SOMEONE WOULDN'T DATE ME BECAUSE OF MY OSTOMY...

[@steelpatriot2xx]

I re-met (we went to high school together) my wife back in 2009. She and I were just friends for years. I found her to be gorgeous and I wanted to date her. She eventually told me about the ostomy and I went and researched all about it. So I would understand. I cared for her more than how she pooped.... yeah there are 4 am wake ups to change sheets. Multiple changes of clothing... frustration (for her not me). It’s never once bothered me. She’s my sweetheart. So anyone watching this worrying about dating someone with an ostomy should know it has zero effect on the ability to love someone. 2 years married and I couldn’t be happier!

[@OstomyDiaries]

Exactly!! I love this story thank you so much for sharing! 💜💜

[@Yorick10314]

You are wonderful!!!

[@lettystevens3379]

Thank you for sharing. I have a permanent ileostomy since 2004. My husband had been so supportive. Without him my life would mean nothing. You are a good man.

[@Travmula1989]

I hope I find someone as well that will understand me, but I’m too afraid

[@Evelleyes85]

I remember being dumped when I was in hospital. Its awful. What a horrible thing to go through. But I seen it as a blessing for me. In the long run it taught me the people who are truly there for me. All the admissions, I got cdiff too, which was horrendous. All this has taught me to be strong and be happy in my own space. I now have a wonderful partner who really supports me, and were about to go through me getting an ileostomy. I'm really feeling very secure and supported, thank goodness. It proves to me that there is a plan for us, and we just have to have faith to get past it all. I'm so happy you found Joel, it's amazing xxxx

[@debbiekhoury4079]

Sharing your story is so brave and inspiring, God bless you for all you do to make others with an ostomy feel “normal” which we are...my husband went out of his way to not make me feel like I was gross. He’s never once made me feel bad and I love him for it. I love your advice to talk about the ostomy positively!

[@cherylrain7909]

What people don't realize is that now you're healthy because of your bag! Your no longer sick. I understand it's hard. Just think your not in pain anymore and you will find the right man to love you!!

[@elainehernandez1761]

I've had my ostomy for 2 years. I have felt everything you've said. Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration. God bless

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thanks for your kind words. I just want to help other people feel positive by letting them know it will all be okay! God bless! 💚

[@keararigg8453]

Thank you so much for sharing!!! As someone who had an ostomy for about a year, it is SO important to reduce the stigma associated with them. 😍😊

[@psychictarotinfinity5569]

Thank you for this I’ve had lots of people turn me down because of my ostomy and them thinking it’s to much for them to handle if we are dating or it’s disgusting. Thank you for making a video about it. I’m kinda in that space where you said you gave up on dating.

[@spiritofcantaolisboa-p8871]

If someone doesn't like you as you became, that means they never liked you as you were until your new lifestyle. Take it easy, you are not alone. I've just joined the club weeks ago. When started watching your videos, I realised that I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing your experience, despite the fact I have to live with a "double trouble ". Lol. Take care and stay safe.

[@gbk1t]

What a great video. You are wise beyond your years. You are absolutely right about being with positive people. I have been very lucky because my husband of 42 years has been loving & supportive throughout my illness. I had my ileostomy 15 months ago & still have ongoing health problems. However, my life is so rich because of the love & care that I receive from my husband, children & grandchildren. My very best wishes to you & Joel. From Kit in York, England. X

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thank you so much for watching. I am glad to hear you have such a supportive husband. I sure did get lucky with Joel. He is such a blessing! 💜

[@southofheaven4321]

i met my girlfriend 2 weeks before i got my bag, and 5 years later we are still together.

[@OstomyDiaries]

That’s amazing! Sounds like you have an amazing person in your life. 😊

[@southofheaven4321]

@@OstomyDiaries i do thanks. Shes amazing :)

[@thatsmedinesh]

You are really inspiring and you are really amazing. All you had said its completely true. You are Awesome.

[@ladrenajenkins1006]

thank you for sharing this video I am a new subscriber and I'm also cancer-free I was diagnosed with cancer back in 2018 around August however I do have a colostomy bag I have learned to live with this colostomy bag I counted as a blessing I have a second chance at life I am not ashamed of my bag I live life to the fullest I also have a prison ministry I go out and feed the homeless people and encourage them I want to say to you keep up the good work you are a blessing

[@OstomyDiaries]

So glad you are surviving!!! Thanks for watching and your kind words 😊😊

[@cherylrain7909]

Your story is my story! I could certainly relate to being rejected because of an ostomy. You don't want someone that is that shallow anyway!

