Sorry, You're NOT INVITED | Q+A

[@henrysmithpham4587]

Jaimie, as an almost 17 year old, overwhelmed, and quite frankly very alone teenage boy, I am now binging your videos because I cannot seem to stop thinking about my future wedding with the man of my dreams. Thank you for your channel :)

[@madisondavis9483]

This made my day

[@sunflower708]

As a former lonely, gay teenager, I can promise you that the best is yet to come. I’m marrying my dream girl! You’ll find your dream man someday. Hang in there, and keep looking towards that happy future, Henry ❤️

[@annalaing9126]

As a bad*ss bi b*tch who just got engaged, you do you. I love this channel too. You can marry the man you love. 😍

[@annejia5382]

awww that's sooo sweet 🩵 i was still a teen also when i first watched jamie 🩵

[@maddiepearce2758]

Former lonely gay teenager reporting in who is now binging these videos as I plan my wedding with my fiancée! Hang in there!

[@missellie1]

After seeing her friend group this last weekend, my mom asked me to invite them to my wedding next year. I'd love to, but our venue has a 75 guest limit for the price we paid. I told my mom that if she pays $2k for the venue upgrade and their food, that they can come. Because if I invite her friends and their husbands, that's only 10 extra people, and not worth the upgrade imo, which allows 150 guests. My mom is honestly considering it, so we'll see what happens.

[@alyssadancer107]

I’m oddly invested in this now

[@Saphireaway]

girl give us an update I wanna know if the friends were worth the 2K+.....

[@missellie1]

@@Saphireaway we decided to keep it at 75, she thinks her friends are worth it, but if we bump it up to 150, then extended family will want to come and I really don't want to deal with it.

[@Saphireaway]

@@missellie1 that's smart! Yeah, at that point it becomes more of a invite everyone or invite no one kinda deal. I'm glad yall got it figured out!!

[@susancook1448]

Your own Mother not invited? Did she give you up at birth? Help feed cloth or shelter you at all?

[@diannaanderson]

So cool about the fertility test info!! An actually useful item. As for the rest of this video, smart to say DON'T state you don't want someone at the wedding!! Practice ONE reason & use it for EVERYONE/ANYONE who you need to let down gently. And if family says "you gotta invite", just ask for a $200 contribution to your wedding fund - nonrefundable, of course. (Yes, I know of someone who did this. Great response.)

[@jamesrowland9982]

My wife was not invited to her older brother's wedding. In fact, she did not know about it until after it happened. No one in the family told her. Everyone just assumed that someone else told her. His wife is upset at us for not coming. Try and figure that out. My wife told the woman to talk to her older brother as to why. Added to that, her older brother did not tell his new wife that he had a sister (my wife). My wife has not spoken to her brother in years. No one ever said sorry. I do not have the heart to tell my wife, that her older brother does consider her part of his life.

[@hammysauce]

I can't believe how people have just assumed or straight up asked to come to my wedding who I'm not close to at all. It's absolutely ridiculous and annoying. I'm a people pleaser and it's hard for me to be blunt or say no in some instances, it's so frustrating, especially cause I'm wanting a really small wedding. It's so rude. Also the timeline is not working, it just shows me a blank page.

[@natasharose3264]

I was at the grocery store shopping and had a woman from my church approach me who noticed me. She asked if my fiance's daughter was my daughter and she shouted out, "she's gonna marry my daddy!" The woman dead looked me in the eyes and says, "well I expect an invite!" Then proceeds to ask me what my name is 😐

[@catholicfemininity2126]

I don't think it's rude to ask to come to someone's wedding though. But then again, I'm Catholic, and nothing wrong with people attending the wedding mass, but the reception is a different story.

[@JerryMander-y2x]

If you're feeling a little catty about it, you can say "I'm sorry but our wedding celebration is for people we know well and feel close to."

[@AK-jt9gx]

@@natasharose3264 I wasn’t there, so maybe her tone said something different, but to me this reads like a harmless joke rather than a stranger ACTUALLY asking for an invite. Still a weird comment either way.

[@kaylacalvacca5330]

Thank you for this advice. My venue is very limited, and my venue coordinator said strictly NO MORE than 100 people, so if someone asks that is not invited, I'm glad that I have that as an excuse.

[@brealysia95]

You’ve helped put so many things into perspective and helping my parents and myself save money!!! You’re a blessing!

