"Do you feel that men are just a bunch of horny bastards?" Best opening ever😂😂😂
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
lol 😂😁
@AngelaFerrante-ms2xuКүн бұрын
Oh yeah😊
@ShehrazadSiraj23 сағат бұрын
🎉a 😅🎉ze😊@@MeetStephanSpeaks
@SuzanneO70723 сағат бұрын
I never noticed. 😂
@AugustaWilliamsJr13 сағат бұрын
Sometimes the women are horny ones
@brittletip8191Күн бұрын
Women are not dating men to be treated like prostitutes, a man should never expect sex in exchange for a meal, that's just pathetic I'm afraid. It's a sad world we are living in.
@Kimberly.......23 сағат бұрын
😂 Honey these people are are just coming out anything just for views or likes. It's not like he paid rent or a mortgage
@zainabinti517021 сағат бұрын
Jesus fed 5000 people for free... these men want sex after just one plate of meal.😂😅🤣😂😁😆.... I think 1st date should be at a park at least there is no expenses.
@everythingdana932221 сағат бұрын
Exactly but unfortunately too many women have condition men to behave like this so when they meet someone with sense they do not understand why we have the stance we have.
@nursekillm20 сағат бұрын
Women are the ones responsible for allowing this behavior for so long. Sad truth.
@MakeupByNetta19 сағат бұрын
💯💯
@roxyeryan226622 сағат бұрын
Earlier this month, a man ghosted me after three months of a situationship. He did not want to go out on dates. He explained that he is a homebody, so we did things at his house, like watch T.V. and eat home-cooked meals. After one month of dating, he asked me for sex. When I asked him to take an STD test, he refused. He explained that he prefers to use a condom. Maybe that is why he ghosted me. I am so glad that I never slept with him. As a matter of fact, I should have been the one to ghost him after he refused to take the test.
@Anna-st5dm19 сағат бұрын
You should have blocked him at house “dates”.
@Jovialjay8614 сағат бұрын
@@Anna-st5dmperiod. Should have never got that far to begin with.
@roxyeryan226614 сағат бұрын
@@Anna-st5dm You are right. I should have known better.
@roxyeryan226614 сағат бұрын
@@Jovialjay86 Now I know how to proceed with another man who is showing signs that he is not that into me.
@passionfruitpassionfruit20347 сағат бұрын
U should have left the minute he invited u to his house
@natibelfortunato6879Күн бұрын
what happened to holding hands, kissing, making out? why does it have to be sex IMMEDIATELY (and sometimes aggressively) to show you they’re interested in you? what happened to expressing sexual or romantic interest with words? why do the majority of men not know how to do this anymore? or know how to be romantic or express themselves romantically? it doesn’t have to be explicitly sexual and if it is, it doesn’t have to be disrespectful. i don’t understand what’s happened to humanity. why is it so hard for them to communicate or go to therapy to learn these skills and more importantly, HEAL and stop bleeding on and hurting so many women. gah. i’m so tired of this.
@CarmenPerez-kz6rwКүн бұрын
They do. I don’t know what kind of men you guys are experiencing. There are many great men out there!
@natibelfortunato6879Күн бұрын
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw i’m sure some do but i haven’t encountered them yet. i know there are many great men out there! but im expressing my frustrating of talking to 30 year olds who are emotionally still 10 years old and don’t go to therapy because it’s not “logical” yet…they can’t commit and so many other issues i won’t get into.
@strawberriesblueberries2258Күн бұрын
I agree 💯💯💯💯💯
@sylviaAguenther-zc9lgКүн бұрын
Because no romantic music! 😂
@sylviaAguenther-zc9lgКүн бұрын
I really like this young man channel, I have to say this because it hit my spirit Adorable 🥰Stephan.The Human being has lost ways to LOVE!😢😮love is taking your time, love is getting to know 1/another, it’s a magical feeling that U don’t know why it TIES&BINDS😮Many people want things in a New York minute! all true feelings are gone music, pornography (🤢🤮woman who do this for$)TV adds all sexual No romanticism🥹The love aspect is doomed😞😢
@flora91161Күн бұрын
Too many of them think “date” stands for d*ck at the end😂
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
lol this is true
@Taisha120016 сағат бұрын
@@flora91161 IKR
@MzPinkee055 сағат бұрын
😂😂😂
@blesseddeshawna8943 минут бұрын
SICK as HELL..
@susanarsoniadouКүн бұрын
You have it wrong...Sex is used to avoid emotional intimacy...
@joyricherson4570Күн бұрын
In some cases true but not only
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
For some this is true, but there is more to it for others
@CatherineHart.hh3vwКүн бұрын
They don’t want to invest emotion just want the physical and that’s it
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
In many cases this is true
@CatherineHart.hh3vwКүн бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I see it a lot and it’s hard to know how to break the barriers down.
