Stigma Talk Show with Aritha | Episode 03 | Bhoomi and Dinushi

Not fitting into masculine and feminine gender norms set by culture and society can immediately spell being discriminated against.
‘STIGMA’ episode 03 is here, with host Aritha Wickramasinghe and special guests Bhoomi Harendran and Dinushi Halloluwa from the transgender community.
For Bhoomi and Dinushi, being singled out for their gender identity and being denied the space to be their true selves, go back to their school years. Continue watching to hear the pair discuss how they dealt with the response of their own families, school teachers and peers to their transition.
In collaboration with i-Probono, FPA Sri Lanka and IPPF, South Asia Region.
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[@thatonenamja4835]

අපිට ගරු කරන්නෙ නැති තැනක අපි රැ‍දෙන්න නරකයි.. භූමි කියපු ඒ වචන ටිකනම් ඇත්තමයි

[@nehanilangakoon3341]

No one should discriminate based on their sexuality or any other thing.We all are humans.

[@hemanth3828]

I’m thankful to this programme for many things. First of all, for the English captions, secondly, they spoke in English to start with, thirdly, she started speaking in Sinhalese. She’s from Galle. I praise this young woman for her courage. It is not her fault. In Asian culture, many parents wants to have a son. We all were lead to believe that it’s something to be proud of to have a baby boy and consider unfortunate to have a baby girl. This misconception affected many young children who are born having more genes of the opposite gender than a normal child. They grow up feeling uneasy and they feel ashamed as they were made to feel by the others. This young woman is a credit to those children who suffer alone. It cannot be easy to keep this secret from the outsiders because the child has a natural attraction to girlish things and behave like a girl. May You succeed in your venture. Help other children and their parents to nip it in the bud, so to speak. Don’t try to hide the fact that your son is in fact a daughter or your daughter is in fact a son. People need to be educated. It’s the nature’s way. Don’t feel bad. Make as many friends as you can.

[@NetITGeeks]

Quality content and thank you from the bottom of my heart for Pulse staff for making these issues known. If Sri Lanka to join the modern world, SL should not follow the US Republicans but rather the SL should follow the Western European democracies specially related to social issues.

[@ChrnRn-iu4ny]

blah blah blah !! bravo for Asking a 3rd world country to follow the western Europe, a dying breed ( low birth rates & being outrun by other cultures) !! lol great😆

[@dinuxplay8003]

US Republicans are based. Plus, even in western democracies there are people who oppose that.

[@thisulwickramarachchi2380]

No thx sl dont need no woke mind viruses

[@ashalu5651]

U both are such an inspiration.. Ur insight to living life is such a eye opener .. Thank you both for coming forward and sharing your story.. May god bless u ..

[@shevindewmika-fw5vp]

ලදීගෙ අයිය එ කලෙ ඉදන්ම දැක්ක කෙනෙක් දුමිදු අයියා අද දිනූශී අක්කා වෙලා ගුඩ් ලක් අක්කෙ 💗🌍🥂

[@anomakulathunga2345]

So proud of all three of you. Keep talking and educate Sri Lanka. You all are doing a great service. Love you all. ❤

[@romaynefernando]

Actually there are some teachers who used to mock, depress children. School is a place where children come and learn new things and in a place like that, what if a teacher acts so disappointedly! Shame right! However I really like the person “Bhoomi” 🙌🏻

[@athulahettiarchchige9251]

හරිම ලස්සනයි භුමි අද 💐

[@savindirubera8952]

One of my schoolmate who had the same characteristics like these 2 amazing people, took his own life about a month ago. Other students bullied him just because he is different from them. I'm very sad about the incident but also happy seeing that there's people like them who overcame these challenges...