[@douglaslortsher9302]

What a jerk. I had a colostomy for several years and got it reversed, While I had it I hated it. It was a pain because back in 1970 there wasn't the kind of options available now for it, the belt to hold the bag dug into the incisions from the surgery on the opposite side of my abdomen from the colostomy, smelly leaks and many other problems. Now I can say that even though it was at first a bit disgusting, it was a lot better than the alternative. I appreciate your frankness about your experience having an ostomy, I have had many discussions with others that have needed a colostomy about why to not be ashamed of the fact that you need it, in fact, I encourage them to openly share it, what it is, how it works, why it was needed, with anybody that even seems curious in the slightest. Keep up the great posts!

[@KlirrenDieFahnen]

What an awful experience! But awesome resilience you have. Great video with a great message. Thank you from an ileostomate for 11 years. My ostomy is a great asset to my life, I owe so much to it.

[@OstomyDiaries]

God had a plan! I’m thankful for the learning experience. Thanks for watching! 😊💜

[@MrDp2u]

I'm so sorry you went through that. You needed God more than you needed that weak person you were seeing. You are a wonderful person to share your great attitude! God bless!

[@OstomyDiaries]

God has blessed me with an amazing hubby now! 😊

[@man_made_marsupial]

It's okay my last gf was disgusted with mine. Also had a couple friends who thought it was gross and gave me a hard time about it. I don't associate with them anymore.

[@taylorpresley4604]

A blessing you found out his true character

[@barbaralemarier4421]

I don't have an ostomy.. other health issues but I love your videos. You are very wise and beautiful. Thank you for this great message. I needed to hear this.

[@melissapauna8450]

His loss! Your beautiful!

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thank you!

[@dannygardner9145]

After I had the surgery I feel the same as you ,I got my life back started a new one with an ostomy 😀

[@heathercollins6464]

Thank you for sharing your amazing testimony! You are such an inspiration. I also have Crohn's Disease and recently had a total proctocolectomy with a loop ileostomy. I am only about 8 weeks post-op. The thought of dating again is so dreadful, but stories like yours give me hope!! Thank you :) All things work together for our good, this I know.

[@OstomyDiaries]

Hey Heather! Thanks for watching. I love your positive attitude. It can be scary, but God has a plan for each of us. You got this! 😊

[@Mega12AX7]

I guess it's a good way to find out who your friends are and who are not your friends. I had gotten colon cancer had to get a colon ostomy. Now I am stuck in a lousy nursing home lost everything else lost my pets and nobody calls me or comes to see me. Not even from my church. How do you do it you are a real trooper God bless you 😇 I like the sound of the birds in the background. Cardinals right ?

[@OstomyDiaries]

I’m so sorry that your friends have not come to see you. I lost some friends and it really hurt. God was and is my strength. I’m praying for you!! You have friends in this online community! 😊💚

[@bettyflipkowski235]

Mega12AX7 2

[@bereal6590]

It is positive.... its life lived well .. my goodness that guy must be nuts! Not only are u very pretty and intelligent you're so genuine. He missed out on such a clever empathetic woman.... He has lost out big time! He wud have been blessed to have had u as a girlfriend. I wish I'd been so happy at ur age and I was well.. then.... hugs 🙅🙅

[@graciewhite2842]

Your beautiful no matter what Ms. Wallace. I love and miss you!!!

[@OstomyDiaries]

Awww I love you Gracie!!! Thank God for Joel right? 😊💜💜

[@graciewhite2842]

Ostomy Diaries thank god for you and Joel and y’all being such a perfect couple.

[@perpetualanim1697]

There is this guy I dated for seven years before we got married and three month after the wedding, I had my surgery and from that time till now he hasn't made love to me, he wouldn't even touch me and warn me sometimes not to touch him. It always makes me sad.

[@carolynbarker9357]

You gotta bite the bullet and dump him sweetheart. You need a better life with someone who loves you in, every way - and with your issues. He just can't handle the situation, so he should move on too.... and let you both have a new and better life... with someone else!! God Bless you. xx

[@juilacaldwell7308]

I'm 61 and had anal cancer so I had to have the surgery done to and I now wear a bag also. However my concern is that it's taking so long to heal and I've just regaining my ability to urinate properly, but I still have to wear a diaper for leaks and because of my wound dressings. But another thing is that they also must have saw the need to remove my vagina. I kinda think that this is the worst of all of it because it takes away my ability to make love, if you have any advice please let me know.

