Sister Made Brother Miss The Birth Of His Daughter By Rejecting Calls From Wife r/AITA

[@songohan3321]

So let me get this straight. This is OP'S first child and the sister gets to see her dad again in a few months? The sister is very, VERY entitled.

[@lennaedaley8676]

Few months??? She's over 18, she can drive or hop on a train, plane or bus literally any day at anytime. She would be dead to me.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@lennaedaley8676 100%. She will never see my child if she did that to me

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@TsukiKageTora or anyone in my family. She would be dead to me. Family members pushing it would be on life-support.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

That's putting it mildly. I wouldn't blame OP if he limited contact with her sister for a while.

[@lynnw7155]

No way would I ever forgive the sister. BUT....if the wife was so close to going into labor, why was he day-tripping around with his sister? In the last week or so before a baby is due, the father should be paying close attention...nothing is higher priority at that moment.

[@ughicanteven5896]

First story: NTA she could have seen her dad the next day or even months later. He couldn't ever see his daughter's birth. She could have gone alone and survived. She used her anxiety as an excuse for making him miss his daughter's birth but what about the wife's anxiety about literally giving birth?? The fact that the sister has so little care for that child's birth shows that she can't be trusted around that child.

[@r.rhannaman6774]

If she was truly concerned she could have asked someone else to come or re arrange a new meeting place. The lobby of the motel would have been public enough. The mother and inlaw probably thought something was wrong.

[@susankaempfer8427]

I would never ever speak to my sister again.

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 1… Absolutely NOT the AHole! What if something happened to either OP’s wife and or baby?! I could never forgive anyone that did that to me! OP’s parents should be put on low contact if they can’t understand the seriousness of the situation.. Story 2… OP’s definitely not the AHole..there’s no excuse to be hours late.. I wouldn’t make plans to go anywhere with him.. take your own vehicle and he can find his own way …

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA. She ruined a once in a lifetime experience. She put her issue before OP's in labor pregnant wife. She could have ended OP's marriage or his wife and child's lives with this nonsense. I wouldn't want someone who kept me from my wife during an emergency, and that's what birth is, in my house. She knew exactly what was going on and did it on purpose. And all thus for some deadbeat that she's never met. She put a deadbeat above her brother, his wife, his daughter and their lives.

[@zerobolt9506]

HEY were you been, I haven't seen your comments in awhile

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

My thoughts exactly! I wouldn't blame OP if he limited contact with his sister for a while. Because this looks like an offense that warrants low contact at the very least.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

Do the sister and OP's parents not see the irony in preventing OP from being there for his daughter so that she could go see her father who wasn't there for her?

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

Which makes me believe it's actually jealousy and makes her extra disgusting if even possible. It's like she's thinking "how dare this little unborn person have their dad there for them when mine wasn't, let me ruin this special moment for everyone". I'd let her know just how dead to me she is and that she can be grateful for deadbeat daddy has come back for her because I will no longer be around for her. I would also cut off everyone who thinks he's overreacting because the second they get the chance behind his back they will bring baby to the sister and betray his trust.

[@ComaLies225]

Story 1: NTA. She purposely missed phone calls and notifications meant for the OP. Ok yea she’s nervous but what was the point of ERASING messages meant for him? She knew what she was doing.

[@ancadiamant]

Op's daughter is member of the family so why are family members defending the traitor?

[@Really_here]

At this amount of selfishness and disregard for others I thought she was a teen or so and not fucking 25!

[@HidForHG]

@@Really_here Even as a teen it's NOT fucking acceptable. HE really needs to lay into her and have her know that if she EVER wants a chance to reconnect SHE needs to take it and STFU! No trying to rationalize it no shifting blame AT ALL. STFU and take the justified anger and resentment she deserves. Though from the story she sounds like she would try to play the fucking victim like she probably normally does.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I'm confident it's because of jealousy for the baby having a loving father and she doesn't. She would be completely dead to me along with anyone who defends her.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@ancadiamant That's what I was thinking! I'm going to assume that she has a spoiled princess complex.

[@hothotheat3000]

What if the wife had complications? Women do still die in childbirth. What if the baby had been in trouble? That poor wife. She’s never going to forget this, and will never forgive it.

[@mariegarside8830]

The wife truly needed support for child birth.

[@clairebear-96]

Wow first story nta! I feel bad for the wife too - i can’t imagine going into labor, calling my spouse, and every call going to voicemail! Giving birth without my spouse present bc their sister was so selfish! Good for the husband for being rightfully upset and prioritizing his wife

[@annhans3535]

she hung up on her calls too

[@allisoncastle]

The fact that he wasn’t there was already bad enough, but when he (seemingly) was INTENTIONALLY ignoring her calls over and over and over again is just…. Like, what would she be thinking at that time? That he was gonna leave her or something?! Maybe it’s just me, but I’d absolutely be thinking the worst case scenario. That definitely makes the stress a thousand times worse. And like other people commented, she could’ve literally died during the delivery…

[@HellsToyMaster]

Last Story - ESH - The 17 year old is going through rough times but that dose not excuse him being hurtful to a new mother with a newborn. Step mom sounds supportive and seems to have just had enough in this instance. Dose that excuse what she said, no. They both need to talk this out and move forward with someone other than the father as a non partisan mediator.

[@Ghostcyborg71]

Exactly this. I don't know where comments like that first one are coming from, it's like they read a different story

[@incineroar9933]

OP needs to get out of that marriage and away from that psychobrat. If he could insinuate shit like that to her face, how long until he turns on the baby?

[@laica01]

@@Ghostcyborg71 is because he is a child! Don't you understand that?! /s. A child that next year is probably going to college or whatever but a child no the less! I mean come on, we know that when it suits reddit 17 is an adult and when it not they are just kids.

[@laica01]

@@paulastiles8873 I was just being a bit sarcastic, not that I really think that he is a child. If he would had been 12 or 13 I would understand it but like you said he'll be able to do a lot of things next year, what I was really pointing out is that reddit sometime thinks that 17 is old enough and they are adults and sometimes like this case they think he is merely a child.

[@HannaFardew]

Story 1: NTA. From a wife's perspective, if I found out someone purposely prevented my husband from being with me while I was in labor, me and them would exchange some serious words that would end with them not being allowed to be near my baby until the baby turned 18. Yes I'm petty, but I've also told my fiance that I expect him to be at all of his children's births, and all of the doctor appointments for the first born, so if someone pulled that shit with me, ima be pissed

[@Russman67]

Petty maybe, but justified.