[@brittanyking4241]

I got engaged on Sunday so I am now binging all of these videos again! Shout out to all of the 2023 brides, we are in this together! 😍 😍Jamie, your videos are amazing and so informative and I feel like I have you right alongside me in this crazy ride! 😘

[@DiamondPrincessMex]

Congratulations 🍾 I’m getting married in Oct 2023 🎃🍂🎃

[@JennB77]

I have no idea how so many people are spending $30k+ on a single day!! In my area, the average wedding cost is $50-60k, which is absurd to me! But to see that on a BUDGET wedding channel, most people are still spending up to $30k, how on earth are you guys affording that?? To me, that is so much money!! That's a brand new car! I really would like to know how so many people are able to spend that much money on a wedding/wedding reception.

[@lizard3755]

Same! Our budget is under $10K because that's all we can afford. If we were right at $10K I could do everything we wanted without worrying. There are some things we're having to compromise on or forgo because of where they are in our priorities list but we'll still be making things work with what we have.

[@hannahlong3055]

Jaimie you have taught me so much about the wedding industry so that I can start putting my event together. I didn’t know where to start, but I recommend that everyone start with your channel! Thank you! 💛

[@baileefontaine2933]

Awww Jamie, my thoughts and prayers are with you! This must be so hard, but you and your family are so beautiful, and I'm sure that God has wonderful things in store for you

[@jordanmoore445]

Jamie!! I have to thank you for getting me through this wedding planning process! Our wedding is in 8 days and you’ve helped me more than you will ever know!! ❤️

[@saltynikita5095]

We had to move our wedding overseas due to my hubby being deployed, thankfully, to the same country most of my family was close to. His entire family opted not to join us even though my father was willing to pay for their trips. His ARMY bodies were there to take the spot of his family. We had a blast even without his family. Bow 28 years later, we are glad it turned out the way it did.

[@emw4759]

I had my wedding at 10am and I loved it. Brunch reception all the way.

[@emw4759]

@jamiewolfer found your videos very helpful in planning it.

[@gretapasztor]

Can you tell me more about it? I am considering it too. Is there catering for brunch food? Or DIY?

[@mariahorton9858]

Hey Jamie, I need advice. I recently got married in June. I was planning for about 1.5 years. I was so stressed months prior and everything that could go wrong did. I still haven't healed from this. Thinking back to the day, their was nothing I could have changed. It really was the people/guests..... my ceremony started at 245 and reception started at 445 and everyone left when the dance floor opened around 630...... majority didn't say goodbye or Hi to me and a lot of people didn't show up to my wedding. They didn't even tell me prior to replace their plate. I am not sure if it was due to me being a wedding videographer and have too high expectations. But, I really wanted to dance more than 3 songs and actually celebrate with my husband and friends.

[@synnerlove1]

To start I am so sorry your guests treated your wedding in such a way. Personally, I am a blunt person. I would very much be sending an email, probably with photo attachments of RSVPs, to the people who no called/no show after RSVPing asking for an update on what happened. But that’s just me. As for people who left… I do not think any reason will bring you peace. I would ask anyone who did stay if there was something wrong, because whoever stayed truly cared about your feelings and may tell you if something occurred now that it’s over. Again, I am so sorry that this happened. I hope you find some healing and congratulations on your marriage!

[@kristinhenderson1445]

Thank you so much, Jamie! I’ve been watching you for years and I’m finally engaged and planning my wedding using a ton of your tips 😊

[@taliagomez5385]

It's been a week since we got married. I cant thank you enough for all the advice. Made the planning so much smoother and I've already shared your videos to my newly engaged friend ❤ much love from the UK xx

[@tilarfifield2407]

I just want to throw something out there in regards to the veil question. I was always told to keep your veil on at least until after the first dance for photos sake. Personally, I wore a cathedral veil for ceremony and photos then changed into a shorter veil for the rest of the night. I understand that might not be in everyone’s budget to purchase two veils (although my cathedral one was $40 off of Facebook 🙊) but I wanted to wear a veil all night. It didn’t bother me at all with the hairstyle I had and I’m really happy I wore it as long as I did because of how I looked in my photos. And I felt like a princess 😆

[@arbella89]

I agree and did the same! It's one day you get to be a bride.

