Single moms you need to hear this || STEVE HARVEY

Steve’s son-in-law, Ben Raymond, has dedicated himself to breaking the cycle of fatherless boys going down the wrong path, one family at a time. As a way to pay it forward, Ben makes a house visit to help a single mom Carrie, who is having a difficult time raising her two teenage sons.
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[@abemartinez9623]

As a son of a single mom I can understand 💯. Any young men out there if you don’t have a father figure I beg you explore the military it saved me!

[@AlexanderIsaac-e1y]

Hello beautiful 😍 how are you feeling today

[@jecinterdaizy4104]

I'm fine just requesting you that we come together and support them spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally, please we can do that

[@MrsMighty868]

there's things a woman can't teach a boy, and things a man can't teach a girl. it's sad that there are so many single parents out here that aren't getting any help. 😔

[@MrsMighty868]

qwandiddy true but then their are those who want their child to succeed but get overshadowed by those who use thier children as a check

[@jonathanfanfan6681]

Sydney Nock I along with my brother were raised by a single mom. my mom taught me to work hard & strive for my dreams. my mom taught me how to be responsible & independent. my mom also taught me how to treat a lady

[@MrsMighty868]

She is an amazing woman then -☺☺

[@rooclicknet8666]

So many single black moms. 75% of black kids born out of wedlock. I am not raising another man's child. Heck NO!

[@whooelse9444]

Roo ClickNet thats why i put the greater responsibility on the woman & thats not because im a man. Its because the woman is the decider of who she allows to enter her & also the decider of keeping the child or not.

[@jocelynRa1181]

My dad was a mentor to my three children. that is why they are good citizens today productive, respectful law-abiding. thank you dad he is not with us but his teaching is remembered.

[@ericnewman6523]

You kids father should have been there mentor.

[@dynastigabrielle7626]

@@ericnewman6523well he wasn’t! And that’s on him!

[@barbarawatkins4422]

Men who walk away from their children especially their male children don't know the damage they are doing. Lord help the male child who has no one to mentor them.

[@ashermack2543]

Luckily i didnt have to deal with that, but instead the death of my father. Idk which is worse, but either way divorce sucks

[@tonylama2012]

They should consiter giving custody to the dads because they can rase the child better. Jails are full of men raised by single moms

[@Patriotintexas]

Barbara Watkins 80% of divorce is brought on my women. Who is walking away from who?

[@whooelse9444]

Barbara Watkins and lord, give these reckless women the strength to stop spreading their legs for lowlife scumbags & instead choose a decent, responsible man to have children with.

[@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz]

I think there’s a Jezebel spirit that’s driving the man out of these black households.

[@patriciabowling4793]

Ben is doing what he is meant to do..one young man at a time..great work Steve & Ben ❤🙏❤

[@saharaseven7036]

ive been a single mum for 20 plus years and tryed to reach out to my brother to be a part of my sons lives with no joy, ive reached out to the church who have not wanted to get involved so ive soldiered on and raised my sons the best i could, telling them that they are champions and with Gods help can do anything. I still struggle to relate at times as a mum. I went to church today and they preached about how important it is to be affirmed by your parents growing up and how fatherless children dont grow up with a identity and wont understand their purpose in God due to a lack of affirmation from a Father, both my sons dont go to church but they watch me live a godly lifestyle. I came back from church feeling broken in my spirit because i knew both my grown sons never had the affirmation and now they are in thier 20,s its so hard being a godly single mum at times?

[@JohnDoe-fm6md]

Unless your a widow (which you didn’t imply) you’re the problem. There’s nothing godly about multiple children and no father.

[@beeagey7506]

I totally know what you're feeling my sister. Same script here. It hurts so bad.

[@beckypetra9505]

Being a single mom is like some words dont come easy.For me Im a single mom to two sons.their Dad died 9yrs ago when they were still toddlers and I dont have a job.My parents seperated and I grew up with my dad.But my dad died after my husband and we have no one to lean on. In my country, we women are classified as nobody.especialy when our husband dies they can easily turn around and chase us out of our land.It is a long story ofcourse but to cut it short I just left them with my small brother who is attending college this year and I came to the main city which we only trevel by plane to find a living for the sake of my children.now its allmost a month and two weeks and I feel my heart is tearing into peices💔 but I allways Pray to find peace and strenght. If you are a christian reading this please support me in prayer.May God bless your heart.From Papua New Guinea🙏

[@ogarroseline3728]

God will surely see you through mama

[@luckyacio]

It's not easy at all but God will see you through.

