sir, you're not nice, you're creepy

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[@presentlycrescent]

I’m adding “have the day you deserve” to my lexicon because that could mean *anything*

[@awfuldynne]

"I hope your day is as pleasant as you are!" [customer service smile]

[@presentlycrescent]

@@awfuldynne THIS IS GENIUS THANK YOU

[@AnnekeOosterink]

I use it sometimes, and people either love it because I used it in a funny context, or they get really angry because I said it after calling them out for being bigots. And they don't see the irony of basically agreeing with me. Like, my dude, I said "the day you deserve" I guess you agree with me that your behaviour is bad and you deserve a bad day then?

[@Nerobyrne]

Yeah, there's no way that could insult me, because I think I only deserve great days ❤ In think bad people will take offense though, which kinda makes it the best insult 😊

[@latte754]

you can literally say it to anyone and it’s accurate I love it

[@brennatato]

“Nice” guys will forever haunt me. It concerns me how many of these men will quickly go from “nice” to insulting or even threatening in a heartbeat. Happy to know most of these men will always be alone at least.

[@rainbowbolt272]

Catra pfp based

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

Amd they can't see why their singles it a case where it all self enfliceted and they blame others for it

[@strudelh]

I feel like nice guys and pick me’s should date, saves most normal people the trouble lol

[@catrakitten]

@brennatato Cute Catra profile. She's one of my favorite characters. 😼

[@Peach27219]

Adora deserved better ):

[@jmc1186]

Home girl slapped him with the "have the day you deserve" lmaooooo she is too powerful.

[@TheWitchoftheWaste]

I envy the precision and grace she handled it with cause I know that hurt when he read it😂

[@jmc1186]

@TheWitchoftheWaste that was my thought too were OUCH haha well deserved and well played!

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

​@jmc1186 yup she was too sly for him😂 lol such a smart way to deal with a person like that. Also women can also be as manipulating as men to catch a lay

[@lilhedgehog8576]

7:52 The bar is so low Satans hanging his laundry on it.

[@august6760]

The bar is so low it’s a tripping hazard in hell. Yet here they are, limbo dancing with the devil.

[@myaren0101]

I love this, or he plays limbo with it

[@duquesagammer]

​@@august6760 your comment got me cackling 😂 help

[@JankoWalski-hz3lu]

The bar for men is so low it's a tavern in Hades

[@Wendythefroggy]

Remember kids. The number of arms that you have doesn’t affect you dating life but the number of brain cells does!

[@ErutaniaRose]

We crave wrinkly brains, not smooth ones. :)

[@emilyjohn2034]

@@ErutaniaRose crave was a bad word choice now you sound like a picky zombie 😂😂😂

[@ErutaniaRose]

Nooooooooooooooo! lol@@emilyjohn2034

[@jacktadash]

Tell that to Johnny Twelve Arms. He hasn't got any arms and it's really awkward.

[@deprezzed_chimkenn]

Hey man if you've got xtra arms all I'm saying is👀👀

[@Toaster_Draws]

I think it's so damn funny when "nice guys" call women whores when women reject them. Isn't that the opposite? Also- that isn't nice, it's pretty rude.

[@suspiciousstar7547]

So right!

[@AnnekeOosterink]

Yeah, they call themselves nice so often, they forget that 1. Being nice is the bare minimum of being a decent human being. 2. Nice isn't special or amazing, because it is the bare minimum, nice is a given. What other qualities do they have besides being nice? Anything? 3. They aren't actually nice. "I am SO NICE" screams the man while calling the woman he wants to date a b-word to her face because she dares to want to plan a date on a different day than he wanted. "I AM NICE ACTUALLY" says the guy saying all women are slnts for not wanting to date him. So nice. It's very "you keep using that word, I don't think it means what you think it means"

[@awfuldynne]

@@AnnekeOosterink I'm wondering if they're consciously lying when they call themselves "nice"-as if women won't spot that their actions don't match their words-or if they think only requiring a whiff of inconvenience before lashing out with verbal abuse is normal and/or acceptable, and therefore doesn't contradict their claim to be "nice". It could also be the double standards of the entitled: "I was nice to you (showed you basic civility*) but you weren't nice to me (giving me everything I wanted) so obviously the social contract is BULL$H!T" *several of them don't successfully demonstrate this level of "nice" while they're ostensibly attempting to charm someone.

[@ChrissaTodd]

@@awfuldynne no they legit think that are nice, they just think women like assholes when in reality they like confidence,' and these men are not confident and have no idea what women want. they claim women would rather be "abused by chads" when they'd be the abusive ones if in a relationship.

[@Carriesue1982]

@@terrencelee9366Yeahhhhh.. you’re the type of guy we’re talking about in these videos. Re-read the nonsense you just spouted

[@CalvinChikelue]

“You’re not even pretty!” Is such a classic especially in the context of dating apps. It’s like dude the fact that you messaged her in the first place has given your game away. It’s just such a pathetic attempt to save face

[@AnnekeOosterink]

It doesn't even save face, it just makes them look more ridiculous and transparently a-holish (and very very dumb because they don't even get that).

