I re-met (we went to high school together) my wife back in 2009. She and I were just friends for years. I found her to be gorgeous and I wanted to date her. She eventually told me about the ostomy and I went and researched all about it. So I would understand. I cared for her more than how she pooped.... yeah there are 4 am wake ups to change sheets. Multiple changes of clothing... frustration (for her not me). It’s never once bothered me. She’s my sweetheart. So anyone watching this worrying about dating someone with an ostomy should know it has zero effect on the ability to love someone. 2 years married and I couldn’t be happier!
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! I love this story thank you so much for sharing! 💜💜
@Yorick103143 жыл бұрын
You are wonderful!!!
@lettystevens33793 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I have a permanent ileostomy since 2004. My husband had been so supportive. Without him my life would mean nothing. You are a good man.
@Travmula1989 Жыл бұрын
I hope I find someone as well that will understand me, but I’m too afraid
@Evelleyes855 жыл бұрын
I remember being dumped when I was in hospital. Its awful. What a horrible thing to go through. But I seen it as a blessing for me. In the long run it taught me the people who are truly there for me. All the admissions, I got cdiff too, which was horrendous. All this has taught me to be strong and be happy in my own space. I now have a wonderful partner who really supports me, and were about to go through me getting an ileostomy. I'm really feeling very secure and supported, thank goodness. It proves to me that there is a plan for us, and we just have to have faith to get past it all. I'm so happy you found Joel, it's amazing xxxx
@debbiekhoury40795 жыл бұрын
Sharing your story is so brave and inspiring, God bless you for all you do to make others with an ostomy feel “normal” which we are...my husband went out of his way to not make me feel like I was gross. He’s never once made me feel bad and I love him for it. I love your advice to talk about the ostomy positively!
@cherylrain79093 жыл бұрын
What people don't realize is that now you're healthy because of your bag! Your no longer sick. I understand it's hard. Just think your not in pain anymore and you will find the right man to love you!!
@elainehernandez17615 жыл бұрын
I've had my ostomy for 2 years. I have felt everything you've said. Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration. God bless
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your kind words. I just want to help other people feel positive by letting them know it will all be okay! God bless! 💚
@keararigg84535 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing!!! As someone who had an ostomy for about a year, it is SO important to reduce the stigma associated with them. 😍😊
@psychictarotinfinity55692 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this I’ve had lots of people turn me down because of my ostomy and them thinking it’s to much for them to handle if we are dating or it’s disgusting. Thank you for making a video about it. I’m kinda in that space where you said you gave up on dating.
@spiritofcantaolisboa-p88713 жыл бұрын
If someone doesn't like you as you became, that means they never liked you as you were until your new lifestyle. Take it easy, you are not alone. I've just joined the club weeks ago. When started watching your videos, I realised that I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing your experience, despite the fact I have to live with a "double trouble ". Lol. Take care and stay safe.
@gbk1t5 жыл бұрын
What a great video. You are wise beyond your years. You are absolutely right about being with positive people. I have been very lucky because my husband of 42 years has been loving & supportive throughout my illness. I had my ileostomy 15 months ago & still have ongoing health problems. However, my life is so rich because of the love & care that I receive from my husband, children & grandchildren. My very best wishes to you & Joel. From Kit in York, England. X
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching. I am glad to hear you have such a supportive husband. I sure did get lucky with Joel. He is such a blessing! 💜
@southofheaven43214 жыл бұрын
i met my girlfriend 2 weeks before i got my bag, and 5 years later we are still together.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
That’s amazing! Sounds like you have an amazing person in your life. 😊
@southofheaven43214 жыл бұрын
@@OstomyDiaries i do thanks. Shes amazing :)
@thatsmedinesh5 жыл бұрын
You are really inspiring and you are really amazing. All you had said its completely true. You are Awesome.
@ladrenajenkins10065 жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing this video I am a new subscriber and I'm also cancer-free I was diagnosed with cancer back in 2018 around August however I do have a colostomy bag I have learned to live with this colostomy bag I counted as a blessing I have a second chance at life I am not ashamed of my bag I live life to the fullest I also have a prison ministry I go out and feed the homeless people and encourage them I want to say to you keep up the good work you are a blessing
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
So glad you are surviving!!! Thanks for watching and your kind words 😊😊
@cherylrain79093 жыл бұрын
Your story is my story! I could certainly relate to being rejected because of an ostomy. You don't want someone that is that shallow anyway!