[@platinumwealth5283]

Steve I agree. Sons do need their father/male figures in their life. However, the next show should reflect "STOP BEING DEAD-BEAT DADS. LEAVING THE MOTHERS TO RAISE THE CHILD(REN) BY THEMSELVES!!!!" That's a MILLION DOLLAR show. #realconversations

[@KNETWORK100]

Or how about secure the ring before u open your legs. Much more easier for a man to run out on you if you're not married to him. When that coochie itching and you want to have sex out of wedlock, what do you expect? Where in the world do children come before marriage? I'll tell you, in the black community. Women's are the gatekeeper of sex so if you're opening your legs to someone who hasn't fully committed then who was really to blame?

[@edumaros25]

@@KNETWORK100 How about they use pregnancy PREVENTION? OR DON'T HAVE SEX AT ALL? Imagine how life turn out to be?

[@HannahhhRoseee]

El Ruiz how about we tell men to stop having sex too? Telling men to keep their legs closed until marriage is out the question yet people are quick to tell a woman to.

[@edumaros25]

@@HannahhhRoseee That's a reason the condom exist. OR take the pill. Something you don't understand here. You girls decide who are you gonna sleep with. Not us guy. We cannot make that decision.

[@HannahhhRoseee]

El Ruiz birth control doesn’t always work my friend. My only point is yes women should be catious about who they have sex with they should do their best to use pregnancy prevention methods and all of that. But you can do all of that right and still end up pregnant. So instead of blaming women both the woman and the man should be addressed since it takes two to tango

[@Christina-rq3ed]

Viewing this video today for the first time.

[@lil6247]

This should be captioned “Fathers need to hear this!” Men, you all need to hold each other accountable for leaving us single moms to raise these children on their own. I know there are single moms who make it impossible, but that’s a different children. Men get away with too much!

[@SirPorter]

We also need women to be more accountable for who they lay down and have kids with. Both the men (who leave) and the women (who grant access to sex) are at fault.

[@luisr8722]

I love how your blaming men. When it’s women leaving marriages by a higher margin. Also how many women keep having kids out of wedlock by men they know are no good. I know you will say it take two to tango but if your the gatekeeper it’s your responsibility on who you have sex with and who you let deposit their seed.

[@johnmoore4714]

Yet you blame deflecting responsibility from the woman. Marry before you carry. You are the perfect example of delusional female. YOU JUST DON'T GET. YOU COMPLETELY OBSOLVED THE FEMALE OF CULPABILITY. WOMEN CONTROL ACCESS TO SEX. NO CONDOM. NO SEX. NOPE YOU LAY DOWN WITH POOKIE AND RAY RAY. THEN YOU GO A TALK SHOW COMPLAINING ABOUT HIM BEING NO GOOD. #MAKEITMAKESENSE

[@GFMZay97]

My mother is the perfect example my mom became a single mom at 19 yrs old but watch this she grew up with my grandmother and grandfather who were both married and raised her to be better than that but my mother wanted to be at the club all the time and run wit her lil box in heat and she ended up meeting a failing street dude wit 7 baby mommas & was willing to be the 8th 1 my mom told me b4 she died " i had to have him he was lightskin wit cornrows and just handsome" so alot of yall seclude yall selves to these types of men knowing they have nothing to offer its not always men but i guess ill be a billionare b4 i hear a women hold herself accountable 😂😂😂😂

[@Derlet30]

I agree with your post 100%. Men need to hear this, *especially* if they have sons

[@TanyaEJ]

Steve Harvey should do a Daddyless Daughter series too....

[@ubongambrose4066]

Even some Daddyless daughters are complaining how their mom didn't raise them well. Many single mothers care nothing about the values they instill in the children, which is why the cycle continues. Some would leave a man today, tomorrow they are with another diff man, next tomorrow another,... multiple baby daddies, making young girls to think that's normal.

