SLEEP TRAINING SUCCESS | Ferber Method || The Simple Life

[@torim.3865]

Getting your baby on a sleep schedule is not always easy, but I had a great experience with this method. I transitioned my son to his own room when he was 2 months just so I could get more sleep as I was already back to work. It was hard waking up every 30 minutes with all his little noises! He still slept in the rock n play until he was 3 months but at least he got used to his new surroundings before I transitioned him to his flat crib. One thing at a time, ya know? Then I did sleep training when he was 7 months old, which was recommended by his pediatrician. He was only waking once a night for a bottle, but he already weighed 23 lbs so he really didn’t need it because his belly could hold enough to sustain him for 11-12 hours. So I did some research and put him on a feeding schedule at the end of the day that included an 8oz bottle at 4pm, dinner at 5:30, and another 8oz at 6:45. He hated to be rocked so I would just lay him in his crib at 7pm and he would roll over and pass out. He woke up every night for about a week and I would only pick him up and soothe him a bit and put him right back down. It really wasn’t that bad for us. It also caused us some early mornings but that eventually stopped too. My baby just turned a year old on January 8th and is sleeping straight from 7pm to anywhere between 6:30-8:15am. HE LOVES TO SLEEP! And so do I 😉

[@deedeediner1]

I’m so proud of you all. It’s such a common sense method. This first-time mother in 1989, met with Dr Ferber at Children’s in desperation. Pro tip: if she gets sick and her schedule or routine with you becomes disrupted, you may need to retrain. My son was bothered by bad ear infection and quickly started falling asleep in our arms again. We were vigilant about keeping an approximate sleep schedule. And ps, your baby is not stubborn at all. It’s all what they get used to. Good luck!

[@jenniferweir9652]

This is my first night of sleep training. It’s been tough but watching this video has helped me get through the first two hours. Thank you!

[@ThaoNguyen-xo6kc]

Jennifer Weir how did your sleep train go ? Im gonna sleep train my baby very soon :( i have no confidence ....

[@kassidygray7153]

Jennifer Weir you let your baby cry for 2 hours? Ew wtf

[@bossladytv9324]

Kassidy Gray stfu

[@biancahazel1664]

Allie, I love how positive you are about this. I find sleep training videos to almost be 'scary' like all the steps and rules but its hard on mums and dads! My 2yo still wakes constantly in the day and night and I'm pregnant with number 2 due soon. To avoid making the same mistakes, I'm here for advice!

[@tammiejo]

My kid stays up ALL DAY no matter what I try. An hour nap would be a life saver for my sanity.

[@diana12101]

I haven't been sleeping for the last 7 months and I thought I would never do the CIO but I'm just very exhausted and I'm ready! Hopefully this will help me and the baby because it absolutely breaks my heart hearing him crying. 🙏🏼

[@Dawn2Dusk23]

Actually all methods are some form of cry it out. A baby has the right to express his/her frustration at the fact that he/she has to learn how to sleep independently (without sucking on a nipple, bottle, or being rocked, etc). Anything that doesnt include the sleep prop will cause the baby to cry. ANY method will produce some level of crying. It is simply the baby's only way of expressing his/her desire for the sleep prop. Until he/she learns, and rest assured this is something you cannot do for the baby,-he/she must teach him/herself, the baby will cry because it has no other way of expressing itself. You will be shocked at how well the ferber method works if done correctly. The baby will learn VERY quickly, IF you allow him/her to do so. There's different degrees of involvement you can have of course, and mom always knows best what is working or what is not, trust your instincts. Lastly, DO NOT BE ASHAMED. You are teaching your child a VALUABLE lesson that he/she will retain all his/her life. I know you are a great mom. A well rested mom and baby will be a happy mom and baby. ❤

[@Chels444]

Trying this next weekend. Praying it works. My daughter is almost 8 months old now and up every hour and a half to nurse back to sleep. I’m dying and my doctor said my body NEEDS rest. I hope this works

[@anna.m8]

Tell us how it goes

[@manyoebaye563]

How did it go?

[@kimbottema6190]

I'm definitely going to try this at night. I have guardianship of my grandson and having difficulty with the sleep thing. He's in day care during the day so I'm hoping this still works at night. Thank you for all of your tips.

[@lilysantorno7800]

Thank you so much for this video! So encouraging to not be looked down on for wanting to sleep-train my 7mo daughter. I am desperate for sleep but thought sleep-training would mean I'm a bad mother. Great video, and you both are beautiful!!

[@amandalynch999]

Allie I’d definitely recommend getting a monitor with a camera especially if you’re sleep training and going to potentially leave her crying for longer periods of time

[@kemisolaajuwon4866]

Thanks a lot for this video; this is encouraging.... just 2days ago, I tried the "cry it out" method and I didnt like it! Something snapped inside me.... just hearing my toddler cry "mama...mama" and I didn't go in.... it just broke my heart. Interestingly enough, it worked! ON THE FIRST NIGHT I TRIED IT! But I couldnt do it anylonger- because I was traumatized. Even though he can't remember the incident, I felt so terrible and guilty the next day. But I am sooooo sleep deprived, I want my bed back and my sleep so I will try the Feber method. I'm just so glad that I'm not the only mom who is so tender hearted when thier baby is crying excessively!.

[@simply-allie]

Kemisola Akintola you are definitely not the only mom who hates to hear her baby cry. I think it's something built into us. But let me tell you, the Ferber method works. My husband put Emmi down tonight for the first time ever, I didn't have to nurse her and she never made a peep. I know exactly how you feel. I have been there! But You will have that beautiful precious sleep soon, momma!

