The ridiculous thing is that someone can be sterilised without their consent but when a grown women wants to be sterilised it isn’t her choice
@chilli36725 жыл бұрын
Can u please explain
@Carolynetje5 жыл бұрын
@@chilli3672 You're not allowed to get a sterilisation as a grown women until after you're past the age of being able to get children. It is because you "might change your mind". This only changes if you have a serious condition.
@chilli36725 жыл бұрын
@@Carolynetje wow wtf.....thats just crazy😥
@thepoohbearful5 жыл бұрын
@@Carolynetje as well as in countries u need your husband's permission. Smh
@MANJYOMETHUNDER1115 жыл бұрын
@@Carolynetje That isn't true in all countries?
@quinn31105 жыл бұрын
I don't even want to give birth, but to not have that choice is terrible.
@spacecities__5 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't want to have kids in this era. The world is literally dying and starting a family isn't really a good choice now. At least in my perspective.
@justie1075 жыл бұрын
Lunar Skypes wHaT?
@redo-lent39435 жыл бұрын
@@justie107 it's her choice and her opinion. What's up with your WaHt????
@Meelany2610955 жыл бұрын
@@spacecities__ depends on where you live. Some pleaces are great to have children and even big families
@sofia-ot2ws5 жыл бұрын
plot twist: your a guy 😯
@jadeanthem27875 жыл бұрын
I’m more mad at the judge than the mother. She was manipulated into doing what she thought was best for her daughter. Given her social economic background she was left with almost no other option.
@YasmineDiogoAlex5 жыл бұрын
Exactly my thoughts
@hollywoodshopaholic5 жыл бұрын
Agreed, she was an uneducated, financially disadvantaged single mother. The judge took advantage of this.
@NoTimeToExplain-5 жыл бұрын
Yup
@MsJubjubbird5 жыл бұрын
I agree. She loved her daughter and did what she believed was best, based on the advice of someone of good standing in the community. Every parent wants to give their child better than what they had
@murderousashes96904 жыл бұрын
So glad I found people and a comment. That isn’t criticizing the mother and saying how horrible she is. The mother didn’t know any better. She just wanted to help her daughter.
@Khushi-jl8mj5 жыл бұрын
the fact that a federal judge had the power to do this just shows how important it is to keep women informed about their bodies and how we have to fighting for our own goddamn rights.
@alcoholandfun2435 жыл бұрын
time.com/4093214/suffragettes-abortion/
@painfullystupib5 жыл бұрын
Christopher McAuley k? things we have to fight for change, since abortion laws are coming back into light and not ”rights to vote”
@swastikausa5 жыл бұрын
well she says the judge ran the county so that would mean a county judge or even a justice of the peace. in those days in the hill country of north Carolina you didn't even need a law degree to get elected you just needed to be Klan. federal judges are appointed for life by the president of the united states personally.
@alcoholandfun2435 жыл бұрын
@@painfullystupib Sorry, being honest, I don't really understand what you mean?
@f.j.blakemore72505 жыл бұрын
this happened in 1973 tho mate
@catalinagomezroca62575 жыл бұрын
i would literally never forgive my mother if she did this to me
@strawberryluvr33625 жыл бұрын
Same, but today, no one is stupid enough to go into surgery without the doctors talking to me. Imma run
@kt270665 жыл бұрын
Catalina same, like seriously wtf
@spectrelake31715 жыл бұрын
@@rachelalice9642 When did this happen? Was this in real life or in the show?
@ajvanmarle5 жыл бұрын
It's the mutilation of a child. There can be no forgiveness.
@ajvanmarle5 жыл бұрын
@@strawberryluvr3362 Look up compulsory sterilization on Wikipedia. You'd be surprised how long that went on, and not always in the countries where you'd expect it.
@blackandbluemadness79655 жыл бұрын
So.... did those same judge force 14 year old boys to have vasectomy as well then? Disgusting sexism, and I'm sure that's the same kind of people who are against abortion
@vlixle27815 жыл бұрын
Pretty sure most of the cases would have been brought up by the kids parents/guardian and it would be up to the judge to decide if it’s the best thing to do judging by the child’s behaviour. The reason why this likely didn’t happen with boys is because when they have sex, they won’t be the ones ending up with another human growing inside of them. If a boy gets a girl pregnant, he could disappear with no consequences. But depending on the financial and living situation of the girl, it can be devastating for her to have a baby. This is the whole reason the mother was worried and had the operation done. Having an operation like this without the recipients knowledge is terrible but I doubt it had any sexist motivations behind it
@blackandbluemadness79655 жыл бұрын
@@vlixle2781 I do understand the motives, but it doesn't mean it's not sexist to say parents can decide to sterilize their daughters without their consent. And I know boys would be forced to deal with the consequences thanks to their own biology, but thi just goes to show how ridiculous this rule is. Instead of educating everyone, boys and girls, on the dangers they're facing, they decided to sterilize kids so they never could have childre, not even as adults? You can't tell me this has nothing to do with genders. I'm not trying to sound preachy I swear, I'm usually not really one to be easily outraged but this is absolutely revolting and wrong
@vlixle27815 жыл бұрын
BlackAndBlueMadness oh yeah, the gender of the individual would definitely effect the chances of the parents/guardians making the choice to sterilise their child. And the rule is most certainly cruel, not disputing that. I suppose my main point was that while this choice can certainly have sexist motivations (as a lot of things can) I doubt that sexism was the most common motivator
@feathvr5 жыл бұрын
Alabama level 100000
@blackandbluemadness79655 жыл бұрын
@@vlixle2781 yeah I get what you're saying
@theluckywaffleyt12595 жыл бұрын
Imagine your mom stoping you from having children and you really wanted children I would never forgive her. Thanks for all the likes guys!
