SOUL FOOD WAS A MESS.

"F*CK THE FAMILY!" - teri joseph
#soulfood #90s #vivicaafox #nialong #vanessawilliams #moviereview #review #nostalgia
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[@sierraj881]

It’s always bothers me how Maxine had the money for a lawyer but not a dime to help with big Mamas bills

[@aspyn.j_]

never even thought about that WOW.

[@InTheGlow135]

If she stopped paying for everything and cut them all off, I wonder what would have happened.

[@aspyn.j_]

Lmao the house would have gone on sale 🤣🤣🤣

[@InTheGlow135]

@@aspyn.j_ you got that right!!!

[@Imanimy787]

Family would’ve fell apart

[@PHSDM104]

They would've dragged her name through the mud.

[@chocha4438]

@@PHSDM104 Yep. They would've turned on her completely.

[@ItsRrielle]

Girl…! Even as a child, I felt a close connection to Terri. I hated how bad they treated her and would use “the family” as an excuse to get her to comply smh. Story of my life

[@PHSDM104]

Especially in Jamaican families, you preachin' to the choir! I had to go no-contact with so many aunt's, uncles and cousins.

[@johncastillo1184]

If Teri didnt work so much she could've put more efforts into her marriage and supported her man who was Talented at piano...she could've had a good life just being supportive and fulfilling her duties as a wife...thats why her husband cheated! Teri is the product of feminism ideologies being played out. Should've learned more from big mama on how to stay married 😂

[@eatcereal1294]

⁠@@johncastillo1184she has to work to support his bum ass life. She supports him genuinely by telling him the honest truth. That nigga isn’t talented enough. She also has a lot on her plate from her mom dying and the rest of the family being broke asf. HE needed to support HER. Instead he went behind her back and fd her cousin.

[@tiffanycorbin8079]

What I don't understand is how is everyone fine with Maxine sleeping with Terri's boyfriend back then. Maxine was my least favorite sister.

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah everyone is just okay with it? like...

[@davidlewis5189]

​@@aspyn.j_ This just makes me question the family dynamics growing up..

[@davidlewis5189]

​@@aspyn.j_ Evan Ahmad chuckles about it when he is retelling the story...

[@pensiveczar2239]

Vanessa Williams's icy eye expression carried this movie.

[@aspyn.j_]

for real!

[@PineapplesCoconut]

Thank you for giving Teri her flowers.

[@aspyn.j_]

teri deserves every single last one of them, too.

[@johncastillo1184]

If Teri didnt work so much she could've put more efforts into her marriage and supported her man who was Talented at piano...she could've had a good life just being supportive and fulfilling her duties as a wife...thats why her husband cheated! Teri is the product of feminism ideologies being played out. Should've learned more from big mama on how to stay married 😂

[@jharris3267]

@@johncastillo1184 wrong please no one can make you cheat or be faithful that’s character. No one should be treated terribly.Miles wasn’t there for Terri she was disrespected and he never stood up for her or protect her.Forget ideaology he wasn’t good person and no should or is responsible for you doing wrong except you.

[@gethsemaneherron7837]

The men get away with EVERYTHING. And there's a whole scene between maxine and bird about letting a man be a man...chile please. Can't wait for your next video!

[@aspyn.j_]

they did...it was so frustrating. and thank you so much for watching!!

[@lnmoauf5284]

I love how people are finally starting to recognize that Teri was a victim. Not the villian. She was treated horribly by EVERYONE! Also I'm going to disagree about the villian of the movie. Yes, Maxine is awful, jealous, and manipulative. However, I think Big Momma is the true villian in this story. She's the reason why all of her kids act the way they do. She allowed Maxine to treat Teri horribly for YEARS. Big Momma also treated Teri horribly. She gave her youngest Bird a free pass to do whatever she wanted 😒. She pushed Teri to work hard in school and become successful. However, when Teri became successful, she used Teri for her resources and clearly resented Teri for her success 😒. The entire family is toxic. I believe that Big Momma's poor life choices led to the family's outcome. I really liked the movie when I was young and dumb, but now I'm seeing the movie for what it is. A movie about a toxic family that treats successful family members poorly. The favorite family members get away with doing awful things.

[@aspyn.j_]

it's all too common in Black families, unfortunately. this movie resonates even harder with me now as someone who was disowned for wanting better. but yes, big momma is the villain, as well. she's just more covert than maxine is.