[@huttmuse]

Thank you for your honesty. When reading about sleep training it all sounds so simple but we know it’s not. My baby had a tongue and lip tie so always fell asleep while feeding and has a strong nurse to sleep association. I’m looking forward to teaching him to fall asleep on his own.

[@makitigano2502]

Did you made it?

[@erin6871]

you're a sweetheart Allie. We started sleep training our son almost a week ago. It was going great for a few nights..now it's awful! We need to make some adjustments. Thanks for filming this. I know this video is old and you may not see the comment, but I wanted to leave one anyways. Congrats on your new baby and God bless you!

[@carlmarquardt994]

Tired daddy here. At wits end. Just starting this for real today. Yes the crying is aweful.

[@daryl9003]

Carl, are you still alive? Dad tired here too, just started tonight!... so far only 2 smoke alarms went off...

[@carlmarquardt994]

@@daryl9003 yep still kicking on. Things have gotten better. Went through s terrible bout of eczema o we the winter. Now expecting number two in September! Best of luck Daryl.

[@rockinrocker473]

I’m so glad you posted this. I’ve been trying the Ferber method, just started last night and mom’s in my support group call it abuse, and say they feel bad for my baby and it’s making me feel like I’m drowning, on top of the fact that I’m already super heartbroken listening to my baby cry.

[@lashanteb2759]

So blessed by your humility, honesty & determination for becoming better! I don't know you, but there is so much love in my heart for you as a fellow mother, woman, and sister in Christ even if you are not a believer. Thank you SO VERY MUCH for sharing your journey. I wish you the absolute best in all you do with baby, AND in life, & I'll be praying for your family in thanksgiving. Many many thanks & much love! Emmy is very beautiful by the way, just like mommy ♡

[@roseroseroserose6958]

I agree with you LaShante. And blessings to you also.

[@teresaflores2862]

I'm sure you have some comments reassuring you this but...I'm literally just starting this method too and I have twins with very different sleep habits. Please don't be discouraged, I'm feeling very nervous and doubtful my babe will ever fall asleep but as I'm waiting to go check on her your video is slowly keeping me sane and hopeful. You seem very sweet! There's a lot of people in the world who hate this method but they don't know you, they can't come fly in on a plane and tell you how to parent your child. I've had to learn that the hard way, thank you for making this video you truly are a strong mother!

[@lynRed123]

You are sucha sweet heart❤️. My first daughter was a dreamy sleep training baby 3 nights and she slept completely through the night . My second child is now 5 months and I have been trying to sleep trian her for the last month🙄😢. I am trying this method tonight I hope so so much it works!! Thanks for being yourself🥰

[@melindaandon3249]

Any luck with this method?

[@playtheukulele4flores200]

To all mama’s out there ! Don’t let yourselves be shamed ! Do what feels right to you and for your child . Also and of course this method does not stipulate that you should let your child cry out of shear terror and panic. Hence why you have to go back to reassure them. I spent an entire year, waking up several times a night sleeping no more than a total of six hours in a night, (on really good nights) . Towards the end I could not function properly . Was constantly exhausted , a walk to the park felt like climbing the Mount Everest. Was I being a better mom because I never let him cry ? I don’t think so . I didn’t have the ressources to be really present for him anymore. To be joyful and spend real quality time with him. So mama’s before you get on the edge of burnout don’t feel bad for trying this. Be confident ! You are doing amazing ! You know your child better than anybody else . Much love to all and thanks for this great content ! ❤️

[@bettieeberhard4031]

Patients is definitely key when sleep training. We have co-slept with our 16m old since birth due to illness after illness. We had attempted to transition him in the past without luck, after watching your video I decided to try again. It took 3 nights and he is now officially sleeping ALL night in his own room!!! Thanks Allie!!!

[@verenaflamenbaum7617]

Bettie Eberhard was it difficult as at that age they can stand up in the crib? Mine is 9 months and loves standing and I'm thinking that's going to be a huge barrier for me...

[@alanagrace_]

This has given me the courage to try the Ferber method. I had a similar experience, she hardly cried during the process. For me it’s been about giving my daughter the space she needs. Shushing her and patting her actually stimulated her more, I found. And sleep deprivation can lead to postnatal depression so it’s a win win.

[@kadiemann9118]

THIS IS OUR SITUATION RIGHT NOW!! Ahh!! My son is almost 7 months and is up every 2 hours. I nurse to sleep and put him in bed with me after he wakes up the first time. It's sooo nice to hear your journey. I'm encouraged and excited to start this method! Thank you for taking me on your journey and being transparent! XOXO

[@inesec5158]

Hi! This is so true. My baby is 6 mo now and I have been breastfeeding her every 2 hours every night for all the time, as she wouldn´t calm down differently. So I have not slept for more than 2 hours straight for 6 months and now you inspire me to get my sleep back :) I hope to try it next night and hope to get through it well, as the baby deserves the best and we all need sleep for rest and development. Thank you so much for the inspiration!!!

[@simply-allie]

Inese Caune did you try it? How did it go? Once you sleep train and your baby puts itself to sleep, you'll ask yourself why didn't I do this sooner?! At least that's what I did. Babies are so smart and capable. They just need us to do our part and help them learn.

[@inesec5158]

Hi! I did it and it was only one night of cries. The next night she woke up only at 4am to eat breastmilk and then at 7 to wake up. So it was 6 hours of sleep instead of every 2 hours. The following night was the same and we are all happy with the results so far :) So it works!!!

[@simply-allie]

That is fantastic news!! I'm so happy for you. Keep up the good work, mama!