[@mellow_mallow]

Just a peak example of sour grapes lol

[@ashleyb1949]

That one or the classic “Yeah well you’re fat anyway” it’s like, is that an insult? Dude I know I’m fat this isn’t new info 😂

[@kitsunethefoxdragon6500]

@@ashleyb1949I got this one after a rejected a guy’s kisses 💀

[@AmazingAutist]

Sour grapes

[@DeuxMilleVingtQuatre]

Average nice guy convo: Nice guy: "Wanna go on a date?" Girl: "No thank you" Nice guy: "C'mon, you're gorgeous, let me take you out" Girl: "Thank you, but I don't want to" Nice guy: "But I'm a nice guy" Girl: "Sorry, I have a boyfriend" Nice guy: Wikipedia ➡️ Category:English profanity

[@07Flash11MRC]

Yes, but as the object of interest (sad pun intended) to the Nice Guy™ you're lucky if they "only" assault you verbally. Often times these men also threaten their victims with physical of financial violence.

[@DeuxMilleVingtQuatre]

@@07Flash11MRC Yes that's true unfortunately.

[@akihidebontaro3184]

Don't forget the "you're not even that pretty" after calling you pretty

[@toniotrussardi8126]

@@07Flash11MRC these things dont deserve the title of men

[@07Flash11MRC]

@@toniotrussardi8126 @toniotrussardi : Nobody cares about titles as they don't change anything. You saying they aren't men is just shifting the problem away from the reality that men (and boys) are to this day socialized differently fro women (and girls), which is inherently problematic because boys are taught that other boys are individuals too and that "boys will be boys", but girls and even adult women are just objects who are lesser than. That's how we end up with a society with violent boys and men who cannot accept that girls and women have free will and aren't there to please the men.

[@FrizzKid05]

"If you have pronouns..." Everyone is disqualified.

[@Bree_999]

Guys on tinder literally swipe right on every profile until they hit the limit. I've asked several guys why they swiped right on me and that was their answers

[@duqial]

And they have the audacity to call women w*ores. These men are w*ores...

[@Zectifin]

as a guy who has previously tried dating apps, I really don't understand why they do that. it makes no sense. why would you want to waste time talking to someone you weren't attracted to or you didn't like what they had to say. I have more important things to do with my time.

[@Magic_Skeleton]

​@Zectifin my best guess is ... laziness? Like they put the burden of critical thought on the women by writing bios like "no fat chicks" so they can swipe blindly and let the women they don't like (self-respecting women) filter themselves out. Obviously, they don't get any matches with that attitude, so I guess they just like speedrunning being rejected by as many women as possible?

[@carmelcutie1991]

​@@Zectifinso it might be a little vain but every few month I'll do that. Swipe on every type of person. And it's eye opening because it shows what type of person is attracted to me... Which is... Disheartening. Because I'm either actually ugly... Or the dudes that match with me are very over confident. Like most of my matches are morbidly obese men... I'm 5'7 170 pounds goes to the gym and does kickboxing...

[@ishkapiska4516]

@@carmelcutie1991or what if these men have good taste and think you’re attractive?🤷🏼‍♀️😌 it’s all a question of perspective ig

[@hannahforys4730]

“Women over 21 are a waste of time” 🚨🚨🚩🚩

[@angelazeng2985]

also the notion of male idols being too feminine or weak/not muscular is just not true, they are ALL dancers, they work out. and do men think western entertainers don't wear makeup?

[@mrrpggamer2]

Yeah David Bowie wore TONS of makeup lol and he was a masculine icon

[@asatanicmechanic]

​@@mrrpggamer2well he was an androgynous icon

[@paulgibbon5991]

Nervousness about if men are being masculine "enough", due to the historical presentation of manliness as a fragile honour that could be lost at any moment. And there being no shortage of people willing to fill that uncertainty with their caricature ideals of what a "real man" is.

[@AC-th4ci]

​@@mrrpggamer2 Not even David Bowie, literally EVERYONE on film wears makeup. Not one single man you see in a movie is bare-faced.

[@cleo1827]

The male gaze and the female gaze are drastically different! men with “feminine” features are attractive af to me

[@kami.kaze23]

I had a guy ask me once if he was “too nice” and I told him people who think they’re “too nice” usually aren’t actually that nice. He later carved a disgusting message into my desk top.

[@catlover2223]

So….he actually wasn’t all that nice. Do you think he took the three seconds necessary to see the irony?

[@ms.annthropic6341]

Yep, I had an ex boyfriend who claimed to have been told by a female friend that he was “too nice”. This guy turned out to be a narcissist who put no thought at all into my well being, the world existed to serve him - really no surprise at all that he claimed to be “too nice” 🙄

[@rockmangurlx4973]

Never trust anyone who insists they’re a “good” person.

So... does that mean that those of us who think we're sarcastic a-holes aren't really all that bad? ;-)

[@pinkgiraffe378]

I remember seeing a woman saying that it's a good idea to find something small to say no to on a first date with a man to see how they react to that and these nice guys show why that's a good idea...

[@justacoginthefkery]

I used that even before the date. If a guy asked to meet within the first few days, I would tell them no & I wasn't ready for that yet. Same with asking for extra pics. 99% of men can't respect the simple no & immediately showed they weren't the right person. If they made it past that, they'd get my number so we could move to live conversation. I only met with 6 matches, but did land a very healthy relationship.

​@@justacoginthefkery, yeah, and adding the _"I'm not ready for that_ yet" is very crucial. If I was single, it would be the difference between me thinking you're not interested and moving on or me thinking you _are_ interested but you need more time.