@douglaslortsher93022 жыл бұрын
What a jerk. I had a colostomy for several years and got it reversed, While I had it I hated it. It was a pain because back in 1970 there wasn't the kind of options available now for it, the belt to hold the bag dug into the incisions from the surgery on the opposite side of my abdomen from the colostomy, smelly leaks and many other problems. Now I can say that even though it was at first a bit disgusting, it was a lot better than the alternative. I appreciate your frankness about your experience having an ostomy, I have had many discussions with others that have needed a colostomy about why to not be ashamed of the fact that you need it, in fact, I encourage them to openly share it, what it is, how it works, why it was needed, with anybody that even seems curious in the slightest. Keep up the great posts!
@KlirrenDieFahnen4 жыл бұрын
What an awful experience! But awesome resilience you have. Great video with a great message. Thank you from an ileostomate for 11 years. My ostomy is a great asset to my life, I owe so much to it.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
God had a plan! I’m thankful for the learning experience. Thanks for watching! 😊💜
@MrDp2u4 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you went through that. You needed God more than you needed that weak person you were seeing. You are a wonderful person to share your great attitude! God bless!
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
God has blessed me with an amazing hubby now! 😊
@man_made_marsupial Жыл бұрын
It's okay my last gf was disgusted with mine. Also had a couple friends who thought it was gross and gave me a hard time about it. I don't associate with them anymore.
@taylorpresley4604 Жыл бұрын
A blessing you found out his true character
@barbaralemarier44214 жыл бұрын
I don't have an ostomy.. other health issues but I love your videos. You are very wise and beautiful. Thank you for this great message. I needed to hear this.
@melissapauna84504 жыл бұрын
His loss! Your beautiful!
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@dannygardner91453 жыл бұрын
After I had the surgery I feel the same as you ,I got my life back started a new one with an ostomy 😀
@heathercollins64644 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your amazing testimony! You are such an inspiration. I also have Crohn's Disease and recently had a total proctocolectomy with a loop ileostomy. I am only about 8 weeks post-op. The thought of dating again is so dreadful, but stories like yours give me hope!! Thank you :) All things work together for our good, this I know.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Hey Heather! Thanks for watching. I love your positive attitude. It can be scary, but God has a plan for each of us. You got this! 😊
@Mega12AX75 жыл бұрын
I guess it's a good way to find out who your friends are and who are not your friends. I had gotten colon cancer had to get a colon ostomy. Now I am stuck in a lousy nursing home lost everything else lost my pets and nobody calls me or comes to see me. Not even from my church. How do you do it you are a real trooper God bless you 😇 I like the sound of the birds in the background. Cardinals right ?
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that your friends have not come to see you. I lost some friends and it really hurt. God was and is my strength. I’m praying for you!! You have friends in this online community! 😊💚
@bettyflipkowski2354 жыл бұрын
Mega12AX7 2
@bereal65904 жыл бұрын
It is positive.... its life lived well .. my goodness that guy must be nuts! Not only are u very pretty and intelligent you're so genuine. He missed out on such a clever empathetic woman.... He has lost out big time! He wud have been blessed to have had u as a girlfriend. I wish I'd been so happy at ur age and I was well.. then.... hugs 🙅🙅
@graciewhite28425 жыл бұрын
Your beautiful no matter what Ms. Wallace. I love and miss you!!!
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
Awww I love you Gracie!!! Thank God for Joel right? 😊💜💜
@graciewhite28425 жыл бұрын
Ostomy Diaries thank god for you and Joel and y’all being such a perfect couple.
@perpetualanim16973 жыл бұрын
There is this guy I dated for seven years before we got married and three month after the wedding, I had my surgery and from that time till now he hasn't made love to me, he wouldn't even touch me and warn me sometimes not to touch him. It always makes me sad.
@carolynbarker93573 жыл бұрын
You gotta bite the bullet and dump him sweetheart. You need a better life with someone who loves you in, every way - and with your issues. He just can't handle the situation, so he should move on too.... and let you both have a new and better life... with someone else!! God Bless you. xx
@juilacaldwell73084 жыл бұрын
I'm 61 and had anal cancer so I had to have the surgery done to and I now wear a bag also. However my concern is that it's taking so long to heal and I've just regaining my ability to urinate properly, but I still have to wear a diaper for leaks and because of my wound dressings. But another thing is that they also must have saw the need to remove my vagina. I kinda think that this is the worst of all of it because it takes away my ability to make love, if you have any advice please let me know.
