Single Dad by Choice

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Single mothers and single fathers are beautiful in my eyes.

[@cassandramitch433]

There's many single dads out there who do a good job of raising their kids, and lots of single moms who also do a good job of raising their kids.

[@64ELTURCO]

I'm a single, straight man, at the age of 30. I can't imagine to ever want to have kids that could be taken away from me, even if temporarily. That's why I'm researching future possibilities. But it's illegal in my country

[@sushanthrao6160]

Where are you from?❤

[@inkerikavantera]

This is so cool! Bless his heart. Single straight men should not wait forever though- statistically women tend to choose their partner within 2-3 years of their own age. Plus the sperm quality tends to decline starting from 45. I am a Choice Mom. 🙌🏻💓

[@1legend517]

Some single men aren't waiting. They just can't find the right person! In my 20s nobody wanted me or they were all taken. Now in my 30s, they all have kids already, don't want kids or can't have kids. And I've tried a tonne of dating apps only to be matched with trans women, psychopaths or women that are 5 to 10 years my senior. I've officially given up.

[@1legend517]

It's usually women who have the choice of when or if they want children. Not men.

[@jamesrick7351]

thats average people. handsome successful men can and easily get younger women

[@zertiboy]

gosh I'm starting to realize I'm different... I'm straight and single in my twenties honestly looking into this... :)

[@givememore4free]

Plenty of time, don't rush

[@jmarais]

This comment made me happy. I thought I was the only one. Good luck!

[@alwayszilla]

Me too.... I'm 22 and I don't know the right time to dive into this

[@titan9663]

Same bro, I used to want a wife and kids till I got red-pill and realized if she leaves she keeps the kids.

[@lawandahunt1762]

I'm a Single mom to a Autistic teenage Male that I love Unconditional. With God we take things one day at a time. However I do believe that a two Parent home with Mom and Dad present is much better for raising children. 🙏🙏💙💜

[@sparklingpersonality87]

I love this!! So beautiful! It’s so silly that single men can’t adopt. The gender discrimination (both for men and women) that exists in our society is so disheartening. I’m a queer woman who is having a baby on my own. I hope things change in the future for more men to be able to do this. It shouldn’t cost a man $150k, but it shows your commitment. What lucky kids! Makes me think about maybe volunteering to be a surrogate. I want men to experience this, too.

[@jamesrick7351]

men want their own legacy aka their own genes

[@joelrionstaves4684]

I'm not a proponent of single parenthood by choice, but I understand why men would want to take this route. They don't want to be deleted as a result of their children being used as weapons against them after a divorce.

[@imaji4487]

At least no mother will steal them from you by law

[@1legend517]

There's literally no one to talk to about this. And it gets so depressing. No one cares about how we feel. I'll be 37 soon, and all my life I've been single. I know my only chance to have kids is with a young woman who isn't married, doesn't already have children and can actually have them. But I know realistically that's not going to happen. I don't want to adopt or become a step parent - i want my own biological children. So what do I do? The older I get the lonelier i get and the more depressed I'm getting. All my friends, cousins etc are married with kids and no one has ever wanted me. I never have anyone to spend time with. 😔

[@1legend517]

@Gisli Nair Thanks so much for that and for the kind words. Much appreciated. But I doubt things are going to change this year either.

[@jamesrick7351]

if you had money you could easily get a younger woman or get a surrogate

[@nativebabe9913]

@@1legend517 I'm sorry to hear that. As ridiculous as it may sound, consider hanging out in or near grocery stores or libraries for a couple of hours, there are plenty of wholesome women there. You can try charity events too. Usually guys don't find decent women at bars from what I heard. Just a suggestion.

[@1legend517]

@GabbyLove 💖 You're right about bars and nightclubs. I've been verbally abused, physically assaulted, rejected and just generally been treated like garbage. I gave up on that shallow scene a decade ago. I just want someone nice but can't seem to find that person. I think they're all taken.