[@AmeTautsagae]

I was raised by a single parent and still am, ended up writing and publishing a book titled "MY STORY OUR STORY" about a young girl questioning the realities of being raise without her father present it is my story and also a story of all kids around going through a similar situation, in this journey we need to be tenacious, courageous and resilient. #buildingresilientus #SteveTVShow #SteveHarvey

[@suman3316]

A Child Needs both Mother and Father to Complete Him/ her.....It Breaks my Heart for Those Single parenting child.. 🙏

[@silviyapetrova7953]

I am not scared of being a single mother financially, but my son suffering and missing his dad. That kills me ! The dad is drug addict so is not this way is not the other way either. Don’t know which way to go. My son is also very very extremely emotional and I don’t. Know what to do he is only 6 with a very big heart full of love !

[@MarwaB1]

Is this an issue that only apply to single parents? What about people in a same sex relationship with kids, how do they deal with this issue? I´m just curious.

[@menishiaholden4787]

In this day and age I believe that what a lot of women struggle with is choosing the right person for our sons to immolate. It is not that we don’t realize that we don’t have the tools but we live in a society where 90% of abuse in this country comes from the hands of someone that not related to the child. So that means it could be the paster, the football coach the deacon the new boyfriend/husband. We fear that bringing someone in that could hurt them could be more detrimental the not having someone to emulate .

[@omadjourney]

need to consider looking for a mentor as my little man is ten..#lifestruggles

[@HaydeeNunez]

Thembysyleh Phillip same.

[@alexandria4401]

Thembysyleh Phillip put him in a sport or club

[@omadjourney]

Yes thank you I definitely will look into sports.

[@alexandria4401]

Thembysyleh Phillip yeah my brothers got their best "uncles" "mentors" from there... been playing since 4 and both of them got full rides to college. And al those men were still there at graduation and everything

[@jillenenelson1807]

Thembysyleh Phillip .....Try Big Brothers and Sister Program also. Also, try a trustworthy Pastor. Youth leadership programs.

[@jacquelineperry4790]

I raised a son and there are things they need to learn from a man but it has to be from a man that wants to be in there lives if not he has to learn from mom unless she has a male relative or something willing to help.my son turnt how right I didn’t have him in the makeup and in same room with me when I’m dressing and so forth and he turnt out okay but for the men that moms are givin there boys to much access to womanhood it may be a problem raising them

[@xo7499]

single moms? this should be pointed towards ones who are childless and dating horrible men who would abandon them once they are pregnant you can "warn" them after the fact

[@JK20239]

100% truth.

[@xTROLLINGx]

Because you scared him away with your weaponized child support. Y'all just want to take everything from a guy, his money, his kids, even his semen y'all take. This why every man need to go #mgtow

[@MrShaneVicious]

her body , her choice

[@Intu11110]

@IceMan24 true dat

[@whensheaskswhatarewenow2280]

I have no dad but I never luckily experience this

[@sheadiggs9355]

Single moms heart this

[@GailBecker-MSED-CM-Author]

My cousin and I are building a conglomerate to help indigent families, veterans, struggling artists, and single parents. I would love to present it to you.

[@Lol-hm3su]

😢

[@randomvids3218]

U can't make a dad be worth a damn. Single moms out there don't let this add to ur sorrows be the BEST Mom U can be then let go, and let GOD. HE will provide the lessons for ur boy, promise.

[@annetteroberts4009]

Son's need a good male role model in there lives.

[@emilygrace5145]

Damn. Never expected my son to be fatherless by age 4 . what do I do when he was so close to his father who has now passed on? I'll never replace his dad . statistics say I will lose ... I see only good things in my son. Im not enough of a role model he deserves more but I refuse to let anyone around him and I . is that bad?

[@userunavailable1505]

Teach him right from wrong and how to be respectful, he will grow up just fine. Just don't push feminism on him.

[@BitterPeachh]

@@userunavailable1505 But she can not teach him how to be a man.

[@userunavailable1505]

@@BitterPeachh I didn't grow up with a mother or farther and I turned out completely fine. KZbin was my parent. Everything I learned was from KZbin. You don't even have to go to College anymore. KZbin can literally teach you how to fly a helicopter.

