Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence (Part 1) - Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors (her “Mommy Club”). She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda described her challenges of raising son Brandon, who has epilepsy, as well as her son Tony, whom the Stoppes informally “fostered” for several years. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.
Get Rhonda's book, Moms Raising Sons to Be Men: bit.ly/3bDSLZh
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[@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123]

I tried my best in raising my kids, I was young, isolated many miles away from my family, a new Christian, abusive husband........I want a redo but that’s not an option, I can only pray for healing of the past !

[@DraGnFly007]

God's gift to our children is when our children turn out well regardless of our many mistakes. Never stop praying for your children. It doesn't end when they grow up.💗

[@natashariley4315]

Praying strength from our Lord will fill you with peace. I can relate to your struggle. Jesus wants you to know he intercedes in prayer for you and your family. Keep praying

[@lovingblackmamassafespace2388]

I’m sitting in the hospital with my young son and listening to this. This is blessing me. Thank you

[@dasowle89]

With my son I use the Stop what you are doing (if possible)...Look at the person and give them your full attention...and listen to understand method. This goes both for him and I when I am speaking or correcting him or if is speaking to me. It has helped us gain respect in our mom and son relationship.

[@elizabethvasquez9540]

I love listening and learning from Rhonda’s life’s experience with her sons. Does she have another book for daughters? I am not a Mom but an Aunt of two beautiful little girls but the youngest at times can be very challenging. She’s six and sometimes has a very temperamental spirit and can be impatient to communicate when she is challenged by even small things. If her effort to join class from her computer if it doesn’t allow her to enter class for a technical reason she loses her collective spirit and stomps away and displays giving up and won’t listen to calm reasoning. I am a point of how do I communicate effectively to have her to be patient and try to be calm and resourceful? Your recommendations are most welcome! Thank you! Elizabeth

[@focusonthefamily]

Thanks so much for your message, Elizabeth. Rhonda doesn't have a similar book on raising girls, but we do have some other resources you might consider: bddy.me/2MrJOK8, bddy.me/3kuPMqq, bddy.me/2ZTGQkO. One of our counselors may also be able to offer some insight on effective communication with your niece. If you'd like to arrange a free consultation, please feel free to call us at 800-A-FAMILY (800-232-6459). God bless you!

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Yes @KoKoDaVelle I am so glad you grabbed this nugget from the interview. Eye contact is key to building respect in the mother/son relationship!

[@debramillion5782]

I was a single Mom of 2 boys for many years, but went through 4 failed marriages. I was strict on my 2 sons, but thankfully had a wonderful Mother and step-Dad, who helped me so much. Today my sons are 46 and 47. They've been married to their only wives for over 20 yrs now. At first I felt abandoned when they both joined the Army after High School and then married. Sometimes, I no longer feel like a mother, because they don't need me much anymore. In fact, my youngest hasn't spoken or contacted me for 2 yrs now, because of politics and I'm a Christian. But I still love them both and pray for them daily. I'm proud of the men they grew up to be and thankful because I know they will be saved someday. My oldest is a believer but not practicing. My youngest claims he's agnostic. The devil is a liar and I'm believing and praying for them because I gave them to the Lord many yrs ago. He will make a way.

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

I'm praying the Lord draws both of your sons to a wholehearted devotion to Jesus.

[@NadiaAlyse]

This is awesome. Thank you so much for this 🙏🏽 Would you all please do one on raising BLACK men in this country? It is such a beautiful and scary experience and a little guidance would be appreciated ♥️

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

@naido_Loo Thank you so much for your comment. And yes, I absolutely agree that a book/show for mothers raising BLACK men in this country would be a wonderful and valuable resource.

[@NadiaAlyse]

@@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman thank you 🙏🏽♥️

[@didunsmuir2821]

I relate to your experience with your son, Brandon. My son has epilepsy and had the same struggles with personality change and medications when he was a teenager. It took me a long time to understand God's will in raising as well.

[@HotMessCarnivore42]

I relate so much to everything they said! I'm a mom of five boys and one girl. The boys all came first. I'm here to tell you that boys and girls are very different! My boys are rough and tumble, plays with trucks, trains and Legos. Favorite colors are gold, green, blue and red My daughter plays with dollies, little figurines, barbie who's favorite colors are pink and purple. The boys are loud and my girl is quiet but says so much! It's been an incredible experience!

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Hi Christy. Isn't it amazing to be able to raise both sons and daughters? I loved your perspective from your own experience. Praise the Lord!

[@tumimathebula7752]

I so needed this. I recently watched an episode by Iyanla and she said mom's make male children who they are because they control the heart. I've been thinking about that statement since

[@iamwhoyousayiam6773]

Thank you for this

[@Aprilflowers122]

I recently found out I am having a boy. I don't know why but i'm so worried about how to raise a son I just hope I am the best mother I can be to him.

[@231natasha]

How's it going?