@shaspearman8647Күн бұрын
Yes. The guy I’m seeing doesn’t expose himself at all. He’s a “gentleman”. Wants to do anything I want to do, can follow me in conversation on things I really care about, but it doesn’t take me into really feeling close with him. We’re still on the friend level. We can only go deeper when he goes deeper. But he is walled up, I can feel the wall. And if I sense that, there is no way I can be physically intimate with you, cause WHO is this person with me. Sure you’re trying hard to impress me, but you ain’t giving me anything I can feel, something that will open my heart towards you romantically
@CatherineHart.hh3vwКүн бұрын
Often as a women I feel the way to break the walls is the physical intimacy but is that really the case for men. Sex is supposed to be the glue that holds you but surely it can only do that if you both are fully invested together in every way
@boston1976Күн бұрын
@@CatherineHart.hh3vwthat is not the case for many ppl. Sex is an act. The reasons for the act vary. Some place more emphasis on the engagement than others.
@africanacityКүн бұрын
No sex before marriage is the best thing ever 🙌
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Can’t disagree with that
@Strawberryfreeze300020 сағат бұрын
I’m on the fence with that one ..bc what if it’s wack s ec…would if he is terrible in bed ..I need to know before I commit my life …
@kathleen-mariefoley78019 сағат бұрын
@@Strawberryfreeze3000 sex is a skill. It can be learned with patience, openess, humility, and communication. All of which I'd want in a marriage anyway. If I didn't have a serious case of Wendy Syndrome caring for little lost art boys lol
@Strawberryfreeze300018 сағат бұрын
@@kathleen-mariefoley780 I don’t think so .. I have dated a guy that could never get it right ..no matter what ..it was horrible ..the thing is everything else was perfect : no kids, never married, great career , home owner ..nice ..but I could not get pass the bad se c…it was horrible!….what would be your advice to that …great provider but extremely horrible in bed …what a girl supposed to do? Cheat ?
@margarethnyamushonongora752214 сағат бұрын
Fact
@HeEmpressMeКүн бұрын
Mature individuals often prioritize emotional intimacy, mutual respect, and shared values over mere physical desires. In many cases, seeing relationships solely through the lens of physical attraction can lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities for meaningful connections. IMO
@norelle8705ifyКүн бұрын
I’m not giving it up for a plate!
@CarmenPerez-kz6rw16 сағат бұрын
@@norelle8705ify non negotiable. Do not sit alone in a car with a man, drive anywhere with him at all, or step through the door of his pad. The man has to earn even that. This is the only way. I stayed abstinent for a very long time. It was so painful. I think I had physical pain over it. I lived alone in the mountains. You can do it. The Holy Spirit enables it. Through Jesus. He will give you the power. 💪🏻
@jibarabicha4853Күн бұрын
The audacity of men expecting sex as showing ‘interest’. We already basically risk our lives being alone with them and spending money on our appearance. Maybe we need to bring back the Bridgerton days with chaperones to see how they like it 😂
@ORANGELILY4U11 сағат бұрын
🤭
@Christy-he6ry10 сағат бұрын
I tell you!! The audacity is out of this world
@TawandaClark-ii9psКүн бұрын
Men should not be using going too fast as an excuse based on their fear of being used. Cross that bridge when you notice the red flags that a woman is using you by releasing that person. Very simple.
@gretchenknurr580Күн бұрын
Right! Here’s a wild idea-maybe instead of trying to escalate physically, they could try being honest and telling you if they like you?!?! You know, use words. Is that too much to ask for?! 😭 I’ve been brave and expressed my feelings before. I would love to find someone willing to do the same.
@Anna-st5dmКүн бұрын
He should have chosen better. If he got used for food, he should have chosen better. He should have taken the time to vet her and get to know her. A few PROBING and SUBSTANTIVE questions would have let him know of the mindset and level of interest of the woman. There are PLENTY of date ideas that don’t cost much of anything, if anything at all. Effort and creativity, would make money irrelevant. Many women would actually prefer an activity or event over a dinner. The men should vet, and not be lazy and unimaginative.
@joyricherson4570Күн бұрын
This is true! That's why we have to get back into TEACHING RELATIONSHIPS CORRECTLY like you.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Yes indeed 🙏
@kellyfierce3540Күн бұрын
😊
@marjeanroman964Күн бұрын
If he can’t afford dinner, he can’t afford to date.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
💯
@docwhoshopsКүн бұрын
And definitely not sex!
@candyxoxo1921 сағат бұрын
Its crazy how there are too many men acting like entitled to a woman’s body. If a man has the what can I get back in return then just be upfront. I can’t stand the ones who play games.