[@queenprincess4life]

Get remarried. There are a billion men in the world that will love you and your son unconditionally. Manifest the man you want in your life…follow Neville Goddard’s POWER of AWARENESS teachings and you can get the man you want.

[@teresalockwood480]

Remarried:just didn’t happen for me ,never found anyone good enough for me let alone my kids.Had to just get on with it ….life just ain’t that simple

[@alexcanguyen7521]

Then what should we do? We do everything to be with men who are abusive? Will it be better for the kids?

[@AlexanderIsaac-e1y]

Hello beautiful 😍 how are you feeling today

[@jivepatrol6833]

Quit running the streets young women and stay home and study! Save yourself for a good man! Father's day is very confusing for young men and women born out of wedlock!

[@blessedmommyof5womanoffait224]

Steve it's real what advice do you have I'm a single mother I have five son's they have grown up to be men ..I know there are things they are missing because a woman and they are men ..But even though 3 are 18,19 and 22 I been raising them the last 6 years almost 7 on my own all they knew was my husband of 17 years there dad but he left us and I have feared to get another man or date because some of the things my husband their dad did and put me through but I kn ow they need and may have ?? Because lack of relationship with their dad he haven't seen them for 6 years and I never stopped him there is no excuse for him to reach out but I just want the best for them all in life..what would be your advice it's been the grace of God helping me raise them.

[@AppleofHisEye23]

Your answer to your question is already answered in your own words. You said "the grace of Gd helping me". And the Lord will help you always long as you seek His guidance He will never abandon you. Stay strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. The Lord may have someone for you but it may not be the right time yet. For now enjoy being a single mom, if you still are, and your relationship with God will be even stronger because you have more time for Him.

[@mpa8336]

The Fatherlessness project has pages and pages of statistics, describing the EXTREME DISADVANTAGES of growing up in single parent families. Even the book Hillbilly Elegy discusses this. The best single predictor of going to jail is... growing up in a single parent household. Those who grow up in single parent households commit suicide at a much higher rate. I wish you well, in your quest.

[@masterful7574]

Emulate not immolate

[@truestkiss3699]

Listen this briefs well but how do you get a father figure when we can’t trust just anyone with our sons. He didn’t get to the root

[@PRINCESSLUV22]

My son had a man that was willing to do everything his father wasnt yet he rejected the the guidance, love, discipline etc. Instead he chose to listen to his peers steal a BB gun from a store take it to school try and cause mass hysteria, get get out and says we made a big deal out of nothing.. My brother was arrested for disciplining him I was under investigation, we were homeless and he just kept on and on with the foolishness. He still tries to intimidate, manipulate, blame others for his actions, liesssssssssssssssssssssssssss, stealssssssssssssssssssss and liesssssssssssss some more, claims he is a blood gang member it just never ends and no1 will help me so forgive me if I have no sympathy for foolishness. I didnt have a father but when he was there he was physically abusive to my mother and us. There are sooooo many single moms out here being handled by sons everyday and who in the world helps us! I know that Steve cant help us all but when you go from place to place begging for help what do you do next? These boys talk a good game but I find it difficult to believe anything coming from thier mouth.

[@ashermack2543]

PRINCESSLUV22 i know how hard that must be. Being a single parent sucks. My mom would say the same. Our dad died 7 yrs ago and we still havent gotten a new dad. I would reccomend going to the best dang church in town and seeking help there. Because as christians we care about community. Im sure if the people there arent jerks they would be happy to help you. I also would reccomend outting your son in youthgroup, or seeking council elsewhere. Hope this helps!! PS. I know im some random guy on the internet. But please trust me. God will do wonders for your family. And at times it may seem tough, but if you put your fwith in him he will bless you.

[@Keepit-sk2fh]

PRINCESSLUV22 no one forced you to have that child it was your body your choice right 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@menaretheprize2673]

PRINCESSLUV22 ma’am you just have to deal with that your body, your choice and your son

[@fireinjunred]

That’s your fault, you shoulda broke the cycle now it’s generational toxicity which is common unfortunately in the black community...you already admitted a red flag an abusive father women so used to fuckery & dysfunctional when a genuine guy comes along y’all look for ways to sabotage it & don’t believe it

[@arthursalas8010]

This must be why his show was canceled

[@rawiron184]

What you get chasing the “bad boyz”.

