Social Anxiety - Hidden Killer Of Narcissistic Abuse

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

new course on overcoming social anxiety www.richardgrannon.com/course/overcome-social-anxiety

[@annamae4042]

Hi, not sure if you/staff can answer, I'm wondering if the course could be adaptable to combine with an illness or disability that leaves them more housebound than others, if not thank you for the video and the impetus and I'll keep looking

[@Smeegheed1963]

Yes, I've hidden from the world for many years and now its just my life.. On this journey I found how to look within, shining light on my shadow and finding that direct experience of my senses is enough. I don't feel alone, although as far as 'society' goes, I am. For anyone else like me who has no social circle or inclusion, don't be upset or lonely. Solitude is a blessing in disguise which need not lead to poor mental health... just the opposite. It can lead to profound self realisation and peace. Think less, love more!😊

[@Agheel963]

Couldn't have put that better

[@Smeegheed1963]

@Agheel963 🤎!

[@petemoore8923]

Yes. I spent a great deal of time in my own head and it comforted me.

[@natalie73animals]

I agree. Solitude is a blessing when you enjoy your own company.

[@petemoore8923]

@ Wow! I never thought of it that way. Thank you!!

[@hettykoster9447]

My favorite quote “ On the other side of fear lies freedom” ❤

[@ranc1977]

I like how Grannon pinpointed like laser sharp - social anxiety and narcissistic abuse. This is like Greta connecting climate chaos with corporations and capitalism.

[@lisapotter3052]

Greta is hired by corporations to push their green agenda making them $billions.

[@First.Lastname]

Amazing. I struggle explaining to my family why I feel safest when I am isolating myself and avoid being seen by other human beings.

[@pthhhhht]

...solitude has worked for me far more than any desire to run with the sheeple, which is how I ended up getting past the past....

[@jimmydean4444]

I developed severe social anxiety while with a covert narcissist.

[@Notoriousvicorious111]

I don't think I Had social anxiety until after dealing with the narc

[@joelmeikle1811]

Me too, it took me years to be able to go places on my own again. All I did was go to work and go home and hide.

[@ranc1977]

And then self help books and CBT tell us that we are being irrational and that we are imagining the abuse. Brainwashing us once again - just like narcs.

[@emmabby22]

@@joelmeikle1811I understand that completely 😅

[@andrewsmith3257]

​@@joelmeikle1811 I'm probably going to be an outcast forever tbh

[@momo-challenge]

@@andrewsmith3257me too.

[@aldowilliams4765]

My trauma has resulted in horrible social anxiety despite me being a naturally very extroverted person. It’s excruciating and I have to get rid of it.

[@The_Salty_Siren]

Omg my social anxiety got HORRIFIC. I’m just now coming out of hermitude 10 years later & ONLY on KZbin to socialize. I had to reflect on why i accepted this type of relationship & now that I am ready to integrate into society I see the vast majority having so many cluster B characteristics. Am I the common denominator? Idk… all I know is I certainly am going to be way more selective….

[@lreevesnyc21]

@@The_Salty_Siren you get now you are not alone so many of us fine, empathetic people have been hurt and betrayed. Lovely , caring people that gave their lives to these people , had children with them and they discarded us. I call it emotional rape. Does society expect a women to recover from rape. Emotional rape is no different. I We are a community of survivors who know this pain. And with the support of this community who VALIDATEs our pain, supports us like a parent support their babies attempt at their first steps on this earth. Beautiful.

[@The_Salty_Siren]

@@lreevesnyc21 thank you so much. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this 💗😭

[@Smeegheed1963]

@@lreevesnyc21 I hear you and agree. The validation is so valuable along the way. In a way it gives our heart permission to open again. Every bit of pain we felt can become like a petal unfurling to reveal the most beautiful flower. I think it's a process though, we must let go of the pain, now validated. If we imagine a rose bud opening, each petal must realise itself, feel the Sun and open, allowing the next to follow in turn. The process goes on. Our heart breaks, we reopen and so on. A constant pulse🤎

[@isthisshit4real]

​@@Smeegheed1963- This is lovely. So poetic. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 😊