@freyadawn-marieshipley8295 жыл бұрын
Imagine never wanting children get unable to get sterilised
@aphro123star5 жыл бұрын
@@freyadawn-marieshipley829 well go on birth control and use condoms then! Simple 👍🏽
@aimeehenno6475 жыл бұрын
@Roelinn Joubert condoms don't work 3% to 5% of the time
@aimeehenno6475 жыл бұрын
@@wishful_winter adoption is very hard and a lot of people want biological children. It's not even that it's also the fact that your mother would do that to you and never tell you.
@swastikausa5 жыл бұрын
youre all blaming the mother but what choice did she really have? i blame the judge and the doctor
@susieenglish3025 жыл бұрын
So in all ways men have been making decsions about women and girls and their fertility. Horrific
@benmackarel2955 жыл бұрын
Well it was her mother’s choice it’s not always our fault I’m all for equality but some people think feminism supremacy is the same as equality
@quizzabella5 жыл бұрын
Where is this feminist supremacy of which you speak of? USA medical care for women when it comes to pregnancy is fricking terrifying at the moment.
@blackswan19835 жыл бұрын
Being pregnant in the USA is definitely not the envy of the developed world.
@gachagirl25395 жыл бұрын
Susie English it’s like “men are in charge of women! Men decide what women can and can’t do!” It’s annoying! Government: Men are in charge of you women and female children! Listen or you will spend a lifetime in jail😂
@rubywhitfield28815 жыл бұрын
Ben mackarel you’re the majority. stop trying to make feminism about you. you claim to be for equality though your comment entirely contradicts that.
@nonoseobakeng14245 жыл бұрын
That's just evil... Video still loading but the caption got to me
They did this to a cousin of mine with no consent at all,and she was an adult at the time. She always wondered why she couldn't have children and went to a Dr and he told her she never could because her tubes had been cut and burnt. She and her husband are now in their 70's and adopted a few years after finding out about this. Back then Dr's made those decisions with no one's consent
@callmewaves11605 жыл бұрын
How disgusting.
@safiata98354 жыл бұрын
That is so sad
@WouldntULikeToKnow.2 жыл бұрын
And women still don't have full control over our bodies.
@SL-gz3dy2 жыл бұрын
the doctor decided to do this al on his own? Why would he? What did he gain out of this? I have a feeling there is more to the story?
@celestinoclemente19542 жыл бұрын
@@SL-gz3dy i don't understand. you're saying they're lying?
@xxphosphene5 жыл бұрын
I really don't want kids, but I could never forgive my mother for making this decision behind my back
@MsJubjubbird5 жыл бұрын
I don't blame the mother. She wanted a better life for her daughter and she had very little education. She got bad advice from someone she respected.
@skael12584 жыл бұрын
Maybe you should love and appreciate your mother more, instead of saying you would never grant her forgiveness.
@maiaklimenko66144 жыл бұрын
@@skael1258 not all moms deserve love, they are just as much humans as any other around. Blood means nothing, love has to be earned
@damianlee48223 жыл бұрын
@@skael1258 love and appreciation is earned, even for those who has biological ties with you.
@hpr_amin97133 жыл бұрын
1.4K liker!
@melissablanco86485 жыл бұрын
The judge is the true villian. The mom was a low income and single mother and rather then have someone help her, the judge instead just gave her an awful ultimatium for her child. The mother being in that state obviously didn't know what too do as the odds were stacked against her. The mom is also at fault for not telling her daughter at the time about the truth! She should have explained the entire situation rather then kept it a secret all these years
@Marie-tw4ui5 жыл бұрын
I can't believe this woman had her tubes TIED in her 14s because she was "too wild" ! Now, women who don't want children struggle to been sterilize even thought they CONSENT to have their tubes tied and are in theirs 20S and older.🙄
@mnarsh7502 жыл бұрын
early 20s it not really old enough to make lifetime decision be it having a child or being sterilised trust I've regreted most of the decisions i made at 20
@SL-gz3dy2 жыл бұрын
@@mnarsh750 My niece never wanted children until she became 40. She had to go trough IVF to be able to get pregnant. Sterilisation is a really drastic decision. Doctors aren't punishing women, they are protecting them by making it hard to get your tubes tied!
@mnarsh7502 жыл бұрын
@@SL-gz3dy absolutely! they are not limiting their freedom on the contrary they are protecting their right to choose whether to has children or not in the future
@debadev21795 жыл бұрын
Young women who were unmarried had their babies taken away in the 60s and 70s I believe. They had no choice this makes me sick
@meghan96835 жыл бұрын
@Cherlock McFly I know when my dad was born in 67 he had a twin. The doctors insisted his twin died but never let my nana see him....he could still be alive for all we know.
@Thehonestperson5 жыл бұрын
@@meghan9683 Back then, they didn't let you see stillborns/babies that died after birth, even in the 80's they took them away - it got better then though because you could hold them for a little bit. Wasn't till the 2000's, I believe, that they changed things and parents could bring home the babies they lost - get photos with them, foot & hand prints, etc.
@MintyBingus5 жыл бұрын
Cherlock McFly I'm pretty sure that my grandma was forced to give up her first child due to being young and unmarried. If still alive my uncle would probably be in his 60s by now. (We're from Australia)
@muirsully5 жыл бұрын
Up until the 90s in Ireland. They had no choice and the nuns still hold the records. Several were told their babies had died, meanwhile they were illegally adopted. Look up magdalene laundries.
