Social Intelligence: 5 Mental Gifts to Succeed in Society

Social intelligence is the ability to know oneself and to know others in order to evaluate our own and other people's actions properly. It is composed of five capacities; sympathy, self-awareness, empathy, meta-cognition and theory of mind. Those who lack social intelligence might misunderstand others with potentially tragic consequences.
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Script: Jonas Koblin
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00:38 What is social intelligence?
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[@einatangela4660]

I suffered from trauma in my early childhood, and because of it I was afraid from everybody.... my sympathy was very low, and I didn't understand my envirornment. and when I solved it and healed it only than I could sympathy with others feelings even more than the average human. Now rarely I get angry. Thanks to my experience, I can say do not judge a human so fast. because you don't know his past

[@sprouts]

👍

[@garciasymbiote3799]

Proud of your healing brother

[@davidmitchell6873]

I have found in my 55 years of life that most people are capable of some level of sympathy but many lack empathy unless it effects them or someone they know.

[@sprouts]

Yes. I made a similar observation

[@di3393]

Healthy people are empathetic but know when to put themselves first.. immature people are too empathetic and others often take their advantage and end up remorseful and bitter..

[@rico14]

@@di3393I think you’re mistaking empathy with compassion. Empathy is putting yourself in other peoples shoes, but compassion is when you act altruistically.

[@di3393]

@@rico14 I know what I said.. I am literally talking about empathy only.. fyi compassion comes out of empathy only..

[@rico14]

@@di3393 I think you don’t understand what empathy means.

[@sergiom3988]

This is the reason why it's important that parents read stories to their kids: So that parents can explain why characters in the stories act in certain ways, what purposes and emotions drive them, thus developing children's interpersonal skills

[@incognito3620]

Empathy, sympathy, self awareness and meta-cognition are traits we develop through Attachments, learning to take responsibility for our actions. Self awareness and meta-cognition are deliberate discovery mechanisms we acquire only through thought and self study. What stops us from achieving these qualities is early ignored and untreated childhood traumas. Many of which we remain unaware through most of our lives.

[@melaniegovender2362]

Thank you, make sense

[@apathyreview3964]

So trauma prevents introspection? Millions of therapist would disagree since that's basically how they make a living. Sorry bud but I must disagree. Just based on personal experience alone as well as various instances if you think about it for more than a minute.

[@seagull2171]

5 Core Cognitive Skills 1. Sympathy 2. Self-Awareness 3. Empathy 4. Metacognition 5. Theory of Mind

[@soulliocusi9654]

Cooking our food was a contributor to brain growth, although I do like the hypothesis that psychotropic plants and fungi played a role as well. The growth of the brain enhanced emotional and cognitive skills and enhanced the essence and connection to the heart. Yet, the brain is so unique in each individual that it yields different responses in different situations. Humans are still in the learning about themselves phase. It has not even been 200 years since global communication and interaction initiated; really in the last 20 with the expansion of communities around the Earth that have gained internet access. We are all just getting to know one another and figuring out how to live together. What we see makes a difference. Eventually, it will grow deeper that no matter what we look like, or where we come from, that we are humans. Social Intelligence will increase in the process. I have more to say but my wrists are bothering me this evening. Be kind, it is free and it makes a difference. Know that you are kindness and be it. People will accept that kindness and implement it into their own experience. Hopefully that will be part of the growth.

[@spoons641]

A random ack of kindness goes a long way to improve empathy because you are actually taking action to help them. And it gives you a feeling when you help someone you feel better and the person who you helped and if you don't know if they need help then ask. And just think if I helped someone maybe something good will come back.

[@Munchausenification]

Overall i think we are a very selfish species, so understanding others is ultimately to understand ourselves. There are lots of ways to improve your social intelligence, but the most effective way seems to be through reading. Before we can read books we read each other, learn from others actions and imitation of others.

[@disrael2101]

So knowing others more will make us more.selfish as we're selfish species?

[@Jakkaribik1]

You can be Influenced by selfish people or do the Opposite because you see how great you can be for others but don't overdo being nice @@disrael2101

[@sofia12149]

@@disrael2101no bro ur not understanding their point

[@sofia12149]

Your comment ate.

[@Munchausenification]

@@sofia12149 doing something can have more than one outcome. Learning in general is about understanding the world around us and that includes how we fit in.

