89. Listen, Listen, Listen: How to Build Deep Connections

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Yeah

[@SmileTallson]

I like that this talk is short, precise and on point. I appreciate the way they communicate and showcase their ideas with specific examples, so effective to me! Thanks a lot!

[@dantefernandodantezambrano7910]

With all due respect asking intriguing questions may ruin a first date. When two people are getting to know each other; they expect to be aware of the basic-vital information such as career, profession, address, hobbies, aspirations, daily routine, etc. If someone plays such a riddle; they may discourage the other person from pursuing the other one's love. Such an intriguing question game can be played when two people know quite enough about each other, and they wish to know more details about. That would awaken each person's curiosity when trying to nail the right guess about each one's life, so in consequence they will get more sympathetic. In short, in order to be good communicators; first we must be good listeners.

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Just randomly clicked this video, but I don't regret a single minute listening to it! Thanks for the super helpful advice!

[@jcrechargewell]

Hello from Hong Kong! I wanted to express my appreciation for this fantastic episode. It has truly been one of the best so far. I'm looking forward to revisiting it when I'm back in the office. Over the past six months, I've been listening to this channel during my weekly hiking sessions, and it has been a great source of inspiration and knowledge. I would like to extend my gratitude to Matt and the entire team for consistently delivering such high-quality content. Your hard work and dedication are truly commendable. Please keep up the excellent job! Thank you once again, and I eagerly anticipate future episodes.

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The pre-communication or priming is really a game-changer. This is often overlooked in conversations and I believe this is a great power of a great communicator. This is beautiful discussion. Thank you for this.

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A lot of precise advices for me when building a relationship. She mentioned a lot of dificult information but easy to absord

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I like the point of don’t try to be funny and humerus all the time, in the end people are looking for the Connection !!! Good podcast. Thank you

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Very rich content and to the point. And the flow is seamless like a well made espresso coffee, it increases the ability to absorb. Thank you.

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Speaking and conversation technique is the most important technique that what it takes to achieving the successful career

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what a fantastic conversation. I learned a lot from this podcast.

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Thanks for your podcast, it's so useful for english learners!

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I agree!

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Fantastic from start to finish!

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I discovered this channel and it is actually fantastic! I really liked this video, thanks

[@MomoYCoco]

Such a great podcast, I find myself always trying to collect information from others. After this podcast, I think I might have to change how I talk to ppl entirely. 😅

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Hello ! I am from Bangladesh. This is a very nice episode.

[@bayou__]

nah ini podcast beda banget, keren ngak bosenin pembicaraannya dan topiknya

[@Desplte-kk3zh]

Listen, Listen, Listen: How to Build Deep Connections 1.Don't be a data collector, turn it into an intriguing guessing game. 2.Start and end small talk: (1)Making an observation about something in your environment. (2)Ending your conversation with this tactic like, I have one last question, and then giving a compliment. 3.Advices in romantic or professional context in the same: (1)Focus on how you make someone feel more than you focus on the words that you're saying. (2)Lean into others' stories, their credentials and you could give comments (3)Demonstrating that you're interested in someone and that you like them (4)Have genuine curiosity, "I'd like to learn more." 4.The effect of humor: (1)Use light banter. (2)Do not use too much humor. 5.Some bad conversation habits:mirror, interrupting 6.Three more questions: (1)Ask for feedback. (2)Set the tone for a gathering before it even begins.(Arts of Gathering, by Priya Parker) (3)Most important ingredient in a successful communication:listening

[@ahmedibrahim9022]

I agree with you guys, however, I just wanna add that those tips she talked about are really helpful only on the first to second date, but if you're going to persue a long term relationship or friendship you are more likely to get back to your normal social interacting intelligence as it's deeply engraved in your mind since childhood, and I really believe that you as a normal person you shouldn't face many challenges while interacting otherwise you may have to see a healthcare provider, idk what do you think?😊

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The compelling nature of this content's narrative is impactful. A book with congruent themes was a defining life experience. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@obionoshoes8111]

I mat my a old friend yesterday. She looks different in mentally and physically. I realized immediately, so I am trying to make her in a important position, trying make her feel good. I am not a relationship person. But I also improve myself on this. During the time with her I am adjusting my position all the time, trying my best to make her feel good and successful like what she actually wanted receive from me I think. So I consider this date is 60% successful maybe. I know I am trying. So can anyone make a conclusion to this? Deeper on this it requires us to have a certain level of mindset right?