[@pradamama84]

Gosh family has been trying to invite ppl who are strangers to my FH and I and long lost family and I’m losing it lol ugh

[@tianavinciguerra9691]

Thank you for confirming vendors like some time away to eat! I was really stressed about fitting them at my maxed out seating chart!

[@Housewarmin]

Please please put the question on screen or enable Closed Captions. :)

[@MrsRobertson81322]

Good luck with the fertility test/tracker! Hope #4 happens for you!

[@donnaokane502]

I love that color on your and you eye makeup looks so good! Thanks for the video!

[@petercdowney]

In 2018, my aunt's stepdaughter got engaged. The wedding was in October 2019. Dad and I thought that I'd be invited. But I wasn't, although I didn't know that until about a week before the wedding. I didn't handle it well at all - by my own admission, I'm very bad at handling not being invited to weddings; I can say with absolute certainty that the fact that I'm on the autism spectrum has something to do with this. It took me three years to completely come to terms with not having been invited to the wedding, but I eventually got there in October 2022 after hints were dropped that I was of greater significance to my aunt's stepdaughter and her husband than I previously thought. And when I did come to terms with it, I was extremely proud of myself for it.

[@courtneybressler7783]

Thank you for being open and vulnerable with us. Love your videos!

[@AlliNW0nderland.]

We opted for livestream of the ceremony for this that we couldn’t invite

[@rachel7455]

Your makeup looks so good

[@EA-df4iz]

Regarding thank you notes, my rule for myself was that I would not even open a wedding present unless I had the time right then and there to write the thank you note. Otherwise, I knew I would forget.

[@Saphireaway]

that's SO smart!! I'm totally doing that.

[@rachelyerincho1531]

My wedding was this past weekend. I’m the bride who forgot to wear her veil, hair pins, & earrings which got taken away during details shots lol nobody reminded me pre ceremony but did like towards the end of the night 🥲

[@daliawilson8068]

We are 9 days away from our wedding and people are still trying to invite extra people. I have said the not so nice statements and I have said these scripted nice ones as well. People are still insisted on being extra people how do I control that once extra people show up at my wedding?

[@Saphireaway]

don't accommodate them. I absolutely would not. If you show up to my wedding because a friend or family member invited you WITHOUT checking with me or the fiance directly, I'd consider that SO inconsiderate! Heck no, I'm not buying extra dinners or even setting out chairs. They can stand somewhere and be an example of what happens when you're either 1. not invited or 2. didn't RSVP. I know this is past your wedding day.... let me know what you ended up doing! I'm really curious about whether or not this may happen at my wedding too!!

[@SD-hs2pk]

Beautiful earrings!

[@angiekelley9038]

Good luck Jamie.

[@macydiri9081]

I'm so glad I found you, you make the wedding planning process way more fun. And the behind the scenes videos are so entertaining!

[@elianisbullion2578]

I know you have mentioned this before but where did u get those earrings!? They are beautiful 🤩

[@caitlincottrell3583]

Oh my gosh you have no idea how much I needed this video and just in time! My wedding is almost a year away now and we are about to go to a wedding with my fiances college friends. Most will not be invited because of how small of a day we are having (under 50 guests) and they are a group of 20 and like we can't afford that

[@caitlincottrell3583]

We went to the wedding and now have over 70 guests at ours and we are now over budget

[@liveitupalltheway]

Can we make this a monthly video?? I love the random helpful snips of advice!

[@sbhulbert1207]

The groom didn't rip his pants but one of his groomsmen did about 20 min before my wedding 🤣 luckily it was on my grandparents property and my aunt was able to sew them back up pretty quick 😅

[@chantalpaquette1019]

If it’s because they didn’t invite you to their wedding, what should you say to them about that?

[@maryb3917]

girl, off topic, you look STUNNING here

[@TsvetiSp]

Jamie, you are the best wedding planner in the Internet space and I absolutely love you. I have a dilemma, my fionce was a best man at his best friend wedding, I wasn't invited as they said they don't invite plus one (they both know me, we've been often out for drinks with him, with her not that much). The annoying thing is my birthday was the next day as well and my man had to be away. Now I'm planning my wedding and I really don't want to invite her, but I invite plus ones. Specially we have our wedding abroad and cover the night for our guests. She is just odd and have nothing in common with her, just sending few days with her around would be...not very comfortable for me. Do I have to invite her? If not what would be the polite way not to?