[@ipsitamazumdar4849]

Not being petty. I would also have a really serious talk with my partner as to why he decided parting with his phone would be a good idea if I’m about to go into labour anytime soon.

[@DoritoBot9000]

Not petty at all. OP was accompanying her as a favour and he got repaid by having the birth of his chid “sabotaged” . How could you ever trust a person like that moving forward?

[@WolframKKM]

Story 4: He's 17 - old enough to understand it's not ok to wish a miscarriage on someone, old enough to understand stepmom didn't force mom to take drugs, old enough to know why his parents got divorced (ie. not the result of cheating). I think a little tough love from the parents who are actually supporting him is in order and a quick chat with the therapist about why he doesn't understand any of the above. NTA

[@enkiimuto1041]

Right? People act like the guy isn't close to being an adult and she should take the verbal abuse because....????

[@Grace_x68]

Agree

[@Alifirecat]

This is exactly my thought and feeling

[@chihuahuasrule1175]

The sister knowingly put the phone on DND and deleted all the notifications to a woman she knew was in the late term of her pregnancy because she wanted her brother all to herself when she met her deadbeat. How selfish can you be? The OP is so NTA. I would never tamper with someone else's phone like that! WOW!

[@kieratucker2070]

Story 4: ESH, OP sucks obviously for what she said but at the same time why is it okay for the stepson to say those things to her and not be reprimanded for it? Why is it okay for him to bring up his mom but no one else can? I understand he’s going through a lot and hurting but it doesn’t give him a pass to be disrespectful.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Agreed

[@pamcauble3755]

I'm honestly wondering why his father didn't get him therapy to help cope with his mom leaving, the divorce and everything else. If the stepson was in therapy from the start this situation would more than likely have been prevented

[@gaxalee7392]

@@pamcauble3755 Op said he’s been in therapy for three years.

[@soulbound2]

Agreed

[@kemonono]

exactly my thoughts on the situation, this kid is not being reprimanded because he's going through a hard time. I see why but it is terrible and awful.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

First story: Nta. That sister would be lucky if she ever sees the baby cause if that was me I would've cut ties asap.

[@rseegraves]

Last story - NTA. 17 is old enough to know what’s going on, he’s not 7 and shouldn’t act like it.

[@roukerasati9611]

Yeah way too many people are giving the teenager a pass.

[@locusxe1411]

I went with ESH because of what Op said to them. But yeah the 17 year old is an ahole and I don’t know how no one sees it

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@locusxe1411 I went with NTA because, he's 17, he's wished death on her and the baby, he's been an asshole for at least a year now, and OP JUST gave birth and is a hormonal and emotional wreck. The "father" is so busy coddling him and his terrible behavior, essentially telling him "yes, this is good! Keep it up, son!". What if OP has/had PPD, and this sent her into a spiral? Is she still expected to silently take the abuse? At what point does she get to tell this NEARLY adult, abusive brat to Fuck Off? Also, the abusive stepson has shown escalating abuse, when he inevitably tries to hurt the baby, is OP expected to thank him for the "fun times"? It's not normal for a 17-year-old to wish death on an infant, it's not normal for a 17-year-old to continually lash out like this. He needs help, very intensive therapy, and help, and OP can't be expected to be his little punching bag, nor be happy to be his punching bag.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan this too is why I went NTA

[@locusxe1411]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I can understand that. She also said she wished he disappeared. I still think they both suck

[@CrescentMoonDancer15]

For story 4, I want to bring up the fact that she JUST gave birth and was on the constant receiving end of this treatment. Women are VERY emotionally unstable and vulnerable at this time and can fall into severe postpartum depression if stressed enough.

[@Russman67]

First story: There is no coming back from that for the sister. OP's wife was probably going between worried and pissed off at him and he had no clue because the sister decided her meeting her dad was more important than the birth of his daughter, a true once in a lifetime moment. I'd go no contact over this.

[@RemixerDarken]

Story one: 100% *NTA* Your sister did you extremely dirty and then blamed it on her anxiety instead of owning up to it.

[@ansah412]

For story 3, once again some Reddit commenters show their stupidity and lack of reasoning. How is op TA?? It's like everyone's forgetting that op is only 3 years older and was practically a child herself at the time. So obviously she would feel resentment. The proper judgment should have been NAH

[@momotaro1236]

they’re completely ignoring the fact that the parents neglected both of them, if my sister made made me do that I would be pissed to.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

Agreed, and I think the only one who saw that reasonably (with the "NAH except for the parents" verdict) was the person who also had a chronic pain condition. There was one thing I wish that commenter had touched on, just to explain it more to OP. The possible reason the sister was coming to OP like they did (asking why they don't hang out) was likely to seek approval. Disabled people are made to feel guilty for needing help, and I'm sure the sister has probably suffered through things to avoid asking OP for as much help as she actually needed. Meanwhile, OP sees it as she is asking for too much help, and not doing enough on her own. ALL of this is the parent's fault. They allowed the miscommunication to fester, and they neglected their kids. If the parents truly just don't want to be bothered helping their kids, then the least they could do is hire someone to help and to mediate - to, you know, be a parent.

[@putuananda1220]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan well, i agree with NAH judgement. I mean who is not going to be mad if you were be put in that potition by their parents

[@wmdkitty]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I have chronic pain, and I disagree. It's partly the sister's fault for taking advantage of the situation and using her condition as an excuse. I was raised NOT to use my conditions as excuses for laziness or bad behavior.

[@RedReaper666OG]

Story 1: NTA, I'd throw someone out of my house til the end of time if they had made my husband miss the birth of our kids

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

10000000% agree. Showing up to my house after that? I don't care if I just gave birth, she'd be in the hospital for being like that and not only that but for allowing me to believe that something bad could've happened to my husband and stressing me out through the labor that could easily do something bad to my unborn child.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Did anyone mention that while missing those phone calls, there may have been a life and death decision that the husband needed to make for his wife or child. The hospital might have needed his consent. The sister was incredibly and I feel like maliciously selfish to ignore all of those calls.

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Story 1: NTA for real- did she literally just say “oh yah this is an important moment for me” like as if your brothers wife giving birth isn’t??

[@dracawyn]

Story 2: yeah, ADHD was my first thought too. Time blindness was one of the hardest things I struggled with managing before I got a diagnosis.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Either that or autism, since time blindness is also an autistic trait. Though most autistic people I know are more likely to be early than late. Before I got a good setup with reminder apps, I tended to show up for things 30 minutes to an hour early just to make sure I wasn't late. I think ADHDers are less likely to do this because it's boring waiting around for things to happen and ADHD reduces tolerance for boredom while autism if anything tends to make it easier to deal with boredom.

