Spilling the TEA while I clean my filthy home | COZY CHORES

[@Caroline_Winkler]

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[@nnnbooks1211]

love these types of your videos.

[@jordanlp02]

What you said about being afraid of sharing yourself fully in relationships, and your mostly healed but still not perfect relationship with eating/body image really resonated with me. It's comforting to hear someone else speak the very same feelings you have, and to see that you are growing and healing still. Thank you :)

[@AP12360]

Your boyfriend is so sweet for sending you flowers when you return.❤

[@TheGapYearsVideos]

Your sponsored content is so good! I've tried Factor before and it really is nice and easy. Thanks for another fab video

[@bugsbunny2357]

I had a hard time watching before. It's great to see that you have calmed down. I was attracted by your intelligence but just couldn't take the spastic thing (I'm over 60 and it was too stressful and draining). :)

[@barbaramartinez2456]

I’ve been with the same man for more than ten years. We’ve been married close to ten years. And when I noticed, through your videos, changes in your behavior, I knew that your relationship was a good one. Some people don’t like change. But I think you are just evolving into a healed version of yourself because that’s what a good relationship will ask of you. That’s real life. Your audience will one day also evolve and understand. So don’t feel like you have to make yourself a show for us to be a part of your community. Most just want someone to relate to. It makes me happy to see you giddy about your relationship. From this couple to you, we wish you a happy life 💖

[@bleakaf]

Our comments are basically twins ❤️

[@linochka2011]

I agree!!!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

this was really lovely to read. thank you. i really like hearing about how your relationship changed you. i guess i never thought about it too much, we hear more about how a BAD relationship affects people negatively. but not so much about the reverse. i think i had some idea that all my growth had to be done on my own - and i think a lot does - but it's been really interesting to see the affect others have on you too. which seems like a "no duh" once i type it out, but oh well. im full of oh-duh!

[@AngelaWalesArtist]

Exactly!

[@barbaramartinez2456]

@@Caroline_Winkler In this day and age, I think it can be hard for us in good relationships to highlight the good things about being in a long term relationship. Some people can mock or ridicule a good relationship. Maybe because it forces them to see the things they need to work on. At least it did for us. But we so wish deep down for our loved ones to be loved the same way we feel. To be loved by someone who chooses to love you unconditionally is truly a gift. The growth you do on your own is great! But the growth you work on, along with your partner, can be so rewarding.

[@BrooklynJade1]

I’m not just here for the chaos. I’m here for the authenticity. And that’s why I’ll stick around.

[@valarya]

👆 exactly this!!

[@taniaturenne9317]

Boom! Exactly!

[@priscillarinehart6931]

One milly percent :)

[@alenalevina]

and also you can always source chaos from the sponsorship parts of the video :D

[@kristinadvorakova3419]

You chatting with us while doing chores is exactly what my sisters and I called “fat catting” while growing up. If one of us was doing chores, we’d ask the other to come and fat cat in your room where the person would just cozy up in your bed to chat, read or do hw to keep you company while doing chores. 😂❤

[@lydiasalerno2320]

Thank you for sharing this. What a lovely experience and fantastic expression! 💗

[@bree8150]

I love this so much! I need someone to fat cat with now. lol.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

i loveeee this!!!!! i miss this dynamic of childhood.

[@jagibaba]

I love this ❤

[@jillianjiggs84]

Hahaha "fat catting" that is too cute and I love it

[@leoniep9231]

Actually, I've noticed how you are more gentle in your videos (especially with yourself) and I've loved seeing that change, even if you are maybe less 'snappy' in a way than some time ago. I really appreciate both the vulnerable part of you that's relentlessly introspective, but ultimately kind and patient with yourself which you increasingly show in your videos, and the personal growth conceptually that we get to watch over time. It's beautiful and incredibly human, and I feel honored we are invited to see that. Watching your example reminds me to be kind to myself and accept good things even if I am incredibly self-critical and sceptical at times. Personally, I am here for the ever-growing and changing Caroline.

[@valarya]

That was a really wonderful comment to read. Well said! 💜

[@sharonaxelrod4608]

❤​@@valarya

[@cmleite]

Caroline do not be apologetic about your wonderful relationship!! You worked really hard for it. It is very important for people to know what good love looks like!! If people are upset its because they do not have it!!! Who else would complain about it?? Im so happy you get to experience that. Theres so many BAD examples of relationships out there. We need good ones!!!!

[@robinhoward4204]

Well said - we all need that reassurance that solid, good, nurturing and accepting love is possible. AND that we are worthy of it!

[@Anna-te5qc]

Exactly, they were used to see me unhappy with relationships and they were like, dont worry... When it changed they were not happy with me. Their relationships were messy and some of them didnt even want to be with someone bc everyone is just disaster

[@helenachwierut7349]

TRUTH

[@Marmalade251]

Consider that it may not be that “they’re just jealous” and that their abandonment issues may be at play here. We may have had someone lose themselves in relationships, make a person the center of their lives and conversation and neglect friendships or else we’ve done so ourselves. The fact that society places more value and worth on romantic relationships vs friendships or any other relationship can only add to the feelings of resentment. It’s not talked about enough.

[@drsalka]

While she did work really hard for it and I respect that, where some people just give up or give into dysfunction, I feel like adding, that she (and all of us) are inherently deserving of healthy, joyful, fulfilling relationships (it’s just unfortunate that we live in a world where most of us have some trauma to unpack before we can create and experience that).

