SOLVING LDR:He is threatening to leave if we can't be s3xually intimate, WHAT TO DO?|incompatibility

What to do when your fiancé threatens to call off the wedding because you have never been intimate.....

[@missmariie]

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[@shalomandrest]

As a happily married woman , I can tell you from my perspective that sex is NOT the most important aspect of a marriage, it is however One of the most important things in marriage. I know of people with the worst toxic and abusive marriages but with the most intense sex chemistry and nothing else no respect, no honesty, no friendship, no support so nope, sex is just a part of the whole cake, but not the most important one.

[@KellyCartney]

Hey beautiful! You're glowing as usual.Could it be that the lady doesn't want to engage until she's married?? Assuming that's her case,it's very okay for some ladies to want that for themselves no matter how long they've been seeing each other.As long as there's a good foundation on the relationship;emotional support, mutual respect &understanding,seeing teachability by both parties as each person is unique,great communication (about just anything including the most sensitive topics like finance, handling disputes and interference from inlaws, jealous colleagues or friends, harmful habits etc)between them,its easy to navigate anything else after they are married including learning in the bedroom.The lady should NEVER feel rushed to do it if she simply doesn't want to do it cause afterall what has the guy to lose if he's going to spend the rest of his life with her anyway??He will have all the time in the world to teach her.Otherwise it might be,a red flag luring him into it.Seeing parents and knowing all the relatives is nothing.If he really wants it that bad,let him marry her first.And maybe if she's scared or has some fears around it,they might visit a Professional Couples Therapist to evaluate what the root causes might be emanating from and treat it be it trauma etc.I wish them all the best❤Keep them episodes coming 🎉

[@missmariie]

Heyy..thank you beautiful❤❤❤. It could be, but she didn't specify that. Judging from what she said, they have been trying to be intimate over the cause of this period but they haven't succeeded. So I believe that if that's the case then she hasn't communicated the same to her partner because if she had then they wouldn't be trying. She didn't complain about anything else so I assume the inability to have/lack of sex is the only problem they are facing and unfortunately, for some people, sexual satisfaction is a non negotiable. Regardless of the case( that's if she's preserving herself for marriage or not) I think she should have an honest conversation both herself and her partner so both parties are in the know...then and only then can they both make an informed decision..

[@KellyCartney]

@@missmariie Some people might have some kind of hesitation to reveal this about themselves probably because of fear of rejection(as not many would respect her stand)or feel like revealing their 'Mwakenya' script to the other person might be used against them for instance the other person might play along just to get the honeyjar and then abandon them thereafter after such a long time of self preservation neither of which should be justified but I think it's true what you mentioned maybe grabbing the bull by the horns translating into a real honest conversation about it might be what will eventually reveal the guy's true intentions incase he's only hiding behind the veil of engaging her just to enjoy her goodies and leave or the cause of the lady's underlying fears for intimacy with him.Hope she finds a way out💕

[@missmariie]

You're right. It can be a difficult conversation to have especially with a long distance partner for fear that they'll leave. I hope she finds her answers and the courage to uphold her personal boundaries and values

[@esthertizirai270]

Thank you so much for the advice, you've nailed it

[@enealiceitodo8542]

Sex is not the most important but one of the most important ❤

[@rahabwachira5979]

Thanks girl for helping us on long distance relationship 😢... this is making us understand it more

[@SO-xi6vm]

Quality of the videos and audio is giving 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽..

[@missmariie]

Much appreciated💞💞

[@denisealexis4261]