[@kealathefirst9472]

We’ve been trying to sleep train our 6 mo daughter since she turned 4 mo with no luck. She hates the swaddle but it’s the only way she’ll sleep. Even then she’s only out 1-2 hours at a time. I’ve gotten away from feeding her to sleep. She plays a little after eating and before laying down. She’s exclusively breastfed. She fights sleep terribly during the day and worst of all is the last time before night sleep. That final time putting her down sometimes goes on for hours. We’ve both tried EVERYTHING we could possibly come up with. From the time she’s tired and ready to finally giving in to sleep she’s up and down. CIO can go for hours. We’re at a loss and I’m exhausted. When she’s busy around the house with dad she can go as long as 4 hours between feedings. Not sure why she can’t at night. What did you do differently to get your baby to sleep for longer periods of time?

[@drunkcraft7194]

The amount of mom shaming happening in these comments is disgusting.

[@12345BEP]

Letting your baby cry it out is disgusting

[@alanaliddell2437]

Ivey are you a parent? Sleep training isn’t letting your baby cry themselves to sleep, you have to teach them to sleep by themselves at some point in their life. It’s not disgusting and I don’t know why you choose to post negative things on here. You can HAVE your own opinion just keep it to yourself ok? Thanks

[@AnahataMaryjane]

@@alanaliddell2437 i have two children and i never let them 'cry themselves to sleep' . if a baby is crying it needs something. even just reassurance they are not alone. to leave them by themselves for a long time is abusive. i'm sickened by this stupid old fashioned thought. selfish thinking about yourself before your own little innocent baby. my daughter had colic and i was there for every moment of her discomfort trying to help her feel better. i never shut the door on her and ignored her.

[@daryl9003]

There is a simple and easy set of guidelines to ensure that your child is safe and comforted. One of the ground rules is that a child who is sick shouldn't start sleep training. If your baby is colicky then you did the right thing by being there. However, there is good evidence that sleep training a healthy, happy, and loved baby is good for both baby and parent. This doesn't have to be your cup of tea, and that's perfectly fine.

[@amandacarden3483]

My daughter hit 6months and now well she use to sleep great. Now she is crying out thru the night.. for the last weeks.. I'm so drain.. she been waking up every hour.. but I'm definitely going to try this method I'm at the point to give it a shot..

[@lja000]

I am a grandma now. I did this when my babes were around 6 months....but there was no name for the "method" lol. I remember our 3rd child more for some reason. We prepared for 3 nights of no sleep at all. This actually worked the first night ... So we were elated. The hardest part is to not pick your baby up during one of the times you go in to comfort. Don't give your baby milk during the night .... Offer only water. You are a wonderful mommy! P.s. I had my 6 month old and 2year old stay for 3 days and 2 nights unexpectedly. I knew they didn't have regular nap times and often cat-napped. This grandma needed a break! The baby awoke after about 45 minutes ... That's not long enough for either of us...so I just patted her bottom and shushed rather loudly and for as long as I could each time. Keep patting and bouncing and it worked...yay! She slept a total of about 1 3/4 hours. Also required her brother to have a quiet time...whether he fell asleep or not. Just peeked in to make sure he wasn't up to something. Momma might want to check out KZbin for "pink noise" .... I have used box fans for "white noise", but I discovered there are other colors for sounds! I love the pink noise.

[@bubblieemma92]

My baby is 18months old and STILL will be up every 1.5-2 hours 😭 I have not slept a full night in so long I think I forgot what it’s like to be able to continuously sleep without being woken up to screaming 🙁 I’m trying to sleep train tonight for the first time with him, he is a total mommas boy so it’s tearing my heart but I know we both need this... wish me luck mommas♥️♥️

[@davidasingleton8943]

Hey. How is it going? New mom over hear to a 4 month old Currently going through the 4 month regression

[@marie1hummingbird]

My baby is 4 months old and she sleeps throughout the night but she does not fall asleep until midnight or even 3 a.m. and then when she starts tossing and turning I wake up change her diaper breastfeed her and she goes back to sleep and wake up at 11 a.m. ... You are tough I cannot let her cry it out. Good luck!

[@simply-allie]

HappilyEverPierre you might want to try getting her on a schedule. Babies thrive on schedules and might help her go to bed earlier. Also, i found that changing in the middle of the night just woke Emmi up more and I learned there's no need to change wet diapers, only poop. Another thing, I tried sleep training Emmi around 4 months and she wasn't quite ready yet. Around 6 months was when Emmi was ready but all babies are different. I am not tough and yes hard to hear them cry. But the Ferber method helps so much because you get to check on them at intervals and reassure Baby (and yourself). Good luck to you!

[@mariekomax8155]

Omg that’s how my baby is exactly and I tho knots because I slept late and I stopped changing her during the night and now I’m going to stop the feeding so she’s not use to it

[@amyrichard5764]

My little Ava turned 5 months today. She's been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 months old. She still sleeps in her Halo Bassinest right next to me. I know I will need to transfer her to her crib in her own room very soon because obviously she's starting to outgrow the Bassinest. I'm hoping this doesn't change her sleep patterns. Has anyone who's had a good sleeping baby have this change once they switched to their own crib and room? I feel bad for all mommas out there who still can't sleep through the night. I have been blessed with a baby who loves to sleep and she can put herself back to sleep. Just hope it stays this way when we transfer her in her own room...I will be using the ferber method.

[@simply-allie]

Amy Richard you have definitely been blessed! I don't know if Emmi had an issue with the transfer because she wasn't sleeping thru the night when we moved her to her own room. But I hope your transfer is seamless! I would love to hear how it works out for you guys!

[@429Sweets]

Thank you so much for your honesty and transparency! I currently on attempt #2 for sleep training my 8 month old and watching your video gave me the confidence to stick to it. You’re right, it’s not easy but it definitely will benefit everyone in the long run.