[@cqt9223]

I'm enjoying your transformation. It shows how anxiety can yield to a more grounded state with the influence of a good partner. It gives me hope.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

im so glad, it gives me a lot of hope too. i started hearing comments from family and friends even before i started getting comments on youtube. "you seem happy", "you seem calm". it was weird how much it started coming up. internally i kind of felt the same?? because i really didnt feel unhappy before, i was happy single. but there is some kind of shift in my energy i guess

[@themohrlands]

I think what people pick up on and call happy or calm is contentment when that worry of finding someone is settled and you feel content and secure that satisfaction radiates happiness and calm into other parts of your life in a similar way that any contentment and security effects your life job/housing/health. I got married at 18 now I am 33 and that contentment is the key to happiness I think you've found that.

[@Liane-q4g]

"Sounds like you're a whole person" - I love that.

[@sylviaeneriz4808]

Me too.❤

[@gigicooper1759]

I am 65 yrs old…make peace with yourself. The face/body you find fault with is the one you will miss 10 yrs later. Grace! Stop listening to all the stupid adds that focus on your imperfections. I am at peace and very grateful for the confidence that has grown within. To Caroline…I’ve followed before you left the long term painful relationship and, watched you grow. Congrats Girl, Congrats!

[@jolene0407]

F anyone who is annoyed by your relationship. I LOVE seeing you and Justin together and how you love each other. Keep putting it out there. It is beneficial to know that real love and acceptance exists

[@LawOfAttraction-ed2mx]

💕

[@carnivoreheals]

💯

[@stephallen9819]

Yes I love it too! I love seeing her 'success story' after all that chaotic and stressful dating and hearing your personal growth through it is so lovely. I'd say people that don't like to see it are unhappy themselves and their misery wants company. Which is all fine and good but it's not on you to give that to them and plenty of us love to see you happy and 'healed' xx

[@blytheberesford2657]

For anyone who is "annoyed" by the fact that other people have supportive, wonderful relationships: take a deep breath, and a step back, and ask yourself what it is about someone else being content that activates the annoyance in you. It's not about the person who annoyed you - it's about you.

[@erinrafferty5659]

Girl, I've been noticing this in your past few videos-you can hear such a big difference in how you're doing in your voice and how you speak. Your pitch is lower, you're not resorting to laughing or making self-depricating jokes as much, the vibe is overall calmer and just... content. You can absolutely tell you're doing well, and that's awesome.

[@TeaAndTonic92]

I gotta admit, I have definitely been one of those annoyed people in response to seeing happy relationship videos / content. Just earlier today an acquaintance posted a picture of herself and her boyfriend having gotten the keys to their new house and it instantly put a blech (sp?) feeling in my chest. But I know that it's fully from envy and not believing that I could one day have that. I'm 32, been single most of my life and been frustratingly on the apps for a long time. And it's certainly easy in this situation for me to think pretty sad or ugly thoughts about others' relationships in an attempt to not completely break down and resign myself to just being a person who will never have it. How you said you feel like you're being loved so fully and so hard, that's exactly what I want and have never had. As saddening as it is to be reminded of what I want and don't have, it's also inspiring and comforting to see that it's possible. Not someone who happened to meet their person at 13, not someone who's always been in enviable relationships. So all this to say: I still love your videos :)

[@Caroline_Winkler]

I think this is one of the most amazing comments I’ve ever read. It is full of an honesty I respect and that is so hard to find. I really admire what you shared here. I think you’re already doing a lot of hard and vulnerable, honest, human things right here in this post. And that will attract someone to love the heck out of you. You are not alone in these feelings. And in fact I think you should feel really proud of the self reflection and analysis, and willingness to be open. In doing so, you’ve connected with many who feel the same (myself included in moments.) hang in there, you’re doing it right

[@debbrajsligar]

I love this blog & your house & style sense!! Keep being yourself no matter what the "people" want ❤

[@anitapallenberg690]

❤

[@liz4581]

This reminds me of the time it took me 7 years to conceive my first child at the age of 35 (this is when I conceived, so we had started trying at age 28!!! It was THE HARDEST EXPERIENCE of my entire life!!! EVERYONE around me was having babies, and second and third babies, and I couldn't even conceive ONE baby!!!! This was extremely disheartening to me; I cried often!!!!

[@lisarodriguez8681]

It will happen even if you have to wait till another time and place… we are eternal beings and you will feel belonging and acceptance and All the rest of love too.😂

[@MaryKearns-pp2sc]

TRUTH! I was that “dog” …. At age 62 someone loved me relentlessly …. My life is complete ❤

[@AngelaWalesArtist]

My favorite thing about you has always been how authentic you seem: unhinged, calm, it’s you I’m here for! ❤

[@penelopepitstock]

Yes 🙌 you summed up my thoughts perfectly

[@a.mdzlpz6386]

Nailed it ❤

[@mariabeaulieu3732]

The best way to pack for a trip is to start with your feet. What are your feet going to need for the time away? And then move up your body to all the things, pants/skirts/dresses/tops/jackets whatever until you get to your head. Best way to pack. And keep it simple! Keep to three maybe 4 colors so everything works together. I stick with blue, black, white and maybe one pop of color for fun. That’s it. You will thank yourself.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

WOW. i have never heard this but it is great

[@jagibaba]

Uuuu, this is really good advice 😮 thank you!!!

[@anyaroz8619]

Great advice! Thank you!