@brokenandcraked5 жыл бұрын
That is kinda smart, especially for teenaged mother's. Giving babies to people who have the financial ability and emotional maturity to raise them properly, not only sets the child up for their best possible life. But also ensures that they are raised to become functioning members of society. Teenagers do not have the emotional maturity to raise children. It explains why the newer generations are so entitled and unequipped to handle life in society.
@hollywoodshopaholic5 жыл бұрын
I don’t blame the mom-she was uneducated and probably under the mercy of society. I blame the judge and the state for allowing a law like this.
@frog29245 жыл бұрын
Finally someone smart in th3 comments
@CassidyStarke5 жыл бұрын
You don’t need a degree to know not to do this to your daughter!! She knew what she was doing to her, thats why she feel guilty. You’re acting as if she had no idea what was going on.
@hollywoodshopaholic5 жыл бұрын
Cassidy Starke you’d be amazed what peer pressure can do, especially to someone who has been looked down on by society all her life
@CassidyStarke5 жыл бұрын
hollywoodshopaholic Doesn’t matter, peer pressure isn’t whats going to protect and raise your child. You are.
@VeryAmazingGrace5 жыл бұрын
@@hollywoodshopaholic it should be instinctual not to mutilate your own child regardless of 'peer pressure' there's a difference between being pressured into drinking and being pressured into sterilising your child
@Roxanne7315 жыл бұрын
I'm confused...don't they have to tell her? It's her body and her medical history. This makes no sense to me. She's an adult now
@danielleee65335 жыл бұрын
When she was 14,it was still legal to get her tubes tied w/o her consent or knowledge. When she got older, she was too poor to go to a doctor to ever know her tubes were tied
@kiaraclement-martin55084 жыл бұрын
Medically you have to do what is right for your patient. What is the best, to live a full life without knowing anything ? Or knowing that now your chances are barelly none and to lost your mother in the same time ?
@CoRLex-jh5vx2 жыл бұрын
this show misuses patient confidentiality for the sake of drama all the time.
@martinaskupin95492 жыл бұрын
@@danielleee6533 So USA was totalitarian country.
@chelsf4025 жыл бұрын
People like this are so narcissistic! You didn't say anything because YOU didnt want to deal with the consequences, not because you were trying to spare her feelings 😒
@TheKpnair5 жыл бұрын
Exactly. 😧
@mht49082 жыл бұрын
I don’t want children, but I will never forgive my mother or anyone who chooses to do that to her own kid. The least they can do is let their kid know what the judge said. We didn’t choose to come into this world, our parents made that decision
@GoonaTVhi2 жыл бұрын
Different breed of human narcassists
@AuroraKnightingale5 жыл бұрын
Why didn't she tell her daughter when she became a responsible adult I mean it's not that hard to undo that kind of surgery and then she would have been free to have kids
@HollyyB795 жыл бұрын
No for men its reversible, but for women its permenant.
@lovelyharpiefromhell5 жыл бұрын
for women, it is irreversible, hence why more doctors refuse when women ask for sterilization over men wanting a vasectomy.
@tauregen15175 жыл бұрын
If the tubes are cut its permanent but hers where just tied
@tracim30805 жыл бұрын
Lily Vadas it’s not reversible. Also please tell me you’re not under the impression that “tube tying” is literally tying the tubes?
@sunstream45 жыл бұрын
yeah, its possible to get a tubal ligation reversal depending on the type of tubal ligation you had. If the procedure involved clipping the tubes or only making small cuts, there's a good chance you can reverse it. although in terms of this show, the mom wasn't very educated and probably didn't realize that was an option
@LadyCheshire955 жыл бұрын
She could still sue her mother and maybe the judge for emotional damage
@reidecember5 жыл бұрын
For more than a few thousand dollars.
@akiakiii58795 жыл бұрын
I think there's a statute of limitation
@OneVoiceOneTruth5 жыл бұрын
@@akiakiii5879 God I hope not. There should be no statute of limitations on bodily mutilation
@akiakiii58795 жыл бұрын
@@OneVoiceOneTruth yeah, but if what the show says is accurate, it was done under a ruling of a judge and it was legal at the time so, although it is already illegal right now, it does not retroact. It sucks
@OneVoiceOneTruth5 жыл бұрын
@@akiakiii5879 I wonder if that would work here in Canada. We had some people out west sue a province for a legal at the time sterilization years after successfully. Mind you, the balancing of rights and protections against each other differ in Canada to the USA
@steffiwebster48685 жыл бұрын
And here's me trying to get sterilised and so far no doctor has approved it :(
@strawberryspikes5 жыл бұрын
I kinda wanna get sterilized but I’m still a minor and I know I should wait more before I do it. It’s so silly that some doctors don’t approve sterilization.
@crownvicnl5 жыл бұрын
Why would you want to be sterilised? Don't mean to be rude just curious
@rirri23865 жыл бұрын
Cant you freeze some eggs and then tie your tibes and still have kids?
@aimeerichardson34245 жыл бұрын
rirri no cause you cant have your baby then
@steffiwebster48685 жыл бұрын
@@crownvicnl I definitely never want children and it would give me such peace of mind to know I can never have an accident :)
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
On one hand I sort of understand the mother. She was so scared for her child she made a very desperate and irrational decision. That said, I don't agree that what she did was right. It was violating and betraying her daughter.
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
@She’s so Lucky Actually as far as I have found, getting your tubes tied is basically a female vasectomy. Its pretty irreversible.
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
@She’s so Lucky oh wait yeah I've heard of that but in those cases its usually because the hysterectomy was not done properly or there was already an existing egg in the uterus. But honestly a reverse hysterectomy is basically impossible. Tying the tubes usually involves suturing or cauterizing them shut. Sometimes clips are used but during the time the ovaries will eventually cease to function and no longer produce eggs.