[@justacoginthefkery]

@well expecting an attachment/ interest in someone you've sporadically chatted with for 1-3 days is not healthy nor is it reasonable imo. The whole point of the chatting stage is to VET to see if they're potentially worth meeting. Proper vetting takes time & patience. When I did start out the way everyone else does things, it was messy af & I can see why ppl have so many problems zipping through countless dates with all the wrong ppl. I also figured out that if they are the wrong person, things can fizzle or blow up quickly whether you meet them or not.

[@nussknacker9827]

That's wonderful advice. Thank you 💕

[@chrissizemore8705]

These are the same dudes that say stuff like, "there are no good women left" and "why don't I get any matches?" There are plenty of good women left. They just aren't interested in you, bro.

[@tonberry2670]

Good is not necessarily nice. Nice can be an act. Good is always an action

[@rockmangurlx4973]

Kindest people I know are the most blunt, razor-tongued individuals I’ve ever met.

​@@rockmangurlx4973 _"Always try to be nice. Never fail to be kind!" -- The Doctor_

[@izumiuchiha9215]

Ironic thing is kpop male idols go to the military

[@justincampbell3891]

This is actually a valid point. Top 40 ain't my bag these days, but I gotta give those guys their props. They're called to serve, they go. No questions asked. Of course, when you can basically see the existential threat from your front porch, I would imagine it colors your perspective.

[@harubynspades]

@@justincampbell3891 the existential threat with an outdated army from the 70's, half of their people in famine conditions, bad industry and overall bad military planning.

[@JadeAkelaONeal]

Yes but only because they have to by law.

[@goldenageofdinosaurs7192]

@@harubynspadesDoesn’t mean they won’t come rolling over the border & kill hundreds of thousands of people.

[@elizakarnopp8921]

Reminds me of this one Tumblr post: the bar was so low it was practically a tripping hazard in Hell, yet here you are, limbo dancing with the devil

[@suspiciousstar7547]

I remember I used to have this friend online who was definitely a "nice guy". We met through a game and he said he didn't have any friends and needed help in the game, which made me feel bad for him. Later we became friends and everything seemed good until he started asking for my e-mail and constantly tried to make me his gf. I told him I'd just wanna stay friends but I appreciated the offer. After that, he tried to GUILT TRIP me and make me feel like I was a bad person for not wanting to date him. He would say he was depressed, hated himself, and at one point impersonated as his own gf on an alt to make me feel "jealous". I never said I hated him nor did I tell him to stop being my friend. We cut ties about a year ago and I still don't really wanna play the game anymore. One day I probably will enjoy the game again but for now, I'm just gonna be more careful!

[@dollinterrupted]

lol my boyfriend asked me the other day why I don’t play online video games with my mic and I’m like, uh bc I have a woman voice

[@ana-nim]

This is why i tell guys from the get-go that they're not my friends and I'm not their friend as well. I simpky take away their manipulation tool and they can't pretend to be my friend anymore to guilt trip me later.

[@starsiegeRoks]

I completely understand, dudes online can be absolutely trash, it also sounds decently isolating as well (from my outside perspective at least.) Cheers. ​@ana-nim

[@cookeepuff]

"Why are you not leftovers then?" Thank you! He says the women are leftover... what does that make him?

[@minachernobog]

I wouldn't have made it past the first phrase. Relationships are not about who does more for the other. It is a mutual partnership.

[@halfshinesketches]

They need to remember Roger rabbit Jessica rabbit says she’s with him because he makes her laugh

[@pinkgiraffe378]

the way they switch up so quickly from begging someone to go out with them to pretending they were never interesting and calling them ugly is so ridiculous, that it's funny 😂

[@HumbleWooper]

For the guy who got all butthurt about his parasocial crush complimenting a kpop guy (17:28 ish)... he repeatedly talks about "females" and "a female" in his rant. Holy objectification and incel-ery, batman! Yikes!

[@moonpai3668]

“If hate consumes your heart, what’s left?” Good quote to live by when I see guys shitting on people in their tinder profile

[@cohengamertv6548]

Rem8nd sme of that 1974 PSA by the Jewish Chatuqua society

[@toniotrussardi8126]

as someone who lives out of spite,nothing

[@Aliensanonymous_]

The guy who complained about the girl who couldn’t meet during the holidays was beyond unhinged, she dodged a missile

[@liamprobst]

7:22 ‘have the day you deserve’ is such a fire phrase that i will 100% be using in the future

[@sassylittleprophet]

Yeah, my ex-husband was a "nice guy." I would be so apologetic and think "poor [ex], he doesn't deserve me" because my family was abusive and he had to interact with them too. Never mind that I had lived in that family for 19 years. Never mind that he never had to live with them. Never mind that he made me feel like a s*** human being by being born into a family that I couldn't help being born into, and he asked and chose to marry me. Never mind that he compared me to other people to try to make me jealous. Never mind that he threatened to take my car keys and leave me stranded at home because he "didn't like surprises" and I had surprised him by spending 5 hours making his favorite dinner and dessert for his birthday. Never mind that every single problem I had with my abusive family and poor mental health, I felt guilty that he'd have to be exposed to a fraction of the trauma I was going through (which for him was an inconvenience). Never mind that I never once thought of myself through this whole time because I was too busy saying "poor [ex]." He had the audacity to believe that I was created by God specifically to serve him. He literally made me tie his shoelaces...and he thought he was a "nice guy."