[@johnathanabrams8434]

Raw sex feels wayyyyyyy too good to worry about what's to come after it

[@Pockets96]

so you sued your wife and left your wife without any reason to go with someone else? i dont think you can teach anyone how to be a man

[@runningformylife383]

William Franco Okay. I understand you, but if we go by that rule, nobody and can teach anybody anything. What better way to teach someone than through experience? My parents were not perfect and made mistakes but I would never say then can't teach anyone anything. We are all "human". Experience can be the best teacher.

[@Pockets96]

you are right but theres a limit. he's done it multiple times at what point do you say i should change the way i think and and the things i do. he got a restraining order on her to not come near THEIR own child. What father takes their son away form their own mother?

[@Pockets96]

he is also suing her . she was left without money and he is still suing her what is he gaining he has a new wife and all the money. you cant teach what you dont know and im sorry but he is not a man at all no man and no human would destroy someones life and be the one to give other advice

[@runningformylife383]

William Franco I understand you. I really do. And I'm not saying that I don't have questions too. I just wasn't there. I not glorifying Steve Harvey. I'm not. He is not my God, but whether someone is wrong or not should not shut them down from helping someone else. Im speaking more from forgiveness. I can give you experience after another how people have brutally wronged me, but I forgave and resleased them. Some I still talk to and some I choose not to converse with. But here's the thing. I am not God. He forgives. He can take a person and change them, whether we still like them or not. Whether they were wrong or not. And that's why I love God. He is not like us, because if He was like me, no one would have a second change. Hey. I have done things in my past that I am not proud of.

[@TheFruitney]

God can use anyone to get his message across be it a good or evil person, man or woman or child. It doesn't matter who the messenger is. The message still rings true. A single mother cannot teach her young son how to be a man just like I cannot teach my young daughter how to be a lady. I not a woman. I don't menstruate, I can't give birth. I don't have high levels of estrogen. This is why parents, even if you are not together, need to work together to raise their children. It takes two plus a village to raise a child.

[@nolimitjojo8500]

we global #thatsmyniggaJalen

[@tstokes3921]

pfff Steve Harvey. who gave him authority and expert status about life. Who raised Jesus and countless others. I raised two on my own and they're quit well rounded. BOTH in college. It's about environment. I left Chicago when they were 7 & 8 now they're 18/19. Steve Harvey need to stop with socio-economic advice and stick to telling jokes. Hell we all need a good laugh right now #quack

[@TeeChrisam]

T Stokes I think you are misunderstanding what Steve is trying to do here. There are things that you cannot teach a child of the opposite sex. For example, a man cannot teach his daughter how to go through menstruation properly. I don't care who he is, he cannot teach his daughter the proper hygiene and some other things associated with it. This is what Steve is saying. A woman cannot teach a man how to be a man because it is not in her DNA and vice versa. Your boys have fared well. That's absolutely amazing and commendable. But I guarantee you that if you ask them, they have a male figure they emulate and look up to. It doesn't have to be a grown male. it could be one of their friends which is not always good. This is why Steve always advises to have a positive role model for boys with a single mother. And by the way, Jesus was raised by Joseph his foster father. We see a an example when Jesus remained in the temple preaching and teaching after he was left behind by the family. The Bible specifically says that Mary and Joseph were looking for Him. Look it up.

[@Hillargh]

A man can teach puberty just fine if he's educated on the matter. Or are male gynecologists inadequate? Drop the bull. Next.

[@TheFruitney]

Tee Christensen is right. I was raised by a single mother and turned out fine. BUT there were things I developed late because my father wasn't around. Things that he needed to be around for. Things that my mother couldn't properly rely to me because she doesn't have a penis. I also have a daughter and there are things that I know, I cant teach her about that belong to her mothers dept and that's ok.

[@TeeChrisam]

Hillary Clayton how many male gynecologist do you have laying around to do the teaching? And even if you do, have you thought about how awkward it will be for this child when 2 males, daddy and doctor are the ones talking to her about her period? Do you remember how you felt when you first got your period? Did you want a man telling you how to handle yourself in that time of your life? You know the answer is no. Teaching someone something is not always about the knowledge being dispensed. It is also about the comfort and ease you feel with the person doing the teaching. Please be truthful to yourself and call things the way it should be called.