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
@She’s so Lucky huh... Alrighty then. My mistake.
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
@She’s so Lucky but there's gotta be a time frame on when its possible right?
@KatonNeko5 жыл бұрын
@She’s so Lucky yikes
@elibl4ke65 жыл бұрын
the fact that Sigrids Mine Right Now was the advert made my day so much better
@heyoitsme24165 жыл бұрын
Okay but that darker doctor/nurse is absolutely stunning wtf
@bs4e5 жыл бұрын
Love the little details of the show like them using sanitizer before touching someone and talking in a low voice for privacy unlike other shows where they're practically screaming in the halls. Lol
@gachagirl25395 жыл бұрын
The ONE time a patient’s heart rate has rose and the patient was AWAKE!
@jessicafrank32474 жыл бұрын
risen
@paris79043 жыл бұрын
@@jessicafrank3247 Or leave out the has than it's also grammaticly correct.
@cameronwaddel40722 жыл бұрын
I had conscious VT of 220, it's possible. In fact I could walk, I might have had an issue doing it for long or trying to run but...
@raine68135 жыл бұрын
i dont think doctors should be allowed to operate on people without their knowledge or conscent regardless of how old they are or if their parent gave their "conscent"
@reeepingk5 жыл бұрын
You're going to have a hard time convincing 5 year olds that doctors need to cut them open with big scary knives and it may hurt a bit. Even more so for 4, 3, 2, 1 year olds, etc.
@raine68135 жыл бұрын
@@reeepingk well i mean i guess they should be able to do that for critical operations, but definetley not anything unnessisary. and i still think that doctors shouldnt be allowed to lie to patients under any circumstances
@raine68135 жыл бұрын
@Tina Yael Severinovna M. ok, i do think surgeons should be able to operate on people with only their parents conscent if the person is a baby and is physically incapable to communicating weither of not they want to do the procedute as long as its something actually nessesary (like eye surgery) but my bottom line is that if the person communicates that they dont want to do the procedure they shouldnt be able to do it unless if its a critical operation, and i dont think doctors should legally be able to lie to people unless if its for the sake of other patients confidentiality
@kell30815 жыл бұрын
Once a child is stable and able to make desicions they are always fully informed and asked although the parents or guardians make the final decision Those are the rules in the uk anyway
@MsJubjubbird5 жыл бұрын
minors are not able to make their own decisions as they are still learning to reason. that doesn't come until adulthood. tell a ten year old you're going to cut a mole off their face with a scalpel and they will say no- because they don't get the ling term ramifications of skin cancer. Tell a 14 year old you need to give her a hysteroscopy and she will freak out because endometrial cancer just doesn't seem to be a thing on her radar of possibilities. But it is a minor surgery that could save her life. Plus people with mental disabilities or mental health disorders incapable of rational thinking. And then people under the influence of substances or people in comas who need lifesaving surgery.
@rocka2075 жыл бұрын
I can imagine how she felt .Because she really did wanted to have kids but her mom stoped her and it feels horrible.
@yoyeah18055 жыл бұрын
Let’s have a petition to put this on Netflix
@Isladepee253 жыл бұрын
Where do I sign
@sofhris49823 жыл бұрын
It’s coming on Wednesday:))
@beaniebabe8355 жыл бұрын
"please don't tell her." "And I said ok. Ya know, like a lair."
@Rockas3605 жыл бұрын
I'd loose it if I found out my parents did something like that to me
@nephiebaker26545 жыл бұрын
When I saw the title I thought it said *Fertilised by her own mother without knowing* Then I realised it said *sterilised by her own mother without knowing*
@asdfg-vw8zj5 жыл бұрын
BT21😍
@Keke-cw4qs5 жыл бұрын
HAHAHAHHAHAHHhahah
@exotic45715 жыл бұрын
Hehe
@MlleRose0203 жыл бұрын
Yeah same
@RamdomView5 жыл бұрын
An actual good mother would have notified her daughter of the procedure, so she could have the knowledge that untying her tubes or adoption was an option. A smarter bad mother would have insisted that her daughter's appendix also be removed in the same surgical session.
@SeaStarsLights5 жыл бұрын
Untying is NOT an option. Once you have done it, it's done. Men can have it reversed, women can't.
@RamdomView5 жыл бұрын
@@SeaStarsLights Mayo Clinic disagrees with you, tubal ligation is not completely irreversible. It depends on the exact procedure originally used and the amount of scar tissue deliberately inflicted on the tract. Some procedures are reversible, others are not. www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/tubal-ligation-reversal/about/pac-20395158
@jovabinx5 жыл бұрын
i’d literally NEVER be able to forgive my mother if she did that to me
@almazalem45205 жыл бұрын
"How could she ever forgive her mother" Damn first thing I asked my self painful
@alternateview89265 жыл бұрын
Interesting. They seems to have forgotten that it was the Judge that said "Jail or Sterilization"....put all the blame on the young mother....LOL.....
@amyutting89885 жыл бұрын
Even if I never wanted children, I would literally never forgive my mother if she did this to me. This is so incredibly violating, just the idea of having my internal system touched without my knowledge (while she knew that she was having surgery, she always believed that the surgery was specifically to do with her appendix and not her reproductive organs) makes me feel sick.