[@ATLKing404]

Yeah this is one of those movies that when you re watch it as an adult you look at it completely different. Don't get me wrong Terri wasn't perfect but damn, she didn't deserve none of the headache her family gave her. The really treated her like an ATM, only came by when they needed money

[@Kakorot77]

The movie is full of superficial clichés.

[@bombastic__sideeye]

I hate how they tried to make her the villain so bad, it's a common trope in most black movies. If she's successful with ambition the movie gonna always paint her as an unlikable person. But she ALWAYS has a solid reason behind why she say or does something that the other characters don't like. Maxine was a maddd hater also, she one of those women who have a sense of superiority because they did it the "right" way she got married and had kids so now she thinks she's better than everyone, but really deep down she was jealous that all she could become was a married woman with kids, while her sister was the smart one, the most successful one, and the most independent one. She hated it, that's why she always picked a fight with her.

[@katymbeke8400]

And stole her man. Common jealous type stuff.

[@tytybaby06]

Facts & going after her boyfriend

[@badgyrl310]

I will always stand on the fact that Maxine was jealous of Terri, idc. I think the movie tried to imply Terri was jealous of Max, but I think it's the other way around. Max wanted everything Terri had, her boyfriend, her money. She stayed in Terri's pockets counting her coins and trying to spend Terri's money. The definition of entitled. She always threw her cooking in Terri's face cause it's literally all she has. What else does she do? Terri is a successful, accomplished lawyer, but her accomplishments ain't shit cause she can't cook or do hair. 🙄That was insecurity talking. She was looking for a way to tear Terri down and that's all she had was cooking. "Mama taught me how to cook". Well become a professional chef and make your own money and get out of Terry's pockets.

[@badgyrl310]

@@tytybaby06 She wanted everything Terri had.

[@MojoSojoJojo]

I'm loving that we're all as grown folks are seeing that Terri was never really the villain, it was THE FAMILY, they did Terri so dirty and then gaslit her about it SMH. imma new subscriber and can't wait to see you cover more of our classics

[@LaCrownedGamer]

I remember the first time I watched this as a child. I had to turn it off because I started crying. People loved this movie and seriously could not understand why. They bullied that woman, and honestly I know its considered a black classic, but I can't see it that way. The acting is great sure, the story was sadly very accurate, but to me a resolution never really came. Terri never stood up for herself and cut off her whole family, the ending was just outragously bad in my opinion. If Terri found her worth or the family realized they were just terrible to her (like literally any of the adults sticking by her side would have been nice.), then I can see it being a story of toxic family and how to either turn it around or how to push passed. But instead we got a movie that telling its audience that family can hate you, bully you, and run you dry, but if you leave the family, you are the truest of villans. It not only glorified toxic families, but glorified the idea of staying in the toxic family.

[@aspyn.j_]

yup i agree. my family treated me the exact the same way.

[@niyahubbard5377]

“Ya already on husband #2” lmaoooo I would’ve hit her with the “fuck you bye 🥲✌️”

[@davidlewis5189]

At least Teri's Husbands weren't compulsive gamblers who almost lost the house...

[@fwonkdaddy2031]

🤭​@@davidlewis5189

[@shaquilleanderson1887]

Yup and I would’ve taken my cornbread with me and had dinner with husband at home . 😂😂

[@niyahubbard5377]

@@shaquilleanderson1887 like bitch don’t shade me 😭😭

[@tiffanycorbin8079]

And another thing.... How is big mama stashing away all this money and having Terry pay for everything?! Like what....

[@aspyn.j_]

see i didn't even think of that...big mama is the villain. it's where max and bird learned it from.

[@InTheGlow135]

And yeah I hated Maxine and Byrd and all the men in the family! Terri was the one I understood the most. She needed to cut them off completely!!!

[@candace9560]

I was always on Terri side! Terri held the family down and got no credit for it

[@johncastillo1184]

If Teri didnt work so much she could've put more efforts into her marriage and supported her man who was Talented at piano...she could've had a good life just being supportive and fulfilling her duties as a wife...thats why her husband cheated! Teri is the product of feminism ideologies being played out. Should've learned more from big mama on how to stay married 😂

[@tytybaby06]

Definitely being grown is realizing Maxine was the worst person is the family. As a kid she was my fav but watching it grown I felt so bad for Terri. I said something to my mother & aunt & they was taken a back when I said they was too grown to not see the bs back in the day & I’m side eyeing them! Like nobody thought it was a terrible betrayal that Max went after her sister’s man?! They all thought faith was a thot but Max is cool? Nah & big mama should’ve defended Terri more smh

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah this family normalized casual betrayal so there will definitely more of it in the future. teri didn't deserve any of this. none.