[@Maria-Aus]

This is so honest and such helpful information. Thank you! Im trying to sleep train our 4th baby who is 10.5mths and waking every1-2hours at night and ALWAYS nurses to sleep...i find sleep training the hardest part of having a baby! It drives me crazy- never know what to do in each situation. I am hoping to start this weekend...but my son cries so much he sweats every time i put him in his bed so I'm so hesitant...but i am beyond exhausted!

[@mrsluna8473]

I needed this video. My son is almost seven months and hearing him cry makes me go into tears- it's hard. What if he needs me or is scared? Apparently they cry out of frustration that they can't sleep but doesnt feel that way. He gets up every hour and I also have to nurse him to sleep even though I've tried every gentle sleep training method! Have always thought this method was cruel because I hadnt truly read about it. Thank you!

[@munazzafatima1775]

Hi! I am trying to sleep train my 4th month old, your video really helped me. As a first-time mom myself I understand how you are feeling. Thanks a lot for this upload. I usually never watch 30 minutes videos but I am glad I did!

[@simply-allie]

munazza fatima I know, it was a long video but I wanted y'all to come along and experience training with me. Maybe one day I'll do a short video explaining the process. Wishing you the very best as you start training your precious little one. It's not easy, but it's so worth it! Let me know if I can help in any way ❤️

[@munazzafatima1775]

The Simple Life Thank you! She cried a lot last night! I'm gonna wait until her next appointment, ask her pediatrician if it's too early and then start again.

[@simply-allie]

munazza fatima I found that when I tried at four months, Emmi just wasn't ready. I'm sure your doctor will give you some good advice. That's where I learned about the Ferber method!

[@munazzafatima1775]

The Simple Life Thanks again! 🙂

[@hannahcollings6358]

My doctor told me you shouldn't sleep train a 4 month old as its really cruel due to the sleep regression targeted around this time.

[@jhan1290]

Having the same problem with my 6 month old. I will be trying this and hopefully it works

[@simply-allie]

Jhaneal Lee I'll be thinking of you. ❤️ It worked for us and I hope it works for you! I'd love to know how it goes for you.

[@cynthiatroutman2968]

Thank you for this. I have 8 month old twins that wake every 1-2 hours which means I’m up all night. They have to nurse back to sleep. I can’t do this anymore. I was against any sort of cry it out this whole time, but I can’t keep this up. I will be starting sleep training tomorrow night. I’m scared because my girl twin can get herself very worked up and her brother will cry out of sympathy. If I can get at least one baby to sleep better it would help so much.

[@stern2221]

Did it work? I have boy girl twins as well. Sleep training seems to be working, we are at night 11 of sleep training

[@amyhansen1592]

My son is almost 7 months and we are about to start sleep training! I’m a very exhausted momma too! Watching your video for tips and tricks. Sleep training is difficult no matter what but with Ferber method at least we aren’t leaving them to cry with no reaction. Stay strong you’re a great mom!

[@fatoumatabarry3980]

Wow your baby has made this process easy for you. I’m glad. We’ve been at it for a week and still he cries himself to sleep and naps are still a mess. Every time I put him in the bed he cries. And today he refused to nap without my help. And I gave him because he was really tired smh

[@MissingMayberry]

I did this method and it worked in 3-5 days!!

[@shortyLORR]

We are working on it now. He does very well, but then will have regressions. It's day 5 so I hope in the next few days there is more consistency.

[@MissingMayberry]

Laura Williams best of luck to you and baby! Consistency is key momma!

[@MissingMayberry]

Amy Anderson my first son was 12 weeks. I only did it because we got to the point I was having to rock him so harshly to get him to sleep and he would pop his eyes right open when I laid him down. I was doing this for hours. I finally said no more. It took 3-5 days and he understood when I put him in his crib it meant it was time to go to sleep, i didn’t even have to rock him anymore! You know your baby. Try it and if it seems like the baby isn’t taking well, wait a few more weeks and try again.

[@shortyLORR]

@Amy Anderson I know some people start sooner... But the official AAP recommendation is no sleep training (crying it out) until 4 months (using times checks with Ferber method) and no full extinction until 6 months. There's lots of things you can do that don't require crying at a for younger babies though! Like putting your baby down drowsy but awake.

[@ivywright3564]

Expecting my first baby! So annoying when people say my baby will just end up sleeping in my bed for a LONG time and there is nothing I can do about. That is not what I want at all! I read "On Becoming Baby wise" and will be trying that out when my little guy gets here. Thanks for sharing your experience! Great video.

[@simply-allie]

Ivy Johnston Baby wise is amazing! I can’t recommend that book enough. Co sleeping is totally for some people, but it’s definitely not for me. And YOU set rules and boundaries. Not baby. Just follow that book and you will be just fine 💕

[@littlean24]

Ivy Wright- a lot of people say a lot of different things to you when you are pregnant. Truth is this is YOUR baby and you will do what you think is right for him. If you choose not to have him in your bed, he won't be. Hang in there sis!!!!!!

[@Megan.A.Ells.]

My doctor recommended this method, so I’m getting ready to try it out! Thank you for your input!

[@gnomeoundjuliet]

starting it tonight! she is 8 month old

[@kathrynmolesa1641]

A happy mother makes a happy baby.

[@heididoty4903]

Allie! I love this soooo much and was so encouraged! Ollie was sleeping in a bassinet in our room, but we just started putting him in his own room this past week when he turned 5 months! My mama heart has been aching, but he is sleeping better thankfully! Now, ah I just need to get better at naps! I have totally been nursing him to sleep always, but starting to make some transitions here and there. Anyway, it was so encouraging to know I am not alone! Definitely will be trying this method while giving myself grace. I love your channel and totally would loooove to see more mommy videos!!! Thank you!