Hi Ms mariie what a topic.i quite understand what is going on here .many woman date for yrs without having sex until their wedding day Nothing wrong with waiting until marriage I believe that's her wish but she might never communicate it to him in the way that he understands .that why it is important to talk about all these things during the courtship .some people has a very disturbed view about sex. I am not playing that with no one my standards are my standards an am not compromising for no one that's why I have to know or else it's over for me that's just me personally many people have risky sexual behavior. I straight out for me no oral or anal sex that you cannot come to me with I am very afraid of sexual transmitted disease an am not engaging in risky sex with no one as I said that's my opinion it's tough out there ms mariie there is so much to think about in relationships. Sex should not be the most important things in a relationship let's say something happens to you or your husband an sex can no longer perform in the marriage an if it's the most important thing in that marriage it will fall apart .love should be the most strongest bond because it's last for eternity. Sex is only for a time yes I know it's an important part but never make it the most important in a relationship after sex stop what's left thats why we so much marriage fails today many are just selfish it all about how they should be fulfilled an has no regards for their mate.sex isn't enough money isn't enough i want this an you not giving me an the list is endless. Just to show marriage in this age mostly about what the person can get not for happiness as it used to be at one time now it more of what can i get an its sad am not saying every marriage is like that but i see so much selfish behavior plays out in marriage these days an leads to the death of many marriage.good to see you as always beautiful.

[@mmesomatemple]

This is amazing 👏 Good job ❤

[@missmariie]

Thank you!

[@atienohdee3448]

Epitome of beaury❤❤❤,weee u glowing my love.love the vlog dear,you giving us hopes❤❤

[@Mbangani-yk9fj]

You are glowing girl ❤

[@missmariie]

Thanks love ❤

[@ProcitaPeach]

Wow what a great topic 😊🎉

[@yvonnecreighton589]

Good Morning my beautiful Mariie ❤. Greetings from 🇦🇼

[@carolinencube7912]

You are so beautiful, the make up is on point.

[@missmariie]

Thank you💞

[@lilith_maya]

😂​@@missmariiedo makeup vlog pleeeeeeese

[@sandraagnes2344]

Hey you look so cute gal , you're glowing ❤

[@faywheez5453]

Which app do you use to make your introduction videos ❤ sweet vlog

[@AngelOruore1]

Sex is a big part of marriage but if you ever see this, I have a question for you. You have kept yourself all these while, if you don't feel like it's the right time then talk to him. Do you feel you are ready? Because if you are not , it could be the reason why it's been hard for it to happen no 2, does he make you feel safe and comfortable? Because some men don't know how to get the woman in the mood. No 3, do you find him attractive and do you really love this man or you just love the idea of him? Doing it is a big deal because you will never forget the memory. Just don't do it because he wants it, be sure you are ready. With what Marie read, it feels like he is pressuring you to do it and also telling you his fantasy. He needs to start slowly and makes you comfortable then you can ease up to it but then again, how many fantasy does he have. He now has a deal breaker that if he comes and it doesn't happen that would be it. Hmmmmmm don't put pressure on yourself. if he is not the one for you, the right person for you would come.Be careful and be watchful

[@nureenrahmaumat7151]

The gal has to talk to her aunt about her problem u never know there might b a solution for that this man has been patient for a good tym that's already a sign of love and Loyalty.❤

[@kathleenhyacinth2163]

If he really loves her and respect her he will wait until they get married if that what she wants. Some people rather wait till they get married and people should respect that

[@nnennaaroh6268]

Ur looking cute mariie❤

[@kathleenhyacinth2163]

The thing is he didn’t married her yet and he should be patient and wait and he can teach her when they gets married. Her body is not his because they are not married

[@enealiceitodo8542]

Looking beautifulllllllll as ever

[@missmariie]

Thank you so much

[@Salvation123..]

Thanks Marrie for this video , and also the contributions for the other ladies.. Do you think maybe she might have "vaginismus" * spasms around the important area of the ladies...It causes difficulties for penetration. I have read about it. Maybe check it out or she must check it out with a Dr. ? Unless she is not attracted to the guy. Again, prayer above all makes a difference ❤. All the best.

[@aturindajoan4686]

I think if she wants to wait till marriage,she should communicate respectively,but the fact that they have tried more than once and she maybe has not even talked about waiting till marriage then she should communicate especially on what she exactly wants...

[@kathleenhyacinth2163]

You look beautiful ❤❤

[@missmariie]

Thank you!!