[@panpolyamcommentates]

You hit everything on the head. I really felt for Terri. Sincerely the proverbial black sheep

[@aspyn.j_]

#gang!

[@johncastillo1184]

If Teri didnt work so much she could've put more efforts into her marriage and supported her man who was Talented at piano...she could've had a good life just being supportive and fulfilling her duties as a wife...thats why her husband cheated! Teri is the product of feminism ideologies being played out. Should've learned more from big mama on how to stay married 😂

[@danikiaettson7876]

I rewatched Soul Food recently and hated it. From Big Momma talking all that yang about how she worked so hard at her marriage when obviously her husband didn't gaf to how horrible they treated Terri. I couldn't even finish the movie because of how much it annoyed me. This was a great video breakdown! 😊

[@aspyn.j_]

thank you so much for watching! yes, they did teri absolutely dirty and i hated it.

[@badgyrl310]

Me and my family went to the movies and watched it when it came out and I haven't seen it since. Never watched the tv show either. I just remember leaving the movies feeling a type of way. That movie didn't sit right with me. I hated the way they painted Terri, even back then.

[@amiragraham9437]

I actually always hated this movie. I think it’s so sad the way they treated Terri, and I have been the Terri of my family. I have always been expected to take care of my family bc I’m the oldest of 3. Terri paid for Bird’s wedding. She paid for Bird’s shop. She pays for everyone’s bills. & the film wants us to see Terri as the villain bc she doesn’t like the way her family treats her. You’re always deemed as disrespectful when you speak up for yourself in your family. I will never join accounts with a man. I will never allow family to live with me. I’m not a family person bc I hate how my family acts. I will be a family girl when I have a family

[@aspyn.j_]

wow, i'm sorry you had to experience that! definitely sounds similar to the teri situation. i hope you are healing from their abuse and taking care of yourself. and yep, not sharing accounts with a man either!!!

[@lizzybethnj617]

When i saw this as a kid I thought Terri was just mean and selfish but when i grew up to basically be the Terri in my family I felt where she was coming from. It got to the point where my siblings would expect me and my husband to just pick up the tab. I eventually had to tell everyone else to step up.

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah i didn't like teri when i was a kid but as an adult i totally get it. and good for you for setting a firm boundary! people will really do whatever until you say enough is enough.

[@braddixon9892]

What KILLS me is that Big Mama had a TV full of money & Teri had to pay her taxes & utilities, like why?! Honestly, this whole family is trash EXCEPT Teri

[@johncastillo1184]

If Teri didnt work so much she could've put more efforts into her marriage and supported her man who was Talented at piano...she could've had a good life just being supportive and fulfilling her duties as a wife...thats why her husband cheated! Teri is the product of feminism ideologies being played out. Should've learned more from big mama on how to stay married 😂

[@davidlewis5189]

​​@@johncastillo1184 Teri should have told the family to screw off and refuse to provide financial support anymore...

[@RK-um9tu]

@@johncastillo1184 CTE Alert! Pretty clear morals, ethics, and taking responsiblity for your behavior triggers you. Next, try going to school before using phases you can't spell correctly (i.e., feminist ideologies, not feminism ideologies). Finally, since you used the plural, please share the different strands of feminist thought featured in this movie? I'll even help you a bit: post-modern, third wave, socialist, marxist, liberal democratic, and/or radical.

[@summerdowlig]

@@johncastillo1184 All the men were trash starting with Big Mama's husband.

[@defriedpings]

"The message is we just want to give kids lives, not nessacarily good lives, just lives" this point stood out to me because how many times have you heard horrible parents who failed their children in many ways say things like "I did _______ and they turned out fine" totally ignoring any mental issues and trials their children has gone through, Ig implying that if they aren't DEAD they succeeded as a parent. Why isn't the goal to raise well adjusted and happy human beings? I mean you will see people with kids who clearly have trauma, anger issues and sometimes drug issues etc say these things. Where is the bar in parenthood? Toxic family dynamics seems so normalized in the black community especially, and it bothers me. I feel like there is a certain expectation for women to just deal with disrespect and pain, but there seems to be even more of an expectation of that on black women. I wish I had the numbers, but I just feel like its more likely for white people to recognize their family is toxic and just cut ties than black people. There seems to be this importance on a family being there for each other, but not TRULY being there for each other, and these types of toxic families seem so fake to me. I agree with you, if you have a family like that, just let go. I did cause if I didn't they would have ran me into the ground. Loved the video.