[@Lilmushro0m]

I’m so sorry for everything. For your sh!tty ex, for your abusive family, your mental health and everything. I hope you’ll find someone who takes up big space in your heart, instead of your mind. Stay strong, you can do this!❤

[@sassylittleprophet]

@Lilmushro0m thank you! I had to stay strong for a while, but not completely giving up eventually paid off. I actually have someone now, my boyfriend and I just celebrated 9 months together. He is the sweetest person I know and is the person who has treated me the most kindly and lovingly out of all the people I've ever known in my life. He loves me just as much as I love him, which is a *heavenly* change of pace. It's so healing to be loved back 💜

[@Lilmushro0m]

@@sassylittleprophet I’m so happy for you💗 I wish you and him the best of the best🤞

[@sassylittleprophet]

@@Lilmushro0m thank you! ☺️💕

[@EmyN]

He sounds abusive

[@GoddessOfThree]

The sudden backpedaling from "you're gorgeous" to "you're ugly anyway" is SUCH toddler tantrum energy 😂 Reminds me of when I saw my step-mom eating some of my sister's Skittles when she was like 4, and when I told her, she got mad about it and suddenly didn't want any of her remaining Skittles anymore. The infantile consternation on her face as she stood there angrily crushing all the rest of her own Skittles in her hand is how I picture these dudes' faces as they type these messages lmao.

[@okamiangles7121]

Lots of "masculine men" wear make-up. Like Brad Pit for movies and interviews.

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

The vast majority of men whose jobs are on camera - whether movie stars, news readers, or even youtubers. Wearing makeup on camera is just part of the industry, because looking as attractive as you can influences people subconsciously and that's good for your career.

[@jaeumphrey1867]

not to mention the iconic Rolling Stone photoshoot Bard Pitt did in the 90s wearing various dresses

[@elizabethkay4428]

Some guy came up behind me in a bar once and squeezed my bum. When i shouted at him, he apologised. After i said that i didnt accept his apology he told me that i was "stuck up and fat anyway" Lol

[@ErutaniaRose]

Gods, this reminds me of a match I had on Bumble. We had some good chemistry and conversation--but then the dude thought it "wouldn't work out" because I thought that hugging should not be forced, especially for kids and adults with sensory issues, that it should be encouraged but not an expectation. (I am autistic, and we were talking about our values). He basically said forced hugs or the expectation of hugs and if you don't hug it is offensive was key to his culture...and like, hugging is fine and I think it's great people are affectionate, but a lack of boundaries IS NOT OKAY. EVER. If someone gets offended because I don't want to hug them, that's not a me problem. Dude also thought I was "obsessed" when I asked him why he thought that was okay to force people to hug and he wouldn't answer. I tried asking for maybe 5 min, in 2-3 different ways, and said I needed to know why to understand talk with him. (Again, I am autistic, lol--of course I need the WHY, and I wanted to work it out.) This was also after I told him "no, not everyone is neurodivergent in our age group" after he said everyone was, when I told him I am neurodivergent. Red flags tbh....HE STILL WANTED TO BE FRIENDS and I said I didn't feel comfortable and cut off any chats with him. I also don't have a bumble anymore, thank goodness.

[@dollinterrupted]

I will die on that hill every day. I work with kids and it is soooo important to teach them that their physical comfort and autonomy should always be prioritized over others peoples feelings

[@ErutaniaRose]

Exactly this! I personally really feel strongly about it as a former kid who didn't have very many boundaries--and I definitely felt primed to accept abuse. And I don't want any kid to be groomed in any way or face abuse, no matter how unintentional. (Also a survivor of abuse--not from family entirely, but the lack of teaching me boundaries from them led to me more easily falling into the trap of abuse later on.) If a kid doesn't think their boundaries of a hug matters...it can just get worse. @@dollinterrupted

[@poke-talia268]

I have to be the one to approach people for a hug. I mean that in the "I want to be hugged, but someone getting into my personal space let alone hugging me sets off my fight or flight response" way. So thank you for fighting for people to have autonomy over when they get hugged.

[@ErutaniaRose]

I 100% get this. I swear I feel like a cat sometimes, lol. Like, I'll only do it if I come to you. @@poke-talia268

[@CelesteMinerva]

That last story is insane. "Your a whore cause your in a relationship with someone that isn't me" like bruh. Like if a dude shoots his shot I don't care I just let them know I'm married (cause I am). I've luckily never had someone get aggressive which gives me hope that these guys are few and far between. I think the more we shame this kind of behavior the less nice guys we get in the world.

[@nussknacker9827]

1 in 3 men admit that they would grape a girl / woman if they weren't caught. Most men get aroused by girls from age 12-15 (often younge r) They're not rare. They're everywhere. I've never met one that wasn't one (I look like a teenager, about 15 years at most) Most teen girls have been followed by a creep Daytime isn't any where near safe because at day time more of them are outside "hunting" Their "prey"

[@angelazeng2985]

"particularly guys like me who likes asians" did the asians ever like u back tho.

[@fizzy_buzz]

Whenever I think of a "Nice Guy," I think of Hal from Megamind. Cinema Therapy has a great video on this, but I love Reddit posts on jerks like these. Love your vids, Kiwi :)

[@kappadarwin9476]

I tend to think of Brian from FG when I think of "Nice Guy"

[@bethanypollard6940]

@VillesFanUTTP What content? Your channel is empty

[@icchasaki]

YOOO SAME, I LOVE THAT VIDEO As a writer who tends to focus on character psychology, Cinema Therapy is an absolute *gold mine* :D

[@AnnekeOosterink]

@@bethanypollard6940 It's either a troll or a spam poster. Just report and move on.

