Stacey Kramer: The best gift I ever survived

[@HopeRecoveredVlog]

My gift was unexpected, unwanted, and uncertain. It led to me discovering or rather, remembering who I really am. I am living with bipolar and I have been in recovery since 2015. I have survived two major relapses and after so many years, I have learned a lot about mental wellness and self-care. I have helped and met with so many people, and I am truly grateful for everything now. My life has new meaning, a new perspective, and in spite of the traumatic moments I have survived, I am still here today to fight for myself and for what I believe in and to let everyone know that it is never too late and that there is hope!

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[@sherrigates6286]

Stacy. I am a breast cancer survivor , 11yrs now. I gave this same speech for a Cancer awareness lecture series at Oregon State Univ. Boosters breakfast. I had a box, all wrapped up and unwrapped it with the same excitement you would at a surprise birthday. I pointed out all the same things that were gifted to me and I was amazed at the overwhelming response. I wouldn't wish it on anyone but ,like you, I would not change anything. Namaste

[@shbni]

My fiance is going through something similar and I found this to be very inspiring for him and myself. I could relate really well with everything she was saying...Thank you for sharing this with us, definitely gave us a new perspective .

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[@infowitch]

i, too, received a similar gift! just over a dozen years ago, wheels out on a stretcher from work. after losing my ability to talk with a colleague, unable to get out of my chair. i awoke 3 days later in a hospital bed. my gift was a brain abscess the size of a golf ball. my profession is a librarian, i'm noted for my thinking skills. that gift turned my world, upside-down, and inside out! altered everything i knew, or thought i knew. it remains my most precious gift. so many missed the point.

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[@candyc313]

As a Health care professional working directly with Oncology patients I am truly surprised to see the amount of negative comments generated on this subject matter. I attended an American Cancer Society Ambassador meeting and they played this video. I was inspired. I searched for this video because I wanted to use it in an Oncology presentation that I'm putting together for my fellow colleagues. Maybe it's my daily encounters with Cancer patients. The gifts they give to me each day. The more I can see life from the perspective of someone who is living it the better I am to give them the care, support, and resources that they need to fight cancer. I realize many of the comments were years ago and I often wish people would keep their negative comments to self and politely move on to something they feel more connected to or impacted by. My hope is that people take from this the message that was intended.

[@bRadicalmagic1]

I can CLEARLY understand this lady thanks to the gift I got in 2001 .

[@naybobdenod]

As for the lady in this video I sincerely wish her well and hope she and her loved ones have long and wholesome lives. TED should not get embroiled in individual cases.

[@kheffah]

Very inspirational, truely! Sometimes even the bad things in life could be thought of in a good way and one can learn so much from them. i had a traumatic experience three months ago, but it dealt with philosophical ideas and belief in God. Was very painful, yet i leared so much from it, much more than i would've if i haven't gone through it.

[@aimezmoi13]

I dont necessarily agree with everything she says, but let's admit her positive attitude is admirable and worth learning from

[@gbonafon]

Thanks so much for sharing. I do have abain tumor too. There are very bad times...and also this: what Mrs Kramer is talking about. Is good to know that we are not alone...

[@greeneyedggirl]

@infowitch I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you're better, and better for it! And I thought I'd say Libraries and Librarians completely rock! Thank you for making the world a better place! I have my own story and am slowly starting to see the gift in it. Probably because I read too many books from the Library! Hang in there, and don't mind the people who missed the point. Their compassion is limited by their lack of understanding. So sad. Namasté

[@ImperiousViking]

The most Inspiring part of this video is that man has made a rist-watch that still works 35,800ft bellow the surface of the ocean

From a few first words I already guessed that the gift was cancer.

[@urbanitekaci07]

Wonderful message for design each day.

[@caaaakee]

@Mogura87 You're right, this talk isn't supposed to change perception. It is pointing you in a direction, opening up an idea that can come out when one is faced with adversity, to see it in a new light that will change their perception. Its just opening up perspectives people aren't used to. It isnt about perpetuating an idea to polarize one we're so intuitively used to following being suffering and misery, it is to propose the fact that you do have a choice over the two.

[@ngoquynhvan4849]

what an admiration you are ! You make us believe this life depend on ourselves! feeling!

[@Friemelkubus]

@trick0171 Imo the gift is not what she got (My grandfather died of it) but how she dealt with it. The opportunity she got. Often the real gift is not what happens, but how we choose to deal with it.