@edithg69835 жыл бұрын
Carol is alive 😂 (orange is the new black)
@fay94825 жыл бұрын
Edith G yaaas that’s what I was thinking as well 😂
@jadepetersen91605 жыл бұрын
Yes! And Melissa is a nurse (PLL)
@aadamkhan49725 жыл бұрын
Eve does at the end of killing eve- villinele shot her
@stephaniesculley3045 жыл бұрын
This is the comment I came looking for haha :)
@niamhcatherine51445 жыл бұрын
I knew I recognized her
@kristinarei86145 жыл бұрын
Imagine how the daughter could live without the sterilisation... I would never forgive my mother. This can change a person´s life so much
@true72515 жыл бұрын
true, it is completely alternate universe.
@alexiskwan20135 жыл бұрын
I LOve these series,i intriduced my mom to this,and she cant stop watching it😂
@evecoates53155 жыл бұрын
Tbh I understand where the mother is coming from. Her mother wanted to protect her and a judge kind of blackmailed her mother. They were poor she loved her daughter with all her heart in her eyes she did what was best
@JA268 Жыл бұрын
I think it's blackmail too. I couldn't believe it happened up until 50 years ago. I'd wondered if some countries, let alone other states, had done this.
@_Eunoia_3 жыл бұрын
These medical dramas always have the "appendix rupturing" as some sort of sudden dramatic event that causes an immediate change in the patient's vitals...when actually there's usually no change at all, except the pain sometimes feels a little better, and they often don't find out that it's ruptured until the surgery 12 hours later. My appendix had ruptured and I thought it was just super bad period cramps lol, until I almost went into septic shock a whole 24 hours later and passed out.
@bekimmujaj37295 жыл бұрын
everyone asks to put the series on netflix, but why don't they do it.
@katy48355 жыл бұрын
Diontjoo_ bvngfan because you need to submit it through their website
@TheReeShow5 жыл бұрын
Because NBC has their own streaming app that it's on
@bekimmujaj37295 жыл бұрын
@@katy4835 you have a point.
@bekimmujaj37295 жыл бұрын
@@TheReeShow but i live in the netherlands so i cant watch it.
@444ngelhaven85 жыл бұрын
They need to pay the creators to have it on there, and some companies don’t want their shows on netflix
@ebokrova39575 жыл бұрын
I would feel completely betrayed. If she said something about it earlier, I would forgive her in time. But I couldn't trust my children to her
@ebokrova39575 жыл бұрын
@@paulette6655 in this example, I was thinking of having kids in another way, like adoption maybe. I wouldn't trust my kid, eventhough they're not biologically mine, to my mother.
@mk76545 жыл бұрын
I love doctor manning the most because she cares about all the people and she is so sweet ❤❤
@StephanieTips4 жыл бұрын
I would have never spoken to my mother again EVER for no reason whatsoever
@mega_master_official5 жыл бұрын
If my mother did that to me, I would never speak to her again.
@amberly80284 жыл бұрын
this made me CRY. i can't imagine the betrayal. it would rock my whole world. never can come back from something this cruel
@aadim.40765 жыл бұрын
Yayy I came early for this :D Thank you so much Chicago Med
@hayleyblanch58955 жыл бұрын
it would've been fine if the mom just told her daughter about it when she had grown into her 20s and made a life for herself and planned to have kids more responsibly. but she was a coward and didnt want to risk losing her child's trust forever so she deprived her own daughter of her wishes.
@BevvyIsTheBest5 жыл бұрын
These clips are so addictive
@irawilliams3435 жыл бұрын
How can a mother do this? This is just sick! Sick as hell!
@liamcdm36895 жыл бұрын
It makes sense, honestly. The mother didn't want her rebellious daughter to end up a teen mother.
@irawilliams3435 жыл бұрын
@@liamcdm3689 but doing it without her daughter's knowledge or consent is unethical and SICK.
@liamcdm36895 жыл бұрын
@@irawilliams343 Arguably so. But again, being a delinquent child has consequences.
@irawilliams3435 жыл бұрын
@@liamcdm3689 there's no excuse for that kind of consequence. There are other ways to teach a delinquent to behave. Sterilising anyone is a crime.
@reeepingk5 жыл бұрын
Simple: Mother lived that life. Mother knew how horrible it was. Mother wanted better for her daughter. Mother decided to do the literal only thing she could, although it was unethical. Every parent wants better for their children. Every parent will do almost anything to not let their children go through what they went through. This was her way of doing that. It worked, did it not? Certainly not justifiable using today's moral standards. Although can't you reverse getting your tubes tied now?
@eda12145 жыл бұрын
Isn’t she Melissa Hastings (the doctor) for Pretty little liars
@Victoria-vy7gm5 жыл бұрын
Eda Makene Yupp
@teodora24085 жыл бұрын
She is a doctor also in vampire diares.
@leeoconnell25725 жыл бұрын
Yyayayayyaya
@frieddegg5 жыл бұрын
doctor*
@oliviagoerss46585 жыл бұрын
Eda Makene yes I looked it up
@vampinggx4 жыл бұрын
4:19 Okay but let's just talk about how perfect her eyelashes are.
@wtfwhoyou5975 жыл бұрын
My stomack hurt after this😨 That is horrible what kind of a mother is she😡
@madeleinalazaris81383 жыл бұрын
I can understand the mother was manipulated by the judge and society being what it was in the 70s, there was stigma attached to being an unwed, teenage single mother so maybe she didn’t have all the information to make another choice. The one thing I massively disagree with and would find enormously difficult to forgive if this ever happened to me is that the daughter is wanting to be a mum and wanting to get pregnant. She’s probably had conversations with her mum and perhaps gotten very upset about it. The mum knows full well why her daughter can’t get pregnant and DOESN’T SAY A WORD of the truth but watched her daughter struggle both physically and emotionally.