[@dreamingofpemberly]

Also, shoes, be realistic. Did exactly this but kept in mind, where I was going at the time (live in the US but for reasons got to go to Ireland during my college years for a course) and it was a lot of walking... So, if you have the time to do so, look at the shoes you're considering and like go, "Well, will future me hate me if I wear these?" And, if the answer was yes, they ended in the nope pile. Ended up with flats for somewhere fancier, a pair of house shoes, and a pair of tennis shoes, not counting the sneakers I wore on the plane and it totally worked. Just thought I'd add to this tip...

[@barbaraives4962]

​@@dreamingofpemberlyexcellent advice. Flats can be perfectly elegant even for dressier occasions.

[@BLUEJAYMusic1994]

Im currently a night shift janitor. This was SO pleasant to listen to while working. I already enjoy your channel, and “Cozy Chores” just works so well with what I do haha. Thanks for that!

[@michelec7247]

Do you ever just not want to start a video because starting the video means it’s closer to being over? That’s how I feel. I want to savour this so I can cozy clean forever!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

adorable

[@lilymccann-klausz4938]

HA I so relate to this! But we can always rewatch

[@brianna.pichardo]

I relate 😂😂😂 very enamored. very ridiculous

[@coolcalm1111]

I thought I was the only one feeeling this when a fav youtuber posts 😂❤

[@meganwollam2325]

I'm that dog that needs to be loved. Trying not to give up hope haha. But I totally agree that being loved hard can totally change the way you see things. So happy you have that with Justin!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

my opinion - recognizing that you deserve that love, means you've already done a huge and difficult part of the work. the rest if coming. good for you

[@jagibaba]

​@@Caroline_Winkleryeah, because - in terms of the dog - to any outside observer it's clear that it was never the dog's fault in the first place. Any dog deserves respect and deserves to be loved, because it's an awesome dog. Nothing short of a miracle. Soooo 😊 you know.. the outside observer deserves it just the same.

[@retroredo9850]

Im 69 and my partner passed from cancer 6 months ago. At times seems like 6 days. Other times 6 years. My family's not close some by distance. Some by you know. We had only been together 12 years. He was completely healthy and the nicest human. Some days i stay in bed all day. In part we retired to high desert and it's frigging cold. I just conquered the wood stove this week realizing by kicking it in frustration the damper is backwards. I could say a lot more about men designed items at my age! Like kitchens! My house looks like 4 lumber jacks stayed a month. I dont care! Im now Queen of Fire. Cleaning will start tomorrow! When warmer I pulled all the weeds myself on this almost acre lot. We had hired help but not in my budget now. Sadness and madness makes a work companion though. My local neighburs help. Youbger guys. I share my banana bread. Brownies and sewing skills. Im ok modt of the time. I also do it because it was our home....not house as some say! Dont let people tell you who you should be. I had that in controlling narcissist ex husband while absentee from the family!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

"Queen of Fire". ♥🙌 yes you are.

[@anyaroz8619]

❤💔❤

[@jillianjiggs84]

I'm sorry you lost your person 💔 also go you for getting that wood stove in order 💪

[@darlenemahaney1258]

Thinking of you with empathy. Wish my thoughts could help

[@rebeccaquandt5975]

Keep kicking ass, Queen of Fire! You have my support! ❤

[@tattoodhobomom]

Telling your partner the ugliest parts of you, changes you to your core. In past relationships, those little (or big) things you lock away because you think no one will love you because of them - they actually somehow end up eating at you throughout the lifetime of said relationship. When I met my husband and I told him the secrets that I’ve never said out loud into the world, there’s never been anything I’ve been afraid to say to him since. He loves every bit of me so deeply. I’ve never felt more at peace with myself or in a relationship in my entire life. Being loved properly takes time and it most certainly does change you. I am so happy you are able to experience such a transformative love!

[@CoralHopper]

I only comment on your videos rarely, but I've been here since the street man days... and I personally LOVE seeing you grow. It bums me out that some people found your content "more relatable" (or whatever other adjective) when you were in a period of transition and seemingly less happy than you are now. But that's a very common response people have when seeing people put in the work and striving to achieve the life they want. If it helps ease your mind about your audience at all, you and I are on a very similar journey, and I have really enjoyed, benefitted from, and felt seen in your videos over the last year especially. In a purely parasocial way--I'm so proud of you. And you're still quirky and combative and so, so funny. I look forward to your videos every week, dude. Keep going.

[@Kelly-n2z7q]

Those that find the growth of others unsettling, just means they are on their own journeys of improvement and are jealous of those that may have found a less bumpy path. But seeing that, helps to guide us all because she has broken trail, making our way easier to navigate.

[@musiclover04428]

I love love love to see a woman being loved in a healthy way by a good man who cherishes her!! Never ever apologize for that, I want that for me and all my sisters around the world because we deserve it. Truly loving somebody from the bottom of your heart is as close as it comes to magic. Seeing you experience that gives hope!

[@lisainthelowlands]

At 43 I finally found a healthy relationship. The way I describe it is that it is quiet. It's a quieter time. At first I worried about the peace and what it meant. Then it occurred to me that it's the lack of hurt and drama and fear. The quiet signifies peace and finding your home 😊

[@breannacarels6479]

I’ve changed ALOT in the past 5 years. Couldn’t imagine doing it with a KZbin audience, but if I had one, I can’t imagine most people following my path. Keep growing. It’s beautiful to see. I’m here for it. ❤

[@lisagrace6471]

@breannacarels6479 ha same!! I left a religion that is dominant in my area and family and shifted political beliefs- people have definitely not stuck along for the change. I keep quiet publicly as much as I can for the sake of my kid, but I have tried to focus on what I DO want to experience and that has helped! But yeah, just agreeing with you that it is a miracle people can stick with someone online through change. :) Says a lot about Caroline and the community she has been cultivating as well.