[@simply-allie]

Heidi Doty how is sleeping going for you guys?

[@aqilakhanum794]

She seems a happy and easy baby

[@adriene9487]

Going to start this today with my bubby. He will be four months next week, but he has already started his four month sleep regression. Wish me luck! I'm not looking forward to letting him cry it out ='(

[@lakotasaunders]

Just came across your channel and this video which was recommended to me. My daughter is 4 months and I hope to do this method when she is 6 months. As a new mom as well, there are SO many different ways, methods, BLW, all sorts of things out there and I have found it difficult to find my own way for my daughter. I’m looking forward to binge watching your videos!

[@LoveIsKind2008]

Loved this video, thank you for being so honest. My baby # 3 is 15 months old and doesn't really nap during the day and takes ages to settle at night time. I wish I'd tried some kind of sleep training with her when she was younger

[@Lailas92]

Oh my! As if you're describing my baby!!! He's 6 months old and since day one he's been alert, awake, and energetic! The older he gets the more active he gets and now that he's 6 months crawling and sprouted two teeth it's so hard to sleep train! I don't know if he's in pain from teething and that's why he's crying and cranky and refusing to sleep or if he's just extra spoiled and wants to fall asleep on my chest. Nonetheless, I give in and pick him up and nurse him to bed. He only naps 2 times a day for a total of 1.5 hr-3 hrs. And at night he's up every two hours or less 😩💔 I tried the CIO method and the Ferber method and for some reason I just can't get him to sleep on his own

[@simply-allie]

Laila Ibrahim bless your heart. It's so hard not knowing why they are crying. 6 months was when I started sleep training Emmi. Might I suggest, give Baby baby ibuprofen before bed for his teeth, make sure baby is well fed, diaper changed and dressed so he won't get hot or cold. Then when he cries you will be able to rest assured he is perfectly fine, just fighting sleep. Try the Ferber method again. I swear by it. Also, since he is used to eating every two hours, his tummy might not be able to go all night. I kept one feeding in the very middle of the night for a few days. Also, try keeping to a schedule for naps during the day. When I did this, Emmi thrived and would take two naps during the day. They have never been long naps but still, she slept! I understand how you feel exactly, momma! I want to rush to my baby's every cry. We, as moms, can't help it! But, as Emmi has gotten older, I've realized how teachable they really are and how badly they need to learn to put themselves to sleep and spend some time alone. I'm here for you if you need support or have more questions! You CAN do this!

[@lovebaileymarin]

I literally loved every minute of this super real video and I NEEDED IT. You are so kind and genuine and I’m grateful for you 😄 we’re doing Ferber method and it feels right.

[@giselleguido5807]

We're on day 2 of the Ferber method and it sucks. 😭 my little guy wakes every 2 hours to comfort nurse and without that he's throwing the biggest tantrums. He's 8 months... I need some motivation to keep this going mamas! I'm so sleep deprived!

[@JC-mp1nv]

giselle guido How has it gone for you? I will start the Ferber Method tomorrow and would like to know how it has gone for you so far? My baby is 6 months, and she also comfort feeds at night every 2 hours😪😪😪😪😔 did you stop with the night feedings? Sorry to many questions.

[@JC-mp1nv]

Nadiya Nanoha I stopped trying this method, tried it one time for 30 min, could not stand seeing my baby cry. Even though she had been fed and changed she cried like she was screaming for me to help her. I gave in, and she was so sentimental afterwards. I felt so bad, all she wanted was for me to hold her and comfort her, I'm the only person she trusts. She will only be a baby for a while, I should enjoy it. I saw it from the positive side, she's 7 months now still wakes up, and I enjoy watching her comfort feed 😁❤ Love my baby, and will do anything to see her happy😍

[@giselleguido5807]

It's been almost 2 months and it has been night and day with my little one. It takes a lot of time and patience. My mother in law stayed with us for a week and ever since then he is only waking 1-2 times at night! Day naps are good practice, no more feeding to sleep is the biggest game changer! Baby will learn to fall asleep on their own. Good luck mama!

[@hitchtxgirl3176]

just do it, there's nothing worth doing that is a shortcut or enabling that just ends in disaster later

[@hitchtxgirl3176]

oh no i didn't mean with comfort and love, i mean with the mechanical aspect of not getting full and restful nights sleep due to continuing the old habits. if that makes sense...

[@deanndrawhite3896]

I’ve been watching your videos for awhile now and I don’t know how I missed this but omg I’m so thankful I did. I’m late in the game my son is 8 months old and I sleep nurse him to sleep and we wake up every hour and I’m like omg I need sleep I’m going to try this method fingers crossed that it works. THANK YOU 😊

[@manyoebaye563]

Did it work?

[@CirquedJoy]

I started at 4 months because I also have a stubborn baby who was sleep through the night some nights, but not consistently, and then he started a bad habit of waking 30mins after putting him down for the night. The night he turned 4m he did it, and I turned to my husband and said, "You know what, we're starting sleep training right now." I knew he was ready because aside from inconsistently sleeping through the night, I had personally witnessed him wake up and fall back to sleep on his own while in there refilling my diaper caddy at like 2 weeks.

[@CirquedJoy]

He would also smile when I came into visit in the middle of the night before sleep training, and when they're doing that you know they've got you trained.