[@aspyn.j_]

thank you for watching and i'm so glad that stuck out to you. as a disowned child of narc parents, i felt it was important to include that. black people seem to romanticize the bare minimum even if it shows that it's clearly not enough. that presence alone is better than no presence at all. it's not and i wish they would also stop demonizing others who can see that.

[@elleofhearts8471]

I think raising well rounded and well adjusted kids isn't a priority because that's never been the standard or a reasonably achievable goal in black American history until extremely recently. Think about what it takes in order to raise children well. all the material, physcial and mental resources, generational wealth, familial resources etc, needed to raise a well adjusted child. Now put that in the context of black American history. How many in the general black population had enough of all of these things? or had enough of what's necessary to acquire them? Given that wealth, freedom, education, social saftey nets, civil rights etc have been kept from black ameicans from the beginning, it's not a big mystery how a movie like soul food ended up being what it is, both into existence and holding beloved ststus in balck culture. Its a product of multiple deficits and deprivation of black communities originating internally and externally. Raising your children with the bare minimum used to be acceptable and the most realistic outcome for most black Americans at a certain time. Because raising a family was most important thing women could do and violence and poverty were way more normalized. There's not a lot that black people can do in a white controlled society. Not to mention having a family was part of respectability politics, toxic feminity and masculinity, Christian values, and stigma management for lgbt people (Dorthy Dandridge's mother was a lesbian for example). As time has passed, people haven't grown out of that survial mindset. Many black Americans still grow up in poverty and in the generational trauma that's been passed down from generation to generation. Access to better economic opportunities, education, personal freedom, generational wealth, civil rights, access to healthcare, gender equality, freedom from from religious influences, etc are not privileges many black people still haven't completely had in recent history. So these hindrances perpetuate their harm over and over again. Plus we're only really recently in human history writ large, forming language and comprehension surrounding the concepts of mental health and family-power dynamics. The worlds general population has never been as educated, literate, and having access to information as easily as we do/ are right now. With that, comes the realization that a lot of fucked up things were normalized in the past. even as recent as our own childhoods and the cultural touchpoints that help define our collective/regional cultural identity. And these fucked up things are part of tradition and have helped to define black culture, whether you love or hate that fact. And most people don't like traditions being questioned or reevaluated. Even as educated the world population generally now is, we still have a really long way to go before people really start to see and accept that many things that were normalized from our fondest memories, whether personal, historical, or collective, and dearly held traditions were fucked up and wrong. Were literally only JUST NOW going in the direction we should've always been going in as far as rethinking cultural toxicity and toxic relationships dynamics of the past and present. But again that's because we've been kept away from accessing education, personal freedom, social saftey nets, economic opportunities, gener equality etc.

[@itsmissvsworld]

I left the theatre not liking that movie, and after living a little afterwards, I've since grown to hate it. Oh, and this was the best breakdown about this movie I've ever seen. Keep it up.

[@aspyn.j_]

thank you! i sure will. :)

[@feelgoodmusicradio8280]

Teri should've told them all to kick rocks!

[@aspyn.j_]

for real!

[@JMac7395]

Big Mama comes from an era where you didn't talk about those hurtful, traumatizing & shameful moments because it would embarrass or tarnish the family name. Big Mama comes from an era where people suppressed all negative emotions & refused to resolve conflicts face to face. Resulting with a lot of fake family love, resentments & generational trauma being passed down. Big Mama carried those methods while bringing up her own family. Which is why when she got sick & died the family completely fell apart. Only when the family confronted each other with hard truth did they begin to heal & build true unity & love for each other.

[@samflood5631]

Don’t forget that she’s been feeding herself and her child a massive amount of pig lard. Hell, after Big Mama died, her family gets together for a Sunday Dinner and eat the same food that killed Big Mama, the same food. They didn’t learn a lesson, nobody went on a diet.

[@JMac7395]

​@@samflood5631 I think a big part of the reason why a lot elder generations refused to acknowledge that the foods they were eating were contributing to the deterioration of their health was because prior to the 1960s food in America was actually healthier to eat than modern-day food. In the late 60s, companies slowly started to add various preservative chemicals into the fruits, vegetables & grains. Also, putting steroids into various meats. A lot of the elder generation didn't understand nor believe that such a thing would happen. Prior to companies pumping preservatives & steroids into American food, a lot of Black Americans who ate soul food lived to be in their 90s & 100s. Currently, there are people dying in their 60s & 70s. It's not necessarily the food itself. It's what's being pumped into the food that's causing the issue. If we were to eat soul food outside of America, we would actually lose weight instead of gaining weight & we wouldn't be as sick.