[@breannacarels6479]

@ ya. I don’t know if I could really stick with someone online who wasn’t on their own path of growth and self-discovery. I’ve certainly left many behind although am thankful for the role they’ve played in my life along the way. Many great teachers and many companions. Thank you for sharing a part of your story with me. Changes like that take courage and come with losses no doubt but I’m a firm believer in personal contemplation and authenticity. I honour your journey. All the best to you and your kid. I’m a mom too. ❤️

[@lisagrace6471]

@@breannacarels6479 well said and THANK YOU. Felt that ❤🙏

[@annaadoue2763]

It's so annoying how people can't stand when your life gets better. I am so happy for you that your relationship is working, you deserve it.

[@scoobydont]

Love these cozy chore videos ✨ And Justin getting flowers delivered to your house when you come back is so incredibly sweet 😭💙

[@missmagic707]

No one wants a calm & safe dog to go back to being neglected, frightened and snappy, that would be absolutely insane and cruel. We love watching you grow and change, you're a role model for fighting for yourself and what you value. It's an honour and privilege to watch you evolve and mature. Please never dull yourself or your relationships for unknown others opinions, they have no right to expect that from you, the majority of us adore you in every way that you are. Xx

[@bleakaf]

Caroline: "Some people are worried I'm less unhinged" Also Caroline: 28:15 🤣 Others will already have said it, but we're here to see you grow like a baby pepper, not reduce yourself to a caricature for our comfort. Even a good TV show needs character development. Anyone who would begrudge you healing and embracing calmer moments is probably resisting their own next level of growth/evolution. As someone who has also had a bit of a rollercoaster to get to my current phase of life, I can honestly say that becoming more (what some might call) 'boring' is one of the things I'm most proud of. It was a hell of a slog to get to this place, I deserve to rest and enjoy it sometimes. ❤️

[@shrinkingviolet3]

Excellent comment!

[@bleakaf]

​@@shrinkingviolet3aw, thank you!

[@juliemac5604]

As a kid, I never knew that I would enjoy boring so much as an adult. Boring is peace.

[@WhaChuUpTo]

This comment is everything. Wishing everyone who reads this the space to just Rest in the most boring sense.

[@valarya]

well said, and absolutely lovely. 💜 I also went through a roller coaster to get to my current phase of healing, and my husband loving the shit out of me helped me navigate my turmoil instead of falling back in to the same patterns. It's quite lovely to see that we are all really just the same.

[@ainsel98]

thank you for showing us and being vulnerable, as a guy with ADHD, it really reduces my shame when I see "proper" people having messes and dealing with it ❤

[@cmleite]

Pretty sure she has adhd. Her sister is diagnosed, it is genetic...

[@cmleite]

But yes, she's been a great inspiration and her tips are very geared towards executive functioning.

[@anyaroz8619]

❤

[@moonhunter9993]

@@cmleite yeah, adhd... seems obvious

[@the_piano_nerd4960]

Also part of the ADHD gang. Welcome aboard to my favorite corner of the internet, her advice helps me like no other content creatir

[@bree-03]

I've met that person recently too, and he's the one who had been left out in the rain in past relationships, so your candor with your journey has helped me to be a better partner and directly sparked conversations that have helped us grow together. I thrived single, but he adds so much joy and a kind of steadfast support and love-as-an-action that makes me want to take on new challenges in my life and gives a safe base for growth.

[@SarahCamp-k3y]

Thank you for being here today, Caroline! I literally just got laid off from a non-profit that was my dream job for a long time due to funding cuts. You give me courage through life's scary moments of change/growth. Keep being you ❤

[@sosexymagazinerobinwatkins8467]

Your NEXT will be even better. I understand the hurt because of this change, but I tell you, it'll get better. Someone once helped me sooo much by sharing " Delayed is not Denied". The best is yet to come.💕

[@Caroline_Winkler]

oh that stings so bad im sure. let yourself feel the hurt and disappointment. give yourself time. just remember that this feeling WONT be the last feeling. there's more to come

[@SarahCamp-k3y]

@Caroline_Winkler thank you💜

[@MLiesel]

@SarahCanp-k3y I’m really sorry! I hope that you find comfort as you navigate this hard situation, and that you find a place to land that is just right for you! Cheering you on.

[@5usiewongs489]

Gaaaah- I love you, Caroline ✨ My ex left me 6 months ago for someone we knew. Our family, that I was so protective of, crumbled before my eyes. At the time I thought I would never recover. But I’m learning to change and adapt from this experience and it is mind blowing to see how very delusional I was in our nearly 14 year relationship. It was toxic and thankfully, hasn’t left me totally insane. I am in no way ready to be with anyone- just taking care of me and learning about my attachment and behaviours- trying to ensure I teach our kids healthy ways to be ourselves and engage with others. They deserve better than this. So much, if not everything, you said here is how I’ve been feeling I just wasn’t able to articulate it the way you do. I initially clicked onto your channel for the interior design content a year ago- but you have in your own life experiences, have just always managed to say the right thing. Might not have been the right timing, but I’ve been filing your wisdom and reflections away and somehow now, they’ve been validating. You unknowingly have helped me- and whatever your channel is now, I am totally here for it and love all aspects of it. Cheers, Caroline. X

[@suitebabygurl1979]

I am so very sorry this is your reality.. and kids too. It’s hard, but you sound like you are managing, one day at a time and thank goodness for your littles. They keep you from crumbling. Hugs to you ❤

[@5usiewongs489]

@ thank you so much! Super grateful for who and what I still have in my life:) Definitely lessons to be learnt.