@madeleinalazaris81382 жыл бұрын
Also to add to my comment of 11 months ago which I'd forgotten I'd even written: She STILL tries to keep the truth from her and asks she not be told which is a terrible thing because she's asking that her daughter still have the truth withheld from her asking what good it'd do. It'd inform the daughter of why she can't have a baby. The self preservation on the part of this mother is awful. She doesn't want her daughter to know of the choice that was made without her consent. Like I said in my original comment I'd struggle to forgive the mother not saying anything and then still not wanting to say anything so that she doesn't have to deal with the conversations that would surely follow.
@NayelyElizabeth5 жыл бұрын
I get why the mother did it but she should have told her , the daughter has a right to know
@idkmuch77493 жыл бұрын
The actors are so good omg-
@ecthox-1mork9093 жыл бұрын
I was expecting the sterilisation thing to be a twist at the end of the case, and was surprised at how sympathetic the mother was even if her actions were misguided. I'm personally really hoping the daughter can reconcile with her at the end. And I agree it's pretty disturbing that mothers could be forcibly parted from their babies just for being unmarried and that they could be non-consensually sterilised in past times, and still in the present in some parts of the world.
@creesalie14602 жыл бұрын
The mother is crazy I hope the daughter never forgives her
@nightwishlady2 жыл бұрын
@@creesalie1460 she is not crazy, she was poor ,desperate,afraid and uneducated and feared her daughter would ended up with a baby at 15 that she, the mum, would probably have to raise it too , a judge with more money and knowledge took advantage of her nativity and despair , I dont blame her a bit, human beings do crazy things to survive in a situation of poverty, I dont want to have kids and personally if I was in her situation, I would simply tell my daughter that if she ends up pregnant she would be on her own, I would not take care of the baby or give her a cent to raise the kid, she would be living in my house if she was a minor, but knowing she would be kicked out at 18 , the mum chose a more invasive manner than me,but again I can not judge bc neither was I poor or a mum in my life , so it's easy to judge when you are there comfortably on your sofa
@creesalie14602 жыл бұрын
@@nightwishlady i don't care what she did was horrible
@yalimoski2 жыл бұрын
The real inaccuracy here is that you’ll get a bed in a private room the moment a doctor notices you have a belly ache.
@johnparker84015 жыл бұрын
Unpopular opinion but I can understand why that mother would make that decision. She should have told her daughter once she is older though.I mean tubal ligation isn't permanent.
@akutenshi69465 жыл бұрын
Reversibility actually depends on the type of tubectomy done, and these procedures are usually done as a permanent thing, but the point is her mother did this without her consent
@sparksfly58775 жыл бұрын
Yeah, fair enough. Plus adoption is expensive!
@aroseinwinter77195 жыл бұрын
The pil
@MsJubjubbird5 жыл бұрын
@@aroseinwinter7719 the pill is an ongoing expense and they were poor. Very likely the girl would probably have just sold them on. Plus the woman has to take the pregnancy risk seriously enough to keep up with the dose. It was also not that readily available when she would have been a teen
@sioframahon69984 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure it is permanent.
@amysao87774 жыл бұрын
I wish they would give us a warning when someone vomits 🤮
@tempqryt32535 жыл бұрын
I could feel her pain so much, as also I had a an appendix, and have it still to this day. I had acted exactly the same way she is in the video. Anyways, Long story about my appendix, if you’re bored or interested just read it. :) I had my appendix inflamed in 2018 March, and I still haven’t got surgery to this day. I haven’t got surgery to remove it is because 3 days later after I first had my appendix inflamed, it wasn’t hurting anymore. My doctors told me that if it had hurt again, we had to call an ambulance to send me to the hospital. Anyways, I was having a dream of a light stuck in my eyes, still have it sometimes and I woke up. I had a very weird feeling in my throat like I wanted to throw up. I tried to go to the toilet, but I couldn’t. I couldn’t get up at all. If I tried to, my lower stomach area would of hurt and I had no guts after. I was still laying on my bed, and I went to sleep again. Except, I wasn’t fully asleep, I was still awake. I then couldn’t feel my ‘stomachache’ anymore. (What I thought it was because I usually have stomachaches often). I got up and went downstairs. On my way to a bed/couch, I could feel the pain again. I layed down, and because the remote was next to me I watched TV. I tried to forget about my stomachache (Appendix) so I couldn’t feel it. It was what the doctor had suggested to me every time I had a stomachache, so I watched a video. My parents finally woke up and came downstairs. My dad usually sits on the bed/ couch I was on, so he told me to sit up so he could also sit there. I said I couldn’t because my stomach was hurting, and they said it was just another stomachache. I realised that the other bed, was close to me, and I could go to it without standing up. So I did. I then layed down and just thinking about how it was very different to other stomachaches. My mum had made breakfast and told me to get up and eat at the table. I said I couldn’t because I can’t get up. I also said I don’t feel like eating. (One of the symptoms of an appendix, loss of appetite.) And continued to sleep. I then got up, and was leaning on the wall. I couldn’t feel my ‘stomachache’, so it was alright. But I still didn’t have the guts to get up. My brother came and lifted me up on a wheelchair. We still have one as a toy when you are tired, except this time I really needed to use it. I sat on the chair and my mum got my iPad and told me just to watch, as she would make breakfast for me. (Just a milo with scrambled eggs. That’s usually a breakfast I often have and nothing happens.) When I was eating, I would of just bitten then chewed the food instantly, as I couldn’t be bothered to eat anything. When I finnished, I got back on the wheelchair and layed on the bed. I had my iPad next to me because I was still watching videos. I then had this feeling of vomiting, and instantly called my mum to get me a bucket to vomite in, as I didn’t have time to go to the toilet. (one of the symptoms is also vomiting.) I had then finnished vomiting, and was just laying