[@ghost-husband]

same, it's still my biggest struggle tbh tho, it's just way worse when I'm not medicated lol

[@ghost-husband]

​@@ettinakitten5047 hmmm that's interesting, I think I have both (only diagnosed with adhd tho) and I feel like I'm kinda a combo of that. I really wanna show up early and usually intend to but usually end up getting there just in time/late because it took longer than I thought

[@jmarie9997]

Or maybe he's just a thoughtless ass.

[@gaxalee7392]

Some people really don’t understand why kids will put blame and resentment on their siblings they had to care for rather than the parents who parentified them. It’s more socially acceptable to hate your siblings than it is to hate your parents, and that fact is basically ingrained into people’s heads(via example) from a young age. Also, while it is your parents’ fault, you’re interacting with your siblings so it’d feel like their fault.

[@elkevermeulen7343]

Exactly this. When I was growing up, we had a different situation. My younger brother was the golden child so my sister and I clashed for the attention of my parents, she had it harder because while academic work came easy for me, it didn't for her. I think it really put a chip on her shoulder and it developed an annoying (for me) need for one-upmanship. I understand the situation now as an adult but the damage has been done. There's too much bad blood between siblings now and well, my parents are still the same...

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

yeah. I had a very sick sibling (still do), and it's incredibly difficult and you develop resentment because it's really difficult to deal with, for anyone. Even my then adult siblings struggled. I was really angry with my sister for the things that her illness and disabilities "took away" from me for a long time, and it didn't matter that I knew my anger was unfair... I was still angry. I think anger is definitely justified, and while the OP is TA, it sounds more like an argument between siblings than anything

[@ThePinkBinks]

Because when those kids are aggressive they are traumatic. I blame my parents for the decision but my brother for his aggression and for demanding I do what my parents say like I was a slave. I was ill too by the way but nobody cared to find out that that was the case because I didn't have violent tantrums every five seconds. I didn't have those tantrums and scream despite being more ill and in more pain than my sibling but I was the one who had to cope. Like the OP said, those siblings abuse the situation. We are children at the time we're parentified but still get berated for not wanting to be abused while the cared for one doesn't get berated for abusing you or blamed for being an AH as an individual.

[@lennaedaley8676]

Story 3- ppl are being too hard on op. Yes she should be also mad at the parents but she was child too. Lets be honest, the sister (as any child would) did take advantage. Any child would grow resentful to catering to their sibling. I use to feel the same way when my sister(19) had her baby. Now I(16) had to be quiet, and do extra chores becuase sister was (sometimes pretending) "busy" with baby. If she was at work I even had to stay with my mom to help care the baby. And she def took advantage of this!!

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Yeah I feel like the only Ahole in that story is the parents. If a child needs extra help due to a condition, get a caretaker or nanny or something. Using the other child is just asking for that child to hate the other.

[@jessbeingme8155]

I know that feeling, my older sister (17) had her first kid when I was 13 AND we had to share a room together. She too faked being busy to make me do more chores and even dumping her kid on my so she could go hang out with her friends but get home before our mom got off work. There was a lot of resentment not at the kid but at her and my mom but things eventually improved she changed her ways, became steady, moved out and me and mom moved away

[@bgcorporation]

Story 4: I'm going to go against the grain here and say everyone sucks here. Everyone is treating the stepson who is 17 right now as if he's 5. A 17 year old who wanted his step mom to miscarry. A 17 year old who is close to vote in the US, who is close to drink in almost every country in the world. In other countries he can consent to sex with an adult over 4 years his age. He's been in therapy for 3 years. Was it wrong for her to say what she said? Hell yes. It'll probably mess him up more, but how would you like to be poked at the way he poked her for an entire pregnancy, and then continued after the birth. Honestly I think he's so far gone she should move just because there could be a safety issue with the child.

[@pupperpalace9889]

Thank you! That's what I was thinking! This 17 year old wished death upon his half/step sibling! That is not okay! If he's still this mad that he'd wish death upon a baby then either therapy is doing nothing for him or he has suffered a relapse. But, either way, what he said is still not okay. And, honestly, I'd be worried for the safety of the baby since the 17 year old has shown desire to want him/her dead!

[@Chubbasaurus]

Exactly this! He sounds just nasty enough to potentially hurt the baby.

[@mindyschocolate]

Agreed. Dad is not stepping in and stopping that nasty behavior to OP, and stepson isn’t getting the help he needs.

[@pippo17173]

Thank you, everyone is siding with the son who wish the baby should be dead. WHAT THE FUCK!? Ya he pushed it first and OP pull the stupid to go further in response.

[@stacys8729]

Usually reddit is all on the side of women who were pregnant or just gave birth. The raging hormones, the health issues, the trauma of birth, possible PPD. This 17 wished her newborn dead, of course she is going to have a very strong reaction to that.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

The fourth story comments just confuse me tbh. So many commenters are just choosing to ignore that the stepson 1.) Wished death on a newborn baby who had nothing to do with it 2.) Is old enough to know what he said was bad. He's almost 18 for goodness sake. Op did some bad things too but everyone seems to willfully ignore everything bad the stepson did in this situation.

[@MegaGinia]

Unforgivable. Sister put her own selfishness above her brother’s marriage, his opportunity to see his first baby born, his wife’s peace of mind, and if anything had happened to his wife, child, or both, how could he ever forgive her? I think he should not allow baby visits to those who are insisting that he allow his sister back in. I am so angry for him!!!

[@lennaedaley8676]

Story 4- as someone who worked with trouble youth. She was not wrong. Some kids need a reality check and understand anyone other than their parents are there becuase they WANT to be, NOT becuase they are obligated to be. Forget the child parent aspect, They need to show some basic respect and human decency to the adults.

[@allisoncastle]

This is bullshit. There are literal studies and medical journals against this mindset. Also, do you think adults not showing human decency to THEM is going to make them want to show human decency to others? Really??? There are literally millions of kids who grew up like this to prove your theory wrong. Also, like I said, there are studies and articles in medical journals that just blatantly disprove this.