[@imagoodemployee]

I don't understand... What's with all the hate? This woman went through this! She said herself she does not wish this "gift" upon anyone, but this so happens to be the thing that changed HER life. It gave her new perspective for life and its beauty. She gain a new sense of appreciation she never had until she realised her life might be cut short. I'm sure the people who watch TED can understand the message behind this... But I, for one, definitely do not understand why you guys dislike it!

[@Krn_K]

I am with you. I find this talk deeply moving. This lady shows incredible resilience and ability to reframe her entire experience. I also don't get all these hateful remarks

[@Chimerathon]

The Rolex commercial afterwards was better than the talk itself.

[@caciquepadilla]

@PardoDub its not really the tumor. so much as the change in mindset that she had. some people wait their entire lives to get that kind of understanding in their lives. hence the tumor not being something u want but doing things to your life that u will appreciate. but its anecdotal thats all it ever was.

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[@superfisto]

I'm glad that she was able to find some positive. My dad had a stroke six months ago. We're much closer now; I moved him into my home and take care of him. The gift? He leaves gifts in his diapers for me on a daily basis.

[@P1ranh4]

A friend of mine is a cancer surviver. Not sure if he'd identify with that. The drugs temporarily changed his personality and there was still pain and he couldn't get anything done. However it's a nice attitude. Getting worked up over things that passed isn't a healthy way.

[@JMKats89]

WOW! Sent cold shivers down my spine.. really cool! Cheers!

[@wildwolf111]

I think I understood her meaning. I don't understand why is everyone swearing at this though. It may not be perfectly packaged but it carries a meaning that we should (and probably eventually will) understand.

[@DesireSpasm]

Sometimes...something you think is negative...can be positive? WOAH SHIT MIND BLOWN

[@triforcelink]

stop with the abuse. her message is clear and it fits the ted talk spirit well. hardships bring huge rewards, if the rewards are what you seek. In the end it all comes down to your perception, if you convince yourself that you are the unluckiest person alive, guess what, you ARE, your mind will do everything it can to make your wish come true.

[@trick0171]

@ForYeensSake That can be said for anything. So the question is, is it still a gift if it is dealt with poorly? If no, why not? Does dealing with a tragic event in a good way trump the tragic event (ie. was the opportunity worth the price)? I am saying it never is worth the price. If someone says "I am going to give you a gift of $1000 to cut off your arms", and they FORCE you into the situation, is the "opportunity" for the $1000 that you wouldn't have had previously really a gift?

[@bryankin]

My wife battled leukemia for 10 months, including a stem cell transplant, for the bargain price of nearly 2 million, and what basically amounted to torture. While it did change our priorities and perspectives, ultimately there was no gift for her, my daughters, or myself. Sounds great only if you live to tell the tale, but the same thing can happen on a harrowing hunting trip.

[@caciquepadilla]

@unkaodya its about reconsidering what something negative might mean. and starting to look at the dark parts of life in a more lighter tone. to realize that what she had wasent a death sentience, but a reason to rethink her life. she doesnt want cancer to be the reasons other do it. but to do it regardless. to strive for growth and change. the TED conferences are about growth and change.

[@trick0171]

Believe me when I say I have compassion. I have enough compassion to not want anything like that to happen to anyone, ever, regardless if they contrive the event as positive afterward. Reality is our best defense. I am all for preventing pain and suffering before it happens. Take care, Trick (END 3)

[@hoplahey]

3:13 skips the talk and takes you directly to the commercial.

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The best talk I’ve ever heard. D.Waite

[@Krn_K]

I agree with you, it's one of my favorite TED talks ever.

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Grade 10 here!!

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"Go buy my book. Thanks for the space, TED."

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Pakopya ng sagot HAHAHAHA 1) How did the speaker begin her talk? 2) Based on the talk do you think the speaker is credible? 3) How did the speaker feel upon knowing her unexpected gift?

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[@Akamos11]

@Mogura87 Actually she said that she wouldn't wish this gift for you. And as others have mentioned it's more that one looks beyond the surface of the initial situation. The thing I think is to not reject experience.

[@caaaakee]

@Mogura87 Its not a polarity of right or wrong it's about changing perception for it's the only thing we can control and decide on, it just allows you to question your self, how do you want to live with what's been given to you. No right or wrong answer, its a matter of choice.

[@SuperiorApostate]

the commercial is longer than the talk.

[@trick0171]

We need to see these events for what they truly are. It is the only way to make the future better for everyone else. If we keep saying "it's ok", we take some of the preventative drive away based on contrivances. "but I know if you went through a major trauma, you might understand." I have had stage 3 colon cancer, had part of my colon cut out that had a huge tumor, had to wear a colosomy bag for a while crapping out of my stomach, and had to undergo extensive chemo. (MORE 2)

[@WhitieWithBounce]

i liked the rolex commercial better than the actual TED talk....

