. We are exactly the same age - and I have experienced all of the same things you present, and up until now, had never found anywhere online, that talks about the things you candidly speak of. It’s refreshing to be able to have a safe haven, that I can come to (here), and hear *truly* relatable stories.🙏

[@AIBot929]

Idk why I'm here I've been doing Christmas as a single Pringle for a few years and in my house by myself. I get myself presents, I watch a few movies typically twilight and HP cuz why not, make myself some hot coco, sip and mind my business. I don't browse social media because frankly idc what ya'll got lol for my own mental sanity

[@suoutubez19]

That’s good, no sense in worrying about other people and what they’ve got going on. As long as you have a routine that works for you. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks. Hope you enjoy this hilarious season as well!

[@marie2511]

Instead of hot cocoa I make myself mimosas 🍊🍾🙂

[@cholericqlare]

This is a holiday vibe. Love this for you.

[@saramatthews7159]

Im the same way...im thinking just ditching family gathering and spending Christmas alone curled up watching good movies and cooking some good food.

[@ayeilak5]

That skit was mad funny 😂🤣😂🤣 love it ❤️♥️❤️

[@Shantae_2]

That skit was 🔥 Steph

[@MultiMrslala]

“It’s a little strong” **takes sip with a smile** lol

[@Blessed-hb2of]

This video is so funny 😂 I’m not single but I relate to unhelpful updates and trying hard to stay in your lane in the social media age

[@AlanAvis]

People always ask why I'm single, yet never set me up with anyone. Then they all think I'm gay, even though I'm straight.

[@Ms.Yana83]

Definitely can relate. I am married and have an amazing husband however we don’t have children yet and it can definitely be tough seeing friends with their kids in matching cute pjs and showing them opening their gifts Christmas morning. Everyone has that thing that makes the holidays tough. Love your tips on how to make getting through it easier. 😊

[@tacrewgirl]

I've been waiting anxiously for this new video. I always enjoy your stories and vibe.

[@ntokozojiyane7051]

LISTENING TO YOU IS SO SO HEALING YOU HAVE NO IDEA, OR YOU DO....YOUR AWESOME.

[@biancas763]

I really enjoyed the skit 😆

[@crazy4beatles]

if you see someone being questioned we should start stepping in. when you're already feeling down/sensitive it can be difficult to tell people to stop and having someone else take that burden and offer you an out would be nice

[@SGB1111]

You better sang girl! 🔥

[@peggypope4383]

More holiday skits, PLEASE:-)….lol….LOVE THEM:-)! Thank you for sharing your experiences, which are honest and real for so many of us!!

[@RamenzillaX]

I love the skits. Sometimes, I think back to the skit where you see your friends 5 years later and chuckle to myself. So relatable.

[@brahmabkitty03]

I loved the skits! If you have friends who understand that the holidays are hard you’re blessed. I send reminders to leave me alone during that time of the year

[@ThePassportGirl]

Your're so wise 🥰 and I love listening to your videos while during my chores around the house. I just found out about ur channel yesterday and been enjoying listening, you can do a podcast! 🥰. Sara, your italian subscriber 😊

[@emmaANDhayes1on1]

You kno I'm a fan when I remember you telling your chocolate fountain story before hehe

[@75lovechild48]

I enjoy your content. And I love your skits, especially this one. You are so talented! I can easily see you packaging your content into something on the level to what Issa Rae did with her "Awkward Black Girl" series. Whether you're on a blazed trail, or you're blazing your own....You know you've got super powers! Continue to use them for good! 😉🦸🏾‍♀️

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

She reminds me of Issa Rae so much

[@patiencefiodembo3450]

I love your content 😂😂😂 and your Xmas sweater!!! ❤️

[@casuallythandeka45]

Okay Ms Aretha Franklin!!!!!! Steph! You look so good. Give us a skincare routine. Please. Thank you.

[@mimismegalife4976]

I am 59 years old and this is my 5th Christmas 🎄 as a widow. Thank you for your help and tips. I have ended Christmas 🎄 🎁 Eve dinner and gift exchange with my in-laws. I choose to decorate my house and tree and spend time with my daughters and grandchildren later on Christmas Eve night. Blessings to you and God bless from West Virginia USA 💖

[@narutooooo7706]

That skit was EVERYTHING 😭😂😂🤣

[@WILDANDPEACEFUL23]

More skits please! So good! I watch this one three times. 🤣Your videos are so important. Please keep them coming.