[@purplenurple6278]

Idk how terri dealt with that family so long

[@purplenurple6278]

How is the cousin fucking everyones man??

[@angelaholmes8888]

Even when I was a kid i knew it was wrong how terri was treated she totally deserved better vanessa Williams did a great job in the role big momma should had taught bird and Maxine to not be dependent on others to me because in life you can only depend on yourself

[@Kay-kg6ny]

You ever stumble across a great channel and get sad when you realize it's new so there's a limited number of videos for you to binge?? 😂 Between this and the Emma-bashing video, you got a new subscriber here -- you're amazing!

[@aspyn.j_]

Wow thanks a lot for making my morning! More to come, glad you’re here! ☺️

[@greendiamondglow]

Maxine was the golden child. I heard someone say SHE was the strong one? Where??? How??? In my fanfic version of this movie, Terri takes the bar in another state and moves far, FAR away from all those people and lives happily ever after.

[@lanatobasco1224]

Vivica uh fox, aptly named bird 💀💀💀 lol

[@ogunrebukeracistsxenophobe9661]

Agree with the take on Terri being the real victim in this movie! Family such as that, you don't need enemies! Puzzled by the Cyn G quote though. As a grifter who earns her money crapping on Black men, yet laid up with dustiest of beta males who has a dozen baby mothers with a dozen more babies, and got pregnant by him? I don't think anyone should take what that hypocrite says seriously!

[@aspyn.j_]

thanks for watching! we can agree to disagree about cyn. i think she's challenged black women to think instead of mindlessly following the herd to their own detriment. and it takes two people to cause a pregnancy, so if you're mad at her for allegedly getting pregnant by a dusty, you should also be mad at said dusty for impregnating. at the end of the day, if your ultimate message is for black women to stop messing with you all and stop having your children because you're aware that the majority of you cannot be trusted to stick around if/when a pregnancy occurs, then you're proving her point!

[@GirlGeek90]

Teri needed this video, I felt bad for her

[@katymbeke8400]

I have a theory. She was demonised because she was the successful black woman, and men (or people in general) hate a successful woman. Or just a successful woman in general.

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah it was all jealousy at the end of the day. teri got it out of the mud and had the money to show for it.

[@teeahtate]

Word. A good point. Was this a hidden meaning? Successful black women who make money have a rough time at life.

[@dianediane17]

Please continue making videos! Not only was this a great breakdown of the movie and the problematic values in this family - you have a voice fit for narration, a way with words, and a sense of humor. Keep going!

[@aspyn.j_]

thank you so much. i sure will keep going. :)

[@caroll9698]

Diabetic dinners 😂

[@PHSDM104]

They went back to eating the same food that killed Big Mama. Nobody learned a lesson! Nobody went on a diet!

[@lizzybethnj617]

The Boondocks

[@cdub1988]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. It's crazy that they kept eating the same food that killed Big Mama.

[@TracyGJacksonTV]

⁠@@PHSDM104The Boondocks reference😂😂, but the whole family went back to eating the same food that led to Big Mama’s health problems as well as her death.

[@PHSDM104]

LOL @ the 3 hair dryers breaking. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@trofeowatkins4401]

Vivica "uhhh" Fox 😂😂

[@JT_Saenz]

I was wondering if I misheard the pronunciation! 😅🤣

[@TracyGJacksonTV]

Terri was the victim, mainly due to the fact that she worked her a** off and expected to do everything. In the TV Series, Terri does get involved with Damon Carter. During the series 5 season run, Terri and Damon had an on and off relationship before getting married in the series finale.

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah i felt so bad for her when i did an adult rewatch.

[@TracyGJacksonTV]

@@aspyn.j_Same here, in the first episode of the series Bird,Lem and their newborn son Jeremiah as well as Uncle Pete moved in with Teri for a short time because of water damage in big mama’s house. I felt bad Teri went through what she went through in the movie. There was a lot of things that were explored in the Soul Food TV Series that wasn’t talked about in the movie, one of which was that Bird,Teri and Maxine had a half sister named Nina who wanted Big Mama to be buried next to their father as well as the relationship between Teri and Kenny had while in high school.

[@balentinecarmen7774]

This is the best random video I have ever stumbled upon and watched from beginning to end. You got all my 16 minutes and had me cracking up. I don’t know if I can ever watch this film again. Totally Team Terri!!!! I subscribed. Definitely passing this video on. 😂😂😂😂

[@aspyn.j_]

aww thank you so much! glad the algorithm brought you here!