[@locaitaliana]

Here’s a positive thought. Can you completely heal from all this toxicity including social anxiety? YES. I promise you-there are WONDERFUL people out there! Please don’t think the whole world is bad! You just have to find us, we are here! Be fortunate that there are so many resources now! You are going to get bombarded with more narcissists I promise!-Get ready! They are in your job, in your friendships, in your personal relationships, in politics. Validate yourself guys and you are GOOD TO GO! Protect yourself. Heal up and Shield Up. 🛡️ 🗡️🏴‍☠️

[@Agheel963]

Thanks. My anxiety is slowly decreasing since getting away,it's tough

[@denine5232]

Yes! 💯 💪👍🫶Thank you for this comment

[@locaitaliana]

@@Agheel963It’s MEGA TOUGH. I promise, once you get over that last hurdle, it’s pure euphoria, you are finally awake, in control, and realize what has been going on your entire life. And now you can actually get to the point where you LAUGH at them when you see them! It’s glorious!

[@locaitaliana]

@@denine5232You bet!! Keep strong, remember the only person that will ever love you the way you want to be loved, is YOU! So do it!!!! Someone’s got to take care of that little child inside you and make them feel love-and you are the best person to do it!❤

[@lreevesnyc21]

@@locaitaliana great comment. So supportive of the truth of our world now.

[@weird_al77]

I could write a book about this. I'm a lifelong sufferer of social anxiety disorder, like properly life limiting. Nrought up by anxious parents, my dad especially is extremely anxious and had a huge effect on me as a kid. I've never had any ambition, my whole life I've really just wanted to stay at home. I hated school, I was measured as having an IQ of 135 in a random test while there but always just wanted to do the bare minimum and get home without being noticed. As an adult I'm not much different, I managed to get a degree but struggle with even low paid work because I'm terrified of making mistakes or upsetting people, and I can't handle responsibility for very long before my mental health starts to crumble. So the "being seen" thing is spot on! I try to hide from everything and everyone as much as possible. I've tried everything to find a way of making a living without having to deal with people, but so far have failed. I am trying to write and illustrate a kids book, but with my head and my non-existant self esteem, it's not going quickly. Unfortunately, I also decided to marry what I now know to be a narcissistic person when I was young. For someone like me, people like that seem amazing, and when they pick you they make you feel so special. Suddenly this beautiful, loud, driven person blew into my life and took over. I didn't have to worry about what I wanted any more because I just did what she wanted. We were together for 11 years and married for 3, before we married the mood swings and emotional abuse were bad enough, but once she'd had the big white wedding and found herself married to a nervous wreck, she became horrible. It turned out she'd cheated on me several times throughout the relationship, including having an affair with a married man when we first got married, so when things weren't perfect it was nothing to her to just find someone else, kick me out of our house, move him in and carry on as if nothing had happened. Made me feel worthless. Still do, tbh. I can't blame her for my anxiety though, I was like this all my life, and for a while she was actually good for me. Before we married especially she was even supportive at times. But dealing with being discarded like that and the smear campaign that went with it was horrendous, and the long years of being alone since aren't making recovery very easy. I've been through CBT 3 times and transactional analysis therapy once, I do OK while I'm there but once it stops I slip backwards every time. I dont think therapy will help me, I think this is just the way I am really. I will definitely give the new course a look though, can't hurt!

[@Smeegheed1963]

@weird_al77 Our stories are so very similar. It feels as if there's an order of society which operates at a higher level and has no time for us, it just wants us to go away. But you're not alone in this. Nobody is better than anybody else, we just express ourselves differently. Wherever you are, right now, just feel your own being.. recognise when your mind starts activating and taking you down various roads and at that point, just deny it that action. Look at what you can see, feel what you can feel... these things do not contain any anguish and that is the escape route.