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[@Leesa45degree]

I am not sure that her first example of introduction leads the conversation to the right direction. When people do small talk for such introduction, they want to get to know each other quickly who they are. This is a kind of screening. When you start to make quiz about yourself, this could be very annoying to the counterpart and could lead to mistrust. Then first impression cannot be worse than this.

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Does she have a KZbin channel? Love to listen more from her 😌

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Thanks for these lessons, it's very helpful. greetings from Israel.

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I really like her voice

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excellent! very good to learn and practice!

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Amazing topic

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Hello everyone this video so helpful to me

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Very knowledgeable

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Very informative. Thanks

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I loved it, thank you❤

[@spiritandlifeword]

Very palatable, thanks

[@fifaham]

@12:10 do not use the "tell me more" because this sounds intrusive or like an FBI is collecting evidance against you. First, give more information and then ask: what do you think? This doesnt sound intrusive at all. If anyone say to me: tell me more I would stop talking to them, that is situational - I m from Syria and we Syrians in North America looked at differently, give me more info so I can use against you...! All my co-workers in Tyco of Boca Raton Florida wanted to collect info about me and pass it to the FBI and stupid company investigater, Farla Steinberg. Be nice, be kind and be pollite.

[@hibasophia8274]

I agree. What do you think is more naturel. Tell me more just for collect information about you. I agree with you

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The white flag issue is very important :)

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It's so fast~

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Active listening...

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How to become a people magnet - Marc Reclau

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Thank you !!!

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Very useful

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I think so!

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Thank you ❤

[@muhendis111]

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[@leaaya1379]

That's very crucial thankyou ever so

[@cuentaccuentos]

asking someone where they are from is boring? if someone I dont know employs a guessing game instead of just answering a simple question I would find that very weird

[@annafreeman2863]

Yeah, playing weird mind games isn't appealing. Just be real.

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I appreciate it, thanks

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great video

[@map3s741]

So interesting,

[@dainsai]

How to remain /act interested when faced with a boring conversation?

[@kaym.2854]

Ths was nice. Thank you

[@fifaham]

In todays talks, one must be carful with the words they use specially with new immigrants - with the war around and things changing very fast you can not make mistake and fix it later. Once a mistake is made there is no way back and this may translate into war, divisions and conflicts, we dont want wars cause we are fed up with stupid wars.

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Thank you, it s really very interesting. I have a great problem whit irregular verbs and phrasal verbs. What in your opinion is the best way to overpass this problem. Thanks.

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Brilliant ❤

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Thanks

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Ini untuk TOEFL atau ielts ya?

[@ArunMPEdison]

Great insights!

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Thank you.

[@ari-jahrian]

excellent

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informative..

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[@PC-mq5jq]

This was terrible advice to build deep connections. There’s nothing boring to any kind of question. By starting off that way you already fail in establishing a deep connection

[@thanhmainguyen5747]

I can't agree more with you on that l. Her views on asking normal questions such as what do u do? is quite wrong. It's completely normal about it. The basic info about one's background is of great imprortance indeed. But she also gave valueable tips on how you can answer to these questions in an interesting manner, which definitely make the conversation more fun.

[@ciromagalhaesrosa5239]

I think that her point was not to be a “data coletor”, so basically don’t use this kind of questions to much in the conversation otherwise it will be boring. But you still can use it

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[@ahmedibrahim9022]

​@@thanhmainguyen5747 I agree with you guys, however, I just wanna add that those tips she talked about are really helpful only on the first to second date, but if you're going to persue a long term relationship or friendship you are more likely to get back to your normal social interacting intelligence as it's deeply engraved in your mind since childhood, and I really believe that you as a normal person you shouldn't face many challenges while interacting otherwise you may have to see a healthcare provider, idk what do you think?😊

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16:44 agreed!!!

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hay ghê, thank you

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so you are still intrigued it seems, mission passed

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I find it confusing to mix using humour and using humour too much. It feels like biased.

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