[@rachithawickremasinghe8650]

Being a man or a woman is biological, and a man having traits which the society typically considers to be 'feminine', or a woman having 'masculine' traits does not make them less of a man or a woman, but simply just different to the expectations of the society. People can have different personalities, and as long as it does not cause harm to anyone, the society should be taught to accept them rather than them having to change themselves (physical appearance or behaviour). People should be made to feel comfortable in their own bodies without them having to transition to a different appearance that comforts the society. As Dinu mentioned, transitioning has not made Dinu more at ease than Dinu already was, simply it had just made the society more comfortable with how Dinu appears & behaves to be.

[@isulieici]

It's heartwarming that our pride community is fighting against the odds and thriving! #staightbutdon'thate ❤

[@sandraanthony2061]

So proud of these ladies.... Hats off to Bhoomi Dinushi and Aritha May god bless you all 🙏 Stay strong ❤

[@ig927]

භූමි, tell me about that....I had just finished my O/Ls and this teacher who I had so much respect, told me that I was like a girl...Well, I didnt do or say anything and I did forgive him. Most of our teachers and adults are not educated in this area, so we we have to educate the society especially the young generation, so the future of LGBTQI community will be a good one. This is a very good start 😘😘

[@user-vj3gq7di8c]

Dw you're not alone

[@gayathrimadushani2984]

They both are beautiful and inspiring ❤️

[@Nadeew]

You have a beautiful voice dinushi ❤️

[@udeshikanilaweera4430]

මමත් ගොඩක් ආසයි මේවගේ තැනක මගේ ජීවිත කතාව කියන්න. මේක මහ පුදුමා කර ජීවියක්. හරිම වේදනා කරී.

[@yasharahettiarachchi1837]

Bhoomi and Dinushi are gorgeous ❤️

[@nelanigoonawardena9149]

All the best the three of you. Stay safe and Blessed.

[@COOKWITHBEAR]

Respect for both ❤️

[@jasonranaweera3630]

These people are authentic...Much respect for that !👌

[@leenarose8604]

this is very insightful, i really wish i could have seen things like this when i was younger

[@lankabhumi1114]

Thank you girls. Personally feel, people are not aware of the differences hence will discriminate. Forgive them and heal yourselves because humans are not evolved enough. I know it's very hard and feels to the core. Really do admire what you guys are doing because you are helping many many silent people who are suffering silently and many to be born in the future as well. Teachers should be taught in teaching schools to understand & to be sensitive. I believe school syllabus should start talking about many matters so we produce good humans to society. I don't know when these will happen but we need to start somewhere and you two are so brave to have started on this. Weldone and God bless you. We are all equal.

[@k_fanthings]

So glad to see this programme and Respect both of u ❤️

[@jinnid8612]

Thank you for sharing your stories. Beautiful, brave and inspirational. Thank you.

[@eruthayamarythiagarajah8960]

Everyone has 100% freedom. Both of them are very Sweet. Good interview.

[@jeromenv]

This is a beautiful interview and a much needed awareness. Sri Lanka has got to open it's eye's and change. After all we are all God's children. Bhoomi & Dinushi in my eyes are two beautiful, passionate and strong ladies. God abundantly bless you both.

[@thisulwickramarachchi2380]

isn't ur God against lgbtq & these kind of stuff..

[@moarx25]

I wonder if ur have read Bible lol 😅💔

[@moarx25]

@@thisulwickramarachchi2380 hahaha lmaoo 😅

[@tossjewellery-wearelaborat4394]

Yet countries like ours have that conventional idea that girls must behave like girls and boys must behave as boys . BUT if a person is burdening just because of his/her feelings that if he/she deserves to have the opposite gender qualities if it's a burning and unending desire , just like others they are also doing fulfilling their desires . That's a feeling coming from their bottom of heart. that's why they tend/want to be transgender. those people are also humans , and the other people , they are also humans. so what can we conclude ? both parts are similar . like Bhoomi , like Dinushi , I respect you because you do according to you . ❤️ They have strong desires. They are true lovers of themselves.