@iRespectMen15 сағат бұрын
And these are the same men that will label you a hoe when they get you in the sheets early
@MsCatwoman11112 сағат бұрын
Nothing to do with affording. Why assume it's the man's duty to pay? Sounds like sexist entitlement to me.
@Tara-ClaireMintakaLКүн бұрын
Tips for men : Why trying to have sex to soon to show that u are interested guys?? How about being affectionate, romantic, kisses and cuddles (out of the room of course ) that will definitely show that you are into women and also are a quality guy 😺😽💘
@marciawade9101Күн бұрын
Bloop! 👍💯🤔🤷👌🥂💝🎉🥳
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Agree, but that would be "High-value" Man behavior. The type of guys being talked about on this video are just guys with zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!!
@beverly319816 сағат бұрын
The problem is lack of communication on both ends and being truthful about each others intentions on the first date. Honesty is the key. Don’t try and mislead a woman. Be honest and truthful. Discuss on the phone or text email what you are looking for. If you only want sex just say it. If you want a relationship with sex and no commitment just say it. If you want a marriage but you are not having sex but are still sexually attracted to her but still respects her until she’s ready then LET HER KNOW!!!!! JUST SAY IT!!!
@angiekyles94523 сағат бұрын
If I am supposed to go dutch, I can stay home by myself and cook… The way people start off is normally how they finish. I’m am too old to play those games. ✌🏾
@threecats1605Күн бұрын
I was the one that moved fast.. I was married 45 years saved myself. I was so busy with business’s, I’m widowed now and let me tell you I can’t get enough.. I’m 73 and my wonderful man is 66 thinking older women don’t have sex. He said “was I wrong”🤣🤣🤣
@shaspearman8647Күн бұрын
Beautiful. I love hearing it
@user-fh1tr9zp3lКүн бұрын
Ha ha 🤣🤣 woman power turn up that heat keep him busy
@sylviaAguenther-zc9lg22 сағат бұрын
@@threecats1605 hi there,I just wanted to take a moment of yourto thank you for sharing, I m sooo happy to hear of how U & you’re partner have found beautiful love for each other in later years🥰adorable🤭
@marleneholloway777512 сағат бұрын
I'm 81, but only want my special man...
@bnb0510Күн бұрын
Men getting sexual too soon is the #1 biggest turn off to me. Smoking a a close 2nd. 😂 Honestly though my initial thought when men start right off with the bs I’m out! Complete flip of the switch. Because in my eyes it’s about another notch on the bedpost. Especially in today’s society!
@-blessing16.15 сағат бұрын
Big turn off im out too i start dodging and eventually they go away 😂
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Agree 💯 percent! It's obvious these types of "Low-Value Men" are used to getting what they want. And to use the excuse that they don't want to spend $$$ on women who "play" them is just ridiculous!!! 🙄👎
@ORANGELILY4UКүн бұрын
They can't get none from me. Not unless they're the REAL deal.☀️
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
🙏
@Beyondme7700Күн бұрын
Some will pretend to be real deal until they get it...
@racqueenusКүн бұрын
@@Beyondme7700 THAT PART
@ORANGELILY4UКүн бұрын
@@Beyondme7700I don't even let pretenders smell it ☀🤣️
@raygunbobcatКүн бұрын
Don’t go on dates expecting anything, let alone anything in return. You’re going on dates to find a connection. Go on small dates, like coffee shops. If she wants more than that, then you have your answer.
@kathleen-mariefoley78019 сағат бұрын
@@raygunbobcat or like okay, we'll have a meal but it's a picnic :)
@skyfall148123 сағат бұрын
Set a boundary with them and you’ll soon see where you stand. They either... disappear for good....are genuine, wanting to get to know you and let things develop naturally or they disappear and circle back around after a few months like nothing happened. But, which ever happens, you have your dignity in tact and won’t regret it.
@nadiaworsley20 сағат бұрын
I totally agree.
@MeetStephanSpeaks10 сағат бұрын
🙌💯
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Exactly 💯 percent! Women have to allow themselves to be used sexually by these "Low-Value Men" who have zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!! 🙏❤✝️
@LazygirlLA892Күн бұрын
Men need to understand that women need time for attraction to come online. We’re biologically sexually selective. I went out with a handful of men last year (wasn’t intimate) and didn’t feel any attraction for any of them. I would not have felt comfortable being intimate. I was open and willing to see if the attraction could come online, but men usually aren’t if you’re not willing to sleep with them.
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Those are "Low-Value Men" who usually aren't looking for a long-term relationship in the first place. 🙄👎
@CarmenPerez-kz6rwКүн бұрын
I’m not paying for anything and I don’t have premarital sex and get marriage proposals often. True I’ve been married twice without having sex first and it didn’t work out but I have no regrets and no shame. I did not sin. Stop giving yourself to men. Stop sinning because it ages you much faster. I’m 50 and people think I’m 28! Worship God. Stay out of men’s beds!
