Skin-deep Narcissist, Skinless Borderline

[@hypejtp4053]

What chance does anyone stand against a narcissist if there’s no education on it in schools? It’s like been put into a ring to fight Mike Tyson, but you are wearing a blindfold and you don’t know you’re in a fight

[@Kerstin-p8h]

Could not have described it better.

[@yb6940]

Like this ! Thankyou

[@Kerstin-p8h]

Downside of that concept is,narcissists learn to adapt and modify their manipulative tactics accordingly.

[@pupper5580]

I have a feeling that one sign that you're dealing with a cluster B is when you realize that to them absolutely everything is a competition, and they're trying to win by the most underhanded ways imaginable (they play by no rules, everything goes), and perhaps they prefer it that you don't know that you're in a competition.

[@Kerstin-p8h]

@@pupper5580 If the figure ,they can't win, they just claim your qualities for themselves. Little by little, they will steal everything that's important to you. Coverts do.

[@sandranorris6374]

You have such a Brilliant way of describing the various Narcissists. I enjoy your metaphors… I’ m blown away 😵‍💫

[@mahernegm2553]

thank you Sam for giving this example

[@pattyrooney1323]

This is good! Thank you, Sam.

[@torrellmorton]

My borderline ex-girlfriend apologized to me. Three weeks later, she was upset at me again.

[@pupper5580]

sounds like hoovering, lovebombing, devaluing, and discard. you got played, sir!

[@torrellmorton]

@@JodiSamurai thanks a bunch

[@torrellmorton]

@@spoolstring1853 Wow. Interesting. They aren't even aware of their actions.

[@juligriffin2608]

@@torrellmortondon’t fall for her tricks again. Your defense is to not engage, and it works 100% as long as you follow through.

[@christinemckee7421]

My husband with narcissist tendencies says he’s realized there’s an inside part of him that he only shows to me. I believe he’s genuinely hoping to change. Please tell me how I can find a useful therapist for him.

[@dneyder]

I wonder if he might be on the autistic spectrum. We are known for self-centredness and especially masking. Any psychiatrist can test for this. If it's not ASD, and you think it could be NPD, find a psychiatrist who specializes in trauma. Good luck!

[@CatSchrodingers]

I wanted to ask a question not fully related to the topic. I would be very thankfull if Professor replied. But I would also be thankfull if anyone who is familiar with matter would state an opinion. I want to understand is my mother a narcissist or just a troubled person. I am not going to describe my whole life but the story is very long. 1. She would hit|slap me on the face if I did something wrong or if she was in the bad mood. That's almost my first memory. But she never beat me up. 2. We lived with grandparents until i was 7 then moved to a big apartment about 2 hour drive. But parents left my 13 year old sister with grandparents even though there was a room for her(they used it as a storage for mom's clothes). Mom didnt want my sister to come because she was a troubled child(always screaming and demanding attention) not because of mone issue or anything like that. 3. Everyday she would scream and say nasty things. Usually about me being very dumb(i was among best students in school). When i was little she would often say how happy she was before me. 4. One time i had tooth infection and they had to open my cheek and tooth area to let infection out. Doctor said not to rinse my mouth for 2 hours. The first thing she made me do at home is rinse my moth even though i told her repeatedly that doctor said not to. After that heavy bleeding started(hard to believe but doc cut some artery or something so blood was pouring out of my mouth as if i was the elevator in Shining). I spent a week in a hospital. She did call an ambulance. 5. When my sister got pregnant in her teens from her gangster boyfriend she made her do a very lateterm abortion(my sister was pressured). That day me her and dad went to a fancy resturant because she said "she feels like celebrating being young and not a grandma." But it might have been the only right choice. Sister's bf was a scary gang man. Now she has a monderful husband. 6. Mom is a doctor. She worked as сlinical psychiatrist. Took a mountain of unsubscribed drugs from her workplace and applied them to herself very often. I became aware of what were those pill only around 25 because i was quiet gullible. And there are a lot more of same type of stories. Keep in mind that i was fed, clean, clothed, educated, free to chose religious beliefs, profession, husband, provided all money i could need. Tv, books, games, computer - i had it all. There was yelling every day but NOT A SINGLE CURSE WORD. I know most kids had it MUCH worse. So does she seem like a narcissis or just a struggling addict? I also feel like she still did a good job as a mother just not the best. I never felt loved but always felt financially safe(that is A LOT). Sorry for the long story. Thank you fo reading. I feel depressed. And very hurt. I need to know how this story looks from outside perspective. I am still thankful to her and especially my dad.

[@mahernegm2553]

Great biology and psychology blind thank you

[@Marie-j8v]

Wish for a video: how much is staying loyal , not cheating (only!!) a decision? Means; how natural is it( for narcissists, borderlines, and/healty people, to NOT feel the need to fuck elsewhere /to not DESIRE even someone else ( saying the couple DOES have still sex)… so speaking about cheating NOT /not only …from a moralistic point of view.. ( do I expect to much to wish I always want to be the only and most sexy woman for my man? 🙈🙈😏

[@Georgia-i8k]

Monogamy is not asking too much. Honor your boundary, make it a deal breaker. Make it known to the other person. Then respect yourself enough to leave if it does happen.

[@ancusEIRL]

This is incredible. My kid's mother was bullied, she was called names like "ñañarosa" which is someone who has a "weak" skin so weak that even the bite of a mosquito leave traces sometimes life-long traces (very disgusting female skin). I am not quilified to assert totally she's a narc but what I've found with Sam's work is totally accurate from her behavior to how I felt those 5 years and what she told e she when though as a kid. Now I wonder how much of her skin and her mind is interwined. All the 9 month of pregnancy she hoped the baby inherit my skin. Now the baby is 99.999% like me and I think that's key variable in why she hates me.

[@LHanna-gn3qw]

I admire narcissistic people for being so confident, going out there, being in the spotlight and getting what they want. They thrive in this kind of society. Introverts simply have a very different lifestyle. But they also have their strengths 😉😶‍🌫️

[@Kerstin-p8h]

Narcissistic people feign confidence. They are at the core, very insecure and vulnerable.

[@misspeach3755]

You got the entire nature of narcissism wrong. They cover their emptiness and insecurities with an inflated sense of self (which really is not confidence, it's the contrary), lack competence and use manipulation and control of others to stay afloat. Nothing to admire. Only Jesus is worth admiring. God bless.

[@Dystopia2024]

"I admire narcissistic people"...Have you been diagnosed as one yet?

[@Dystopia2024]

​​@@likileexThere is no such thing as "healthy" narcissistic people. It's an oxymoron that belies the nature of a narcissist.

[@Milankoful]

You are wrong on so many levels... Narcissist can be an introvert, narcissists also aren't confident and going out there necessarily, they're often fragile and fake the confidence...