[@khatack]

I have no idea why this inspiring speech about learning from a tragedy is viewed here so negatively. If someone really is thinking that this woman is acting or feeling superior because of her tumor they should really shut down their computers and spend a few years learning how to be a human being before coming back.

[@Dude902]

This isn't a bad little story, but it isn't what I've come to expect from TED.

[@premed2]

I don't think this is a TEDtalksDirector video, its just an ad for Rolex.

[@Dr.Erick-Neres]

Funny thing about the Rolex that goes 12,800ft deep under water is that,if you ever get that deep without a submarine, you won't survive...but your Rolex will!

[@warlord1981nl]

@orangepeelpeel What impact? And for that matter... what speech? All it was is this: "I've had surgery and even though I took it for granted or even worse didn't notice it before I realise I have a lot of people who care about me in my life.". That speech is a reason to stop being friends with her if anything.

[@Durchbrechen]

@bigshel99 the point is that her point is subjective, not objective. A difficult experience made that effect to her. To other people is different. My best friend, my brother and my mother had cancer. NO GIFTS attached for them. My mother only survived, just to get Alzheimer. Other experiences. Even the brevity of our time doesn't help me much to accomplish the things I really desire. Especially if you were already trying to get them and you fail.

[@iyitoday]

an incredible brave woman

[@takashy87]

@NwZ2: I wasn't making fun.. I was just pointing out that its odd to see someone have a talk at TED only because of something like this. Sure its bad what happened to her, but the same happens to plenty of other people.. what makes her so special?

[@harmonicazhin]

Reason why people are responding negatively to this is because her message couldn't be simpler. "I survived cancer, therefore I am spiritually enlightened and better than you". What a crock of crap. She should have started her talk with something more like "Sometimes, some ignorant people like me never see the world for what it's worth until shit happens". It's nice she has learned to really appreciate life but not everyone needs cancer for that. Seriously, this is a FAIL VID.

[@caciquepadilla]

@harmonicazhin no shes not. shes saying to re-think cancer. to realize that it isnt a death sentience but a time to re-evaluate your life. the things that happend to her are possible. shes sharing her experience not saying that shes better then anyone else. that would be just as much of an ignorant assumption as the one you admonish her for.

[@vasudha1074]

I clearly see how the gift has changed her life...

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[@sgtunix]

I agree, it's very inspiring. I don't think it's narcissistic at all.

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[@tokumo2190]

are you a wisp or something

[@LeonidasGGG]

"It is only in the face of death, that we value life".

[@angelika.lamour]

not in our country - where are you staying one-on-one with your illness, and if you have no money - you're doomed to a painful death in pain and suffering. On the contrary - you turn away from the majority, even relatives not to mention friends, anyone! but the most favorite you don't need!

[@bigshel99]

Not sure the talk length did justice to her point (though I'm not sure I completely know what her point is I'm only assuming slightly). But I'll take it as sometimes challenges of serve as a point of motivation for a person, the gift of realization of the brevity of our time here that moves you to accomplish things you really desire in life. (Queue an equally long commercial for an expensive watch here)

[@bebeflamand1]

Well, at least she lived to tell her story. For many that's not the case unfortunately.

[@gulllars]

From the name of the video and the start of the talk, i knew she was talking about a tumor from about 0:30 What i find obscene is not the talk itself (though it wasn't great), it's that half of this 6:27 clip is commercials, for that, i give a thumb down.

[@bosyeux2]

consider it a gift. unless, of course, it kills you.

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[@Trezker]

I think I saw this speech years ago. And I think even then I thought I'd heard it years before that... I think this speech is very very old.

[@edtronic]

I guess the idea is : take the best out of life ..... LEARN from any experience

[@manuelemoghini7192]

the gift is SURVIVING the cancer, so you can replay your life!

[@serNevh]

This applies to much in life, life it self is both a curse and a blessing, depending on how it is perceived. I'd say what Stacey Kramer described are the only good things to come out of cancer. It more or less forces people who are related to take care and support a person and it makes a person think about life possibly in an new way. Since when you know you dont have much time left you want to make the most of it. We only have one life and a limited time on earth that we know of, Treasure it!

[@chamina2742]

grade 10 here!!

[@ChengHuatWan]

the Rolex ad is almost as long as the presentation itself..