[@Kelly-n2z7q]

Well said! I can relate.

[@ansleyf.j.8375]

I’m a 37 year old mom of 2 who watches you and DREAMS of being as self aware as you are at your age. Your family should be SO PROUD of you for continuously growing, seeking insight and being so brave as to be so authentic. WISHING my 20 something self could have seen your videos ❤

[@katemiller5990]

Caroline, I’ve noticed the change to a calmer you and I think the dopamine addicted people (me) might feel uncomfortable with the change until we adjust. It think your calmer state and that you are being loved really well, is absolutely wonderful. Like- it’s the bomb digity man! I am so freaking happy for you! It’s good for us to sit with that adjustment, even though it might feel a little uncomfortable for a while, but we all know it’s wholesome. And you’re still fun and quirky and that will never change cos that’s Caroline to a tee! 😊 Have you seen Lisa from Farmhouse on Boone? She’s so calm, and it really grounds me.

[@pegm5937]

Squeeee!!! Caroline just entered my Friday! Aside from her being cute and adorbs and such a sweet character, can we talk about her creativity for coming up with video ideas? I mean, how about the fun camera angles, and entertaining editing? The whole package. And I'm not a young thing but I enjoy the crap out of every video from content to every bit of the presentation. Keep going, Caroline! You're a force to be reckoned with!

[@toritortilla3831]

3:51 YOU DONT HAVE TO BE SAD AND LONELY FIRST!!!!! A good jumping off point is turning off the music/podcast/audio book while in the car especially if you are driving. You're still a little isolated, but there's still things around for your brain to process. Meanwhile, to fill the silence, you get to just ponder your thoughts and learn to be the master of them. I recommend starting with small 5 minute increments, and start your thoughts of by spotting something outside the vehicle just to ponder it. Maybe try to make up a backstory for it. I'm ADHD and my thoughts RACE through my head. I've done this to get me through hours of boring classes and car rides since I was a little girl. It's fun to know your mind and use your imagination. Hope this helps someone...

[@serenesoundsportugal]

13:20 ish We are all changing and growing. That's the best part about KZbin, your audience grows with you. That's what people should expect. I'm enjoying this loved up Caroline era. It absolutely gives me hope!

[@tifi29]

“Trying to keep in touch with my large mentally ill family” I felt so seen OMG, just hearing you say that is helping me accept my family situation right now.

[@gabrielledemont9864]

Your content is changing but for the best ! It's such a pleasure to watch you always ! Keep trying stuff, your creative vision is so refreshing !

[@jenniferkilmer7329]

Pretty cool that he is thinking of you. You deserve to be loved - good, bad, or ugly. Thank you for showing us your place when it is messy! It’s a good motivator for me.

[@reyjay1965]

I can say that at 59 I'm still waiting to find, or feel worthy of being really loved. My family abused me starting in childhood and therapy is too expensive so I look for ways to cope on my own. My minister at church and self help videos and books are alright and listening to people like you Caroline and watching you change and grow with your relationship is always interesting and makes one feel hopeful. I live alone so I have a lot of time for quiet reflection but I admit that I dream about finding someone someday. We are social creatures and solitude doesn't work for most of us for long periods of time. Happy weekend to you all.

[@jenniferroy6288]

Join a group that shares your interests or hobbies! When the focuses on the activity or the item, it takes the burden off of just socializing with people. And smile! You are liked here.

[@marybethwillard371]

I’m so glad that he loves you so hard❤️ It does change your life for the better.

[@leannerae]

I'm really so happy for you and Justin. I hope you guys love each other through everything the future brings. ❤

[@Caroline_Winkler]

i hope so too

[@Dawnfelicis]

I wholeheartedly agree with what your therapist said. I also had this feeling of oh shit I care about this person so much that I’m willing to risk opening up and potentially losing them in order to hopefully gain someone who loves the actual me. I kind of dumped my whole life to my husband in that first month of dating. 10 years later I’m so grateful that I was honest and vulnerable.

[@CherishTheePetersen]

Personally, I’m a huge cook at home and grocery girl *HOWEVER* the shot of your empty fridge with just sauces and sparkling water spoke so deeply to my soul. It was like looking in a mirror - just hot sauce, Dijon mustard, and La croix 🙂‍↕️ I know that’s right.

[@margotvdb333]

You are literally my spirit person. Everything you say resonates so much with me and this video made me cry because I feel sooooo seen by you even though you are a person talking to a camera that I watch on my laptop. I cannot wait for you video about anxious attachment styles because I'm seriously struggling with this.

[@StacyClark-z9y]

Caroline, I know you'll stay true to yourself....but seriously, if your followers are being critical of any part of who YOU REALLY ARE, they can literally go fly a kite! You are living your BEST LIFE, sharing, entertaining and showing us parts of you that keep most of us coming back to your channel! You are extremely vulnerable with us, and I really respect you for opening up the most private and painful relationships, disorders, depression, family love, and values! Good for you, great for US!! All of YOU...are the reason you are and always will be a successful KZbinR! I LOVE JUSTIN for YOU!!! Keep doing the raw Caroline Winkler we've ALL come to love! 😘

[@Californian1952]

I absolutely adore how brutally open, raw and lovely you are, Caroline.