@PricelessJesusКүн бұрын
Amen xxx
@Christy-he6ry10 сағат бұрын
Facts
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
All great advice! Glad to know there are still women with Godly principles and moral values in this corrupt culture! Be blessed! 🙏❤✝️
@Purrl177518 сағат бұрын
1. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are too easy so he puts in less effort. 2. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are worth the investment. WHICH ONE IS IT?!!😭😭😭
@TammBiancxСағат бұрын
Men say number 2. But subconsciously it's number 1.
@PricelessJesusКүн бұрын
Im not spreading my Margarine TILL MARRIAGE 😂❤
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
lol that’s the first time I’ve heard it referred to as that 😂
@fantasiaroberts515714 сағат бұрын
I was thinking the same thing! I think that is her personal preference!😄🤦🏽♀️@@MeetStephanSpeaks
@fantasiaroberts515714 сағат бұрын
Come on now! MARGARINE!🤮 I am sure there's a much more delightful type of spread out there...😄
@dtoussaint06155 сағат бұрын
Margarine just sent me 😂😭💀
@CatherineHart.hh3vwКүн бұрын
I just don’t know how to have a relationship with a man anymore I don’t get them
@Christy-he6ry10 сағат бұрын
Me neither
@jacsgxbxb7 сағат бұрын
For real It's tiring
@CatherineHart.hh3vw7 сағат бұрын
@@jacsgxbxb so exhausting. I hear you
@TammBiancxСағат бұрын
We're all confused right now.
@The1morningstar22 сағат бұрын
Now I see why a lot of women end up giving up. If both sides are in for the fun then who cares but for some of us sex can’t just happen without any sign of effort/commitment.
@wkpo4107Күн бұрын
One thing I think men should consider is that women spend a LOT to look good in general, to feel good and attract you in the first place, AND to provide you with a top version of ourselves when you take us out. Ladies, I know you have my back here. Hair, nails/toes, all the the ongoing regular maintenance, the new money suck: lashes , clothes in general and possibly a new outfit for the date. Maybe a babysitter if you’re a mom. It adds up to wayyyyyy more than dinner! You guys need to be aware of that and stop feeling that women OWE you something in return. We are giving it on the front end. Respect that, appreciate that, compliment that, and you will be well on your way to feeling appreciated in return. Show masculine romantic behavior and reap the rewards! 💋
@kathleen-mariefoley78019 сағат бұрын
@@wkpo4107 yeah but they also feel we owe them adherence to the beauty standards anyway so I don't know that we can get sympathy for that lol
@vanessabeckett561417 сағат бұрын
So you’re going to stop doing all of this for yourself if a man isn’t involved?? It’s not like we have to buy this stuff new everytime we go on a date. It last for multiple uses and occasions, far longer than a one time $100 dinner. This is not a valid excuse And if you can’t afford a babysitter once in a while, don’t date. It’s not his kid or his responsibility to take care of or even offer up something you made a choice about long before he stepped on the scene.
@CarmenPerez-kz6rw16 сағат бұрын
@@wkpo4107 I don’t disagree with you. Great points. But we should spend more money on quality food and gym memberships we use rather than fake eyelashes and hair dye.
@CarmenPerez-kz6rw16 сағат бұрын
@@vanessabeckett5614 You also make good points….good points everyone. It’s all true at the same time. That is a paradox. Not a contradiction. Look up the word. It’s my favorite word.
@wkpo41075 сағат бұрын
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw I think many of us do, and I agree on lashes. I should have added gym, yoga and Pilates sessions. My bad. But I’m still going to get highlights! ;)
@twin719Күн бұрын
Where I come from words are used to communicate with people and express what you want or don’t want. Additionally, sex is for married people. This is part of the reasons why we have so many children raised by single parents, abortions etc. The purpose for dating is to get to know a person. Why would anyone take someone on an expensive date early on? Perhaps go on more expensive dates after you learn more about them and wouldn’t mind spending more money at that time.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
🙏
@CarmenPerez-kz6rw16 сағат бұрын
@@twin719 yessss
@BlessedViolet9 сағат бұрын
❤
@TawandaClark-ii9psКүн бұрын
Women get used too..
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Absolutely!
@mukaniwatkins2598Күн бұрын
They get used way more than men get used.
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Women (and men) have to allow themselves to be used, right?? 😉😉
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
@@mukaniwatkins2598 *"You Teach People How To Treat You !"* ~Dr. Phil 💡💡💡
@TawandaClark-ii9ps15 минут бұрын
@@4EverGr8ful1 Not really..Sometimes it happens when trying to trust someone.