[@fizzy_buzz]

@@icchasaki it really is! And the guys are really fun to listen to :)

[@ErutaniaRose]

Honestly glad you called out the fetishization of asian people. I think the reason so many people do it, especially white women, is because of the over-feminization of Asia, alongside the trauma and violence we are shown that is committed by white men, and the lack of history known about crimes men of all races have done--especially in the US. So people think Asian men, or other minority men, are the safe option, when in reality anyone can be dangerous or safe and it depends on the individual. Which can be scary to think about--that ANYONE could abuse you. But on the flip side, anyone can be kind too. I know I fell into the trap of thinking non-white men would ALWAYS be safer, but had to reconcile that that was just not true, especially after my abuse from some POC men, and that anyone could hurt me, so there was no "for sure method" to avoid abusers other than looking for red flags. It was scary to admit that anyone is capable of abuse and you never really are 100% safe from it (especially if you are disabled), but I'm glad I did and I got past that thinking so I can actually protect myself and not brush off red flags. Hope this makes sense. I'm not trying to brag or anything, just glad I grew the fuck up and that I am better at spotting red flags than I used to be.

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

It's a valid logic though. "I know this group is dangerous. I don't know anything about this other group. Well, they can't be worse than that first group and they don't look as scary, so I'll try dating them."

[@ErutaniaRose]

Thanks, that is honestly how I thought about it. Given that I learned very little about history outside the US and Europe I didn't have the full scope of "Oh shit men" or "Oh shit people" that I do now. It's wild how trauma and trying to protect yourself can lead to such logical ideas that still are logical failings when all the context is brought in. @@mamasimmerplays4702

[@Mir_Teiwaz]

Sometimes I wonder if any of these men who say they hate women are actually gay, but then again, why would another guy want to date a disaster like that either?

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

Red flags for gay men too

[@toniotrussardi8126]

i think they have mommy issues they love to say girls have daddy issues while their relationship with their mother is more toxic than chernobyl

[@suspiciousstar7547]

Nice guys/girls are honestly scarier than just flat-out bad people. At least you know bad people are simply just assholes but nice guys/girls can be WAY WORSE. They'll disguise themselves as "good people" until they don't get what they want. Real nice people would understand and respect someone else's choices and thoughts. Yes, rejection hurts but hurting other people over declining what you want from them is awful.

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

Thank you for acknowledging women can be “nice girls” too I’m tired of this KZbinr trying so hard to convince people only men act like this

[@ashleyb1949]

One of the biggest red flags I look for is the “ I’m a nice guy/nice girl” I immediately don’t trust it, if you have to say you’re a nice person, you’re probably not. Actual nice people don’t go around stating it in the first few sentences or if they say it at all. So you’re 100% right, they are scarier than people who just wear their asshole tendencies on their sleeves lol

[@MeemahSN]

@@RaidenMustDie3594 She doesn't though. Give an example of when she claimed only men could act like this. She doesn't think only men can be bad people, it's just that the subreddit r/NiceGuys, is more focused on men acting this way rather than women.

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

@@MeemahSN I have NEVER seen her cover videos In which women slap men when they don’t buy them their drinks, I have never seen her cover videos where women abuse their boyfriends and call the police thinking their boyfriend will be arrested automatically, I never see her talking about the women who make fun of men for things they can’t control, I have never seen her make videos to bring awareness to the fact that women can treat men just as horribly. She is obsessed with putting the bad things some men do in the spotlight while hoping people will ignore the good things men do and the good people men are. I’m tired of her version of feminism “some men did bad things so we have to blame all men for what those bad men did, some man abused me so that means I can abuse any man I want” this KZbinr pisses me off so much because how could someone be so ignorant and self righteous and holier than thou, and hateful at the same time

[@katashworth41]

I did have an “eek” moment when I met my partner as there was a strange man approaching me, but then he asked if he could sit with me as we both like to read in the pub which did set off my “nice guy” radar. Thankfully he just wanted to talk about his book, unfortunately we have completely different literary tastes (he likes sci fi and fantasy, I’m a non-fiction person, specifically travel and auto/biographies) but there was a quiz that night and that helped (I’m an absolute sucker (no!) for a quiz) and next month we’re going on a trip for out 10th anniversary.

[@haydenzhong4341]

The guy rating the woman as a 2/10 I was thinking for some reason "why aren't you simplifying the fraction and making that a 1/5 rating?" Just a random thought I had.

[@motherofthetans]

Remember: If a guy has to tell you that he's a Nice Guy. . . he isnt.

[@MARINAROSAAZUL]

the instability with these dudes and the fact that it doesn't take much for them to go from 0-60000 and possibly not make it back home is what stops literally people from feeling sorry for them and wanting to help them even if help is what they clearly need 😵‍💫

[@crondog]

"Have the day you deserve" is such a based reply.

[@natashaunfiltered]

There are some 'nice guys' that are terrifying when they don't get their way. A few years ago I was walking to a guy and that seemed sweet and then he asked me for nudes. I said no for multiple reasons. I don't send nudes and I we weren't even talking like that. He went off on me and said "with women, no doesn't really mean no". That is when I blocked him and was glad we hadn't met yet. A guy who says that about women is a danger. I've already been in a bad place with a man, I never want to experience that again.