[@Liliarthan]

I am an Autistic adult with significant childhood trauma (8/10 ACEs), I have developed all of these traits to a significant degree and received comments from many others through my life in different settings to confirm this (particularly empathy, my experiences align with those labelled Empaths). Sharing this to try and dispel the myth that neurodiverse people aren’t capable of developing one or all of these skills (in my experience, neurotypical people demonstrated a far less capacity for empathy and theory of mind than neurodiverse people). These myths have contributed to people’s unconscious biases against neurodiverse individuals and even used to dehumanise and justify abuse towards neurodiverse people (yes I watched your video on Moral Disengagement). Even more subtle than that, uncertainties around these myths cause people to put us in the “too hard basket” and make content on what they feel they are more certain about instead - the claim that neurotypical people are capable of developing these traits. By leaving out mention of neurodiverse people, it perpetuates the myths by mechanism of omission, where the viewer draws the conclusion based on the absence of information. It also further enhances the perception that neurodiverse brains are too unusual, complex, perhaps even pathological to be understood and worth the investment to understand.

[@andybritton9813]

I'm autistic and I understand all five of them quite well

[@melaniegovender2362]

Yes I wondered why he mentioned the neuroypical in it explaination

[@anniestumpy9918]

Me too, in theory 😅 In real life I have problems with (cognitive) empathy. Less so with sympathy of which I even think I have more than many people. Knowing that others are suffering (especially animals) tears me apart.

[@SemiPolymath]

After seeing some of the astonishing social interactions among Cetaceans, and knowing how much complexity we don't understand in their communications, I have to wonder whether our species truly does have the highest social intelligence. Perhaps, on day, dolphins will be teaching us!

[@yuatried]

yo i really appreciate what ur doing keep up the good fight

[@sprouts]

Thanks

[@Candleknight]

Another really interesting and informative video!

[@sprouts]

Thank you! Cheers!

[@aliciatorres91]

Thank you so much!

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Welcome

[@belllomohd8120]

Thank you so much 🥰❤️

[@sprouts]

Welcome 🙏

[@hsaqib8995]

Thank you for sharing

[@sprouts]

My pleasure

[@FredSlocombe]

Late in my life I was prescribed Fluoxetine for generalized anxiety disorder. It lifted the veil of fear from my social situations. I'm convinced that social and emotional intelligence is influenced by hormones. Hormone imbalance can be genetic or environmental, such as early childhood exposure to Lead, fetal alcohol syndrome, or a family history.

[@anniestumpy9918]

What hormones are you talking about?

[@FredSlocombe]

@@anniestumpy9918 Serotonin and Dopamine mostly, but there are many others. In my experience, Serotonin eases fear and raises confidence, and Dopamine is the reward chemical that causes feelings of euphoria and makes you fall in love with what ever causes it, like eating, procreating, sky-diving, gambling or drinking alcohol or taking certain drugs.

[@emilstvring7577]

I think you might have mixed up Sympathy and Empathy Edit: maybe not mixed up, but you explained it in a weird way

[@praisedare]

Sympathy is being able to feel sorry for others, empathy is being able to put yourself in their own shoes and understand what they're going through. I believe those are valid interpretations, and the video also said the same thing, no?

[@RifqiRusdyBachtiar27]

It's a good info

[@yummy8074]

Nowhere in the video was said that all neurodivergent people lack social intelligence (or at least I didn't catch it even after rewatching). Saying that social inteligence is an innate sense of neurotypical mind isn't saying that all neurodivergent people lack social intelligence. It means that if somebody lacks social intelligence, then they are deffinitely neurodivergent. If no social intelligence, then neurodivergent. Not that if neurodivergent, then no social intelligence. However neurodivergence is a spectrum: you can be autistic, you can have ADHD, you can be bipolar, you can have this or that or combinations... one among those things is lack of social intelligence - you can be neurodivergent with it or without it, however if somebody lacks social intelligence, then they are not neurotypical.

[@michaelt.wardlespider2496]

The lack of these traits explains a lot about the despots of the planet. At least in my opinion.

[@AdityaSharma-mo8ve]

Love from India 🙏🏻

[@scottblack7182]

Most of the time its just narcissism . Which will almost always be the result of neglect and repression in childhood. Narcissists never have empathy.