[@teeahtate]

One of my favorite movies of all time. I took my Mom to see the movie. She has passed on now. I will always watch the movie and think of her. And, I always loved Terri.

[@aspyn.j_]

Awww I totally get that! I’m sorry for your loss. Messiness aside, this is a really “warm” film…like it’s cozy if that makes sense.

[@bgcord]

#justiceforteri

[@aspyn.j_]

Period!!!!

[@TracyGJacksonTV]

Agreed, Teri deserved better. But I will say this for those who have seen the Soul Food TV Series, it picks up where the movie left off and explored a lot of things that in my opinion I wish should have explored in the movie.

[@matxalenc8410]

That laundry list! I was too young to know what was actually going on. I'm gonna have to rewatch this!

[@QilinRider21]

My own mother is the Terri of her family

[@aspyn.j_]

i'm the terri of mine. #ganggang

[@MonnamiePhannPhann]

This was very well done!

[@aspyn.j_]

Thank you!!!

[@hesayshesayhowboutmesay]

I HATE THAT DAMN MOVIE. And you read it for the filth it was.

[@RealMamaEagle]

“Is a messy entrepreneur who loves felons and men that cosplay Steve Harvey.” 💀💀💀💀

[@sheen_supreme7384]

I love your commentary ! Please do more ! How about other Black Movies?

[@aspyn.j_]

Eventually!!! My speciality might be y2k era black films lol

[@Kay-kg6ny]

@@aspyn.j_ um yes please. I will be seated and ready.

[@keenajones6177]

Now wait a damn minute you might be on to something w Lim puttin the hex on Big Mama!

[@aspyn.j_]

the timing was sus...lmao

[@lucypearlenjoyer]

i love your delivery in your videos..feels like i’m listening to a friend! please do a video on spinner and jimmy’s friendship :)

[@aspyn.j_]

Aww thank you! I definitely will do another degrassi video for sure!

[@Kay-kg6ny]

Yesssssssss

[@BritneyBritney101]

I watched this for the first time last year. I identified with Terry heavily in the beginning and was so mad that she ended up with nothing. I remembered my mom watching the TV show. I just started that to see if it fixed all the blaring holes. Would love to hear your perspective on the TV show.

[@aspyn.j_]

never watched the show and honestly never had any interest because nobody from the original cast is there. it looks nice and messy though lol

[@SharonBoo0305]

You are so TALENTED! I miss your "Carrie Bradshaw's messiest moments" series

[@aspyn.j_]

aww thank you! they're still around, check my bio for the old vids on my backup channel. ;)

[@beauenferae2438]

I could never get into this movie. My mom always played it but anytime I watched it, the only one who didn't seem horrible was Terri.

[@xbjrrtc]

Just found this channel. Obsessed. Subscribed.

[@aspyn.j_]

Welcome aboard! :D

[@iamstrangepeaches]

11:50 but Kenny can afford a lawyer??? :/ :/ :/

[@aspyn.j_]

RIGHT?!!!

[@katymbeke8400]

Lol, her family was Narcissistic, not just toxic.

[@BlueGreens]

Narcissism equates toxicity

[@katymbeke8400]

@@BlueGreens Some toxic people try to change or can see their faults, this family doesn’t see theirs. I tend to see certain words differently.

[@ShinRyojin]

Watching this video is so cathartic because I’ve hated this movie since I was a kid. The movie manipulates you into rooting for the wrong people and vilifying the real victim (Teri). Shit, the movie gaslights the audience like how the family gaslighted Teri. I’m glad that today, calling out toxic family members and disowning them is normalized and not taboo. We’re in no obligation to love toxic family members as you perfectly stated. Also shout out to Jennette McCurdy for her book I’m Glad My Mom is Dead and bringing to conversation to the masses and not pulling any punches. And of course fuck Maxine.

[@aspyn.j_]

i want to read jeanette's book! and you are correct. familial abuse needs to be talked about waaaay more.

[@krazzeeaj]

The way they framed Terri as the bad guy like the whole damn family wasn't playing in her face. They acted like her money, her home and her men were all public property. They expected her to just keep sacrificing for them over and over again. She was better than me because I would've put Uncle Pete in a home, sold the house and dipped the fuck out. They didn't deserve Terri.