@boogienights418Күн бұрын
It's so crazy. I'm dealing with this right now and had to set some boundaries. This video has so much clarity!❤
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
I’m glad it was helpful to you
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Good for you for setting boundaries and having self respect! 🙏👍
@shaconyaeley6515Күн бұрын
Glad that you talked about this topic, because I have experience this with Men.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
You're welcome 🙏
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Ya, Stephan basically exposed their "Sorry A**!" 😜🤣
@livinggood687623 сағат бұрын
Women give signals like sitting closer, smiling and touching that indicate interest. Intelligent men pick up on and respond to these signals.
@annamae3438Күн бұрын
Involved with my partner for 14 years, yet he’s always speaking sexual with me- about me. Yes, it’s a plus that he’s still into me but why talk sexual EVERY CONVERSATION and touchy feelly it’s nerve wrecking.. is this normal? Please reply
@Angel-lm6cjКүн бұрын
He Doesn’t want to get played. Well they play with women. And abt the free meal. I don’t think women are asking for a free meal. They are the ones that choose to men don’t want to put effort in nothing now a days
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Not all men play women, and not all women play men. But both sides have fears of getting played
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think that is just an excuse that "Low-Value Men" use who are not even looking for a relationship, just what they can get for as low of an investment as possible! 👎👎
@AnnaWhite-go6nz21 сағат бұрын
This video /clip couldn’t be more important. I am so sick and tired of men jumping on me for a date
@LinaZahrddienКүн бұрын
For the first 2 minutes of this I was angry but it makes sense later. Although “some men” are the key words here. I find it really off putting for men to use “dates” to get sex and women to use “dates” to use men for free meals 😢 dating, should be spent with the intent to genuinely get to know the other persons wants, needs & goals etc..
@joyricherson4570Күн бұрын
Pound for Pound 😂😂😂😂 Pun intended?
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Lol 🙏
@JStig12Күн бұрын
@joyricherson4570 😂 I was waiting for him to say, "Not that kind of pound. Get your mind out of the gutter."
@kianaholmes22921 сағат бұрын
All women/men are not the same, but communication is VERY IMPORTANT!!! You can communicate that you are interested in a relationship and/or don't want to be friend zoned, etc. without sex having to be the only way.
@gloriapearson6423 сағат бұрын
I get that. I have gone out bc I was bored. I don't play the guys tho. I usually let them know the outcome before we even go out. A friend is a friend, no sex. Just chilling, if that isn't what he wants I don't go out with him. Playing games or just playing someone is not me. I don't want to get played, so I don't play them
@latinqueenma4683Күн бұрын
If he's really interested in you he'll respect your boundaries. You can just tell him. Hey I'm interested in you. Can we see if we have a connection in an emotional and outgoing way first.
@willowmoon506323 сағат бұрын
Make a move but be respectful about it, know how and learn to read you date, get it into your head gentlemen that making a move doesn't have to mean sex. Try learning to court, kiss, talk, touch ,,cuddles , etc. If you're interested seriously you will benefit from talking and taking it slow in the long run. It's worth it.
@Cindy_Love_2025Күн бұрын
Your comment at the beginning had me roll’n 😂 Great video 💯
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
lol 😂 I’m glad you enjoyed it
@reprezivetm6586Күн бұрын
Important video for the people keep it up Stephan !
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Thank you! I will. 🙏
@Willow_Sage_23 сағат бұрын
If grown people just communicated their intentions, there would be no issues.
@BrookeLyn3921 сағат бұрын
You can communicate. But sometimes they don't want to hear you.
@naturallivingbyenovi23 сағат бұрын
The American culture is way too fast. People sleeping together within the first month is a no no in many other cultures especially with women over 40. The issue with the examples you gave is that there was not enough verbal communication on what each person was expecting out of the relationship. They were just trying to read body language. Especially with Christian women, we have to let the men know up front what we are about and if they can't wait, then they are free to go
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Amen! 🙏❤✝️
@vaksehund2Күн бұрын
For me I am too kind to pat on the back, or looking too long into a man's eyes & smile, I compliment left, right & center. It's just part of my nature - but I will be trying to do that less.
@ChristineArztmannКүн бұрын
If I have to pay on our first date, he can do it to himself. He is not a man.
@1986GloryКүн бұрын
A he right some women will play the men just to get free meals so I agree with him
@aelitastone5629Күн бұрын
@@1986Glory I prefer paid myself than invest in that type of men.
@1986Glory9 сағат бұрын
@@aelitastone5629 I mean some guys won’t to do right but when play you for free stuff it’s just being careful
@4EverGr8ful157 минут бұрын
@@1986Glory That's just a ridiculous excuse low-value men use! They should just hire a prostitute, so they'll be sure and get their "money's worth", right?? 🙄
@sadiqua7Күн бұрын
Her time is an equivalent to his investment friend.. our time to procreate cannot be earned by working more hours. Women get the short end of the stick anyway you look at it. Either we give it up to soon and he dips, or we hold out and he dips. So since men hold the power of a relationship all we have is our chastity to ensure we won’t be run through. Periodt.