[@nativebabe9913]

@@1legend517 Don't give up, great single women still exist, anyone/ anything worth having is worth waiting for. You just have to take chances, just remember, the quality of the places you go to for looking is the same quality of people you encounter. Don't worry about women perceiving you as creepy, you'll be surprised at how many women find you attractive. Just be yourself, shop or read in these places & you'll be fine.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Those babies are adorable awwwwww I love them

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

People need to respect single mothers the same way they respect single fathers.

[@red_pandey]

You mean the reverse? Most people don't even know about single fathers

[@kykysmith446]

Exactly

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Ash I respect both.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

@Tashana Luda people don’t respect single mothers mostly. Single mothers are hated by society.

[@1legend517]

Really? I don't see any single mothers by choice getting hated for it. Quite the opposite. Society seems to be praising them for it even telling them that they don't need men in their lives. This is now a common occurrence for single women. The men being the sperm donors and having little to no involvement in their children's lives. Men on the other hand rarely ever get to become single fathers by choice because of our biology and that's why this is such a big deal. How many videos are on KZbin about single parenting for women? This is the one video on KZbin about men becoming a single father by choice and angry feminists like you are outraged about it.

[@brad349miller]

there shouldn’t be laws. people should be allowed to become parents how they want to. together you determine how you want the terms to be, go before a judge and 💥 you’re a parent with unalienable rights.

[@hunterhagmaier]

Yesss

[@sassypants7536]

With things like surrogacy, there needs to be laws. It has the potential to get very messy otherwise.

[@billmartins5545]

So what is in the interest of a future child doesn't matter?

[@diehardernxgt2161]

​@@billmartins5545 it never mattered in the 1st place.

[@fanofmany71]

Hopefully everyone knows that cost varies so yes, be prepared for expensive journeys but some of us had journeys that cost wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy less.

[@Brainwaave]

@fanofmany .. no matter what the cost is... it is still cheaper than what you might have to pay if you are married and things go south

[@lalina1304]

adorable :) All the best to them.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Nonhlanhla M hey I recognize your picture. You look pretty.

[@pakawanmalayavech101]

Very happy with you.🌺💐🌷💕

[@1legend517]

I wish I had a child.. I'm depressed that I'm a single man and not a father.

[@jamesrick7351]

men can reproduce till death bud. better get started

[@sincerelyjaijharnaerose757]

This is amazing to see! As a single mom by choice ttc my first child (hoping & praying for my set of boy/girl fraternal twins) I love 💕 this!!!💖💖💖💖💖

[@billmartins5545]

Why would you be a single parent by choice? You're depriving these kids from what they need, which is two parents. Talk about selfish.

[@magga5369]

@@billmartins5545 some people never ever meet the right person no matter what they do but have a lifelong dream of motherhood or fatherhood. You're saying, even if their financially and emotionally ready with a strong support system and good planning, that they should just shrug, walk away and say oh well guess I wasn't good enough so now I can't live my dream? Awful

[@keanmolinyawe]

i was inspired by this

[@TNGURL08]

Wow...great mini story!

[@saludrecentes4242]

So cute the babys

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

I have a high respect for single parents. But why can’t people support single mothers too

[@Brainwaave]

well I think people support single mothers more.... it is more acceptable .... than a single father... at least that is my experience

[@patrickbateman1540]

@@Brainwaave Single fathers are far more respected since they are male and make more money than single mothers,single mothers are viewed as sluts who couldn't keep their legs closed

[@Brainwaave]

@@patrickbateman1540 well I find people having more empathy towards single mothers, btw I don't care and have moved forward with surrogacy

[@didistutter8417]

@@Brainwaave I always see tons of hate toward single mothers, doesn't mater their circumstances. Maybe that's because single mother videos bring out the incels.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Did I Stutter? It’s so sad. I respect men and women single parents.

[@didistutter8417]

It's crazy how all of the single mothers by choice gets a ton of hate but the single fathers by choice are praised.