[@BraunwynBlondel]

At 11:46 No offense to all the black people that saw this movie in the 90’s… I’m pretty sure none of you were, and still aren’t, lawyers. However, a cease and desist letter, especially in this scenario, would not actually stop the sale of any property against the literal GUARDIAN OF ESTATE over said over the assumed property. By definition, a cease and desist letter is a document sent by one party, often a business, to warn another party that they believe the other party is committing an unlawful act, and that they will take legal action if the other party continues the alleged unlawful activity. The letter may warn that, if the recipient does not discontinue specified conduct, or take certain actions, by deadlines set in the letter, the letter's recipient may be sued. HOWEVER, as mentioned above, a GUARDIAN OF ESTATE cannot, and shall not, be sued for wanting to sell the assumed property, UNLESS maleficence can be proven (which Maxine and her “impressive” high school diploma 🤡 would have most likely failed to prove). Again, i know the average person is ignorant to law, especially being an individual during the 90’s watching this film, but this is all for show. The sad part is that actual stupid people believe this could happen in real life. Maxine and her family, much like the many people that believed this tripe, are very ignorant.

[@claytonphillips85]

You'll be better off spending the holidays with someone else's family in cases like this

[@aspyn.j_]

or alone.

[@claytonphillips85]

@@aspyn.j_ yep true

[@daniellemaycock9352]

Not the diabetic dinners! Lmaooo

[@samflood5631]

So, no Boondocks reference seeing how Huey Freeman basically summed up how Big Mama died and everyone ate the same food that killed her?

[@aspyn.j_]

missed opportunity, i know lmao

[@MTooHotboi]

I need more of these videos. I'm subscribing to this channel.

[@aspyn.j_]

welcome aboard! more to come. :)

[@rnbmatters8224]

Exactly why I prefer the TV series over the film. a lot of the characters were flushed out better throughout the seasons.

[@aspyn.j_]

never watched the series but i always wondered what it was like!

[@HinataUchiha_22]

The series was actually really good and after watching this i came to realize that all the stuff l liked about the family was from the show

[@TracyGJacksonTV]

@@HinataUchiha_22I agree because in the soul food tv series which picks up where the movie left off explored and shows a lot of things that wasn’t talked about in the movie. One of the things explored was a character by the name of Nina who was a half sister of Teri,Maxine and Bird never knew of.

[@katymbeke8400]

Vivica Fox was great in Kill Bill, just saying.

[@aspyn.j_]

too bad she died first. i would have loved to see her kick more ass!

[@BlackCrown1990]

13:45- NOT NECROTIC LIMBS! LOL

[@Austinflwrz]

I love Vanessa Williams. Iconic.

[@reneedennis2011]

Great analysis 👍🏾! Just subscribed.

[@aspyn.j_]

thank you so much! more to come!

[@reneedennis2011]

@@aspyn.j_ You're welcome 😊!

[@EricaAsjaee]

The first time I watched this movie was when I was an adult . I was mad at Terri for taking all that shut . Idk how the fuck she came around them.

[@aspyn.j_]

she was conditioned to...takes a long time to break that but i agree. it took me a long time to realize my family was toxic, too.

[@Caleb14Richmond]

Loved this

[@Oliviagebelcook]

Dope vid and luv ur comments on family! :)

[@TheBriBoat]

Subbed to you before you blow up! Your video essays are so good! 💖

[@aspyn.j_]

Yessss speak it into existence hahaha thank you so much!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@JaiProdz]

I need to finish the show

[@asdfghjkl3003]

Where do you watch it?

[@JaiProdz]

@@asdfghjkl3003 I have the dvd! It's sad it's not streaming

[@asdfghjkl3003]

@@JaiProdz Right? I found all of the episodes here on youtube, but stars could make so much money if they put them on streaming platforms.

[@JaiProdz]

@@asdfghjkl3003 it depends I guess it's because it takes energy and power to have all the space to upload a series with so many seasons but also if they're not getting enough views they don't make a lot of money for the company

[@asdfghjkl3003]

@@JaiProdz True

[@kaya0497]

do baby boy

[@Chendoart]

This film needs a sequal. Lem is now serving a 25 year sentence after sexuallly assaulting the hoe little sister. And Terry's ex is now in a wheel cjair for trying to protect his current wife (the Hoe little sister) from the assault.

[@aspyn.j_]

you just KNOW lem went back to jail at some point. and the family probably wanted terri to bail his ass out again.

[@uncreativenav]

great video.

[@jeremyud]

You know, if you read the Wikipedia page on this, they say Soul Food was lauded as being a positive portrayal of black people.

[@aspyn.j_]

i never said it wasn't a positive portrayal of Black people.