[@abdulsamad74581]

How this is 85k at 10pm this I don’t understand. Ought to be 8.5M. The power of this is too valuable to not be known

[@carynpinkston1939]

Um, excuse me. I have both autism and ADHD, and I have all five of these traits of social intelligence. My empathy is actually higher than average. What I struggle to do is figure out which action to take when I notice what someone else is feeling. It kind of hurt when the video implied that neurodivergent people don't develop or exhibit these five traits (I don't think that's what you really meant to say - I think that you were trying to say that the development of these social traits may be somewhat impaired in some people with cognitive differences). Please be careful exactly how you phrase similar statements in the future.

[@irfanjames6551]

The video didn't said anything like that. How do you think the video was implying that?

[@theanimalchanel703]

Thank you everybody should be good

[@melaniegovender2362]

@@irfanjames6551 it mentioned neuroypical

[@PTAdnan]

I know people who lack self awareness and metacognition so in turn they lack empathy, sympathy, and theory of mind.

[@filipinodays789]

I have a hard time understanding people and very often I do not associate myself with others. I have little interaction with them more than I have time to play with my pets. I thought my anger issues stemmed from not eating meals when I'm hungry or the effects of a hot weather.

[@pyeitme508]

Interesting 🤔

[@miqueiassilvanascimento7331]

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[@trendyprimawijaya314]

0:05 what a beautiful date, ironically

[@gazda8419]

There is intelligence, there is no such a thing as social intelligence. Intelligence cannot be split.

[@ZinCross]

Oooh! So thats why everyone is so enclined to road rage

[@d.christianrathjens7209]

A way too positivistic perspective on a trait that very often results in egoistic manipulative behaviour. Socially skilled people are not per se social behaving people.

[@anniestumpy9918]

That's a good point. I'm autistic and have low social intelligence (especially cognitive empathy). But I have a strong moral code and try to treat everybody fair and never be rude or take advantage of people. On the other hand, I've read that psychopaths actually have high cognitive empathy (but no sympathy) and they use it to take advantage of people.

[@___Anakin.Skywalker]

Is common sense similar to self awareness or tact?

[@queenofthecapes]

Common sense: knowing that if you swing the hammer while your thumb is on top of the nail, you'll hit it. Self awareness: knowing that you're kind of a klutz and should therefore be extra careful compared to others. Tact: Warning someone that they're a klutz about to hit their thumb with a hammer, in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings.

[@littlestarlyngdohlyngkhoi2772]

Sir where ican found this two think

[@arspsychologia4401]

Some people are literally too stupid to have these. Things like this require the ability to understand a variety of concepts that seem simple to most, like conditional hypotheticals (how would this person feel if ____ happened). Sub-90 IQ people overwhelmingly (>95%) cannot comprehend something as simple as "if you hadn't eaten breakfast this morning how would you feel", let alone "if I shot this person how would that affect the systems around me, which include myself, the person, the bystanders and the families of all these people". People who end up in jail and act like the Chicagoan mentioned are generally this kind of person: too low-functioning to comprehend their actions and the effects they have. Obviously there are other factors but this one cannot be ignored, particularly when looking at national politics and the actions that take place in demographically challenged areas.

[@charoskadirovna7419]

With which app I can make this kind of animations

[@sprouts]

hand drawn ;)

[@scottblack7182]

That last line got me 😂 the most socially intelligent ? Have you seen facebook ,twitter , youtube comments or the GOP/conservative party? Social intelligence indeed 😑 for some of us maybe.

[@RayOfSunlight984]

"Humans are the most social intelligent" Meanwhile on the internet people are fighting over stupid stuff

[@wedoru1176]

I am not seeing Social Intelligence here. All your saying is Emotional Intelligence. That is Separate, I guess because Social Intelligence include Communication Skills, face and hand gestures As well As Able to Calm and assure others with Communication. But what you are mostly talking is Empathy which falls under EI.

[@sprouts]

You are right, however, they certainly are overlapping themes.

[@stephenmason5682]

But we don't know why the driver shot the other driver? It may have been reasonable? It may not have been anger of revenge!

[@Victor-oy8bj]

wtf the difference between sympathy and empathy

[@nida1990]

Empathy is shown in how much compassion and understanding we can give to another. Sympathy is more of a feeling of pity for another. Empathy is our ability to understand how someone feels while sympathy is our relief in not having the same problems.