@sineadcunningham43024 жыл бұрын
i hope you get the advice and all the help you need God bles stay strong that's what gets me through my days xx
@chrisperry3430 Жыл бұрын
You look and seem a beautiful young woman, his loss
@nicoleflores20524 жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing you girl! Fellow ostomate here, stumbled across this video today.... and.......Just hearing you talk the words my soul couldn't speak gives me incredible relief and the realization that this video diary is soooooo important & honestly should be implemented into the post surgery regimen literature given along with all those other pamphlets ....😏 I just wish I would've stumbled across this sooner.... keep doing what you're doing luv 😘 #ostomyvoice
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Awww thank you so much!! Just trying to spread positivity. Thank you for watching and blessings to you!!
@kerinharris42623 жыл бұрын
I gotta tell you... you are just precious and thank you for your candor and for sharing your testimony💞💞💞
@lornahampson49544 ай бұрын
So proud of you!
@neilburton22883 жыл бұрын
It's his loss..you are a beautiful girl, inside and out..God bless you.
@sineadcunningham43024 жыл бұрын
so glad I watched this you made me smile and think diff for to day as each day is diff for me I hope I can be as positive as you are one day lots of love
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Awww thanks so much! Lots of love to you! 💚💜
@cacc31505 жыл бұрын
So well put. And God bless you.
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Michael 💜
@jasonconde33875 жыл бұрын
Thank you for these videos! I do have a question. I think you mentioned that your colon was completely removed? How can your ostomy be reversed without a colon? This is all new to me, I’m just really curious. Thank you
@OstomyDiaries5 жыл бұрын
Hey Jason! I did have my entire colon removed. I still have my rectum. My surgeon could reconnect me by attaching my small intestine to my rectum. Feel free to ask any question you want. It’s a lot to learn at first!
@David-ch5wi23 күн бұрын
Good word sister God bless you!❤
@lisakay87984 жыл бұрын
You are wise beyond your years! God Bless 🙏
@ericabeall70622 ай бұрын
I had to get mine because of cancer. I actually had to leave my boyfriend of 13yr because I knew handle it. I get my put in next week
@stevehill32124 жыл бұрын
When I was living in a veteran shelter, I had to deal with a lot of prejudice because of my Ostomy. This kinda destroyed my confidence in dating and making new friends When I visit family I often. get a motel rather than spend the night because of family members making comments about my ostomy.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry you have felt that way! You are not less than because of your ostomy!!
@drucillacal8031 Жыл бұрын
God bless you! ❤️
@karlenealibey-mohammed86403 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for the advice
@nessad73613 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. 😊
@karlenealibey-mohammed86403 жыл бұрын
I was dating someone and went he found out about my illeostomy he never came back. He still message me sometimes
@valentinanoble36374 жыл бұрын
You are so amazing!
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! 😊
@rumahbenavari51574 жыл бұрын
The guys a jerk and coward. I've had a bag for 6 months now and I'm glad I've been married for27 years
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
I definitely dodged a bullet with him lol! I’m so happy now with Joel!
@pret-lu-doll11014 жыл бұрын
Wow. He is a bad person. You are a very brave person.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@romeorodrigues3680 Жыл бұрын
Why hes a bad person? Dating is not charity ....
@joedantes6274 Жыл бұрын
I have ostomy bag too
@markpeters74664 жыл бұрын
How many women would go with a man who had an ostomy bag?
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
I would! Maybe I’m biased because I love my Ostomy though. 🤷🏼♀️
@Kristina-pk2uc3 жыл бұрын
You have a terrible attitude. People won't care unless they're shallow.
@carolynbarker93573 жыл бұрын
Definitely a woman who has one herself!!
@sparrowbarnesmusic58642 жыл бұрын
Id have no problem with that. Its just a bag. No different to wearing underwear. Just something a person has on there body. It can be covered during private times in the bedroom with a partner. The persons personality and character should mean more than one tiny little bag. Its really not a big deal. As long as the person keeps up there hygiene. Not a big deal at all.
@romeorodrigues3680 Жыл бұрын
none ...
@shawnt72892 жыл бұрын
Wow , their loss !!!
@servantsofthemessiah7204 жыл бұрын
Praise God u THE LORD WAS WITH U THROUGH YOUR TRAIL. YOU ARE VERY CUTE THANKS FOR SHARING.JESUS IS KING FOLLOW HIM.
@OstomyDiaries4 жыл бұрын
God is good! 💜
@RISEOFTHEOATHBREAKERS3 жыл бұрын
All I've seen are smoke trails going the way opposite direction. I'm sitting it out. Good luck everyone.