[@Grace_x68]

Agree

[@kevinmorrill8342]

Absolutely NTA she made you miss your child's birth. Shame on her what she did we so wrong. I wouldn't forgive her either

[@incineroar9933]

I think the last story should be an esh. It sounds like she only recently gave birth and he's been absolutely horrible to her too, especially when he kept insinuating that he wanted her to miscarry. Neither of them have an excuse for their actions and they're both old enough to know better.

[@Koji-Alistair]

Kid sounds like a nightmare

[@incineroar9933]

@@Koji-Alistair Yeah, yeah he does. Implying that you want a pregnant woman to miscarry a wanted pregnancy is just as, if not more awful than what op did. He doesn't get to be a horrible person for months then get out of the blame for anger issues/other issues. It's gross to give a 17 year old a pass.

[@soulbound2]

@@incineroar9933 agreed

[@Koji-Alistair]

@@incineroar9933 Sure, I get that what she said to him was somewhat horrible, but that does not constitute any reason to excuse his crappy Behavior towards you and eat throughout her pregnancy and even before that it's horrible not knowing if your parent is alive or not or where they are. But still that shouldn't be an excuse to behave like a total dick head. And that seems to be a problem that some people don't seem to understand. (I do like we do. They do need to seek professional health and intern try to figure out a way to get along without getting at each other's throats)

[@Chubbasaurus]

@@incineroar9933 Absolutely agree. I was a little shocked how little the comments picked up on the fact he clearly wanted her to miscarry.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

First-story you're not in the wrong and quite frankly this is one of those situations where your sister may not be able to see your daughter for at least a year because of what she did. I get it she may have some underlying issues regarding her father not being at her life from the time she was five or six years old but at that point you should have just said hey my wife's about to give birth maybe you can see him next year when he comes back into town but this is one of those situations where I think your mom and even your own father may not want to hear it because they don't want to deal with the family drama..... in addition this may be one of those situations where it could land you in the doghouse with not only your wife for the foreseeable future but it will also lends you in the doghouse with your parents because they want you to see it from sisters point of view but you don't want to see it from her point of view. Either way you're going to be seen as the wrong in the eyes of your parents and even to some degree in the eyes of your wife when it comes to missing the birth of your child even though you didn't know she was in labor she will somewhat see that you chose to be there for your sister instead of her and you had no idea about her being in labor. Other than that you're not in the wrong

[@bethanntay]

He missed his child's birth. He had every right to be upset and not see it from his sisters side. His parents can get over it. Not at all for any reason the AH

[@Doublemonk0506]

Also, couldn't the sister go to the dad by herself?

[@rylashadow18]

His sister had other chances to see her dad though. He'll never get the chance to be by his wife the one person whose his equal and partner. He'll never be there to hold her hand. Reassure her that things will be alright. To be with her as their first daughter is born. His sister doesn't get to treat this as water under the bridge. Had she said his wife was calling he'd be a bit more forgiving and let her know he's going to the hospital rather she liked it or not. Yeah he could of told her "No sorry the baby could be coming today. I can't make it." He had no idea his child would be born that day. Plus she knew his wife was due any day so why make it a day close to the delivery date? She could of scheduled something in the time her dad would of been back instead she went with her selfish wants. I feel his wife does forgive/ has forgiven him cause odds are she heard the full story and knew he wasn't at fault for someone deflecting his calls to do not disturb. I'd be rightly peeved off more at his sister than him since it was his sister who put him in that scenario. His parents don't get to put their grown adult daughter over his new born and wife neither does she hold that right as well. His first priorities were under minded and discarded by his sister and parents. His parents are showing that by treating this like it was nothing they favor his sister and he has every right to say give me time on this which is reasonable. Just as if they continue to show that they want to demand him to be forgiving or treat this like nothing he has every right to cut them out of his and his child's life.

[@HidForHG]

How is his parent's clearly prioritizing his sisters feelings OVER his JUSTIFIED anger. Oh boo hoo she is sad she is being excluded, waah. Maybe she shouldn't have FUCKING ignored his messages AND DELETED THE NOTIFICATIONS! So at no point was it just something where she was prioritizing the mapping to get them somewhere, she PURPOSEFULLY deleted important notifications. ALSO where the FUCK are the parents? Can THEY not have driven the shit sister or were they too busy not giving a fuck. Obviously they thought OP should take her instead of you know being nearby for HIS ALMOST ABOUT TO GIVE BURTH WIFE?!! In no way is OP at fault for the narcissistic and horrible actions by his sister but it sounds like it's the perfect time to go NC. They obviously don't give a shit about OP as they seem to downplay HIS feelings for sister.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: I hope OP cuts his family out of his life. They aren’t worth it. The sister made the choice to put OP’s phone on so not disturb when she knew his wife’s in labor. She acted selfish in not listing OP experience his literal once in a lifetime moment so she can meet her dad that she could’ve waited until he comes back months later. Also she potentially stressed his wife out for not having her husband be there for the birth of their child and potentially had put it through her mind something bad happened. Then the family is pissed off at him for being mad? Cut them all out. They do not need to be in his life, the wife’s life nor their child’s life.

[@mindyschocolate]

Stepmom who has stepson who hates him: where is his dad? Why isn’t he stepping in to intervene? It sounds like his son has issues and dad’s leaving his wife to deal with it. Kid needs therapy. ESH.

[@jimdob6528]

Wow only in labor for an hour. I’m happy for the wife and child. Congratulations to the OP. NTA and I would ban her for a long time.

[@Fenrir8897]

Given the circumstances, I could EVENTUALLY forgive this, but...it would take time. Also, meeting your father is a once-in -a-lifetime thing? I suppose the birth of your FIRST child isn't. It would take a long time for me to let that go.

[@lizfritz6546]

Story 3: PARENTIFICATION

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: ESH Why hasn't his dad sat him down, explained the situation, and told him to stop with the nonsense? His dad should tell him the score and make him understand that A) he was getting divorced regardless of OP and B) his mom's choices are her own. He is 17 for fuck's sake. He's not a child. He is almost an adult.. This behavior is nonsense and he is old enough to understand what is going on. He needs to get a grip with his dad's relationship with stepmom. He's old enough that he should know he's being unreasonable. That said, OP is an adult. She should know better than to say something like that. It doesn't matter that he brought her up first. She should have just said "people are responsible for their own choices." and moved on. Instead she rubbed his face into his abandonment. How many other comments has she made like that? Maybe there is a reason he hates her. Edit: The dad is NOT a cheater. That marriage was over in all but paper. Saying otherwise is ridiculous. This was not an affair situation. Dad should definitely have waited to introduce him to OP though.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

The dad did wait to introduce him to OP until after the divorce

[@rebajoe]

@@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813 would it have helped if he had waited longer to introduce op? Right after the divorce is finalized doesn't seem a good time.