[@MalonsMilk]

I'm doing this method as I type! Its so so hard and even harder when you take the dummy away as well as I found that it stopped my baby from sleeping. She is crying right now for her morning nap and its breaking my heart. She made it through the night but woke 4 times. I got up with her at 5:30am this morning to give her cuddles etc. During the night she did put herself back to sleep every single time without full on crying. Roll on 2 days time where things MIGHT start to get better,,,,

[@daniellepappas4940]

i am going through this right now my son is 5.5 months and been screaming for 2 hours straight sigh im trying so hard to be strong

[@simply-allie]

Danielle Pappas I feel ya and I'm so sorry. Try this method and see if it works. It's so much easier on both you and Baby than just straight up crying it out. Best wishes to you and let me know if I can answer any questions or just be a support. Be consistent and It gets better! ❤️

[@LindsaySatmary]

It's SO hard when babies don't sleep. My first baby was so easy and my second didn't sleep for an entire year. I had trouble with CIO. More than 5 minutes stresses me out so it didn't work for me, but this method sounds like a good compromise.

[@elsiebloom806]

You are so beautiful and you have the sweetest voice and your Bub is adorable! Good luck with the sleep training and thanks for your help!

[@simply-allie]

Elsie Bloom you’re so sweet. Thank you! 💕

[@marypeloza8499]

Hey! I just watched this as I am trying to figure out how to sleep train my little boy who is also just over 6 months! I am super happy I came across your video, and I love that you're honest about everything. I started with naps this morning but am nervous to try the Ferber method tonight! Thanks for your honesty motherhood video 💛

[@danielsantossantossantossantos]

How did it go?

[@judithmorales550]

I'm so glad I found this video I'm definitely gonna try it. I've been looking for something I can relate to all the other baby videos are for like sleep training a newborn and I'm almost 6 months behind lol

[@simply-allie]

judith morales oh my gosh girl, I don’t know how to sleep train a newborn. I, on the other hand, and a pro at training an older baby. It makes sense to me to train them later anyway. So you are not behind! You are right on time 😊 I wish you success and precious sleep for the both of you very soon 💕💕💕

[@mishanyna]

I don't know what to do. He falls asleep on his own (door shut) for the naps, but night sleep is a nightmare (( I'm so exhausted. Was trying Ferber method once for the night, but it made him sick. ((

[@Athomewithshelley]

New subscriber, my baby is 8 months old and wakes up to feed only a few sips of milk to get her back to sleep every 2 hours, every single night and my hubby works away - I am sleep deprived and cannot carry on like this for much longer, I cannot bear to see her cry so I dunno ! argh x

[@ThePsmith1985]

Shelley Mummy Vlogs try Just doing 5 mins of crying it out then stay with baby in room for 10 mins then let her cry 10 mins, sit in for 10 mins, let her cry 10 mins continue this till your wee one sleeps. The first night took 2 hours, second 1 hour and the 3rd 20 mins it gets easier

[@michelebranch2687]

Hey! I just watched your video and started sleep training tonight. My baby is 5 ½ months and has been driving me and her father crazy. I can’t remember the last time we got a decent nights rest, or time to really spend together. Thank you for being honest about your mistakes! I hope that this method works for us!

[@red881109]

Michele Branch how did it work for you?

[@RushingLove]

My 7 month baby girl is not catching on. We have been doing this for a few weeks and tonight she still cried for 30 min 😭 it’s killing me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong

[@mirakampker8338]

Your baby seems to be a healthy baby who still has some trust in you. Babies don't understand why they're left alone and therefore cry. When they stop it's no sign that they know how to sooth themselves but of giving up. You're Baby just needs you. That's normal and a good sign.

[@FL-Man78]

Ive had to revert back to putting 1yr old in the swing which we never used until a few months ago. I had to try something as she would scream and scream and stand up in the crib as soon as we would lay her down. Now the car seat and swing are her best sleep spots due to the restraints..its like she feels them knows shes stuck in the chair so might as well sleep lol. The problem started when she learned to stand up. we could not get her to lay down in the crib. Also if she falls asleep before 10pm she wakes up at 1-2am and is ready to play like it was a nap as in 2 weeks ago she did not go back to sleep until around 7:30am. She is regularly up to 12-1am now with sporadic 1-2am. I hate the thought of her feeling like I abandoned her or I wonder if allowing them to scream like that causes emotional damage. I mean think about it our nature and our ancient history until the last few hundred yrs mothers kept their babies very close at all times because of natural dangers. A baby obviously understands parents=survival. Many animal babies cry when separated as a survival mechanism. So is there psychological damage in the distress of this crying?

[@simply-allie]

James Bromley bless your heart! It's true that when babies learn new skills (like standing) it can disrupt their sleep schedules for a bit. That's where sleep training comes into play. If I may, I suggest you get Baby on a schedule. Babies thrive on schedules. I put Emmi to bed around 7:30 every single night. At one year of age, babies should be able to sleep through the night. Them being able to put them selves to sleep is a life skill they will use for the rest of their lives. I know it's so hard to hear them cry because our mommy instinct kicks in and we want to comfort them. I believe mom's should do what they feel is best for their baby. But I personally believe in my baby sleeping when she should, for her sake and mine. As far as letting them cry harming them psychologically, I don't believe it does. Although I am no Dr. We give them all the love they need during the day, and we meet all their needs before putting them to bed (fed, warm clothes, dry diaper). Their only issue should be that they don't know how to put them selves to sleep. It's our job as parents to teach them things like how to walk and talk and sleeping is just one of those things we teach them too. You might want to double check with your Ped about the Ferber method. My Ped was the one who introduced it to me. Wishing sweet sleep for you and your baby soon! ❤️

[@innavecherkina8631]

Very helpful, detailed video. Thank you so much for posting!!