[@stephenfredrickson4722]

And you're not weird! You have spirit attachments from trauma, unforgiveness,etc

[@mattcole6292]

Both my parents and both my siblings enjoyed the narcissistic abuse, pain and confusion they inflicted on me. I'm good speaking 1 on 1 with people I meet but when I'm in the company of a dozen folk I feel autistic. Now I live in my car in the bush and am happy in nature but everyday I feel resentment percolute up when I remember the narcicissistic abuse I endured and the social inhibitions I developoded and missed opportunities. I wish I could go back in time and address the monsters then walk away much sooner. Recent learning about the NPD/ empath scapegoat relationship has helped be aware of what happened. It is clarifying but some trauma resurfaces. Am glad to be in nature. Socially I am inhubited and have missed many opportunities. My hightened sensitivity has made me very intuitive.

[@BuckeyDooDoo]

I have cptsd and social anxiety. Both my parents were abusive. Mom was a drunken narcissist. I'm 65 and still deal with the effects.

[@user-lt3yb4fm6q]

Me too. 23 years of therapy and treatment, still having horrible flashbacks. But at least I have managed to break the family curse, it ends here I wish you all the best

[@ranc1977]

Complex PTSD is social anxiety. It is only CBT and self help books that are mis-presenting social anxiety as some sort of insignificant teen shyness issue of going to parties and chatting with girls there or going to grocery story and chatting with clerks.

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

I feel your pain. I've had an entire family system who abused me. No chemical reason, just sadistic people. I'm 61, and I'm still suffering from that...yet I still ended up in two toxic long-term relationships that ended badly. How do I do that after all the abuse I lived with as a child?

[@user-lt3yb4fm6q]

@LolaAileenVanslette I have been through something similar. My therapist says its because we grew up in a toxic family. We're so used to being doormats. We choose bad partners later because it feels like home, and also because we have no understanding of what a normal relationship is. We mistake our body trying to warn us for butterflies. Toxic people can read that we will not defend our boundaries. At this age I have come to realise that if someone is very charismatic, or it moves too fast, you fall in love head over heels, RUN. Take your sweet time with every person you meet. Stay on the middle in life, it might not feel as exciting, but the outcome is way better Big hug, stay safe

[@ranc1977]

@@user-lt3yb4fm6q Yep. This is where self help books and CBT messed my mind. Psychiatry tells us that we need to socialize. That avoiding and isolation is bad for mental health - and that we must be around people. Psychiatry does not explain what happens when we live in Shame based culture country with many toxic people around sucking energy like energy vampires with shaming others.

[@5EmBem]

School bullying makes you socially anxious. Growing up in an environment where you were constantly invalidated on the top of that then the relationship with the narcissist is the straw that breaks the camels back, the isolation alone takes away any shred of confidence you managed to muster up after years and years 🤨 Not necessarily narcissistic parents, definitely toxic because of emotional immaturity. They didn't know how to regulate their own emotions so how were they supposed to teach us? Definitely a combination of things to consider how you got in to that type of relationship to begin with.

[@nickus51]

Social anxiety post narcissistic relationships seems to bo so long lasting like it never goes away. We become hypervigilant and find it hard to trust others. It is so energy consuming.

[@Tdawglove]

Fr. My entire life seems to be centered around dealing with my social anxiety which I think just reinforces it 😢😢

[@YThatesTRUTH]

Think this was spot on. I dealt with crippling social anxiety most of my formative years. Bullies and parents that "pounce". Got over it but then was with poster child NPD woman. Self isolated. Attacks by other narcs were worse and the cptsd had me hyper vigilant and reactionary. Think the good advice take away is that for me the healing might also be found within other human relationships as well. Thanks for the insight and thought provoking video Richard!

[@KnellzBellz]

YES and that's also one of the hardest parts of the healing process imho, because in order to regain any kind of healthy relationship muscle, we HAVE to choose to trust people, and that is scary af. Rooting for you!! 🙏🏻

[@amgod40]

I did the same thing. Loved away from my hometown and started a new life. Great job, working out, eating well, but got sucked in my a covert who kept it hidden for about 3 years. Lost everything I had built by falling in that trap.

[@rebeccabowdentarot1584]

The part that really hit home was when you said about our reactions being disproportionate.

[@ashleyalicecullen]

I was forced to regularly attend a Pentecostal cult at 12 years old and within a year in a half I could no longer leave the house without severe physical symptoms. I became a shut in, quit public school and went to the churches school program. Debilitating social anxiety from 13 to my late 20s. I finally overcame my fears and now I work in food service.