[@drakeloki4214]

For the first story what if something happened and the hospital needed O.P.'s permission to give some kind of critical life saving procedure due to some unforeseen complication during the birth. Hopefully the MIL has authority otherwise they could have died. There is a reason why spouses should at least be contact able if a loved one is in a hospital.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 2.) I get in some cultures saying one time it’s rude to come on time, nice to show up 30 mins later, but obviously that doesn’t stand here. This would drive me insane. He’s a grown adult. Glad they figured it out, but OP has the patience of a saint, to me.

[@songohan3321]

If it is ADHD, I actually see how bad it can be. A coworker of mine has to take medicine for it or he literally can't function properly.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@@songohan3321 Thanks for sharing. OP still have more patience than I ever could though. *Salute*

[@jortoska3217]

@@songohan3321 Yes, this, I have ADHD and I feel so guilty for being late all the time. I was only diagnosed 2 years ago and I can tell you it has nothing to do with not respecting a person or their time, that's just ableist thinking. Like he might be chill about it. But I'm late because I feel stressed 24/7 and can't even have a single thought without 5 new ones pushing in, and it stresses me even more when I'm late, like it's not fun. Not saying it's okay, I still always try to be on time, but it's a good thing there are patient people like op, I've been called Lazy and chaotic so many times by my family that I also have depression now 👌🏼

[@ImLasu]

There is smf like time blindness.

[@lynnw7155]

@@jortoska3217 My ex had ADD and I've spent hours standing by the door in my coat waiting for him. Sorry, but him feeling "stressed" doesn't make it suck less to be late for every singe event (a big part of why he's my ex). That's why they make alarms...plan ahead for how long it takes you to get there, set the alarm to give yourself time, and leave when it goes off. Not finding a way to work around a problem that greatly inconveniences others shows a lack of respect.

[@soulechelon2643]

With that last story, I have some sympathy for the OP. It sounds like her stepson has been constantly attacking her verbally ever since he learned of her, and even wished death upon her newborn. It finally came to a head and she lost her temper. That's what I'm seeing here, and while yes - she shouldn't have said that, I can't fully give her a YTA when she clearly realized her error. YTA is for those who do NOT see the error of their ways, in my opinion. It's a bad situation that's for sure, but I gotta side with the OP there. NTA - but I think everyone in that family needs to go see a therapist, not just the stepson.

[@lisaeverett9235]

Good grief, everyone attacking the step mom...yes TA for what she said...but he told on her to Daddy. DADDY WHO HASNT HAD A CONVERSATION WITH HIS SON ABOUT HIS DIVORCE, HIS ADDICTED MOTHER. Allowing his son to repeatedly talk to her that way while taking care of a newborn.....why is all this on this woman's back?

[@jeandelenfant]

She was abandoned and she made you abandon your child. Get her into therapy and your parents too

[@rebajoe]

Her father let her down and now she's let down her niece.

[@locusxe1411]

Story 1 NTA- So if I’m understanding correctly, your wife had an early birth away from her scheduled due date and your sister stopped you from missing it so she can meet her father who abandoned her from what I’ve heard? Yeah no. Even if she didn’t know what the phone calls were about you should have immediately told him your wife is calling you after the first call. Witnessing the birth of your own child is WAY more important that seeing your deadbeat father

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 2- I used to be one of those constantly late people. I would always be hours behind the specified time. Up until a couple of years ago too. I realised that I was upsetting the plans of the people around me, and messing their days up. These past couple of years, I have been making a big effort to be on time and not keep people waiting. I realised I was TA. OP is NTA.

[@Basketcase12]

Me: "I want a happy wholesome ending where everyone wins and no one gets hurt." My goblin brain: "wAnT tRaInWrEcK! watch fire burn! give drama!!"

[@ghostnebula8805]

Story 3: OP needs to leave her home so that she can get on with her life and studies. It sounds like her sister’s medical condition has left her unable to work or study. This condition has already ruined one child’s future career plans, it should not also ruin or reduce the other’s. I say this as someone who is disabled due to a chronic pain disorder. I’m doomed (at least until medicine improves), I would not want my sibling’s future education and career to be harmed because of me.

[@15oClock]

1. I wouldn't even talk to her again after that. How does she plan on making this up to OP? 2. Some problems can be solved; you just have to want to solve it. That wasn't in OP's ability. 3. Chronic pain ruined both these sister's lives. The question is how they'll move forward. 4. Kid's acting out in the most vile ways and OP's not helping. What the hell's going on in therapy?

[@songohan3321]

The kid is going to be in therapy for years. Biological mother addiction to meth, stepmother being this way, and his life in general. This is something that can't be treated in a few therapy sessions.

[@roukerasati9611]

With story 4, I hate that so many are giving the stepson so much slack. He was pulling asshole behavior, like wishing a miscarriage on an unborn baby! Who does that?

[@locusxe1411]

You didn’t give any judgement so idk if I should say I disagree or agree with you on any of the stories

[@15oClock]

@@locusxe1411 Alright. NTA, NTA, *ESH/NAH, *ESH. *If they can't try to make amends, they'll both suck. *Kid's being vile in the way he's acting out, no one seems to be able to curb it, and OP just told him to literally get lost.

[@locusxe1411]

@@15oClock agreed

[@fcold9402]

1. Gosh, i wonder how nervous your wife was going through childbirth by herself. Meeting her dad who had year upon years to meet her is not as big an emotional moment as meeting your newborn son. He excuses all show her selfishness and disregard foe others. She is clearly the ahole in this situation.

[@pLanetstarBerry]

Liiiiiiiiiiisten, as someone in the camp of "the father better have a good f*ckin reason for missing the birth of his child" I would be FURIOUS (at the sister) to learn my SIL purposely interfered with that and caused him to miss the birth. Like, I would want nothing to do with her ever again. OP in story 1 has every right to be upset, and might want to consider going low/no contact with his family for awhile. A very strong NTA from me.

[@alec5803]

The last story . Everyone sucks. Op was wrong for what she said, but after so long of someone throwing smart comments. The father suck because he wasn't honest with his son about the marriage, & letting his son blame Op for the married ended. The son was wrong for saying hurtful things ( like wishing the baby would disappear) or other hurtful things. If they are in the U.S a married couple has to be separate for one or two years before they can divorce.