[@tinasmith7827]

Burgundy pair well with your skin!!! Your hair is beautiful, can you start linking wear you get your wigs🙃

[@MRT408]

As a single black man, I enjoy being single , especially around the holidays.

[@anissa2361]

I love the skit! Looks like something from Hallmark!

[@xauceamani]

Your skits are my favorite ! The way I be laughing... Except this time I had to be careful not to be too loud, it's to late at night, and I don't want to wake the house. 😭😂

[@ShereSagi]

Love this! The accuracy! 😂😂😂

[@misst-1538]

I thoroughly enjoyed that skit 😂

[@rhondabarlow860]

I've enjoyed being alone on Christmas and people think I'm strange. Your singing is beautiful. It would be nice if you incorporated your singing in more of your skits/videos. The tips are good ones. I'm irritated by people asking if my "sons are coming or came home" or if I'm "going or gone home" like they're evaluating my relationship with my people and I failed the test when I say I'll be "here alone" or just don't answer their nosy question and don't tell them my business.

[@sofeeak8604]

How do I LIKE this x 100?? I LOVED THE SKIT WAY TOO MUCH! 🤣🤣🤣

[@marielacantarero8445]

❤❤❤❤❤ great seeing and hearing from you again! Looking beautiful as usual

[@luvlyleo2836]

You have such a beautiful voice ❤️. Love the skit, hilarious 😂. I’ve found it easier to be single during the holidays. It’s hard enough to make time for family members and friends. But I’m a little different 😂❤️

[@tamaragreen6078]

@10:03 that gargoyle scream and broken glass is where I am yes 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👠💄🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@arelettia5670]

You look so pretty. I too watch Christmas 🎄 movies. You are so talented and entertaining. Your life is my life. I'm 63🙄

[@peaceley4068]

Whatever the eye makeup is, it’s popping! 🤩

[@JustLovelyQ]

Girl you’re too much but I love it 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lemon3583]

Hahah!! This Christmas story aka no more updates! Loooove

[@lemon3583]

This black hair is so good!! Love the honey, and I also looove this long black hair on you! So classy!

[@lovingone2182]

Love your skits! Thanks for sharing

[@daniellenothmann7534]

Love your content! You are honestly the most relatable youtuber I've ever watched!

[@sysye]

My tip would be to get drunk with your cat. That's at least what I'm going to do this year.

[@mitchierainbow7353]

With your cat? 😂😂😂

[@sysye]

@@mitchierainbow7353 oh yes! 😂

[@fashionspy96]

I live in Argentina. Yes, it's a 3rd world country, but man... In this particular aspect it trumps many other countries in so many ways! Here, Christmas is usually spent with family (night of the 24th, we make a special toast when the clock marks 00:00) and some people go out with friends after dinner, so at about 1am on the 25th or something like that. If you're in a relationship usually people will spend Christmas with one member's family and New years with the one member's family, and that's it! Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, it's so much easier when you're not coupled, since you don't have to decide anything, you just spend Christmas with your family (parents, grand parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, etc). The only people who I've heard talking about whether "they are in a relationship for Christmas" or not is people from the us. My heart goes to you all, because i know your culture has conditioned you to think about this thing and it's sad... Wish you all a merry Christmas and happy ny💕

[@sungexpression9093]

Lmao at the look when you heard that last proposal

[@candyc4713]

The skit was awesome👌🏾 you have a bright future as a comedy writer.🎭

[@ashi1922]

When people show their crazy early count it as a blessing

[@bellaeb32]

Loved the skit 💜 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@calireddglam]

Great video Steph!! I enjoy you so much, you are most def my fav😘 I love when you do skits 🙌🏽❤️👏🏽👏🏽🤣🤣

[@anamhasan24]

You look so pretty! The makeup, the hair, all of it!

[@sweetblack1216]

You have a BEAUTIFUL singing voice

[@golden_life0867]

First Christmas post divorce and I’m sooooooo excited, because he didn’t really care for Christmas so I’m going extra EXTRA this year 😂😂😂😂😂 love the content

[@ArsIsFun]

You’re such a talented teacher

[@lalasunshinebeams8354]

I died at this skit!! Lmao!! You are amazing.😂🤣

[@sararichardson737]

Those kids will always remember you !

[@Whatsgucci]

The skit had me dead!🤣🤣

[@e.f.c.3659]

That skit was to funny! You have a very beautiful voice. I think you are still a sitcom waiting to happen.

[@kaelajones8931]

ily steph!! LOLLL the skit was hilarious