[@elkekirkpatrick6481]

A friend I trusted got me into the Pentecostal church as well, very deceptive, put my whole life on hold to "serve God" and now it's cost me so much I am scrambling to clean up my life from the devastation. Sending you hugs, you deserve every bit of love and peace and joy you gave up earlier, please be your own best advocate, I'm rooting for you!

[@weird_al77]

That is really inspirational! It's amazing that you've got through it, well done!

[@KnellzBellz]

Ugh I feel this SO HARD. What saved me growing up was having a fiercely non-judgmental friend group that was my non-blood family. By the end of my relationship with my ex, though, it was worse than ever. I constantly felt like I was doing something wrong and everyone was against me. Thankfully, I was also able to recognize it for what it was - a symptom of the trauma and NOT my identity. I don't wanna live that way, I'm not gonna let that SOB turn me into a shell of the person God created me to be, so I've been forcing myself to engage in social activities (even when I really just wanna hole up in bed with my cats 24/7). My church family has been amazing in helping me heal in this area. In fact, I have a shindig with a couple of my homegirls tonight. Breakfast for dinner and a cheesy Christmas movie. 😬😭🤣🥳🥰 Stay strong, my friends!!!!! Do whatever you gotta do to keep going!!! 💪🏻✨️

[@WeR1bodyNChrist]

❤ Only time and tears take away grief; that is what they are for.

[@truditrudi753]

Most times others don't care if you have social anxiety and are judge and jury to the afflicted. Hence a double kick to deal with.

[@torque9889]

Do what I did and move to a cabin in the woods. I’m genuinely happy living with my animals and with nature. Maybe some of us were just meant to be old school hermits living away from the world.

[@christinelommer2289]

Thank you ❤ I am 71J. After my last toxic relationship my heart and soul was totally brocken.During the last 2Years my english florished With your Videos 😂 I am very thankfull, that you share your helpfull knowlege with us. Rarely to find an therapist in this terible constellation. 🎉❤

[@spleenog]

Yes, wow. I felt almost in danger being seen, but my subconscious pushed me to allow myself to be seen rather than continuing to hide to remain 'safe' in order to get better.. i.e. sitting in the middle of the room with my back to the door and facing people, instead of going for the corner and facing the door.

[@MrRicehard]

There are no people who have values or interests like mine. It would not surprise me to find that I am not from this planet.

[@isthisshit4real]

Hey, I'm not either. Maybe we're from the same planet? I always say I'm too boring. I'm a woman and my main interests are computers, research, and reading. Kinda fits with my hermit status and the whole difficulty with socializing. I don't really have social anxiety, exactly. For me it's more of a general disdain for social norms. I think they're inhumane. I'll give you an example. Culture - a social construct which tells us how to behave - teaches men to suppress their emotions and women to be "more" emotionally expressive. Then, boys and men who aren't "manly" enough are relentlessly teased and/or rejected by their peer groups. Girls and women who are "too emotional" - whatever tf THAT means like there is some book you're given - are called "crybabies" and told they are "too sensitive" i.e. THEY are relentlessly teased and/or rejected by THEIR peer groups. This planet and all of our cultures are insane. If you haven't found anyone to mesh with, maybe you're like a whole lot of us here, and being alone is where you feel most comfortable. I LIKE being alone. I always have. Nothing wrong with it. Society pushes everyone to couple up. Well, I'm in no rush. The only relationship I want is with a four-footed fur-baby. I love dogs! I love cats, too, but my brother is allergic to them. 🙁

[@Person-jn8pf]

So so glad you’re discussing this🩷🙏

[@ddemaine]

Thanks

[@amybreunig1214]

Thank you for explaining this. I thought it was just me.

[@amybreunig1214]

I just bought yout book. I'm so excited to hear it. I've waited too long to get it. Thanks for all you do!

[@mats6504]

This is so true for me. I always thought I just was an introvert. My covert narcissist mother has trained/conditioned me from early childhood (for as long as I can remember) to stay away from people.