@helenj-b4sКүн бұрын
It’s normal for a man to try or make an attempt or a move towards a lady, it’s now less for her to decline or accept it
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Thank you for your feedback
@Taisha12001Күн бұрын
The whole "making a move" is a very slippery slope. Some men interpret making moves as being sexually aggressive and that can be very off-putting to a woman. A man can make the proverbial move on a woman that does not involve any vulgar language or lascivious behavior.
@latoniacallaham3697Күн бұрын
No 3 I have to say works both ways. If a woman makes the first move guys sometimes say no and still feel some type of way especially when a woman tries to respect them wanting to wait. Some can be fickle and flip the script. Yet don’t understand when a woman decides after all that then she wants to wait. Men wanting to have sex so soon is part of the reason I haven’t had sex in years especially those using the strong attraction as an excuse. I’m older and wiser so I don’t fall for that anymore. They just want sex.
@tammytaylor6004Күн бұрын
Then he needs to adjust his approach as to not trying to spend a lot while he's trying to see if he/she really likes each other
@Zahara231Сағат бұрын
These are all positive reasons in my opinion and very helpful. Thank you.
@Tommies_lifestyleКүн бұрын
I like the part you said its confusing, the fact that we're different people also makes the view and perspective of situations different. Sound teachings like this should help change people's orientation for the better though. Thank you Stephan.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Thanks for sharing 🙏
@iamsparklingsmileКүн бұрын
Hi I love your content. I’ve been following you for quite some time ❤️
@MeetStephanSpeaks23 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much, I appreciate your support
@pilipinay351222 сағат бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Stephan, I hope I am not asking too much, can you make a content all about “how should a woman tell a good man to wait until the right time before having sex”…. I don’t want to say it the wrong way, I would like to learn it from a man’s perspective. 🙏
@CrazyCandy57 сағат бұрын
Don't go to any person house that your dating. Hangout outside the house. If the person is interested show it by actions and not sexually. Be honest in how you feel.
@WanjiruMuyaКүн бұрын
Sexual tension instead of Sexual Chemistry 😉
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Indeed!
@sasha20232Күн бұрын
Dating rules are not the same as courtship rules not the same as engagement rules not the same as marriage rules...Unhealthy women and men will always try to put marriage things into dating area due to unresolved childhood trauma and not understanding or living in environment with emotionally mature humans.
@resb8748Күн бұрын
There r ways ppl show romantic interest without diving into sex. Open communication and taking time in getting to know ppl is key. These reasons are ridiculous lol
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
They clearly aren't "Reasons," they are EXCUSES used by Low-Value Men to get what they want... Yuck!! 🤢👎
@Xianne027Күн бұрын
Stephan, I always appreciated your advice. But by calling sex an "investment" several times you've turned my stomach! I HAVE never and WILL never trade my sexuality merely for a dinner!!! How disgusting does it get here???
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
I’m explaining how some men view it, I stated from the beginning that doesn’t mean I’m validating it or agreeing with it, but I am explaining it
@boston1976Күн бұрын
But that is you. There are people who play into the dynamic, he is discussing. I fall into your category but understand the explanation.
@4EverGr8ful147 минут бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think you need to maybe stop hearing from "Low-Value Men" and talk about those with integrity and good moral values!! You're making reputable men look bad with these kind of videos! 👎👎
@tiatalksseries53613 сағат бұрын
The opening statement Stephan is 1000% on the spot..phww
@MeetStephanSpeaks10 сағат бұрын
🙂❤️
@4EverGr8ful15 сағат бұрын
Thanks to our society rejecting God and people with ZERO morals and integrity!! 🙏❤✝️
@beckymuska262018 сағат бұрын
An investment is not a date , sorry that’s just pathetic. Your body is not something you can just give away because someone spent money on you . If a woman wants to wait until she’s married and he doesn’t then he doesn’t love her enough .
@TawandaClark-ii9psКүн бұрын
This is not always true, and if a woman doesn't want it, then all she has to do is say NO.
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Exactly! You can't be used without your consent! 💡💡💡
@TawandaClark-ii9ps17 минут бұрын
@@4EverGr8ful1That is mostly true, but people do get raped though. I have once, which I did not agree to..
@spokenwordsbykeke23 сағат бұрын
I appreciate the video explaining, but its such a turn off for me. It gives high school vibes. I agree with the comment on here... It doesn't have to be all sexual. You can can flirt, kiss etc to show interest. It doesn't take all that aggression. (I like the setting boundaries advice).