[@Arcadian-Nova]

gosh the men not reading dating app bios is sooo true,, literally my first sentence is "i am asexual, i want a romantic relationship but anything like under the clothes is a no for me" but everytime i match with a guy and we get a nice conversation going, i eventually get dissapointed bc they DID NOT READ and actual do want sex.... i match with a whole lot less women, so i havent had that happen with a woman yet, which makes me think that women do tend to read bios more than men, i know i do.

[@Ophiichus]

Finding a partner on any dating app as an asexual will be a monument of a task for sure. Dating apps are so closely tied to hook up culture that it has ruined the whole point of the dating app. I am personally a demisexual and that wound up weeding out a lot of people on its own with the whole "I will not even be interested so don’t try it until I say otherwise." I wound up talking casually with my current partner for a year before we even met up in person. He is a lovely man and respects my autonomy however I need. Women do read through profiles more often, I feel like if you’re wanting to try pursuing a woman to lean towards apps geared towards it. I feel like a lot of women get pushed off of the bigger apps because they are also tired of how over geared they are for fast hookups. (This might also double for men, if you try to focus on lesser known apps)

[@presentlycrescent]

10:20 “all that aside I’m a really nice guy” Y’all I almost threw up my sushi from spontaneous laughing

[@justacoginthefkery]

Reminds me of a moment where I asked a guy pre-date if he had a preference on splitting the bill or not (backstory, I had 2 guys previously get offended because I was willing to pay for my own... didn't yet divulge that to him). Enter the sudden triggered anti-feminist rant about how I must be a gold-digger, calling me a "grubby b*tch" & expecting him to give me a free meal because "all women". Dude flipped the switch so hard when I told him exactly why I asked & how I was trying to avoid another awkward situation. I'm actually really glad I asked that because dear fking fuzzies, missile dodged!

[@dovesraven]

your personality , hair , n outfit choices just RADIATE “sunshine as a person” ‼️

[@farmerbeebop]

literally like the rainbow hair matches the personality! a rainbow of a person 🫶

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

More like “daddy issues as a person” lmao

[@Ash-Felts]

​@@RaidenMustDie3594why are you so salty?

[@MeemahSN]

@@RaidenMustDie3594 ehh agree to diagree

[@romyjane17]

@@RaidenMustDie3594what does that even mean?

[@bobbie3156]

It's "I'm a nice guy if you are perfect and do whatever I say."

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

💯

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

Aerial killer bundy was a 'nice' giid looking man..thats how he roped in his victims..the nice was the bait...watch oug those that seem perfect, oncce they got you, married, then they start showing thier true colors

[@GruulAnarch]

Fun fact: nice guys in the literal meaning of the phrase do exist (probably, I've yet to encounter one in the wild) but don't actually feel the need to declare that they are nice.

[@poke-talia268]

I have met one.

[@ChrissaTodd]

i have met many they exist

[@HumbleWooper]

First one, about the guy trying to pay for parking 1:05: reading his own words, either he already knew it cost money (but lied to seem nicer for offering on the spot) or he lied when he said he agreed to pay for their mutual friend Aimee's spot. The lying and manipulation started *before* OP turned him down hard enough to upset him. That's... yikes. Overenthusiastic car dealership sized red flag.

[@sunflowerspirited4974]

I completely agree with men having shit bios lol. My boyfriend is the loveliest person ever but we met through D&D, not a dating app, and I feel like if I saw his profile before we became friends first I wouldn't have swiped on him! He had a fish picture of all things🤦 He's so cute and handsome but not next to a dead fish. I tried explaining that to him, that most women don't find that attractive, and he was like "well it was a really happy day for me and I was proud of my catch". Which makes sense! I had pictures of my cosplays up on my dating profile cause I'm proud of making them so I understand, but still lol. As a vegan myself it would've been a hard turn off and I think that means dating apps in general are shit cause they WANT you to come back.

[@Ophiichus]

Dating apps are geared for hookup culture. It’s why most men on there go straight for the spicy stuff. Like damn Daniel, warm me up first or something lmao. Makes it easier to weed out the losers though. ❤

[@thepokepoet9482]

My ex would always sing the "Nice Guys Finish Last" song whenever we'd talk occasionally and it drove me insane.

[@sweetsongtalks]

That is so fucking funny

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

Now I know the true meaning of nice guys in that quote..the fake nice guys finish last...the good ones dont❤

[@user-mc4rm8ot8x]

Trying g to tell us bri g nice us bad..true ge uine niceness nkt the manipulati g kind❤

[@parishthewolf1508]

Even though I’ve had so many failed relationships, I’m glad to hear I’m not as bad as these nice guys (I hope)

[@veggiesnake4430]

Stay humble, king.

[@lollybirdy]

Its the self awareness

[@min_tea_]

Orange looks great on you! It’s my favorite color, but my hair has been solid blue for a few years and nothing orange looks good on me anymore! ❤

[@livstylerewind]

But orange & blue are complimentary colors!!😍💙🧡

[@min_tea_]

@@livstylerewindmaybe it’s my skin 😂 when I had brown hair it was one of my favorite colors to wear.

[@Lilah-Violet]

​@@VillesFanUTTPCommenting on people's videos claiming yours are better is totallyyyy the way to combat cyberbullying. 🥴 Rude and unhinged

[@amyyaku5022]

The second post really triggered me. I'm crushing over a guy with one arm cause he's 1) kind 2) humble 3) funny and 4) sacrificed his arm to save a boy (okay the man's an anime character but still 😅) Edit: It is Shanks from One Piece 😊

[@CultivationOfMayhem.]

he sounds like a great guy

[@imliterallynoonelol]

anime name pls ???