[@DesireeMonette]

To all the negative comments: EVERY BABY/PARENT IS DIFFERENT. DIFFERENT METHODS WORK FOR DIFFERENT BABIES/PARENTS ! This method worked for me being the only care provider with not much help at all! Mothers need a break to be mentally and emotionally stable to care for a child at the best ability. although it may seem cruel, it’s a cruel world! Just like when birds teach their babies to fly, they do or they don’t. 🤷🏽‍♀️. Lately I have been waiting 5-10 minutes of crying and I soothe and put my son back in the crib as many times as it takes and he goes to sleep!

[@lilaoquin6528]

Just had to say that you both have gorgeous eyes!!

[@simply-allie]

3TeasInAPod aww thank you 💕

[@TheLeanchen]

Hi everyone, maybe somebody can help me.. My baby just turned 7 months, he is bottle fed since 4 months and eats solid foods twice a day. So recently he's been really good at naps, I do eat-play-sleep-play, he always falls asleep on his own. At nighttime as well. But when he wakes up he doesn't fall back to sleep. I don't understand why he's not settling himself again when he wakes up during the night, because he CAN fall asleep on his own. Every sleep training says like "your baby has to learn to fall asleep on his own, then he'll sleep through the night"...am I the only one?? He wakes every 3h but he's not hungry. I'm not expecting him to sleep 12h but at least 6..

[@samanthaj4561]

Thank you. I really enjoyed your video. It was good to see another mom going through the same stuff. Emmi is adorable and you are a great mom.

[@simply-allie]

Samantha Jardine thank you! Not going to lie, we have had to sleep train several times because we have moved and then Emmi got sick. But every time the Ferber method worked great! You can do this, momma!

[@erione3865]

You are amazing. Thank you for being so real about everything you said.🙏🙌👏👏👏👏

[@AubreyTheMomLady]

Omg she is adorable! My baby girl is also named Emmy and we are READY to sleep through the night too!!!

[@nathicana1349]

Its harmful to just let them cry it out,dont be surprised when you gonna have depressed toddler

[@amberladd8961]

We're about to start doing with with our 11 month old. He NEVER sleeps through the night and its getting too hard. I still have to nurse him on and off all night and I need my sleep back badly. Wish us luck!

[@simply-allie]

Amber Ladd almost a year is a long time to not sleep thru the night. You deserve to sleep! Best wishes to you! You can do this!

[@traniecelewis9896]

Amber Ladd hi Amber I am in the exact same situation right now with my 11 mo daughter. Did this work for you? If not did anything end up working.

[@katieleigh2934]

Eat, play then sleep First night: 5 10 15 Second night: 5 10 15 20 & continue Third night: 5 10 15 20 30 & continue Fourth night: 5 10 15 20 30 40 & continue Is this how it goes?? I’m kinda confused how you explained it. I need help! My baby girl nurses every hour of the night also! She’s 5 months.

[@rhodad1673]

No its 3,5,10,10 5,10,12,12 10,12,15,15 12,15,17,17 15,17,20,20 17,20,25,25 20,25,30,30 You dont let baby cry for more than 30 minutes. After about 2 weeks, you may want to try a different method.

[@katieleigh2934]

Rhoda Dinkley thanks but I posted the comment two months ago. She is officially sleep trained, took one week for us. I had bought the book. Thank you!

[@beautybykristy]

This video is so honest, thank you! :)

[@simply-allie]

beautybykristy thank you! ❤️

[@davidlinch2130]

This was great, thanks, been searching for "tips on getting baby to sleep on their own" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my cousin got cool success with it.

[@fabian8813]

I discovered this video on Calmer Fixer Blueprint - there's lots awesome videos there that will help out

[@themasterbower]

This video is so helpful! Thank you for making it and being so vulnerable.

[@mrs.bonilla4008]

THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! I’m a first time mom and have a 2 1/2 month old who’s sleeping with me since day one bc he’s EXTREMELY STUBBORN! I’m sure 2 1/2 month is too young but I CANT put him down at ALL!! I have to hold him for all his naps. So we’re at our wits end about what to do and if we need to wait until 4 months for sleep training. He hates anything that moves so nothing like that has worked. At least I don’t feel alone with this. Thanks again for this video.

[@eline2511]

May I ask how long it took your little one (now 5-year-old) to learn how to fall asleep in his crib? My little girl is 12 weeks and will only nap in the carrier. And at night will only fall asleep while nursing. Any tips would be greatly appreciated🙏

[@christinecunningham7990]

Very helpful and encouraging thank you 😊

[@melh3941]

I can't imagine how hard this method is. I guess I've been lucky with all of mine. Glad it worked for you tho 💖

[@ThaoNguyen-xo6kc]

Hi ! I know this is an old video from 2 years ago, but i found it so helpful , im gonna sleep train my baby in a month... i tried to put her down in the crib but she is just playing in there without crying ... i dont know what to do

[@vmarianasm]

Hi Allie! My boy is almost 7mo and I’ve been trying to sleep train him as he wakes up every 2-3 hours each night as well 😰 not for the feeding, how is it going now that Emmi is older?

[@marybrewer3824]

You've made.me excited and confident to try this sleep training method with my little one!

[@jenniferhernandez9426]

Omg yessss I feel the same way!!! Love this video!

[@allycoles213]

Just watched this and wish that any form of sleep training would work but no, my 6 month old is climbing already and the second I put her down she’s up and climbing so I’ve been trying just patting and shhing but she just constantly wants to move around! Luckily once asleep she’s down till 4am

[@sarahalferty1992]

This is the first video I have seen of yours. It's funny I immediately thought you looked like the actress Emmy Rossum and then that is your baby's name!

[@monikazawadzka4819]

I like your video a lot. I honestly think that your Baby did good for the first couple of nights after her 6 months vaccines. My Baby sleeps amazing after vaccines.