[@joeroot9142]

Exactly

[@stevens1-o7s]

Well that's because a lot of single mothers have their ex's on child support, so yeah it's less admirable when a guy is paying for your expenses VS being the guy who's raising the kid and paying for the expenses

[@icyunvme2400]

@@stevens1-o7s We are talking about single parents by CHOICE. Not people that separated in a relationship.

[@stevens1-o7s]

@@icyunvme2400 Hmm I guess I never really thought about the fact that there are women who just decide to have a baby with no relationship or anything, mainly just due to the fact that it's not really as beneficial to most women as it would be for a guy. I guess now that I think about it, it definitely is a lot easier for a woman to just go to a sperm bank and decide to get pregnant. I've never heard of a woman doing it that way before though, but single father surrogate cases are very rare so I can imagine that there's likely more cases of women just going to a sperm bank VS single men who get a surrogate. Most of the time when thinking about sperm banks I think about couples substituting a sperm donor in the case of the male being infertile, or same sex couples that need a sperm donor.

[@icyunvme2400]

@@stevens1-o7s Yeah some people like myself are aroace, but would still like to have kids. And I think the negative energy is directed more to women than men because of the single mother narratives and stereotypes. Even though single mothers and single mothers by choice are completely different😭 (I personally think single parents by choice need to come up with a different name lol)

[@bigjohn8407]

It beats having a baby mama

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

And a baby Daddy

[@jamesrick7351]

@@strawberriesblueberries2258 baby daddies pay while baby mommas take money

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

@@jamesrick7351 it's the other way around

[@enchiladasytacos3978]

this warms my heart

[@simplyincorrigible7708]

Thank you for making this video.

[@ADHD101Thrive]

Good option to assure your genetic material continues.

[@1legend517]

That's right. Speaking from personal experience, it becomes extremely depressing to be a genetic deadend.

[@V10_estate]

same I feel it’s so hard to have a partner and the pressure from you family makes it worse so I’m just gonna get a surrogate baby and then make up a story on how the mother left me so my parents don’t get mad that I never got an actual women

[@iartit8353]

Bless him - all the best!

[@manai7007]

Lovely families!

[@prettybrownbrown7]

This is awesome, I love this story

[@sushanthrao6160]

I choose this is the best idea was straight and who are gay? Andim 18 in future, I would used to choose to be a single father at the age of 30, because due to my emotional trauma, trauma and gender, jealous, I have a jealous on girls, I feel that why I didn’t born as a girl and I wanna be a single parent, of twins, I need to twin babies I need a girl and a boy and my mother support me because of I want to be independent parent in future. I don’t wanna get married I just wanna have babies I want to be a single independent father. Twin babies a boy and a girl. I wish that come true.❤

[@agees924]

Aww, such a sweet story! Good job!

[@Dnn411]

👍👍👍👍

[@dracogamesx]

Looks like the best option in these days of misandric laws, divorce, and crazy women

[@misakit.4110]

lmao you sound like the type of person that would go on a smbc video and tell them they're a shitty person for being one.

[@icyunvme2400]

Single mom by choice is also an option weirdo

[@1legend517]

@@icyunvme2400 He means for men, weirdo

[@diehardernxgt2161]

​@@icyunvme2400 nobody denied it, weirdo. In fact women have been doing it for decades

[@alwayszilla]

I'm 22 and I really want to adopt in the future ...just don't know the right time to dive into adoption

[@carylhalfwassen8555]

So there are no kids in foster situations to adopt in NY?

[@juliekemp9979]

Some people want their own child or a newborn and there's nothing wrong with that it's their own personal choice I guess.. But yes I wish more people would look into adoption of older children.. If u want to be a parent it shouldn't matter age of the child but thats just me I guess

[@jlemoine874]

No one adopts to single men, especially single gay men.

[@1legend517]

Believe it or not, some people want their own biological children. You know, their own flesh and blood, someone that will at least resemble them in some way.

[@DigitalFire5000]

So lucky, I want twins

[@PriscillaNamalwa]

I'm 46 years, single and want a little babygirl, where can I adopt

[@billmartins5545]

At 46 you're well past it.