[@VSE4me1]

Story 1: for his wife’s sake I can’t blame OP for not letting his sister in his house. If I was a brand new mother I wouldn’t want to see the woman who kept my husband away from me for my labor and delivery. Good on OP for protecting his wife at a tender time.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

Story 3: NAH. OP was treated as a third parent, sister was doing what she was told to as a child. The parents are major assholes for using OP as a parent. You can't blame OP for being mad about that unless you haven't been in the situation, even if you have chronic pain. Story 4: ESH. OP didn't start dating the father until the end of the divorce. The relationship was already over at that point, so already the stepson is making inaccurate and rude statements. Yes, OP lashed out a bit too much, but that was somewhat understandable. On top of that, the stepson also hoped OP would miscarry her baby. Stepson is also basically an adult, and knows better. A child knows better than to wish a baby died. OP made a single bad statement (from what we know. Also, didn't tell him to disappear like the ridiculously over the top commenter claimed) while the adult stepson repeatedly treated her poorly.

[@songohan3321]

For story 4, I just sat here with with my eyes wide open and questioned whether I was hearing this correctly or was I temporarily insane.

[@Violet_Fullmoon]

Story 2 hits so close to home for me because my family will say "we'll pick you up at 1" and then leave their home at 1

[@MountainPearls]

Story 1: NTA!!!!! Totally NTA. Never mess with anyone’s phone. Especially if his wife was heavily pregnant (or even pregnant at all). Things can change in a heartbeat!

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NAH except the parents. This is tough. The parents shouldn't have put OP in that position in the first place. This kid has a painful condition and they forced their oldest to be her caregiver which BS. The youngest used the power she had way too much. OP was right to tell her how she felt. The 16 year old needs to understand that her behavior was wrong and that she should do for herself what she can even with her issues. I know it is hard, trust me I have my own health issues, but you have to do for yourself where you can and not rely on others unless you absolutely have to because exactly what happened will happen. They will think you're lazy and start to resent you. I can't exactly call the 16F an asshole though. She was obviously a kid w8th a medical condition who was given power over a sibling and had parents who either enabled her bad behavior by punishing OP for not doing everything or were so detached that OP was unable to get them to have 16f stop. She was trying to manage her condition and the parents allowed her, through enabling or inaction, to use her sister as a slave. She wasn't taught any better so thinks it was OK. It wasn't and OP was right to tell her so. Hopefully OP can discuss this with her and she can see that OP has a right to be resentful, that OP wasn't "being mean", and 16f learns to only ask for help when she needs it and not take advantage of others.

[@Tammohawk1]

2. NTA Not being on time is a sign of disrespect. I will only wait so long and then I'm going off on my own. I won't be disrespected like that. 3. YTA I have chronic pain and sometimes you just can't move. I also have chronic fatigue. The parents shouldn't have made OP take care of her younger sister unless she was asked. The situation sucks.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - OP is NTA. I've always maintained that if someone is constantly late to meet you for anything you plan, and apparently cannot tell time (1 hr vs 3 hrs) they really don't respect you or your time. Screw it. 'we are leave at X time on Y day' is all you need to say. If you don't hear from them by X time, just go because if they cannot be bothered to even call and advise they've had something important come up - or been in an accident - screw them.

[@Helenahandbasket1971]

Sorry 4, she's an AH for what she said, but I want to know why he husband hasn't shut down his son from blaming her for breaking up their marriage.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 4: OP was being insensitive. But her stepson was borderline delusional if he believes his dad's or his bio mom's life choices are OP's fault. At 17 he is old enough to understand that accusations like that have consequences, especially when they are made in anger. His father and OP were not affair partners that caused his parents to split. In fact, if they were legally separated the courts recognize the petitioners' rights to go about their individual lives as if they were single. And he is directing his misplaced anger at OP based on his misguided assumptions. I can see how somebody would eventually get so fed up with that that they eventually snap.

[@LadyBern]

Reddit is amazing. "You're the asshole for projecting your anger onto someone for so long who doesn't deserve it. You should be more understanding." "You're the asshole for getting mad that this person has been projecting their anger onto you for such an extended period of time that you snapped." He wanted her to lose the baby. He's not a child. What does he have to get her cat euthenized, make a horrible speech she stab her in the leg for her anger at his behavior be ok?

[@unluckypuppy13]

Honestly I don't even think the last story is parentification. Getting water, a heating pad and the occasional meal is what is expected between siblings. Hell I would do that for a roommate.

[@dm9078]

If OP never speaks to her again he will be well within his rights! Chronic lateness is a form of control. The chronically late person is letting you know that whatever they are doing is more important than you and your life! That you put up with it shows how he has OP trained. She is going to be disappointed because he of course is going to be late. I’m shocked he was on time. She is deluding herself! OP is blaming the wrong person. Her parents abused her but she is giving them a pass that makes her a mild TA and the parents massive TAs

[@jonmendelson1104]

As someone who is chronically late in my case it's definitely not an attempt at control, it's just terrible time management. I am working on it but I'm frequently up to 5 minutes late for meetings at work. I get involved in a project I'm doing (typically a project for work so it's still helping our start up) and don't notice the time. Every once in awhile I do text the CEO and tell him I'll be a few minutes late because I'm close to resolving an issue and what will take 5 minutes to do right now will probably take 20-30 minutes if I have to re-figure out the details of the issue I'm working through but most of the time I'm just not noticing the time.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Sometimes it's just executive dysfunction, or not being able to afford reliable transportation. You sound like the kind of person I'd cut out of my life ASAP. No way am I going to deal with someone who blames me for something I can't control.

[@reginaldsmith6356]

Hey waffle gang,1st story. Wtf!! Nta,he has every right to be completely pissed off for missing the birth of your first child and i would point out to my family that she put my phone on do not disturb knowing that my wife was potentially going to go in to labor at any time. I would cut them all off for a while

[@paulchaudoir190]

OP in the last story is NTA. The kid told her he wanted her baby to die. She had every right to say what she said.

[@lee5527]

As someone with ADD who always gets lost or arrives late, I feel for the girlfriend in story 2. My boyfriend also has ADD so both of us constantly arrive late. I get lost often because I get distracted by something and I often arrive late because of that. Sometimes people I'm meeting up with actually have to come find me. It's a nightmare.

[@loviebeest]

I was about to say. Bf from story two seems to have a classic ADHD symptom. So many stories on reddit make me go: oh that could be someone with (undiagnosed) ADHD.