[@SammySam316]

I read an article on line where the successful millionaire was giving credit to KZbin for teaching him things that his father should have taught him. He said KZbin taught me to tie my bow tie, KZbin taught me to change a tire, KZbin gave me manly advice. KZbin was my father. You get my drift? Being successful does NOT mean that you are well rounded. There are somethings that only a father can do and you were not that. I know because I am well rounded, finished college etc. and many compliment me on my achievements and I still feel a void about not having my father around.

[@93remix]

when BLACK GIRLS STOP CHOOSING THE WRONG BOYS the situation will get better. but when BLACK WOMEN CHOOSE THE RIGHT BLACK MEN a good family will be created.

[@93remix]

twistedblktrekie uh huh and this PROVED MY POINT... you're talking DOLLAR AMOUNTS(in most of your response), i'm talking about finding a caring and loving MAN, instead of BLACK GIRLS FINDING THESE BLACK BOYS THAT ARE TRICK PONYS WITH SWAG. create a foundation of LOVE, FAITH, TRUST AND UNDERSTANDING & the rest will follow

[@93remix]

twistedblktrekie ok, on the FINANCIAL aspect u are correct. BUT BEFORE THAT EVEN HAPPENS YOU NEED A FOUNDATION OF LOVE. TRUST. FAITH. UNDERSTANDING. and the rest will FOLLOW. LOVE SHOULD STAND TALLER THAN MONEY AND REAL ESTATE. cause if u lose it all, hopefully you'll have THE 1 WHO'LL STAND BESIDE U IF YOU DO LOSE IT ALL.

[@93remix]

twistedblktrekie ummmm, you're jumping all around what it means to be in a $UCCE$$FUL RELATIONSHIP, I'M NOT BUYING into your ideology. how can u feel you wanna PROTECT AND PROVIDE... IF THERE'S NO LOVE??! LOL! we're gonna agree to DISAGREE, sooooo... I've got nothing more to say.

[@93remix]

twistedblktrekie so all you're saying is MAKE $URE THE BLACK DUDE HAS MONEY BEFORE U GET WITH HIM?? LOL!! what a $HAME. IT'$ ALL ABOUT THE MONEY WITH U.

[@prncessbaby16]

i mean....there are other races for us to date.....white guys love us and so do middle eastern men, based off my own experiences.

[@thaurbanthinker543]

This is where the "i dont need a man mentality" leads too

[@MrShaneVicious]

Say no to single mothers. #MGTOW #SYSBM

[@ronaldjohnson3717]

So not only did you make bad decisions by having these boys without a stable man in the home now it's ok to find someone who isn't responsible for the life or wellbeing of the child....so they can dedicate time, resources and knowledge to a child that isn't theirs. Ladies a man that's worth anything is not going to waist his time raising another man's child or children🤷‍♂️.

[@erinoshun9331]

You sound so stupid

[@grandcanyon2]

even a dusty fella won't mentor random children. these black folks are insane.

[@ChanelCoco-pk7mp]

If that was the case, there wouldn’t be so many men and women marrying single parents, now then, would there? Plus it’s WASTE, not WAIST. A waist is a body part, whereas waste is what you did with the time you spent at school during English class 😒

[@ronaldjohnson3717]

@ChanelCoco-pk7mp you must fall into the category that we're speaking of. It's OK you'll find someone for your pookie's. Nobody is looking for single mothers so stop that lie.

[@grandcanyon2]

@@ronaldjohnson3717 believe it or not it shows single mothers have 8x less chance of getting married compared to single childless women, and a 5x less chance of marriage when compared to divorced women.

[@SilentKN9]

3rd to commit

[@awhi3765]

Makes you wonder why then Steve would leave his kids to go and raise another man’s kids. Pick where you get your wisdom or you stay dumb.

[@1truestmama]

Or maybe men should step in so that I t’s not any single moms. Some women have husbands but are still raising their sons alone. No little girl says she wants to grow up to be a single mother.

[@littlelizzymamaliz]

I will never watch anything with this midgynist man's name on it.

[@Izaiahdokpa]

Why ain't she choose right first

[@grandcanyon2]

because its a mating tactic,