[@madushanikodithuwakku1496]

Every one shoud have equal rights

[@renukasatchithananthan7302]

So proud of you all ❤️

[@dimashidesilva2593]

Very important discussion

[@deepikaranmuthugala1806]

Nice shirt Aritha. Very colourful 👍

[@dulshannanayakkara1026]

Proud of you dinu💐

[@sunildissanayake]

Love ❤️ you both interesting 🧐 content. Now days are more different than passed days yes stay healthy and safe good luck 😉

[@ritaallen7694]

Proud of you both.very best wishes for the feauther.xxx

[@user-godblessyouu]

Wow im gonna watch this Everyone deserve love Im sure Everything will be fine Quality content God bless you all 🙏❤️

[@sameerahewage4251]

Respect you both ❤

[@rexmix9126]

How beautiful souls !

[@malakamunasinghe]

We all are human and everybody deserve respect and dignity...

[@imeshaminohari9658]

Respect you 🙏🤟🌈

[@tharindit.w.5899]

Three of you're awesome characters.

[@sankamanimaldura7026]

Samhara teacherslawa bera wawan nawala ganna ona

[@tharu3515]

භූමිනම් තවම පිරිමි කෙනෙක් වගේ පේනවා...අනිත් එක්කෙනා කෙල්ලෙක් වගේමයි

[@hasinthapriyankara1614]

❤️❤️❤️great discussion

[@souplover1852]

bhoomi is so pretty omg🥺

[@scanurasiri1]

Great work

[@user-jx5mj2ps5l]

Iskole misslath kiwwa.umbta suba patahanawa dinushi(Dumindu)

[@daria668]

great discussion

[@SpectrumpicturesLK]

that's so sad in my own i respect to everyone

[@bhagyawanniarachchi7632]

You are very handsome Aritha😍

[@udaramasinghe3825]

How beautiful souls ❤️

[@tulanaariyarathne3693]

Awesome talk

[@The_kokis]

Nice Shirt Aritha🥀❤️

[@shiromi1jayasinghe323]

Bomi is excellent lady

[@ranjithdaluwatta4867]

The programme is good .But the presenter didnt handle it well.he was shocked and repeated same questions and wasted our time

[@user-godblessyouu]

❤️god bless

[@Lara]

🥺❤️

[@tharindit.w.5899]

Dinushi you're really cute. You have born to be a beautiful girl to this world. I guess the gender was a little mistake.

[@tharindit.w.5899]

@RISHMI සමාජය හරි ප්‍රභලයි. සමාජයට මුහුණ දෙන්න පුළුවන් තරම් ශක්තිමත් මනසක් තියෙනවා නම් එහෙම පුළුවන්. නැත්නම් ප්‍රශ්ණ වලදී මානසිකව වැටෙන්න පුළුවන්.

[@imiyuru]

Respect 😇

[@ashi-912]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@duliratnayake9464]

♥️

[@indula9932]

💐💐💐💐

[@pramudidulasha7130]

Respect for both ❤❤

[@danithanjana7353]

akka Richmond da Aloysius mahinda

[@buddhikaruwan3294]

#Respect #LGBTQ+ #GenderEquality

[@thiliniruwanthi8167]

😍😍😍😍

[@AdamS_Lucky]

💐🧸

[@shanuwanniarachchi4351]

Me medamwa contact kara ganna puluwan komada

[@user-gw8ts5zh9d]

Kollo.wage.inna.one.kello.wage.inna.hoda.ne

[@romeshjadrian]

You guys are okay .. Doing well living your life. The trans, LGBTQ community has respect as long as you guys don't influence it on our kids like they do in US. Cheers

[@mashedpotatoes5184]

"influence it on your kids?" tf is wrong with u lmfao

[@romeshjadrian]

@@mashedpotatoes5184 just research around and see... It's frightening

[@youreright3487]

What influence? Their influence on others just to be themselves?

[@romeshjadrian]

@@youreright3487didn't get you. But i mean if you biologically a man then you are a man..

