Growth in Modern Family

[@SloanStowe]

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[@constellationshots3893]

I agree that Jay’s character arch is slow and necessary. Like you said, it retains viewers who typically wouldn’t watch the show. It also makes his growth more rewarding, I don’t think Mitch and Cam’s wedding would be as impactful without Jay growing slowly. The one thing that always bothered me though was Jay and Phil’s relationship, even though there is progress at the end of the episodes, I feel like it was off balance for the entire show.

[@davidmylchreest3306]

My favourite episode is the Disneyland one, for the speech Jay gives at the end about staying in an unhappy marriage for the kids, and the beam on his face when he thinks about how happy he is now with Gloria and Manny

[@ShirLibra]

I think its also interesting to point out, in case some people arent aware, that Ed Oneill, the actor who portraies Jay, was also the main father figure in the 80's very popular sitcom Married with Children. I assume many bummers or older viewers recognized him and that familiarity helped them connect to Jay and the show in general.

[@weirdotter3044]

I see a lot of criticism of gay characters that prioritize palpability to straight people, and I think it's unfair to look back at older media and compare it with the landscape now. You bring up a very important point, that it's harder to see nowadays, because we have more and better representation. We can have that *because* of characters like Cam, who were one of the first positive portrayals of gay people in a sitcom. Like my country just legalized gay marriage, most of my family can't stomach "Love, Simon" let alone something more complex.

[@TheBlobblinMaster]

every single video you have made, makes me view media in a completely new way and makes me appreciate the shows even more

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

Same

[@maridi5328]

BABE WAKE UP SLOAN JUST POSTED 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@hazzastargate2762]

I'm here. Insightful episode

[@Rainsittingoutintheleafboat]

God, your style and narration is so perfect 🍋 Wish you start making more videos. I would kill for a House M.D. video Also : the Mentalist video is probably the greatest YT debut in history 👏

[@arealdog4259]

i recently finished this show, and it was far and away my favorite sitcom i’d ever seen… seeing this posted less than a couple days later feels like it was made specifically for me. thank you, sloan :)

[@michelleheegaard]

Jay is by far my fav character in that show. He is such a complex character and I love that underneath all the hard exterior, he is a soft kind-hearted man that would do anything for the people he loves. Including changing his own perspectives on the world

[@ReneeTopanga]

what a way to start 2025 a NEW SLOAN VIDEO i'm so excited bless u queen

[@QuixoticPoett]

I think Modern Family is the best sitcom ever. I would love to see a b99 video

[@UnderWater-FireWorks]

And the good place too, honestly any michael shur's shows would be nice!! A man on the inside was great too

[@QuixoticPoett]

@UnderWater-FireWorks When I think of sitcoms long series come to my mind that's why i didn't mention the good place but i really love that show too. I haven't watched the other one yet tho, so i can't comment on that

[@yene5358]

A Sloan video on Modern Family!?? What a way to start the year!

[@kezia8027]

I think a lot of people fall into this trap. Growing up in the 90's allowed me to see the tail end of the major LGBTQ+ rights movements and acceptance - things like Ellen coming out as gay, or similarly, how a show could only have gay characters in it, if it was a "gay" show a la will and grace etc. and talking with younger LGBTQ+ folks these days, so many are completely unaware of what life used to be like, only 10-20 years ago, and as a result, completely dismiss older queers lived experiences.

[@geministrial950]

This ^ It's actually baffling how easy it is for some young queers to completely dismiss, not to mention harass older queers for things that you literally lived through and we're there to experience

[@minimuffinmug]

New year, new video! I love your videos, thank you for a new one. Your voice is amazing

[@fantasticmadness13]

Honestly i only have 2 modern family development issues i have issues with - how the family treats alex - Haley

[@justjoannak]

Agreed!

[@Beanhill_94]

Oh god they treat Alex so badly.

[@geministrial950]

But isn't that realistic? Families always mistreat the nerds, especially nerd girls

[@ashofalltime]

a great retrospective. ive been sharing more time with my parents lately and rewatching this series for old time's sake. it truly was a great step forward in television, especially for that era of entertainment.

[@greeplurch]

I've never seen an episode of Modern Family, but you bet I'll be sitting through this entire essay.

[@mavka.chorna]

Phil Dunphy is the kind of father I wish I had growing up.

[@alexcoal5111]

I LOVE your videos! Found you on accident with the bojack grooming video, now after that two different mornings after different parties I've happened onto one of your videos for that good morning, wake up, 1st video of the day listen & I've had to stop what I'm doing & share your content with friends. Thank you! Great work, voice, & insights!

[@natashambulo3510]

First! Also i see a release from you i lm there. Loved the mentalist video

[@theoneandonlyphineas]

Phil is like the most loveable sitcom father.... only topped for me by Hal from malcolm in the middle.

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

The episode when they have family therapy … Jay makes me cry just thinking about id

[@elastichedgehog6339]

Keep it up; always love your videos. Happy New Year!

[@Pingviinimursu]

You got a sponsorship? Was this your first? Either way, you go girl! Get that bag! Really well done segment as well 😊

[@Vervada555]

I would love to know if you have seen Psych and what your thoughts are on it! There is 8 seasons and very well loved by a lot of people!

[@joshuabrown4775]

So weirdly I just watched a few episodes and in season 4 episode 19 around 3 minutes in, Jay says he never finished college. So that answers that question 😅

[@josh-richards]

Another great video!

[@jiyanajojo9489]

This was a great video! Jay, when looked at more closely, can be a complex character even with all the lingering stereotypes. Also, I'd love to see a Gilmore Girls video soon. Perhaps some commentary on female friendships and stuff? That would be kinda cool

[@btxica4416]

I think it has more to do with people being a contradiction. Not all people but most of us tend to love the ones around us and respect them while being frustrated by their decisions or character. I think is compatible

[@EverythingxYourexNot]

Great essay! 🥰

[@melanierojo2125]

Today I realized how excited I get each time you post. Your analysis is always great

[@XyName]

I agree with everything you said!

[@BoliVic96]

so well put it left me wordless but still gotta leave that comment for the algorithm gods

[@marchingham]

Another banger video!

[@hidansektas]

partied a bit too hard yesterday. just what i need

[@Burlesquemushroom]

Thank you

[@deandredukes95]

Happy New Year 🎊🎆🥳

[@hazelsingh3887]

May 2025 bring more video essays about Modern Family (please 🙏🏼)

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

one hour ago HAPPY NEW YEAR INDEED

[@michaelbrennan9156]

Honestly MF had the problem of 2 creators with different visions for the show

[@nickw7418]

❤

[@BetyH-hh1rk]

I wonder if you would like to look into the casual misogyny and sexism in modern family?

[@firechild81022]

I‘m not okay with how short this video was 🥲