[@sineadcunningham4302]

i hope you get the advice and all the help you need God bles stay strong that's what gets me through my days xx

[@chrisperry3430]

You look and seem a beautiful young woman, his loss

[@nicoleflores2052]

Thank you for doing you girl! Fellow ostomate here, stumbled across this video today.... and.......Just hearing you talk the words my soul couldn't speak gives me incredible relief and the realization that this video diary is soooooo important & honestly should be implemented into the post surgery regimen literature given along with all those other pamphlets ....😏 I just wish I would've stumbled across this sooner.... keep doing what you're doing luv 😘 #ostomyvoice

[@OstomyDiaries]

Awww thank you so much!! Just trying to spread positivity. Thank you for watching and blessings to you!!

[@kerinharris4262]

I gotta tell you... you are just precious and thank you for your candor and for sharing your testimony💞💞💞

[@lornahampson4954]

So proud of you!

[@neilburton2288]

It's his loss..you are a beautiful girl, inside and out..God bless you.

[@sineadcunningham4302]

so glad I watched this you made me smile and think diff for to day as each day is diff for me I hope I can be as positive as you are one day lots of love

[@OstomyDiaries]

Awww thanks so much! Lots of love to you! 💚💜

[@cacc3150]

So well put. And God bless you.

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thanks Michael 💜

[@jasonconde3387]

Thank you for these videos! I do have a question. I think you mentioned that your colon was completely removed? How can your ostomy be reversed without a colon? This is all new to me, I’m just really curious. Thank you

[@OstomyDiaries]

Hey Jason! I did have my entire colon removed. I still have my rectum. My surgeon could reconnect me by attaching my small intestine to my rectum. Feel free to ask any question you want. It’s a lot to learn at first!

[@David-ch5wi]

Good word sister God bless you!❤

[@lisakay8798]

You are wise beyond your years! God Bless 🙏

[@ericabeall7062]

I had to get mine because of cancer. I actually had to leave my boyfriend of 13yr because I knew handle it. I get my put in next week

[@stevehill3212]

When I was living in a veteran shelter, I had to deal with a lot of prejudice because of my Ostomy. This kinda destroyed my confidence in dating and making new friends When I visit family I often. get a motel rather than spend the night because of family members making comments about my ostomy.

[@OstomyDiaries]

I’m sorry you have felt that way! You are not less than because of your ostomy!!

[@drucillacal8031]

God bless you! ❤️

[@karlenealibey-mohammed8640]

Thanks so much for the advice

[@nessad7361]

Thank you so much for this. 😊

[@karlenealibey-mohammed8640]

I was dating someone and went he found out about my illeostomy he never came back. He still message me sometimes

[@valentinanoble3637]

You are so amazing!

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thank you!! 😊

[@rumahbenavari5157]

The guys a jerk and coward. I've had a bag for 6 months now and I'm glad I've been married for27 years

[@OstomyDiaries]

I definitely dodged a bullet with him lol! I’m so happy now with Joel!

[@pret-lu-doll1101]

Wow. He is a bad person. You are a very brave person.

[@OstomyDiaries]

Thank you!!

[@romeorodrigues3680]

Why hes a bad person? Dating is not charity ....

[@joedantes6274]

I have ostomy bag too

[@markpeters7466]

How many women would go with a man who had an ostomy bag?

[@OstomyDiaries]

I would! Maybe I’m biased because I love my Ostomy though. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@Kristina-pk2uc]

You have a terrible attitude. People won't care unless they're shallow.

[@carolynbarker9357]

Definitely a woman who has one herself!!

[@sparrowbarnesmusic5864]

Id have no problem with that. Its just a bag. No different to wearing underwear. Just something a person has on there body. It can be covered during private times in the bedroom with a partner. The persons personality and character should mean more than one tiny little bag. Its really not a big deal. As long as the person keeps up there hygiene. Not a big deal at all.

[@romeorodrigues3680]

none ...

[@shawnt7289]

Wow , their loss !!!

[@servantsofthemessiah720]

Praise God u THE LORD WAS WITH U THROUGH YOUR TRAIL. YOU ARE VERY CUTE THANKS FOR SHARING.JESUS IS KING FOLLOW HIM.

[@OstomyDiaries]

God is good! 💜

[@RISEOFTHEOATHBREAKERS]

All I've seen are smoke trails going the way opposite direction. I'm sitting it out. Good luck everyone.

[@OstomyDiaries]

So sorry!

[@thingstodoinflorida9532]

I can relate