[@sweetness371]

It's refreshing to hear you talk about staying in DC. The place that I live is far from ideal, but at 39, I've finally come to realize that it's not necessarily about where you live; it's about who you live with. It's so hard to form a community. I've often felt shame in the past for not moving out of my small town. But you know what? My friends and family live here and I freaking love them. It'd be hard to move away.

[@patriciafuchs5970]

Moving doesn’t bother me. As a kid, my family moved about every four years. But I have come to understand that as you age you need a network to rely on. I loved this, you just keep getting better.

[@victoriac1887]

Can I just say as a viewer I’ve actually been enjoying your content more now because I see that you’re always bettering yourself mentally and I would also like to do thattttrtt

[@cindysteffens8065]

I love, love, love being alone. I married at 19, had my first baby at 21, and spent the next 20 plus years rarely by myself. I never was one of those parents that dreaded sending their kids off to college. When I finally had an empty nest, I finally had time to myself. Now my husband and i are both retired, and when he goes golfing or does something on his own, I'm in my element! ❤

[@aliceshea1670]

You may be an introvert, we love alone time. People exhaust us and we need to recharge.

[@gracecarter8734]

I love seeing you grow. I get bored of KZbinrs who never seem to grow and learn as human beings. Your audience will ebb and flow with you. You will lose people. And you will gain new ones. This is the flow of life. Let people go when they're ready and allow the new ones to come in their time. I believe many, many of us are here for the authenticity, humor, introspection and growth. Keep being you, and keep loving yourself as much as we all do.

[@bookishBisexual]

Begging pleading on my knees for a video about picking paint colors 😭 Cozy chore videos have become my favorite. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable ❤️

[@nikko1891]

GROVEL

[@vanessa_byrne]

Cozy Chores is a hit, that is clear to one and all. I have to give major props to your editor on this one. You two are quite the team! Polished, yet intimate and laugh out loud funny at times. (Love the red lip for you, btw!) Brava, diva!!

[@MrsAintheLibraryWiththeCoffee]

I appreciate this today. Between an ongoing cold and a recent death in my extended family, my house feels pretty wrecked right now. Thanks for your authenticity and encouragement! And yes, being married to my kind and patient husband for 8 years has made my life SO much better. Yes, please more cozy chores!

[@amyann47]

I needed this pep talk on choosing to make your day good even if you’re lonely. I’m on maternity leave and feel lonely/stuck in the house and like my day being good or bad is dictated by sleep. But it’s like hey i call the shots I can choose to change my perspective. ❤

[@MsLinda165]

Oh my dear soul; bless you. There are lonely times being on mat leave, but just know, that being loving to yourself is the best way to be a great mom. I hope your delivery goes well, and healthy baby, healthy recovery!!

[@ritaamor283]

Just take the pressure that it should be better. Tiny adventures and tiny pleasures when possible, and nothing else. Never pressure yourself on a bad sleep day for example that it should had been this or that. Wishing you the best❤

[@itascagirl1963]

“It’s my day in my life.” I don’t know why but I never thought of my life (or my days!) like that. Thank you for that…it was like a realization hit that my life is MY life! Once again, great wisdom!

[@gayjeris]

cozy chores are awesome. I would absolutely watch a "fold my laundry with me" video, because that's my BIGGEST chore every time and I always need a kick in the butt to get started.

[@madalinamazur]

I'm about to start my period, having some real bad cramps, but my room was a little messy. So I lit candles and put this video on and now my room is spick and span. :) I have ADHD, cosy body doubling from one of my favourite KZbinrs is so helpful for getting things done.

[@the_piano_nerd4960]

SAME HERE. KZbin body doubling is the only way I can get up and doing things some days

[@janiceFLORIDA77]

Watching you arrange the flowers Justin gifted you had so much meaning. Your videos feel like a friend has come over for a chat. Can’t wait to see you again 💟

[@ManitobanSarah]

29:57 totally agree about where to live. I grew up on the Prairies in Canada. Visited Vancouver Island as a child and it stuck with me-the mountains, the ocean. Moved there as an adult and stayed for less than three years. So so soooo hard to start from scratch in the friends department. I’m now back from whence I came, and happy. 😊

[@poetrybylorelei]

I’m also from the prairies and loved visiting Vancouver but have never left prairies cause I love my community! This made me feel better lol

[@ManitobanSarah]

⁠I’m so happy for you that you’ve stayed put! We can always visit the lovely places from time to time. 😊

[@gailgriffith6243]

As an elementary teacher who has to put on programs for PTA, I always tell my children, “Don’t worry if you make a mistake, just be sure you have a really good ending because that is what people will remember!” Your entire video was good, but the FANTASTIC laugh at the end is what makes me feel so good, and I’ll remember!! 🎉It’s also what made me comment which I seldom do.

[@RayBekk]

Man, I adore your vulnerability and raw videos so much. Your wise words and honesty is refreshing.

[@elliemaze.asmoix]

I just had a four day binge of your videos, a lot of old videos that I hadn't watch before. I literally finished watching your entire channel. I can't remember which one was the first video I saw of you, pretty sure it was a home decor video, but it was an instant click for me. Something in me deeply resonated with your personality, and the more vlogs I watched the more I felt it. I'm a sucker for raw honesty, it's refreshing to see. Also you're hilarious. You're excellent company for any moment of the day, not only chores, I do crochet so I watch you while working. I've been following you for a while now but I'm not much of a comment person since I never know what to say. I think you might be my favorite youtuber ♥ Much much love from Argentina 🇦🇷

[@tonyamiller8418]

Caroline, another lovely vlog. Love them all. A gift to all ages of viewers, explaining how to make your life happen when you are home. I’m probably a little younger than your parents but with no kids I tend to enjoy content from more than one generation of creator. You’re living life beautifully and if you drop a viewer here and because of progress in life there are others to step in.