[@ezekial7028]

I have ADHD and being late isn't a problem for me, if anything I become hyperaware of the time, when something important is going to happen.

[@apopuffkin1717]

@@ezekial7028 Same, I was diagnosed at 12, now I am in my 40's - and I have always been early or on time. Being late stresses me out and I am hyper attentive to the time I need to be somewhere. It is why my partner and I travel to places separately, he is always late because he does everything last minute. After about 10 yrs of that I declared that I would be finding my own way to and from places from then on.

[@cheskydivision]

Bf absolutely does not respect you or see you as a priority. How would he react if you ended up late for something he deems important.

[@ScooterBond1970]

Every time I hear a story about lateness like #2 I think of a sitcom episode that used this as the main conflict: hubby and wife gotta leave for a special event at a certain time and agree that if she takes too long getting ready (which is established she does regularly) he'll leave without her. Guess what happens. And since it's a sitcom, guess who gets the blame.

[@IsMgb45]

Good to know that post 2 had a happy update, because the rest, yeesh

[@MarkNarrations]

very much wow!

[@MarkNarrations]

Yeah it's always nice to get a positive update

[@lessimeharuhi4236]

Labor and birth was 2 of the most terrifying moments in my life. I am a 2 time c section mom. Major surgery is a huge deal. Hubs was my birth plan partner. Guy is definitely NTA. Think of the new mom's perspective. Women historically have died in childbirth. Sometimes they still do from complications. The sister is the AH in the situation

[@abeloth7188]

The sister put her own emotional welfare above the physical and emotional welfare of a child a woman going through labor and a father as an adult she needs to be better. The family needs to be better and all of them can gtfo imo.

[@pennymissell4425]

NTA This is unforgivable for EVER she can get a do over you can never ever see your first child born I repeat never EVER forget

[@dragonrider1549]

Last story: I’m not saying OP isn’t the A-hole, but I have to wonder how different the comment section would have been if the son was 18. Literally 1 year difference. Because I notice Reddit is so quick to call 18+ people as adults and wouldn’t stand him mistreating his dad’s wife. But they are also extremely quick to say 17 and younger are children and treat them like they don’t know any better. While the son’s feelings are understandable, he is still old enough to know not to treat others like shit. Now if the OP treats him like crap, I wouldn’t blame him in the slightest for standing up for himself. But we don’t have that information.

[@alenasenie6928]

Story2: once I was showering when my sister knocked the door, she was on time, but her past behavior was the reason I was not expecting her at time, I was expecting her to arrive like half an hour after.

[@delmaplain5358]

NTA. Play crap moves, win a crap prize. She could have e delayed meeting w her father. Birth of child is huge, your wife needed you there, and you needed to be there.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Story 1 - even if she didn't know for sure what they were calling about, she presumably knew her SIL was heavily pregnant, so it's reasonable to expect that a call from her could be very important.

[@samanthadetgen5041]

First Story: as the wife, I would never forgive her. She would never meet my kid if I had my way. Good on Dad of enforcing boundaries with his family. I dont care how anxious you are, if you ignore calls from a woman who is about to pop while with the father, youre TA

[@sirenblack]

Last story: she just gave birth. There is no relationship to salvage or save. He is old enough to understand how things are and instead of blaming op how about his dad gets his son under control since this sound like it has been going on for awhile and if he is in therapy it isn’t working.

[@riceracm]

*STORY 1* In regards to the selfish sister? I. Just. Can’t. Even. With. That. Mess. 😧🤯

[@wmdkitty]

1: NTA. Sister could have rescheduled her meeting, but instead chose to tamper with OP's phone and not let him know that his wife needed him until it was too late. Fork her, she's a self-centered crapsack, and she deserves to be gray-rocked. 2: NTA. Boyfriend needs to prioritize and manage his time better. I bet if OP left on time and left him behind once or twice, he'd get the point. If he really cared about OP, he'd make the effort to be on time. 3: NTA. OP is the victim, here. Parents forced OP to be Sister's servant, and never stepped in to relieve her. Sister used OP as a servant, and her (alleged) "condition" as an excuse to be lazy and abusive. 4: YTA. For so many reasons, here. Breaking up a marriage, rejecting the stepson, replacing him with a new baby, YTA.

[@frst78]

I am SO sick of the term "parentification". It used to be called "being responsible, being a good sibling, or helping out because your f ucking family needs you". The entitlement nowadays is absurd. My step uncle carried his baby brother partly across Germany to escape the Russians during ww2. He was 7. Shame on OP for this attitude. Chronic pain is exhausting. Its debilitating and its unrelenting. As a child, she's still growing which takes a lot of energy to begin with and add this type of difficulty on top of it? No. Step up as her sister and be grateful it isnt you that has the illness. Siblings have a responsibility to each other out of basic human decency. This is the worst generation I've ever seen. Strong men create easy times, easy times create weak men, weak men create difficult times, difficult times create strong men. We are currently at the easy times create weak men stage.

[@rebajoe]

Yeah but their parents should've taken some of that responsibility too instead of putting all of it on op.

[@CristinaFrank]

Last story: I think people are being too cruel to OP. Her stepson basically wished her baby would die or OP would miscarry. He's being vile to her ALL THE TIME and big surprise she snapped from his shit comments, being hormonal from post partum. She immediately apologized after realizing what she said, but a soon to be adult doesn't have to apologize for the shit he said to her and about her baby?! Barf.

[@victoriaherndon6857]

She chose her nonexistant relationship with her deadbeat father over her seemingly very close realationship with her brother. I hope she chose wisely, I would never speak to her again.

[@crimsonbehemoth]

Story 1: as long as he isn't overly malicious its hard to blame him for however he handles what she did. Dad leaving in a few days so it isn't now or never and gone for a few months so it isn't permanent but the birth of your child truly is a once in a lifetime in the most literal sense for that child. He'll never get that back no matter what. I'm sure she truly feels remorseful for this but this is something words can't fix. She'll have to apologize with action, maybe help with baby supplies or chip in for a college fund or something. She gravely messed up for her birth but helping to provide for her future can be a nice start in patching things up.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I don't think she's remorseful, I believe she's faking it because she doesn't want to be in trouble and wants to play victim. I believe she's jealous that a little baby has a loving father and she has a deadbeat for one so she wanted to take away a moment that can never be given back because she's a jerk. I will cut her off and anyone who signs with her off, they would never be around my child.