[@stephaniemorris3461]

How long did you use the sleep sack before you started sleep training? I want to start sleep training my baby but he is still using a swaddle, and I don't want to stop the swaddle cold turkey and sleep training on the same day.

[@toricorrianne8767]

Stephanie Morris I have started leaving one arm out and I’m going to do that for a week or two and then take the other one out of the swaddle for a week or two. And then hopefully she won’t need it anymore.

[@smenthajahn6053]

For me the best one is "healthy nursing tea" it works wonder

[@marybrewer3824]

Love this!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video!!

[@vanessashare1415]

Omg this has given me so much motivation to start. Breaks my heart hearing him cry but I gotta do it. ❤️🙏🏻 thanks girlie!

[@CristinaF210]

Amazing mommy thank you I'm 48 years old I did the same without knowing any methods I just used common sense and for sure I wasn't going to raise spoiled brats with pacifiers or always picking them up oh no they are born with a lot of self sooth mechanisms but we must let them have time to know how to use them , babies are amazing they learn fast Just like if you pick them up more than 3 times after the first cryYou just spoiled it pretty much foreverThey know and they are very manipulativeBUT also very smart to know better so you as the mother and father teach them all life's skills:) great video very proud of you

[@shru1014]

Hilarious to think a six month old knows how to manipulate.

[@yensounta6501]

Thank you SO MUCH for this!! You have given me hope. I am all for attachment parenting but sleep is a major issue for us. I would really appreciate your response here: Is your sweet baby able to sleep okay when you are out and about? I.e., if you visit a friend/in laws, if you are out (mall, park, etc)? In case your outing runs into nap time, have her sleep training allowed her to sleep in those situations or does she have to be in the exact same environment that she was sleep trained in?

[@simply-allie]

Yensoun TA Emmi is and always has been very alert and observant of everything around her. She won't fall asleep say, in a store but she will fall asleep in the car which is something she wouldn't do before training. Also, training has allowed her to nap when I lay her down at other people's houses but she has to have her lovey, a noisemaker and it has to be sort of dark in the room. These are her sleep cues. I would love for Emmi to be a baby that sleeps under any circumstances but that's just not her. But with sleep training at least I can set her up for success and she gets the nap she needs! I believe in sleep training and I know you can do it and will not regret it!!!! I'd love to hear how it goes for you! Or answer any questions you might have!

[@yensounta6501]

Thank you for your response! My babe is the same way--super alert since Day 1. She is almost 4 months and we have sleep challenges that I hope to work on when the time is right but I want to get as informed as possible now. She nurses to sleep currently and takes all her naps in the swing. She wakes about 3-4x/night to nurse/comfort. I'm exhausted but hoping for some light at the end of the tunnel. I go to my in laws and parents house quite a bit during the week so that's why I was wondering about napping at other people's houses. Thanks for that! Did you have to let her CIO at their house or does she go to sleep okay? I foresee my in laws having an issue with letting her cry. Also, when did you introduce her lovey? I have a couple now but not sure when it's okay for her to sleep with it. Thanks again for your support Mama

[@ashleyhier525]

this iss my situation!!! 100% hahah gill im here with u n this is my 4th baby cuz i hte too hear them cry!!

[@mykevbes4693]

Do you have to start at 5 minutes right away or can you start with 1 minute and work up to 5

[@HarryFANGIRLPotter]

I know someone who did this method and started at 3 min first and then 5 next

[@emilly1987]

The video has been up for 3 years. Now your little angel must be a beautiful toddler. Can you tell us if what you said about sleep training being the most difficult thing there is still true? :)

[@brianaferguson6772]

Thank you so much for this video!! ❤️ very helpful :) I’m Starting tonight! Wish me luck! Lol

[@ashleyweber5278]

Sooo I tried this last night with my 4 month and 1 week old daughter. Had to go in after 5 minutes and 10 minutes, then she fell asleep it was great. She was asleep by 7:50. Then she woke up at 11 and I had to go in there once and she fell back asleep. Then at 12:50 am she woke up, I went in there a couple times. She never calmed down and it was 1:30 so I figured it had been 6.5 hours since she ate so I nursed her and put her back down. Kept going back in, in the intervals until 3:30 am... I gave up and brought her into bed with me. What do you do when she won’t go back to sleep in the middle of the night?????

[@red881109]

Ashley Weber did you find a solution?

[@kathrinehernes]

Give her love and comfort.

[@poppychiquita6665]

I'm trying this with my son he's 10 months and still up 5 times during the night it breaks my heart to hear him cry but I'm not being my full potential of a mother running off no sleep :(

[@capelli1087]

My baby is 10 months now... Did it work for you? How long it took? #askingforafriend 😭

[@poppychiquita6665]

@@capelli1087 I gave up because I couldn't listen to him cry 😢 hes still not sleeping through wakes up 2 ot 3 times now x

[@randyb637]

The thing that I don't understand is when you reassure them they say dont pick them up isthat correct

[@kathleenbolanos]

Correct. Some methods say rub their back and pat them. But keep it very short. Like 30 seconds. But never to pick them up

[@ashlieleavelle]

Yes. Don't pick up. A quick back pat. No talking.

[@kailit9984]

Thanks for this video! My baby is only 9 weeks but he has been bed sharing with us and I also nurse him to sleep bc other soothing methods take forever and don’t always work either. I might try this when he is 6mo also. Do you think it work if we transition from bed sharing to his crib and his own room? Is that too drastic of a change?

[@corinsoelberg8122]

Thank you for this video. Also, you are gorgeous!

[@runningsocal00]

Oooohh- I’m having trouble sleeping. Will you sleep train me?