[@Saphireaway]

I'm def not Jamie but here's another opinion. That is super tricky because traditionally, married couples automatically count as a "package" deal on invites. Several questions to consider if you haven't already: Would he be offended if she wasn't invited or would they consider it a relief to not have to pay for two people's travel expenses (flights, etc)? Would he be so offended if she weren't invited that he would also decline to come? If so, would your fiance be upset if his friend wont be there? If you think it would create tension at all between your relationships, I'd just bite the bullet and invite both. as if you're purchasing the future peace of mind that you did your best to accommodate them, regardless of what happens. It could prevent any hurt feelings or unspoken resentments between the friend and your fiance. As long as there's not a huge additional cost to bring her (other than her dinner at the wedding since they'd be staying in the same hotel room), it might not be a big deal. You may not even see her and have to put up with her weirdness as much as you think you will. You'll be so busy with the big day that everything else will blend into the background. My personal advice: invite her. She may not even come, but send the invite. People WILL remember for a LONG time when they DON'T get invited to things, don't get a thank-you card, don't feel appreciated, feel left out, etc. You have a greater chance of inviting her and everything going just dandy than you do not inviting her and it blowing over. My mom always taught me that it's almost always worth it to pay the extra cost/ go the extra mile to include others whose relationship is of any value to you. And since it sounds like your fiancé is really good friends with him, I'd play the extra part and invite her. Which is riskier: Her coming and y'all being annoyed here and there with her presence or her not coming and potentially driving a begrudging wedge between the friendship? I know for our wedding, there are multiple family members that I am NOT thrilled about being there. But they're family, so we have to invite them. Buuuttttt I also know that I'm saving myself an earful every. single. holiday. when either they or other family asks why they weren't invited. And I also know that I'm going to be so overwhelmed with other things, that I won't even remember the awkward "hey, thanks for coming, glad you're here" exchange once the big day is all said and done! Don't stress it too much! Best of luck.

[@24BlAnKeT27]

Hey Jamie, can you make a video about bridal/wedding party accessories. Maybe some that are helpful/useful and maybe some that are just trendy or fashionable.

[@aliciaa7831]

Totally off topic but you look so good in curly hair! You look like a summer dream in this dress and this hair style! :) (Of course you always look great I just really like this style!)

[@annie6515]

Anyone else come from a massive Catholic family (or any giant extended family for that matter) and feel overwhelmed by all or nothing guest list making?

[@lizard3755]

Yes! We had to whittle down our guest list a lot to stay within budget. It's been both good and bad, because there are some people I'd like to invite but can't afford to, as well as some people I'm happy to have an excuse not to invite. My FH only has three cousins and two second cousins on his side so we'll be inviting all of them, but I have lots of first and second cousins so we had to cut it down to first cousins only on my side. A big wedding would be nice if I could afford it, but since it's not in the cards unless one of us wins the lottery I'm trying to just focus on all the positives.

[@jessrobinson7333]

Jamie you look stunning! I love your make up today 😘😘 💕💕💕

[@arielsanchez7178]

Our venue won’t let us have our ceremony before 6 PM and the sun sets at 5:20 PM on our wedding day ): and we really don’t want to do a first look but the outside of the venue is so gorgeous that it would be a waste to not get pictures. I’m stumped on what to do 2 months before the big day. Anyone have advice? Love you Jamie! I literally cried for like 3 hours when your staff told me you weren’t available to coordinate my wedding. My fiancé did not understand the breakdown 😂

[@felicityannchen]

hmm you could always do the bridal party photos outside before the ceremony- then maybe some with your future spouse like back to back so you can't see each other, but you could still have some portraits with the venue in the background?? that is frustrating though!! I'm sorry!!

[@kazbaz8645]

This reply will be too late to help but for others my opinion is that photos should be of the wedding as it is and not staged or changed much apart from the really necessary group ones

[@SD-hs2pk]

What's the latest you can send thank you notes?

[@alivialong9386]

I love your hair and outfit in this video!

[@jasaint5914]

Beautiful makeup!😍

[@niaonthego3442]

Jamie i have a question! What if you actually invited them and they said yes but because of budget contrainst we cannot invite them anymore how do you say that they not invited anymore?