[@wyvern723]

Story #2. My father in law does this ALL the time. We had a family trip to the beach this summer, and he didn't pack his stuff until they were supposed to pick us up for car pooling. My poor MiL had the van loaded and was waiting for him outside for a half hour. FiL is ADHD.

[@n.a.nameless5435]

S1: sister's dad "leaving in a few days" and "wouldn't be back for months" is not 'never again'. Sister was 6-7 when she last saw her father. Why did this deadbeat dad become priority over her brother becoming an involved father being present for his child's birth? OP lost out on a true 'once in a lifetime' moment as a direct result of his sister's actions. If I were the OP, personally, I would go NC with my sister, at least for a time, maybe downgrade to LC eventually. Zero tolerance permitted from family members trying to 'get me to see reason'. Scorched earth on everyone that feels to need to force their opinion on me. S2: Always allow twice as much time as you think you need for important things.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@louellacharlton4425]

Broken... Do you know I look for your post whenever Mark posts? Because you are ever hopeful in yours! You bring a smile always. So ty× a million. You never ask for anything, this makes me want to add something to your day as you do everyone's. So I hope for joy for you. I get it from watching my dogs( one right now complaining because I'm on phone. Lol) Be safe my friend. Peace

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@louellacharlton4425 awwww thank you so much, you probably won't be able to find me much this summer cause I'm quite busy much to my dismay, ill be posting like a few hours after it. I send all the hugs much love 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@DystopianOverture]

First story: NTA, I'd never let the sister near the baby ever. She's not sorry, she favours dead beat daddy more so why not let misery have company lol

[@the1spyderryder]

NTA You shoild NEVER SPEAK TO HER EVER AGAIN SHE KNEW WHAT WAS HAPPENING AND SHE SCAMED YOU BY KEEPING IT FROM YOU ON PURPOSE! NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN AND WARN YOUR PARENTS IF THEY SUPPORT HER YOU WONT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR THEY WITH YOUR CHILD.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

Hello, Mark and Poppy! I’m so sorry that I’m behind on your videos again. I’m fighting yet another migraine. It’s day 8 and I’m about to lose my damn mind! I just saw my doctor on Monday and we’re trying a newer preventative migraine medicine so please pray it starts helping soon. I have to start it gradually though. This week is one pill at bedtime. Next week it’ll be one in morning and one at bedtime. Then it keeps going until I’m taking two each morning and two at bedtime. I’m keeping my fingers crossed and my lips are praying. Thanks for being so wonderful, Mark. I love our community that you have started. It’s such a lovely place to be. Well, I’m off for tonight! Much love!

[@KCCAT5]

1. Yeah sounds like sister manipulated that phone so she can have you/phone? all to herself. I'd be pissed too.

[@moonkitty5274]

Story 2: I have friends like that. Depending on which one I tell them they need to be at the place 15-60 minutes earlier than they actually need to be. One of them I live near to as well, so I tell them 15 minutes earlier and then escort them from their house to make sure they leave on time (if we need to catch a train etc). Sometimes it’s funny, sometimes it’s infuriating.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Hey Mark. I would say the usual things, but that first story got me heated. Sister shouldn't have put her meeting above OP's daughter's birth. That's the first child. OP has every right to be upset and family should be mad with sister for that. If OP's wife or child were hurt, the family would be upset with her.

[@Mewse1203]

So... you know how Rslash has puppy bloopers? Well Mark needs Poppy bloopers 😂

[@Timbulathespidermonk]

I live a similar life as story 2 with my brother. No matter what the event, or time organised, or who did the organising, he is always at least an hour late. I once arrived at a medical centre to pick him up after a procedure only to find he was just running in the door at the time he told me he would be finishing (he had to reschedule, obviously). What I started doing was telling him everything we were meeting to do was happening an hour before it actually was. “The movie starts at 12” so when we turn up at 1, we are on time for the screening I’d booked tickets for. Easy fix. The passive aggressiveness isn’t as easy to fix. That would be a deal breaker for me.

[@AuntLoopy123]

Her "We won't be able to do this again for MONTHS!" does NOT trump "Literally Once in a Lifetime, can never, ever, be repeated" thing. How utterly selfish! For goodness's sake, what sort of an aunt does that to her niece, let alone a sister to her brother? I'm so angry on OP's behalf. OP, you're allowed to be angry. You're allowed to stay angry. Eventually, you're going to have to find a way to move on, but whether you allow her into your life again will be up to you, and you're allowed to cut off selfish, toxic people. She could have called a friend to meet her there, and taken an Uber, or driven herself, and let you go to your wife! But she not only stood between you and your wife and daughter, she LIED about it. Repeatedly. She cannot be trusted. So, how do you know her "apologies" are the truth? You don't. She needs to PROVE herself to you, now. OP, I say you are NTA. However, you do need to deal with this situation, one way or another, and not simply stew and fester. You need to make a decision on how to move forward in your relationship with your sister, or if this is worth cutting her off, entirely.

[@wendyh2708]

Always late BF: I'd be damned if I'd wait hours for anyone. We're suppose to leave at 1:00 pm then you bloody well better be AIS (ass in seat) or I leave without you.

[@succubitch1054]

Yes OP is TA in the last story but the son sucks JUST as much. Nothing gives anyone the right to blame people for others addiction, hes 17, he knows better. I dont care how he views his step mom or if he thinks she ruined his parents marriage (when its incredibly clear she was only involved in the end stages) hes old enough to know that people make their own choices and its no ones fault but his mother and her boyfriends that she is addicted and MIA. Its an everyone sucks.

[@MarkNarrations]

Why do I keep breaking into song in the intro? Not sure yet...

[@katiesmith2031]

I love it

[@Koji-Alistair]

Hi Mark, how's it going my guy? 😊😊😊

[@MarkNarrations]

@@Koji-Alistair Very well Rael but more importantly, how are you?

[@Koji-Alistair]

@@MarkNarrations I'm great whenever I see one of your videos pop up. 😊😊😊

[@anonymouspotato7538]

For story 2, ADHD isn't just being easily distractible. ADHD also comes with time blindness, for example I literally cannot tell the passage of time. What feels like hours might have been only 30 or so minutes, or several hours might fly by in what seems like just a few.

[@apopuffkin1717]

That is not a hard and fast rule though, I was diagnosed about 30 yrs ago and I am the opposite. I am always hyper aware of the time, either in being on time to things or knowing how much time I have to get something done as well as knowing how long something takes to get done. ADHD has a wide spectrum of behaviors that seem to vary wildly.