[@MrG__2]

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[@yummy8074]

Imagine somebody is sitting on a bench and you see them getting their wallet stolen. The person is in shock, they are upset and hopless because the thief is too far already and is faster. You'd feel empathy if you would recognize the emotions I described above in that person (hopless, upset, shocked). You'd probably also feel sympathy, because you most likely wouldn't like getting your own wallet stolen. However lets say that person could've prevented the theft by putting their wallet into their backpack instead of putting it on a bench next to them and not watch it closely - in that case very few people would feel sympathy, because others wouldn't leave such an important object on a bench asking for getting stolen. But let's dig more: somebody who knows that person and they know they are notoriously bad at putting their stuff on safe places even when trying hard remembering it - they might feel sympathy, because they know them and can understand how hard it is for them to put stuff on their places. That's why in they video he said "we feel more sympathy for family and friends compared to strangers", because we know less about strangers and what their abilities are. In other words: Empathy - understanding why somebody feels the way they feel Sympathy - just a fancier word for "pity"

[@sandavi]

@@yummy8074 thank you. It's a very good explanation❤️

[@haichah]

@@yummy8074 best explanation ive heard so far

[@y.a.3903]

A woman with a gun who shoots another woman in her leg. STRANGE! I assume the first woman has hormone disorder (too much testosterone).

[@rkoff5744]

I wonder what happens to your cognitive function when others are not using theirs. Do you need a level playing field or is your own intelligence enough?

[@johnm3907]

Why do people say ashume? If you read assume and say it ashume I dunno what to say to you

[@mgfinley4986]

You are criticizing a robot that has been programmed to avoid saying ‘ass’ and so modifies the pronunciation of ass to ash.

[@johnm3907]

@@mgfinley4986 are u saying that this is an ai. Some people do actually say ashume

[@SunYi-fi1is]

Most people have none of these. That’s why this world is broken.

[@Dandelions_1.]

I want to die .m all are laughing at me .. i cant do any thing properly

[@stargazeronesixseven]

Drugs & Alcohol abuses can lower one's Good Common Sense ... Countless innocent road users died around the world 🌎 from Driving Under Influence ( DUI ) ... 🐕

[@vaggo9611]

can you make a video about (high iq) = (psychopathy or crazy person) ?

[@Lg-xt5eh]

I don't think high iq = psychopath/crazy, why? well I did a simple google search on it and this is what I found: "Highly intelligent children are more likely to develop higher levels of empathic skills because they are more sensitive to other people's emotional cues, and are better able to understand other people's thoughts and feelings" According to my research, psychopathy is actually associated with lower iq, I think people got the idea that psychopaths have higher iq due to movies and tv shows, indeed there are high iq psychopaths, but a high iq psychopath would most likely have a lower iq than a high iq neurotypical (normal person) due to the average iq of a psychopath being lower than normal

[@ethir6072]

Why does it sound like high IQ people are bad for others?

[@Lg-xt5eh]

@@ethir6072 Did you read my previous comment? empathy and high iq are connected

[@hollowlee1356]

" Nerotypical" lol

[@musheopeaus4125]

1in 20 are repulsive , 5 are very selfish , 10 cannot be trusted , 3 don’t really care 1 is a fair weather friend and 1 is the geezer you have a pint with

[@wintensity]

Today we see a lot of people abusing empathy. We put mentally I’ll people on a pedestal instead of correcting the issue.

[@davidmitchell6873]

How does society put mentally ill people on a pedestal? Legitimately asking, not arguing.

[@Vitlaus]

@@davidmitchell6873 people “identify” as cats these days

[@davidmitchell6873]

Apparently you didn't get anything out of the video.

[@wintensity]

@@davidmitchell6873 We call people brave for cutting off their genitals and thinking they’re the opposite gender.

[@obedbadu8161]

This is 100% satire

[@mamandmason7094]

Excuses for behaviour, but common sense has really declined, in my opinion 🤔

[@Vamanos46]

0:15 Almost every person who has said : "you misgendered my friend!".

[@napkinpope5352]

So good to know that only neurotypicals have these traits and thereby implying the extremely harmful stereotype that neurodivergents do not. Unsubscribing.

[@Magus_Union]

Indeed. I caught that as well.

[@yummy8074]

In the video it was said that if a person lacks social intelligence, then they are neurodivergent, not that all neurodivergent people are socially unintelligent.

[@celestiallyra]

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