[@christinebaker6110]

JAMIE!!! My daughtee is a wedding planner and she is doing a wedding tomorrow and the cake lady just cancelled amd she also does the decor and cancelled!!!! My daughter is completely freaking out!! What can she do???? Thank you from California :)

[@Shadeadder]

Fertility awareness-based family planning is so overlooked. Usually society just pushed hormonal birth control on young women and teach them nothing about their natural fertility cycle because of the idea that it's not relevant until you're actively trying to conceive. But understanding your ovulation cycle is SO CRUCIAL to women's health!! I really wished it was taught to all young women from a young age.

[@alisalaska1786]

As someone who didn’t learn I have PCOS until I was 27, DO IT. Not only for fertility, but your health and wellbeing.

[@RosaGarza24]

Great advice. Also the in-video links are not provided.

[@miss_xenia_]

The cards worked on my phone 🤔

[@kionarandle710]

Can you do a video specifically on advice for hotel weddings

[@blankoko]

Certain people in my workplace expects they are invited because they are "VERY IMPORTANT"

[@lizard3755]

We're not officially engaged yet but are in the early stages of planning. I'll be really excited when we get engaged and want to share the news, but at the same time I don't want people to assume they're getting invites. There's one person I work with that I really want to invite, but it's a situation where it wouldn't go over well if I invited her and not anyone else on my team. I can't afford to add that many people, and even if I could I don't necessarily want all of them to come. We don't have a huge budget so we ended up only inviting five people that weren't either family or close family friends, so it will at least make it easier to explain to people why they're not invited if they ever ask.

[@kaseymoua]

I did the modern fertility kit and it's very informative. I recommend it as well!

[@adrienne4605]

How does it work?

[@kaseymoua]

@@adrienne4605 when the kit comes in, included in the baggie are little needles and paper slips, you would use the needles to prick a finger, your blood goes on the little test sheets. Let the blood dry for about an hr then pack it up and ship it back to modern fertility. After a week or so, results show your hormonal level, some other things if they're normal or abnormal, how many eggs you should expect, possible time frame when menopause would start etc. Its helpful.

[@kazbaz8645]

Wouldnt do the meal after the wedding thing because if money was going to be spent why not spend it on the extra wedding places? Also you would be obliged to buy the couples meal and thats like rubs it in that you wasnt special enough to make the wedding list. The marriage part is the most important. So if in a church most people can just go and watch anyway but when its in ie a hotel you cant so thats a shame. You dont want to go for the food etc its to share the joy of them getting married and that seems to be lost. A nice wedding and picnic in the park would be a way to go!

[@FromtheDepthsofMel]

Just sat down with my fiancé(and future mother-in-law) to narrow down our guest list(and move some people to a secondary list). She ended up adding people and telling him that the only people that she could see not inviting were his friends. She even threw in a "do 'insert names of 2 groomsmen' even have to come? Why are they even on this list?" Her reasoning is because certain family members invite them to everything(though I'm not sure if "them" means the whole family or just his parents... I feel like it's definitely the latter), they should be invited. Then she kept saying "but I don't think this person will come" as if we should just send them an invitation and expect them not to come while also sending EVERYONE else we want to invite an invitation. That doesn't seem very productive or like a very good plan at all to me. They are helping pay for alcohol(which we didn't really need because neither of us drink-- she says it's because her family will expect there to be alcohol since they are big social drinkers), but not really much else. Not sure where to go from here.

[@bash9032]

How did it turn out?? I am getting married in 2 months. My fiance and I do not have families that either of us are super close with -- emotionally or physically -- so we were lucky to be able to build our guest list, and then ask for A LITTLE input from family on any aunts/uncles/cousins we may have overlooked. We are also paying for the entire thing ourselves with very little, if any, assistance from anyone for any part of the entire wedding/reception. It is YOUR wedding! Just because she is/was paying for alcohol (which is her wish, not yours) does not mean she should dictate the entire guest list. Personally I felt very strongly that I did not want to feel obligated to invite anyone, family or what have you. Our guest list is still larger than I wanted it to be, but under 150 so that feels very manageable to me.