[@stacyaguilar8228]

Your advice is so mature and self-aware for your age. It’s exactly the advice I would have hated but needed in my 20’s. But as a 40-something divorcee who has had to refind myself after divorce, these are lessons I’ve had to learn much later in life and am so proud of, despite the heart ache it takes to arrive where we need to be.

[@sarahmfnyc]

My nutritionist gave me that advice you talked about and it helped me sooo much with my disordered eating - I can feel not great in my body, but then I can just pause. I don’t have to solve it or fix it. Also bc the thing I want to do isn’t going to solve or fix it. ❤❤

[@beccamarks16]

The thing is even TV characters change and grow the longer a series goes on. What's truly beautiful about watching a show/witnessing friends lives/watching Caroline on YT is getting to see their evolution over time and how they respond to the heartbreak, the happiness, the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. No one is meant to stay the same forever and if they did, that would be the most boring and inauthentic existence ever. Thanks for being so open and honest, and sharing your growth as a human with us! It makes me feel not so alone in this big wide world :)

[@yasmeen6790]

The change keeps it interesting - otherwise you'd just be stuck. You are evolving and that is just WONDERFUL!!❣ And please more cozy chores!!!

[@sutematsu]

7:59 I could CRY for how sweet this is, oh my god

[@Trenchant468]

I’m at about 20:00 and I want to say my binge eating is unrelated to a body image or weight fluctuation problem. I just feel driven, still despite a lot of work, and the things that have helped are physiological, like “preventative eating” of sufficient and well balanced food, copious hydration, and getting a lot of greens, eg in green smoothies. That said, many years ago I realized that my feelings about my home fluctuated all the time. It made me realize that, if an inanimate object could swing from cocoon to albatross and back, then my feelings toward myself and other people should not be considered immutable fact.

[@MaineGalVal]

Dude, yes, of COURSE we want to see you doing laundry. You can wax poetic about clothing care, places you've visited and adventures you've been on there, and Marie Condo up the folding and putting away of the clothes. Yes, we need this. It's relaxing to watch someone else do what I really don't want to do, because then it inspires me to go do it.

[@tracybacholzky4526]

I love seeing you happy and safe. 💜 You are just the right amount of “unhinged”.

[@karissalawman]

You addressed the “unhinged” comments so well. We gotta love all parts of person and accept growth and change ❤ It’s YOUR channel.

[@RayBekk]

Your perspective on feeling uncomfortable in your body is so beautiful and so healthy.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

im so glad you feel that way. it felt like an important perspective to share because i dont actually hear it shared that much. most of what i hear online is either people feeling really negatively about their body and wanting to run away from that feeling (relatable), or people saying that you SHOULDNT feel negatively and XYZ are all the reasons you should feel positive! but i think the truth and the more helpful thing to me, is too plainly accept that sometimes i feel negatively, and that's uncomfortable, but it doesnt mean i have to DO anything about it one way or another. and it will pass

[@nataliedeister4152]

Honestly this is so comforting to me and gives me hope that on the other side of deep attachment issues and scary things like that lives a safer and happier version of myself. I love this and honestly the haters need to realize that people grow and change and that can be extremely good and not just ok.

[@anyaroz8619]

Thank you Caroline for being here. I am looking for a friend, but not too aggressively. And in the meantime I have you. So thank you for filling the void that would otherwise be painful to endure

[@kellybonanno]

Love the cozy chores video while you do Q&A! You are 100% right, when we are loved well people notice. When we are not being loved properly, it affects us and it shows. Which is why I am very happy I ended my last relationship over the summer.

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

I feel like you’ve never had bangs when I see these bangs but I know you’ve had bangs. Adorable!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

i dont understand this comment but i marvel at its mystery! ty!!!

[@victoriaoliver9958]

The bangs be banging in this video!

[@cry_katy]

Absolutely loved this video and the Cozy Chores format! Please make podcast recs (over even just little quick clips of what your listening to) a regular occurrence because omg “No One Should Believe Me” is so compelling and important and I wouldn’t have come across it without this video! Xx

[@marykempski3986]

Never answer to the negative people who get annoyed ( who t freakin’ does that?) about a good relationship. We give too much attention to the negative vibes. We need to shift our attention to the positive vibes and fully energize those vibes by moving forward in positivity too. Love you. Keep doing you!! ❤

[@ElizaBee333]

Im a new subscriber! I have binged all your videos while redoing my kitchen the last few days. I love your videos. Its like being on facetime with a long distance friend. I appreciate your authentic character and honest opinions on things. Continue to be your truest self and most genuine self at every stage. It's a very vulnerable thing to put your whole life on KZbin. So I hope you know i love all your videos. It has had a very positive impact on my life. I was recently laid off at my job and going through a little bit of a depression with family matters. Your videos inspired me to overcome my anxieties and big feelings and organize my home! So thank you for just being yourself!