[@numberiv1137]

I'm at the point where I couldn't give less of a shit about having social interactions with others. I'm just fine alone and I've always been.

[@jajajajaja357]

Me too. I am not so sure it's healthy though. My amazing husband loves being with other people.....I hate it. He is constantly nagging me to meet the group of (apparently really special and loving kind, simple living, great values, out-of-the-matrix thinking...) new friends he found through the times of the plandemic-resistance. I think I am going to go with him soon to one of those meetings.....even if that really takes a lot out of me. This video made me think that my "I HATE OTHER PEOPLE" attitude really is doing nothing for me. Yes....there are narcisstic bastards around me in my office ......but what if there are amazing people to meet as well out there? Maybe there are amazing human beings that I really should meet......we just have to search in the right places.

[@pamvarnsverry2444]

@@jajajajaja357 I don`t hate people - I just need to keep any interaction to an absolute minimum, I am sure this makes me appear anti-social and withdrawn to them but my mental comfort comes first. I am done being used to create an environment for others to take advantage of.

[@saraho5846]

Sigh, the world I’m living in

[@larshesthaven5828]

Narcs are the worst social killers against humanity...get away from any kind of narcissism and psychopatic behavior and save youself once you find the knowledge and power to free yourself...it will take time to get over it and heal your wounds, but one day you will open up to the world again and become socially connected, if you like...solitude also has its benefits getting to know yourself and enjoying your own company...but being social is a deep part of us..chose wisely

[@VisibleTimes]

Well said 😊

[@jeremiahalexander5513]

That explains a lot about me. It begs the question, are introverts born or created through abuse, conditioning and coercion? Great video!

[@petrhorak3268]

Yes, I wonder the same. Idk why is still the introvert-extrovert so accepted in the society. No one is born an introvert or extrovert I think. If you look at North-Korea or similar narcissistic dictatorship country, almost everyone born there is quiet and “introverted”.

[@ARandomGuyyy]

This came at the perfect time. I was talking to my therapist today, and when she leaned over to really listen to me and watch me compassionately, I felt like she was pointing a gun at my head. I've had multiple of these experiences, and I always wonder why I felt so terrified. I have stepped away from my narc mom and am now recovering. I do notice some improvement for sure and am more able to talk to people. I would always tell myself I was good on myself and very introverted, but I was just feeding the narrative because I can actually be very social at times. Thanks so much for these video's. I finally found someone who understands what I'm going through!

[@blackcatno9]

I feel that. The gun at my head.

[@ranc1977]

Most therapists have no idea what is trauma.

[@user-lt3yb4fm6q]

Richard, this is a tough one to hear. You're totally right about it all. Thanks for your work

[@erockfreedom6399]

Can it lead to being reclusive, over time? I find myself in thst space. Grew up with narcissistic parents, consecutive narcissistically abusive relationships in adulthood dating back 10+ years ago. I am not around other humans. It is very hard. Thank you, Richard.

[@collie8]

if you were growing up around predators, you don't wanna be seen. Think of great masking in animal kingdom.

[@5o4NOLOVE5o4]

great response! when giving advice you have to provide a cadence for the target to understand youre not labaling them and contradicts, only, a positive " only" reaction.

[@ThanePL]

Valuable input. I am currently on the path of opening myself to new perspectives and trying to think outside of cptsd patterns. The idea of "damage has been done inside interpersonal relationship space so healing probably should be done inside the same space" is very valid. It's absurd how obvious it may seem, yet had to re-open mind to it to even notice.

[@ManifestationsOfTheLight]

Yep. Flawed by the mere sight of them. Every. Dam. Day. It’s just not worth It. I’m not up to their challenge anymore. There is no reward. Only disappointment and danger. ⚠️

[@ranc1977]

It is important to discuss social anxiety through the prism of narcissistic abuse - because main medical answer to social anxiety is misleading and misdiagnosing people - CBT and self help books industry and most of social anxiety vids are explaining massively to people that toxic people do not exist, that reaction to abuse is imaginary and over reaction and not real. That there is spotlight effect. Socially anxious are gaslighted by CBT - just as they were once again by narcissists when they were in mobbing jobs and toxic contacts with various dark triad types.