[@donamaru3630]

4:51 did you take that music from primm lol

[@GirlGeek90]

Yes lol

[@aspyn.j_]

this is from GTA san andreas lol but i do love his videos!

[@tootler23]

Thank you.

[@shaquilleanderson1887]

They wanted us to hate aunt Terri because she held people accountable, was probably overworked and depressed, financially abused and didn’t go to see her husband perform at a damn Jodeci and babyface concert 😂😂😂😂. Justice for Aunt Terri

[@evelynannettegordon3697]

Bravo video 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@DTowns1Finest]

Yall gotta watch terri redemption in the series 🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@therealmarlonbellamy]

Rewatching Soul Food as an adult i’ve come to the realization that the family treated Terri like garbage. They used & abused her. The movie made Terri look like the villain because of her standoffish demeanor. The reason why she was negative Nancy was because Max stole her boyfriend & married him, the family made her pay for everything & her marriage was on the rocks. Kenny wasn’t smart enough to be with Terri anyway. Max was more of his speed. Bird was probably still messing around with Simuel because she didn’t set any boundaries & she went behind her husband’s back to Simuel to get him a job. Here are some fun facts: The late Whitney Houston & Halle Berry were considered for the role of Terri.

[@angelnyambio5704]

if I were Bird and I was assaulted by a felon who's the father of my child, I would've definitely gone to Terry to tell her what happened, instead of Maxine. Especially since Maxine clearly didn't care enough about the situation, plus Maxine doesn't really seem like the caring type. Plus, Terri deserves so much better than what her family has given her, especially from her so-called sister Maxine, her terrible excuse of a husband, and her momma. Terri was definitely a victim, and the same with I guess Bird. All those men in the movie were the worst, especially Terri's husband and Bird's felon.

[@aspyn.j_]

yeah, they were the worst indeed. and they got away with everything. ain't no way you're gonna cheat on me with a family member and still get invited over to get free food. you better fuck RIGHT off.

[@angelnyambio5704]

@@aspyn.j_ Yup

[@davidlewis5189]

​@@aspyn.j_ Kinda makes me question the way they were raised. Considering Mama Jo was ok with that pervy pastor touching and slobbering all over the daughters well into adulthood, and the atupid rule about how a sister always had to accompany the other when they went on a date...

[@tall9317]

I would love to see your take on the tv series

[@aspyn.j_]

never watched it!

[@tall9317]

@@aspyn.j_ oh it’s a lot messier than movie I’ll say that. It was on showtime during their very explicit era and the show goes in on the tv ma brand. I love it and hate it. You should check it out, probably on paramount plus

[@shaquilleanderson1887]

I was about to say who paid for the groceries every week for these dinners lol who had foodstamps??

[@jqhnnyy]

can you talk about the prayer club and how it was colorist? all the light skin women strippers were seen as attractive and exotic while the only dark skin women stripper was seen as manly old and ugly…there was also a race play scene. very dirty move on ice cube as he directed the movie!

[@rejanrobinson8797]

But Ronnie was light skinned and she was the villain?

[@jqhnnyy]

@@rejanrobinson8797 and her sidekick wasn't on the same level as her...a manly dark skin black woman who was undesirable

[@matesetowns]

I'm pretty sure divorce was legal in the 50s.

[@aspyn.j_]

not no-fault divorce, though.

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

My sisters hate me too

[@stephanied6711]

Good movie

[@SmarchitectMann]

Lol@ Vivica, a fox

[@bongileaugust]

Not cosplay Steve Harvey 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Missingonesmatter]

Fake character or not, how did Terri keep it together?😵‍💫Whew.

[@Austinflwrz]

…at one of their diabetic dinners

[@RK-um9tu]

Terri is not a VICTIM. She is a SCAPGOAT who has accepted this family role...

[@derickspencejr.6998]

Why you gotta call Ahmad a dumbass? He’s just a kid. He left the towel on the stove by accident. He was the strongest character in the entire movie.

[@aspyn.j_]

it was a joke! lol but i understand.

[@Cheersthewinners]

Yall really dissecting a damn movie like it’s real. Get a live

[@aspyn.j_]

You can always just idk not watch?

[@waters228_91]

Is there a problem with that?

[@kks086]

Wow this review was really shady. I wonder what the future looks like for Black women after there are no more Black men around to blame everything on?

[@aspyn.j_]

well considering that y'all are murdering us every few hours, i'd say good. amazing, even.

[@kks086]

@@aspyn.j_ 👍