[@devfrommars]

If only she detailed her experience with that, ppl may not hate it that much

[@MegF142857]

I bet many people with such a tumor would merely find out how lonely they really are and how no one really cares and then die because they can't come up with the money for the treatment.

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[@bigshel99]

@Durchbrechen Agree it is subjective. I think, sadly, many of us have had people very close to us or ourselves have been stricten with cancer. How one deals with that is very individual. She views it as a gift. I'm not going to go into my own personal story but I'll just say I viewed it as I only have so much time in this world and I don't know when that is so live the life I wanted to live and honor those who I love. You view it differently that's cool. It all makes the world go around.

[@NeiltheNotSoBrave]

If TEDtalks is going to cover cancer, I'd rather see talks about new tech developments and treatments, thanks. It's not that I'm not glad for this woman, but this is a sensitive topic for many who have lost or may lose loved ones, myself included. I don't think there's any reason to embrace the fact that we're still very much in the dark ages in treatment options of certain cancers... still a dicey game of Russian roulette in many cases.

[@lovemere1]

i like the rolex part, realy interesting

[@autymnsspookycorner]

I know right 😂

[@dulcetAirman]

Thanks, but I'd rather take the rolex watch. it really looks pretty.

[@twinklingstar6352]

The first time I watch this I didnt even notice the signs she's getting like the flower truckload etc... I watch it the second time and now I noticed it all 😢😭

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[@drchaffee]

I have a family member who was recently diagnosed with a more devestating brain tumor "gift". TED can suck it for allowing brain cancer to be romanticized. (And it's not even in the T.E.D. arena.) I'm glad she's gotten off so far with only a grade one tumor which was surgically accessible. But, she should have been directed to some afternoon weeper show on cable instead of TED.

[@LAnonHubbard]

It was refreshing when the Rolex ad started.

[@chirleywilchenski5738]

Que bom que ela ficou bem 🙏🏻 Um amigo meu infelizmente teve um tumor no cérebro e foi terrível, o coitado morreu.

[@aira2716]

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[@chrisiscool92]

If Rolex are so concerned with perfection, surely they would have not said the word 'waterproofness' in their advert... Good talk though, shame the advert is just as long but has 0.001% the impact.

[@pamperedchefkim]

Some of these people are IDIOTS!!! My son, who is now 5 months old, was diagnosed at 10 weeks of age with a rare form of cancer called neuroblastoma. People, have compassion. You never know when you're going to get hit with something like this. So what if she's in marketing. She has a job. She overcame this cruel disease. God bless her. She didn't ask for this cancer.

[@aaronkeogh]

I would be so happy about paying £20,000 to be told that I am a lesser human because I have yet to have cancer.

[@Durchbrechen]

It's (one of) the typical surivors/post stress effects. It's similar to that of some soldiers coming home from war and entering in a state of euphoria for several months. Your organism has be in a very stressful condition for a prolonged time and the realise from that dire situation can be naturally felt as a "nirvana", as this woman says. It's an interesting psychological phenomenon, nothing more. As a matter of fact illness does not bless you in any way.

[@freesk8]

My first wife died of breast cancer. Some gift.

[@tablespectre]

Me n the boys watching g this for Global Perspectives

[@SolutionByEvolution]

What the hell? I stubbed my toe a few years back, I have Powerpoint...perhaps a TED talk is in my future?

[@takashy87]

I broke my arm a few months back.. can I have a speech at TED too?

[@kablamo9999]

In some countries it wouldn't come with such a steep price. Luckily I live in one of those countries, if it would ever happen to me.

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[@greeneyedggirl]

@trick0171 Forgive me if I think your lack of perspective is showing. I was brutally beaten and raped. I'm starting to see how this could be a gift. By seeing how my life changed. I'm sorry you are incapable of seeing past "a contrivance," but I've learned people who've not survived something horrific don't understand. I wouldn't wish what we went thru on anyone either, but I know if you went through a major trauma, you might understand. It dismays me that your compassion is limited. :(

[@Masiina12]

Why on earth is this a TEDtalk? Where is the professional? Where is the info? C'mon...

[@kinsmed]

3-minute presentation. 3-minute advertisement. For a non-TED talk. Seriously?

[@Avray1967]

There is no excuse for this from TED, even if it is only the ambient mentality is being reflected here. I am full of appreciation that cancer is a traumatic and life changing scrape with mortality. A gift, no. Show some respect for sufferers who do not appreciate being pressured into the 'smile or die' attitude (Barbara Ehrenreich explains in her book), and for all who have been less fortunate.

[@xNickTheBrickx]

I've got to get one of these life-changing gifts!