[@rachhhnicole]

My SIL is getting married & my FIL is pressuring her to invite her grandmother (who has caused a lot of pain & drama for their whole family for a long time). My husband & I didn’t invite her to our wedding for these reasons but now my FIL is saying that that can’t happen again (mainly bc he personally is on better terms with his mother now), and is pushing my SIL verrrry hard to invite her. the dilemma here is that the uncomfortable part is more about my FIL being upset / offended that my SIL isn’t inviting his mother than the mother’s actual feelings about it. how do we navigate this?!?! ugh she’s already on the verge of wanting to elope bc the family is putting so many expectations & opinions on her!

[@lizzydalizard]

Would love subtitles please

[@cottonflannigan3671]

Hahaha...My daughter is marrying on May 22, 2022. I discovered this totally by accident. You do not tell people they are not invited to your wedding...even if it's your mother...THAT'S HOW YOU TELL SOMEONE...

[@bojana5641]

Where did you get your earrings? They are beautiful!

[@peachyjejune]

Okay but I don’t want to invite my parents, but I still want to invite my extended family… sooo yikes

[@Satan.X]

So I didn't know I had to RSVP to a wedding, I was raised in a different country somewhere in South Asia ... and an invitation means an invitation. SO when I got the postcard in the mail I just put it in my calendar and that's it. I thought I would be going to a wedding this weekend, but upon checking with my friend apparently I am not invited since I didn't RSVP. I think the way the wedding is setup in America is kind of dumb. In Asia they would invite half the village and it would be buffet style lol. In america they want to cater the wedding in too specific of a manner, where I believe lies the problem ... it needs to be more lax, like why would RSVPing and then not coming to a wedding for whatever reason be considered such a big deal in a monetary sense.

[@theartzscientist8012]

My daughter uninvited me to her wedding and just called to have a relationship with me afterwards. It’s too late. What she did is far beyond what I can forgive.

[@emilywest1116]

I don’t know if it’s just me personally (I’m a very blunt person), if I don’t like someone, I will simply drop the ball and say “I don’t want to invite you, because I don’t like your company.”

[@2bleachfans]

What if a friend tells you they are getting married and couple months later never invited you to the wedding or to hangout but then a few month later wants to catch up

[@nadiadansani2139]

I just don’t get invited I find out on social media and send a gift out of kindness and maybe spite 💀💀💀💀

[@thatgirl_Devi]

Oh you're my twin 🤣🤣🤣

[@onellapiyatilake8672]

I love this video! Side note lol- could you please tell us where your lamps are from!

[@adrienne4605]

I have the same lamps. The are fillable (I change the fill for holidays or seasons). I got them about 4 years ago from Target.

[@Natalie.Willetts]

I have a really difficult situation on my hands, and maybe you and your followers can help (sorry in advance for the long post, but it needs some explanation): My partner and I are starting serious wedding planning, to the point where we have a provisional guest list and will be viewing venues in June for our wedding next year. The only person I am unsure whether I want to invite is my mother. The truth is, I have a terrible (i.e., non-existent) relationship with my mother. She is narcissistic, a binge drinker, and would either make the entire day about her, play "happy families" with me (which'll make me feel really uncomfortable), or I'll spend the entire day worrying about her behaviour or what she's saying to other guests. My gran is going to be so mad if I don't invite my mum - she's an enabler for my mother's narcissistic personality, and still believes our relationship can be mended if only I "take responsibility for my actions in the past" (i.e., when I was a teenager, I was angry and upset all the time because my mother was abusive and ruined my reputation, among other horrible things which my mother has twisted to fit her own narrative). Not only that, but I feel the weight of "omg the mother of the bride isn't here, why is she not here?" would hang over the entire day if I don't invite her! I'm also concerned about what might happen if I don't invite her, but she finds out where I'm getting married and turns up anyway. This catch-22 situation is stressing me out and there are so few resources to help children of narcissistic parents in specific situations like this! So, if any of you have or had a similar family situation, or experience dealing with narcissistic people, please give me some advice on how to handle this situation. Thank you.

[@traversatile3471]

What is your advice for dealing with guests that you don't like but will still be there? Whether siblings or spouses or cousins or whatever of either family, there are some people who I know will be there no matter what and I know it will affect how much I can truly enjoy the day. For example, there is a particular person I don't want to be there, but they are the spouse of someone I want there, so they will automatically be the plus one. More so, if I tell everyone else they're invited but specifically state I don't want that one person, it would cause nothing but drama of people asking me why, explaining why that's inconsiderate, hurting feelings of people who do like them, etc. And I just do not want to deal with all that before/during/after my wedding. Any advice for that?