[@maggymaggy2266]

Much love ❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️ watching from south africa

[@missmariie]

❤❤❤

[@lilith_maya]

​@@missmariiemiss marrie show us makeup tutorial please

[@shalomandrest]

Regardless how long this couple has been together, they are NOT the right fit for each other, they are not compatible for the long term. Marriage is more than sex, and these two are not IT for marriage.

[@ronkeanimashaun156]

The lady is a virgin and maybe he doesn’t realise that it’s not a matter of her just lying on her back and he jumps on her. Even though it’s been 4 years but he’s only met her 3 times and with long distance relationships it’s very hard to be close to someone when most of the communication is done online Also not everyone is happy in going down on someone or being chained in handcuffs etc. people have to talk about boundaries. Meeting three times can be that he’s only come to her country for a week or two at a time. We must really be careful in giving relationship advice especially if we don’t know the whole story. Is the husband ok In going down on her as well

[@ADayWithMe.]

Also, could it be she has childhood trauma? Is there something that happened to her in her past that makes her mind shut or fear intercourse maybe? Also, if she is honestly not attracted to the guy, just let the guy be. Its better a broken engagement than a broken marriage.

[@esmeraldaglastonbury7242]

I was a virgin when l met my husbsnd and didnt know s thing sbout sex wnd he was patient with me snd teached me things sbout sex snd l learned a lot snd we had all the fun

[@missmariie]

Amazing! And I believe it's because you were willing to learn and you WANTED to do that so you were open to him teaching you.. It might not be the same case if the lady doesn't feel the same way.

[@sutushome748]

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[@kathleenhyacinth2163]

Marie but they are not married and maybe she wants to wait for marriage and that is not wrong

[@cynthia9550]

The man is patient enough. 4years maybe she is not attracted to man

[@missmariie]

That's a possibility

[@elizabethmunuve8245]

Did i get it wrong that you are a virgin marii?,how about your past relationship whereby you had a miscarry?,,how about the videos you have shown before ,while do doing pregnancy tests?,,am i misled or am not following correctly ?🤔🤔

[@missmariie]

You're not following at all. I'm not a Virgin. I've never claimed to be one. This isn't my dilemma. It's someone else's story.

[@elizabethmunuve8245]

​@@missmariie😂😂😂😂😂😂,,thank you deari iam happy to be corrected ..thx saana..

[@esmeraldaglastonbury7242]

Regardless of the four years relationship, if he loves her he will respect her remember she's a virgin, as a virgins she is inexperience and he needs to be patient with her ,if he's going her married and them teach her all the possition he wants

[@esmeraldaglastonbury7242]

If he wants to fullfil his sexual desires with a virgin he needs to teach her and she will get better as they go along , no or go married someone who's been through the mills and he'll be satisfied

[@esmeraldaglastonbury7242]

You should never advice s virgin to have sex with a man that tells her he will broke up the engagement,cause you don't know if when she gives up her virginity before marriage if he will still marry her, regardless of the years they been trying, to me if he really loves her and wants her for he as l said in my previous comments he must marry her then have sex with her and teach her

[@missmariie]

That's why I asked if she's willing to be taught by him or she doesn't want to completely. Besides, she didn't specify she's waiting for marriage, she said they have been trying but for some reason it fails. Judging by that, I believe she's not keeping herself till marriage, I believe there's other underlying issues that they haven't addressed yet as a couple.

[@faithwambua9427]

I pray she continue to stay virgin and should not give the man power.Let guy wait until he marries her officially,this are some of mistake I wish I knew before.

[@carolinencube7912]

Yes sex is very important that is why we don't marry our brothers and cousins

[@missmariie]

💯

[@adhiambootieno2873]

First off, ladies you are not listening to what Mariie is saying. It sounds like the lady who is a virgin has attempted to have sex already, so that changes everything in my opinion. She wasn't waiting, however for some reason the act was unsuccessful. Mariie is making a lot of sense given the actual scenario.

[@missmariie]

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[@GraceTemplemusiime]

I can see why is she troubled with doing something not in God's way there no sex before marriage

[@cynthiaadams7689]

Mariie you are stunning. 🤍 They are not compatible.