[@Tdawglove]

There dwfinelty is a spotlight effect that ppl with social anxiety have though. We always feel like ppl are looking at us even when that is not true. I think it has to do with the fact that narcs obsess over their victims and are constantly bothering you and trying to get your attention and energy it makes u feel liek there is always an eye on you (spotlight) even after u do leave the narc.

[@ranc1977]

​@@Tdawglove The problem is that when we believe in Spotlight effect - we will forever be stuck in self doubt. We will reject our inner voice, our hunch when something is off. People wear fake social mask. In reality we never know what other people think and what is their true agenda. I believe with exposure to narc abuse, ACoA - over long period of time - we have ability to detect small changes and predict future danger - which abusers themselves are not aware of. It is said that our subconscious mind can process billions of bits of data and has ability to predict future abuse and danger. I believe with exposure to neglect and invalidation - our brain is activated and this is what CBT will quickly label as "spotlight effect" and being "irrational". In my own case - each time I felt uncomfortable around certain people - it always turned out to be correct. But it took 10 or 20 years to see that I was right. CBT is forcing us to doubt ourselves and hence to stay stuck in permanent social anxiety by denying our insight and belief in ourselves.

[@GloriousEagle69]

i lost 15 years of my life and im completely ruined.

[@CountessLydia]

I have experienced all of what you described but I’ve lucky enough to get involved with an online community and ended up going on holiday and being on the phone with with some of them ❤

[@PowerGurhl]

This is sooo on point. I began to have social anxiety. The man I was with was extremely jealous and he make it known every time someone looked at me or hit on me or complimented me he’d make it known at the end I just wanted to be invisible I didn’t want anyone to see me for fear of him making up a fight at home later

[@petemoore8923]

I’m not sure where I was before I met my wife. I’ve always been kind of been a loner but was still very social at times. We moved to her family compound/farm 500 miles away from my support system and I ABSOLUTELY developed social anxiety. So much so that it was uncomfortable for everybody because I wouldn’t go to Sunday lunch when the whole family gathered. I tried not to interact with anyone in the family as well. It was awkward. I also didn’t want to go anywhere outside my comfort zone. I could grocery shop once a week but that was different. But if I saw somebody I knew in the store, I’d go the other way. This video answered a lot of questions. Now that I’ve moved back home, I don’t give a sh*t and can talk to anybody anywhere.

[@clairexxx0405]

Thank you Richard all makes sense to how we get to the situation of leaving our home becomes terrifying which is confuzzulating when being inside with my abuser was in a different way terrifying.

[@chrislyman37]

Thank you, Richard.

[@AussieNomadTarot]

I would love info for your next live, I would like to be in the habbit of catching one a month! Great content, currently enjoying my safe hermit space.

[@oanaalexia]

Try the notification bell for the new stuff. Also, never forget about his older content. It's very good stuff and you can analyze the thought process that brought him to today's conclusions.

[@CarleyMarley24]

I've been dealing this recently. So this is validating thank you.

[@lo-ul8nq]

My mother is a Covert Narcissist

[@MariaMartinez-xm4fl]

💙

[@honeybadger3408]

B. Every job I ever had was Military/Federal. I wore many Uniforms my entire Work History. Hiding in plain Sight, if you will. When I Retired is when the Isolation kicked in BIG time

[@oanaalexia]

I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. I understand a little bit of what you're going through. Both fortunately and unfortunately you are not alone in the things you're feeling. That thought alone helped me stay away from suicide. It's like I always know and feel that I'm not alone with my sadness even if sometimes I wish I could be.

[@megangibson6890]

I was bubbly and a social butterfly prior to the lockdowns - now I’m an anxious wreck around people. It’s frustrating

[@nynke5739]

I have developed social anxiety after my narcissistic relationship in my early twenties. I am 26 yrs now. I used to be a very bubbly and open person. Totally not afraid of people. Since I developed social anxiety I never felt like myself again and it is so painful. I am hypervigiliant now and afraid to be seen, but also afraid to make others feel uncomfortable. While I used to be good at making people feel comfortable in the past. It makes me hate myself at times. I am so scared this will be the rest of my life and I will never feel like the old me.