[@chelseawhite7117]

4:51 cue classic Spongebob song

[@krystalarmarego539]

What if you're a bridesmaid for someone a few months before your wedding but they have caused drama as a bride and made you feel guilty for not being able to make it to a casual social event (not wedding related)? My fiance and I lost a lot of respect for this person but I'm hanging around because I've committed to being in their wedding party. Advice please? Thanks for all that you do.

[@lizard3755]

Is the relationship one that you're hoping could be mended in the future? If so it may be worth pushing through for the sake of its future. If you don't see that happening or you just don't want to continue interacting with her, then it's within your rights to step away. How is your relationship with the groom? Is he someone that matters to you? If he's only an acquaintance then you don't really need to factor him in, but if he and/or the bride are people that will continue to be in your life whether you like it or not, it may be better in the long run to suffer through the wedding. Your not the MOH so realistically your absence wouldn't have a huge impact beyond photos unless you've committed to helping with other things.

[@aprildoucet139]

What if there's no 20% of your budget venue? Everything has gone insane in my area for the wedding industry 😂

[@edithl3441]

Haha you say it’s for their safety. For the virus 🦠 😎 and respectfully catch up with them after.

[@pickleblast2760]

I love your videos :)

[@elizabethj1303]

What if I'm 5 months pre-wedding and I don't have a lot of the things on your timeline done? Am I screwed? Also, what if my cousin and aunt (said cousin's mother) hate each other and won't come if the other comes?

[@Potofgold141]

The timeline link doesn't show up for me it just sends me to the website

[@RobynSuzanne]

When you pount and make references to a checklist, grooms attire discount etc. where do I find that stuff? Does it just not show up on mobile?

[@MsRockstar013]

On your mobile device, there should be three little dots on the top right corner of the video screen. If you push it and go to more from Jamie Wolfer, you should be able to find her recommendations!

[@RobynSuzanne]

@@MsRockstar013 I don't have those unfortunately. Thanks for the help though, now I know whats supposed to be there!

[@annamariecavalea2930]

My son ripped his pants during his photo session on a joggling board. His grandmother is a seamstress but we were at a beach house venue. She used duct tape that someone had in their car. No one noticed.

[@julianikolich8400]

I've had actors rip their pants minutes before curtain! Pack a sewing kit :)

[@MsRockstar013]

I'm so early!! Love you Jamie

[@AutsiticAlien007]

My excuse to not invite people is the fact I am an autsitic bride and I cant do over 40 people. Yep thats my personal limit. For those who I know will not be able to make it, I am setting zoom up for them but the rest, well I have a large family n they will have to understand.

[@emmajohnson3291]

I love you, but please put a trigger warning and time stamp when talking about fertility. I'm 6 years ttc and trying to cope with our 3rd pregnancy loss by watching you explain how to tell people to go away. Was not prepared for the fertility talk 😭💔

[@TheDollHouseGamez]

OMG first I need to video

[@chits28]

Nice top Jamie💛

[@phinaexis981]

This is amazing and I'm just seeing this is now and I'm new here and something has been bothering me for a minute now and someone i knew for a long time is getting married this year in 2022 and they have their own social media page and they've been posting their upcoming bridal party of what they're planning to do and they've been super excited about it but I'm starting to question things and they had call me before on my phone and spoke to me and told me that I'm invited to their wedding but they didn't even let me know ahead of time that they're having a bridal party and they did not invite me and i totally understand that it's their wedding and that they can do what they want but what do you feel about this situation and also do you think this person really wanted to invite me at all but then they don't invite you to their bridal party and they keep posting videos and pictures of the event of there bridal party and i tried to call them a few times before and no response and that they didn't even answer my phone call and that they didn't let me know about it a head of time and it's all women's bridal party and i feel offended a little bit and that this person is the same people as me and the same nationality as me. So let know what you guys think about it and also does that mean they're still going to invite me to their wedding even though they called me and that they told me that they invite me to there wedding and is this an red flag that I'm not invited anymore to there wedding or maybe I'm sound out of my mind or something and is this a normal feeling and one more thing they just had their bridal party this month on March 14, 2022. @Jamie Wolfer

[@syrenaxhaferi7278]

Less caffeine for her

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