[@AJLORACLE]

It’s all great my son and I were like best friends……. Until he started puberty, it broke my heart he changed overnight, he didn’t want hugs or to spend time with me etc After some research I discovered it’s all natural for them to detach in order to become a man. All I can say is teach him to respect you! Don’t do everything for him, raise the kind of guy who is a well rounded human who can look after themself.

[@kristinalewis9404]

Thank you so much for sharing. I've slowly been realizing the power that moms, especially veteran moms, have in helping me raise my children. Thank you for sharing your stories. I would love to read your book!!!

[@dannie1975]

Thank you Rhonda I need all the advice I can get and guidance from the gospel and Holy Spirit I am a single mum to a 2 year old God is stepping in as his father amen.

[@Listentomusicist]

Powerful, amen 😊

[@Kim-mq4om]

Thank you focus on the family for bringing Rhonda Stoppe onto your show. She is a blessing to mother's.

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Thank you Kim for your kind and encouraging words

[@carlalopez7796]

You spoke to my exact situation....my son has been having seizure activity for the last five year and i have experience all these emotions as i continue to pray for my son's healing....My heart desire to trust Him completely in the wilderness moments

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Carla thank you for this comment. I am so glad you were able to listen to this episode where I shared the story of my son's seizure activity. I know you made this comment a year ago, but I felt led to respond and encourage your Momma heart. I'm praying your son's seizures are in control.

[@mariatauveve4055]

I love everything she talked about and said.💗😊🙏

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Thank you Maria I appreciate your taking the time to encourage me with this comment. ❤️

[@janetbarlin7805]

Yes, I agree, Rhonda you are such a beautiful lady, inside and out. I appreciate your sincerity. What a truly wonderful pastor's wife, mum and grandmother. (You look far too young to be a grandmother......)Thank you also for the awesome story re the Prodigal.

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

@@janetbarlin7805 Thank you for your encouraging words. Praise the Lord!

[@sheilasmith9259]

Loved this!

[@Caramelady]

Thank you 😔

[@silvia5568]

Beautiful bless Lord this women

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Thank you Silvia Praise the Lord!

[@nyamburamunga277]

Wow, love this

[@lisapratt97]

This really blessed heart. Thank you! ♥️

[@trisha4given]

Great content!!♡

[@MonicaRCamacho]

Thank you so much for speaking life. I trust and believe my prodigal son will return to Christ.

[@lizetaguilera6621]

wow thank you for your words of wisdom. we need more of this

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Praise the Lord. I'm so blessed by your encouragement. Thank you!

[@chelseerotter3795]

Love this so much!!!

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

❤️

[@mostreal907]

Wow. The amount of wisdom here is incredible.

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

This Beautiful Crazy Life, thank you so much for your kind and encouraging comment. Praise the Lord for His wisdom and guidance without which I'm pretty sure I would have ruined my kids. ❤😊

[@otiliagreab4485]

Wow !! Awesome advice! Thank you!!!

[@dy1422]

I have 3 sons and MY mom doesn't get me... LOVE my sons A TON!!!! I'm surprised they survived me... :-)

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

By God's grace, right? So thankful He can take our little in parenting and make it much in our kid's lives.

[@rachelsalex]

Powerful image Moses standing arm raised 🙌

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Yes, isn't that an amazing thing to consider how our prayers for our children are similar to Moses' prayers for Joshua and the children of Israel as they fought their battles?

[@romikaprasad281]

thank you for sharing your experience

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Romka thank you for taking time to encourage me with your comment.

[@mamabear4432]

I’m 20 years old and expecting a boy within the next month or so. This video was full of such encouragement and information, thank you 🙏🏻

[@ginabirkenhauer5482]

Love

[@TLmomofZAHS]

How to become a no regrets woman?

[@mamellomphahlele6965]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lucymuzungu7258]

Thank you for sharing.

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

Thank you for listening and taking the time to comment!

[@annmihut665]

how many moms with "just girls" are waching this??? lol....mom of 3 young wonderful girls ;)

[@annmihut665]

I'm going to look soon for the one about girls:)

[@RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman]

And moms raising girls to be women are so thankful that there are moms raising sons to be men who are taking to heart these insights to raise up godly men, and husbands to marry their daughters.

[@youtubeaccount1441]

Will you ever make a video on non religious reasons against suicide? If you do it can reach a larger audience.

[@carolinemorrison7599]

Can someone help ne

[@poppylove3673]

How are you Caroline? I don’t know if there’s anything I can do to help, but if you’d like to connect and talk let me know. I see you left your comment here a few months ago, so I hope you see this and know I care.

[@focusonthefamily]

We’re really sorry that it’s taken us awhile to get back to you, Caroline. Please feel free to give us a call at 1/800-A-FAMILY, or email us at [e-mail]. Mention that we asked you to get in touch after seeing your post on KZbin. We'll be happy to help you in any way we can. Grace and peace to you!

[@jonellmagicbroompitts2926]

You ok?

[@mmyabaki]

Beautiful winkers ❤