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

​@@imliterallynoonelol I think it's princess mononoke that the only anime where I can think a guy lose his arm

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

​@@imliterallynoonelolif you want to watch current new anime that good to watch I say Frieren, Doctor Elise, and overtake outside of what popular like one piece

[@garyadkins9496]

My guess is Edward Elric from Fullmetal Alchemist.

[@chaucernerd1690]

Rejection stings, sure. But immediately attacking their appearance and alleged morals doesn’t make anything better for anyone. Also, I dreamed the other night that I was saying hello to my coworkers with, “Greetings, guys and gals and nonbinary pals” and giggled so loudly that I woke myself up. Love your channel.

[@biteofdog]

Might be good phrase at an office party?

[@elialexandra730]

Even if you are a "nice guy" that isn't and shouldn't be where the bar is like How do you treat people? Do we have common interests? Do I find you attractive? Do our beliefs align? Ect. You being nice is not enough for someone to see you as a potential partner.

[@LPSSYLVEONstudios]

I would like to point out also that viewing asian men as not masculine is a racist stereotype and the result of the ideals of western masculinity being centered around white men. Tbh I was disappointed that you didn’t refute those ideas

[@acespacerooster]

Ok but like I love being in the friendzoned (mainly cause I'm aroace). Like girl I'd love to go get coffee with you every day after class and gossip about "nice guys", set healthy boundaries in our friendship, support each other's goals, and start new hobbies

[@n.krieken152]

The whole “boy boy, girl girl” thing at the beginning reminded me of a saying from China which my dad taught me: “horse horse, tiger tiger,” which essentially means you’re so apathetic about life you don’t care if the next animal you meet coming around the corner is a horse or a tiger.

[@naomirmckay3368]

It means "eh, I'm fine (but really not great)" if someone says that's how they're doing today.

[@moonlightmalaise2564]

All these guys not wanting someone with tattoos/piercings just makes me want to get even more of them lol. Keeps those kinds of men awayyyyyyy.

[@skyesthelimitro]

Ah yes, the standard "nice guy" profile. Dead fish and misogyny

[@homeland1128]

what in the garbageterry are those dudes on lmao

[@WynnWynn-gl3fk]

In the future ladies just block and ghost 👻 as there is no reasoning with these type of guys.

[@alicenthightower9161]

if only i didn't fear that they would stalk me or harm me 🫠

[@dollinterrupted]

Hey let’s focus on what is wrong with these men because we’ve been giving it the old ‘tell women to make their worlds smaller’ response for like the last 4 millenia and it’s not working lol

[@insertnamehere1258]

@VillesFanUTTP what was that about fighting against cyberbullying?

[@paulinahafer7185]

What I find truly baffling is how all of these guys (probably) have functional relationships in their lives. And I don‘t even mean women, necessarily. They are most certainly used to a male friend cancelling a hang out. They should know how boundaries work in a general sense. Yet once they get into this dating mindset, suddenly, all bets are off and they don‘t have a conversation of genuine mutual respect anymore - they follow a script. They think they pay, women are mandatorily grateful, they get to be charming and women have to be charmed. Once you put a single toe out of line, you are immediately punished with verbal abuse (or worse) for breaking the carefully set up rules and your ideologically constructed character, an ideal of a woman that shows the right degree of submission, admiration and, somehow, flirtatiousness. You *don‘t* get to be you in this script, you have a role to fulfil and if you don‘t, you‘ll be „put in your place“ reaaal fast. If that‘s not dehumanization, I don‘t know what is.

[@jadeleon]

your hair combined with the orange outfit looks SO good and vibrant, i love it!

[@obcorc]

Am I the only amab non-man who loves coming into these videos with the framing, "Hey, I wonder how my assigned gender is doing this week?"... 2 minutes in, "yeah no, just as terrible as I remember, seeya suckers, I win.🤪"

[@sage8148]

I didn't before but im gonna start lol

[@abilitywithamy1863]

I am a straight woman who wants to be with a man. I just want to be able to literally hang out with them. Like 1/100 of men are actually capable of that. It is all wildly unfortunate. I can definitely confirm what you said.

[@sumatrannos]

'Women just want a stereotypical hot guy' tell that to the lady in the 2nd post who clearly don't but he won't recognize he's the one being insecured and put the blame on women and go around telling lies

[@toniotrussardi8126]

like tell me do they even consider dating a woman who isnt exactally attractive? no they want super models while they look like jabba the hut not talking about weigh either,nasty skin and nasty personality

[@pinkgiraffe378]

You would think you would wait until after you'd done the group project to ask someone out anyway bc that interaction is going to make it super awkward when they have to like meet and do work.

[@sarahcox1197]

They accuse women of being too picky and cite bs statistics claiming women won't date a man under 6', YET they discriminate against women for their age (over 25) ... make it make sense.

[@paulgibbon5991]

It's an attempt to take back the power they see women as having (they can reject), by trying to cast themselves as the judge.

[@sarahcox1197]

@@paulgibbon5991 I also think it's a way for them to imprint on a younger, more vulnerable mind, which is why they don't date women who have experienced life, established their own beliefs, found themselves, and have their own routine in life. When I was younger, so many men tried to take over my schedule and I constantly felt like luggage going wherever they wanted to go.