[@moarx25]

Bruhh we have to save our future kids from this ridiculous things against to the nature 💔😹🥴

[@s.d.a.d.r8538]

එතකොට මේ වගේ මනුෂ්‍යයින්ට තියෙන්නේ මොන ජෙන්ඩර් එකද...????

[@moarx25]

Yess i have no idea where is the world going on 😂💔

[@sas8276]

Mehemai .oya meka wihiluwakata arnd kiyala mm danna eth oya aththatama eh prashne ahuwa kiyala hitala mm uththarayak dennm oyata therum gann puluwn wena widiht. (Onnm vidyathmakawath kiuwahaki). Manussyek ipadeddi eyage sharirayen e kiyanne age awayawa walin eyage gender ek thiranaya wenw wagema thamai. eyage mole ekatath gender ekk thiyanw (may be oya ahala athi pirimi ayagei gahanau ayagei mole darithawal, kriyakarithwaya wenas kiyala) godak welwata age thiyana gender ekai mole gender ekai match wenw .eth samahara welawl walata e deka wenw wela podi babala ipadenw. E wage ayata thm kiyanne transgender kiyala.. ithimek hariyata gahanu lamauekt pirimi agak hambela ,pirimi lamayekt gahanu agak hambuna wage wadak . Ithim ekko api aga wens krgann one naththm mole wens krgann one .ithim apita aga wena krgann puluwn dan thiyana diunuwath ekk . Ek meh pirimi llamayekt kellek wenn one wela wage deyak neme ganu lamayekt ganu lamayek wenn one una wage deyak.. mm hithnw oyata therenna athi kiyala dan..meka research krl oppu krl thiynw transgender ganulamayekge mole ,nrml ganu lamayekge moleta samanai kiyala ,,sooo eyala eyalage nrml life ek hoyagannw. Api kohomath nrmal aya widiht eyalatath sathutin inn udau krnn one .eyala wens aya neme..

[@sas8276]

Girls school walath ohom thm samahara teachers la.. ewww.. kata krl wadkna

[@prashanthibulathsinhala9273]

Paying sins of parents

[@user-qi8pc1qz8l]

කරුනාකරලා මෙහෙම මිනිස්සුන්ව මෙහෙම interview karanna එපා salli ගන්න බලාගෙන , මේවා පොඩි ලමයින් බලනවා , රටේ අද තියන ත්ත්වයත් එක්ක තවත් ප්‍රශ්න ඇති karanna එපා , ආර්ථික ප්‍රශ්න මදිවට සමලිංගික බීතිකාවක් දරුවො අතර පතුරුවන්න එපා. ඔයාලට interview karanna vena මිනිස්සුන් නැද්ද .

[@shasha3536]

ඇයි එයාලත් මිනිස්සු නෙමෙයිද? අපිට ජිවත් වෙන්න තියෙන අයිතිය එයාලට නැද්ද? මම උපතින් ගැහැනියක්. නමුත් කාලයත් එක්ක මට පිරිමි පුද්ගලයෙක් වෙන්න කැමැත්තක් ආවේ නෑ. හැබැයි එහෙම කියලා අනික් මනුස්සයාගේ ජීවත් වීමේ අයිතිවත්, සතුටවත් නැති කරන්න අපිට අයිතියක් නෑ. මේ රටේ තියෙන ආර්ථික ප්‍රශ්න ඉවර වෙන්න කල්ප කාලාන්තරයක් යයි. එතකන් රටක තියෙන අනිත් ප්‍රශ්න කතා කරන්න බැරිද රටේ ජනතාවට? පොඩි ළමයින්ට youtube kids කියලා එකක් තියෙනවා. ඒක දාලා දෙන්න. මිනිස්සුන්ගේ හැගීම් හිර කරන වට පිටාවක් හදන්න එපා. තමන්ගේ දරුවන්ගේ හැගීම් තේරුම් අරන් ඊට අනුකූලව ගනුදෙනු කරන්න. එහෙම නැති වුනාම තමා තමන්ගේ අකමැත්තෙන් දෙමාපියන්ගේ බලහත්කාරයෙන් විවාහයන් කරන් හොරෙන් තමන්ගේ ලින්ගික ආශාව අනුව වෙන සම්බන්ධතා වලට යන්නේ.. මේක විද්‍යාත්මක සන්සිද්දියක් නිසා සන්ස්කෘතිය ඔලුව උඩ තියන් වන්සේ කබල් ගාන්නේ නැතුව ඉදිරියට ගියා නම් හරි. තෙරුවන් සරණයි!