down. Wasn’t watching videos, wasn’t playing games, wasn’t doing anything. Just laying down. My mum told me that it was probaly just a stomachache that was more sicker than the others. And I should go to the doctor to see why it was like that. The doctor asked me a few questions, like where it was hurting. Did I vomite, diarrhoe, or cough. She then asked me if I had a loss of appetite, I said yes and she immediately thought it was an inflamed appendix. She told my parents that it could be an inflamed appendix, and suggested to get an X-ray, so I did. My dad was waiting in the car, and my mum was helping get an X-ray. They rubbed gel next to where an appendix usually is located at and viewed the TV screen. It showed that I had a appendix that was inflamed. The girl that did the X-ray told me and my mum to go get surgery, as she would write a note to the hospital about my medical condition. I was super excited of getting surgery because the girl said that people that are in their adult ages would usually have an inflamed appendix, as it was still rare, except because I was 10, it was rarer. Also another reason why I was happy was because I have already gotten surgery on a broken arm before when I was 5. And the food and the feeling of being in a hospital statisfied me. But my mum told me that it isn’t good, because removing it would hurt. And she also said that it would take a long time. Also another reason why I shouldn’t of been excited was because we didn’t have enough money to do the surgery. 3 days later, I visited the hospital as it was time to get it removed. They asked me a few questions to start with, like if I could jump, run, or eat. I said I could eat anything, and I could jump. Except, I still couldn’t run. They said there is a possibility that it might of stopped inflaming, but because I still couldn’t run, they had to do a proper check up. When they did, they found out that the appendix had been inflamed, except it stopped just an hour ago. They said that if it hurts again, I should call an ambulance and be taken to the hospital, as my appendix had already been inflamed before. My mum was super glad that I didn’t have to do surgery, so was I. The hospital and my parents notified the school about my appendix. One of the days when my sport teacher needed help, she asked everyone in the class to help her with the preps, and she said “Except for (Name)” She said my name but I don’t feel like sharing it on social media. Everyone came back after they helped and we were eating rescess. My friends asked me why she said except for me, as they were curious. I told them that it was because I can’t do it, as I will get hurt instantly. (I didn’t want to say the whole truth.) I then told some of my friends about it that kept it a secret. They would usually ask me, she would I get surgery, where is it, how to get it. (They didn’t know it was a body part in a human body already when they are born, except it sometimes inflames and the person will have appendicitis.) I told them everybody has it, and they were all shocked. I told them that mine was inflamed, and that is why I have appendicitis. True thing: every time I say it they start laughing on the way I say it because it has the word dix in it. I am a boy, and my appendix is well near my (You Know.). But to the topic. On grade 4 when I still had it, my teacher said my class would have a race. If a boy wins, all the girls do push-ups, if the girl wins, all the boy do push ups. The girls won, because I still couldn’t run my normal speed. I had to do push-ups, except I was just standing. I hoped the teacher would realise that I couldn’t, he already knows about my appendix. He told me to start doing push-ups but I said I couldn’t, hoping he had realised again. He then realised and said, “Is if because of your appendix?” And everyone heard it. I said yes. And just ignored the people knowing about it because some already did. Soon lots of people were asking about it. I would say just talk to my friends, they already know about it. To this day I still have my appendix, I am 11. I will get surgery when it starts to inflame again. If you have got up to this, I must say you are a low life. Also I am because I had to type this for 17 minutes straight, no break. I hope you learned some stuff about an appendix from this, cya.
@swastikausa5 жыл бұрын
whatever about north carolina this kind of barbarity was being practised on indian reservations in wyoming as late as 1989. It was also being done to romani (gypsy) women in eastern europe up till that time. The logic was that it would make for less unwed mothers and orphans, orphans who would in time become unwed mothers themselves.
@yvonneburns27865 жыл бұрын
And also down syndrome girls they were sterilised either by parents consent or by doctors at least up until late 2000s I think
@swastikausa5 жыл бұрын
nowadays it takes a court order in the us to do this but some parents drive their kid to mexico where anything goes.
@true72515 жыл бұрын
because making men stop fucking around was a harder decision.
@swastikausa5 жыл бұрын
no because the people who the decision was left up to were men themselves.
@serixaqua5 жыл бұрын
Henny Russel is an amazing actress. Loved her in every role she was in.
@Afroman294 жыл бұрын
If I had a mother like this I would NEVER forgive her. Forcing people to be sterilized should be illegal and it is immoral.
@nctwinks15555 жыл бұрын
I would never forgive my mother if she did this and I don’t even want children but it’s still heartbreaking to know you don’t even have a chance to get pregnant.
@cj72275 жыл бұрын
If she was too poor to go to a doctor then she was too poor for a child
@true72515 жыл бұрын
agree, but nobody STILL cares for this part. people's WANTs are always more important than if they SHOULDs. because "government owes me money for giving a birth to a child", some women think this way.
@OkOk-yl5ub5 жыл бұрын
I was drinking orange juice while she threw up..
@JD-ky9ys5 жыл бұрын
Ok Ok fell bad for u
@button.house1014 жыл бұрын
R.I.P orange juice 🙏🕊️
@user-tj3ej9bi6w5 жыл бұрын
How is it even legal to make a choice like that for your child? No one but that person should be able to make that choice. HOW is that legal to do that to a kid!?!?!?
@bababooeyluver4 жыл бұрын
ok im starting a petition to get this on netflix-
@AveryScarlet5 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was a teenager, but it was only confirmed when I was 18. I'm scared that I won't be able to have kids.... I've been taking hormonal meds, but when I got the confirmation, I was scared. For this woman to be sterilized at young age without knowing.....