[@jayfreeman5117]

@@billmartins5545 rude

[@1legend517]

@@billmartins5545 You're a bit of a jerk

[@ZackZack-ef9sx]

Can you adopt a newborn baby as a single man??

[@Brainwaave]

it is very very hard

[@truthseeker1934]

@@Brainwaave why?

[@Brainwaave]

@@truthseeker1934 lots of regulations around it and next to impossible to do so have tried that for 3 years

[@billmartins5545]

Let's hope not. Kids need two parents.

[@1legend517]

@@billmartins5545 Let people make their own choices

[@mariviccadon3064]

Hello,im from philippines

[@billmartins5545]

Did he just say he's pregnant? Lol.

[@kanegrey7697]

You’re an idiot, that’s the term people use to refer to having a baby on the way. Heterosexual men have used that term also at work. Implying “we’re pregnant” as in their partner and him. 🙄✋🏻

[@lorrainedaniels6357]

hi sweetheart l am really proud of you you are a a top guy ever doing this l really love this l am 38 year's old and l am by sexual to God bless you and be really safe from this nasty coronavirus firus this really melt's my heart in two keep your top hard work up love from lorraine Daniel's white special need's and I am autistic and l suffer from depression and anxiety to KZbin video's and I just have a rebon doll whot look's really real to l cud not have a real cute baby because I would not be able to cope with a baby or two l have smashed the big subscribed button and turned on your notification's and done a big massive big Bangor of a big fat like to 👊👊👊✌✌✌🙏🙏🙏☺😊🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤💙💙💙💚💚💚💛💛💛💜💜💜❤❤❤💙💙💙💚💚💚💛💛💛💜💜💜❤❤❤👋👋👋👊👊👊

[@m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m]

150k? That's insane... Go to Eastern Europe and you get like 10 kids with that money

[@esmeraldamiguel6887]

hi can I come there

[@doejohn6197]

Sad boys need their mothers love too 😓

[@kayoterrell3344]

Doe John Yes they do, what about the men who wants a family. But they can’t find a woman that wants to settle down with them. Most likely this will be my only option to a family in a few years , after dealing with constant rejection. Life doesn’t always work out for everyone.

[@Jojo_Kane]

@@kayoterrell3344 idk why you would have to deal with that you are handsome as hell

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Kayo Terrell sure you say that but when a mother chooses to be a single parent she gets ridiculed horribly it’s not fair! Why can’t people support BOTH single genders and not just one

[@jenniferhughes2155]

@@kayoterrell3344 When a new life is created, their rights are the most important. Every child deserves the right to know it's biological parents, to deliberately deny them the possibility of knowing half their biological heritage is cruel in the extreme and often causes the child to question their identity. Unless you are donor conceived you can't fully appreciate what it is like.

[@kayoterrell3344]

Jennifer Hughes I’m just saying I get where he’s coming from. When I’m financially stable, this will be my route to a family. I’m still young so there is time.

[@zookeeper69]

I would Never Adopt from africa. So many nations who have children but the US has so many babies ourselves including black children if that’s a persons thing.

[@billmartins5545]

Very sad, I don't think it's in the interest of children to be created to be raised by a single parent.

[@icyunvme2400]

If you haven’t heard children have no interest, they are like a blank slate.

[@icyunvme2400]

Maybe you’re just adding your own interest and opinion to the subject.

[@kanegrey7697]

@Bill Martins You’re a dumbass, this is life. There is not particular way of living it, or living to anyone’s standards. People live the way they want, he’s not the only single dad nor will he be the last. Get over it loser.

[@1legend517]

And what about those cases where one of the parents dies during the child's lifetime? Ive known a lot people who've been through that. Not everyone grows up with two parents.

[@wabisabi6983]

🤮

[@bryleicraig6658]

We should praise you for not giving your child a 2 parent household? Wack...

[@diehardernxgt2161]

Women have been doing this for years tho.