[@imeshaminohari9658]

මෙවා බල්ල බැරිනම් නිකා ඉදහන්කෝ... මේ මිනිස්සුත් මිනිස්සුම තමා උබලාවගේ හිකනල්ලූ නිසා මේ මිනිස්සුට ඔලුව උස්සගන්න බැරි... මිනිස්සු දිහා ඒ විදිහට බලන්න බැරිනම් ඔය chanel එකෙ නම වෙනස් කරගනින

[@rukmal4511]

විකාර කියවන්න එපා , සමාජෙ ඉන්න ලොකුම පිලිලය ඔයාලා වගේ අය, මේත් මිනිස්සු ඔයාලා වගෙ අය නිසා සමාජෙ අසරණ වෙන. බලන්න බැරි නම් නොබල ඉන්න. මේ දේවල් ලිංගික අධ්‍යාපනයෙ එක් මාතෘකාවක්.

[@girlfromnowhere1838]

@@shasha3536 well said

[@ssachlescrutolf]

කරුණාකරලා දැනුවත් වෙලා කතා කරන්න. මෙවා අපේ වගේ 3 වෙනි ලෝකේ රටක් දැනුවත් විය යුතුම දේවල්. පොඩි ලමයි මෙවා දැක්කා කියලා කිසිම ප්‍රශ්නයක් වෙන්නේ නෑ. දියුණු රටවල් වල සමාජයේ ජීවත් වෙන හැම මනුස්සයෙක් ගැනම අවබෝධය ලබලා දෙනවා. Straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender මේ හැමෝම එකයි. ආකල්ප අතින් දියුණු වෙන්න බලන්න. බෞද්ධ උනාට වැඩක් නෑ හිතන්න හොඳ මනසක් නැත්නම්. විවෘතව හිතන්න.

[@nithiraofficial6902]

Is she a boy

[@truesrilankan]

It's "He"we don't need to correct our speech..

[@sas8276]

No ..she is a girl

[@bevanadam3422]

😂😂😂

[@sriya-kanthi-]

Hinawenna mokkada huththo thiyenne uba ponnyakeda

[@fernando-et1wl]

Dinushige anith nama mokkda

[@AMWE-gh7ti]

Unnecessary highlights :/

[@BestYear2016]

Idk How biological males can be identified as females because their thinking is different. Not good as I see if they granted same rights as females ( eg: male transgender to female much stronger)

[@cssuntherrao]

Aritha himself talks like a woman.

[@deepikaranmuthugala1806]

So what is your problem?????? Just mind your own business 😡

[@cssuntherrao]

@@deepikaranmuthugala1806 No problems. You mind yours instead of trying to create problems.😠

[@thatonenamja4835]

@@cssuntherrao stop being a nitpicker mate

[@cssuntherrao]

@@thatonenamja4835 An observation is not nitpicking. Don't read too much into my simple comment & no need to be agitated by this.

[@idushiheshara]

Is that a compliment? Just letting you know that a man talking like a woman is not a disgrace 😇

[@user-gw8ts5zh9d]

Kollo.wage.inna.one.thaman.mona.de.karath.mehema.inna.hoda.ne.mehema.aya.napuruilu.aith.eka.tamil.aya.kiyanne.thrunangangi

[@minolieliyanage36]

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