[@jacktadash]

I'm in a long term relationship of 8 years and hearing stuff like this reminds me how important it is to always not verbally abuse my partner just in case some sly guy manages to sweep them off their feet with a tip of their fedora.

[@crazyratlady3115]

Honestly if I was ever in a position to need to date again, I'd just have to rule out cishet men. It's not even worth it.

[@charminharlan9081]

As a pansexual trans man who transitioned as an adult, I concur with the “men have bad dating profiles thing” but it’s especially straight men. Since I’ve transitioned and put “man” for my gender in dating apps, the other men’s profiles have been so much better. But the women’s profiles have gotten worse. I think it’s just a problem with the straights tbh

[@Eibarwoman]

The straights are not okay.

[@2ndperky]

I'm so glad I don' need to use dating apps, it seems like a warzone out there.

[@spookecat]

“All that aside, I’m a really nice guy.” 😂 what do they even think nice means?

[@VexedMummy]

I met a guy and his friend who said “nice guys always finish last” seriously and with a straight face. He of course, was not a not nice guy lol

[@letterborneVods]

“Have the day you deserve” is such a nice finish line 😮 and yeah, him putting that thing about consent at the top of his bio, kinda makes it seem like consent and the conversations around it are a joke to him 🤔

[@twilightwillowglade7214]

someone else that I watch that does similar videos, he's Swedish and said Slut means done, finished in Swedish, pronounced s-loo-t. Which honestly I find funny

[@jadamiller7485]

The mark of old keeps getting lower and lower in age. Forty, to thirty, to twenty five... now it's twenty one?

[@GeteMachine]

24:21 These would be the same guys who would start claiming women hate them because they are successful. She literally said she had to reschedule, not break up and the dude had a meltdown. Fragile.

[@kenirainseeker539]

He probably wanted to pay for everything so that later he could act like she owed him something.

[@yeemcgee8149]

I also don’t get why “niceguys” have to act like there’s only one preference option either. Using the example from the video, I typically find the buff macho muscle guy super unattractive HOWEVER Jason mamoa is hot to me because he also seems really funny and chill. The vibe of the person means so much more than just the physical appearance.

[@Andrew-qw1kq]

The consistent element with nice guys is that they don't actually see women as people. Talk yourself up early will usually filter them out pretty quickly. Just open with "fuck I'm good" and watch what happens.

[@trashketchum9782]

putting something in your bio about how you respect consent is wild. it’s like saying “i don’t murder people” congrats on basic morality

[@killme5204]

also at 5:00 the guy with one arm could also just be hot. like being disabled doesn't necessarily make you unattractive

[@rummyslutman9986]

Men like this just will always remind me of a time I was in the mall with my partner and some dude goes, "hey you're pretty hot" towards me as I walked by, and I go, hey thanks, I have a deep voice cuz I'm trans, and the dude just immediately goes ewww and it's just like bruh you just called me hot lmao.

[@rivaleoh]

"We can always tell" mfs when a woman has a deep voice: 🤬🤬🤬🤢🤢🤢

[@alicec.6195]

My life experience showed me that there is also the covert nice guy. The one who will treat you nicely and respect you, even when romantic interest is not present, but only until you set up a boundary or say "no" to something. It can be a family member, a colleague or a coworker. Usually is a man with a fragile ego that is always wondering what benefits he can take from you or your presence. What differentiate this one from just being a general jerk is that this behavior only applies towards women.

[@manicpixiedreamgrl]

BRO I FIND ROSS LYNCH AND V ATRACTIVE, HIS ARGUMENT IS SO STUPID

[@katashworth41]

21:37 I agree, he’s not my type (and I have no interest in K Pop, it’s just not for me) but he is objectively attractive.

[@anyasea10739]

The thing about men’s profiles on dating apps is so real like I’m not attracted to men so I have them turned off on dating apps, but sometimes they slip through the cracks, and one time a guy commented on my voice prompt (which was me playing my kalimba) saying ‘never touch an instrument again’?? Like I don’t get it do you think I’m gonna see that and be like ‘omg this guys so attractive’

[@dragongirl7978]

This subreddit makes it feel like a relief to be ace. 😕

[@dmc4426]

Is this the video where the guy gets upset about how male Korean Pop wear a bit of makeup? In the USA in the 1980s male rock bands wore makeup, had long hair and wore glittery clothes. They were called Hair Bands. Or Hairbands. White guys were fine with it hack then.

[@pinkgiraffe378]

The fact I was agreeing with you about looking for a man that respects consent and then you started talking about how low the bar was and was thinking yeah... that's so fucked up and sad when you think about it.

[@castronomic]

NEW QK VID DROPPED 🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅WTF IS A BAD TAKE 🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅

[@mystilindsey9986]

Insisting someone let you buy them things to the point you'll get offended if they refuse but then they say you used them cause you don't want to sleep with them

[@lilys7431]

Love that orange it’s delicious and you look great in it. 🧡🧡🧡

[@recklessmermaid]

25:28 literally snatching victory from the jaws of success that guy 😂😂😂

[@pinkgiraffe378]

It's so sad that as women we have to constantly be on lookout for men trying to manipulate us like that

[@andeeharry]

Nice guy/girl is quite a bad one. I had a few of those and when you tell them off, they are either ''are you mad now'', or no need to be behave like that, or why are you so mad type of thing lo....it is crazy