[@HannahRainbow88]

I may be new to your channel, but I totally see how you've grown from kinda the fun "manic pixie dream girl" trope, to a more adult and grounded "main love interest" type... And I'm totally here for it all - catching up on older videos between your new posts 💗 You and Justin are SO adorable together, I'm so happy for you both!! 👏😘

[@marionsimard4223]

Being in grief someone that passed, and in grief of relationship (friends and ex boyfriends) your video really connected with me. When you are in a state of grief you tend to resist the change. Because this is not a change you have planned of, or even wanted. You miss an older version of you, an older version of your life. Then comes the gripping, you grip on something invisible and intangible. You are no longer that person, and it's difficult to accept. It's truely a lesson on accepting, flowing and forgiving. Thank you so much for your content, it's amazing to see someone change !

[@RosarioMataH]

thanks for the loving a dog metaphor, I mean it, therapists and the general public seem to forget that there's just some much work one can do on themselves but that true kind loving link/connection cannot be replaced with anything

[@miriamb.1102]

16:25 “the reactive behavior only continues the sick cycle” wow, that’s POWERFUL!! It’s so true, and not only in eating disorders, I think this sentence can be so helpful for everyone struggling with overthinking, OCD compulsions, anxiety: not engaging with the thoughts, just letting them come and go! Wow… this is kind of a big realization for me. Thank you! ❤️ also, quick question: what lipstick are you using in this video?! It’s so beautiful on you

[@Daniellelebelle412]

I’ve been watching your KZbin for about 1.5-2 years. I can say we admire both unhinged & calm(er) Caroline. 💓

[@reallyaprilstarr]

Caroline, boy do I know the feeling of really having someone love the shit out of you and the healing and security it brings. I’m so happy for you, sis. ❤

[@kasko8550]

😅🎉 Yeah, I love the idea of cozy chores! Hang out, talk, and doing chores next to it.

[@susanmacaluso5218]

We adopted Baxter in 2017. I called him Cujo. Over the course of several YEARS I would announce the part of his body I was going to touch before I touched him, so he'd be ready and not flinch or be scared... "Face," "back," "butt," "tummy," etc. Seven years later, he now flops over onto his back for open tummy rubs, and he also gives the best hugs ever by pushing his face really hard into my hands. ❤

[@MaybeWander]

To not have a podcast on while 'choresin' (what I call it) is a sacrifice I could not make. You are doing a service for the greater good!

[@amyrogers9742]

Honestly, I'm relieved to know you and Justin are still together! Not seeing him or hearing about him in the past few videos made me very anxious. Please don't stop telling us about him and your relationship! Also, obviously, I'm very interested in the attachment style topic and looking forward to that video! I love you to bits and am so happy for you that you're in a healing relationship ♥

[@thetypingdragon]

The community bit about cities is so true. I lived in San Jose/the Bay Area for a year and change, and the biggest reason I ended up moving back was that I didn't have community. My entire family was half a continent away. The Bay Area also has different culture from the Midwest in terms of how people interact with each other and it was difficult to even make small talk, let alone friends, especially as an autistic person who now felt like they knew the social rules even less.

[@Kelly-n2z7q]

You didn't want to talk about God, shop at Walmart, learn to craft, watch Hallmark and bake casseroles? That's my impression anyway...I live way West.

[@kidsdogsandlife]

Girlllllllll the way I felt seen when you admitted to not being ok with gaining weight - that is just so relieving hearing someone else say what I feel. I get every bit of that and I also have learned that that is just how I am. And I’ve also learned how to remedy it for my life. Is it a battle sometimes to maintain my way of making sure I can keep my feelings at bay? Yeah but I do what I need and I’m a happier person for it. Ps making dinner my make-ahead meals while listening g to you … love this series ❤

[@penelopepitstock]

I started watching your videos because of your design advice, but it’s your relatable human stuff and sometimes unserious bits that makes it fun to watch. Just keep being whoever you are going to be, I’m pretty sure most of us will keep watching 🤓

[@crawfordjennifer2015]

Don’t worry about changing. If individuals don’t like it…that’s okay. Change is good 😊 It’s actually really neat to see change in people! I am so grateful and thankful that I have changed in the past 3 years. I see positive results from the changes that have been made.

[@theashleybclay]

Your thoughts on eating disorders sounds similar to how I have dealt with mine over the many years of recovery. It's such an internal war going on that I believe is something we will deal with forever, but we learn how to manage those thoughts and become healthier in body and mind. It also helps to have people around you that you can confide in and hold you accountable but also be supportive if the thoughts win out. Thankfully I'm VERY far removed from my days of disordered eating, but I do have to admit that no matter how many years go by, those thoughts still come and go. And...when they do, I remind myself that what my body looks like is not whole of my worth and that it in constant change, such as everything else, as I go through life. 💗

[@padmini_rm]

Hey Caroline, love your work but particularly wanted to thank you for this one. I lost one of my best friends two weeks ago and have just returned home and was feeling very stuck - not knowing where to begin or how. But this helped me light some candles and move some stuff around and be gently productive ♥️ thank you so much! And please keep making these cosy chores videos, they're much appreciated.

[@Allowing_Flow]

omg just the other day i was wondering how your home always looks so effin clean. Glad to see you are a normal human just like the rest of us after all

[@Know_Thy_Salt]

These chore videos are quickly becoming the best way to power through my to-do list. Your realistic take on getting things done is so refreshing. Also, hot take, as someone who’s been married nearly 18 years, it is wonderful to see how much you’ve grown within your own SELF and also from the influence of being loved deeply. My husband often says that he hasn’t been married to the same woman for almost two decades because we’re both constantly changing (in a healthy way) and evolving. When a relationship becomes stagnant, it’s usually because the individuals stopped growing. So I second the notion that constant change is beautiful and necessary for us to experience more meaning in our relationships. ❤️