@anrebrown124117 сағат бұрын
I do think that closing the gap between knowing if both are interested is just to have an honest conversation. We assume too quickly through actions without knowing what's going on in each other's thoughts...
@LeeHunter-d4g11 сағат бұрын
What happen to the way dating used to be??????? Date for years without sex!!!!!!! In order to get to know the person better…..
@4EverGr8ful15 сағат бұрын
Culture has rejected God & made ALL of this crap acceptable that's why. 🙏❤✝️
@tashaclayton7569Күн бұрын
Stephan is always right on time!
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
🙂 thank you very much
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Ya, Stephan exposed their "Sorry A**!" 😜🤣
@simpsonut1297Күн бұрын
Great video, some new perspective about men’s behavior in those early days of dating! I also feel like a lot of men who do this are the same that will tell you not to let your past experiences with other men affect this new potential relationship. Pretty hypocritical, and to some degree all of our current behaviors are colored by our experiences!
@natibelfortunato6879Күн бұрын
100%. they don’t want you to treat them like past guys but will treat you as if you’re their exes. smh. they want a chance and the benefit of the doubt but don’t give you that.
@ness-lee-crunch13 сағат бұрын
I think reason number 5 is sex has been his most familiar path to intimacy in general-not just physical intimacy. And this is true for some men and women. This is the only way they know how to “break the ice” to connection.
@paulettealston837216 сағат бұрын
There's no fear in love, perfect love casts out fear because fear comes with punishment. If a man is fearful of being used for money, dinner, or more, his wanting to have sex too soon is simply an act of lust, not love, it is just a lustful way to validate the fear of being used, because with most men who aren't in love yet, once sex is exchanged for validation of not being used, the man is no longer fearful of being used, but may not be as interested in that particular woman anymore once he has sex with her, because it wasn't love, it was lust, because there's no fear in love. When a man truly loves a woman he doesn't need sex to validate his time spent with her or his money spent on her, without fear of being used or hurt and feeling like he's going to be punished for being a good man to the right woman. When it's the right woman she'll only want to do you good all the days of your life and never harm you in any way. Sex is fun, God created sex for our pleasure, but if it's used the wrong way and for the wrong reasons it can blow up in our faces, and even be physically dangerous to our health when used casually. Sex in a relationship is great fun, and it should be, but relationships without marriage usually don't last. So if people want different results, they'll have to do something different to get better results. Abstaining from sex until marriage can invigorate, stimulate, energize, amp up, spike, jump start, and fire up a deep passion and desire to be with that one person, because you know that you can trust that person, without fear of loving them because you've gotten to know each other without sexual lust blurring your mind from seeing and knowing who they are. I enjoy having sex, but if I'm not in a trustworthy, lasting relationship, I keep my cookies in my cookie jar, and the thing I'm doing differently for better results is allowing my future husband to open my cookie jar only. People can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results.
@carismebeaut38107 сағат бұрын
What I get here is just lack of communication. Just communicate for clarity..
@gloriapearson6423 сағат бұрын
Yes that happens too. Not attempting is definitely a sign for me. I let them know if I'm interested bf they tell me. I don't think he has to make a move just show interest
@loisclark1883Күн бұрын
That high level attraction is still chemistry. Especially when you can't keep your hands away from each other.
@ange2122Күн бұрын
1 Corinthians 7 KJV - King James Version It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
@loisclark1883Күн бұрын
@ange2122 God forgave me of all my sins when I asked him to come into my life. You don't need to give me scripture. I am a widow. Been there and done it.
@ange2122Күн бұрын
@@loisclark1883 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 in the Bible states: "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God"
@ange2122Күн бұрын
@@loisclark1883 Hebrews 12:6-7 KJV - For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth
@ange2122Күн бұрын
@loisclark1883 (Hebrews12:6-7 KJV-For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth)
@passionfruitpassionfruit20347 сағат бұрын
I said no living together no premarital sex and now he wants to marry me. Ladies it does work.
@4EverGr8ful15 сағат бұрын
Bravo!! 🙏👍
@user-fh1tr9zp3lКүн бұрын
My goodness !!! am laughing but its serious going into his bedroom to watch TV ?? I will excuse any man making a move come on girl 😄 and considering to the way she was dressed at this time Stephan this was awesome
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Thank you for your opinion 🙏
@4EverGr8ful151 минут бұрын
Poor judgement at it's finest... Some women!! 🙄💡
@angeldonnelly4433Күн бұрын
Her time, energy, and attention is her investment. Going Dutch is good, and personally preferred by me anyway. I don't owe you anything. If you want to pay for sex, there are women that specialize in that field.🤔🤷♀️😊💖❤️🔥💞
@TawandaClark-ii9psКүн бұрын
I hope my Simba knows where we stand on the intimate subject because we have already had that discussion, and I made sure I was balanced, went through my healing from past trauma. So that should not be in question to him..