I remember struggling with this in my earliest memories and still to this day.

[@kingaogiegloabstractpaintings]

im coming out of 9 years of social isolation, no kidding ,estranged from my brother, made a scapegoat.slowly starting to connect with people online and off line.uff.

[@MariaMartinez-xm4fl]

😳... And me thinking: "I am an introvert!"... 💙Richard...

[@Sunsittingdownclown]

Social anxiety started at a very young age for me. It's why I used to be a drinker around people. Made things much worse.

[@bigcazza5260]

i trust that all people really couldnt give a shit when push comes to shove

[@lenavonstein9671]

This one was for me. Thank you so much.

[@noaboa5670]

i met one that was so disturbed i could feel their unholy vibration in the air.

[@CroisMoi]

I wonder if they are possessed sometimes.

[@noaboa5670]

⁠i think they are. But im the kryptonite to them. I am very passive but if i question something i dont stop until i get a real answer. my secret skill is making them self sabotage. Its funny because they avoid me like the plague because i know their secrets.😂 They are terrified to be known as exactly what they are. Thats why its always about keeping the ego narrative alive and using aggression to get people to drop it. 9/10 times make them feel little and they give up and run away.

[@AnimaMea1111]

Spot on as usual 🤍

[@Plumduff3303]

Spot on sir

[@evapawlowska]

Actually in just the last two days I finally set my mind to power through no matter how I feel. Ol reliable lol. Woke up with nerves of steel. But this route is easier. And healthier :)

[@grimmgaming156]

I had really severe social anxiety, then I started going out, getting better, then while I was out, I met the person who's become my narcissistic abuser. I am totally adverse to leaving the house now, I'm trapped here with her, but she is always going out when she feels like it.

[@Tdawglove]

Oh god. You will never get better if u remain with them.

[@waterbabe2697]

My parent's 😢 Yes thanks Richard I relate. Too your story. Im finallly getting on anxiety Meds .

[@annmariemcconnachie2944]

Brilliant

[@FieldArrow-s7v]

You explained it perfectly 🏹💓THANK YOU

[@MilushevGeorgi]

My narcissistic father got me into social anxiety, I was ashamed of myself

[@BrandonCourt]

Social anxiety, from my experience, is actually an intense need to socialise (socialise well) because you seek external validation. This might be helpful; if you can, isolate yourself from the outside world for 1-2 weeks until the thought 'this isn't so bad' comes to mind.

[@evapawlowska]

I didn't realize how much that critical little creep got to me. Right on time. I need CLIENTS. Seems I got one incoming (woot!) and he has friends. But suddenly I have a lot of social anxiety. Frozen. Luckily I was born with a horseshoe up my butt so things are still flowing along, but I need to beat this quick! The 100k offers of slavery are already flowing in trying to derail my plans. It's be rich and miserable, die of starvation, or beat social anxiety lol. AGAIN. I think I prefer death to going back to the 9-5 and watching my dreams die a slow death... well whatevers left of them anyways but gotta try. Thanks doc.

[@Generichjm]

Thanks!

[@Harteo3917]

I've always had social anxiety since day 1 i never got the chance to ever not be anxious and on top of it, it seems to be genetic too although even as a kid i felt different but now you really can't "fit in" anywhere because nobody lets you. People are very toxic these days you either involve yourself in cult behaviors or you're nothing and trash to them and they treat you like trash, and they say oh you're not talking to anyone but then when you do it's just messed up dysfunctionality all around and they think this is right. Then they'll play so many games with your emotions and mentally and psychologically that you just don't know where to begin to connect with people, i mean how can you possibly see a way out of this? and all i see is people are "socializing" but is it ever genuine? is it ever not soulless and just tip toeing around narcissistic behaviors?. I have never seen people not interact in a way that's not constantly tiptoeing around someone and i hate it, i mean why do people put so much tension on themselves and on you too?. Nobody i have ever interacted with in my life isn't tiptoeing in some way. None of these people are ever the ones i want to interact which i guess rules out most people because they constantly minimize themselves for others and then you're expected to interact with them on their terms, people are entirely unfair these days. Like all i feel is if people can't be themselves i can't be myself with them but nobody ever sits and thinks for one moment what enabling toxic people by tiptoeing around them does to other people it's supposedly "for their preservation". Well screw preservation i say we be ourselves because it's not worth the huge social anxiety it causes other people.