@leonat31395 жыл бұрын
Thats 1 sad episode right there
@phoenixsky61242 жыл бұрын
Here in Canada there are some court cases still current as the last I heard we were still forcing this in 2016 or 2018.
@windex16135 жыл бұрын
Well this was a really good video
@huanitahuanita70285 жыл бұрын
Some of the comments say that it wasn't entirely the mother's fault IT IS . She could've talk to her daughter so it could've been her decision and I know she was 14 but she didn't have the right to do this. She didn't talk to her kid even when she was older and wanting kids of her own and this makes her a hypocrite .
@-ari--loves-26065 жыл бұрын
Who else loves these?
@phoebeingleman49915 жыл бұрын
Too poor to go to the doctor but not too poor to have kids?
@spawnoftacobell16445 жыл бұрын
I’d sue her. Family or not that woman took away something that’s important and can’t just be given back or fixed
@jugemujugemugokonosurikire47352 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, people do the wrong things for the right reasons. This mother is one example. Likely uneducated, poor, worried for her child. Sure there are better options, but I doubt the mother would thought of that at that time.
@PuRpLePoNcHo5 жыл бұрын
I need this on Netflix, put enough requests in hopefully they'll load it
@jonnamajaneva59334 жыл бұрын
1:31 she is really beautiful I might cry
@saradiaz34085 жыл бұрын
Who is dumb enough to think they can lie to a doctor
@margoshipper44135 жыл бұрын
Even if i dont want to have kids, i respect the people who does, and cant imagine how hard can it be if something likw this happened to them
@shaniadyall40865 жыл бұрын
so she never went to a doctor about her complications with having a child any basic doctor in that field should 've been able to tell her
@444ngelhaven85 жыл бұрын
shania dyall She was too poor.
@germedicsam5 жыл бұрын
Because every doctor has a CT
@jessy93695 жыл бұрын
If she couldent even affort going to the doctor it may was better that she didnt have kids anyways.. which of course in no way makes it okay what happend
@upds_08515 жыл бұрын
When the tube tying happens it was in 1973 but now I’m SO GRATEFUL that the laws have changed Idk if international tho
@8888-92 жыл бұрын
I like this TV Show - where the Doctors reap more patients IN , who began as Visitors!
@hutchinsdanny7345 жыл бұрын
The communication really got “TIED” up
@michaelklockner85395 жыл бұрын
Don't...not appropiate
@natashamccloy54945 жыл бұрын
@@michaelklockner8539 i think its funny... its a tv show plus its literally part of the title
@Obsidianen2 жыл бұрын
What I dont understand is why the mother didnt come clear after her daughter became an adult...
@peachii39915 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for both of them, their both victims of circumstances The mom wanted to protect her daughter, and was persuaded to do something she shouldn’t have done. The daughter has a right to be mad, the mom did do something awful, but I hope they do forgive each other
@zariaeverton34653 жыл бұрын
Why are ppl blaming the mom ?? She was uneducated and a judge told her to get her daughters tubes tied or her daughter would go to jail And she didnt want her daughter to hate her so she never told her Blame the judge Like what kind of judge has the right to do that
@justine83872 жыл бұрын
Systemic abuse.
@axsahayat64765 жыл бұрын
Anyone who is so gassed that there early????
@willow61994 жыл бұрын
I am so pissed off at her mom. To been lying to her daughter thats been caring her for years and not feeling any remorse
@rihannarobinson83935 жыл бұрын
I had appendicitis when I was 6 the doctor said that if I came to the hospital a minute later I would of died I am very greatful
@knucklesrule63815 жыл бұрын
If you don't mind me asking...what is a appendicitis?
@rihannarobinson83935 жыл бұрын
I honestly don't know but it's a illness with the appendix
@cattyghostly74145 жыл бұрын
@@knucklesrule6381 the appendix swells up and becomes inflamed. Very painful and it may result in death if it burst and isn't removed.
@rachelfox81084 жыл бұрын
I had appendicitis when I was 12 and 13. I first developed it in Feb, I spent a day in hospital and they sent me home because they "couldn't be sure" if it was appendicitis, because I had all the symptoms but the pain wasn't in quite the right place. Two months later, after my birthday, I came back in puking again, in horrific pain and they sent me in for surgery that night -- turns out my appendix was retrocecal (pointed back, not hanging down) and bursting. It actually burst just before the procedure. I didn't find out until last year (aged 25) that my family was warned I could realistically die from peritonitis if the antibiotics didn't help. I'm thankful for doctors, but a doctor's screw-up caused me a lot of pain and my family a lot of stress. (This was at a world-renowned children's hospital, too -- they should have known better).
@xsatellax3 жыл бұрын
Y’all hate the mother but fail to understand her position. She genuinely believed she was helping her daughter because some judge manipulated her and this isn’t new. Judges have been known, especially in the WASP south, to be very corrupt.
@sophielouise75575 жыл бұрын
When I was eight years old I had appendicitis taken out and it burst in my stomach I was in hospital for two months
@pangelandswish86525 жыл бұрын
Put this on Netflix it is really good xxx
@Alesha_Lewer5 жыл бұрын
Noooo I NEED to know if she forgave her mum!!!
@maven12LA5 жыл бұрын
This is ridiculous, why not just get her an IUD
@user-jb7tq7ko7e2 жыл бұрын
I don't know if IUDs were a thing back then.
@sayshrimp22225 жыл бұрын
I’m writing this comment before it get buried in the pile of them like so it doesn’t