@paigenicholespeaks617210 сағат бұрын
It's the opening for me! 😂😂😂
@MeetStephanSpeaks10 сағат бұрын
lol 😂
@marquittafriend9838Күн бұрын
I'm free spirited and open-minded. I don't take take hints well all the time. 😂. It's only funny to me cause I just let some stuff go over my head 😌
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Lol 🙏
@BetsyArce21 сағат бұрын
There are so many different scenarios that's why it's important to express ourselves verbally & ask questions. I like Steve Harvey's book, Think like a man act like a lady. He suggests a woman wait at least 3 months before having intimate relations. However, open lines of communication are key. I'm going to read some of your books too. Thank you Stephan.
@patrix1987Күн бұрын
What about men that are the opposite ? That after months and even years don't try to make a move 😔
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
I hope people communicate their wants better 🙏
@user-fh1tr9zp3lКүн бұрын
WHAT ?? That's an iceberg 🤣🤣🤣🤣 boring man
@chatamanu65Күн бұрын
Lust, lust, just!
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
It’s a reality of the dating world most people will have to navigate through
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
Our culture is Godless, and void of moral standards, so this is what you can expect!! 🙏❤✝️
@sherdee193523 сағат бұрын
You can tell the woman you are interested but want to take it slow. You don't have to show your interest by wanting to have sex.
@Mindbodysoultv01Күн бұрын
Will it be masculine if I paid for the date to avoid intimacy and misunderstandings? I don’t want to rush into breaking my celibacy.
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
Rather than jumping to pay, just be open to having these discussions in advance to make sure you both are on the same page
@nathiemurillotoroКүн бұрын
Nope, first investment a woman makes is on looking good. We cannot show up like some of you guys do, and even the most tidy man will never know how much time, pain and money it costs to maintain a cute natural look: hair, make up, depilation, nails, pretty dress. So if on a first date she looks good, believe she’s in it too. And you bet all that costs more than dinner! Sex is a whole other dimension of energetic trade🪢 beyond dessert too 👀😹
@mukaniwatkins2598Күн бұрын
Exactly. Sex shouldn't be on the table honestly unless the man as time goes by that he is committed.
@TerryGuzmanMartinezКүн бұрын
Some women too
@MeetStephanSpeaksКүн бұрын
🙏
@annestaudacher97211 сағат бұрын
No really, excuse me! If he misunderstands, he can try GENTLY. But if she is hesitant, he should stop. Or AT LEAST make sure that she is okay. It doesn't seem he liked her that much anyway. If you like so the most important thing should be to know that they are happy, which includes being happy with the situation and happy with you. And at the end of the day there is also verbal communication if people are so confused all the time.
@LeeHunter-d4g11 сағат бұрын
Nonsense for men to think if they don’t make a move they are less of a man!!!!!!!!
@MsLilac888 сағат бұрын
Hello Stephan, I always feel enlightened by your amazing relationship videos, thanks so much for enlightening me. 😊
@believensee862123 сағат бұрын
Your whole video leaves me asking "what happened to communication?".
@gstewardКүн бұрын
One thing not being said in these examples is that the men did not clearly communicate. Teach men to use their words! A man who can’t effectively communicate is not an attractive potential mate. The burden should not be on the woman for some men’s lack of basic communication skills.
@AugustaWilliamsJr13 сағат бұрын
Say what you want. Someone should talk and not assume anything
@MeetStephanSpeaks9 сағат бұрын
Proper communication would definitely make things so much better
@ava6015Күн бұрын
Stephan you have good stuff and all - but you dropped the ball on this. Woman, please keep your legs closed. You can get an idea of a man’s intention by the 2nd or 3rd month.
@rleahfisherКүн бұрын
A lot of these reasons would be invalid with a simple thing called COMMUNICATION. Communicated feelings by both parties along the way (followed up with actions to match said feelings) negates all the confusion. For the record, we all make investments in life (financially, with career, in relationships, et al) with no guarantee of a ROI. Dating should be viewed as just another type of investment (ie. men need to stop expecting more from just a few paid dinners). We all need to learn to be savvy “investors” with our time, money, body, energy, emotional wellbeing, etc.
@4EverGr8ful1Сағат бұрын
These are clearly not "Reasons", they are EXCUSES for bad behavior from Low-Value Men!! 😳👎
@BrookeLyn3921 сағат бұрын
If a man is that worried about paying for a meal, he needs to just save his pennies, pay a hooker, and stop the bull$hit.
@CatherineHart.hh3vwКүн бұрын
That’s exactly what my ex was like give me the flowers but he want the sex in return
@summermucha5207Күн бұрын
They are not equal pound for pound. What about STDs? That can ruin your life.