[@agatadabrowska8515]

as usually spot on 👌

[@jonsnow911]

2:00 social amxiety

[@SerendipitousSynchronicity]

That's me

[@Kelbelle-gt3dl]

✨🕯️🪷💫✨ thank you. 🐦‍🔥✨

[@Kitingaful]

😮 yup yup 😢

[@jamessufi-davies2414]

thankyou Richard. Good progressive finkin x

[@sage9836]

I have a possibly weird lack of social anxiety. This seems wrong because I attract and thus discard a lot of bad people. I am wondering if those who choose to do a little hermiting are setting the right example to follow.

[@callmeishmaelk767]

If solitude works why not. Eventually you get relaxed enough to interact with people again, but you'll notice a lot of people aren't working interacting with. So is it social anxiety or is it just an awareness after interacting with people in general a lot of them just aren't worth dealing with?

[@Tdawglove]

It depends. If you get incredibly anxious around ppl it’s social anxiety. If you just hate interacting with ppl but can easily deal with them in a quick cordial manner without ur fight or flight signals kicking in, that is probably just an awareness that most ppl are users and you don’t care to interact with them. I personally feel like i have both. I absolutely hate talking to ppl even online (which doesn’t cause social anxiety for me) bc I feel like i see through the bullshit and i can’t stand toxic ppl or covertly manipulative rhetoric. However irl even if someone isn’t necessarily being offensive or weird or rude to me i still get anxious at the thought of having to interact with them which i know is a socially anxious low self esteem issue instead.

[@SwiftxxSparks]

Is it possible for a child to develop social anxiety if the narcissitic (energy vampire) mother denies the child's sensitivity and believes the father is the source of the child's anxiety?

[@user-lt3yb4fm6q]

From my personal experience, I would say yes,absolutely

[@neraida77]

Wow

[@jasonmelton9755]

I believe that NPD must be rooted in a foundation of APD, which I believe is organic and should be reidentified as antisocial character disability (ACD). Many more people are traumatized in childhood than are considered to suffer from NPD. Therefore, those that do may have been born with ACD.

[@n.c4556]

How the hell you hitting point after point !!!!

[@MushroomMagpie]

The echoing room triggered my social anxiety making it hard to focus :/

[@EmberAsh]

Richard, is that a Smart Ring you've been wearing? If so, have you found it helpful?Thinking of getting one.

[@SerendipitousSynchronicity]

The bloke I married told me he was handed around (to be rsped) by his parents.. it nearly killed me (i overdosed) I WILL NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.... BECAUSE THE C U Next Tuesday THEN CLAIMED HE LIED...IT JUST SO HAPPENED HE LUED ABOUT SOMETHING THAT HAD REMNANTS OF THE GENESIS TO MY PTSD... I THINK HE DONE IT DELIBERATELY... I come from the murder capital of Australia & I don't want to be next.

[@rebell1371]

Hello what was the code to get the discount on the social anxiety course please?

[@SuperTreemendus]

Richard, do you think that relationship between the population, and the government/establishment is narcissistic? 🤔.

[@shireenramnarain4005]

Soo the narc is the killer 😢 Not social anxiety etc

[@Kelbelle-gt3dl]

✨🕯️🫥💫✨

[@perhagman6112]

An ad

[@itb7439]

That free "stop emotional flashbacks" link doesnt work :(

[@AprilRosalez]

Can we get some merch, Richard? I would love to have a sweater/hoodie or tshirt with one of your “sayings” ❤

[@mamandapanda185]

"Hope is a T-Shirt." That is a quote of his.

[@mkb7013]

This has been one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with since the NAR.

[@danielstorey3696]

Farkin' brilliant mate!!!!